#ie school and having a fulfilling relationship

[arcadia345]

Chiron ~ where your insecurities fall

Not a real astrologer just my observations :) & having these Chiron placements doesn’t mean you’ll have these insecurities, it’s just what I’ve associated with the placements 🌹

1st/Aries 1°,13°,25°-your ur appearance, second guessing everything you initiate, people could think you’re insecure by the way you carry yourself , body/face scars

2nd/ Taurus 2°,14°,26°- financial insecurity, self worth, not having enough material wise /thief indicator/, your voice, your mouth/lips or throat

3rd/Gemini 3°,15°,27°- being bullied online, difficulties in school ie. classes-teachers-classmates, being bullied by your peers,feeling uneasy in your neighborhood? Tarnished relationship with your siblings, things that you’re interested in aren’t valued

4th/ Cancer 4°,16°,28°- your mother (women In your life could have insecurities that they push onto you),ancestral trauma placement, difficulty finding what truly comforts you, feeling uneasy in your own home

5th/Leo 5°,17°,29° - not feeling confident about your talents or they could be overlooked,feeling unappreciated,the type to feel guilty after masturbating or sex applies to 8th house Chiron also, the fear of childbirth or children(miscarriages)

6th/Virgo 6°,18°- bad experiences with police what a surprise, you could have a thing for control/perfectionism, not feeling valued in your workplace,your pets could get sick/d*e often, being overworked/ feeling like you’re not doing doing enough, fear of injuries/sickness, OCD prone

7th/ Libra 7°,19°- insecurities about your relationships, your partner could be insecure/ have heavy trauma, might be timid when engaging in love relations, insecurities about your butt 😭 just like Sag Chiron

8th/Scorpio 8°,20°- uncomfortable with change, debt, your own independence, trust issues, your sexuality

9th/Sagittarius 9°,21°- higher learning, type of person to get homesick easily , fear of planes , second guessing your intuition

10th/Capricorn 10°,22°- how you’re viewed publicly, worried about not having a fulfilling career/ being successful, dental health, your coworkers hating you/hating them, your nose, your eyebrows just like Aries Chiron

11th/ Aquarius 11°,23°- social anxiety (like 7th house) online bullying, your friends turning on you, your reputation being hurt, never fulfilling your goals, your legs, enemies are your “friends”

12th/ Pisces 12°,24°- fear of traveling to foreign places, fear of paranormal like 8th house chrion😭 relapsing, fear of becoming ill, social anxiety , not receiving closure, drugs could scare you, feet insecurities

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#follow for more #astro notes #capricorn #astro observations #asteroid astrology #astrology transits #ask me anything #celebrity astrology #hi #astro #paid readings #tarot reading #reading #long reads #cancer #candles #Chiron #ask game #following #fill my ask box #Scorpio #Aquarius #Libra #gemini

[purlty23]

With regards to your question about Satanists--

I've been a practicing satanist to varying levels of seriousness since leaving catholic school as a teenager, near enough ten years before I ever started listening to Ghost. I've explored the different schools of thought within the faith and over the years combined a few things that make up a practice that works for me.

I have a big appreciation for Satan as a cultural icon, I think our societal relationship with him is really fascinating. But I also think that a lot of the people at the forefront of the modern religion (most notably LaVey) have set forth guidelines that are reasonable to most people and well balance respecting others while also centering the individual (ie "Hail Yourself")

(Crucially: I don't agree with a lot of LaVey's teachings, and don't look to him as a strong moral model for my own life. But he had a few good ideas.)

With regards to Ghost, I find it really exciting to have a band that so outwardly and genuinely celebrates my faith. I've joked in the past about having the same relationship to Ghost and Twin Temple that christians may have to christian rock, but it's only partially a joke. To see my beliefs be celebrated and explored in song the way that these bands do is very exciting and fulfilling to me. I like the way Tobias talks about Satan and satanism in his lyrics as well as in interviews, it's just very cool 🖤🤘🏼

I understand how you feel completely in relation to LaVey and his ideals. I have full respect for anyone who does follow his practices (though… maybe not FULL respect for some of the actions of the Church of Satan through the years.) I think it’s a very good thing to imbue that confidence in yourself and the worth of yourself, especially in contraction to the Catholic and Christian morals that usually put others, and God above ones own bodily autonomy. Mixing the old and new seems to be a prevailing thing throughout Satanists! I know the Satanic Temple celebrates some holidays that the Church of Satan doesn’t endorse- older traditions that date back to the Roman empire and earlier. It’s interesting to hear about the ways practicing Satanists choose to do so! I also completely agree about Ghost. I think it’s a breath of fresh air, not only in the way of very positive and affirming metal songs MUCH needed in the genre, but in the positive way Tobias speaks about his relationship with Satan as an icon and as a way he lives his life. Thank you for speaking so much on it!! 💖

#answers #Cw religion

[yourreflectioninthelake]

lorelai’s constant point in opposition to rory’s relationship with jess is that he’ll get her into trouble. and on the surface, it seems like she means “traditional” trouble but it falls a bit flat because lorelai tends to cheer her on at times when a lot of parents would punish their children. she went to a cop raided party and started the raid and lorelai’s first response is that she’s her hero. so it’s hard to believe that she’s worried about that sort of trouble. lorelei thinks jess’s inconsiderate and won’t take rory’s dreams and plans into account in order to fulfill his own needs ie; have unprotected sex. and that rory would be too clouded by how much she loves and wants him that she won’t make a ‘smart’ choice which may derail the life that she wants for herself. 

lorelai thinks she knows it all, and that she knows their relationship, but she doesn’t. she idolizes the relationship rory has with dean because she didn’t have that at sixteen. lorelai did have a relationship with christopher, and we know how that turned out, so in her mind, she knows this too. it’s very clearly not the same relationship but lorelai’s fears make her paint the two relationships as one in the same.

that’s why their relationship terrifies her, even if that’s not true. she’s afraid jess will “make her” repeat all of lorelai’s mistakes and she refuses to see otherwise.

this is such a good way of explaining it!! Often times we see a lot of people say that Lorelai didnt like jess because he reminded him of herself but i feel like that judgment isnt entirely correct. Lorelai pushes rory to be a little rebellious and get into trouble but when she meets someone who (in lorelai's eyes is a bad kid) she flips out and wants to keep Rory away from any trouble at all. It all goes back to her weird obsession with Dean and how she thought Dean was the most responsible teenage boy in the world. Looking back, i think jess was actually more responsible but only because he HAD to be, he didnt have a choice, who knows what he had to deal with in New York with his wack job mother, he probably had to help with the bills 24/7 which explains his attachment to working when he got to stars hollow - he realised he had to work to make many for himself but this time he didnt have to give it to luke to help with the bills. After he got kicked out from school he also had to grow up quick and figure out what to do.

#jess mariano #gilmore girls

[homemadegirlbossbattle]

ROUND 1 / SIDE A / POLL 14

Sylnae Nyrlithar (@slcknasty) vs. Cordelia Lillian Offdensen (@catboy-bill-nye, art by @fishklok)

Sylnae Nyrlithar info:

Description: She's a girlboss, she's a war criminal, she's died and come back from the dead... Born in an incredibly unhealthy family situation, escaped, was meant to have a redemption arc and then just got *worse.* Joined up with a gang of equally fucked up adventurers to take down a megalomaniacal technology magnate whose solution to population control was to kill a bunch of people and *still* managed to lose the moral high ground. The party was so morally fucked that the "good ending" for the campaign would have been them all dying and the eldritch blood god we were trying to stop taking over the world. So good at lying she got away with some of the world's most ridiculous cover stories. Plays both the violin and chess for maximum manipulative villain tropes.

Crimes: Was part of a reactionary terrorist group that considered civilian casualities as an acceptable cost for getting their aims (taking out a well-loved public figure). Has killed multiple people to do so, and also helped cover up multiple murders. Had a contingency plan to murder all of her party members if necessary. Nearly got all of them killed during a heist so that she could fulfil a personal agenda she hadn't told anyone about. Found a cursed sentient dagger that told her it would grow in power if she killed people with it, went "sure, I can use this" and promptly did exactly that.

Other notes from the submitter: i am so ready to see a batch of terrible women beating the shit out of each other (in terms of popularity but also maybe in a fistfight) (sylnae would lose a fistfight)

Cordelia Lillian Offdensen info:

Description: She is an OC I made for the [adult swim] series Metalocalypse ,but honestly it doesn't matter too much since most of my fics involving her take place before the series even starts (although watch as all of them become outdated by the time of the finale movie LOL). In any case she was a law school student that was seduced and got pregnant by a demonic entity in human form before being abandoned by said demon after she starts to get sus, rendering her a struggling single mother with unhealthy coping mechanisms. Manages to be both a girlboss and a girlfailure at the same time

Crimes: There would be SOOOO much discourse if she was canon considering she is genuinely loving and well-intended in trying to have her son's best interest ,but man was she neglectful in that "parents of Gen X" kind of way except in some ways kind of worse thanks to being a high functioning alcoholic which traumatized her son in a way that affected his relationships with other people as an adult (ie concerning levels of codependency). Even if granted half of this wouldn't have happened if a few small decisions from her lover didn't kind of ruin her and her sons' lives and it's not hard to feel bad for her since her boss and co-workers kind of treat her like garbage. Basically we love us a problematic ,but complex MILF (if only I had the energy to write more!!!)

Other notes from the submitter: Was the reason I asked that question since I have several OCs and yet somehow the one that's not even from an original work of mine would have the most hypothetical fandom discourse due to being a grey area kind of mom (hate to say it ,but some of the series' actual female characters are often less interesting than the fandom's) LOL

#poll #oc poll #hmgbb

[syntiment]

hello you've got me very interested in edancy, i love a good rarepair ;) im very curious, was there any specific thing that made you ship them, like a moment in s4 or something you read or saw that reminded you? im interested how you came to this ship, its intriguing to me and i'd like to hear your perspective on it!

also LOVE your art it's so beautiful and pretty and so warm and makes me have the warm fuzzies, i love it!!

AWW THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

Welcome to Edancy hell, we have matching jackets. I also call the ship Seven Miles with my friend so if you ever see me refer to that, I'm talking about Edancy.

They have a lot of very subtle moments on screen that really made me interested in their character dynamic. The fact that Eddie just knows that the Wheeler residence is seven miles from his trailer THAT quickly- the ways he's very touchy with her, Nancy's interaction with Wayne and not buying people saying he's a killer immediately. They share a lot of looks that give me a vibe. And also the entire scene with Eddie pep talking Steve "if it were me I would get her back" and then making Steve cover up can both be read as a bit of jealousy which is a fun take on it.

They very much fulfill that opposites attract quota in terms of aesthetics with Nancy being mostly dressed in pastels and seeming very put together and organized while Eddie is in a lot of dark grungier clothing with a more laidback and laissez faire attitude. And yet they have a lot of the same core values with both of them being fiercely protective of whoever they consider "their" people, they have a distinct lack of respect for authority because of being failed by those in power around them often, they both have rather niche interests and are sort of loners even despite the initial appearance (ie: Nancy has enough friends to be counted on one hand, none of whom are very close to her. And despite the Corroded Coffin boys being Eddie's group at school, none of them went looking for him when shit hit the fan). They're both extremely passionate and stubborn people, the perfect types to uplift and encourage one another through the pursuits of their interests and who are both independent and reliant in equal parts to make the balance of their relationship work very, very well.

In short, they have the perfect personality types to make a romance between them really work out long term. Plus, they both can understand and relate to a lot of what the other has gone through. Survivors guilt is a huge aspect in both of their stories.

Eddie needs someone who won't back down and will help him stand his ground and who's motivated and dedicated enough to be able to give him the fire to follow his dreams and stand against the tide. And Nancy needs someone emotionally available and light enough to remind her that there's more to life then the isolation and expectations she lets people press upon her, and someone who will put the wind under her wings when she's getting weighed down by her own self doubt and fears of failure.

And the other is quite literally the exact archetype to achieve those points.

I came into liking Edancy because they had a cute dynamic on screen but I'm also a collaborative creative writer in my free time (which is a fancy way of saying I roleplay really huge DnD scale elaborate storytelling venture epics with friends where we write canon and oc characters in a show/game/movie setting, in this case we're writing our take on Stranger Things Season Five) and my friend and I jokingly talked about them as a romantic relationship, quickly realizing just how good for each other they are. And the more we looked the more we discovered a really strong chemistry and it was all downhill from there basically. We're hooked. Edancy is by far my OTP right now, I'll die on this hill honestly. My friend is here with me, also dying on this hill LMAO.

ANYWAY THIS IS VERY LONG- but yeah, there's a lot about them that just... work very well.

#Edancy #seven miles #thank you for the message!! #In case you're wondering I write for Nancy and my oc Clementine #And my friend writes Eddie

[shit-talk-turner]

Is it really THAT complicated that it’s impossible for someone like her though? /// There’s a partner visa she could apply for/he could sponsor if they get engaged, if she’s his proposed civil partner, or if they had been living together for at least 2 years. They must intend to live together permanently and if she comes over as his fiancée or proposed civil partner they have to get married or register a civil partnership after 6 months. So if the “anon” who is always going on about Alex and Louise getting married etc was right then it would be really easy for him to sponsor a partner visa so she could move to London. I’m sure there are also a number of loopholes an expensive immigration attorney could find for them. And it would also be really easy for Alex to move to France as a self-employed artist under an artistic and cultural profession talent passport.

If Alex had any interest in actually being in a real, committed, meaningful relationship with Louise they would be living together and the visa issue really isn’t much of a barrier at all. I can only assume the anon(s) insisting them not living together after 4+ years doesn’t mean anything are either barely teenagers, have no relationship experience whatsoever, are delusional, or have some personal investment in convincing themselves that that is true (ie louise). I’m sorry but if you’re in your 30s and not even living in the same country, let alone in the same residence, with your “partner” after 4+ years - unless it’s a short-term arrangement with and end date while you figure out visa stuff or financial stuff or finish school or a work commitment etc, none of which exist here - then you aren’t emotionally available and you are not in a serious, committed relationship with the other person. The idea that this is a fulfilling, serious and committed relationship is laughable and sad. Being in an indefinitely long-distance relationship for years in your 30s just is not something an emotionally available person does with someone they love and are committed to building a future with absent any actual barrier which again does not exist here.

We wholeheartedly agree.

[calltoamentor]

I cannot emphasize enough that you are worthy, while also re-iterating you do not have to match some highly specific standard of Being to pursue a life that aligns with who you are. We joke -alot- on this hellsite we find ourselves returning to again and again about how the world is a dumpsterfire and nothing matters and life is a big existential mess filled with more questions than answers so eff it do the thing you love anyway. A sentiment I wholeheartedly agree with. But it is nearing the middle of suicide prevention and awareness month, and I am about to go on for a lot of minutes about how to carry that mentality outside of digital space, so I want to take a minute to say: If you are still here, still building a life you don't want to escape from--thank you. Thank you for being here and thank you for staying. Should you take nothing else from what I am about to say, know that this random on the internet who has lost people to suicide is glad you are still here. If you'd like to stick around and hear me talk about little ways to assist in that process, you are more than welcome. If not, my digital gate is always open. Because I did not go through two decades of belittling both at school and at home, another decade in an emotionally abusive relationship, finally move out on my own and become a certified Life Coach to not have things to say on this topic. So let me start be reiterating: You do not have to be worthy. Determined is enough. You do not have to match some perfect ideal of being to get started. Yes there are a lot of aspirational images, even in the most niche of communites, that seem to get it *right*. That Do The Thing perfectly. These are your Matt Mercers, Bernadette Banners, Dawkos,etc. etc. etc. Every niche has one, and because we only have access to their edited and curated final products, the comparison game feels unavoidable. ESPECIALLY if you are struggling with things they do not seem to in the background. That is what I mean by not needing to be worthy. The First Step is to loosen the grip of the comparison mindset. The tempting way to go about this is something you actually see a lot online: Nitpicking. Finding little, inconsequential things a creator does that is Not Right™ and holding a magnifying glass up to it for all to see, in an attempt to make their very human flaws bigger than our insecurities. There's no shame if this something you've done or are currently doing, you are far from the only one. Another way is assess what, specifically, is appealing to you about what they're doing. What can you incorporate into your own life and how can you make it your own? The Second Step is to trust that the universe will not punish you for attempting to escape what you "Should" do. I don't know if I've mentioned before, but I loathe "should" with every fiber of my being. I was forcefed "shoulds" and "normalcy" throughout my adolescence, hence why I'vde dedicated an entire career to helping people break out of it. But breaking the should mindset is a lot of work. It requires you to assess each thing that activates it in your life to determine if this thing has a place in the life you want to build or if it's connected to who you "should" be. There is almost nothing that you "should" be in order to be successful. If you are moving forward, even at microsteps, then that is a worthy effort. The Third Step is getting intentional about what spaces you occupy. Yes, this includes the hellsite. Crabs-in-a-bucket communities, ie ones that exist only to drag each other down under the guise of a commiseration group, are an increasingly rampant problem on the internet. If the media you consume makes you miserable, stop watching. If the books you read suck, stop reading. If the group you spend the most time in belittles, berates, and harasses anyone who is doing things differently than them or finds fulfillment outside of the group think: Run. Don't walk. Because you cannot build a happy life fearing that the sword of humiliation and harrassment is going to come down on your neck if you step out of their ever shrinking line. If you still want a supportive community that doesn't do that, for every CIAB community, there is a more wholesome version elsewhere.

#wholesome motivational #monday motivation #wholesome #You are worthy #Motivational Quotes #you are safe here #motivational #motivation monday #monday #you are in control #safe tag #mindset #change your mind #change your perspective #comparison is the thief of joy #reject normal #strange and unusual #Should is a bad word

[aro-culture-is]

Hey!

This year I realized I'm an ace, but recently I'm thinking I might be aroace.. seriously the stuff I read in your "am i aro" tag are so relatable, but not every aro post is.. so idk.

I've been in love once (in elementary school, now I'm 19 rip) but I believe it was platonic bc I really wanted to be best friends with that person (I am not sure tho).

I dont feel the need for a romantic relationship but I can imagine myself in a faceless one (same as another anon here). Tbh I am good by myself in general but that may also be due to adhd (undiagnosed, but I might have it) aaaagh seriously I have no idea what's going on

To sum up, i dont think I want to live my life alone. I'd like to be in a platonic relationship. But I am sure I can live alone because I am really peaceful by myself and I dont actually feel the need for socialization:")

Thanks for your time, stay safe

hi!

first off, I do want to state: I do not relate to even a third of these culture posts. Aro people are not a monolith. This was not ever meant to be a serious blog. I post all submissions I get (that follow my rules!), but the intention of this blog was honestly to be a fun, 'aro culture is frogs' type of thing.

to be aro is to have a shared identity. not all individuals will experience this the same - intersectionality (ie, sexuality, race, nationality, gender, mental illness, other neurodivergence...) plays a huge roll in every person's life. I cannot and will not say that I can speak, for example, for a Black allosexual aromantic woman living in Mexico. I'm a genderqueer, white, non-sam aro, and USAmerican. We will experience our aromanticism through entirely different cultural lenses. Even if we shared every last identity feature possible, we would still be different people and have different experiences as a result.

secondly, all of that sounds like an aro experience. your experience is part of the multitude of individuals that create a community. i think it's fantastic that you've looked towards the future and asked, rather than strictly "what am i?", "What would make my life feel fulfilling? What looks like a happy ending for me? If that doesn't happen, what else would I like?" I think that's a good question for people to ponder.

- mod kee

#not aro culture #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod kee #am i aro #aro people are not a monolith

[theobligatedklutz]

tbh i love that julie's fam is so so supportive and her dad and brother's reactions to her singing... omg just rip my heart out pls. and yess the lack of toxic masculinity between luke, alex, and reggie! tbh i have never seen a show that displays the level of affection and pure joy between those teen boys like... ever??? especially when typically, esp with alex being gay, shows always play off guys affection with an emphasis of OMG WERE NOT GAY. and its like wtf chill out & also who cares?

Julie’s family is one of my favorite dynamics on the show. Carlos isn't the “ew familial affection, get out of my room, I hate my annoying sister” type of kid brother that we’ve all seen like billions of time on our screens. He shows affection in ways we’ve all longed to see -“I’m just trying to protect you” and ‘I’m not afraid to hug you’ and ‘my older sister is playing music again!’ and “there can be two men of the house” (like this kid is really something else). JATP said no to cliche family relations and gave us warm beautiful healthy relationships between family instead. Ray Molina is also such an affectionate soul with the way he acts around both his children - their little finger hugs (pls do not call me out on the way I phrased this im-), the constant check-ins with Julie and asking her how she’s doing (he’s 100% doing the same with Carlos too)- and the way Ray is willing to go far and wide to fulfill his kids’ wishes (ie. moving out, looking for a performing art school for Julie, supporting Julie and Carlos’ endeavors: music (he allowed a house party band performance!!! for goodness sakes!!!) and ghost hunting respectively) and his excitement for both Julie and Carlos (the rain of paper when Julie told him she got her spot back in her school and the mini french dip chef arc). One moment in particular that I absolutely love is when Ray comes into Julie’s bedroom and suggests she see Dr. Turner again but he notices immediately that Julie has tensed at the mention of therapy, he turns that conversation around so fast to make sure Julie is comfortable again (JUST INCREDIBLE - LEARN PARENTING FROM RAY, KIDS). And don’t get me started on Tia Victoria. This woman said ‘no, I have adopted the Molina family now and I will protect and care for them and they will not be eating leftovers or takeout! not on my watch.’ I want to see so many more moments of interactions between Tia and both Carlos and Julie and I want to see her interact with Ray more. Tia Tori epitomizes support and I want to see so much more of that, we need more of that.

One of the things I absolutely love about this show is how nonchalant everyone is about Alex being gay. Luke mentions it in passing so we are not left guessing about Alex’s sexuality especially in the way he visibly gulps in his first meeting with Willie with that “ah shit I'm gay for him” look on his face. He’s just gay. Nothing more to it. Making sexuality something that is finally casual in 2020 (even though it should’ve been casual eons ago) makes this show stand out like no other (Kenny effing Ortego did that!!!). And on the same line of thought, even though Luke and Reggie know that Alex is gay, they treat him no different; there is no lesser affection between the boys because of it, there’s no “no homo” moments. They don’t react when Alex says “no <3” (which is improvised by Owen Joyner- wth??? INCREDIBLE!) when Reggie says “girls, right?” They are just a couple of teenage boys being teenage boys who love and adore each other. 

Luke is the most affectionate boy I’ve ever laid eyes on. This boy LITERALLY writes songs for his boys (see: crooked teeth). The scene between Reggie and Luke where he’s trying to show the boys that he has limitless chemistry- bruh that just got me! He is not afraid to be touchy feely (let’s be honest, it’s his love language) and I just want to see more of it in s2. To be honest, they are all really really really touchy-feely and like I’ve said before, they took toxic masculinity and lit it on fire. They are not afraid to support each other, hold hands and hug, they pick up on each others’ cues, they find each other on stage and give each other space. And they are so quick to pull Julie into their chaos and make her part of their little overjoyed puppy family. And you can see that these are not just their roles. Charlie, Owen, Jeremy and Maddie have the same form of companionship, they are best friends, they are family and it shows in complete fashion on screen. GIVE ME MORE OF THESE LOVEABLE DORKS IN SEASON 2 OR ELSE.

#julie and the phantoms netflix #julie and the phantoms #julie molina #ray molina #carlos molina #victoria molina #tia victoria #jatp alex #jatp luke #luke patterson #jatp reggie #willie jatp #willie #jatp netflix #jatp #julie and the himbos #hilow answers #myjatpposts #my jatp analysis

[utilitycaster]

This is going to be long and also not terribly well-edited or organized as I want to post it now but also want to watch The Unsleeping City in 45 minutes. Anyway welcome to why I have really loved Caduceus in the post-hiatus times especially, and particularly in Eiselcross, and how I think missing the mark with Caleb is a brilliant choice, and some thoughts about religion in D&D. Obviously everything I say is subjective and a reading of the text so to speak but the religion part will dip into my own projections so like...especially subjective.

Caduceus has, from the start, always been a unique and necessary perspective within the Mighty Nein, and he’s a voice that’s both desperately needed within the group while having many of his own limitations.

I’ve always shied away from the therapist interpretation. I think that’s to an extent how Caduceus sees himself at times - in fact, I think part of his current arc is that he’s starting to move away from that idea of himself - but the fact is he’s not actually in that role. No one really is and that’s a good thing; found family slash sort of coworkers is a good place to find a confidant, but for a capital-T Therapist you need someone outside that circle.

I’ve mentioned in passing a few times that while I get why some people, and especially ex-Catholics, find a lot of resonance with Essek, my own experience with religion maps incredibly well onto Caduceus. I grew up Jewish and moderately religious, and went to a Jewish school until high school and having most of my social circle within that community. And as most religious minorities can attest, there is a sense of one’s religion being tied up with familial duty or responsibility and dueling pressures to and to not assimilate. I still find a lot of meaning in some religious practices and still practice many of them, but I’ve definitely changed a lot of those practices due to my experiences in high school and especially college, sometimes for good reasons (ie, “this is not in line with the values I’m finding within myself as I gain experience in the world and engage with new perspectives”) and sometimes for more neutral/selfish ones (ie, “I don’t want to go to services on Friday night, I want to go out drinking with my friends.”) Caduceus is a cleric and has a personal relationship with his deity and I don’t think it’s at all in his nature to abandon that, but I think it is a relationship that is changing, and I can say from personal experience that’s even if it’s for the better, even if it’s an evolution rather than a rejection, changing traditions you were raised in because of the outside world is not easy. Anyway, I see a lot of my college self in Caduceus and what he’s going through now, and it is a very quiet and internal struggle but still an important and difficult one.

More generally, while Caduceus is young for a firbolg, he’s still got 80-100 years of experience with the life he once led and probably thought he’d lead for his entire life. His family ventured out, but as far as I can tell, always in the direct service of the Wildmother. Caduceus fulfilled that when he rescued his family. It’s no surprise that he’s felt a little adrift since then. Indeed I think he felt a little uncertain at various other points too - certainly when the party stole a boat in Nicodranas, and he indicated at various other times that he’d had doubts - and that has got to mess with the fact that he had those doubts even while he was on a mission for his family, given to him by his goddess. He apologized to his parents for wanting to continue adventuring, even though they were fully supportive of his decisions.

I’ve already talked about Caduceus changing in Eiselcross especially - finding other things out in the world that were perhaps not directly given to him by the Wildmother but which still could use his help, and changing some of his approaches as a cleric. He admitted to Lucien that he’s not sure what he’s supposed to be doing at this time, and again, that’s a really hard place to be, especially for someone like Caduceus. I am really excited to see how his experiences in Eiselcross and beyond change him.

Back to the limited perspective and his words to Caleb: one thing Caduceus has always excelled at is a sort of...kind disregard for politics. I think some of it is just not having the inclination or taste for mind games, which tend to require both a certain intricacy and a good amount of deception, neither of which Caduceus is good at nor likes. This has often served the party well - Caduceus was the one who got them to involve the Dynasty when the Laughing Hand got out, and he might be the one who is willing to pull in Essek despite others’ doubts. But there is a benefit to politics; there’s telling someone only what they want to hear, which can often be bad, but there is an element of telling people what they should hear in a way in which it will be received, and I don’t know if he’s mastered that either. An unique perspective is valuable, but it’s still only one perspective.

I suspect Caduceus’s feelings towards Caleb are more complex than “turn that frown upside down” (and in general what people say on Talks is going to be ooc, in modern and fairly casual terms, etc) but I also think he may be approaching Caleb from a grief counselor perspective, when trauma is a much different thing, and he may be ascribing intent where, as was said on Talks, this is just there in Caleb whether or not he wants it. And I think this is a great character choice from Taliesin (I really do hope he’s on Talks in two weeks)! Why would a cleric of mourning and how death affects the living have an extensive knowledge of Caleb’s experiences? He wouldn’t! I should note I think Caduceus’s advice has often been very good - towards Fjord as Fjord was reaching out to the Wildmother, and to Beau and Veth in the conversation after the hag encounter especially - and those were conversations about things like religious faith and familial relationships and one’s place on the world, which are things Caduceus has experience with or is going through himself.

I feel like I’ve called characters foils a whole lot now and I don’t think it even fits entirely here, but it is fascinating to contrast Caleb and Caduceus, one of whom has drastically changed his path multiple times, willingly and unwillingly, and one of whom is in the midst of great and unclear change. I think they have more in common than they necessarily believe, and I absolutely think Caduceus’s intentions have always been good, just lacking in some understanding (which I also think Veth and Beau have at times gotten wrong too, in different ways). But Caleb is someone who has understandable difficulty talking about his past, and Caduceus is someone who doesn’t always quite realize if he’s off the mark, and I don’t know if they will resolve this, because neither is in the wrong.

One of my favorite things about both campaigns of Critical Role but especially this one is how interestingly and believably characters misunderstand each other. It was one of my favorite things about the twins in Campaign 1, and it’s been a throughline among many different characters in Campaign 2. Like, if I say I think a PC is misunderstanding someone else, there is an unspoken “and I think that’s fascinating and I want to know what happens next”, and the fact that he’s only just realizing how much he’s changed and how much he might change and expand his horizons is one of my favorite things about Caduceus.

#critical role #caduceus clay #long post #not to continue in the tags (jk always to continue in the tags) but flaws are why i like characters! #this is exceptionally true for caduceus and beau - their very specific perspectives and difficulty changing them is why I love them #a perfect character is boring #and while taliesin has said caduceus was created to be static...i don't think he is static! because static is boring to me! #i think he's someone who thought he was static and the outside world said: bet. and it's phenomenal and i love it.

[solarsunsimagines]

PARENTING  JM, JA, ZH

MASTERLIST

JM, JA, ZH

——————————————————————————————————–

Jack:

- When the baby is born - he instantly falls in love with them.

- His fathering mode will be almost entirely natural to him.

- Tried to name them after rockstars (ie - Freddie, Elton, Steven, Courtney, Janet, Shirley)

- Buys them onesies that are music related. Such as 'my dad is the lead singer'

- Lets the baby sleep on him wherever he goes.

- Gets the baby big noise-cancelling headphones, so they can go to his concerts.

- Gets the baby different toy instrument, hoping that they'll be interested in music when they're older.

- Spoils them rotten.

- Lets the kids get away with anything.

- Won't let them get into trouble alone.

- Will support their interests and will help them fulfil their dreams no matter what.

- Makes sure they have a healthy relationship.

- Will teach them guitar at a young age.

- Will probably make them come on stage, during one of their concerts - to show off their skill.

- Will make them finish school - no dropping out.

- Would encourage going to college/university but won't force it.

- Very affectionate, lots of hugs, head kisses and snuggling

 Jonah:

- He would be scared at first, he would think that he couldn't do it, but after a few days, his instinct kicks in.

- Would hate changing diapers, but he would do it anyway because he's a dad.

- Frustrated with himself when the kid won't stop crying.

- Would have to constantly remind himself that he's a father (it doesn't seem real to him.)

- Would never let the boys babysit.

- Would dress the baby in cute clothes (no gender roles in his house)

- Would encourage uniqueness.

- Would make sure to protect them from anything bad.

- Would give them freedom to do their own thing - trusts them to do the right thing. But he will go through their room a few times when they're older.

- Would try and make them interested in music- they could bond that way.

- 'Accidentally' read their diary/journal if he feels like they are being distant.

- Will make it clear that communication is very important. If the kid is struggling, he would try his best to help.

- Sometimes would find it harder to communicate or bond, but he would find little things to relate to, that would help him and his kid.

- Would encourage breaking gender roles - especially with clothing.

- If the kid wanted to play dress up, he would rock a dress and heels.

 Zach:

- Wouldn't know what to do most of the time.

- Easily overwhelmed by the crying - at first.

- Would be the 'fun parent'.

- He would eat half of the baby food because it's actually "pretty good".

- Would accidentally drop the baby once and will refuse to pick them up for the next week.

- Will give the baby a cute nickname based on the most annoying thing about them.

- At night when they wake up crying, he will just let them come sleep in his bed.

- Will teach them to walk, by bribing them with food.

- Will dress them as a mini version of himself. Will also match them with the boys, just so they can have a cute memory.

- Will not let them touch his instruments at all.

- Will attend every game/tournament/competition that they might have.

- Will always be listening to them/will try his hardest to understand them.

- Will always cave into them.

- Will blame them for taking the last cookie - when it was him.

- Will be like a best friend, instead of a parent.

- Won't like to discipline the kid.

- Won't ever shout at them.

- Tries to be very careful with what he says (so it won't negatively impact them).

- Let them dress how they want but won't allow any animal print.

- Will buy them an instrument instantly if they show an interest.

#jack avery #wdw #wdw corbyn #wdw dani #wdw imagines #wdw jack #wdw zach #corbyn besson #daniel seavey #jonah marais

[dwellordream]

Really enjoyed the chapter of Caritas!! i'm having trouble articulating what I loved about it, but I really liked how it was shown that Charity was lonely and (at least i got the sense, maybe she was exaggerating) bullied at her time at school that came immediately after we saw her as a competent and compassionate but still scarred adult who seems to have been actively trying to forgive those her hurt her (ie her kindness to Remus)... idk just very well written (1/2)

(2/2) and it also just reminded me of the point I am in my life (23) where I'm like "yes this person was so absolutely shitty to me in high school and it caused a lot of life long hurt but they were also 16, and they've no doubt grown and matured as people just like I have, and I can't really hold their 16 year old self as the ultimate and true version of them..." so i just found that perspective (or at the least one hinted at!!) in Charity very relatable

Thank you so much! I really want to get across her sense of loneliness and isolation as a 15 year old- she doesn’t have any close friends, her sister has already left school, and she doesn’t really fit into any particular clique.

And as someone who was also bullied in school (though moreso primary than secondary) I wanted to also get across that while Charity is not lying about having been bullied and harassed by classmates, not every situation is necessarily as black and white as her teenage self presents it as. There are absolutely going to be some scenes where she is unquestionably being tormented and no one deserves that.

There are also some scenes where it is suggested she may be exaggerating a little or overreacting out of the general paranoia and anxiety that comes with having been bullied. It’s sort of a self fulfilling prophecy in that sense. You start to worry everyone is always looking at and mocking you and then you lash out and then they mock you more.

But yes, she has some good reasons to resent Remus and his friend group for her school experience, but a big part of her character is that she is someone convinced that everyone can change and get better, and so she was able to put that aside and focus on having a good collegial relationship with Remus during his time as a professor. And she is genuinely outraged that Snape outs him like that.

#caritas #ask #anon #charity burbage

[jatpimagines]

FATHERHOOD // SUNSET CURVE

Warnings: None

Request: None

MASTERLIST

━◦○◦━◦○◦━◦○◦━◦○◦━◦○◦━

Luke: - When the baby is born - he instantly falls in love with them. - His fathering mode will be almost entirely natural to him. - Tried to name them after some kind of rockstar (ie - Freddie, Elton, Steven, Courtney, Janet, Shirley) - Buys them onsies that are music related. Such as 'my dad is the lead singer' - Let's the baby sleep on him wherever he goes. - Gets the baby big noise-cancelling headphones, so they can go to his concerts. - Gets the baby different toy instrument, hoping that they'll be interested in music when they're older. - Spoils them rotten. - Let's the kids get away with anything. - Won't let them get into trouble alone. - Will support their interests, and will help them fulfill their dreams no matter what. - Makes sure they have a healthy relationship. - Will teach them guitar at a young age. - Will probably make them come on stage, during one of their concerts - to show off their skill. - Will make them finish school - no dropping out. - Would encourage going to college/university, but won't force it. - Very affectionate, lots of hugs, head kisses and snuggling

Alex: - He would be scared at first, he would think that he couldn't do it, but after a few days, his natural instinct kicks in. - Would hate changing diapers, but he would do it anyway because he's a dad. - Frustrated with himself when the kid won't stop crying. - Would have to constantly remind himself that he's a father (it doesn't seem real to him.) - Would never let Luke or Reggie babysit. - Would dress the baby in cute clothes (no gender roles in his house) - Would encourage uniqueness. - Would make sure to protect them from anything bad. - Would give them freedom to do their own thing - trusts them to do the right thing. But he definitely will go through their room a few times when they're older. - Would try and make them interested in music- they could bond that way. - 'Accidentally' read their diary/journal if he feels like they are being distant. - Will make it clear that communication is very important. If the kid is struggling he would try his best to help. - Sometimes would find it harder to communicate or bond, but he would find little things to relate to, that would help him and his kid. - Would encourage breaking gender roles - especially with clothing. - If the kid wanted to play dress up, he would rock a dress and heels.

Reggie: - Wouldn't know what to do most of the time. - Easily overwhelmed by the crying - at first. - Would definitely be the 'fun parent'. - He would eat half of the baby food because it's actually "pretty good". - Would accidentally drop the baby once, and will refuse to pick them up for the next week. - Will give the baby a cute nickname based on the most annoying thing about them. - At night when they wake up crying, he will just let them come sleep in his bed. - Will teach them to walk, by bribing them with food. - Will dress them as a mini version of himself. Will also match them with Alex or Luke, just so they can have a cute memory. - Will not let them touch his bass at all. - Will attend every game/tournament/competition that they might have. - Will always be listening to them/will try his hardest to understand them. - Will always cave into them. - Will blame them for taking the last cookie - when it was actually him. - Will be like a best friend, instead of a parent. - Won't like to discipline the kid. - Won't ever shout at them. - Tries to be very careful with what he says (so it won't negatively impact them). - Let them dress how they want, but won't allow any animal print. - Will buy them an instrument instantly if they show an interest.

#Alex Mercer #Jeremy Shada #julie molina #julie and the phantoms #madisonreyes #julie and the phantoms masterlist #julie and the himbos #jatp masterlist #jatpimagines #jatp #BooBoo Stewart #carrie wilson #luke patterson #owen patrick joyner #charliegillespie #jatp cast #luke jatp #alex jatp #jatp netflix #flynn jatp #willie jatp #reggie jatp #jatp julie #jatp fanfiction #julie and the phat ones #SACHA CARLSON #TAYLOR KARE #MALE READER #GANDERNEAUTRAL READER #FAMEL READER

[outbythehighwind]

The Misconceptions of FF7: A Cloud, Aerith & Tifa Analysis Part 2/5

Link to all parts: https://outbythehighwind.tumblr.com/post/640347336477966336/the-misconceptions-of-ff7-a-cloud-aerith-tifa

Last post, I examined the misconceptions around Cloud’s character with a brief psychological analysis on how the selves that are “Ex-SOLDIER” Cloud and ‘real’ Cloud pertain to ‘Cloud’ the being. This was to evidence that Cloud’s feelings (as both “Ex-SOLDIER” and his true self) are ‘Cloud’s’, and to refute the nonsensical notions that: the player until the Lifestream sequence is not really playing as Cloud; Cloud’s feelings toward Aerith are Zack’s; and only the ‘real’ Cloud’s feelings for Tifa are valid (because “Ex-SOLDIER” Cloud has feelings for Aerith).

I had referred to ‘feelings’ in the general sense. These next two posts will examine them in the specific spheres of friendship and romance.

Nowhere in the game or FF7 compilation does it explicitly state that Cloud romantically “loves” or “is in love with” Aerith or Tifa. FF7 handles its themes in a manner that is incredibly human and complex. So, before attempting an objective analysis of his ‘feelings’ beyond the general sense – ie. what kind of love he has for each woman – I want to draw attention to the role of the player.

The developers want the player to form their own attachments, have the agency to play to them out, and have their own emotions evoked throughout their experience of the game. This is why the love triangle exists within the narrative – narrative being that tool by design (how the story is told; the lens by which the player experiences the game, and the tool by which the writers play with the player’s emotions). The player can, to a degree, make choices that alter story events within the narrative. They can manipulate the affection points to take Aerith or Tifa (or even Yuffie) on the Gold Saucer date. They can keep the relationship with both women platonic and have a bro’s night out with Barret. A player who is torn between the girls can therefore experience ‘more’ of the love triangle than a player who takes the latter route of bonding with Barret.

Which brings me to another nonsensical argument: that because the date mechanics ‘favor’ Aerith (who begins with a 20 affection point advantage over Tifa), the game wants Cloud to date Aerith, and therefore Cloud’s true love is Aerith. Again, nonsense. For this argument to stand, it must first adhere to the fact that the love triangle exists outside of the date mechanics: if the game wants Cloud to date Aerith, it must want Cloud to date Aerith in its plot (the always true relationship between story events that does not alter on player decision). This particular date is only an available option within the narrative. That is not to say it is not canonical – quite the contrary. Of course Aerith’s date is canonical. So is Tifa’s, or Yuffie’s, or Barret’s – if the player so chooses. It is not a plot matter, but an experience for the player.

But let us assume, for a moment, that it were a plot matter. Let us assume Cloud’s ‘romantic love’ is the person he spends the night out with at Gold Saucer. Aside from the obvious Barret and Yuffie alternatives, here is the problem: who comes for a night out is not determined by Cloud’s affection toward them, but their approachability in their affections toward Cloud. It is Aerith or Tifa (or Barret or Yuffie) who takes Cloud out. Naturally Aerith would begin with points higher than Tifa because there is no barrier of a dark & secret past between them, and Tifa has lower self-confidence, tending to lock her feelings away.

So the player has agency over the Gold Saucer experience. This does not alter the plot. Aerith will die; and Cloud’s “sealed up secret wish” involving Tifa will be brought to light in the Lifestream.

Cloud’s feelings in the plot sense – ie. as they truly are (not to the player’s subjection, but objectively Cloud’s) – are complex. Before giving my two cents worth on two beautifully deep relationships, to all who say that ‘because Cloud romantically loves one girl he doesn’t care about the other,’ I propose the following statement:

“Those who cannot conceive Friendship as a substantive love but only as a disguise or elaboration of Eros betray the fact that they have never had a Friend.” – C.S. Lewis

I lament with Mr. Lewis at the degradation of friendship's meaning in the world today. So when I speak of friendship, I wish to stress its meaning: that it is one of the highest forms of love.

Cloud’s feelings toward Aerith, I believe, can be interpreted as either of the two loves – friendship or Eros (romantic love) – or both. Even within the experience of Gold Saucer, I personally have not any solid evidence that Cloud’s feelings for Aerith are Eros, and whether they are or not has no influence on the plot. Cloud and Aerith will become (very) close; Aerith will die; Cloud will be distraught; and Cloud will continue the fight they started together – Eros or no Eros. That being said, I can see how conclusions of Eros are a possibility. Cloud’s investment in Aerith’s journey and well-being is very personal. His care toward her runs so deep, in fact, that his “Ex-SOLDIER” persona is often cracked.

Aerith is the first and only character to humor this self that Cloud is so desperate to project to the world. She takes the mickey by giving him the title なんでも屋さん (“Nandemoyasan”) – “Mr. Jack of all trades”. Yet she allows him to ‘play SOLDIER’ in making him her bodyguard and supportively holding him to that role.

Cloud is encouraged and feels strong when he is with Aerith. She raises his self-confidence and trust in his own strength in a uniquely distinct way that no other character does – not even Tifa. Though he is encouraged by Tifa to “be strong” also – in a uniquely distinct way pertaining to his accepting of self (which is, ultimately, what saves him) – Cloud feels weak around Tifa, due to his constant failure to live up to being her hero as he perceives it. With Aerith, we have the opposite effect.

Aerith simultaneously encourages the “Ex-SOLDIER” façade and breaks through it. They share laughter and tease one another on the rooftops. Cloud reveals his soft side when urging her to open up to him.

Aerith realizes that she does not know the ‘real’ Cloud, and tries very hard to find him, to bring him out. However, she does not. Not even within the Lifestream where he ends up twice in a broken state and she has maintained her complete physical consciousness. This is a role that only Tifa can fulfil.

Likewise, Cloud realizes Aerith is facing her own inner struggle – of what it means to be a Cetra – and he time and again goes out of his way to try help her, from risking his life to rescue her from Shinra to pushing to talk to her even when she wants to be left alone (note how Aerith turns her face away in the screenshots below). The writing stresses that this is by Cloud’s own investment, not simply that of the party’s as its leader. “But I’m… we’re here for you, right?”

Paralleling Aerith’s inability to reach Cloud’s true self, Cloud is unable to help her in discovering and fulfilling her task as the last Cetra, and Aerith finds herself more and more “alone” in pertinence to her inner conflict.

Her nandemoyasan, her dear friend, fails her, and that haunts Cloud after her death as he grapples with his own role in saving the Planet – a hope that is lost without Aerith.

Which now brings us to her death.

Aerith dies at the point where Cloud’s inner conflict against Sephiroth first peaks for the worst. Just having become aware that Sephiroth can override his very conscious (being forced to hand over the Black Materia in the Temple of the Ancients), Cloud has begun to doubt himself and is immensely afraid of who he is. Immediately following is his failure to save Aerith.

Cloud, whose entire life struggle and “Ex-SOLDIER” persona were built upon his self-loathing due to feelings of failure, weakness and inadequacy, has just failed to save this woman so precious to him. We see the haunting and guilt it holds over him in Advent Children, where he despairs and distances himself from his family for fear of failing them too.

Cloud does everything in his power to ensure Aerith’s mission is complete, not just for sake of the Planet, but for Aerith. The fight for the Planet is the party’s fight – the “we” fight, together as a whole. But it is more for Cloud, so much more.

“I’ll do the rest.”

Cloud’s external fight for the Planet and his personal feud with Sephiroth is in much part out of his deep love for Aerith.

This love is, no doubt, an incredibly powerful mutual friendship. It is clear that, in addition to this friendship, Aerith has romantic feelings for Cloud (which I will evidence in part 4), but what of Cloud for Aerith? Could he have feelings for her that are Eros too? Absolutely. I have found no evidence implicitly for it, nor implicitly against it, and that to me is a beauty of player experience in the narrative. (I also believe this is what Nomura meant when he expressed his desire to leave interpretation to the player.)

However, in the sense of plot and Cloud’s feelings that are not up for the player’s interpretation, I hold to my understanding that Cloud – even if having romantic feelings toward Aerith – is romantically in love with Tifa, and that that Eros is core to his very being.

I will not say “there’s nothing more” between Aerith and Cloud even in my interpretation of them as friends. For that implies friendship is a lesser love than Eros, which I do not believe is true. C.S. Lewis said that (no pun intended) “To the Ancients, Friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves,” “the crown of life and the school of virtue”, and I agree with his saying that “few value it because few experience it.”

My hope is simply this: that people would lose this notion of ‘competition’ – that one girl must win ‘all’ of Cloud’s affections, and that at the expense of one ‘winning’, his relationship with the other is belittled.

Link to all parts: https://outbythehighwind.tumblr.com/post/640347336477966336/the-misconceptions-of-ff7-a-cloud-aerith-tifa

#ff7 1997 #cloud strife #aerith gainsborough #tifa lockhart #my analyses #ff7 advent children #ff7 remake

[cancerbiophd]

Did you study the things you studied because you wanted to work in a certain field or because you just liked your subject a lot? For me it's the latter (combined with if I don't go to uni then I have to work age 18 with no tertiary education so nope) and when I see posts about motivation talking about "study to get your dream job!" I just... Get very anxious/panic-y? I have no dream job, I just like biology. I'm scared that'll mean I won't find a job when the time comes either. How did you go about this?

Hello anon!

Ah, the age-old debate. My family was just talking about this yesterday, and we’ve decided that being able to do what you love for a living, aka working your “dream job”, is a huge privilege that not everyone is able to attain. Many jobs in society are not necessarily tasks that anyone “dreams” of doing, but they are essential tasks, and the money it brings in can help a person achieve their personal needs and goals. 

So, instead of looking at your life through the lens of pursuing a “dream job”, I would suggest finding a career path that fulfills these three things:

It’s something that needs to be done

It’s something you don’t mind doing

And it can offer the lifestyle you seek

I’m far more privileged than most that my current career as a cancer biologist is not just something that I don’t mind doing, but something I actually really like. But I don’t love it; cancer biology is not my hobby, and it’s not something I do for fun. It’s my career because it a) needs to be done, b) is something I don’t mind doing for the rest of my employed life bc I have a genuine interest (to the point where I got a PhD in it, so that speaks for itself) and c) it allows me to work the # of hours I want to work and brings in the salary that keeps me alive. 

(Because if money was not an issue, my “dream jobs” would be ornithologist (someone who studies birds) or plant nursery care-taker/gardener)

Here’s another example: my husband has a friend who majored in anthropology in college, but now works at an insurance company. It’s not his “dream job” by any means, nor does it have a lot of relationship to his college major, but what it does offer him is the salary and lifestyle to pursue other things he enjoys in life, like his hobbies. 

So sometimes a job is just a job. It’s just there to bring in money and benefits so you can live your best life. 

As for finding what jobs there are for biologists, if you’d like to go down that route, I would recommend exploring job websites in your area to see what postings there are for those who majored in Biology. Here are just some jobs that may be available:

Research and development (R&D): Discovery research, preclinical research, bio/pharmaceutical product development, project management, clinical development, regularly affairs, medical affairs

Services: Recruiting, law, venture capital & banking, management consulting

Operations: Bio IT, quality, operations

Commercial Operations: Business development, corporate communications, product support, sales, marketing

You can research some of these positions and see if any pique your interest. And keep in mind that society and technology are always changing, so new fields/jobs are always popping up (eg. artificial intelligence). When I was in college I had no idea the job I’m doing now existed (nor was the exact industry of precision medicine really a thing yet). And even when I was in grad school, I wasn’t doing things that were specifically catered towards landing this position--it just kind of happened “organically” (ie. the timing worked out, my hodgepodge of experiences and interests fit, my boss was an alumnus from my program so I was already pre-vetted in that sense, etc). If you’d like to read more about other people’s career stories that I’ve collected on tumblr, check out this tag. 

I know this doesn’t offer you a straight-out answer, but I do hope it opened a few more doors for you for planning your future. I’m also always available on chat if you’d like to talk some more :) 

#job advice #Anonymous