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gummy-sharks666 · 3 months

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Hi there, sweetie!! 💫❤️

I've seen you make random hcs about bakugan characters.

Can you do for Linus, Rafe and Paige? Pretty Please 💖🥺

AAAAAA Hello!!! <3 I will do my best but I haven’t watched thru season 4 so idk much ab Paige and Rafe ;-; so I’m sorry if I miss the mark completely w/ them lmfaooo

Linus:

Sexuality: tbh I could see him being ace but either pan or homoromantic, he needs a handsome prince to sweep him off his feet 😌

Gender headcanon: once again, I think Neathians have a different view of gender, but in terms of human gender hes probs a little more masculine leaning

A ship I have: ok hear me out,,, Sid- HEAR ME OUTTTT. I think the way they’re connected in loss fuels this ship mainly also I’m thinking a sort of beauty and the beast type thing with Linus and Sid omgggggg you guys LET ME COOK ;-; I actually kind of like him with Fabia too, mainly bc Zelda has converted me to the badass Princess and her most trusted knight agenda.

BROTP: honestly… rubanoid. I think once again through their losses they’re able to become very close partners together. I also like the idea of Elright being like someone he looks up to/a mentor figure

NOTP: AJAJSJSSH I honestly can’t think of anything just bc there’s so much of nothing for this character I’m willing to listen to anything

Random hc: I love the idea of him being from a small town/modest life (again, like Link) but he ends up being hand picked for knighthood. I’m sure he had to be amazed by the Neathian capital

General opinion: I feel similar to him the way I feel ab fabia,,, held back by the writing. I always felt like he’s just like the typical good knight character who they don’t really delve more into as a person, other than the backstory/moments of him and Neo. Both him and Fabia are characters I’ve had to force myself to see more into bc upon first and second viewing I just really did not care much for them. I’d say I have a bit more appreciation for them now tho

Rafe:

Sexuality hc: pan, wants a hot goth partner to step on him

Gender: what we would consider gender nonconforming for sureee

A ship I have: going off the goth thing what if him and Sellon 👀👀👀👀 (once again I know almost nothing ab these characters I’m just going solely based on first impression lmfao) also him and Linus could be cute 😳

BROTP: Marucho?? I was gonna say either him and Shun would get along well or they would butt heads idk

NOTP: Paige lmfao

A random hc: I’m honestly surprised he’s not related to Fabia in some way I could see him being a cousin or something

General opinion: he looks like a pathetic twink (very affectionate)

Paige:

Sexuality hc: BUTCH LESBIANNN WBK

Gender hc: definitely masc, a he/him lesbian for sure

A ship I have: hear me out,,, Paige and Julie would be cute 😳 Subterra coupleeee

BROTP: if Sid lived they would be besties for sure. I think she’d get along with Mason and Ren pretty well

NOTP: I have not seen her shipped with anyone honestly maybe Dan lmfao 💀

Random hc: Shes an oldest sibling, definitely comes from a big family that we’re probably hella traditional but she ended up being the cool lesbian sister

General opinion: I know almost nothing about her but I love her 10/10

#bakugan #bakugan battle brawlers #bakugan mechtanium surge #paige #Rafe #linus claude #neathians #gundalians #character asks #IM SORRY I have not done much mechtanium surge research #I hope u like this anyway ;-;#fabia sheen #elright #sid arkale #Linus and Sid beauty and the beast au #HEAR ME OUT

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old-school-butch · 3 days

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just wanted to say that following a butch older than 40 on here is SOOOO amazing like it blows my mind as a baby butch, it makes me feel like there actually is a future for me embracing being female AND being masculine. bc usually it's one or the other in today's "queer" circles. ppl have acted threatened of me being comfortable as a woman honestly?? like i can tell they just don't understand. a friend of mine even told me they (transmasc) just can't see me as a woman. i was like what do you mean? and they said idk i just can't, you just don't have the vibes. you feel so genderless. later i told them it hurt my feelings bc coming to terms with my womanhood meant a lot to me since i'm detrans, and they apologized and blamed it on their ex-girlfriend having had a looooot of internalized misogyny, and them needing to unlearn it. and now my brain is like... wondering if maybe that affected them identifying as nonbinary. idk. i still try to use they/them if ppl prefer it bc i try to be kind and i myself don't use my birthname and would be weirded out if ppl tried to use it for me. and from my history of dysphoria i know how painful (yet irrational) it can be. i'm just so aware that some ppl out there are identifying as nonbinary not bc they enjoy the identity but bc they're repressed and/or traumatized and have a lot of internalized bs. it makes me so, so sad. i want to help but if i say anything i'm a bigot, and i'm extremely scared of being seen as bigoted, it's a big source of anxiety for me. i'm living a double life right now, most of my friends irl are nonbinary but i have a radfem blog and i'm becoming very critical of gender. it feels like you just can't have a neutral conversation with someone about this. i tried with my nonbinary ex and they visibly started freaking out, and... not to be shitty but it really reminded me of how they acted when i saw them during cptsd episodes. it was like they were full of anxious energy, i couldn't say anything even slightly gender critical. there was a moment where i tried to pry a bit into their internalized sexism and they got this really harsh tone they had neverrrr taken with me in the 5 years we were together. they also regretted going on hrt and they had a moment of regretting top surgery too, but they pretended it never happened afterwards. anyways. it's just wild these days, and i worry about ppl who identify as nonbinary for the wrong reasons, for reasons that actually harm them. i hope there will be more resources for them over the years :/

Pretty interesting that your ex can keep a grip on control over you by ‘acting out.’ That’s not an irrational action, it’s effective. Which sadly describes the grip gender orthodoxy has on our community.

I completely hear you, I never told people I was trans and, if anyone asked had critiques of gender just kind of bubbling inside, but the reality was that other people told me I ‘must be’ trans. One said I was ‘a gay man trapped in the body of a lesbian’, so… I guess when I did something feminine I did it in a masculine way? Or, ya know, how I act is labeled in different ways because of reasons that have nothing to do with me and my existence as a woman.

Don’t beat yourself up about this - all the language and concepts were shoved down our throats. If women are people who identify as women, and if we accept that as true, what are the implications for our own existence and identities? The people creating this language didn’t care about us, and our silence trapped our doubts inside us.

Women won’t be free until we learn to care for ourselves as much as we care for others.

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genderfluidarchive · 1 month

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I know that clothes ≠ gender but sometimes I feel like I'm faking and I'm not a "true" genderfluid person, because I really do like dresses and frilly clothes and girl-ish stuff in general… But sometimes I like to wear them even in my masc days, and I feel like I don't have the right to ask people to refer to me with he/him pronouns because of it…

Idk if somone else feels like this, but I'd appreciate if someone had a solution to it!!

i definitely understand feeling like your gender somehow isn't valid because of your traits or hobbies or likes or presentation.

so how to deal with it?

disclaimer that often it takes some time to get over internalized transphobia, just keep working at it and reminding yourself that you are valid and can be whoever you want to be. forever.

ok first of all: everything gendered is totally arbitrary. there is nothing that is inherently masculine or feminine, technically. humans just like to make categories and put labels on things even when there's no true meaning or reason behind it. if you lived in a different country or a different time period, different things would be considered masculine. different things would be considered feminine. it truly doesn't matter in the scheme of who you are. whether you're a girl who likes tech or a guy who collects american girl dolls, you're still your gender.

second of all: do a little thought exercise for me and think of it in terms of other people. flip the genders - for instance, if a girl was really into weightlifting and other "masculine" hobbies, she'd just be a tomboy or butch girl. you would still respect her as a girl, right? and if you knew a guy who likes frills and pretty things, wouldn't you still respect him as a guy? why should it be any different for you? i mean this in a completely positive way - you are not the specialest person in the world, and that's a good thing. and i have to tell myself this too lmao. there is nothing that makes you so fundamentally different from other people that you don't deserve your gender and identity respected regardless of how you present.

third of all: look for cis men who are really feminine. look for cis men who are just kinda feminine. look for feminine men. find media with gender-non-conforming characters. there are plenty of them. number one: it will make you feel more normal. number two: would you question their identity because of how they present or what they like? no. at least i hope not lol.

fourth, maybe: create OCs that are like you. create art about your experience. find other people who are genderfluid and like feminine things. find friends who you know will accept and respect your identity. remind yourself that you deserve to be respected.

p.s. my younger brother has a bed full of plushies, wears makeup sometimes, and owns a corset that im lowkey jealous of but i can't steal bcos we don't wear the same size *pouts grumpily*. my ex-boyfriend liked skirts and split dyed his hair white and red. boys are all different. you're as valid as a boy/masc person (when you are one) as everyone else.

i hope something in this helped! go listen to your favorite song n be kind to yourself. you rock!

#genderfluid #genderfluid things #genderfluidity #genderfluid experiences #genderfluid positivity #kiley talks #genderfluid tips #kiley answers

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yrbutchgf · 2 years

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I thought I was a gay trans man for many years, but after a prolonged identity crisis, I've come to the conclusion that I'm bisexual and bigender (both a man and a woman.) I've always felt an affinity for the word butch and related to (as well as was attracted to) butch women. But in my day-to-day life I'm stealth as a cis man. I want to embrace my butchness but I feel like there's nothing radical or nonconforming about my masculinity since everyone sees me as a man. Especially since I'm on the road to getting phalloplasty, I feel like this realization has been sort of pointless. I'm not like those strong butch women who are visibly gnc and unashamed, though I envy them.

honestly, i don't see anything unchallenging about any person who decides to craft a form of gender different from what they were taught was right. in even mentioning that embracing your butchness would be a decision, you are proving that there is something in that action that changes the way you think about your masculinity, and therefore how you perform it and how it relates to others. and personally, i find even the sheer use of the word butch (as a positive thing, an honorific, especially) to be radical in and of itself for the way it can open up a room.

you may come to butchness from a different angle than many butch women do, but then many butch women come at it from different angles than each other. plus, butches from all throughout history have physically transitioned for all kinds of reasons. look at leslie feinberg. to me, and to many people, i don't think it matters what people see you as, 'cause people are always going to put something on you no matter what you do. when i was younger for example, i identified as a butch lesbian, and i was just like. a teenage girl wearing masculine clothing, and in a lot of situations people just assumed i was a guy. (one time it even happened while i was literally wearing a jacket that had a double venus emblazoned on the chest.) but what they put on and expected of me didn't change the fact of what i was, how i identified, or what it meant for me to be navigating life that way.

idk, i understand where your concerns come from, but i really think this sort of self-analyzing insecurity regarding whether you're doing enough by being butch is like... one of the most prototypically butch things i've ever heard, and also one of the things i feel like all of us have to learn to shed one of these days. it's better for the soul

#also congratulations on finding the words for it! identity crises can be really difficult to get through. speaking from experience #these days i conceptualize myself pretty vaguely as bigenderish too so i get it. btwn that and bisexuality butchness can feel #a little difficult to allow yourself to be. but to me even that friction of like 'idk if i can do this' is itself a challenge.#and it gets easier with time as you let yourself wear it. like a leather good that slowly conforms to your shape.#anyway. you are my brother/sister/sister-brother/brother-sister and i claim you #asks #anonymous #bi butch tag

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redheadbigshoes · 2 years

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Okay this is something I’ve noticed from growing up in fandoms, specifically in the queer sections of fandom, yaknow, as you do. And that’s honestly back to stereotyping, but done ourselves. I remember being in the EAH fandom, and they introduced Darling Charming, and she was the princess who wanted to do saving, except she was ultra girly French-Lolita type. (Seriously she’s so aesthetically pleasing). And it was interesting to see her still be a pretty girly girl and not want to be a princess damsel type. Just to get into the fandom, and it’s extreme butchification. Super short hair, masculine clothes, nothing girly ever. And idk, even when I was a presenting butch as a teenager in the fandom, it always rubbed me the wrong way. Butch/femme relationships only that play into the stereotypes for masculine/feminine relationships (butch does masculine stuff and only has male friends/suits, etc.), all the mean girls who aren’t typical femme presenting are lesbians. On one hand I get it, but on the other hand, it just feels like nothing interesting is done with it. And it just made it feel like being stuck in a box.

Idk it made me always feel like femme presentation was essentially bad in lesbianism because, yaknow, patriarchy male gaze. Idk it’s something in fandom that’s bothered me more than it should. I get reclaiming but it just gets….weird sometimes.

As a femme the femme rep we have in media is usually not very accurate, because it’s almost always through a male gaze. Like Cheryl Blossom from Riverdale. And not only that but considering we have way more characters written by men, seeing way more femmes in media than butches is just disgusting (not only because butches also deserve equal rep) because you just know we’re more represented because we’re fetishized.

And yeah when cishets write queer characters they usually do what you said, butches always being more friends with men and only liking masculine things and vice versa. What cishets seem to not realize is that masculinity and femininity when it comes to queer people is not the same when it’s about cishets.

And I’ve said in another post that if your reasons to headcanon a character as queer (a character that you just know it’s stereotyped) are not really because of those stereotypes, but idk you see yourself in that character and relate to them a lot, then it’s okay to hc them. But having a headcanon purely based on stereotypes I don’t think it’s okay. One example is a lot of people hc Max (Stranger Things) as queer, just because she’s more masculine.

#stephanie answers #anon #long post

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menalez · 1 year

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Ajfjsjakjdfjs there is a lot about lesbian culture in other countries I did not know about!! Like o_o why with thr nudes thing sjdjskdjsjd

I see though i think that makes sense. I feel like theres always that dumb idea of masculine feminine balance 😭 even though i myself am femme4butch i still dontt liek the whole oooaaga divine balaaance. Also its weird bc I think in USA, while there is that idea of course, there's also the 'lipstick' lesbians or 'fem4fem' stereotype or at least, what straight people think of the Good type of lesbians if it makes sense. Like what we see on tv... Its more appealing to them anyway

I mean my ex(😭 it hurts to say my god) gfs mom was actually a bit confused on whether she (ex) was trans like her brother (ftm) or just masculine, Bc i guess her idea of lesbians was the Lipstick kind.? but then also shes not usa american but latin American. Also she was very supportive and sweet just straight and confused with things gjdks

Still i think we have that too or single feminine lesbians get told how its good theyre not the ugly kind if people find out. I think gay men also have similar expectations put on them like ive read about families being more accepting if their son was the "top" or more manly seeming one in his relationship

Also me too 😭 its sooo weird like to have been pressured since being born+!!! And even my teachers would say omg stop flirtingg with boy classmate. ☹️ (crazy bc a teacher thatt taught us Gender Spectrum actualy said that to me bc i was telling this one boy off or something.. ookay.) And then my mom bringing up babies or grandchildren and then in the next moment telling me sex is evil and i should stay away from boys okay ma'am!!!

But jdjd glad that its not just me. Idk i keep feeling worried, but then I feel like im being stuck up and thinking im the only one in the world whos smart and sane so ill never find anyone. Like relax you are not the chosen one (@ myself of course)

Yeah i hope my family will be accepting andd not kill me fjsksjs and I hopee. I can find love and peace.... but thank you for listening! really I appreciate it bc sometimes it just feels like drowning in loneliness and i cant be myself even among friends andd etc. So. Ur very sweet 😭 mwah mwah thanks again mena

literally i could not tell u why she was showing me her nudes. im guessing it’s bc she wanted to show me that she gained weight and show her body before 😭😭 i felt like she was low-key flirting ngl lmaooo but she kept talking about her gf and that’s often a red flag for me sooo nothing happened there. i told her she shouldn’t sit around waiting for the day when her gf inevitably leaves her for a man n that’s not healthy etc. she’s also extremely self-hating in general and said a doctor told her that her lesbianism & masculinity are bc she doesn’t have enough estrogen in her body / has too much testosterone and that she should be on hormones to be fixed, which she fully believed.

im not keen on femme4femme lool from my experience most of them are weirdly anti-butches and hold misogynistic & lesbophobic beliefs! and i do think ur right that’s the more acceptable combo in the west (two gender conforming conventionally attractive women dating). i also hate the stupid idea that bc im not masculine im meant to be dating a woman who is bc it’ll “balance” us both. they also said when im with more androgynous or feminine women, i become more masculine which is “unnatural” or sth 🫥. also my mom is most in support of me dating women that can pass for men, i feel like she thinks if i won’t be w a man then the thing that’s best is me dating a woman who can be mistaken for a man. i think it’s mostly bc she wants to be socially accepted but it can be exhausting

ALSO the top thing is a whole ass thing in the gulf. there’s many bi & straight men who will literally get away with having gay sex bc they exclusively top 💀 a lot of those tests they use to check if ur gay (so they’ll jail u for it) are specifically testing if ur a bottom. it’s a weird weird phenomenon. and it’s especially weird that there’s this weird culture of even straight men seeking out men bc the society is very sex segregated. im sure some of those men aren’t actually straight but it’s such a prominent thing the way it is in prisons in the US that im sure many of them are. craziest part is this culture is most prominent in saudi of all places

omg when i was little i had mainly male friends bc idk girls thought i was a weirdo that stared too much at them or sth. and i was v close to my male friends, we’d hold hands n all but i think we both thought nothing of it. and my mom would be like “omg soooo cute my daughter has a boyfriend omg 🤗 she looooves the boys omg and they love her!!!” meanwhile im 5 years old and just thinking of it like holding my brother’s hand

manifesting u find ur dream gf soon and that coming out goes smoothly for u 🥺❤️ don’t hesitate to msg me whenever. i love hearing from other lesbians n it’s always heartwarming seeing younger lesbians accept themselves, i somewhat envy it (wish i were that brave & self-aware!!!) but it gives me a lot of hope for our future 🥰🥰🥰

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therealtsk · 3 years

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tsk i’m DYING to hear your play-by-play on which worm characters have dumb fanon interpretations

UH OH YOU JUST OPENED THE FLOODGATES so the short answer is pretty much every major character but I am a high-effort bitch so let's do this: Taylor Hebert: jfc, I could probably hit a word count limit talking about Taylor alone. First you have the dumb as shit TINO (Taylor In Name Only) phenomenon where people just straight up SI as Taylor but pretend it's her and she's basically a different person wearing Taylor's skin like an ill-fitting suit. Then there's the Memetic Escalator Taylor interpretation where Taylor's Warlord era characterization is flanderized so hard that she turns into her world's version of Doomguy where her response to literally everything is ultra violence, mutilation and torture and she can totally beat up anyone you guys hahah coin sock goes brrrrr you go brutalize those totally deserving victims queen. And then there's shy, stuttering, soft spoken "useless lesbian" Taylor which is not as common but still, fuckin straight men and the way they infantize gay women. Taylor is perhaps the most consistently inconsistent characterization I've seen in fandom, it's fucking wild Lisa Wilbourn: Has two fanon settings. Taylor's best friend who exists solely to give exposition and get the "Stop Coil" subplot rolling (occasional gay subtext will be added in a way that feels fetishy) Or, the evil bitchy blonde who is first target of the SI. I constantly wonder if the people who write the frankly masturbatory SI's are aware that we can tell they're still bitter about girls not dating them in highschool. Brian: basically does not exist in fic aside from the occasional joke cause racism and also because of how popular wlw ships are in Worm fandom. you deserve better dude Alec: has a few token appearances in wormfic fandom that usually have him as the comic relief alongside Aisha, which might actually be for the best considering he's a rapist and the Worm fandom's uhhhh tendencies. Moving on- Aisha: prankster girl that alt!Taylor will adopt as a younger sibling. hopefully is not part of the totally-not-a-harem considering she's even younger then the rest of these teens Bitch: Another girl to fall into alt!Taylor's definitely-not-a-harem, but with more butch tendencies. Basically has no personality in fanon outside of her dogs Parian: SHE DOESN'T HAVE A SHOP FFS also another member of Taylor's totally-not-a-harem Flechette: yeah it's a harem Sophia: holy shit you think Brian's bad? The racism in pretty much every fanon depiction of Sophia is off the charts. Hyper-violent, super edgy, "predator/prey" speech inbound, will get humilated/killed in some new, supposedly satisfying but actually just deeply uncomfortable way, probably throw in some E88 shit too just because Emma: again, do the writers know we can tell they're still malding over the fact that the pretty girls in highschool didn't date them? fanon emma is pretty much a cardboard cut out of whoever was mean to the author. something something bitches three Madison: in fanon has a C53 fetish, occasionally is also Browbeat. don't ask why Victoria: gets hit with the blonde stereotypes even harder then Lisa, "Collateral Damage Barbie" is one of the phrases that activates my flight or fight responses. she basically is an entirely different character in fanon. bubbly dumb blonde girl with a massive temper and well other sexist bullshiit Amy: I hate even touching this character with a ten foot pole but basically is hit with the "soft useless lesbian" trope hard enough to make her into a completely separate person from her canon self. whether or not this is a good thing is still up for debate Carol: in fanon, an evil bitch who exists solely to bully Amy Mark: who? The rest of New Wave: cannon fodder for Leviathan Danny Hebert: literally stale milk instead of a personality, will probably die before the fic is over but we won't care because the author did not care either Armsmaster: hahaha robotman go brrrr or is an arrogant self-aggrandizing shit, can't interact with people without Dragon helping him 24/7 Miss Militia: fanon bat'd into team mom,

idk where this came from considering her first instinct upon seeing children is to pull out a gun holy shit wait is she actually Taylor's true mom- Velocity: canon fodder for levi Battery & Assault: sitcom wife, sitcom husband! please ignore how fucked up this relationship is if you look at it for more than two seconds Dauntless: haha armsy is JEALOUS also cannon fodder for levi Triumph: who? The BB wards in general tend to be incredibly bland, the only ones who have fanon personalities of note are Clockblocker and Vista. The former being such a huge prankster that every other line is a joke- or him complaining about how BULLSHIT Alt!Taylor's powers are. Vista is an angry kiddo who says that Shadow Stalker doesn't count as being a girl on the team The E88: no personality for any of them except that Kaiser is noble and really isn't that bad and also Purity did nothing wrong totally she's just a hot mom trying to do her best, please ignore how she exclusively targets characters of color and literally calls white criminals more civilized than miniorities- the worm fandom has something of a nazi problem i hate it here The ABB: racism and honorable samurai lung even though that has no canon basis so again, racist stereotypes The Slaughterhouse 9: This one makes me just as sad as the Lisa shit because dear god this is such a good cast of villains that fanon completely flattens to bowling pins for the Alt!Taylor of the week to mow down, why does this fandom suck so much. Anyway Jack is just the Joker, Crawler is masochistic, etc i'm moving on now The PRT/Protectorate as a whole: They are an evil paramilitary organization that pressgangs kids into signing up to become child soldiers, and somehow at the same time, they are a bunch of idiots who listen to the PR department and have stupid things like RULES that prevent capes from COMMITTING VIOLENCE. Being called "the biggest gang of all" is common and some shit like "at least the criminals are honest" is a likely statement. Cauldron: whoo boy this one really boils my blood but fanon Cauldron are just a bunch of evil idiots who can't even tie their shoelaces. basically a bunch of dudebros are upset that women run the world and that two of them essentially have "I win" powers so they have to make them lose to their SI- er, Taylor in fics so they can assuage their masculinity, which totally isn't pathetic Scion: Is at once the end all be all of worm you can't write a wormfic without scion or else it's TOTALLY MEANINGLESS because what is the point of a story if all the characters are going to DIE in a few years anyway, and at the same time is incredibly easy to defeat- this ties into how Cauldron is stupid. Scion Truthers pls shut up and go read something else okay I think that's everyone I would apologize but the only thing I'm sorry for is how messy this is

#Worm #Parahumans #Worm Fanfic #Worm Fanon #if you can't tell #I'm a little annoyed with the worm fanfic fandom #dear SI writers stop being such creeps #and nazis pls fucking leave we don't want you here go away

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dragynkeep · 3 years

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I started watching RWBY a few months ago (even though through Tumblr I basically know the whole storyline via gifsets lol) I've literally just finished Volume 3, which so far is my favorite season. There's one thing though, it's not even a RWBY thing, it's a fandom thing, maybe it's brought up in later seasons idk.

Why is fanon Yang a butch lesbian?

Like I said maybe I'm not there yet, but so far she isn't butch at all? I mean she fights using martial arts and rides a motorbike, but I wouldn't consider her at all 'butch', y'know? Also she's expressed interest in men?

Going from RWBY then into the fandom it's like two very different Yangs. It feels like when people ask who is the man and woman in a same sex relationship, and the fandom has picked Yang for the former. It's so off putting. Also why erase Yang's interest in men? It happens a lot I've noticed in fandoms, it's like only 1 character is allowed to be bi in a same sex relationship. Since the fandom can't ignore Blake's interest in men (because of Adam) they've decided to ignore Yang's instead.

I'm bi myself and the fandom's attitude towards Yang honestly makes me super uncomfortable. I'm aware of future volumes getting slated for their lack of quality in storytelling, which I'm fine with for the moment. But in the case of Yang (who is my favorite character) does she later get written as 'butch' and identify as a lesbian? Or is it just the fandom being gross? Because that's the deciding factor on whether I continue.

Biphobia and heteromorative expectations on wlw relationships. It's not just the FNDM's fault, the show itself has really gone deep into masculinising Yang for no reason, and every way of looking at it is a whole bunch of YikesTM.

She's being heavily pushed into a relationship with Blake, so one needs to be the man and the other needs to be the woman. Blake has been shoved into a more submissive role and personality to match, she can't stand up for herself anymore especially with racists, and needs Yang to come save her.

Meanwhile Yang has been shoved into the role of the man. The FNDM and the show has taken away her feminine likes and aspects of her character to focus purely on the masculine ones, especially how she's a party girl who does enjoy dressing femininely while also liking traditionally masculine things. You can't have a WLW relationship with two butch or two femme, and it very clearly shows in how the FNDM and the show treats BB.

Nora also likes masculine things while dressing femininely, but she still gets to keep her feminine aspects while in a relationship with Ren. I wonder why.

Add onto how many who have Yang as a lesbian straight up ignores her attraction to men. Prefaced with this: there is nothing wrong with headcanoning Yang as a lesbian, headcanons are meant to be fun, but people take it way to far as to say it's canon and compltely brush off the fact that Yang has canonically shown an interest in men.

It's not comphet because comphet does not exist in remnant.

Homophobia, transphobia, basically any bigotry outside of Faunus racism and kingdom xenophobia exists in Remnant. You cannot have comphet in a world where these things do not exist because you need homophobia and the assumption that the default is being straight and cis to be a thing for comphet to be a thing.

It's not there? Neither is comphet.

And again, because people cry lesbophobia when this gets pointed out, you can headcanon about comphet in remnant, you can put it in there for your writing or AUs, and even use it for certain characters like Yang, but stop saying it's canon and stop treating people like they're wrong for saying it's not.

When BB finally gets its confirmation in the way that Arkos and Renora have been allowed, Yang will either be bisexual or pansexual, or even asexual, and that will be fine. She's still wlw, but people need to realise that their headcanons on Yang are not the same as canon, and they don't need to jump headfirst into biphobia when there are already numerous lesbians in RWBY's small rep pool.

Let other people have their turn.

#rwby #rwde #yang xiao long #blake belladonna #anti bb #answered #luke.txt

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i have a question for u from one nb lesbian to another who has changed their name before. ive been really thinking about changing my name or maybe just going by a different name that happens to be a name that’s masculine. i don’t think im a trans guy so it’s not like that but i really like the name “damien” for myself. it gives me a bit of euphoria even. it’s not anywhere near my name now. idk what to do about it.

Short answer: If the name gives you euphoria, I would suggest using it! It doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing thing, either. You can ask certain people you trust to call you Damien first, to try it out and see if you like it. If you don't, you can try something else or revert back. And it's 100% okay if Damien isn't close to your given name. In my case, I just happened to like the more masculine version of mine. ☺️

Long answer (personal anecdote):

I discovered that I'm butch shortly after learning about comphet and coming out as a lesbian. (I had previously thought I was bisexual.) Over the course of maybe 6 months, I weeded out the feminine things about myself that didn't seem quite right anymore. I threw out my makeup. I chopped my hair and got an undercut. I started making money at my first job out of college and slowly replaced my wardrobe with "men's" clothes, shoes, and accessories. Until I embraced my masculinity, I had no idea how truly uncomfortable I was with femininity and with being seen as a woman.

Then, as many lesbians do, I had some confusing thoughts about gender. Ironically, some ignorant comments on my family's part (i.e., so you would be the man, no wonder you think like a man, you have a man brain, etc.) helped me realize that I am NOT a man. But it didn't feel right to correct with, "I'm a woman!" So, I realized that butch is my gender, and lesbian is my orientation. And when I learned more about the trans community, and more specifically, the nonbinary community, I figured that not being a man or woman, but a butch, was a type of nonbinary identity. So, I settled on nonbinary butch lesbian.

Immersing myself more into the trans community made me think about pronouns and names. My original name is "unisex," so even your average cishet knows men and women can both use it lol. However, the vast majority of other people I have met with my original name are women, so I thought about using the other name my parents chose for me, had I been born with a penis: Tyler.

I first changed my name on my blog and asked my college friends to try calling me Tyler. Then, I worked up the courage to ask my boss and coworkers to call me Tyler, too. Now, my original name doesn't give me dysphoria per se, (notice that I'm not calling it a deadname), but I feel euphoria with Tyler, so I'm using both for now. There may come a time when I switch fully over, but who knows?

As for pronouns, I have chosen, for now, not to use he/him with Tyler because I know random cishets would just assume I'm a man, and I am NOT a man. They/them feels alright. She/her is familiar and easy. Who knows, those might change later on, too!

At any rate, I want you to read this and think about what it makes you feel:

Thanks for the ask, Damien!

#lesbian #lesbians #lesbianism #nonbinary #enby #trans #transgender #name change #lgbt #wlw #sapphic #gay #llbtspost #llbtsanswer

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flirting-with-psychology · 3 years

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99 gay-ish asks (I’m (mostly) not gay but I wanna see what I’m like anyway)

how tall are you? 5′6″

what is your body type? A little overweight

what is your favorite part about your body? My eyes

is your current hair color your natural hair color? Yes

are you more outgoing or more shy? More shy but I wish I was more outgoing

are you more femme or butch? Femme

are you tol or smol? Average but I guess a little more tol

wine mom or vodka aunt? Vodka aunt

weird habit? Making graphs and lists

favorite meme? The guy checking out the other girl

do you sing in the shower? Yes

ever used a bow and arrow? At camp

are/were you a theatre kid? Kinda, I like theater and I took part in school musicals but I never fit in with the theater kids

have you ever seen a broadway musical? Yes

do you think musicals are cheesy? Yes and I love them

have you ever been a part of a protest or a march? No

favorite Cards Against Humanity Card? I don’t have a single favorite but I have always dreamed of making the combo: Harry Potter Erotica + An Oedipus Complex = Being a Motherfucking Sorcerer

last movie you watched? Guardians of the Galaxy

behind the camera or in front of it? Behind

favorite tv show? Friends

meaning behind your url I studied psychology and I like to flirt

reason you joined tumblr It seemed funny

who’s your closest tumblr friend? Probably @cultured-pearl

what’s something most people love that you hate? Tomato sauce

have you ever taken narcotics? Not for fun, maybe for prescription after surgery

have you had sex? Yes

have you ever gotten caught sneaking out or doing anything bad? Not really

worst/funniest lie you’ve ever told? Probably something in Among Us

describe your passion without mentioning it. They’re cute

describe your best friend. Funny and nerdy

give us one thing about you that no one knows. If no one knows it why would I tell hundreds of strangers?

how do you feel right now? Ok

what is your biggest fear? Spiders

what’s a song that always makes you happy when you hear it? In A Crowd of Thousands from Anastasia

what is the best decision you’ve made in your life so far? Probably going to college or something

have you ever tried your hardest and then been disappointed in the end? Yes

something you fantasize about. Having shapeshifting powers or winning the lottery

last time you cried and why Yesterday from stress

what was the last thing that made you laugh? Probably a meme

do you really, truly miss someone right now? I miss a lot of people

who do you feel most comfortable talking to about anything? My parents or my boyfriend

the last time you felt broken? Yesterday

are you starting to realize anything? Nothing good

are you more dominant or more submissive? I guess dominant once I’m comfortable

i’ll only date you if _____. (fill in the blank) I think you’re cute and funny

do you prefer to date people the same age as you, younger, or older? My age plus or minus a few years

describe the person you’re in love with/have a crush on in great detail. Tall, light skin, brown hair, freckles, hazel eyes

do you have any kinks? Not really

first thing you notice in a person? Their face

how can someone win your heart? Idk

been rejected by a crush? A lot

have you ever had feelings for someone who didn’t have them back? A lot

would you have sex with the last person you text messaged? No they are my parents

is trust a big issue for you? Not especially

did you hang out with the person you like recently? Yes I am with him now

is confidence cute? yes

what would you say if the person you love/like kissed another girl/boy? I’d be pissed and insecure

would you be able to date someone who doesn’t make you laugh? No

does the person you have feelings for right now know you do? Yes

ever embarrass yourself in front of a crush? Yes

do you want to get married Eventually

worst thing you’ve ever done? Jumped onto a kid’s arm on the playgound when he was below me on the jungle gym

three things that turn you on. Confidence, good hair, good face

who do you hate? Mitch McConnell

favorite term of endearment? Idk, it’s cutest when it’s specific to the person

who was your celebrity/fictional gay awakening? Hayden Panettiere was probably my first celebrity girl crush

intimidating girls or kind girls? Kind

what do you look for in a possible partner? Sense of humor

do you tend to like more masculine, feminine, or androgynous girls? Feminine

are you good at flirting? No

who was the first person you came out to? I haven’t had to come out

do you have any friends who are wlw? Yes

is your crush wlw? No

last person to make you reconsider your sexuality? A girl on my Birthright Israel trip

write a short love poem to your crush/self? Nah

do you fall in love easily? Idk

is there something that happened in your past that you hate talking about? Not really

are you good at hiding your feelings? Not even a little bit

are you a forgiving person? Yeah

what is your “type?” Personality: class clown, confident, witty, sciencey. Looks: Light skin, dark hair, blue eyes

fall asleep in her arms or rub her back until she falls asleep in yours? Fall asleep in his arms

tall girls or short girls? Tall

hugs or kisses? Hugs

twirl her around or get twirled? Get twirled

tummy kisses or thigh kisses? Thigh I guess, not a huge fan of either

hairline kisses or neck kisses? Neck

play with her hair or stroke her tummy? Hair

making out or soft kisses? Depends on the mood

hugs around the neck or hugs around the waist? Both

how confident are you in your sexuality? Mostly

when you like someone do you blush or get butterflies in your stomach? Oh yes

have you ever liked a friend as more than a friend? did you tell them? Yes but not a close friend, most of the time I realize I like people before they get too close. And yes I have told some

how old were you when you realized you were into girls? I liked my first girl in 2nd grade but I still am like 98% straight

most embarrassing thing you’ve done in front of a cute girl? Idk, probably was just awkward

do you have a favorite lesbian ship? is it canon? I liked the Nerdy Twin and Audrey from Rules of Engagement, and it was canon. A lot of people don’t like Audrey though for some reason

what is the most aggravating thing someone has said to you about your sexuality? Nothing really

when was the last time a girl made your heart flutter? The israel trip

what is love to you? Idk

ask me anything.

#survey

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can u explain how butches and femmes are counterparts and not opposites? or how femmes arent like lipstick lesbians? im not trying to be argumentative im just a very confused gay girl who Wants to Understand

First of all, sorry for taking like 50 years to answer your ask! I hope you still see the answer, though femmes and butches come from the same piece of history, where they were two sides of the same coin, a sort of “ying and yang”, if you’ll forgive the cliché. it’s more of an attraction to something that’s different but also the same in some ways, someone who might balance you out in a way in their differences but still gets where you’re coming from. it’s not uncommon for femmes to have previously thought they were butches because they felt a connection to the butch/femme history and dynamic but also felt alienated from womanhood due to their lesbianism. plus, two things being seen as opposites kinda often implies that there’s something in between those things, which isn’t the case here. butch/femme isn’t a “lesbian gender binary”, and the whole “futch scale” thing isn’t how it works, it was sort of a joke that got out of hand and led to many people misunderstanding identities that are important to many people. a stone butch isn’t just a super masculine and tough butch. “soft butch” meaning “butch who isn’t super muscular and who is sensitive” ignores that those things don’t make any butch less butch in the first place.femme is just an older identity and it just kinda goes hand-in-hand with butch because they have shared origins, and originally, in the past, the typical dynamic was a butch and a femme being together or seeking each other. it’s about complementing each other by having differences that work with each other, rather than differences that clash, and by having similarities that bring deeper understanding. of course stuff has changed, butches can date other butches ofc (there’s not really a different term for “gnc lesbian who exclusively or mostly seeks other gnc women”, and butchness, while it is a specific identity and a sort of “role”, is very associated with a specific kind of appearance. plus, many butches hear some dumbass shit about butchness even among wlw, so some of us might seek other butches so we finally feel understood. or just because they find other butches hot, which, in my opinion, is very understandable lol).also, a femme doesn’t necessarily have to always be super typically feminine, there’s an association with an older type of identity or role, so many femmes these days might incorporate a few things that could be considered gender nonconforming, like not shaving, not wearing makeup, having super short hair or buying some clothing articles from the men’s section (usually not all at once i guess? idk, i’m just giving a few examples). some might not use “she/her” and might not really see themselves as part of womanhood.or they might be very traditionally feminine, as many are.of course there are lesbians who might do any of those things but aren’t femmes, but that’d be because they just aren’t drawn to the identity, don’t long for a certain type of dynamic in their life, don’t feel connected to that part of history. most lesbians just aren’t butches or femmes. it’s not a bad thing, or a deep thing, most lesbians just aren’t! it’s a subculture, and that’s for a reason.but basically, butches and femmes just have more in common than we have differences. they’re complementary identities.originally, in specific contexts where those terms came up, butches and femmes were just seen as the possible different “types” of lesbians who seeked each other for relationships, sex, companionship, understanding, etc. it was originally a thing that came from lesbian bars, frequented by working-class women. so many butches and femmes worked in the same types of places (factories, often), so they still lived in the same type of context (though many femmes were sex workers, and that’s also an important thing to know, i don’t wanna seem like i’m ignoring it, but i’m not going deep into it bc in that case what they shared was still that they were also working class). of course many butches and femmes now aren’t working class, but those are the origins of those identities, and we should never forget who came before us.of course there are lots of differences between how lesbian working class bars were a few decades ago and how butch/femme is as a subculture now. the current subculture largely relies on writings from people who were always butches and always femmes back in the day, rather than those who sort of had to make themselves fit into one of those things because that was the expectation in those bars but otherwise didn’t feel connected to a certain identity or role outside of the specific context of the bars and relationships. so the modern butch/femme thing is, first of all, a subculture, because we don’t want people who don’t really connect to being a butch or a femme to feel like they have to fit in there, because if you don’t then you just don’t and there’s obviously nothing wrong with that, that’s why it’s a subculture, most lesbians just aren’t part of it, the same way most people aren’t parts of other subcultures. and since it’s so very based on the historic records left by people who were always butches and always femmes, regardless of where they were, who they were with, etc, it’s also about a constant identity now, rather than being someone who calls themselves a butch in a context where it’s about women seeking women but otherwise doesn’t really feel a connection to the identity in my experience, many femmes get annoyed at women who say they’re femme4femme bc they say that that’s why the term “lipstick lesbian” exists in the first place, as most women who call themselves “femme4femme” usually just mean “feminine woman seeking feminine woman”, using “femme” to just mean “feminine”. so that’s why there’s often an annoyance there.i’m not saying that a femme has to /exclusively/ be into gnc women to be a femme. just that being a femme and being a feminine lesbian don’t mean the same thing, and generally, femmes in the current butch/femme subculture often have at least a preference for butches, due to a desire for a specific kind of dynamic in relationships and anything surrounding that. there’s just a specific kind of historical connection and a sort of role connected to butchness and femmeness. it’s a subculture that’s more than just about what you look like and what the people you’re into look like. “butch” gets tied to a certain kind of appearance a lot more than femme does, as it’s a kind of appearance that stands out on its own, without the person saying anything about their identity, so many femmes rely on that connection to a specific part of history and certain desires and dynamics and roles a lot when it comes to their identity as femmes.lipstick lesbian is a term that sometimes just refers to very feminine lesbians, but very often specifically to feminine lesbians who exclusively or at least mostly seek other feminine lesbians. and to my knowledge there’s not any kind of deeper connection to any older identity or culture there, it’s like “masc4masc” or something like that, it’s just a description of your personal kind of aesthetic and the kind of aesthetic you find desirable (i’m not trying to imply there’s anything wrong with that, of course! just that it’s not the same as being a femme, but of course two things not being the same doesn’t automatically mean one is better than the other, which is something i want to make clear throughout this whole huge answer to your ask).idk, i’m no expert or anything, and i’m also just not great at explaining things, i tend to ramble a bit and i sometimes express myself in a way that was clear enough for other people, and sometimes i end up talking a lot. also, there just isn’t much butch/femme history where i’m from, at least not any /recorded/ history, there aren’t always words that describe the exact same things (of course there are people like me and people who are like many femmes, though, we’ve always existed, but there’s not really much of a butch/femme type of community thing because our history and words are different, and there’s generally fairly little LGBT or specifically wlw or lesbian history recorded), so this is about what i know of butch/femme culture in the US and online (since the latter relies on the former).there are a lot of people out there who talk abt butch/femme a lot, people who have read and watched and experienced more stuff connected to that, so you could ask people like that if you need more information (you can ask me, of course, i’m just saying they’ll know more), esp when it comes to femmes, since i don’t have their specific perspective on differences between femmes vs feminine lesbians who aren’t femmes, or on the femme4femme thing, which means i’m only talking based on my understanding of what they say, rather than from personal experience as a femme, just because i’m not one. (part of the reason why it took me a while was bc i asked some people i know, one butch and one femme, both have more knowledge about this stuff than me, esp the latter, to see if there were any inaccuracies they could see or something i didnt express well)

#Anonymous #anon #ask #asks #answered

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abbeyfangirl · 4 years

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dragon age: all characters (companions)

I’ve been in this fandom for a hot minute now and I want to update my opinions on characters :)

Origins

Alistair: super sweet dude who literally is not the stereotypicalchantryguyfightme. He’s a great example of healthy masculinity and I totally wish he was bi because I have an entire essay on that— also: he’s a poc! His mum was brown. In game he’s got dark features. if you really want a blond/blue-eyes/white guy, make your warden that. or accept that brown people can be noble and moral. or just draw cailan, idk. just because BioWare whitewashes doesn’t mean you should.

Leliana: someone hug my singing girlfriend before I crush her under with my own hugs. Also: nugs. Yes! Shoes. Yes! She likes how I style my hair? YES!! I honestly think she’s super duper and it pisses me off whenever someone’s like: yeah she enjoys killing people and the Game. ok. and michel de chevin willingly participated in genocidal marches through the alienage he grew up in with his elvhen mum.

Morrigan: dirty swamp witch that i stan and also have a v big crush on. tiddies. Have a son with a GW so we can raise him with our tiddies out in the forest. she’s also white-passing, as her father was chasind and all people we’ve seen that are chasind are black. therefore, she is biracial. therefore, poc can be goths and don’t shy away from giving morrigan a darker skintone. if the devs had of been thinking, she’d have a darker skintone.

Zevran: Actually is the best romance, I think. Loves consent, therefore I will stan him so hard my skull cracks a little. Also: he is a very brown boy and if he’s white in da4 I’m seriously going to throw all canon out the fucking window. genuinely a good person who needs to be told so.

Wynne: grandma who only likes my friends who go to church. but also super sweet and I’d rest my head on her bosom (in a platonic way omg ZEVRAN)

Sten: angry quiet boi. the bestest boi. I totally would give him a kitten for a gift and bake him cookies. Thicc softie. I think if I had DA:O and i knew how to use mods i would mod the fuck outta him. sorry.

Sha(y)le: who’s gender? idk her. See also: fuck birds and authority. pound ur ass into the ground you feathery meatbag little shits. fuck songbirds.

Dog: such a good boi. thicc. thinks Alistair is a whiny fuck and is Morrigan’s only friend. love him. he’s the cutest companion. bet.

Ohgren: honestly forgot about him bcc he’s such a shitbag. also: he could’ve been a really cool addiction recovery type but NOPE. probably would have a trump shirt in a modern au and would catcall wlw and hit mlm. no thanks.

Awakening

Anders: he acts like rlly straight but he’s so gay I can smell it. also he’s rlly cute and fun and I love him so much.

Justice: MAYBE i’M selF CONSCious OF THE twitchING. is the friend that genuinely doesn’t get dick jokes but is ur 110% ride or die.

Nathaniel Howe: honestly is sort of a white knight/neck beard a little, but it’s kind of charming with his whole velanna m’lady?? grump boi. annoying soul patch that I’d mod out SO FAST—

Sigrun: would have ROMANCED the FUCK out of her. why she even entertains the idea of fucking with ohgren makes me realize most of the writers are dumbfucks.png. peppy little emo. 12/10 would die if she kissed my cheek teasingly.

Ohgren: why. why. why. I’d have brought Shayle over. Maybe Zev? Definitely Dog.

Velanna: she was written to be an annoying feminist and you can tell but I deadass am a kindred spirit with her bcc I too am deadpan annoyed with Thedas’ general population too. love her. Would’ve loved to romance her. She’d totally be one of those who’d get all tsundere and be like “n-no i hate you” *kisses the fuckin soul out of you then blushes so hard she’s now a tomato*

Dragon Age II

Anders: fuck the cops. i don’t care. fuck the cops. (vine reference). also: do i hate him for blowing up the chantry that would eventually annul a huge collection of his people? no. read dalishious’s meta on Anders. v intriguing. didn’t they retcon the fuck out of the reported deaths too? like there was like eight Templars and Elthinia in there. Templars killed more “abominations” in a day than Anders in the game canon—

Aveline: initially thought she was fine and then realized she’s shit to my lil brother and I will fucking clap her ginger ass. See also: whorephobia isn’t a joke so fuck off with treating Isabela badly, you tit.

Bethany: sunshine. Literal sunshine. I feel my freckles grow in her presence and i love it. she’s my little baby sister and I’d slam that ogre so fuckin hard before it touched either twin.

Carver: there has to be a mod where both twins survive. I love them both to bits. My babies. carver is my bitter, angry little brother and I can relate because I too am very angry and would totally clap my own ass. hes so genuine and I don’t get the competition between Beth and Carver. Like, both are fuckin stellar in different ways. In this essay I will—

Fenris: honestly, I don’t get the general hate between him and Anders. Fenris’ main arc should’ve been a recovery arc, not drunken moping and revenge. he deserves better. give him a soft sweater instead of his spikes and let him love himself as much as I love him for MAKERS SAKE. like when you really think about their relationship, it could’ve been an eye-opener for fenris and finally some legit sympathy for anders. but we all know that if they had of teamed up that Meredith would’ve been dead before the end of Act 1 so.

Isabela: whorephobia is not a joke. oversexualizing your only appearing brown woman is so poorly written. how about we appreciate her and her lovely bosoms but also let people tease her about her heart of gold? her innate understanding of freedom? instead of just a wave of dick? please?? can we give her some pants for when she fights? can we accept that i fall for rogues who hate themselves?? fuck. also whomever draws her x femHawke x Merrill literally is after my own heart.

Merrill: my fucking babygirl MARRY ME. Fenris could’ve been her older brother type, but NO. she and Isabela should’ve been canonical gfs instead of Isabela/Fenris (no shaming the pairing tho!!). I love how she’s written as neurodivergent. V nice. Sometimes I just look her up and cry because she’s fucking everything. Also: she’s in the Dalish origin and she’s far from being white. Why did they make the most innocent/naïve character really white? hmmmm.

Sebastian: whew that boy. Would totally be that annoying Mormon at your door but you still let him in bcc he’s super sweet. Also: huge ass bible thumper and should get his head slap because you said the maker loved all his children why do you defend a complicit old hag you annoying attractive fuck—

Varric: totally is a bard and the devs couldn’t handle the idea of him being one bcc it might make him look less straight. is the only grey morality person I don’t want to fucking bash in with a fry pan. he sees people and I like that, but you totally know he’s siding with mages every time bcc him and Anders are like besties. I’m sorry. I don’t make the rules. “Professional Younger Brother”.

Tallis: I know nothing about her but she seems okay. I think she was an escaped slave and honestly? Fucking props. Spy on a shitting organization, idk what you’re doing, but your VA was that cool lesbian from SPN so I think ur okay?

Inquisition

Blackwall: Redemption Arc 101. Love him to bits. Sad dad bunwall. good man. actually atoned for his sins by actively becoming a good person. his initial design is 80% hotter im so sorry but so not.

Cassandra: was way browner in the last game. would romance the fuck outta her. I love me a butch lady who melts at my dorky recitation of poetry. BioWare is a coward. also is the worst choice for divine. but not a bad person. could use some more guidance or get her ass whipped by a dalish elf about religion or a circle mage kid whos like “yeah bud i didn’t ask for the templars to whip my ass everyday for existing.”

The Iron Bull: I think the Qunari/Vashoth were a little based off black people (the whole anti blackness thing where ppl are scared of them bcc of whatever reason) and it pisses me off that he had a weird ass dubcon thing with Dorian in banter. It doesn’t make sense— he’s an A+++ dom and would not jump straight in role play without at least checking in at first like wtf BioWare.

Cole: his mother was chasind so he’s like not supposed to be that white? or like biracial? albino? idk. love him to bits tho. He’s neurodivergent and I deadass love him. romancing him? idk. I see why ppl think it’s fuckin nasty but also like as a writer I’d age him the fuck up so fast before my inquisitor even THOUGHT about that. like idk. I’m down with him being a sweet little bro character tho. he’s a babe. love him.

Sera: had the worst fucking writer I’ve ever seen and I willingly read the twilight saga twice by a shit ass racist white lady who okay’d pedophilia. like. Fuck you Kristjanson suck your own dick you fuck. had the worst options in regards to speak to her. has a thicc case of internalized racism that literally most of the fandom just loves to use against her. my lesbian neurodivergent queen. Would write a thousand fix it fics for her. Love her to bits. im gay.

Varric: I haven’t played DA2 so i don’t get why everyone wants to romance him but like. a dwarf romance? yes please. Idk he reminds me of my uncle so I only see him as fun uncle material. Deadass should adopt Cole and Merrill and co parent with Blackwall for Sera. dads? fuck yeah. love me some wholesome, present fathers.

Dorian: is a gay stereotype that I love/hate so much. and he’s also just as bad about being a creep bcc he sexualizes qunari men (in banter). I attribute that to shit writing tho. I want to protect him from all the “omg gay best friend!” people. he’d clearly be that tired gay that wouldn’t give a diddly damn about ur het romance. wanna talk about politics? he’s ur guy/gay.

Solas: “me, an intellectual:”. I don’t hate him, but I’m not about him. He comes off as mysterious and suave (which he totally is) but I deadass would not save him from himself because he’s a racist, exclusionist eggshell. idk. not my cup of tea, but I can totally see the appeal. And he’s interesting, I’ll totally say that. “I think the Dalish are garbage but they made you” is not a compliment. it’s so offensive. and such bait for “quirky girls” which I’m no fan of. Would be Achilles and let Patroclus (Lavellan in his case) die before he realized how his pride is literally a waste of time. If he gets a redemption arc I hope Lavellan gets to slap him before getting him to teach all about ancient Arlathan and show that the Evanuris weren’t all total dicknozzles. (Aka I really have a hard time believing that they’d be slavery cult things. especially since they’ve compared elves to indigenous ppl, Jews and the Romani.)

Vivienne: it’s so racist that they’d make a black woman be pro-slavery. That’s such internalized racism. She could’ve been the cool ass “educate yourself first before you speak, fool” ice lady, but NO. the devs could’ve kept the “Templars are a tool that I proudly can mandate” and the “circles are very good education” and we. Could. Have. Romanced. Her. Like. Fuck. Sake. I just wanna give her a hug and say “love yourself omg!!” and not even in a romantic way. Also: she and morrigan should not have been so antagonistic towards each other. I’d expect them to have great respect for each other, as they both moved up in the world through hardwork and very little help. They could learn different magic from each other too and still maintain that rival respect “oh you” mood. Sidenote: probably the cooler option for Divine. if her approval is high enough she’ll love and be loyal to you forever and i can’t see her agenda being bad. she improves the circles exponentially and tells all the antis to suck her pretty painted toes.

Josephine: an actual disney princess. romanced her my first playthrough. I love her so much. she just makes me so happy. And she’s like: “Integrity, Loyalty, peace. That is what it means to be a GREY WARDEN good fucking person.” she’s the person who would let you hold her hand if you got anxious and she’d be that person who shouldered the whole group project with finesse and poise and would probably lie for everyone as to not be mean. i love josie. her and leliana’s relationship is so cute, too. whether it’s romantic or not: women supporting women.

Leliana: if you leave her hardened you must hate her. why. she becomes so against herself. i like how shes feminine and lighthearted because that’s so powerful-- to remain hopeful when the world is hopeless. (its hard to know when to soften her/harden her so i get it but. google it. she deserves to be happy and sweet again.)

Cullen: uwu war criminal with shit ass “redemption arc” that was actually a half-assed (at BEST) recovery arc. Recovery isn’t linear, it isn’t pretty, and even the broken need to be told they are wrong in order to heal right. Like I’m offended by that bullshit. I’ve had to do some mental health recovery in the past and unlearning lots of toxic ideologies— which I’m still unlearning— and it bothers me that he gets an easy pass because he’s hot. It’s one thing if you like Cullen, it’s another thing if you hold him accountable.

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WOAH BRO

4. Past labels you've used? For a while I wondered if I was aro-spec but I'm fairly certain I don't think I am now. I've tried to put a label on my gender MANY times, with the label I've tried the most being demigender. (and cis. LMAO) But none of the labels I've tried have stuck, except for the general all-encompassing nonbinary

11. Do you like your flags? Fuck yeah all my flags fucking rule. Nonbinary flag? Fucking awesome. Ace flag? Stunning. Lesbian flag(s)? well some look better than others but you have a wide range of choices and a lot of them look damn good!!

12. Favorite flag(s) visually? I actually legitimately really do love my own flags... but other than that, I think the aromantic flag looks metal as fuck, and there are a lot of lesser-known lesbian flags that are just gorgeous

13. Favorite colors? I love pink! And grey/silver/black. and certain blues :3

22. Favorite LGBT+ celebrity and historical figure? I don't.... know that many.... actually wait I thought of one Wendy Carlos. If u dont know her look her up she's so cool

24. Favorite LGBT+ canon character? Fuck it's so hard to choose... I really love Lup! and I also really love Yuu from Bloom into You because she's ME (please watch Bloom into You)

25. Favorite LGBT+ canon fictional couple? hmmm also very hard to think of good ones rn... spinnerella and netossa are pretty cute :3 and carey and killian!! they're prob not my favorites but they're all i can think of right now

26. Some characters you headcanon as LGBT+? Hanazawa Teruki is nonbinary and ace! Catra is nonbinary! Bow is trans and pan and ace! idk there are a lot of others that i can just make up right now! everyone from Revue Starlight is lesbian!! Hinata Shouyou is trans! if literally any character has ever said anything similar to 'i dont really care about love' they're arospec!!! somebody stop me

27. Some LGBT+ pairings you ship? MaHiKaren, Scorfuma, KilluGon, TeruMob, Saimota, a BUNCH of haikyuu ships, aaaa idk a lot

30. A trope you dislike about your identity? I really hate how everyone views 'lesbian' as a really sexual word, and how people think lesbians are like fuckin sex machines built to pleasure straight men through porn or something. Like, lesbians should be allowed to be sexual without being inherently sexualized, you feel me? and also not all lesbians are sexually active.

32. Something you wish ppl understood about your identity? I HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE WHAT MY GENDER IS..... but i do know I'm not agender and im not masculinely or femininely aligned. Like, my gender exists, it's just not anywhere remotely near the binary or the linear spectrum in between the binary. If you think of the gender spectrum as a color wheel, my gender would be a dark green! i guess? that means nothing

36. Do you align with any gay subcategories (ex butch/femme)? Nope not at all!! The fact that I don't kind of makes me feel left out of the lesbian community at times though... I spent so long trying to figure out which box I fit into when I realized trying to make myself one or the other made me feel the same way as when I tried to fit myself into a binary gender. The labels just aren't for me! I guess I am a 'futch' then lol

38. Do you own pride merch? Yes!! I have some pride hats that a friend knitted for me, and a crocheted bat with ace-colored wings that I got at an expo. I also wear a rainbow colored bracelet and I used to have a black ace ring (but it broke months ago. i need a new one). I also have lesbian and ace flags that I got for my dorm room, but my gf is currently holding on to them because I was too scared to bring them home!

#thank youuuuuuuuuuuuuuu #<33333333 #lesbophobia

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