menalez

[menalez]

finland (her country) is around 96% white & european btw. so idk how she will argue this is about race too

REDBERRYTERF DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE VIKINGS DID??

#overall the populations she has spoken so badly are 3.4% of the country

[menalez]

oh i'm sorry, that sucks you haven't had luck with the number. i've had good experience with them the two times i called them for therapy appointments, but i've heard before from other people that it also didn't work for them. i seems there's some federal states where it works well and some where it's a bit of a mess. it's broken ass system. hope they can find you one the next time you call

it’s nothing for u to apologise for! germany has a lot of shitty broken systems and it’s frustrating 😭 but yeah it does seem to depend highly on the city/state. i’ll try again soon and hopefully i’ll have better luck then. most annoying part was that when i said ive been taking my meds for over a decade & suddenly going off them will have serious consequences on me they were like “we can’t do anything there. maybe try again next week?” 🙃 which is typical in this country, so i had to get my meds from elsewhere. hopefully i’ll have better luck soon 🙏🏾 but thank u sm for the info anyways, i appreciate it regardless

[menalez]

#cougar town

[menalez]

yeah anon i guess ur not gonna acknowledge u made several pointed accusations at me here n will continue on with this parasocial relationship u have w me so im just gonna block ur other anon lol. i’m happy to tell ppl as transparently as necessary about my life but i’m not interested in ppl trying to make it seem like i’m “cosplaying as poor” or like my parents having to put me in an inpatient hospital after a suicide attempt when i was a teenager & then being in debt for years as a result is a privilege. luv & light etc ☺️

you have no right to throw shade at redberryterf for having the money to travel when you yourself have cosplayed as poor for several years when in fact you lived in the states, the uk, and now germany and get to study in these countries as well. your parents likely paid for your studies as well and paid your mental health care. so shut up about wealth privilege

wait u think studying in a public university in germany makes me rich?? hahahaahahah 😭😭😭

#i do have class privilege compared to poor ppl & ppl from poorer nations tho #but i’m not gonna agree when some of u pretend me studying in germany where the fees are extremely cheap is a privilege #or when u pretend like i pretended to be of a diff background than what i actually am #and again my only point there is she has indicated she is basically one of the most privileged demographics worldwide so ofc #she is blind to her privilege & thus sees nothing wrong with punching down at minorities #feel free to argue that about me if i start making classist arguments ig but yall only bring up me having class privilege to dismiss #when ive struggled so.

[menalez]

i've not been following you long so i don't know your whole backstory and how long you've been in germany so maybe you're aware of all this already anyway, but do you know 116117? it's this non-emergency medical information number you're supposed to call for example if you get sick on the weekend, but they also have an appointment service where they connect you with psychiatrist or psychotherapists for appointments. it's much easier to get one that way then by calling them yourself

yep ive called them & even had a referral number from my hausarzt and they said theres no availability & to call another time 🙃🙃🙃 i’ll try again sometime but it has been hard to do a lot of things bc my uni schedule has been extremely hectic since i have uni from 8 am to 8 pm somedays and 10 am to 8 pm on other days..

thank u tho! i actually only learned about that like, 2 months ago. but also i didnt qualify for mental healthcare (visa meant i had to have a private insurance rather than public) until starting uni

[menalez]

yeah that totally makes sense, that’s more what I was getting at that the net result is less overt misogyny since it’s not as acceptable. I think I’m a little confused on what you mean by society vs culture? also hope you are well and thanks for calling out the racists, I’m sorry you’re dealing with gross rude people ://

when i differentiate society & culture, im arguing that typically differences in levels of misogyny are not due to cultural differences but rather societal development in recent history. for example, christian cultures (such as western europe’s) also allowed marital rape, made exceptions for rapists who marry their victims (& this is still allowed in some parts of the west), allow child marriages (& in many places that is still allowed), did not allow women to have any autonomy ie no bank accounts no ability to join the workforce no ability to get into higher education etc. these are just a few examples off the top of my head. but for this reason, i reject the argument that western cultures are simply less misogynistic whereas eastern cultures are simply more misogynistic.

instead, i believe that western societies were under significantly better conditions which then allowed them to push for more social progress whereas many eastern cultures were being colonised, enslaved, exploited, relentlessly bombed, etc and some are still facing such a reality today. as a result, while western europeans & (US) americans & canadians & australians (& insert other colonial populations here) were able to socially progress due to being in ideal economic conditions & due to them not being actively exploited & destabilised by foreign nations, other parts of the world have been stuck in poverty and/or perpetual wars and/or under extreme dictatorships which have been empowered by the west. i reject the idea that i come from a “more misogynistic culture” & i reject the idea that westerners come from “less misogynistic cultures”, bc i dont think the actual difference in social progress is because of one culture being simply more misogynistic than another. as an example, you can look at many of the most extreme examples of misogyny such as what u can find in iran & afghanistan, then look at how they were living in the 50s or 60s. did their culture magically change since then? no, but the conditions of their nations changed and that was in part influenced by western interference which then empowered extremely misogynistic islamist parties which then resulted in them going backwards socially rather than progressing forwards.

thats what i mean: social progress being further in the west isn’t a reflection of western cultures being less misogynistic, it’s a reflection of their populations being in better conditions than other parts of the world.

[menalez]

I would say your anon is probably redberryterf herself, but then I remember there are so many racists like old-school-butch in the radfem community and think never mind it's impossible to know

honestly i dont think old-school-butch (as genocidal as she is) would send ppl anon hate, idk who these anons are but i tend to assume theyre shit-stirrers, lifeless, cowardly, etc

[menalez]

Bro why did everyone just randomly klan the fuck out?

seeing some of them arguing genuinely that radfems can be right-wing.. i think the answer is yet again: gender critical women think hating trans ppl means being radfems

#anonymous

[menalez]

Thank you so much for calling out racists in feminist spaces I appreciate you so much

❤️🥺 thank u, i appreciate that appreciation

[menalez]

#honestly i’d be good with 1000 😭 i dont need much!! #it’d be nice to be able to afford things like eating out more often

[menalez]

why is everyone so obsessed with picking you apart??? I've never seen any of the other blogs I follow get so many asks saying they're lying about things. do people not have anything better to do with their lives???

people have ridiculous conspiracy theories about my life where they pretend i must be lying about random aspects of my life bc they intentionally choose to fixate on certain things ive said while ignoring other things ive also said. idk why besides the fact that ppl on here already think it’s super impossible to be anything other than american, canadian, or european + poc + gay.

#they think bc white ppl lie about those things all the time it must mean i’m lying about xyz #even when i’m actively saying the opposite of what they think i’m lying about?? like ‘ur pretending to be poor!!!’ but never were they able #to point to a single instance where i claimed to be poor. while in an abusive relationship i did have several instances #where i was struggling to afford food or meds. overall i got like .. £70? and i #paid it back either thru drawings i made or by sendung money back when i had money #and some ppl are super obsessed w that bc how DARE i need help & receive help from my mutuals on 3 occasions 5 years ago?! #anyways… idk i’m like pretty transparent so maybe it made them have a parasocial relationship w me or sth

[menalez]

unless you're actually in poverty, your "struggle" is not our struggle

i never said i was in poverty and i dont care if u want to exclude me from whatever struggle ur referring to? 😐

#me: i’m middle class. u: UR NOT POOR!!!!

[menalez]

also btw i’m middle class from a rich country. 🙏🏾 ive repeatedly stated that i have this privilege but having that background doesn’t mean it’s impossible for me to ever financially struggle, especially when my ex gf was literally stealing from me when i asked ppl to financially help me (& offered various services in exchange…& paid most other ppl who helped back…)

also UK has public healthcare so no one paid for me to get mental healthcare there. haven’t gotten mental healthcare in germany, bc of insurance problems & being unable to afford paying for private sector therapy. feel free to argue it’s a privilege that my parents had to pay for me to be hospitalised after i attempted suicide as a teenager tho? and then had to pay that off for years afterwards? weird argument but if that’s the hill u wanna die on then w/e.

you have no right to throw shade at redberryterf for having the money to travel when you yourself have cosplayed as poor for several years when in fact you lived in the states, the uk, and now germany and get to study in these countries as well. your parents likely paid for your studies as well and paid your mental health care. so shut up about wealth privilege

wait u think studying in a public university in germany makes me rich?? hahahaahahah 😭😭😭

#also call me crazy but being a rich OSA white woman from a rich 1st world country vs being a middle class lesbian of colour from a rich 3rd #world country .. hmm idk i’d say pointing out that the woman being racist is from one of the most privileged demographics possible makes #a lot of sense esp since the point is her stances come from a place of privilege. but maybe that’s just me.

[menalez]

she probably saw brown men and the word “refugees” and then assumed this’ll definitely help support her point about white supremacy

anyways a bunch of racists came out of the woodworks so.

this is part 1, part 2 will be in the reblogs

#long post

[menalez]

you have no right to throw shade at redberryterf for having the money to travel when you yourself have cosplayed as poor for several years when in fact you lived in the states, the uk, and now germany and get to study in these countries as well. your parents likely paid for your studies as well and paid your mental health care. so shut up about wealth privilege

wait u think studying in a public university in germany makes me rich?? hahahaahahah 😭😭😭

#i went to public school in the US & we lived with my american aunt #i didnt have money when in an abusive relationship in the UK bc my ex was actively stealing from me #i also never pretended to be poor 💀 but ftr i have not ever had the money to travel to 34 different countries #anyways i love that having the money to travel for leisure is being compared to .. getting an education? #at a public uni? where my overall education will cost me less than 1k? #anonymous

[menalez]

I don't think men who consume porn should be allowed on juries (for trials on sex crimes). If a woman who has been raped is "too biased" for cases involving sexual assault, then a man who gains sexual pleasure from violent, degrading, humiliating, misogynistic content that's been PROVEN to reduce empathy in men towards women who've been raped (and women in general) and leads them to believe victim blaming myths about women and sexual violence (ex. being hurt turns women on, women unconsciously want to be raped and put themselves in situations where they're likely to be hurt, rape is not that traumatizing and easy to get over, etc.) are also too biased.

#no this is so true actually & an excellent point #but people aren’t even ready to accept that enthusiastic consent is the only real consent so idk if we are there as a species

[menalez]

Reblog or your clitoris will shrivel and fall off in three days.

#honestly i think avg misogynist (secular). simply based off my father #but knowing i believed in a lot of TRA nonsense until i was like 20 & only startes questioning it #when i was 19 bc of how homophobic TRAs were… idk i could also have been terminally online in the TRA sense? #but i still think i wouldve been avg misogynist not especially bad #i doubt id be The One Good One bc neither one of my parents are particularly feminist #and even my feminist grandma isn’t that feminist. she might’ve been hardcore for her times nur #but* nowadays? idk. still more feminist than many women of this generation but still nothing radical enough to ensure i’d be anything better #than the avg male. esp considering her sons have all been semi-misogynistic too