#fuck demonization

[alostlittleriverlotus]

not in a good mood cause my friend's boyfriend is dealing with his abusive mom. And after a recent issue they had of her verbally abusing him, he found out about narcissistic abuse and ow. Ow. Thing is, he's autistic/adhd and has BPD and DID. I just. I fucking hate how easy it is. He repeated that "autistic and adhd people attract narcissists."

NO!!!!! Luckily he's very open minded and chill and is trying to understand when my friend tells him. But still. The fact that someone with equally demonized disorders and BPD which can be very commonly comorbid with NPD and then demonizes narcissists cause of how widely available that information is hurts. Just...no. Just no.

That is how easily accessible the information on "narcissists" is. He learned about it that easily when that ableism stems from the same place as the rest of hatred of mental health. There are people that believe you can't be in a relationship with someone with ADHD without it being emotionally abusive. People think meltdowns from autistic people are intentional emotional abuse. There are people that still believe that stuff.

It is so important for the rest of the mentally ill to not fall into this hole of demonizing narcissists. That ableism stems from the same place that ableism against autistic people and depression and anxiety and all stem from.

Narcissism doesn't make someone more likely to abuse. They do not have unique patterns of abuse. It is just abuse. It is emotional abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse. Just because someone that may have NPD is abusive does not make it narcissistic abuse. And also: if your abuser, especially if you are genetically related to them, has NPD then that raises the chance YOU would have NPD. It doesn't guarantee it, but personality disorders are a mix of trauma and genetics.

Anyone with any disorder can be abusive. People without disorders can be abusive. The majority of abusive people most likely don't have a personality disorder. It's the same as assuming that "all serial killers are schizophrenic" which is something my brother said to me recently. It's the same as believing all criminals are "psychopaths" when that just isn't true.

Anyone with or without disorder or neurodivergency has the ability to abuse and hurt others. A lot of the time, abusers may be just neurotypical. Narcissists aren't more likely to abuse than anyone else. Their disorder does not make them abusive. Any disorder can affect their treatment of someone.

I have dealt with many people who used their depression as a way to abuse me. It does not make it depression or depressive abuse. The disorder is irrelevant, the abuse is not.

If you lump in narcissists with abusers, you are lumping in other people that have been abused and traumatized with their abusers. I have been compared to a rapist, to a child sex offender, to a serial killer for being a narcissist. I have seen people saying to kill every narcissist since it would be better for people. I have been told I am lying about my abuse and actually my abusive ex boyfriend didn't abuse me, *I* abused *HIM.*

Narcissistic abuse does not exist. It is not a different or unique pattern. It is not "different than NPD cause the word narcissist existed before NPD" (when it is heavily associated with NPD and many resources say it is about NPD.) It is not a special type of abuse done by people with NPD. It is bullshit. You don't need "narcissistic abuse" to be able to understand your own abuse. Narcissists are not everywhere and looking to harm you. It keeps you scared and traumatized. It is not healing, it is not helping.

I'm just so upset cause my friend's BF is such a cool dude and I have faith he will learn over time, but it was so triggering. I split so fucking bad. So yes. Here's my rant and the reminder that: Narcissistic abuse is bullshit and just demonizes people with NPD and the mentally ill and people they often claim are narcissists aren't and are just privileged and entitled and shitty people and often have to do with more systemic problems that are normalized and accepted by society rather than, you know, icky mentally ill person.

Oh and btw. If you're gonna fight at all on this, just block me. Either you can listen and learn or not. If you're in the "not" section, just leave. You'll just be blocked anyway. Because I'm not here to have it justified why it's okay to say narcissists are abusive when I am literally a narcissist and this shit has literally worsened me to the point of wanting to die. Fuck off. We are mentally ill people. Some people with NPD being abusive does not make us all abusive. You would never say the same for any other disorder so why say it for us? If you wouldn't say it about autism, depression, OCD, or any other literal mental illness then do NOT say it about us. There are people out there who DO still say that about those disorders. Who DO believe that a disorder makes you inherently abusive. Is that who you want to side with? Cause it's the same fucking logic. Narcissistic abuse is purely pop psychology and popularized by the mainstream rather than even being a real term. Yes, psychologists and other professionals can be wrong and can be ableist too.

I've said my piece. Narcissists and anyone else demonized whether your disorder is widely demonized or not, I love you. A lot of disorders have become more infantilized rather than demonized these days, but there are people out there that still see every mentally ill person as evil. No matter what kind of ableism you face for your disorder, you deserve love and care and support, not to be treated more like an object than a person. And no matter what, no matter how good or bad, You. Deserve. Help. You deserve to be able to have access to help without any bullshit.

#rant #ableism #sanism #narcissistic abuse #narc abuse #narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #actually narcissistic #actually npd #fuck ableism #fuck demonization #demonization of mental illness #personality disorders #cluster b #actually autistic #actually traumatized #disabled #cluster b safe #personality disorder safe #abuse #ableist #ableist bullshit #tw sanism #tw ableism #tw sui mention

[shadebloopnik]

Alastor being a petty ass btch to the two people who did not want his ass back for the 3 seconds he's been back, icon

#he rlly said “Time to remind them why i make their lives a fucking nightmare✨✨✨🖤🖤🖤🖤” #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #radio demon #alastor the radio demon #lucifer #lucifer morningstar #husker #hazbin hotel husk #bloopnik rambles

[scarymaaze]

marmar

#my art #adventure time #fionna and cake #marceline #when I tell u my jaw fucking dropped to the floor as soon as I saw her in these outfits #had to draw them IMMEDIATELY like the autism demon took over

[greykolla-art]

Guys! Can you believe I was gonna just CASUALLY watch Hazbin Hotel???

But it’s way too good. The writing is so tight, all the characters are interesting and layered, ALL THE SONGS:🔥🔥🔥

Alastor is such a Cheshire Cat! Not a characteristic I see often, but it’s always good! Gimme more immediately.👏👏👏

#grey art #fan art #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #charlie morningstar #vaggie #alastor #radio demon #hazbin alastor #hazbin vaggie #vaggie is dealing with her girlfriend employing the big bad Wolf #and we just have to hope his obvious ulterior motives won’t fuck us over too much #beautiful #can you tell Alastor is my favourite? #asexual king yes baby

[animatedtext]

#You're fighting your demons #meanwhile I'm fucking them. #pink #gif #animatedtext #transparent

[junodoom]

birthday comic for wen ning 🏹

it’s still april 11th in my time zone. this counts

#he is my favorite character *checks notes* fucking ever #hope he has a great day #every day actually #he deserves good things #wen ning #mdzs #mo dao zu shi #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mdzs fanart #wen ning fanart #lan sizhui #wen yuan #lan wangji #wei wuxian #mdzs comic #ghost general

[jazzmasternot]

It’s gotten bad

#the greeks had socrates y’all have me #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanfiction #hazbin hotel x reader #hazbin hotel self insert #hazbin hotel headcanon #hazbin hotel alastor #alastor x reader #fuck you alastor #hazbin hotel memes #vox x reader x alastor #alastor smut #alastor the radio demon #hazbin alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #alastor #human alastor

[coffeecatcraze]

It is not lost on me that Charlie and Vaggie were initially not doing great against Adam and Lute...and then proved Carmilla was so fucking right.

Vaggie is absolutely FUCKED here. She's been in this position before, with Lute looming over her spitting vitriolic judgment, Vaggie's blood on the ground. Back then, she couldn't stop Lute from taking away her wings, her eye, her home, and her purpose. But now? She has more than that; she has love, because she has Charlie.

When Lute threatens Charlie, everything changes. Vaggie fucks her up immediately...and shows "mercy" knowing that being forced to live with part of herself gone (her arm was CRUSHED, no way was she getting it back), the shame of defeat, and the knowledge that someone she's been looking down on so completely is responsible for it all is a fate MUCH worse than death for Lute.

And Charlie? Charlie's insanely powerful but has no clue how to use her power to its full potential because she's never had a reason or desire to fight until now. Even when she's being strangled, when she's pissed-off and vengeful, she can't really tap into that power. But then Adam comes at her dad and is about to catch him off-guard.

He's about to hurt—possibly kill—her dad, who she's finally building a good relationship with; her dad, who just showed up to protect her despite the risk of politically turning this battle from an act of defiance by a willful princess to an act of full-on rebellion by the King of Hell himself. She reacts on instinct to protect her father and stops a hit that destroyed Alastor's shield. And she does it effortlessly.

Carmilla was right. For these ladies, at least, the need to protect someone they love, no matter what kind of love it is, is exactly what rallies them to come at enemies who were just kicking their asses and absolutely dominate.

#hazbin hotel #vaggie #charlie morningstar #chaggie #protective women being protective #the way they each always IMMEDIATELY reacted upon realizing the other was in danger in that battle was just <3 #and lucifer and charlie's father-daughter bond?? love it #also reminds me of when charlie was about to wreck val for his abuse of angel #and when vaggie was ready to try and impale the fucking radio demon to protect charlie #and how charlie forgot anything else existed on the battlefield whenever she saw vaggie in danger

[laikabu]

#like be for real. #he fucked snake pussy n pretended to be a mouse while she constricted him every other day #i bet the demon was like damn they dont know how much of a freak this guy used to be #mithrun #laios touden #dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #my art

[snowheartsz]

THE WAY I SCREAMED????

#OUGHHHH THE PARALLELS TO THE PILOT #SAME EXACT DIALOGUE FROM WHEN HE FIRST MET CHARLIE #HOLY FUCKKKJ NO #IM ACTUALLT FOING INSANE #THIS MAN #THE FACT THIS WAS THE FIRST TIME HE HAD EVER HAD THE FULL FUCK #UGHHHHHHH #I LOVE HIM #ACTUAL CHILLS #hazbin alastor #alastor #alastor the radio demon #hazbin hotel #hazbinhotel #hazbin hotel alastor #radio demon #alastor hazbin hotel

[tagerrkix]

Eden was their ✨disney princess era✨

#it's canon #source: it was revealed to me in a dream #aziraphale being good with reptiles was all part of the ineffable plan #crowley is having the time of his life here #my only regret is that I forgot to include a baby aardvark #but I put ducklings there instead #aardvarks will have to wait #btw the snake aziraphale is holding is my pet snake that died in 2020 #my poor precious baby she was such a sweetheart #she liked to knock the thermometer off the glass and hide it #I was supposed to draw like an ordinary garter snake there buuut #it's MY silly doodle and I get to do what the heck I want with it 👁️👁️ #lmao crowley's brain is really malfunctioning here #guys he's a demon the creature of darkness foul fiend devil serpent #guys he can't get up the lamb is sleeping #somebody save him #there are vicious animals #and she's exp- #*JUMPS OUT THE WINDOW AND FLIES AWAY* #hey where the fuck is the gecko going #aziraphale #good omens fanart #crowley #aziracrow #good omens #ineffable husbands

[thesherrinfordfacility]

fr tho i understand why crowley wants them to run away together and run from all of it but he just seems to have forgotten that aziraphale does not cower, he doesn't back down, and he. does. not. run.

and honestly, crowley knows it:

#like yes aziraphale is naive and jittery and anxious about it #but he DOES. NOT. RUN #fucking fights to the last man the legend that he is #theres a reason the demon handbook says to avoid him and describes him as a demon smiter #man is NAILS given half a chance #good omens #just pure aziraphale appreciations here im sorry #aziraphale meta #s1 meta

[goingtoast]

demon twins

#danny phantom #dp x dc #fanart #my art #dp #danny fenton #dpxdc #phanart #damian wayne #robin #league of assassins #dc #crossover #ughh one of my fav aus… my sons #demon twins #demon twins au #TWO FUCKED UP KIDS AGAINST THE WORLD AAHAARRHHH

[scruntassdude]

i love gary so much he really gets me

bonus:

#finnpost #fionna and cake #marshall lee the vampire king #prince gumball #gumlee #fionna and cake spoilers #i cannot believe we got confirmed monster fucker gary thats so funny to me #real of him tho #in every universe gumball/bubblegum see a dangerous red-themed demon and go 'oh i cant NOT fuck that' #real of them tbh

[pinksartdump]

THIS HAPPENED AND YOU CAN'T TELL ME IT DIDN'T. also an excuse to draw babes carmilla and her beautiful daughters :3

#pretty sure vox cares he cares a WHOLE LOT #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel fanart #hazbin hotel alastor #hazbin hotel vox #radiostatic #voxal #hazbin art #alastor the radio demon #vox the tv demon #carmilla carmine #I AM IN LOVE WITH VOX I COULD DRAW THIS TV HEADED FUCK FOREFVER

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requested by helgalefroogqueen 

#I traumatized my demons #and now we play #FUCKING UNO #gif #animatedtext #wordart #transparent #helgalefroogqueen