#dysfunctional families

[goosedarkhouse]

Family portrait time! Father, once a war hero, now an alcoholic with a hair-trigger temper; Mother, a stern lady who, according to gossip, is also a witch; Aunt, whimsical and moody, suffering from a mysterious "illness"; Uncle, a perpetually depressed priest with a penchant for poetry; And finally the head of the family, the terrifying and enigmatic grandfather.

Oh yes, and the brats. 😈

#my art #my artwork #art #illustration #original characters #OCs #my OCs #my characters #dysfunctional families #family portrait #comic pages #comic panels #creepy aesthetic #old dark house #goose's dark house #small artist

[unwelcome-ozian]

#abusive family rules #toxic families #dysfunctional families #trauma #abuse

[booksforevermore13]

I mean, I know Athena is the goddess of wisdom and strategy, but she is really taking home the prize for being the stupidest on the pjo tv show.

Like, there's these three kids who are the only remaining hope of stopping like, World War III or something, but no....she'll allow a fire-breathing, demigod eating monster to enter HER shrine, made by one of HER children FOR HER to finish those three off, just because her pride has been hurt.

How puny is her pride that it is being wounded by three kids, yes kids, who are midgets(literally) in comparison to her power?

Also, she's really taking home the mother of the year award...so, definitely an overachiever there.

#annabeth chase #athena #percy jackson #pjo tv show #pjo disney + #percabeth #leah sava jeffries #grover underwood #pjo fandom #percy jackon and the olympians #rick riordan #greek gods #walker scobell #aryan simhadri #leah jeffries #leah is our annabeth #dysfunctional families #athena is a horrible mother #percy jackson spoilers

[stonerhobbits]

Fathers

Agustín Gómez-Arcos, The Carnivorous Lamb // Ben Williamson, Burning House (catastrophe) // Nora Ephron, Heartburn // Mantovani Brice, Papa Pierre // The Front Bottoms, Father // Egon Schiele, Doppelbildnis Heinrich und Otto Benesch, // Ocean Vuong, Someday I'll Love Ocean // Pedro Orrente, The Sacrice of Issac // Weezer, Say It Ain’t So // Joaquin Cachero, Broken Bottle

#fathers #father #dysfunctional families #child abuse #alcoholism #children of addicts #webweaving #web weaving

[quietflorilegium]

“Look at it this way. You’re still a child, and you can’t earn your living or look after yourself properly. When you were younger, you could do it even less. All children are the same. So the law says that someone has to look after you until you can do it for yourself—your guardians in your case. And there’s another law which says that when you drop a stone it falls to the ground. Are you grateful to that stone for falling, or does the stone ask the earth to be grateful?” “I—oh—” David felt there was something missing from this. “But people aren’t stones.” “Of course not. And if people do anything over and above the law, then you can be grateful if you want. But no one should ask it of you.”

Diana Wynne Jones, "Eight Days of Luke"

#diana wynne jones #eight days of luke #mr wedding #david allard #odin #gratefulness #dysfunctional families #family dysfunction #social contract #children #raising children

[hood-ex]

Can we just acknowledge that a lot of the Titans have horror stories about their fathers/guardians?

Arthur once tried to kill Garth without hesitation. Bruce punched Dick and kicked him out of the manor. Wally's dad joined the Manhunters and tried to kill Mary West. Trigon controlled Raven and tried to enslave the whole world. Slade's bond resulted in Joey losing his ability to speak, and then later, Slade killed Joey. Donna's adoptive parents hit her and always wanted her to be quiet. Myand'r sold Kory as a slave to his enemies in order to save Tamaran.

🎶 And it goes on and on and on and on 🎶

#🎶 i know that you got daddy issues 🎶 #Titans #dysfunctional families

[starryvomit]

“invalidated”

-S

#childhood ptsd #childhood trauma #trauma victim #trauma survivor #trauma stuff #trauma survival #trauma shit #family poetry #family problems #family portrait #dysfunctional families #c ptsd #complex ptsd #ptsd #actually ptsd #tw ptsd #living with ptsd #ptsd vent #invalidation #female poets #female writers #women poets #women writers #spilled ink #the tortured poets department #my writing #sisters #trauma bonding #trauma blog #inner child

[rhys-ravenfeather]

I am asking this purely out of (morbid) curiosity, and you are by no means obligated to answer if this is too sensitive a subject, but yeah...because I'm curious, what's the stupidest and/or most outlandish thing your parent(s) ever got mad at you for?

#rhys-ravenfeather signing on #parents #dysfunctional families #me personally? my mom REALLY hated when we lied to her #and i mean *REALLY* hated--at least once she literally threw a SCREAMING (and sobbing) FIT OVER A LITTLE WHITE LIE #i don't remember whether it was something me or my brother said (though i THINK it was my brother) but yeah #she did this even with little white lies #which naturally we told every now and then because we were um you know... #literal KIDS who were TERRIFIED of getting in trouble

[thelocaldetective]

You can’t tell me these two people aren’t the same:

#pretty sure they did this on purpose knowing yagami wouldn’t (physically) be in kaito’s files LMAO #dysfunctional families #substories #coincidence? i think not #oshikiri kenya #trauma experiences #abusive fathers #kaito’s file (dlc) #game #sadamoto jun

[rhube]

This is very funny. I started rb-ing gifs from The Bear and suddenly 'For You' is like... so, you have parental issues. Would you like lots of posts deconstructing dysfunctional family relationships?

Why yes, I was having intrusive thoughts about family shit, and that's why I'm on Tumblr's For You tab at 2am instead of sleeping.

#the bear #dysfunctional families

[sowingseedsandshootinghoops]

Love Without Freedom: Dysfunctional Families

Note on the text: I used D.H. Lawrence’s Sons and Lovers as published by Penguin Books in 1994

This is one of the most realistic and psychologically complex depictions of an emotionally unhealthy relationship between a mother and her son. While Mrs. Morel is definitely not a traditionally abusive woman, she is an extremely unhappy one. As a result of that she decides to pour all of her energy into her kids (especially her son, Paul) and forms her life around them in such a way that it creates an unhealthy dynamic between her and her kids.

​This is a beautiful book about a deeply dysfunctional family. When we first meet Gertrude and Walter Morel it’s clear that they are a match made in Hell. That whatever their feelings for each other might have been in the past, those feelings have long since died. Mrs. Morel is an extremely unhappy woman for whom the “world seemed a dreary place, where nothing else would happen for her” (13). While her husband isn’t an evil man per say, they are ill suited for each other and serve, despite their best intentions, to aggravate each other. However they have four children (Paul, Arthur, William, and Annie) who are the absolute apples of her eye, especially Paul, and she makes them into the center of her universe. No matter what else was going on in her life, she knew that she always “had the children” (25). Everything comes to head when she tells her husband that she is only staying with him for the sake of the children:

And I would’, she cried, suddenly shaken into tears of impotence. ‘Ah, wouldn’t I, wouldn’t I have gone long, long ago but for those children. Aye, haven’t I repented not going years ago [when] I’d only had the one’- suddenly drying into rage. ‘Do you think it’s for you I stop- do you think I’d top one minute for you’.

‘Go then’, he shouted beside himself. ‘Go!’

‘No!’ She faced round. ‘No’, she cried loudly. ‘You shan’t have it all your way. You shan’t do all you like. I’ve got those children to see to. My word’- she laughed- ‘I should look well to leave them to you’

‘Go!’ He cried thickly lifting his fist. He was afraid of her. ‘Go!’

‘I should only be too- I should laugh, laugh, my lord if I could get away from you’” (33).

Although she loves all her children, she has an especially close relationship with Paul. In fact, it’s when Paul is born that we start to see the fanatical, obsessive, quality of her love take shape. As much as she hates her husband, and the world at large, she decides when Paul is born that “with all her force, with all her soul, she would make it [up to Paul] for having brought him into [an unloving world]. She would love [him] all the more now that [he] was here, [she would] carry [him] in her love” (51). And therein lies the problem. Kids are meant to grow up and make their own way in the world. They can’t be children forever. They have to grow up and make their own way in the world. They leave their parents behind, in some way, and create their own lives. However, the vice grip which Mrs. Morel has on the emotional lives of her children, makes it impossible for her to really let them go. This becomes obvious when Paul accepts a job offer in London, far away from her:

It never occurred to him that she might be more hurt at his going away, than glad at his success. Indeed as the days drew near for his departure, her heart began to close and grow dreary with despair. She loved him so much. More than that, she hoped on him so much. [She almost] lived by him. She liked to do things for him: she liked to put a cup for his tea and to iron his collars, of which he was so proud. It was a joy to her to have him proud of his collars. There was no laundry. She used to rub at them with her little convex iron, to polish them, till they shone from the sheer pressure of her arm. Now she would not do that for him. Now he was going away. She felt almost as if he [was] going as well out of her heart. He did not seem to leave her inhabited with herself. Tha was the grief and the pain to her. He [was taking] nearly all of himself away (78-79).

​Again later, when Paul falls in love with, and wants to marry, Miriam, Gertrude finds herself complaining that Miriam is taking Paul away from her and that she is “not like an ordinary woman who can leave me my share in him” (230). Even now, she doesn’t know how to let Paul go. And Paul is starting to resent her.

​Paul starts sensing that his relationships (with both Miriam and later Clara) is hurting his mom and he starts resenting her for it. He doesn’t understand why she can’t just be happy for him, and instead he feels guilty for having unintentionally hurt her: “Paul hated her because, somehow, she spoilt his ease and naturalness” (217). It’s natural that he should fall in love, it’s natural that he should want to live a happy life, and he resents the fact that his mother cannot allow him to do so. It’s only once he breaks off his engagements with both Miriam and Clara that he starts to get a sense of just how emotionally unhealthy his relationship with his mother is. Which is why he tells her that he “shall never meet the right woman while she is alive” (395). Unfortunately, he winds up being more right than he intended to be. He breaks off both engagements as a result of the emotional pressure resulting from his relationship with his relationship with his mother, which means that when she dies he is alone.

​This is a great, realistic depiction of an unhealthy relationship between a mother and her son. She clings to him so tightly that at the end she winds up destroying everything, including that relationship. In order for love to flourish it has to be free, otherwise it dies. This even applies, to some extent, to a mother-son relationship. Mrs. Morel wasn’t willing to give Paul the freedom that he needed and that, in the end was what did them both in: she, in a very real way, lost her relationship with him. There’s a lesson to be learned in that for every person, in every walk of life.

#dysfunctional families #dysfunctional relationship #DH Lawrence #sons and lovers #love

[thefeministnextdoorr]

A child can never truly hate a parent. You can't hate something that created you. Someone that breathed life into you. I can't hate someone who's half of me. I can't do that to myself

#my relationship with my parents is my #roman empire #dysfunctional families

[unwelcome-ozian]

#people pleasing #dysfunctional families

[destinygoldenstar]

Based on this:

Duncan’s headcanons

Duncan’s dad never wanted to be dismissive towards any of his kids. He doesn’t even force his kids to be police officers. He just wants his kids to be efficient and capable enough to hold their own. His parents are dead due to careless arson, so the last thing he wanted for his family was to be careless. Notably, this event happened when his wife was pregnant with their last kid. So the event put a huge dent on his relationship with his kids and especially his wife, who tends to be more open are daring.

I forgot to mention this part in the Duncan headcanon post so I’ll say it here: A brand new inexperienced doctor aided Duncan’s birth, so they did it wrong. No one was hurt, but it resulted in Duncan being born with a stretched neck and torso. This would put Duncan at a disadvantage when it comes to law enforcement school and a disability overall. He’s relatively insecure about it which is why he wears two shirts and a collar to cover it up. His parents tried not to make a big deal out of something Duncan couldn’t control.

Back to Duncan’s dad, he actually tried to treat Duncan like the rest of his sons at first. Despite the arguments of his wife and the other boys following in his footsteps, (except the third kid who would become a tattoo artist, but the dad allowed that) he was a stern yet well meaning parent who didn’t know how to help people who weren’t carbon copies of him.

Of course, this means he had no idea what he was passively and unintentionally doing to Duncan, or how to help him. He always makes his wife do the comforting.

Despite how badly Duncan was fitting in, he wanted to keep Duncan on the law enforcement path in thinking it’ll help him. He was frustrated whenever Duncan got in trouble, but he doesn’t scream at his kid and he keeps it together. At most, he’d lecture his kid on what he did was wrong. Notably, he didn’t bother to hear the why in Duncan’s actions, as most of these were accidents or bullying forcing him to. It unintentionally left Duncan with the message that the why doesn’t matter. He did something bad. There was no excuse.

Then there’s the other boys emotionally bullying Duncan and calling him a ‘bad boy’. The dad did NOT approve of this and heavily called out his boys. He’ll admit that there’s some moral issue with Duncan, but he didn’t deserve to be treated as an evil criminal when he was a kid. The boys didn’t stop, but if this dad heard it, he was going to put his foot down. Duncan is almost never in these scenes.

Then some of the teachers shedded similar concerns as the boys did, but the dad still tried to assure them he wasn’t bad.

I dont think I need to tell you that calling a kid a ‘bad boy’ is emotionally damaging to that kids mindset.

So why was Duncan getting sent to Juvie different? Again, arson. Trauma trigger. It made this man have a mental breakdown and badly choose his words.

But to Duncan, it was confirmation. His own FATHER told him to his face that he was a bad boy. It meant that his dad, an idol for any child, was confirming that all of his bullies, brothers, and teachers that called him bad and only capable of trouble were RIGHT.

And of course, he didn’t even apologize.

The dad did think Juvie was gonna help Duncan, but in terms of his words? He immediately regretted them. He didn’t know how to approach it though, and he was left at work to deal with the destruction his son caused. So most he could do was send his wife to visit his kid.

Then when he tried to apologize to Duncan when he got out, Duncan refused to listen to him.

From there it was fights left and right and a rebellious teenager disrespecting his parents. Nothing this father did got through to his kid and it was another fight every family dinner about something Duncan did or how he was treating his wife. (Yeah Duncan sometimes called out his dad sleeping at the office and giving his mom mental distress)

This dad tried to help his kid. Parole. Therapy. Schooling. But nothing worked.

At that point, was it worth it?

His own kid doesn’t like him, so: “Come to think of it, do we love you?”

By the time Duncan got to jail, it was confirmation and a truth bomb for this father. He failed as a parent. His child was too far gone and there was nothing he could do. Trying would only hurt more people that he cared about. Maybe it was his fault. Sometimes he’d believe that it was his fault Duncan turned out like this. It was guilt he could never say aloud anymore.

So he decided that he and the rest of his family should cut all ties with Duncan. No contacts. No visits. No nothing. Cut Duncan out of their lives and pretend he didn’t exist.

(Honestly, someone should make a fic about this family. They’re one of the most interesting TD families to talk about, and they were only in one bonus scene!)

#Total Drama #Td Duncan #Duncan’s father #Families #Dysfunctional Families #headcanon

[ramyeongif]

dysfunctional families

#lucy dot jpg #dysfunctional families #95792

[quietflorilegium]

“You are being generous,” she said to Granny, out of her new embarrassed rawness. “Arranging to keep me, I mean.” “No, I’m not,” Granny retorted. “Being generous is giving something that’s hard to give.”

Diana Wynne Jones, "Fire and Hemlock"

#diana wynne jones #fire and hemlock #polly whittacker #granny whittacker #generosity #sensible generosity #just because you're a good person doesn't mean it isn't generosity #dysfunctional families