#did you hear that!!!

[wavernot4love]

important update in the vic/ptv x dunes saga: here's vic once again onstage giving dunes their flowers, but this time it is filmed by yours truly at the reading show last night

"every single member of that band has inspired me, inspired our band, in some way throughout the course of our lives, from coheed and cambria, circa survive/saosin, my chemical romance, & one of my favorite bands on the planet, called thursday... so i wanna thank those guys for the inspiration they've given us, we would not be a band without those guys... let's give it up for ls dunes"

#when homie was shouting out the bands i had my camera READY for the moment he got to dunes #i was not missing this #2000s dad with camcorder moment #but actually moments like this are awesome man do i love seeing my favorite bands be inspired by each other #did you hear that!!! #ptv would not be ptv the way we know them without these dudes #everything in the scene is connected i love all of it so very much #going on ten years in i am just as much/the most in love with it all as i ever have been #dunesposting #ptvposting #wavernot4love gets 2 the gig #wavernot4lovetalksmusic #post hardcore #pierce the veil #ls dunes #vic fuentes #ptv #also i almost forgot!!! not sure if you can tell here but loni was wearing dunes merch #shoutout there

[corviiids]

my top bit of advice going into the new year: compliment people. especially strangers. literally everyone you interact with if you can. when you buy coffee in the morning compliment the barista's tattoos. when you're chatting with a coworker tell them that by the way you like their outfit. always find something they've chosen to do on purpose. nail polish, jewellery, tattoos, hair colour/style, statement accessory, outfit, etc are all good bets. things people hope will be noticed. things that aren't too personal so it doesn't make them uncomfortable (eg probably not their physical features). i've gotten into the habit of scanning everyone i talk to for something about them that i think is cool so i can tell them. it's a great habit because it makes me notice people and realise just how many neat little details there are in people's presentation of themselves that might pass me by if i wasn't paying attention. and it brings out so much joy. you'd be surprised how much it disarms people to receive an unexpected compliment from someone they don't know. it is the most sincere smile you will see all day long. it feels nice to make people happy but it also means you win the social interaction. establish dominance by complimenting a stranger's earrings and disappearing into the fog

#rookposting #the little 'oh!' followed by a big grin is now my highlight in every interaction i have with a stranger #you can always spot the things people hope will be noticed and you have no idea how happy it makes people when it gets noticed #i find it's always better to compliment things they did deliberately vs complimenting stuff like their voice or their face or other things #that are inherent or they cant change because that can make people uncomfortable for one thing to hear that from a stranger #but it's also just less meaningful imo because they didnt do that on purpose

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[that-one-weird-cloud0]

Danny: *just chilling on the couch while being very still™️ at the Wayne Manor*

Clark: *comes to visit*

Clark: hey Bruce?

Bruce: yes?

Clark: why is there a dead child in your living room?

Bruce: what 0-0

Danny: oh shit

Danny: *starts up heartbeat* better?

Clark: *even more freaked out*

#someone commented this on another post #and omg I love #just imagine Danny hearing this and immediately panicking #like oh shit forgot to start my heart this morning #shit am I breathing today? #why did they have to notice it takes energy to do living things :( #Batfam: Danny are you alright? #Danny: yup! #Clark: no no he was dead he didn’t have a heartbeat for like 20 minutes since I’ve been here #Danny: don’t fucking blow my cover Boy Scout #Batfam: Danny are your dead? 🥺 #Danny: yes—Wait no that’s not I’m not a ghost #Batfam: wut #dp x dc #dc x dp #dpxdc #danny phantom #dcxdp #danny fenton #dp x dc crossover #dp x dc prompt #batfam #dc x dp prompt

[lotus-pear]

it doesn't matter how babygirl ur fav man is, he will ALWAYS be ten times sexier as a woman

#PLEASE be respectful in the tags for the love of god #drawing the fav is sm fun when they're genderbent like wow now i can be attracted to ANOTHER version of you😍 #im so glad all of nakahara chuuya's fans are lesbians this guarantees my post will reach its target audience #i felt very straight drawing this btw. my nose was NOT bleeding. i did NOT constantly hear a ringing noise. #bsd would infinitely be better if the entire cast was made up of women #bungou stray dogs #bungo stray dogs #bsd #nakahara chuuya #chuuya nakahara #fem chuuya #also no hat im sry i cant draw hats💔 #maybe in another post #lotus draws

[insomniac-arrest]

finding it extremely sexycool that celebrities are going into hibernation for a bit from their natural habitat. We are freed from the expectation of having to know things about celebrities. Like, sorry, no, I didn't know that. No, actually, they can't be dating, they're asleep. Go to sleep.

#did you hear-- no. I hate knowing things about people. They're asleep now.

[theshitpostcalligrapher]

listen i do not believe i'm able to communicate with chao in any way but when the unmistakable sound of raccons having a fistfight on the roof broke out and we looked at each other I firmly believe the shared thought was "you hear that too, right?"

#chao the chaos beast #cats #also i inclined my head at the door and said can you go check that out #she gave me a look that i am choosing to anthropomorphize as chagrined and did in fact go check it out #they're in one of the trees now and i can hear them

[special-mooon]

The fact that Ruggie used his UM on Leona to make him smile even tho he himself is injured and on the verge of collapsing is so ☹️☹️☹️ his arms all messed up and he has tears in his eyes and yet he still did this ☹️☹️☹️☹️

#did you hear that? #it was the sound of my heart #shattering #my poor baby #twisted wonderland #twst #ruggie bucchi #twst ruggie #twst leona #leona kingscholar #twst novel #twst spoilers #kind of spoilers i think?

[suiheisen]

you think YOU had a bad day at work?

bonus: sid shrieking "no!!!! NO!!!!!" loud enough to be heard in the stands and on camera

#this is now my FAVOURITE game i've watched in real life knocking the game misconduct one off the number one rank #he was so annoyed the entire game and so annoying about it :') #he kept shrieking away on the bench and i couldn't hear a word from where i was seated #but you could just hear this constant yipping away dhfsgfkjshgfsjf PLEASE it was so funny your 36-year-old babygirl was BARKING #drew kept sitting there like... is mom okay... i don't think mom's okay... #also extremely good for me (since he wasn't really hurt) was the whumpfest of it all oh my god what ancient gods did he anger......... #geno kept Hovering in concern #po kept giving him little shoulder pats the way a sweet brave babyboy would try his best to soothe a rabid little dog #ek of course kept trying to slide right inside him and also kept skating up to him and STARING him in the face in concern/lust/both #also guys this is my first time in canada ever!!!!!!!! i'm excited #anyway. very good game for me sorry for this post but you know i love a #long post #sidney crosby #evgeni malkin #pittsburgh penguins #also!!! to all who celebrate #ramadan kareem/eid mubarak #<333 staying with a friend here through the eid celebration and they've been cooking and everything smells so good

[thedreadvampy]

Losing my shit about this article in which a transphobic Tory was so busy panicking about existing in the vicinity of a Trans that she almost certainly misheard "jeans" as "penis" and decided that not only was this a problem with the other woman, but also that the world must be informed of this pressing danger.

"a trans woman! I had to stand directly behind her....I thought, 'this is going well', I'm handling The Situation fine'..."

translated: I saw a tall woman with broad shoulders. How would I get out of this alive? I thought. she has a PENIS. PENIS PENIS PENIS. through some force of PENIS I mean will I managed to PENIS behave normally towards her. My hands were PENIS PENIS PENIS shaking as I tried to dry them. summoning up all my PENIS courage I said 'dryer's crap innit'. she turned to me and said " yeah I'm just goiPENIS PENIS PENIS"

It's been a week and I'm still shaking. This proves trans women are the problem and I'm not weird. I'm fine. It's fine. If you think about it I'm the hero hePENIS!!!!!

very this

#red said #it's just. I'm obsessed. #everyone on Twitter is saying 'never happened' and i think they're wrong #this absolutely did happen and she's been obsessing over how vindicated it made her feel enough to WRITE AN ARTICLE ABOUT IT #because she MISHEARD SOMEONE IN A CASUAL CONVERSATION #i lay out my reasoning thusly: if you were INVENTING a scary trans woman in bathroom story out of nothing. why would it be this? #why would you go with 'we had a banal conversation until she said a sentence that makes no sense and that no human has ever uttered #but which does coincidentally sounds almost exactly like a mishearing of a very NORMAL thing to say in the circumstances #then she left and nothing else occurred' #if you were going to INVENT a story you would probably make it MAKE SENSE or SOUND THREATENING #i truly believe this is a very authentically told account of what she thinks happened #because who would. by means other than mishearing. think 'I'm going to wipe my hands on my penis' makes any sense at all. #a) 'I'm going to dry my hands on my genitals' says the presumably fully clothed woman #b) who then proceeds to leave without doing anything threatening #c) WHO SAYS PENIS THREATENINGLY? sorry it's writing out 'penis' repeatedly that made this jump out to me but like. who says that? #you might hear someone talk casually about their dick or cock but i stg it's only doctors and TERFs who casually use the word penis much #it's so. clinically descriptive. it's a weird use of language. but it IS. something you could plausibly mishear from 'pants' or 'trousers'

[ace-fender-bender]

Blessed trinity together at last

#hozier #did you hear it? #did you guys hear the album? #are you still alive????

[nakajimaas]

everybody moved on but i stayed here

#shin soukoku #sskk #:(((( #Did you ever hear about the girl who got frozen?Time went on for everybody else #(mw im the girl

[electrozeistyking]

"Never be Alone"

Started on the sixth of January and planned to be finished on the fourteenth, but landed up not doing that. Somewhere on the sixteenth, I basically said "haha whoops" and pumped out twenty panels. According to Procreate, it took 15 hours and 37 minutes to finish Panels 1-10; 27 hours and 15 minutes on Panels 11-20; and 34 hours and 8 minutes for Panels 21-30.

In total, I have no idea. I just know it took some serious time.

Unlike with She's Gone, I wrote a script. Well, all I wrote was dialogue and some minor actions for Panels 5-23, though lines were changed "in post." Everything else was by the seat of my pants. However, I can say for sure that I was planning on ending it with N being hopeful, but all I had room for was him crying. He cannot catch a break.

(also to those who suspected uzi was still in there, guess you were right all along.)

#murder drones #solveruzi au #solver uzi #murder drones n #murder drones uzi #murder drones tessa #serial designation n #uzi doorman #tessa james elliott #the absolutesolver #i wish you could've heard the things i said while working on this #''the absolutesolver calls out n's loneliness: the comic'' #''YES COIL AROUND HIM LIKE A SNAKE YESSS'' #''ooh what if this was a callback to the silly nuzi kiss comic i made'' #''WHAT IF THE INNER HEXAGON MOVED AROUND LIKE A PUPIL'' #''uzi he can't hear you!! he's full of good vibes!!'' #''oh my god. my art really IS expressive'' #''this is not love this is hypnotism'' #tw knife #just in case because tessa did use her chekhov's stabby stick here #zeisty’s heavy hitters #zeisty’s comic stuff

[n0anix]

insta liked this one

here's my favourite gals for the tumblr bunch too :]

#qsmp #qsmp fanart #qsmp tilín #qsmp juanaflippa #fanart #i miss them every day #i did in fact forget to post it here but you didn't hear that from me #together even in death #brb gonna cry over them again #my art

[pokeberry5]

(who's gonna save you, hero?)

i love whump fics where tim ends up on the ropes alone and doesn't know if anyone's gonna reach him in time

i really really love leonardo romero's inks and jordie bellaire's colors from the "i am the gun" mini telling the zur-en arrh backstory (in batman issues #128-130), so this is another loose style study

i had this frame in mind specifically, altho i couldnt quite commit to the hard inks

ALSO the concept was loosely based off the issues in legacy ('tec (1940) #698-99) where tim goes undercover and then gets nabbed by lockup and his comm cuts off in the middle of telling nightwing what's going on, which also gave us this great (but misleading) cover

#it's about HIS COMM CUTTING OUT MID SITREP oR cutting them off!!! on purpose bc he doesnt want his family to hear him die #when theyre TRYING TO GET TO HIM #tim drake #sart #dc #i really need to get my hands on the collected failsafe volume #also #i am once again asking you to read batman: legacy #(the way i psyched myself out of working on this for like a month+) #i did give him internal bleeding this time haha

[hajihiko]

The polycules are falling apart

#Ultimate Impostor #Hajime hinata #Mikan Tsumiki #Ibuki mioda #Ryota mitarai #Nagito Komaeda #Fuyuhiko kuzuryu #Poly ship names are so difficult. Guess not #an art #Barely. I did not have the willpower I thought I did when I started this #Anyway I'm trying so hard to manage something spooky for the spooky month but. Yknow how it is. Sometimes you dont have the spark the energ #plenty of ideas tho! #Hearing aids go on the fritz. Pictures taken have extra shadows or a hand that doesnt belong there #Etc etc ugh I dont even have words lol. I'm tired