#but are not boundaries themselves

[wispsources]

long have i seen folks in the writing community write and create DNIs on their rules for folks to abide from. which, in itself, is okay! however, people often mistake a DNI as being a boundary when the reality is that they are not.

DNIs are not boundaries, they are requests.

Please understand that what i am referring to here are DNIs that are more PERSONAL to an individual. 

General DNIs that most people have the same or similar names for extremely valid and warranted reasons due to their obviously hostile, toxic, and harmful behaviors are NOT what i am talking about here.

While the reasons for personal DNIs are indeed VALID for individuals, what is discomforting for me about many that i have seen are the 'make or break' attitudes that often come with them.

i do truly believe that people should normalize making boundaries for themselves without forcing it upon others and creating ultimatums or asking for requests.

People are allowed to block folks who they do not vibe with. people are allowed to set up said boundaries. But, please DO NOT gatekeep people. i simply do not believe anybody is within their right to force people's hands without being toxic.

Remember, making a boundary is allowed but there is a difference between healthy boundaries and controlling behavior. By definition, a boundary is about YOUR own actions, not somebody else's. There is also a difference between setting a boundary, asking a request, and creating an ultimatum.

setting boundaries is fine. asking for a request is okay, sometimes. creating an ultimatum is not healthy.

A request is: i do not like this person, do not follow them. A boundary is: i do not like this person, if you follow them, then I will not follow you.

a DNI, which stands for 'Do Not Interact' is an explicit request for folks to NOT INTERACT with them if they write X or follow Y. DNIs are not always bad by themselves as they do often come with boundaries:

'dni if xyz because i will not engage in those subjects or want to be close to this person' (notice how the boundary given here is in bold.)

Please remember that DNIs alone are not boundaries though, they are requests. which, i cannot stress this enough, are not always bad. you are allowed to do whatever it is to create a safe place for yourself and curate your dashboard to your own liking.

you are allowed to have a personal DNI. it’s always okay to have them, and i am not saying that anybody shouldn't have them. ultimately, it is how you want to curate your space for yourself. folks are allowed to have their own social circles where they feel safe and comfortable and welcomed.

I also do believe that folks should be allowed to make decisions for themselves as well when it comes to personal relationships outside of social groups.

while you may not get along with a certain individual, that does not necessarily mean that it is the same for others.  forcing another to 'pick' between you or another person is a very harmful mentality to have.

yes, you are allowed and you are so valid in whatever feelings you may have towards/about somebody, but that is YOUR relationship/opinion about that person alone, not anybody else's.

Folks really need to normalize that it is okay if their friends talk to somebody that they don't like on a personal level. its okay if your friend wants to remain a neutral party because they would rather not get involved. its something that shouldn't be and isn't going to be a subject of discussion for the two of you, and it should be respected by both parties.

you can have healthy relationships with boundaries without making ultimatums or requests from others that may put them in an awkward position, especially since personal DNIs are often just personal for yourself. at the end of the day, it is still up to you on what YOU want to do to curate your internet safe space, but please don't do it in a matter where it forces folks into a 'its me or them' decision. that is not fair and it can be controlling and uncomfortable.

i do believe people are allowed to feel safe, but they should not do it with a forced decision of another or make them feel like they have to make a choice between you or another.

#metal health. #therapy. #rp. #psa. #rpc psa #rpc advice #rpc help #healthy relationships #i really do want folks to understand that DNIs are truly not bad or evil #because they are not. #but people must understand that a DNI is a request #and they CAN be included with boundaries #but are not boundaries themselves #and if people do not want to follow through with said request #they should not feel forced to do so

[redysetdare]

Thinking abt how so many characters in media who canonically state that they don't like people touching them constantly have their boundaries broken and are forced into hugs by other characters and every single time they are shown to be upset it's supposed to be a flaw that they need to overcome until they just are forced to accept/like it.

#text #touch averse #no wonder ppl assume the same of real ppl #everyone wants to think of themselves as the acception as the one who will fix you and make you like hugs #i hate that. i hate you media who have characters with touch aversion as a flaw #we need more characters who are just touch averse and people accept that #no acceptions no 'growth' no 'fixing them' or 'making them love hugs' nothing. #only thought abt this becuz im rewatching kipo and it bugs me so much that wolf tells kipo to not hug or touch her #and kip just responds with 'deal with it' and then later on wolf is suddenly fine with hugging and repeats kipos line #it feels so wrong because it was a blatant disrespect of boundaries that was played off as a good thing

[itsajollyjester]

Not too close.

#I was thinking about how touch and go their relationship would be at the beginning #(and probably to an extent after too) #they'd be so patient and understanding of each other's boundaries hesitations and triggers #but so frustrated with themselves #That's what I was trying to get across anyway #The pose turned out a bit more artsy and metaphor-y then I intended #But that's not a bad thing #annie cresta #finnick odair #finnick x annie #odesta #odesta fanart #the hunger games #catching fire #mockingjay #thg series #digital art #hunger games fanart #artists on tumblr #clip studio paint #fanart #digital artist #jolly art #fun fact: I accidentally sent this to my brother instead of myself lmao oops

[dungeons-and-dragon-age]

Hiii everyone, say, how do your Hawkes go go about sharing their estate? If they do it at all? Is everyone free to come and go or are they more private? Or do they only invite their LI to stay? I'm curious!! :)

#lay rambles #my ocs #oc: liam hawke #oc: lilian hawke #both my hawkes are very social w their friends but i love comparing their boundaries around it #theres variation in rules for specific ppl with both of them ofc but theres still general differences #with liam its all very open and everyone can p much come and go whenever #they dont get extra keys (theyll get lost and he doesnt want randos finding them lol) but they know where to find the spare key #and bodhan and sandal and orana know to let them in whenever #hes very lenient in this this regard but he does have rules abt what he does and doesnt want them to do #mostly its about not making too much of a mess lol bc liam prefers to clean himself #(he doesnt trust the crew with his household and also he has particular ways of doing things and Hates when theyre done differently) #so things like keep your dirty garb at the entrance dont cook by yourselves (this was banned after they did it one (1) time lol) etc #also no fucking allowed. do that somewhere else for the love of the maker he does NOT want to walk into that in his own house #(and it also comes back to liam not trusting them with cleaning but also Not wanting to clean that up lol) #also he is not fond of them going into his room uninvited. most of the house is chill but that is *his* space #he accommodates these rules by e.g. having spare slippers and a little washing basin in the entrance hall for dirty shoes/feet #always makes sure to have snacks in stock that he knows they like #food will have notes abt what to leave for leandra/orana/etc but otherwise food is prepared with his friends in mind #and in general he'll make sure to adjust the space/routine in little ways to accommodate them #(air out when fen isnt there cus he doesnt like drafts; keep curtains open cus anders prefers open spaces; etc) #lilian on the other hand doesnt like when her friends come into the estate without a heads up (cept for emergencies) #but once they have her 'ok' its basically mi casa es su casa #dont yknow. overdo it and get too rowdy but otherwise do whatever #however. she also expects everyone to clean up after themselves. she aint here to play maid and youre all adults #also liam has a general 'please try to not be too wild when leandra is here' and lilian doesnt #not cos she doesnt care but cos leandra is bothered by sth she can speak up herself #oh and lilian uses the basement space as temporary refuge for anyone who needs it (mostly escaped mages) #also side note: both offered gamlen to stay but he refused (out of pride/remorse) #...this got long and i ran out of tag space lmfao so this is it for now xD

[uncanny-tranny]

Also, in response to the "testosterone making people angrier" myth, I've found that, personally, testosterone has given me the self-respect to recognize and call out when my boundaries are being overstepped in ways that I wouldn't have had the courage (or, frankly even liking of myself) to have done before. This is in addition to me working on my trauma responses, but testosterone was the spark that gave me the will to do this in the first place. When I see people sae that as anger and thus is a "bad thing," I wonder how much of that is just people being uncomfortable with us... having boundaries or enforcing them, and that the response to that overstepping is labeled as aggressive anger.

Frankly, I now actually respect myself enough to care when I am being mistreated. It seems that people sometimes take that as a personal failure on my end because I don't think I deserve mistreatment.

Caveat: Anger is a fine emotion, and it is a worthy thing to recognize and honour. I find that the accusation of trans men* and trans masc* people "being angry" on testosterone is a moot point simply because it is often a false accusation which uses anger as a punishment. My issue isn't that we're "angry," but that our perceived anger is used, often, as a transphobic bludgeon to punish those who either want to transition with testosterone or who currently are, and everything in-between.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #unpopular opinion i guess but: trans man* and transmasc* anger is a fine thing and more people ought to express it without fear #basically i want to start a punk band with some other trans guys/trans guys+ who are Angry and Will Express It #like not going to lie but i had no boundaries before because i HATED myself... #...so it's pretty weird when people almost... miss that they could have taken advantage of me had i not realized my worth #like why does my Testosterone Anger say something bad about me when you MISS that you could have taken advantage of my self-hatred. like. hm #anyway. i let myself be angry now because i have realized that i deserve to express my full range of emotions #i notice that many trans people start asserting themselves way more when they transition gow they want/need to... #...and i think part of it is that many of us start to get out of the rut of feeling Horrible 24/7/365... #...so when people express they 'miss the old [you]' to me that's a red flag... #...because... do you miss that person pre-transition or do you miss their abject misery and passivity? #this might be a generalization because of tumblr's tag character limit #but i have noticed this with a few trans people when they are openly/currently transitioning #this isn't me saying that this is universal but just... something i have Taken Notice Of #and it seems weird to me that this hasn't only just happened to me because. it just feels...... gross

[werepires]

Sooo insane about Dean and Cas realising they get to have without fear of losing

#it’s about learning a hug doesn’t mean goodbye anymore #about reconditioning yourself to know that ‘I love you’ means just that and isn’t an indication you’re about to lose eachother #12 years of tension and never really daring to cross that boundary #and then release #it takes them weeks to get used to the fact they can have the casual intimacy they so obviously crave #because both of them are so hardwired to repress and restrain themselves when it comes to eachother #they sleep in the same bed but don’t dare to touch until one night Dean reaches out a shaky hand and laces their fingers together #and they both hold their breath like the world’s about to explode but nothing happens #and slowly they realise they’re allowed to have this they’re allowed to touch and hold and indulge #there’s no more Chuck no more cosmic consequences just the two of them in Dean’s room #so they lie in the dark for hours just their fingers laced together #and it’s a start #it’s gonna take a long time to be alright but now there’s a start

[hella1975]

hiiii haha. hello. exceptionally awkward introduction bc idrk how to start something like this so let's just jump right in. im taking a break from this account for a bit. i know i said i wanted taob out before halloween and currently im fine sticking with that deadline, but if i decide i need longer away then i will take longer away. every time ive reassured people that id never abandon a fic and updates will always come eventually i never once considered that my writing and ability to feel safe and comfortable on this site would be actively taken from me, so im not even going to apologise. i dont want this either and more importantly i dont fucking deserve it. i dont know what it is in the past year, if ive hit a certain amount of followers or 'popularity' that's made it so the natural ratio of positive to negative interactions must in turn go up, but there's been a serious uptick in weird asks for me. the annoying part is that a very small amount of them are actually objectively mean and hateful, the rest are just weird and invasive from people who seemingly dont realise that's what they're being. ive reached a point where i dont care if the intentions are good. it's not my job as a 20 year old tumblr user of all things to defend the morality of someone who couldnt even bother to come off anon. unfortunately, after blocking only one or two anons, the weird asks have decreased substantially, which says all you need to know about the fascinating and exhilarating lives led by these people, but ive also gone on to turn anon asks off entirely. this is something i actively fought against doing and had to be pushed into by my mutuals (who have been the coolest people on planet earth during this entire thing). turning off anon was a big deal to me even if it sounds silly. i felt betrayed and like id been backed into a corner because it was so vehmently something i DIDNT WANT that to feel like i had to do it anyway for my own mental health??? that sucks. so even though ive 'fixed' the problem, im still kind of reeling and uncomfortable every time i come on tumblr. i hope it's just something i need time to ease because i'll truly be devastated if this becomes 'ruined' for me. tumblr exists as the only place in the world where i am honestly every facet of myself without shame or hesitation; losing that would be insanely harmful to me. and to the people who cant appeal to the actual human behind the post, let me put that in words you can understand: we wouldn't get any more writing 😦😦😦 riots and fires and sirens, i know. so yeah. to anyone who has sent me an anon ask and you're now wondering if you were part of the problem, im firmly of the belief that you'll know if you are. when i say 'weird asks' i dont mean 'you sent me a para about your personal life just to vent or ask for advice' or 'you sent me a really deep emotional compliment about the impact me and/or my writing has had on you' - i love asks like that, so much that i put off taking a break and turning off anon solely for the joy they bring me. im sorry that it might feel like you're being punished too bc of the actions of what in reality is a HANDFUL of weird people, but this is what i feel like i have to do to feel safe and not go insane every time i log in. love you guys, hopefully ill see you soon x

#seriously another shout out to my mutuals #id particularly like to say thank you to boom who's always right there for me no matter what's happening or how insane im being #and also everyone in our little discord that wound up having to make a whole new channel for venting #bc i was there so often like 'today's weird ask isssss.... telling me about my cupsize!! rip them to shreds!!!' #hannah and theo especially being there and pushing me to finally turn off anon. war is truly over #and of course rori bc the shamelessness u show when hating on my anon asks has been genuinely really cathartic #sometimes u really do just need a rottweiler mutual to tell random people online to kill themselves 😭 #okay weird oscar acceptance speechcore gratitude over. i do just rlly love my mutuals #like i went three years not telling anyone about the worse side of internet popularity for fear of looking spoiled and ungrateful #so for the first time to open up about it and be met with outrage on my behalf and people saying in fact it's MORE fucked up #than i initially realised bc ive grown desensitised to it is. yeah cathartic i guess #they are singlehandedly reassuring me of the good this cursed app still holds #so everyone thank them and send them flowers NOW #okay im done i think. see you guys soon. i truly do want to come back asap bc like i said i NEVER EVEN WANTED TO FUCKING LEAVE #SOME ASSHOLES JUST HAD TO PUT GRENADES ON WHAT I ASSUMED WERE VERY UNIVERSAL AND OBVIOUS BOUNDARIES #if you're reading this like 'ohhh fuck i defo sent something invasive lately. i thought it was a joke/we were friends' #then 1) we arent friends if you're on anon. it immediately creates a power imbalance where you know me and any necessary context #but i have no idea who you are or how much you know about me. that's already a fucked dynamic #and 2) I HOPE YOU FEEL BAD. LIKE GENUINELY I HOPE YOU FEEL AWFUL AND HAVE A GOOD LONG LOOK AT YOURSELF #okay i think that's all. ta-ra lads??? how tf do u end something like this #ive queued this to reblog a couple more times throughout the day

[drdemonprince]

like, i think what's happening is that plenty of people do find something approaching egalitarianism to be plenty erotic enough, but not everyone, because well a lot of us have very big gendered power dynamic baggage (among other fun insecurities that we also eroticize! cool!) but natalie experiences love as this engulfing, life ruining forbidden thing for UM A LOT OF REASONS THAT WE AS HER VIEWERS ALREADY KINDA KNOW hii, and so in making sense of other people's sexualities and romantic lives she mistakenly assumes that everybody goes that lana del rey for people but it turns out only some of us crazy bitches seem to

#then again maybe i am underestimating the craziness of my fellow humans but i think a lot of people seem to be pretty normal with it #not with their sexuality but with their romantic boundaries and with not longing to completely subsume themselves in a partner #its just me natalie grimes lana and taylor swift and hannibal just hanging out on the crazy girl life raft #oh and revolver ocelot #and we're having a big party for my birthday. maybe shadow the hedgehog is there #like imagine if natalie wynn were to try and tackle a video about polyamory #i would be very surprised if she is not constitutionally very monogamous w how she talks about it #which again as a virgin suicides puff bar lolita deadjournal dot com toxic person same honey but again i think thats not universal #surprisingly large numbers of people do not develop an opium addiction for a year after a girl doesnt want to date them. but me. I GET IT.

[stealingpotatoes]

Is it weird to go through someone's blog and start drawing like them?My art style now looks alot like yours and im not sure if it is plagiarism or not

i know i already made an ask, sry if this is anoying

art style plagiarism is a very messy concept lol. like on one hand, you can't really "steal" a style. artists don't exactly go round copyrighting their artstyles because like-- how would you even do that lmao!! all art is about stealing at least a LITTLE bit!! if you want to get good at art, you have to use references, you have to do studies, and you have to be inspired by other artists. i mean my no.1 "find your artstyle advice" is literally take bits of your favourite artists' styles and smash them together like an artistic frankenstein and see how things go!! so like its not necessarily weird, its necessarily a part of drawing!

but the thing is, art's all about creative and polite thievery. my advice is always frankensteining artstyles bc just copying your fave's artstyle 1:1 is a little rude and EVEN WORSE it's boring and uncreative!!! which are quite frankly the worst two adjectives you can use against art!!

TLDR; it's absolutely fine to take inspiration from other artists and ok if your style swerves towards theirs, but just make sure you don't copy their style exactly lol -- always be adding something new!!!

#the reason art teachers complain when kids only draw in anime style isn't bc its not a valid way of drawing #it's because the kids aren't trying to be independent abt it and theyre locking themselves into one line of thought #if youre constantly trying to fit everything into someone else's style with super hard boundaries then you won't get creative enough #dont get stuck!! go INSANE!!! be inspired BY EVERYTHING!!! #thanks for the ask!

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

like i see people say stuff like “rei is a deconstruction of the idea of like the perfect girl in a male gaze-y way” and and i'm ready to agree until they go “it’s because she’s creepy and weird and bad!” like no. rei's a deconstruction of misogynistic ideas of womanhood because they’re ideals forced upon her that damage her, not because she’s in any way “creepy”. like, the fact she’s a fourteen year old girl who was basically used as a substitute wife by her father bc she looked like his own dead wife is not something that is meant to make rei look bad like holy shit.

like both rei and asuka are very obviously like. showing fantasised and misogynistic ideas of an idealised woman don’t work irl yeah. shinji's misogynistic view of them is wrong. but that’s not because rei and asuka are bad people it’s because like. “fourteen year old who's flirty and seductive” and “fourteen year old who's a quiet obedient object” are major signs of abuse and trauma and anyone actually acting in those ways at that age clearly isn’t normal. asuka is desperate for attention in any way she can get it, even unhealthy and dangerous ways. rei is at the very least I has a weird pseudo-incestous enmeshment filled abusive relationship with her father, even if she's not actively being sexually abused. asuka is seeking support, rei is a grooming victim. these are not things that are flaws in their character the entire point of subverting the expectations is to show how those expectations are unhealthy to rei and asuka like. god.

#like. negative fucking media literacy. #like. rei and asuka show signs of abuse in ways very normal for teenagers #every one of the Children in Evangelion is a victim and they react in messy ways #the point of that isn’t to show that they themselves are bad. it’s to show how trauma fucks you up #like none of them are bad people! they do fucked up shit bc it’s normalised to them! #people will just centre rei and asuka’s trauma around shinji and then call the show misogynistic for that like. #woah pal. there’s issues in the show yeah but i think that’s more an issue on your end buckaroo. #like their trauma interacts with him. and his trauma interacts with them. bc the show is literally about human's influences on each other #like the human instrumentality project isn’t there to just be funny it’s a thematic conclusion??? #and also like. it’s comparing and contrasting all threes trauma to understand exactly how they got shaped the way they are. #just. think about the show you’re watching. please. #rei isn’t creepy she’s a schizophrenic abuse victim who's probably done the least screwed up shit out of the main cast #shinji isn’t a loser he's a heavily mentally ill young boy cracking under the pressure of toxic masculinity and having his boundaries erode #until he's unable to even respect the boundaries of others and recreates his trauma for a desperate attempt at control #asuka isn’t like. okay i mean she IS a bitch but literally so is every thirteen year old ok. #and it’s bc she fucking despises the vulnerability being kind shows. she despises herself and is overcompensating bc she’s scared and 13 #like. god.

[pixeljade]

Adding "DNI if you respect DNIs" to my blog to break every single chronically online zoomer

#DNI lists are dumb as fuck and i will die on this hill #half the time theyre full of labels that people wont normally think of themselves as #“dni if racist!” okay. point to me the racist who both views themselves as a racist AND respects boundaries? they dont exist! #anyways. if i ever have a real DNI list shoot me because thats a doppelganger not me

[the-crimson]

(All talk about the characters not the ccs)

I’m finally watching bbh’s June 19th stream (day after Father’s Day) and he’s talking about removing everyone’s access to his base. I’ve seen people talking about how this could cause problems and lose him Forever and Bagerah’s trust but I think people - including Forever and Bagerah - are forgetting a crucial fact

Bbh is a single parent and has been from the start.

He has to be incredibly paranoid to keep Dapper safe. His paranoia is the only reason Dapper -and many of the other eggs - are still alive.

He can’t rely on other people to keep Dapper safe. He can’t tell Dapper to go live with another parent if his house is compromised. That’s why he has five different houses and keeps building more when too many people gain access.

I don’t think Forever or Bagerah have a right to complain about this considering they have 3/4 other parents/houses to keep their egg safe. They have a family structure that allows them a sense of safety that bbh has NEVER had.

Like yea, I understand why they would feel betrayed but from an objective pov, they have zero ground to stand on to protest because they have NO idea what bbh has gone through raising dapper alone, how could they? They have always had 3/4 other parents at their beck and call.

Trust doesn’t mean letting someone run rampantly through your house/safe space just because they feel entitled to it. Trust means having faith that if bbh is closing off his/Dapper’s house to you, he has a legitimate reason that doesn’t have anything to do with you personally.

Bbh has done so much for team friendship and taken down so many of his walls and boundaries for them that the fact THEY don’t have faith in him makes me sad. I trust team friendship and the q-ommunication smp to work everything out but I just hope Bagerah and Forever come to respect bbh’s boundaries a bit more :D

#qsmp #crimson speaks #team friendship #constantly having to prove to people they can trust you #by letting them stomp all over ur boundaries #is not healthy or sustainable #bbh has given forever and Bagerah sooooo much trust #they need to have trust and faith in him too #give him is space #please XD #when ever they demand and guilt him into giving out the waystone and door access in previous streams #it makes me super uncomfy XD #I know it’s not intentional and they all have trust issues to a degree #it just reminds of of irl ‘friends’ that demanded things of me to prove my friendship #a huge part of healthy relationships is allowing people to keep parts of themselves secret #bearing your entire soul because someone asks you to prove your friendship is very toxic #friendship is about trust and trust means having faith #that everything they choose to disclose or not is done so with reason #idk maybe I’m just jaded XD #I know they’ll all work it out tho #I have faith #XD

[stellaluna33]

I'm sure some of the "it's inappropriate and weird for adults to have any interactions with minors at all!" people have good intentions, but sometimes I really do wonder if some of them say this because they just don't like the idea of having to think about what they say or do to other people, haha. And like, ok, if that's how you're approaching human interactions, maybe you (personally) SHOULDN'T be making friends with minors! But also, maybe your interactions with other adults aren't as "ok" as you think they are either?! If you truly think that it's "impossible" to be friends with a kid without "exploiting the power imbalance," that doesn't give me a lot of confidence that you're not trying to exploit other people in your life but think that's ok because they're your "equals." Are "adults" just people you can be a creepy jerk to without getting in trouble for it?

I know that no one likes being told that they can't just do whatever they feel like whenever they feel like doing it, but interacting with other human beings healthily requires thinking about how your words and actions might affect other people, whether they're "minors" or not. So sorry, I guess! 🙄

#Like YEAH interacting with minors requires that you be kind and respectful of appropriate boundaries #But ideally you should be treating EVERYONE like that anyway!! #😅 #It bothers me for the same reason the 'all men are Animals' people bother me #Because you're just giving bad people excuses to not control themselves you know?! #There are TONS of people who are perfectly capable of not being creepy and weird and predatory just fine! #There is no excuse for you!!! You're just a jerk!!! #😠

[simplydnp]

oooh my god why would they do that. they could have just. not posted shirtless stories. thank you for answering my question i will be thinking about this.

great question. they love riling us up. always have.

thank you and curse you anon for revealing my trash history 😔 all a girl has is her fake reputation on dnp tumblr. there is absolutely no way you could ever guess this information has been seared into my brain (<- says the girl who's reputation is spouting off specific and detailed moments from their past and waxing poetic about it in her own posts and the tags of others')

#genuinely thank u anon this was fun. i always love giving people new dnp things to freak out about #more sappy reason they did it: this was the pushing the boundaries era. the testing the waters era. the boiling the frogs era. #as dan would throw me out the window for: the soft launch era. it's not the beginning of it and it certainly isnt the end #but its an important stepping stone in the story. its 2 insta stories #after they did post multiple that day. and its really Nothing. but theres a Lot of implications. #and it's one of the first signs of those implications being very. intentional. cause they are all too aware of themselves #and how they present themselves to us. especially then. so it was some sort of strategic. i dont think they planned and schemed it out obvs #but i do think there was a Moment. about it. where its like okay we're doing this. and we go from there. #<- didnt i tell you i was sappy #dnp #c.text #dan and phil #answered

[drumlincountry]

Every ✌️🏳️‍🌈💖queer vocab as gaeilge 💖🏳️‍🌈✌️ infographic I see has like aerach, maybe ait, and then the same list of terms that were directly translated from English by USI in like 2016. Cowards. Tell me the slurs.

#There's a serious conversation to be had about how terms for queer experiences can't be clearly translated across cultural and linguistic #Boundaries. B/c like. How does each culture define gender transgression? #What's a deviant sexuality? It depends on what the culture defines as normal #And EXTREMELY IMPORTANTLY FOR PPL WRITING THESE VOCAB LISTS #just importing English terms makes it seem like queerness is foreign and like. That Ireland didn't have queers #Until the Brits told us what bisexual and transgender were #So while I understand ppls discomfort with inclusing slurs. Well. They're proof that we've always been here. #I'm infinitely interested in the fact that dyke I.e. pejorative term for lesbian is the same as the verb to complain #That at least one person I know got called 'pale/white boy' growing up. Like that was how kids would call each other gay insultingly #And that 'queer ' is best embodied by words meaning strange and crooked #I want to know what queer Irish speakers called themselves!! I want to know how they were understood by their communities #Even when it was negative ! #I wanna know all the slurs and idioms and double entendres. Idc about leispiach #Unless! That was a term that was used! In that case i want to know the hows and wheres very badly pls!!! #queer tag #irish language #An ghaeilge #gaeilge #Irish shit #Gotta say trasinscneach is adorable tho :-) tras!

[everythingloveandanimated]

Murtagh teaching his and Nasuada’s kids about wards.

Son: do we have wards?

Murtagh: yes, I put them on you and your sister when you were born.

Daughter: We’re safe from everything?

Murtagh: you are protected from weapons and poison

Son: So, if I jumped off my balcony, would my wards protect me?

Murtagh:(minor regret) please don’t try that.

Son: What if you were below me and you caught me with magic?

Murtagh: I would not allow that in the first place, if you did jump without me knowing I’d have to stop you from falling in midair.

(Conversation continues, Murtagh making a list of things to put on his kids)

Thorn: (chuckling) Hatchlings when they try flying for the first time.

Murtagh: (hands running down his face) Please don’t encourage him. (Thinking) I love them but I am regretting having them.

#murtagh #inheritance cycle #murtada family #when your kids start making you panic at their potential antics #murtagh regretting his life’s choices #he is ride or die for his children but holds himself responsible when they become a danger to themselves #his kids love him and they trust him with all their hearts… #But sometimes they like to push the boundaries of daddy’s magic