#aspec mom

[thefrogginbullfish]

Happy Mother's Day 🌈

#my art #mothers day #queer mom #lesbian mom #trans mom #aspec mom #lgbt mom #lgbt #queer #lgbtqia #trans #nonbinary #lesbian #bisexual #pansexual #polyamorous #ace #aro #lgbt art #lgbt ally #lgbt pride #lgbt mother

[starchild--27]

my mom: you know, i won't mind who you'll end up with, boy or girl or anything else. <3

me: yeah, i know you won't mind. <3

my mom: except for when you'll end with no one at all. <3

my recently as aspec-identifying ass: ... ._.

#THERE IS NO WAY TO DO IT RIGHT IS THERE- #i know my mom is trying to be openminded about this all #but not open-minded enough to know about the ace/aro spectrum :') #which... fatality for me aceflux/demisexual maybe even demiromantic mess... #random starchild noises #ace #asexuality #acespec #aspec

[feelingthedisaster]

where are all my people (closeted aroace girls whose parents think they are a lesbian bc they lack interest in men)?

#my mom casually says stuff in like “i support homosexuals” and then she looks at me like she looks looks at me #i am like #🧍‍♀️ #sorry wrong tree #i wont come out to her tho #thingsis of being aroace and having a physchologist mom in a country that still thinks of asexuality/aromanticism as a mental ilness #maybe she learnt about it on college #so no coming out soon #(praying she doesnt found my “secret” social medias bc im openly aroace on them) #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #arospec #acespec #aromantic asexual #aro problems #aromantic problems #asexual problems #ace problems #aroace problems #lesbian #lgbtqia+

[nerdiwolverine]

I was talking with my mom about my aunt and she mentioned how my aunt hasn't had/doesn't have any romantic or sexual attraction to anyone and I was just like "👀 what"

Guys I think my aunt is aro ace

#my mom also said that my aunt is the most asexual person shes ever met and Im taking that as a challenge #im also confused as to how my mom knows what asexuality is but thats not what Im focused on #ive always had a hunch that my aunt is aspec but this just confirms it #asexual #asexuality #aspec #aromantic #aromantism #arospec #aroace

[punkeropercyjackson]

The reduction of Stephanie Brown down to being just a white blonde girl needs to end.That was never all she was,even back in the Robin 1993 days-Did most of her charactet revolve around Tim at first?Yes but he was literally the protagonist and she was the love interest so it was necessary to make them a big part of eachother's lives to make their romance make sense and she gets more and more fleshed out as the run goes on and this extends to her 90s Yj guest starring,her Detective Comics issues and all the Batgirl runs up until to the point where SHE HERSELF became Batgirl because that's how much of her own character she was by then.You cannot seriously call yourself a Stephanie stan if you read all those years of her life and came to the conclusion that the only important part of her character is her having a 'desirable' hair color by white standards

Stephanie Brown has anger issues and violent tendencies and self-worth issues that she tries her best cope with through presenting herself as having unflincing self-confidence that eventually became real to an extent and the reason for all of this is that she grew up with an abusive dad and a drug addict mom yet she was brave and capable enough to stand up to him by becoming a vigilante at 15 without even having powers or special training and ended up being one of the best Gotham's ever seen anyway.She loves all kinds of food,anything and everything purple and girly,weird things,sports,video games,causing chaos and art.She's a shameless flirt but that dosen't mean she goes for just anyone because she has standards for herself and she refuses to give up on anyone but especially herself even if she wants to sometimes and she got murdered as Robin but Gotham ressurected her because it believed in HER too(Idc about the 'was just in Africa' shit DC tried to pull,that's what actually makes sense with the actual lore)and she's so kind to kids that it blurrs the line between big sister figure and pseudo-mom

And yet nonstop,the Batfam fandom can't look past her hair color-It's always 'the blonde Robin' instead of the girl one,making her listen to fucking Taylor Swift as if she's a not huge feminist both in-universe and in a meta sense,calling her an 'It Girl' and 'Preppy' as if she wasn't either a normal student or a troubled kid depending on the writer and sometimes even both and weird as fuck in literally all her incarnations,reducing Tim's pure and well-intended love for her down to her being conventially attractive and even Cass can't escape it because white wlw can't understand that Stephanie and her are canonically equals on every level so they see her as nothing but Stephanie's woc cheerleader gf who has no existense outside of her

Steph's not written like a soulless Barbie doll with no personality or arcs outside of being a girl,she's multilayered and written like a PERSON.You guys are straight up somehow even more misogynistic to her than DC is and i am NOT going to keep my mouth shut while y'all call removing her entire character to make her a cishet gender stereotyped fantasy 'girlbossing' and especially not canon.This is why i give her black hair and brown eyes in my blasian design for her even though it makes her less recognizable because not only do i want her to actually look like me since half the reason i have that hc for her is that i'm black mixed and she's so much like me in so many ways but also because y'all's obsession with acting like blondeness is a personality trait is weird,gross and deeply unserious.Aaaaaand end rant

#stephanie brown #pro stephanie brown #blasian stephanie brown #trans stephanie brown #autistic stephanie brown #big sister friend stephanie brown #team mom stephanie brown #pastel punk stephanie brown #skater girl stephanie brown #pan stephanie brown #aspec stephanie brown #tim drake #timsteph #tim drake deserves better #pro timsteph #cassandra cain #pro cassandra cain #stephcass #pro stephcass #t4t stephcass #batfam #young justice #dead sidekicks force #the unbreakables #honorary anomalies #mermaid shifter!stephanie #blondephobia #misogyny cw #summerposting #anti taylor swift

[maxandhisdelusions]

My mom just said she envisioned me finding love (a partner) this year...

Uhm... How do I... Explain...

#laughs in aroace #mom pls #aromantic #aroace #asexual #aspec

[pinkfestivalpeanuttree]

AROMANTIC MUG???? AT MY HOMEGOODS??!

#ARO JUMPSCARE #i would love to buy it but i'm with my mom and i'm not out to her 😭 #this feels like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity though #aromantic #aro #aspec #epilogue speaks #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia+ #aspec stuff i find while shopping

[scaramarii]

psst i made my keychain gay

#aromantic #aspec #lgbtq #i dont remember where i got it #all i know is that i pointed it out to my mom and she let me get it #posca markers are useful for making things gay #i know from experience #oh and the top of it is gonna have the agender flag #i just have to wait for the base coat to dry #thanksgiving break caused some self discovery lol

[aroaceqoutes]

That aspec moment when you hear club music in a movie

#aromantic #aroace #asexual #aspec #aro #aromanticism #ace #mom im scared

[space-aroace-reader]

My mom was telling me and my sister (we're both closeted aroace) that we shouldn't be pressured to have a romantic relationship now because other people have it and peerpressure and stuff...

And she said that she had her first boyfriend (our dad) when she was 27 and that she was late with dating and stuff and her sister who is 5 years younger had a boyfriend before her...

And she said that her parents were already wondering if there was something wrong with her because she didn't have a boyfriend before...

But she also said if we get a boyfriend that we shouldn't leave our friends cause the friendship is more important then the boyfriend.

#aro #aromantic asexual #aromantic spectrum #arospec #aroace #aromantic #acespec #amatonormativity #aro spec #valentines day is stupid #why hasnt my mom realised i dont want a relationship and im aroace?!?! #asexual #ace #is my mom aspec or is she just a late bloomer!?!?

[mars-ipan]

talking to my mom is such a blast. meeting of the minds

#marzi speaks #pseudosexuality moment #<- for what the tags shall entail #it’s great we both engage in good faith share our perspectives #and then we both come out of it having learned something new #and it rules!! #we had a really good discussion about kink and sex tonight #and we talked about negotiation and sex positivity and the specific things we liked and didn’t like #and how important it is to communicate that with a partner #and how all of this ties into being acespec #i even explained pseudosexuality to her! and she seemed to get it pretty well! about as well as i do anyways lmao #and then i mentioned my kmda crush bc he’s a good example of it being easier for aspecs in some cases to be attracted to fiction #to which she was like ‘that makes sense- it’s like fantasy’ #anyways i was trying to explain why i liked him to her. and i was like ‘ok kmda. my mom grew up in the 80s. kmda. 80s. what connection. OH’ #and i said he had the JD appeal and my mom went ‘ah gotcha mkay’ #eventually the discussion turned into how stories like heathers are being simplified and reduced for the sake of remakes #and that was also a really good convo #but i really enjoyed talking about kink stuff with my mom. we bonded :] #also it was cool to see where we differed. some things i was like Yes about she was like Absolutely Not about and vice versa #it was also fun to see where we had similarities. rope bunny solidarity 🤝 it’s the GAD lmao #anyways i love talking to her. she’s so smart and when she sees something she doesn’t understand she doesn’t judge it or shy away from it #she just asks for clarification and tries her best to understand and contribute to the conversation #and usually we both end up learning from each other!!! it’s so cool #also a lot of my friends (at least that i regularly see irl) are not nearly as freaky as me so i rarely get to talk kink with ppl #so it was nice to just get to have that conversation

[maya-chirps]

Being aromantic is tough, especially in a love-obsessed society and culture, but I feel so grateful to have lucked out with my mom.

I mean, yeah, she still says things like "You'll never know..." but she says it in a less adamant way that definitely doesn't imply that she doesn't believe me when I say it to her. I overheard her talking with my aunt saying that she was glad that I wasn't interested in relationships and both of them seem so understanding of me being aro.

She sometimes just randomly tells me stories of relatives and friends she had that lived fulfilling single lives in order to cheer me up when I lament amatonormativity and loneliness, and perks up whenever she hears real people who share my experience too!

Recently, I've noticed that she likes telling me about characters in the shows she watches that she thinks I'd relate to, and excitedly tells me when a character comes out as ace or aro or aroace.

Just- I'm so lucky to have my mom.

#mayastuff #lgbtqia+ #aro #aromantic #arospec #aspec #aro positivity #actually aro #actually aromantic #aro experience #this is definitely a mom appreciation post btw

[just-trying-my-best-everyday]

Okay, I have a doubt, help me out here:

#look at me mom i'm conducting an experiment #rb for bigger sample size #katniss everdeen #aroace katniss everdeen #everlark #the hunger games #lgbtq #asexual #aromantic #aspec #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #aspec community #aspec katniss everdeen

[dogs-in-a-trenchcoat]

Can't believe I'm still stumbling across exclus in fuckin 2023 im so tired.

#No cops at pride includes exclus (and terfs) #Like who made you the queer police shut the fuck up #Identities aren't toys #People will identify themselves where they belong #Some aspec folks won't identify as queer and that doesn't invalidate those that do #It feels like the diagram of queer folk who accuse others of wrongfully identifying as queer for social cred or whatever #And people who want being queer to be some cool kids club by excluding the people they don't like is a circle #Like it's all fucking projection #You don't know others experiences! You don't know why someone comes to the conclusions they do about their identity and you don't need to! #Like I'm sorry that when I came out as ace my mom called me a sociopath and when I came out as lesbian she said 'oh thank god' #But that's just how it was for me #If being marginalzied/discriminated/hated is the only qualifier for being queer i would literally only qualify on basis of being ace #Because nobody has ever given me any shit about being a butch lesbian #But I have been singled out for being ace I have been called sub human for being ace I have been called mentally ill for being ace #I have had people encourage corrective rape for my asexuality I have had people tell me to get medical intervention for being asexual #But it's a good thing the only qualifier for being queer is to have an identity that falls outside cishetero social norms #Otherwise I wouldn't be allowed to identify as queer as a lesbian if I suddenly wasn't ace anymore until I got hatecrimed oh no

[missmitchieg]

It's the fact that Nick and Imogen are in year 11, been friends since year 7, so a few years, they hang out every morning according to Imogen, and she's referred to as "this girl" by both Nick and Sarah and she'd never met Nellie until after her dog (I think Nick didn't know about) died, but he'd known Charlie for all of two months before inviting him over to meet his Nellie and Sarah and he's "Char" and "a lovely boy" to Nick and Sarah for me.

#honestly he introduced Charlie to his dog and his mom how did he not realize he /liked/ Charlie #like even Charlie had a suspicion that Nick liked him #anyway Imogen's a lovely kid so petition for she they aspec lesbian Imogen joining the Paris Squad in s2 #heartstopper #nick nelson

[theclosetedskeleton]

Fighting demons not to check the gilmore girls tag rn but IM GOING to get spoilers if i do

#HGUSJS) #sorry guys me when this show is all of a sudden running around in my mind #fun fact i think my mom has watched the show like. 4 times #she knows like all the episodes 🤨🤔 #anyways back on track here all of the characters are relatively silly/pos #minus one or two people #guys luke is so silly he is so aspec coded to me (MAJOR projecting) #me when i realize that majority of my favorite characters in todays times would be like. 50-60 GIRL HELPPPP #THIS IS OITSIDE OF GILMORE GIRLS LIKE. THE DARK HALF AND DNEEDFUL THINGS BY STEPHEN KING #i do NOT care in my eyes they are my silly fav characters ^_^ #lemme think of some other silly fav characters of mine in gilmore girls hmmmm #LORELAI HAS TO BE ONE OF THEM #uhhmmm #sookie probably and also michel & #paris (sorta) & rory #many others but im forgetting #but my main fav is probably luke GRAHH 💯💯🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥 #i dont really care for the love interests in the show #and i kinda dont like emily #idk shes just hmm #she is sometimes a jumpscare one scene she showed up out of the blue and i almost jumped out of my seat HELP #over exaggerating but #WAIT ALSO ON THE FAV CHARACTERS LIST lane is also one of them #okay i need to quit the rambling im gonna run out of tags #closet rambles again on tumblr