#aspec inclusion

[degengxrl]

aspecs on valentines day trying their best to make it abt us god i love this community

🖤🩶🤍💜 (asexual)

💚🤍🩶🖤 (aromantic)

🧡💛🩷🩵🖤 (atertiary)

even tho im a traitor /j (i have a partner)

#aspec #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aromantism #ace #aro #aplatonic #aplatonicism #apl #atertiary #afamilial #asocial #aspec inclusion #aroallo #alloace #aroace #all of us #estrogendyking

[sniper-but-gayer]

Shoutout to all the aroace folk who feel left out. To the asexual people who wish they could just enjoy it like everyone else, even if it grosses them out. To the aromantic people who want to be loved closely so much, but they are only wanted to be close to if its romantic. The aspec people who are so confused with their attraction it just makes them want to cry.

The aro people who want adventures and cuddles and just a few people they can spend the rest of their lives with. Aro people who are scared to love the way they want to, because either someone will fall for them or take it the wrong way.

The ace people who have a libido, but it feels wrong when someone else is involved, so they feel broken. The ace people who want a romantic relationship, but not a sexual one.

To the aspec kids who were told "You're still figuring it out", "you're just a kid", "its a phase", or "you just haven't met the right one yet".

The aspec people who just want to be loved, and think no one will ever love them the way they want to be loved.

To the entire aspec community. Since we are always left out. Even though we aren't broken.

Because, yeah. Me too.

#pride month #aroace #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #aro inclusion #ace inclusion #aroace inclusion #aroace pride #ace pride #aro pride #aspec inclusion #aspec pride

[amalgamezz]

things that allos do that make aspecs accuse them of being aphobic:

mocking their labels and vocab

invalidating their existence

trivializing their experience

excluding them from the queer community

comparing them to paedophiles and MAP groups

comparing them to their oppressors

things that aspecs do that make allos accuse them of being homophobic/queerphobic:

existing

talking about their personal experience and headcanons

expressing their wish to be included in the queer community

#aphobia #aromantic #actually aromantic #asexual #actually asexual #the number of people accusing us of being queerphobic is wild lmfao #we r literally just existing #aspec communities r literally the most inclusive and anti-terf groups in the community. tbh idk wtf r yall even going at.

[codthefishgod]

To all the people who think aspec people aren't LGBTQIA+ because we aren't "discriminated against enough", here's a lovely list of reasons why you need to educate yourself:

- We suffer from dehumanisation, people actively devaluing or even erasing our humanity because of our identities (The voidpunk community is heavily supported by aspec people because of this)

- We suffer from self hatred due to feeling as if and being told we are broken, that no one can be happy unless they're in a romantic/sexual relationship, because of allonormativity and amatonormativity that actively damages our mental health

- Amatonormativity shapes laws that put us at an active disadvantage, such as giving married people financial and legal benefits

- Aspec people have been victims of conversion therapy, correctional rape, a lower quality of life, and other effects of being a marginalised and oppressed group

- We suffer from our identities being pathologised and deal with medical stigma because of this, causing many of us to feel unwelcome in and even avoid health care settings

- We suffer from our identities being erased, which can range from people completely denying our existence and people equating it to celibacy, to an almost complete absence of aspec representation in the media (It's been getting better lately, especially for alloaces and aroaces, but I have yet to ever see a canon aroallo character, and representation for those on the spectrum rather than in the extremes is often ignored)

- YOU are creating a hateful, exclusionary space in a community meant to be about inclusion. The same thing that happens to us happens to bisexual people, to polyamorous people, and other identities that are "disputed." In a community meant to be about rejecting the norm, YOU are shoving us out because we don't fit the norm of being LGBTQIA+. Because we're not enough like you.

These are only a few examples of aphobia that people like me deal with. Discrimination and oppression against aspec people stretches far beyond this.

But even if it didn't, it is disrespectful and harmful to everyone involved to gatekeep membership in the community based on oppression and discrimination.

We aren't LGBTQIA+ because we experience oppression. We are LGBTQIA+ because our existence alone goes against heteronormativity and other societal norms forced upon us.

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #aromantic #asexual #aromanticism #asexuality #ace #aro #aspec rights #aspec #aro pride #aroace #arospec #ace pride #ace rights #acespec #aro rights #this has been a psa #psa #information #important psa #aroaceprideispridetoo #we are enough #allonormativity #amatonormativity #discrimination #aspec discrimination #oppression #inclusion #educate yourself

[inkkkkss]

"Aro/aces aren't part of the lgbtq+ community , they don't face any oppression "

The LGBTQIA+ community is for people who deviate from the cishetnorm. Its for people that don't fit the image of liking the opposite gender sexually and romantically, while identifying as their AGAB.

Aros and aces don't fit into the ideal hetronormative identity therfore THEY ARE PART OF THE COMMUNITY

#aromantic #aro #aro pride #arospec #aromanitc #aromantic pride #aromanticism #aspec #aromantism #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqia community #aroace #asexual inclusion #asexuality #asexual

[theplasticdusk]

Have a very asexual 2023! 🐸

#ace pride #ace post #asexual #asexuality #ace memes #aspec #asexual representation #lgbtqia #aspec culture #asexual inclusion #new year #january 2023

[fallenrain40]

"aroace people can still have relationships-" NOT ALL OF THEM CAN. YOU KNOW THAT RIGHT. WHY DO YOU WORD IT AS "aroaces can still be in relationships" AND NOT "some can have relationships, and others cannot."? WHY MUST YOU INSIST THAT WE STILL CAN LOVE IN SOME WAY. WHY DOES IT MATTER. WHY SHOULD WE HAVE TO LOVE. WHY, WHEN TALKING ABOUT AROACES, DO YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO IMPLY THAT IT'S OUR OTHER WAYS OF LOVING THAT MAKES US ACCEPTABLE? WHY CAN'T THE FACT WE DON'T LOVE MAKE US GOOD PEOPLE? WHY IS THERE ALWAYS AN EMPHASIS ON THE OTHER WAYS WE LOVE, OR THE AROACES THAT CAN STILL DATE, AND NOT ON OUR LACK OF LOVE? IT FEELS TO ME, LIKE YOU ARE TRYING TO PUSH ASIDE THAT ASPECT OF OUR IDENTITY, BECUASE IT'S TOO STRANGE TO YOU. YOU MAY NOT SAY IT OUTLOUD, BUT THERE'S STILL A STIGMA AROUND LOVELESSNESS. IN YOUR MIND, YOU STILL ARE VIEWING LOVELESS PEOPLE AS LESS MORAL OR GOOD, AREN'T YOU? OTHERWISE, YOU WOULD CELEBRATE OUR LOVELESSNESS, NOT SHOVE IT ASIDE BECUASE "THERE ARE OTHER WAYS TO LOVE"

#sorry im just mad and probably having a low blood sugar honestly. #i just. #why is the world so unfair? #idk idk im just so annoyed #i KNOW aroace is a spectrum but THAT INCLUDES LOVELESS PEOPLE #STOP. EXCLUDING US. #aroace #loveless #loveless aroace #aplatonic #aplspec #afamilial #aspec #AND FOR YOU PEOPLE IN FANDOMS. #SHIPPING AROACE CHARACTERS. #YOU THINK WE ARE TOO BORING RIGHT. YOU CAN'T THINK OF ANYYYY OTHER PLOTLINES BESIDES SHIPPING. WOW YOU ARE JUST #SO INCLUSIVE OF AROACES RIGHT??? WOW SHIPPING AROACES MAKES YOU SOOOOOO INCLUSIVE OF THE AROACES THAT CAN DATE #ITS DEFINITELLYY NOT BECUASE YOU ARE APHOBIC NOOOOO #THATS WHY YOU ARENT MAKING WRITING CHARACTERS THAT ACTUALLY SHOW ATTRACTION AS AROACE. #MHM. #SURE. #YOU COULD WRITE CHARACTERS THAT DO SHOW ATTRACTION IN CANON TO BE ASPEC. #BUT NAHHHH..... LETS JUST TAKE THE ONE AROACE WHO DOESNT SHOW ATTRACTION AND SHIP THEM. #DEFINITELY NOT APHOBIC. AT ALL. NEVER. #/sarcasm

[ceresia-selestarr]

Yknow I think people should be able to label themselves however the fuck they want when it comes to sexuality/gender and that includes people who don’t want labels at all. If you see someone who labels themself a certain way, and your first thought is something along the lines of “They don’t fit the requirements of that label” instead of something like “Let me explore how they view themselves and how they label themselves in order to better understand why they want those labels, and how that overall fits into how they want to be perceived.”, then there’s something wrong.

These spaces don’t exist to exclude others, they don’t exist to tell someone they’re wrong, and they especially don’t exist to hurt others. Everyone has their own self identity, learn to respect it, because it isn’t that hard and it’s not gonna fuck up your life if someone goes against your preconceived ideas of how certain things should be. Acceptance doesn’t cost anything, but exclusivity and oppression does.

Let people be themselves, it really won’t hurt you.

#trangender #support #labels #acceptance #inclusion #lesbian #gay #nonbinary #asexual #aspec #aromantic #transmasc #transfem #demisexual #transexxual #graysexual #intersex #love #pansexual #bisexual #lgbtq community #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqiia+ #queer #queer community #transgender #positivity #trans pride

[fixing-bad-posts]

[Image description: A screenshot of someone's blog title, edited whiteout-poetry to read, "for the ace community." Beneath is the blog description, edited in a similar manner to read, "This blog is for aces, particularly in defense of aces. Also a blog for aces who want to express themselves and their sexuality. It's a blog saying you belong."]

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for the ace community

This blog is for aces, particularly in defense of aces. Also a blog for aces who want to express themselves and their sexuality. It's a blog saying you belong.

#fixingbadposts #fixing-bad-posts #whiteout poetry #asexuality #asexuality spectrum #asexual pride #asexual inclusion #asexual #aspec #ace inclusive #ace spectrum #ace pride #ace positivity #queer #queer inclusivity #queer inclusion

[pens-personal]

Y'know I identified as asexual for like, a WHILE before eventually realizing I wasn't, and honestly I regret nothing. I mean I was like 15/16 and Mormon (repressed exmo gang eyy✌️) so it's not like I'd be having sex anyway, I wasn't missing out on anything (and aces aren't "missing out" in general, they're doin their own thing and I love that). But in my case identifying the way I did allowed me to step back and just. Get in tune with my emotions and attractions and everything. I'd realized I liked girls at 13 and instantly I thought that meant I had to sexualize them, objectify them even. And that led to a lot of awkward interractions and feeling like shit about myself for being creepy (didn't help that I'm autistic and had trouble figuring out what was too much). So I really think I needed to be ace for a while. I needed that time to let myself desexualize love and attraction in my brain until I was in a place where I could express sexuality in a healthier way. In a similar way I think it was good that I went through so many gender and sexual/romantic orientation labels before settling on what I am now, because it allowed me to analyze why I identify this way and what it means to me. My identity is stronger and more solid because of the way I grappled with it throughout highschool, and I learned a whole lot about other communities along the way!

#asexual #ace #aspec #ace spec #trans #genderqueer #transgender #trans guy #bi #trans man #ftm #butch #bisexual #anyways aces we're homies. I care bout y'all 🖤🩶🤍💜 #(I originally said Love but then I remembered that a lotta aces are also aro and might not vibe with the concept of love 👍) #(we're inclusive of all aspecs on this blog. don't think I forgot about y'all aplatonics either. I care about you in whatever way ur comfy)

[degengxrl]

as an aroace if you tag an aros post ace just cuz you assume that theyre connected they can be but they dont necessarily have to be so fuck off with your derailing of aros posts plz thx arbitrary im gonna tag this both bc ummm… im aroace fuck you 🧡 💛 🤍 🩵 💙

#asexual #aromantic #stop tagging aroallos posts ace plz #fuck you if you do this #aspec #aspec inclusion #valentines day #aroace #estrogendyking

[prototypesteve]

Office.

“So, why do you work 100% at the office?”

Me: “Well, the nature of my work as a media person requires I have a lot of gear ready to set up for live events, plus there’s storage and bandwidth to… bla bla bla” 🎥📸🖥️

Real Me: “I look after a conservative baby boomer parent, and I haven’t come out to them, and I don’t even know if I can. I don’t want to accidentally out myself while on a call, but I also don’t want to bury that side of me now that I’m someone who can answer people’s questions.” 🏳️‍🌈♠️

(BTW, this isn’t a sad thing or anything. It’s just a practical problem. Honestly, if I were gay or bi, I could probably come out to my family, and they’d know how to process that very supportively. But asexual and aromantic—despite being around forever—only “culturally surfaced” recently. And to really “get” them, you need to re-assess most of what you know about sexuality, attraction, and romance. That’s a lot to drop on an older parent and a GenX sibling with their own baggage to sort out.)

#asexual #aromantic #aroace #coming out #aspec #inclusive workplaces

[entropy-sea-system]

Every time someone makes a comment about how inherently essential and vital friendship is, they owe aplatonics and nonfriending ppl $500

#aplphobia #aplmisia #platonormativity #apl #aplatonic #aspec #its not the progressive inclusive take you think it is #On account of not being true #It can be essential for some ppl but not for all ppl.. #nonfriending #nonfriending apl #nonfriending aplatonic #aplspec #actually aplatonic #aplatonic includes aplspecs who experience some platonic attraction too here

[demiaroacejolynekujo]

I find it so ironic when Exclusionists say that Ace and Aro people don't experience discrimination. But then, a second later, they will go on about how Ace/Aro people don't belong in the community, saying that they're just straight people trying to invade the community, and other discriminatory shit.

If you claim that we don't experience discrimination, then don't discriminate against us. Saying discriminatory stuff is just affirming our status in the community. Asexuality and Aromantism are marginalized identities because they don't align with society's ridged standards when it comes to sexuality.

Saying that Ace and Aro people don't experience discrimination is discrimination. Ace and Aro people don't have the privilege of not experiencing discrimination the same way straight people do. Some Ace and Aro people may suffer from straight passing privilege if they're in a straight passing relationship. But as a whole, they still face discrimination.

Exclusion must be eradicated from the Queer community. It's harmful and toxic and forces a lot of people to go back in the closet out of fear of facing rejection by their fellow Queers. As a result, those closeted Queer people will end up struggling with a lot of self-hatred and internalized Queerphobia. It also turns a blind eye on actual problems that face the community and ignores the real people who are invading the community like pedos who think liking children is a sexuality and straight allies who believe that have a pass because they support Queer people.

Exclusionists need to stop trying to exclude people from the community and need to stop making those people they want to exclude feel bad about identifying as a certain sexuality/gender identity. Instead, the community should support everyone who identifies with any good faith label and let those people express themselves without facing judgment and prejudice by their fellow community members.

#anti exclusionist #inclusionist #rad inclus #radical inclusion #asexual #aromantic #acespec #arospec #aroace #aspec #aphobia #queerphobia

[theplasticdusk]

I think us asexuals should partner up with climate change and marine ecosystem deterioration because everyone seems to claim that they care and then ignore us✌️

#ace pride #ace memes #ace post #asexual #asexuality #aroace #asexual representation #aroace positivity #aspec #aspec culture #asexual inclusion #coming out #lgbtqia #climate change #everyone is valid #lol

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

i cannot be the only one annoyed by the way “aroace” and “aro/ace” are frequently used as catchall terms for the aspec community when the word “aspec” is quite literally Right There

#aspec #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #like some of us are aroallo or alloace or non-sam or whatever #and there’s literally a perfectly good all-inclusive term that encompasses all of us! use it! 😭 #the conflating of aro and ace is kinda um… #don’t do that please and thank you #like ofc some people are both but not everyone is #my words