#and I love and support you

[acowardinmordor]

The glory of fanfiction is that anyone can create whatever story they want. They don't have to follow into the standards of literature. It's an entirely different genre and I love it. I will always defend someone's right to tell their story in whatever way they want.

However.

If the first third of a fic is high intensity, and the next third is suspenseful, its really annoying to me when the final third just tapers off with a sigh. It's your story. But oh my god please think about the arc of the story you're telling and check if its balanced. It upsets me so much. Please. I'll help. Send me a message. We'll chat. We can find a way tell your story without the plot whimpering to the end.

#aghhhhhh #Its your story #and I love and support you #but aggghhhhhhh #a story that is overall meh #is less upsetting to me #than one that builds up and looks like it'll be legendary #then trips on the finish line

[gibbearish]

love when ppl defend the aggressive monetization of the internet with "what, do you just expect it to be free and them not make a profit???" like. yeah that would be really nice actually i would love that:)! thanks for asking

#yes i want things to be free like ??? that is not a weird desire #'but but it costs money to keep up' ok and? how is that my problem #the government has plenty of murder dollars they could reallocate a few to make internet services universal if they wanted #also these companies were perfectly capable of supporting themselves before the internet got drowned with ads so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #edit: muting notifs on this post bc new additions have kind of petered out #so no one feel bad about adding something someone else has said‚ it is not bothering me im just trying to keep my #notifs page cleanish lol #also since i saw some people are being redirected to read my tags: firstly hiiiiii this is a special secret message for you:3 #secondly i have learned since making this that the reason they were able to support themselves previously was because #of investors bankrolling everything #and theyre now finally realizing that theyre never going to actually make a profit and arent as willing to invest #however thats just a minor correction and doesnt change my overall point #once again. so many murder dollars #so thats why im just adding it here in the tags rather than making an actual correction #anyways . love yall 💕 #origibberish #bigger gibbers

[talesandfluff]

average conversation with straight women

#bg3 #just so we're clear #straight women I love and support you #but you almost always deserve so much better ❤️

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[stilitrash]

The dynamic I never knew I wanted but definitely needed

#finn the human #simon petrikov #fionna and cake #finn mertens #adventure time #I love you #Finn but for the love of God STOP PUTTING THIS POOR OLD MAN IN DANGER HE HAS THE MENTAL AND PHYSICAL STRENGTH OF A BABY DUCK #I love how Simon just goes along with it even if it sounds like the worst idea ever #Finn is so warm and supportive and caring with Simon #I'm soft #he deals with the situation horribly but HE'S TRYING HIS BEST

[critterbitter]

The twins attempt reparations. Elesa is charmed by their wet emolga impressions and earnest earmuffs. She still can't understand their words very well but she can read between the lines of script.

A day after after this Unfortunate Sequence of Events!

For more submas content, feel free to hit up this masterpost.

#this is BEFORE emmet and ingo get their starters #and you can tell they are a bit uh. more bounce-off-the-walls because of it #anyways i support the sibling trio u can pry them from my cold dead hands #they reallly realllllly dug into their allowance. and under the couches. and in the sidewalks for enough coins to get the earmuffs #the earmuffs in turn are of subpar quality but elesa kind of loves them #they look like togekiss ears! thinking about them... #my little guys…. #pokemon #art #sketchbook #submas #myart #fanart #submas comic #nimbasa trio #emmet #ingo #elesa #pokemon ingo #pokemon emmet #pokemon elesa #comic #webcomic #ingo and emmet

[stil-lindigo]

warmth.

a comic about not being alone.

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#to all the trans men and women and anyone who feels like they have to stifle themselves for their own safety #may you never feel like youre alone in this #this comic is one of my more grounded ones #it just felt right to not try to decorate this one in a lot of symbolic fanfare #sometimes i have to go above and beyond to fit the vision. this felt right being pretty understated. #i really did my best with this one and i hope it shows #you all deserve so much joy and so much love from your partners in life #and i hope you like this and if you dont thats okay too #thats all #thank you for your support #and as always #thank you for reading #comic art #lgbtqia+ #queer comics #hearteaters #stillindigo art #stillindigo comics

[bababaka]

Yall need to interact with fanfiction author's more.

So. After the ddos attack on ao3.

I was encouraged to write more comments and make my love known to fanfic writers.

I dont really like commenting. Because im a bit shy and soooo lazy.

Now though. I am writing more comments. And dude. This is so heartwarming. Ya'll need to treat writers better. They are doing the lord's work.

Take for an example, couple of days prior, i was searching for something interesting to read, and found an oneshot quite compelling.

I read it. At the end of it, i was blown away by how good it was. It promised me something and it went beyond my expectations. But then i saw a crime, zero fucking comments!

At that moment, i wasn't feeling up to writing a comment. Because, normally i like to write huge paragraphs. But because im lazy i decided to be brief.

Next day, the author answered that the comment lift their mood for the whole day.

That warmed my heart.

Duuuuuuuude! Write comments! Suport the writers of the fics you like! No need to be something super elaborate. Just give your thoughts. Freak out. Ramble. Ask something. Make theories. Compliment. Make a joke about how you wished to give kudos every chapter but ao3 sucks(not true bby) and won't let you.

Truly. Just. Comment. It can make someone's day. And that is part of the apeal of writing fics. Interacting with people.

Just give love to fanfic writers yall. They deserve this and so much more.

#fanfiction writer #fanfic #ao3 #ramble #it was a naruto fanfic #a narusasusaku fic #also had another thing #i commented on my fav fic that hasnt been updated for a while #i didnt pressured the author to write #because you dont fucking do that >:( #but #just freaked out and talked about how much i loved their writing and the fic #two days later they updated the fic #and then told me i inspired them to finish the chapter #and that's what you're supposed to do! #interact with the author #the fic! #no need to pressure them into writing! #sometimes just words of love and support is enough! #be nice to your writers! #or im gonna smash some sense into yall

[somerandomdudelmao]

Heeeey @tapakah0

Happy birthday:D

#I want to say thank you #I'm not even sure for what #for your love and passion and care and energy and support #I think I want to thank you for your presense #for being here #you know #for existing #I'm so so happy we can exist together #happy birthday lil bunny #I wish I could hug you and pick you up and spin you in the air

[aimer-arts]

I think it'd be really funny if evolution happened naturally in the pmd universe instead of going to luminous spring

(I blame @fujii-draws for this)

#FUJI I have literally been thinking about this ever since you sent that ask #they are in love. that is all. #chatot supports them :^) #pmd #pmd2 #pokemon mystery dungeon #pmd eos #explorers of sky #eevee #vulpix #espeon #chatot #expect more art of them soon... >:)

[elitadream]

Reunion time! 😄💕

#I was SO happy to finally be back home that I immediately felt inspired to make a little something for the occasion 🥰 #No more prolonged absence - only good vibes 😌✨ #I have often entertained scenarios where Mario would be gone for a while #either going on a side mission or thoroughly exploring the realm to ensure its safety #each time returning a bit rough-looking and somewhat exhausted; but safe and content #Both Luigi and Peach would be there to greet him most enthusiastically upon his arrival 🤗 #It would be a blissful moment of relief and delight for the three of them everytime #The joy of being together once more would never fail to fill them with endless warmth and delight #It's a scene I've pictured countless times before #The whole concept lives in my head rent free 🥺💗 #And thanks to you guys and your AMAZING support I finally drew it! :D #I love them and I love YOU #Mario #Princess Peach #Mario x Peach #Mareach #Luigi #best bros #family #friendship #romance #group dynamic #Super Mario Bros #fanart

[caelanglang]

Happy Lunar New Year!

here's a lil comic of my skk little prince au i made a while back to greet you all :)) I hope your new year wishes come to fruition and that your year would be a blessed one <3

Anyways,,, new year shrine visit!

#I’m working on their reunion comic I promise #but yes this happened after their reunion in the hospital #i really hope the new year is kinder to us TT #thank you for all the support and love and for being so patient with me :)) #bsd #skk #bsd dazai #bsd chuuya #soukoku #little prince skk au #bungou stray dogs #my art #my comic #i am actually forgetting how to tag now waaa

[heejayy]

Dear black readers,

Don’t be afraid to write that fanfic . Regardless of the film, celebrity, book, show, character, sexuality, genre, or whether you think it's good or not write it! There isn't nearly enough fan fiction for us to appreciate or relate to as it is. We’re just as important as any other reader and if the fandom claims that the character would never be interested in a black person, and?! How the hell they know? There's a reason it’s called fan fiction... Don't be ashamed to write it because you fear nobody will read it, they will. It's important, in my opinion, that black readers be able to visualize themselves in the book. So write the story! 🫶🏾

- Ary 💜

#I love and support all of you! 🥰 #black reader #x black reader #jjk x black reader #jjk x poc!reader #enhypen x black reader #Harry Potter x black reader #twilight x black reader #aot x black reader #ask heejayy #shuri x black!fem reader #marvel imagine #anime imagines #gojo x black reader #kpop x black reader #jujutsu kaisen x black reader #heejayys thoughts 💭 #heejayys opinions #anime

[meru90]

let's end the year with a meme redraw :,^)

#csm #chainsaw man #aki hayawaka #fanart #meme redraw #thank youuuu all for the love and support this year !!! #ily alll #i was pretty art blocked this year so hopefully i'll can show all of my power soon again uwu #thanks for sticking around and if you are new here pls look forward for more crap like this <33

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things. #people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time. #but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized. #sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement. #this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex. #and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things #especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love. #our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!! #it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild.... #anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that. #silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff. #love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another #same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take #anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that. #kiss kiss (<— lovelessly) #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #talking #aroace #aspec #sex positivity

[pato-roldnart]

Some friendly Quidditch match for @hdwickedwixen zine :3

He caught the snitch!

#here they are!!!!1 #tha last pieces i did for the zine #once again #i don't know how i managed to draw the quidditch equipment #something must had possessed me idk #and if anyone still reads the tags #i wanted to thank you all for all the love and support #you make my day :3 #love you guys #drarry #drarry fanart #harry potter fanart #draco malfoy #pato's art