#all of them are valid

[evild3ad]

my humble Stardew Valley Spouse review, in birthday order 💜 I love my boywives & girlhusbands.

(edited to fix a typo in the graphic lol)

#dont call me an abigail hater shes my first wife ever i just dont have major thoughts #all of them are valid #Thank you to the tumblr user who caught my original typo you're a real one! #sdv #stardew valley #stardew bachelors #stardew bachelorettes #sdv haley #sdv harvey #sdv emily #sdv maru #sdv sam #sdv shane #sdv alex #sdv penny #sdv leah #sdv seb #sdv elliott

[montywithchildhoodtrauma]

The differences.

DCA fandom without SAMS: Wow! Eclipse in Ruin is awesome! hes so cute and wholesome I'm gonna love him forever!

Eclipse: aww you guys are so Sweet!

DCA fandom WITH SAMS: Yup Eclipse is greaat. Love him.

Ruin, yelling at a chair: DEATH BY TICKLES!

Ruin Eclipse stuck in his head: Someone help

Eclipse: I'm going to be an asshole the entire time i'm on this show, but when I actually want to help and protect the people I hurt no one believes me.

#the difference #sun and moon show #sun and moon show earth #sun and moon show Eclipse #dca fandom #fnaf ruin #the differences between these little scrimblows #All of them are valid

[luclovestruck]

In these last hours of TDOV I want to say that we need to be more cognizant of genders that are nontraditional, and of people who cannot or do not want to transition physically. Being transgender js about the feeling in your heart; how you customize your body is extra. So many trans people will use physical transition as health care and they need and deserve that care. But so many others do not have access to that care, or cannot receive that care because of health limitations, or do not feel the need to alter their body. There is no such thing as "trans enough", as "more" or "less" trans, or even of "real" or "not real" genders. Even the ones we consider a "fad" or "annoying" are an important part of the human right to self expression, something that all humans, cis and trans alike, deserve.

#like all of 'em are useful #all of them are valid #the very binary ones and the not-so-binary ones

[eternally--mortal]

So I’m a little late to the party on this one, and hopefully most of the drama is winding down, but I just wanted to put something out there:

Greek mythology has historically been a tool that poets used to comment on modern times. They took old stories and characters and twisted them to fit a new message. It’s a lot like how we write super hero comic books now: you take the same characters with similar settings and psychology, and you shift their stories to create either new situations or variants of the same old situations. If you look up some of the old Greek plays, like Agamemnon/Clytemnestra and the stories of their familial tragedies, or of characters like Medea, you’re going to find multiple versions of the same stories, written by different Greek and Roman poets. They’re similar, but they examine psychology and events somewhat differently. It’s one of the main reasons that the characterizations of the Greek gods vary so much.

I just want people to consider all of this when they watch the pjo tv show. Remember that it is In Line With Greek Mythology to take a known concept and known characters and turn them into something new, often to support a message that is relevant to our particular world at this moment —For instance, having a black female character rise above oppression as she fights to prove her worth in spite of growing up in a family and a society that disregard her as an inconvenience (only to learn that her worth doesn’t depend on the recognition of others—especially when those others are abusive gods—and that finding love and peace is about having people who will see you and love you for who you are).

#pjo #pjo tv series #pjo tv show #Annabeth chase #leah sava jeffries #Leah doesn’t need your permission to exist #just like Annabeth didn’t need her father’s permission #don’t be a Frederick #Greek mythology #these were the comic books of the past #it’s the reincarnation of literature #stories take on a new life #to be more applicable #to everyone #all of them are valid #percy jackon and the olympians #riordanverse

[cemetery-walks]

remakes my sona for the 50TH TIME

#sona #i still use the old design btw idk #this is like #they add onto eachother so #all of them are valid #point is if u wanna draw the old one to represent me thats valid too #they are all me I AM ONE BIG COMPUTER SYSTEM THEY ALL PLUG INTO

[indigonite]

There’s a lot you can learn about it, trust me

#sonic the hedgehog #shadow the hedgehog #sonic x shadow generations #sega trying to clean the sonic x shadow search of ship art #but just ended up validating all the sonadow shippers out there by naming a game after them #cant wait to play sonadow on my ps4 once it comes out #indigoniteart

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[productofmtwundagore]

🫢

#all media criticism is valid AS ALONG AS it is applied without bias #personally I find both peter and kamala endearing #if you hate either of them you may or may not be living a joyless life #but that’s just me! #the marvels #captain marvel #carol danvers #ms marvel #kamala khan #marvel #madeinwundagore

[slfcare]

2024 is about letting people care about and for you. it’s about answering ‘how are you’ with honesty, asking for space when needed, accepting help and being open to advice, listening to concerns and having difficult conversations. it’s about trying your very best to let go of the feeling that you’re completely alone, and finding ways to prove to yourself that you aren’t.

#‘proving to yourself’ because waiting for others to prove it to you is going to end up in disappointment #nobody will ever meet you in the exact way you want them to #but that doesn’t mean that they won’t meet you at all #learning to be a social being #positivity #positive #positive suggestions #positive thinking #suggestions #suggestion #comfort kindness family #self validation #self love #self care

[starrynightsoversunflowers]

The Magnus Archives 👁️ Part 1 • Part 2 • Part 3

here's my magnus playlist

Instagram

Jon • Martin • Tim and Sasha • Melanie • Basira • Daisy • Georgie • Gerry

Agnes • Helen and Michael • Oliver • Jane • Mike • Nikola • Annabelle • Gertrude

Elias • Peter • Simon • Julia and Trevor • Jude • Manuela • Not Sasha • Mary

#finally... all of them #please validate my playlist i'm very proud of it #the magnus archives #tma #the magnus archives fanart #tma fanart #tma art #jonathan sims #jon sims #jarchivist #martin blackwood #martin k blackwood #tim stoker #sasha james #melanie king #basira hussain #daisy tonner #georgie barker #gerard keay #gerry keay #tw scopophobia #digital art #digital drawing #fanart #artists on tumblr #rusty quill

[djarinslover]

I love that the Black Panther movies give us “villains” that aren’t really villains. They have valid points that they’re fighting for, they’re just misguided, blinded by rage and the urge for revenge against those who have hurt their ancestors (coughwhitepeoplecough)

#black panther spoilers #bpwf spoilers #black panther wakanda forever #black panther #wakanda forever #erik killmonger #namor #kinda anti heroes possibly #I agree with them #they have valid points #just went about it all wrong

[vasira96]

once upon a time there was a railroad line

the Fates

Hermes, Persephone

Orpheus and Eurydice

Hades

#check out my cast design #hadestown #vasira arts #long post #been on the road to hell myself making this project but at least it's finale coming together #i know i've posted these portraits already but i wanted them all together #bad posting hours but i crave validation

[turtleblogatlast]

I think a lot about Leo’s tendency to push his way into the spotlight despite clearly being a natural in the shadows. Hell, you could argue that his worst moments are when he’s forcing himself onstage, and his best are when he does things no one notices until it’s already been done.

#rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt leo #rottmnt headcanons #rise leo #His aptitude with subterfuge sleight of hand stealth and speed really push how being a ninja really comes naturally to him. #it’s arguable that his desperation for the spotlight and validation is an act of subterfuge against himself #note that when he’s offered a job as a mascot he’s fine being unknown #when he and splinter win the battle nexus Leo immediately says ‘they love YOU pops’ #idk I think so much about how good a ninja Leo is #and how much his persona is more an actor #Leo as a tot is shown a natural skill at katana too so hear me out- #every Leo is a natural ninja but every Leo’s route in life is directly tied to their splinter so #since rise splinter is an actor Leo too aims for it #and he brings it into his whole life - masking always because a Leo makes what they do who they are #I think that Leo naturally falls more in line with that of a typical ninja #his eccentric performer self is his subterfuge skill just set to an 11 at all times #not that that’s NOT him - like I said it’s still undoubtedly a part of Leo #but? idk I think about little moments like Leo being the only one to choose stealth in bug busters #or Leo being the only one to almost get Gus’s dog tags in The Ninja Art of Hide and Seek (he was so close but luck was against him alas) #like- he’s clearly in his element there and he falls into those skills so easily #it’s like how everyone has skills in so many things but some exceed more in some than others do #like Raph? Raph’s the biggest Hero of the bunch of them let’s be perfectly real here. Raph is THE Hero #All the boys are smart in their own rights but Donnie is THE Genius. #and they all have mystic powers but Mikey is THE Mystic Warrior with immense untapped potential #likewise Leo I feel is THE Ninja #but yeah I love how much Leo goes for the spotlight anyway for better or for worse #he IS a performer again make no mistake! but again the way he does it still lines up with his natural ninja aptitude and I love it #Leo loving magic tricks and magicians so much works doubly well here because like #you’d think he’s focused solely on the performance flair - no it’s ALSO and ESPECIALLY the DECEPTION

[triocat]

Terrible parents

#my art #murder drones #khan doorman #md khan #nori doorman #md nori #good ending #uzi validates them and they all hug it out #murder drones spoilers

[amaloaf]

dynamics shift

#good omens #my art #azirowley #azicrow #aziraphale #crowley #ineffable husbands #amazon good omens #good omens book #good omemes #gomens #all headcannons for them are good and valid #this is just my opinion #I love them so much

[dindjarindiaries]

No way people are actually mad that Hunter and Wrecker are cautious of Crosshair

#last they saw him he actively chose to stay w the empire that had tried to kill them all #like *we* know different but they don’t l #their reactions are totally valid #tbb hunter #tbb wrecker #tbb crosshair #the bad batch #the bad batch spoilers #tbb spoilers