#So think about your parent's reaction and go 'is that appropriate in response to a clear and immediate danger that needs correcting'

[oldqueergrandma]

If you are a parent, parent-figure, or grandparent, this is for you.

If your kid falls down on the playground and sprains a wrist, it isn't your fault. It's just a thing that happens. Your job, as a caregiver to that kid, is to get them to a doctor (hospital, urgent care, etc.) Your job is to find them the appropriate care, and support their emotional needs, too. Your kid is scared, hurt, embarrassed, and worried.

And any good parent is going to set aside their own feelings to be there for their kid.

With me so far? Good.

As a child myself, I was Having Problems In School. This was the end of the 70s/beginning of the 80s. Neurodivergence was mostly perceived as either "Rainman" or "Little Boy Can't Sit Still Syndrome." I have ADHD and was a weird little kid.

I had to get to 2nd grade before a teacher helped my parents figure out what to do. That teacher explained my issues to my mom. (My mom, the lifetime certified k-12 English teacher with a minor in psychology.)

My mom had an extremely common response to this: she panicked. She took it personally. She acted like this teacher was calling her out as a Terrible Parent.

My teacher held her hand, and very gently but firmly told her, "This isn't your fault. There's no one at fault. But your kid needs help, needs therapy, needs an evaluation, so that we can give that kid what they need to succeed in school." She then used the example I described above. "If your kid fell down and broke an arm, are you going to stand around beating your breast and wailing about being a bad parent while your kid suffers? Or are you going to get your kid to the hospital, and be brave while you do it?"

Now. This is good advice for many crisis situations. The responsible, adult thing to do is to not take it personally, model good crisis behaviour, and get your kid the care they need.

But this message is for all the caregivers of kids who announce that they want to transition.

Your kid is trying to be happy, to be the person they were meant to be. That they are not happy now, and the fact that they feel like they're being shoved into the wrong life is upsetting to them. They're trusting you to help them. They're asking to be given what they need to be happy and healthy. They're asking for you to trust their judgement.

What they are NOT doing is attacking you. They're not telling you that you screwed up as a parent. They're not rejecting the precious gift of a name you gave them, even though *you* have specific emotional ties to that name. That kid is trying to figure out who they are, which is all any human being does with their life. But it might feel like that's what they're doing.

I know that it hurts, feels like rejection, and it's scary. It's probably not the first time you've had to deal with those feelings, either. Adolescents and teens often say things that hurt their parents; there's a ton of books and videos and therapists out there to help you with this extremely common situation.

From your kid's perspective, they've shared a revelation with you. They trust you to give them what they need, and to accept them for who they truly are. They're terrified of rejection or being dismissed. They're anxious that you will try to shove them back into a shape that hurts and caused them grief.

So your kid does not need for you to dump your problems on them.

Do not make this about you.

See to your kid's needs.

And find a therapist to help you deal with your own reactions.

You may be feeling grief, rejection, and fear (fear for your kid, fear about what people will think, fear you can't articulate.)

You may be angry as a result of that fear. You may want to just check out because of the grief.

But any time you feel yourself emotionally reacting, ask yourself, "Would this be the right way to react to a medical crisis?"

My 2nd grade teacher saved my life. Really. She got my mom's head screwed on straight, and my mother shared this wisdom with many parents through the years as a teacher herself.

So take some profound wisdom from the woman who saved me. Process your own baggage without spilling it all over your kid. Be what your kid needs. And if this is a struggle, get yourself what you need, too. Talk to a counselor.

But above all else: this is not about you.

#old queer grandma #grandmas advice #grandma loves you

[s1ithers]

stolen throne screed. trying to reserve judgment in case this is going somewhere, but good god why'd they make maric such a dweeb. it's killing me. i have to talk shit.

this is such a bizarre character introduction, i can't tell how we're meant to take it. he's the son of a rebel queen growing up on the run with this guerilla army, but he treats it like his mom's boring job. he knows fuckall. when people declare fealty to him he doesn't know what to say. this guy who's been a prince all his life doesn't have (1) appropriate stock response drilled into him. he barely remembers how to knight a guy. he can't ride a horse. ask him anything about the war he's like wuhhh idk, mom does all that. sucks we have to march so much :(

like i hate him? his (mother's) followers are described as ragged & starving for this cause. our man cannot be bothered. i hate him so much

sure, 'hapless idiot = Relatable(tm)' is....a school....of protagonist design. 'naive young hero grows into leadership role' is a time-honored arc. but what hits so weird is the lack of splashover from this to the rest of the world, fine & good to make your protag a spoiled little shit but where's the in-universe logic for why he's like this?

moira is set up as a great queen and so far it seems like we're meant to take this description at face value. so this great ruler, whose goal is specifically the restoration of her bloodline to the throne, just couldn't be bothered to train her heir to even the most basic level. so the queen's characterization starts to fall apart. which makes the dedication of her followers less convincing. so you get this chain reaction of characterization issues that hollows out the whole thing

or maybe the queen intentionally sheltered her son to the point of uselessness for (???) reasons, which you'd think would take serious effort considering he grew up literally in army camps shoulder to shoulder with hardened guerrillas who're suffering all these hardships & risking their lives & apparently cool with the grownass adult prince mooning around just like, plugged into his gameboy in the back seat. which would set up an interesting dynamic! if it felt like the book was doing it on purpose. if that turns out to be the case i'll eat this post lol

but it's like, 'feckless princeling' is a type, and 'beloved warrior queen' is a type, and 'scrappy rebel army,' and they're all just sort of plucked out of the genre bag without much thought for how they interact or what meaning they create when juxtaposed yknow. and i feel like so often when the writing in DA falls down for me, it's because of this, the narrative locks into treating a character as the type or genre figure they represent, rather than respond to what they actually do or how they're situated in diegetic context

gamlen might be the ur-example of this to me. he absolutely got shafted by their parents. it's 100% fair to ask your relatives who've been crashing in your shitty apartment for a year to help out with rent and food. but he's designated Surly Deadbeat Uncle so he's not allowed to have a point. anders is the healer, what does he do in his free time? eh, he heals. running a nonprofit clinic for 7 years has no bearing on his role as the Preachy SJW Friend. it's writ large in da:i

it breaks the illusion of a living world bc background characters aren't allowed to react authentically. they have to look at this dipshit and be like ~ yay our beloved prince :) ~ they're just narrative puppets. it cheapens the MCs for obvious reasons

it's interesting bc da:o is so consciously built around inverting genre tropes and how that carries forward or doesn't as the series goes on. what gets identified as a Trope for that treatment and what seems to go unexamined

i think TST is suffering from the franchise's awkward genre transition. it sets up a story about rebellion & occupation, i went in wanting/expecting... obviously not realism, but at least as heavy stakes as da:o mostly tried to orient itself around. but maric (& rowan) feel more like characters from d&d-type light fantasy where that kind of thing really is meant to be a backdrop for the player characters to romp around in

AND. also from the series' long-running weirdness about what it is exactly the nobility are and do. but i think i've hit my daily word limit for bitching about DA lol

#this series is so full of plot holes that sound so justifiable on paper it just.. doesn't justify them #i always psych myself out trying to formulate a criticism bc it's all so second-guessable #like sure! you can look at history & find rebellions forming around any jackass w/ an inheritance claim bc their followers stand to benefit #regardless of the candidate's personal qualities but contrast with how it presents the orlesians #this book is absolutely not trying to be that subtle #da

[leogichidaa]

if you’re still accepting writing prompts, i’d lovee to read regulus’ first kiss 🥰

Absolutely :D

How to Snog a Girl: Practical Lessons on Finding and Securing an Appropriate Match

They were in their dorm late one night in their third year. Evan was sprawled out on the floor going on about some sixth year girl's arse. Evan was almost pathologically obsessed with girls' arses and Regulus didn't see the appeal, but he hummed in agreement all the same. He didn't want Evan to think he was strange or defective.

"I heard she got caught snogging Arjun Patel behind the greenhouses," Evan said wistfully. "I bet it was lovely. Her lips look so soft. I wonder what they feel like."

"Well," Regulus said, propping himself up on his elbows. "I doubt I'll ever find out."

Much to his chagrin, Evan started laughing. "Not if you go around saying things like that you won't! Nobody wants to snog a loser. You have to have confidence."

Regulus groaned. "That is precisely the problem," he said in a soft whine. "I haven't got any of that."

Evan grinned at him. "We'll get you some. Don't worry."

-

The summer after his third year was a dismal one. Sirius was at Potters' house for an entire month, and even when he was home he was constantly talking to Potter or writing to one of his other useless friends. For reasons that eluded Regulus, neither of their parents seemed keen to intervene. They allowed Sirius to do as he pleased, focusing all of their energy on Regulus instead. It was decidedly uncomfortable.

Over dinner one evening, his mother commented that he was getting older and asked him if he had thought about dating prospects. Regulus nearly choked on his roast lamb. "You should be making connections with the young ladies in your year," she instructed. "The well bred ones at any rate."

"I--Well--I'm. Working on it," he said weakly. "E-Evan is helping."

His mother gave him an odd look and his father frowned at him over the notebook he had been perusing. Regulus blushed, realizing that he had said something wrong, although he was not sure what. "Evan is good with girls," he muttered, ducking his head.

"You should not take advice from your competition," his mother said mildly. "I thought we raised you better than that."

"Right. Of course. Sorry."

"I can give you advice," Sirius said with a smirk. Regulus glared at him. "I can't get the ladies to leave me alone. And I have no interest in the type of girl you're liable to be courting, so there is no danger of competition."

He looked directly at their mother as he made the last statement, but she just nodded and said, "Good to see you taking your responsibilities as an older brother seriously for once, Sirius."

Sirius stared at her open-mouthed. If Regulus wasn't feeling utterly humiliated by the conversation (and equally confused by their mothers' reaction--or lack thereof) he might have laughed at Sirius.

-

Regulus couldn't be sure whether it was intentional or not, but Sirius' and Evan's advice was terrible, and all of Regulus' attempts to win the attention of his female classmates had failed miserably. He said as much to Evan in the winter of their fourth year.

"Are you sabotaging me on purpose?" he asked, his eyes narrowed in suspicion.

Evan rolled his eyes. "Why would I be doing that?"

"To get me out of the way, so you can have all the girls to yourself."

"If that's what I wanted, I would just leave you to your own devices. You do a fine job repelling the fairer sex without any assistance."

Regulus frowned. "Maybe that is just what you want me to think."

Evan sighed. "I assure you, I am not in the least bit worried you are going to steal anyone I fancy away from me."

Regulus huffed. "I might!"

"No. You won't."

"No," Regulus agreed with a sigh, flopping onto his back on his bed. "You are right, of course. I fuck it up every time."

Evan hopped onto Regulus' bed and laid on his stomach next to Regulus. "Your problem is that you're so bloody intimidated by them. If you did manage to get someone to snog you, you'd probably freeze up and die on the spot."

Regulus' frown deepened as he stared at the ceiling. "How do I fix that?"

The moment the words left his mouth, his head was pulled to the side and his lips were covered by a warm, wet sensation. Evan's hands cradled Regulus' head almost delicately as he snogged Regulus with alarming fervor. He was panting when he finally pulled away, wiping his mouth with his sleeve.

"Wh-what?" was all Regulus could say, as he brought his hand up to his lips in a daze.

"See? Not scary at all, is it?"

Regulus nodded silently, although privately he felt that this was the most terrifying thing to ever happen to him.

-

Regulus thought that he might finally understand the appeal of a girl's arse as he watched Tilly Mayfield dive into the Black Lake in just her panties and a t-shirt the night after their last O.W.L. exam. He had hardly spoken to her in the five years they'd been at Hogwarts together, but that likely worked in his favour. Nothing good came of opening his mouth. He took a sip from the bottle of Firewhiskey Evan had given him and sat down at the edge of the pier, dangling his legs in the water.

After what felt like an eternity, he was rewarded by Tilly swimming up next to him. "Aren't you going to swim?" she asked.

Regulus shook his head. "No, thank you. I have seen what the lake water looks like. And what lives in it. This is risky enough, but I would rather just scrub my legs than scour my whole body."

Tilly giggled. It was dark and Regulus couldn't see her face clearly, but it didn't sound like she was mocking him. "You're funny," she said.

Regulus took another sip of Firewhiskey and didn't say anything. He had learned that it was wiser to let a girl do most of the talking and only chime in occasionally with enthusiastic agreement. Girls needed a great deal of validation and they were shockingly incapable of handling differing opinions, but they could hardly be blamed for that, Regulus supposed. They just weren't made of the same stuff as men.

Tilly chatted about some inane thing or another, then reached over to grab the Firewhiskey out of his hands and take a sip. She carefully placed it back on the pier before grabbing Regulus' arms and pulling him into the water.

"What the fuck!" Regulus shouted indignantly.

Tilly giggled again and put her hands on his shoulder. "Don't worry," she said. "I'll help you get clean afterwards."

Then she leaned forward and kissed him. Regulus was distracted by the shock of the cold water and panic about all the creatures and contaminants held within, and his mind was buzzing from the Firewhiskey, but it wasn't entirely unpleasant.

"I do not mean to be rude," he murmured as she pulled away. "But I would very much like to get out of the lake."

"Mmkay," she responded, hauling herself up onto the pier. Even in this horribly uncomfortable state, Regulus had to admit that he definitely saw the appeal of her arse. She offered him a hand to help him up. "Can I tell you something?"

"Is it an apology for dragging me into this cesspool?"

"No. Well. Yes, I am sorry about that. But no. I was going to say that you're the first person I ever kissed. It was a lot nicer than I expected."

Regulus smiled slightly. He grabbed the bottle of Firewhiskey and took a long drink before offering it to her. "You're the first girl I ever kissed," he admitted. "Although I have to say, I wasn't expecting it to be quite so wet. And cold. And filthy."

"Yeah," Tilly replied, sounding a bit sheepish. "Cold isn't ideal is it? Sorry. I'll make it up to you?"

"I should hope so."

-

They were in the library studying for their N.E.W.T.s. Or rather, Regulus was studying for his N.E.W.T.s. Evan was flipping aimlessly through a text book and groaning loudly every few minutes.

"Will you knock it off?" Regulus asked.

"I cannot, Reg," Evan moaned. "I am heartbroken."

Regulus sighed and rolled his eyes. Tilly Mayfield had broken up with Evan a fortnight ago, and Evan had not shut up about it since. Regulus had never told Evan about his night by the lake with Tilly, and so it really wasn't fair to hold it against him, but Regulus couldn't help but feel annoyed all the same when they got together. Perhaps his mother had been right about competition. "You were barely together two months. I think you will live."

"I think I shall die," Evan declared. "I shall never know joy again."

Regulus pushed aside his notes in frustration. "You are being ridiculous ."

"You are being ridiculous! Expecting me to care about exams when I am distraught."

"I am not expecting you to care about exams. It does not matter to me if you fail all your N.E.W.T.s. I am simply expecting you to let me revise in peace."

"Heartless," Evan muttered.

"Mm."

Evan glanced around the library. "We should go somewhere else," he said.

"Why?"

"So you can comfort me properly. I am lonely, Reg."

Regulus felt his face flush. He wanted to tell Evan no, wanted to say he was tired of 'comforting' his mate any time he felt rejected by some dim witted girl. He tried very hard to make his mouth say the words.

"Yes, alright," he said with a sigh. "If it will shut you up."

#spreading the bisexual Regulus agenda here #first kisses #Regulus Black #Evan Rosier #writing prompt #ask #anemicc-royalty #rosiernoir

[ariesbilly]

I have been thinking about how young fp was constantly crying out for help via hurting himself and acting up and getting into drugs and drink 🤧 bc he was so desperate for someone to understand how bad he was hurting and what he was going through but he didn't know how to communicate it and then when he did actually use his words in the flashback episode and talked about his dads abuse no one cared 😣 and I'm sure it wasn't the first time someone turned a blind eye... but all this to say I think Fred was one of the only people to really see that for what it was and furthermore to actually take fps pain so seriously 🥺 fp couldn't even hide it or downplay it if he wanted to because when he was struggling fred would pick up on that and be worried and sympathetic and wanting to hold him and fight for him and just acknowledge how much fp was going through without fp having to ask 😖 he knew it was serious and that fp was always closer to a crisis than he let on and he treated that with the weight it deserved 😔 he took care of him and comforted him and worried about him and paid attention to him and he wouldn't let fp forget he was loved... And maybe this saved fps life a time or two... That's all 😖

ok but we have to circle back to fp opening up about being physically abused and being met with dead silence and like on one level i get it because its a bunch of teenagers revealing their traumas (except hermione whos just mad her mom doesnt like her boyfriend for very valid reasons lmfao that was the realest hermione moment that entire episode) theyre not gonna know how to handle that appropriately but then imagine youre fp whos been abused his whole life, watched his mom get abused too, and you finally say it out loud and just... nothing. and i think part of him was probably grateful for that response because he doesnt want to make a big deal out of it, even the way he confesses it is kinda jokey and sarcastic, but thats gotta sow seeds in his head that this will be the reaction he will always be met with so why bother ever saying anything?

and the way as an adult he's both still harboring intense trauma from that period while also still downplaying it.... like at that god awful thanksgiving dinner when hes saying how fred never complained about his parents like the rest of them, he can say that because in that moment hes removed from the situation, its in the past. but when jughead talks to him about bringing senior back around or waiting to actually face him in person, that safety guard is down and he really goes back into being scared and angry and anxious all over again like when senior is an immediate threat he cannot control his emotions he cant mask the fear

anyway... something to think about

#briana answers things

[celiaelise]

Yesterday at work I witnessed, as I often do, kids throwing tantrums and their parents getting frustrated about it. I thought, I know that frustration: when you are stuck with someone, and you are bound by social norms to treat them a certain way, but they are not only ignoring those norms but reason itself, and they're yelling, and they don't care. Don't care that you may be tired, may have other things going on, may be having your own emotional reaction to their outburst. And you can try to reason with them but you're never going to win at that because they're willing to break more rules than you, and when it comes down to it, their feelings are the only thing that matter to them in this moment.

Anyway it occurred to me that for people who didn't experience this feeling during their own childhood, they're likely experiencing it for the very first time from a small child who they're wholly responsible for, which is in many ways a more precarious situation.

It kind of shed some light on the way that I've been complimented in the past by parents for my patience with children, when to me it is pretty easy to, like, only behave in ways that I've already deemed as appropriate, no matter what else is going on. Whatever the kids are doing has nothing to do with me, and I have a lifetime of practice at separating my actions from my emotions. (I am not even really good at, like, deescalating situations with truly unruly children, I just do the minimum of not also lashing out, myself, and not being scared away.)

Obviously I don't think more children should grow up getting yelled at, but I do think it would be more beneficial if the first time someone experienced being at their wit's end isn't when they're alone with their toddler.

(Of course, there are healthier ways. Some examples that come to mind are: pets, siblings, any situation involving caring for a child where you are not their parent and/or are not alone with them. Many work environments, tbh, though that's also not ideal. Also, people who are less sensitive are going to take longer to reach this threshold.)

I've even gotten such compliments after situations where the kids are not even in a bad mood, and their parents are also there, so I'm not even in charge of them. It's basically like, "it was so amazing how you treated those children like they're people, even though were a lot of them and they were loud!" I want to tell them, "I think you may not actually like children," but I think they would be like, "yeah, that's the normal way to feel about them?" Which makes me sad.

#children #parenting #emotionally immature parents #my life #my feelings #by elise #no idea if this is coherent lol

[punkscowardschampions]

Java Pt.2

Ava: I know you can’t, but can we pretend you can stay, my parents aren’t back ‘til Monday

James: I could try and come back before then

Ava: You could?

James: For a moment, at least

Ava: They’re all yours, whichever you can take

James: You’re all mine, I can barely take that in

Ava: The fact we will be all alone, truly, keeps coming to me in waves, my brain can’t hold it, believe it

James: Come to the door

Ava: Jesus, right

Ava: [do, making your way from whatever floor you could be on at that point because big houses do make you feel like people could be there without you knowing which is unsettling, when you get there it’s going to be obvious you ran by the way you’re out of breath and pink, which is only appropriate for the !! way you’re both feeling now and the way we threw this door open to let him in]

James: [mhmm, hence I had him say it cos someone could be passed out somewhere really random and y’all wouldn’t know unless they popped up like Edna from behind the bar and that isn’t what y’all want when he’s being a filthy cheater and this is your first time thank you, when you’ve timed it so she’s throwing open that door as your car pulls up and stops, meaning she gets every cinematic moment of him getting out and walking toward her to echo how dramatically he lingered upon leaving earlier, just peak romance things]

Ava: [you are not wrong James and your paranoia makes perfect sense given the circumstances here, meanwhile we’ll be here having this perfect cinematic moment, feeling as if our face will break from how big we’re smiling at you, which doesn’t feel like the ‘right’ reaction but we also don’t possibly know how else we could greet you, when we can’t run over to you and kiss you on the street because enough in reality still that we know that is a no-no, laughing at our own massive grin and looking down to stop looking at him, only for the briefest second but you gotta like you’re trying to find chill you simply won’t]

James: [excuse this man DYING about how happy she is to see him because who is in his life rn except baby Jay and that’s a v different vibe no offence hun, doing such a self conscious kind of smile back in response because so not used to this in the best way and too aware that we could and don’t want to scare her off, doing his own blush a little bit as he gets closer and joins in with the laugh, also kind of self conscious/in a I can’t believe this is happening way, having a final linger on the doorstep, this time to hand her a beautifully wrapped present which we know is the first gift of a book that reflects their life and circumstances, whether that’s a coming of age sweet 16 vibe or love affair vibe, or both I hope, regardless of what favours he would have had to call in at this o clock to track this down either from a fellow book nerd or looking through his old shit left at his parents house when he dropped Teddy off to find a copy he owned and read when he was younger]

Ava: [any awareness we are being a lot is being overridden with our own giddy nerves, when you literally cannot stop smiling, nor laughing now, not a full in-your-face affair but just with the disbelief and anticipation of this all, at least this present will finally provide distraction enough to stop you in your tracks, not fully shutting the door in your face, good day, but we already know it’s a book because this is who we know you to be now, running a finger under the ribbon/string/whatever we’re rocking, looking back up at him, at first as a ? like should I open this now but the obvious parallels are then flying through your head like !! so you have to gently pull him inside because this door needs to be shut immediately actually]

James: [when you’ve themed the colour coding of this present wrapping to her party decor or her outfit entirely subconsciously because you’ve been obsessing over every detail of that first encounter by thinking and writing about it so much, slay, and that only hits you when she’s holding it either against said outfit or carrying it inside and you’re like oh, accidental peak romance again there, speaking of, follow her gentle lead inside, you probably will have to bend to get through the door no joke cos even though her dad and brother are p tall you are taller and it’s london architecture here, so then you’re THINKING about how you’ll have to to kiss her as well, closing the door himself SO deliberately like I gotta hear that shut and know it is and we’re 100% alone rn immediately, bonus points if she was intending to close it because it’s her door so we get a hand on hers moment]

Ava: [you’ll see that because of course you picked a slay outfit, you are a fashion girlie after all, and the idea of a boy being that thoughtful, who else could and would ever? Another reason not to rip this beautiful present open right now because you’ll want to save this wrapping for the romance of it all; speaking of, we would’ve definitely been reaching to shut the door so you’re going to accidentally fall into being THAT close to him, under his arm if you get what I’m picturing there, because you weren’t paying any attention to just reaching behind you to do that, so then you’re like OH, here under him like hello, of course not actually being able to say anything, nor move, whether the latter is because we can’t or don’t want to]

James: [he’ll only be moving to steady her which isn’t actually a shameless ploy to touch her but he will be and that’ll be !! for them both because they have not at all yet, LOOKING down at her like he’s worried she’ll be crushed to death against him and the door, hence his ‘I’m sorry’ is so sincere even if he’s saying it in a flustered manner more so for the reasons of proximity and !!]

Ava: [shaking our head as sincerely, putting a hand on him in the same steadying manner but we mean it in a stop apologising way without saying it because you don’t wanna sound annoyed with him or overstep but obviously we have already noticed you do all the time and you don’t need to, especially now, smoothing down the sleeve of his jacket, letting your hand rest once it reaches his wrist, toying with the idea of holding his hand but not fully reaching out to do so]

James: [excuse me screaming because a wrist grab is baze and ruster coded so that makes perfect sense for you, we love to see it, taking a breath that isn’t a sigh but is an acknowledgement that he knows he over apologises and isn’t trying to be that bitch rn, reaching his hand to very gently touch the cheek he did not kiss because stopped at one]

Ava: [biting your lip so you don’t breathe at all because you have to focus all your energy and attention on how his hand feels on your face like he’s doing something entirely brand new and wild because how it all feels right now ‘can I get you anything or do you-’ taking the dramatic breath you need trying to say that all breathlessly, deciding not to finish your sentence but the way we meet your eyes tells you its do you want your kiss now because he did say at the door]

James: [using the hand that he had on her cheek as a deliberate move to bring her closer and line them up, cupping her face more as opposed to stroking it how he was before because he do want that kiss now and there’s no need to say it when it’s this obvious from the LOOK alone never mind how he’s guiding her into it]

Ava: [holding his opposite cheek to the one he is of yours, needing that stability to feel like this is real, as well as practically pulling yourself closer to him, closer to his face, so you can kiss him, your eyes on his lips with SO much intensity before your own mouth is covering his, maintaining painfully light contact, not pushing how you want to, it’s still a proper kiss but not an unhinged one yet, even if your other hand is finding its way into his hair]

James: [I feel so sorry for tall people either you’re gonna crick your neck or you have to pick someone up, can’t relate but y’all have my sympathies, not that he cares in this moment because more peak romance is happening, case in point him saying her name for the first time with as much intensity as she’s staring at his lips just before this kiss happens just because he’s gotta, and him immediately making said kiss more !! so she lowkey is crushed against the door the way he was worried about before but he isn’t soz this time, there’s no chill, we’re having a full and intense makeout] 

Ava: [you make it work when you gotta and right now, we gotta; being pressed up against the door is helpful because you can get at the height you need to be and then pin her in place, the way you’re going to be saying his name fully into this makeout because caught you unaware so it’s blatantly a !! MOAN that has your cheeks burning but it’s only making you kiss him harder, nuzzling your face against his as you do]

James: [he’s a dark horse, as much as his spirit has been crushed by Chlo’s insanity to a point where he almost doesn’t have a personality (aside from books which why we’re going so hard with it) and is very apologetic and meek and mild there’s a sauciness still from the old him and he’s here to do the absolute most with it, including kissing both her cheeks INDECENTLY because they are so flushed and we’re so into it, it’s giving Teddy but also he could never with how !! this is, soz]

Ava: [you have had a lot of affairs, and this is literally the only way you’ve been able to be your own person in any capacity so, just saying, it tracks that it slaps, you very much can and must have that, boy; pulling his jacket off him as if he’s the one with the red hot face but we all know we just need to be undressing you, however many layers there may be left before you are in any real saucy sense, it’s a must as we’re once again trying not to breathe because every breath already feels like a pant and we can’t deal]

James: [so glad you agree with me on this because I think it tracks too, like Ava clearly doesn’t have a shit ton of prior experience here so we could just say it slaps for that reason but I’m soz no, it simply slaps full stop, you’re having this sir and you deserve to, looking like that you could have all the affairs you want and you blatantly have, taking literally not even half a step back as if she can’t breathe because she’s being crushed/needs some room to undress you despite the fact you’ve barely moved because that’s all you can stand to, bringing her away from the door slightly with you but it’s just a shameless excuse to pull her close to you a different way, we all know, idk yet what she’s wearing but GRABBING at it, lowkey lifting her up as we’re kissing her again but not fully picking her up deliberately we’re just being that !! about how we’re holding her atm]

Ava: [doing a frown and a little noise of disapproval because where are you going, even for a second, even that close still, pulling him back as he pulls you into him, meeting in the middle and still trying to be closer to him still despite that being an impossibility at this point again, having to put your hands under whatever he’s wearing on top, letting yourself feel his body until your hands are resting on his back, as they did on his wrist earlier]

James: [automatically doing a little comforting noise when she makes hers because he’s that sort of bear and can’t help it, immediately getting closer again too even though he was purely attempting to get both of them away from the door and more into the gaff/any type of room remotely lol, no hesitation at all in removing whatever top he is wearing which means he could now be topless in this hallway or at the very least down to a single layer if he was rocking 2 under this coat/jacket maybe cos I doubt you were necessarily wearing many more in may in your house doing whatever you were before she messaged you with the Teddy sos, the way she’d slide down his body because he was holding her up but now he’s either unbuttoning or pulling a t-shirt over his head and can’t would be such a mood and feel so !! enjoy that lads as well as the EYE CONTACT he’s making as he does this which could be brief or lingering depending on the style of top]

Ava: [trying and failing not to STARE at him because what a body to be all over in this moment ‘I feel like a pervert’ blurting this out because you know you are really checking him out with no shame here, doing the same sort of nervous laugh he did earlier, reaching out to trail your index finger down his jawline, onto his neck and down across his collarbone, doing a shaky sigh as your press your lips against the spot your finger ended up, just on his chest]

James: [when you have to genuinely laugh because whenever you’re given a second to dwell on it it’s very much on your mind that her 16th birthday was literally today and you’re the pervert if anyone is, but thankfully a second is all he has to think about that because his brain would be short circuiting about her STARE never mind the way she is then touching him and kissing him, hit her with an apt quote about being this shameless or whatever, be it from one of the authors you were talking about earlier or the book you got her or whatever, we know the vibes, love that you’re reciting that after I said your brain short circuited haha]

Ava: [starting to pout up at him like hey don’t laugh at me lol vibes but the point his laugh is making hits you and you have to laugh too, even if you’re shaking your head slowly as you give him heart eyes like okay, neither are you, boy because we refuse to accept that narrative because we’ve all met actual perverts and he is not one of ‘em; just our eyes lighting up when you start quoting this, absentmindedly kissing along the entire length of his collarbones as we listen ‘you can actually do that’ ‘cos anyone can google whilst talking online or in texts, so we’re so about the way you clearly genuinely memorise these things]

James: [obvs giving her heart eyes back when she gives them to him, he simply must, catch him moving a strap out of his way now I know what the outfit looks like, bending to kiss her shoulder and collarbone and neck, everywhere he possibly can as far as uncovered skin in that area goes because we don’t know how to handle her praise and how clearly she’s impressed by what a nerd we are, so we can avoid her eyes with our antics and rely on the physical which is easier]

Ava: [close your own eyes, finally, and just enjoy how this all feels, attempting to push your dress down fully for him but it obviously has some kind of zip/fastening situation that is going to need to be dealt with, which is a good time for you to make a move to your bedroom, or wherever you end up ‘cos your bedroom is on like the third floor so idk about that besties, turning his cheek, the way he turned yours towards him before, in the direction of the stairs like shall we?]

James: [my boo says the first room you come across when you get upstairs more like and she’s so right for that, it’s fine nobody’s in regardless of what room you end up in and you’ll have time and opportunity to make it up to her bedroom before he has to leave if we so wish, or we’ll give you another chance to be there another time, this boy not helping the situation at all because when they’ve made it up said stairs/ while they are still on them potentially given the lack of chill he’ll defs be locating where and how her dress is fastened and undoing it enough that there’s room to be more extra with where he can kiss her but not fully enough that it falls completely off wherever they may be, love the fact that walking a few steps without doing the most has clearly killed you sir and thus you need to insist on this pause]

Ava: [we all know that’s the energy, also that when you’re rich your hallways are just full rooms because you can so there’s undoubtedly some sofa situation or something here that you can stop on and not have either of you feel any type of weird way about being in either one of the twin’s rooms because not the mood thank you; entirely the mood however the way we are SHIVERING at this undressing but not quite moment]

James: [mhmm enjoy the perks of being rich af to enhance the moment rather than ruining it with weird vibes neither of you need, things are precarious enough cos of him being a cheater and time being limited for y’all without us adding to it, love that she’s wearing such a statement necklace he can leave on whilst finally letting this dress fully fall once y’all have reached a sofa or wherever to fall onto, this girl just here fully looking like she stepped out of a painting or some shit, hence we’ve gotta take a sec to just STARE at her]

Ava: [very Titanique of you, very much the vibe, thank you kindly; and however confident a girl we are in general, there’s no way we are not DYING being this naked and exposed under this boy’s blue-as-hell gaze, hence we’re reaching out our hand to have him pull us closer so he can’t be LOOKING like that and making us so !!]

James: [SO titanic, we love that for you, do pull her in because you’d also be DYING at how beautiful she is idk how many women you’ve slept with sir this one is literally model levels of stunning and that’s before we even get into the whole thing of clearly how unlike your usual ladies you sleep with she is, catch him having to suppress another laugh almost in the I can’t believe this is happening rn kind of way because this feels very much like something he’d write/imagine/dream about but not something that is actually happening as he’s lying her on this sofa, it goes without saying he’s suppressing said amusement by kissing her everywhere he’s just exposed, pulling down a bra strap (assuming she’s wearing one) for that parallel to when he did her dress before, cos really taking our time and being here in this moment that is actually happening is the energy, giving it light pressure how she kissed him at first, but we all know that his chill won’t last and he’ll get more feral about it immediately]

Ava: [neither of you can believe this is happening or how stunningly out of this world attractive you both are, hence the laugh he suppresses by kissing you all over is obviously coming out because you don’t even know what to do with yourself in this moment ‘Oh my God’ the attempt to breathe being blatant in the pauses between each word there, just enjoying how his bare skin feels against yours, exploring the entirety of his back with your hands, also doing this softly and slowly but digging your nails in slightly when he goes to pull this bra strap down]

James: [deliberately pausing wherever he’s reached in his essentially full body kisses to look up at her while she gets her words out, letting her know in no uncertain terms that he feels exactly the same without having to nod or anything because his eyes are being so expressive about it and his own breathing isn’t far out how !! hers is either, saying something really poetic about how soft her skin is that could literally be a quote and she might think is because it’s that good (hence I’m not writing it cos I don’t have the talent or read enough classics haha) and comparing it to whatever the bra is made out of, ie calling it softer and better than silk or lace or whatever as he unclasps it at her back just seconds after her nails have dug into his, just peak romance things yet again nbd]

Ava: [fluttering your fingers over his eyes like you’re going to shut them because you can’t deal, giving him such heart eyes as you do though because can’t deal in the best possible way here, converting this to tracing his lips as he’s speaking, as if you can pick up his words and place them on your skin, inevitably moving your hands to grasp at your own skin, like you have never even noticed until he said it, shifting your weight so this bra can fall away like your dress]

James: [the littlest but most adorable blush spreading across his cheeks when she’s trying to shut his eyes because it’s adorable and so are the heart eyes she’s giving, giving them back so hardcore when she’s tracing his lips, unable to stop himself smiling, as if it tickles but not at all because of that, we know, shifting his weight as she does so that he’s even closer to her and they barely have a second of not being impossibly so, kissing her on the mouth like it has been a thousand years since he has]

Ava: [likewise really ramping up the intensity here, from soft finger touches to fully and passionately making out because you have to, if you keep going at this pace, you feel as if you will simply pass away from the longing because cannot get enough wrapping yourself around him fully like you are the ribbon on your present, saying his name like a question though you don’t even understand what you’re asking him with it, only pausing to be LOOKING at him this close, your breathing volleying off each others]

James: [it’ll definitely feel like the most intense makeout sesh you’ve ever had in your life sir, just really doing the most and taking the opportunity to enjoy the different position from when y’all were against the door before and how much closer you are able to get with fewer clothes in your way, in contrast, touching her so lightly, again what would feel like everywhere, with the back of his hand like how he stroked her cheek earlier but so many different curves of her body, when she pauses, taking the opportunity to whisper so many compliments in her ear, being very poetic again and very sincere because you can’t get over any of this and she deserves to know, letting his face rest against those dramatic pearls whenever he finally runs out words, just returning the LOOK and breathing against her skin]

Ava: [all of this is bringing the fact he still has his bottom half of clothing on to the forefront of your brain to the point you simply HAVE to start unbuttoning/zipping him, because the effect of his words and touch combining has you thinking you ain’t gonna last a second here because you already feel so ridiculously DEAD and you need to ensure right now immediately he’s as turned on as you]

James: [we all know he’s as turned on as her and always has been but letting her know it with no shadow of a doubt by kissing everywhere from her earlobe to jaw to neck with such !! as she’s undressing him that there are going to be marks left, shamelessly also pulling her hair because it’s down and trying to get in his way and probably also his mouth]

Ava: [the GASP we are doing, pulling him into us harder by his waistband, half like we’re telling him to behave, half the complete opposite and we want him to do more]

James: [shamelessly doing more like it’s a choreographed move with how his hips are rocking into hers again with all the !! as his hand travels to her underwear waistband, tugging at it like he GRABBED at her clothes way earlier when they were by the door but not pulling said underwear down just toying with it and her skin both over the top and under it, hand roaming absolutely everywhere again but we simply cannot call them light touches this time, especially at her hips and thighs because duh gotta keep pushing and pulling her into him as hard as that first time while we’re tracing every curve and stroking every inch of skin ever without going in and actually touching her indecently, kissing her cheek indecently again though, first one and then the other]

Ava: [instinctively spreading your legs apart from him in a way that has you SHOOK with how willingly you did, hence your face is going to be boiling again before he’s covering it in kisses, when he is, feeling as if you are chasing his mouth with your own, stealing kisses as if they in any way cover up the sounds you’re making in response to him right now, tugging at his hair again for your own throwback to the door but also it’s necessary to stay this close to him]

James: [We love every reaction she’s having whether that’s her intense af blush or the sounds or how she’s moving or her kisses and her hair pull throwback, therefore there is 0 hesitation in kissing his way down her entire body from where he was to where he can then pull down her underwear finally with his mouth, hitting every erroneous zone on his way obvs, but special attention to places he hasn’t paid much attention to yet because of their bodies being pressed that closely together like her chest and stomach, especially the latter cos here for how flat it is and the total lack of comparison to his preggo flop wife and her trapping him antics, doing the absolute most to turn her on even more at all times here, yet again ofc waxing poetic about her while he does, including what she tastes like when his mouth ends up having removed her underwear to the halfway off point like her dress was and he can really lavish that attention on her like they have all the time in the world and aren’t dying]

Ava: [James has the opposite of a pregnancy kink, the poor traumatised boy, you’re welcome she is skinny and has very petite boobies so truly could not be less like your wife atm or ever really, soz not soz Chlo, you cow bag; the audacity of you to never truly be into James when he’s this slay, what are your priorities hun, idek but ANYWAY we’ll be here with all the compliments and praise just falling out of us because how can we possibly have a filter when we’re short-circuiting here from this]

James: [the trauma is real and it’s seriously a testament to how healthy java’s relationship is and how slay Ava is and not like Chlo in all the ways that he’s able to properly heal and they get to have their own kids in future, but ANYWAY, in the here and now, this man is fully treating this like another intense makeout sesh with how he’s kissing and touching her rn because still cannot believe this is happening and therefore can’t and don’t want to rush this into being a hookup knowing we’ll never get the first time back however much her praise is killing him and making him wanna also initiate this hookup immediately, it’s continuing to be obvious that he’s dying too though because he is being so extra with everything he’s doing and whatever compliment hits hardest, whether it’s what she says or her delivery of it or both, is getting a MOAN in response, which is his first real one]

Ava: [likewise there’s no way you have ever experienced this this way or this intensely, sorry to your previous experiences but it’s just highly unlikely I’m afraid, even if these two didn’t have the instant and all-consuming chemistry, which they do, so this is everything and we’re as TORN between wanting this to continue forever and wanting him to put all this energy he is giving into fucking us just as well, hence literally whimpering with the indecision and how close we already feel]

James: [it’s no shade to anyone it’s just true, she isn’t the massive slag he was at 16 and lowkey still so she hasn’t had many experiences yet and he’s had many but so few if any like this because the chemistry and timing and everything has aligned and is so right this time, y’all are welcome even if it feels like torture to you in this moment, his response to her whimper is to do the same kind of comforting sound he did earlier when she was pouting literally into her like shh it’s okay which will only get her closer, soz not soz]

Ava: [exactly, it’s a handful of people with about the same level of experience if not less so it isn’t personal it’s just how it is; here trying to get our words out about how close we are but the inability to actually say anything cohesive or louder than a whimper says more than our words could ever, moving against what he’s doing more desperately, unable to stop ourself now]

James: [he knows but we love that she’s trying to tell us anyway and is then blatantly showing us as well, take this opportunity to keep going and give her the first orgasm you’ve ever given her because ofc you would, why would you stop yourself either sir]

Ava: [me imagining this sofa is some kind of suede/velvet so you can see the grip marks of her fingers clawing into it when she’s being killed, cinematic baby, having to shamelessly roll onto the floor with this boy so you can be on top of him and totally not squash him ‘cos you need to incapacitate him from being able to do any more and give yourself a moment to just bathe in what happened there, laying your head on his chest and watching him breathe]

James: [I totally pictured velvet too so twin brains, I think because I’m still in the titanic mindset and thus it’s more of a chaise than a sofa in my mind lol, which would be even easier for y’all to roll off, love that, be here trying and I’m sure failing to get your breathing under control boy because you’re not over what just happened either, genuinely speechless about how beautiful she looked while losing it and having to use only your eyes to express it]

Ava: [it’s very much the vibe, we know what we’re saying here, turning your face up to look at him, first because you wanna check he’s good as you did lowkey push him off the couch moment there, even though it was gentle enough and I’m sure there’s a soft rug under y’all rn, but then as you’re giving him these heart eyes you’re of course going to be overcome with how good he looks and the evidence of what just happened still lingering is gonna make you launch yourself at him with unexpected urgency because it’s hot and you have to make out immediately]

James: [when you were very gently stroking her hair off her face because it would be trying to stick to her skin after the sweat you worked her up into, lifting it off the back of her neck too with the intention to just rest your hand there for a sec maybe but then she’s launching herself at you so with hands fully tangled in her hair he’s ofc kissing her back with all the !! however unexpected because in no world is he not going with it and reciprocating when he’s as turned on as he’s always been and had no relief from that yet and she’s lowkey sitting on him atm so she knows it]

Ava: [it can never truly be soft hours when one of you is still painfully turned on and you’re so into this boy that it takes very little prompting for you to feel it again yourself, just here tasting yourself in his mouth and making OBSCENE noises about it, however muffled by how deep this kiss is, not to mention when you move in his lap, purely to kiss him more, that is hitting as hard and you have to look at him full !!]

James: [so into those noises and why we know she’s making them, say something else about how she tastes, like you’re doing a rewrite of what you said earlier because gotta be more extra and explicit when she’s looking at you like that, reaching for your trousers which would have landed on the floor somewhere after working themselves off during all your antics so you can find your wallet and the contraception you’d always keep therein you big cheater, cos not trying to get anyone pregnant least of all this 16 year old girl, find that condom and dig it out, deliberately avoiding looking at the pics of Jay and the scan pic of baby Mattie that you also keep in there because can’t let you be derailed by the fact you clearly promised yourself you wouldn’t cheat again when this 2nd pregnancy happened, it’ll help that you’re v distracted by still kissing her as much as you feasibly can while doing this] 

Ava: [letting your eyes follow his hands reaching for this condom, placing your own hand gently over his, not in a STOP manner but just pausing him ‘don’t you want me to taste you first?’ because of course we will and feel as if we should if this was reciprocal but in reality who knows how much time you have here so maybe he won’t but you haven’t allowed yourself to think about the ticking clock]

James: [doing a lil shiver which perfectly illustrates the internal dilemma you’re facing between letting her because of course you want that, you want everything, but on the other hand not knowing how much you can take when you’re this turned on rn and that if she kills you you’ll have to start all over or potentially not hookup yet if time does run out ‘What do you want?’ because you’re never allowed to make a decision so of course you’d default to letting her make it]

Ava: [converting this into holding his hand again because you don’t wanna look like you’re saying no to contraception here, or forcing him one way or the other, doing a small smile at his shiver ‘just you’ which isn’t helpful as a reply but taking the condom from his hand and going to put it on him is because that was his first instinct hence we are going with that being the right answer here and now, kissing his neck as we do this]

James: [doing a bigger shiver about it because whichever option she’d picked he’d be overwhelmed by cos that’s the mood we’re in and how !! we are but clearly that was your first instinct and what you do think the right call is for this moment and the amount of time y’all have or you wouldn’t have done it so, happy to go with it obvs, hence you get a noise as well, because the relief to finally be naked when he’s been in his underwear this whole time if nothing else]

Ava: [‘Fuck, James’ with all the feeling, as if how turned on and how painfully so you are only registered with us in this moment because kinda, soz you were letting us be selfish af with how slay that was, the biggest compliment we could give you without intending to ‘I want this’ as if you’re amending your previous statement because must let you know how quickly and intensely our own pressure is building back up here, once you’ve got the condom on and you’re sure of it, lying back down on this rug because you want him to look at you how he does and be the one in control, shamelessly]

James: [saying her name practically as a GASP in response as if he’s so scandalised by hearing her swear for the first time lol but we all know it’s not that and he is in fact just dying because truly couldn’t be more turned on or want her more, can literally only nod like I want this too because what are words atm, it goes without saying he’s STARING at her even more intensely than when he took her dress off but I’d like it noted that even though he also wants to be in control and will, he is still thinking of her and being slay with how this hookup is being initiated because all too aware that however experienced or inexperienced she is or isn’t it’s unlikely that she’s been with someone who’s as well endowed as him, which he’s gotta be with how tall he is, I’m soz that’s just factual, and however turned on she may be, he could still hurt her and clearly doesn’t want to, so despite how desperate we are, being careful and taking it slow, he’s that sort of bear]

Ava: [my boo says he’s packing and she’s so right for that lmao, and as much as you think you wanna go feral, you also would not want to be hurt so his consideration is noted and appreciated, even if it would in some small way make you feel inexperienced, not in a mortifying way or one you cannot get over because, like my boo said, this is unavoidable until you’ve worked out the position and rhythm that works for y’all both here, ‘consoling’ yourself by kissing him, so you can put all this !! energy into that whilst you have to be chill here, also letting him hear all the sounds you make by being this close so he knows where you’re at comfort-wise]

James: [we have to give him that because not only is it realistic but if he was that tall but had an awkwardly small dick Chlo would shout it from the rooftops and everybody would know and it’d make his life even less worth living, we can’t do it to him, the boy has suffered enough, even if size isn’t everything, she’s not having that win thank you, and don’t worry girl he will find a position and rhythm that works very quickly and then he can let himself go more like you both need without hurting you physically in not holding back or your ego in having to, this isn’t gonna be an awkward first time, I’m sure James has had more than his fair share of those already]

Ava: [oh absolutely, she’s always been that sort of gal and still would be so hell no, the only thing you’ve got is you mentally abused him into being who and what you needed and that makes you look worse than you ever could him so bye, bitch; and likewise as this starts to hit just right you will naturally move against him more yourself, so you’re both in control of how this is going and you don’t feel like you’re flopping here because no, not the mood, we’re so into this]

James: [I’m so glad James and Chlo rarely hook up because it truly gives me the ick to think about, can’t wait for her to flop again when the twins dad leaves her, couldn’t be more deserved, meanwhile java are having the best time and nobody is flopping, far from it]

Ava: [no one deserves to be alone more than you, ma’am and we owe you nothing, you and that dude last for a long enough time and it makes our overall story better because Tancy, you are not so ha ha not sorry; also no one is thinking about you right now, I grant you we unavoidably will be at points as is how cheating goes but right now nothing else and no one else is relevant to this girl right here]

James: [literally, that unholy union lasts ages and him leaving you for a younger hotter version of you is what you need sis, and right now even if you were continuously blowing James’ phone up he would neither notice nor care, we’re too busy experiencing peak romance, excuse us]

Ava: [idk how you aren’t humbled already but clearly that one man actually being done with your shit is the kick up the arse you always needed, coming entirely too late but there we are; here and now, trying to describe how this feels to him but that getting to you to the point you cannot so you have to promise to tell him later]

James: [I am gonna need Chlo trying to proposition Teddy when said hubby leaves because he’s a mess and she thinks it’s a sure thing/they’ve always flirted for his amusement but never gone there and him v cruelly rejecting her because he never would actually go there, cos again deserved but that’s neither here or there rn, rn James is likewise promising to write Ava whole chapters about this]

Ava: [makes note of that for the sugarbaby timeline, for sure; ‘I don’t know if either of us could get through that’ because imagining how turned on he’d get reliving to write it and how we would reliving and reading, illustrating this point by making a torturously slow circle with our hips, holding back the movements he was making with both our hands on his waist]

James: [he’ll 1000% be flirting with Chlo at this baby shower but he just enjoys how cray she is, he’d never fancy her on a good day and especially not when she’s preggo and flopping, the same way he fancies Ava and has been trying to get with her from whenever she was single but not really because she’s far too sensible for him, oh Teddy ILY sir ‘I told you I’d gladly suffer’ because he did say that earlier, illustrating his point by letting her torture him with her antics and giving her briefest and softest peck on the lips]

Ava: [looking for that perfect middle ground, clearly lol; here pouting again like you’re not the one making him ‘suffer’ and very much could stop and let him go again but you haven’t yet, pouting your frankly obscene lips into this soft kiss in the most tempting way you possibly could]

James: [mhmm, and it’s Nancy, they’re fated as evidenced by both of them wearing blue cos their minds work the exact same way, here saying ‘oh darling’ into this kiss like we sincerely feel so sorry for her as if she isn’t doing this to us and to herself lol]

Ava: [we all know this but y’all don’t fully yet because but a child here and she’s too busy living her Uni best life whilst not actually going herself lmao; ‘you’re so nice’ almost disbelievingly at the levels, hence being nice ourself and letting go, moving our arms around his neck to pull him back closer so the pace can be picked up again, moaning into the makeout you also begin]

James: [do the most to show her how nice you think she is with all your makeout and sexy antics including manoeuvring y’all into a handhold that lasts the longest one has yet, no notes]

Ava: [definitely going to be holding hands when you both cum, peak romance]

James: [mhmm, they gotta, it’s so important]

Ava: [you are SO welcome that no one is home or is going to suddenly appear to be home so you two can just be here dead in the hallway]

James: [absolutely, they are both gonna need a sec to try and recover from that, he’ll be here blatantly shooketh at how good that was and making no attempt to hide the fact he can’t get over it]

Ava: [at least y’all can actually lay here and have this moment, the rush isn’t such a rush that that’s an impossibility, just be here looking at him again like you can’t believe he’s real, stroking his cheek]

James: [no eventually he’ll have to get up and clean himself up and sort his shit out and make moves etc but that is not yet, yet again move her hair for her, pushing it over her shoulder this time once you’ve stroked it out of her face so you can lean your head into her and snuggle into the crook of her neck for a moment, doing your trying to calm down slightly breaths into her skin]

Ava: [just cuddling like you’ve known each other forever, which always feels bizarrely more intimate than everything else you’ve just done that is arguably more so but we’re not uncomfortable at all either way ‘sorry we didn’t make it to my room’ with a little smile, like whoops because no way was that happening]

James: [‘you’ll have reason to invite me back’ like a room tour is the only reason she’d wanna see him again, because he is sassy and he has bants despite Chlo’s best efforts]

Ava: [doing a little lol to match like oh thank goodness because I was searching for one there ‘and will you?’ the slight edge of nervousness in our voice because he could turn ‘round right this second and regret this, or tomorrow morning, you can’t guarantee not]

James: [lifting his head to give her heart eyes about that lol, can’t help but do that ‘will you have me?’ as if it’s entirely her decision because to him it feels like it is, he truly can’t believe his luck that this happened once because from his POV he’s a flop and she’s incredible, the same nerves in his voice, literal hesitation to say it which isn’t just his breathing still being slightly erratic, we know]

Ava: [nodding excitedly, trying not to start giggling again because can’t be doing all that but it is how we feel over him not immediately writing this off as a mistake or a one-time thing, which we had to accept as possibilities as he’s the one in a relationship here, one we’re not pretending to know the ins and outs of, even if everyone knows Chlo and knows what she’s like to some extent ‘I told you, I’m yours’ trying to say that casually like you’re just being tongue in cheek and aren’t very serious about only being interested in seeing him right now]

James: [her obvious excitement making him smile but it’s a little one not a wild one because we’re still scared to be too much when we’re in this immediate of the aftermath thinking we’ll freak her out by coming on far too strongly, that said, her next words aren’t at all casual and his heart feels like it’s stuck in his throat or going to beat out of his chest and he can’t stop himself from wrapping his arms around her and giving her the most dramatic hug, literally breathing her in and then saying something v poetic about what she smells like]

Ava: [making the sort of contented noises you do when you have a proper bear hug, squeezing him back with the matching energy, doing little kisses on whatever skin you can reach from within this hug, leaving your lips lingering as he speaks, breathing more rapidly because he just gets you ‘you’ll turn me on again’ giving this skin a playful nip, not enough to leave any mark, of course]

James: [picking her up and laying her down on this sofa like they’re gonna go for round 2 because in an ideal world they would, but obvs they can’t because time and real life is a bastard, so he’s just standing over her, taking in the sight of her lying there, trying to commit it all to memory]

Ava: [you can hear the heart eyes in her laughter, before you can literally see them as we’re attempting to maintain eye contact as you look at us, even if we inevitably have to look away blushing ‘this was-’ genuinely stopping, trying to search for a word or words even that would adequately describe how you feel about this experience but you cannot so just shaking your head with a lil smile ‘you know’ because we think/very much hope it continued to be a moment for you too, slowly getting up from this couch to kiss his cheek on tiptoes ‘thank you’]

James: [‘yes’ because we hard agree both that it was indescribable and that we’re on the same page as her about it, holding both her hands while she kisses his cheek, giving them a squeeze as she thanks him like no thank you, looking down at her from this height diff ‘happy birthday, Ava’ with all the feeling in the world because we’d love to say so much more than that but we’re trying to have some chill]

Ava: [when a big part of you wants to cry but it is purely in that sentimental way and you can thankfully blink it off, giving him those glistening almost wet eyes back with a smile, nodding because you can’t say thank you again and anything else you could say is likewise too much or so you think, so after a while, just here holding hands, saying ‘I’ll walk you out’ like you aren’t naked lol, ‘to the door’ as a correction because yeah, best not go out on the street like this 😏]

James: [watch her blink back tears and look at you like she is before kissing her under each eye, like you would each cheek if you were doing a goodbye moment, that soft and brief kind of little kiss, a small sigh escaping because he doesn’t wanna leave on any level and he can’t even pretend that isn’t blatant ‘will you close them for me instead?’ like he can just sneak out that way and it’ll suddenly make it easy rather than ridiculously difficult]

Ava: [doing your own suppressed gasp/sigh because the idea is just as unappealing to you but you nod ‘I can try for you’ and demonstrating as much, even though you’re holding one of his hands so he can’t just leave]

James: [catch him keeping hold of her hand while he reaches for/kicks toward him/whatever moves are necessary to gather his clothes to him without letting go because simply will not, hurrying into them as best he can one handed and then kissing her, with the intention of it being a similar soft and brief one of the lips like he did under her eyes while her eyes are still closed, but ofc it immediately turns into more of a still soft but very !! and dramatic kiss]

Ava: [the accidental tension created for you, because you’re serious about keeping your eyes closed so you don’t exactly know what he’s doing though obviously you have a rough idea but you’re not sure how dressed he is, how ready to leave, just here with your heart pounding casually but trying to act like it’s all okay, only letting his hand go, finally, to cup his face because you need to make this kiss a proper goodbye one and thus putting your all into it is not optional, if you don’t want to stay even more then we’re doing it wrong]

James: [I imagine you’re pretty dressed because having a baby means you’ve gotten good at doing things one handed whilst holding her with your other, as dressed as you can be anyway given your top and jacket are downstairs, here topless having the most romantic goodbye kiss of all time nbd, picking her up like he can just carry her away with him because we so wish]

Ava: [mhmm, and we can let you both get downstairs unscathed whilst barely breaking your kiss because it’s a must and he’s a father, he can multitask, not at all casually getting more insistent and extra the closer to this door you know you are]

James: [what an absolute mood, and yes, catch him hardcore making out with her against the door again, a full circle moment here because we can’t and won’t stop, just desperately kissing her like his heart is gonna shatter into a million pieces the second they aren’t]

Ava: [at first we’re holding back all the dramatic and lovelorn things we want to say in this moment, you can tell by the !! pauses where something should absolutely be, as well as the blatant noises of frustration of doing so, before we land on really quietly whispering ‘you’ll be back, you’ll come back’ over and over, for our benefit or yours, it’s unclear but it is both, honestly]

James: [likewise stopping himself from running his mouth because we don’t wanna be that bitch to make and then have to immediately break a promise and the struggle is clearly as real for him to the point where he’s having to keep kissing her with no pauses even for breath, to the point where they feel like they’re gonna fall through this door onto the street]

Ava: [the way we’d so happily let that happen right now, the only fucks we have left to give are being channelled into us still having our eyes shut even though we SO badly will have wanted to open them by now]

James: [the only reason they aren’t hooking up against this door right here and right now are the clothes he has struggled on and thank god because you would not be being safe and you don’t need that freakout sir, they so nearly are though because there is no chill and no fucks to be given from him either]

Ava: [the freakout would not be the one, even though this girl is absolutely on contraception, you do not know that nor trust that yet because your trauma, though, of course, it is as obvious that you are there too, arguably more so because you’re not dressed, just saying his name in the most pleading way even though what you’re actually asking for is not clear]

James: [letting this happen because those few clothes are a barrier to her getting impregnated but not either of you eventually cumming and there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t and shouldn’t do that when you’re being this highkey, he doesn’t have far to travel to go home, get in the shower when you are boy and it’s fine]

Ava: [it’s not like Chlo cares nor is particularly observant when she decides to, plus she’ll be asleep for hours, only you waking up when Jay does in the AM, so y’all have this, gonna have to have you cinematically open your eyes right as you cum, of course, just necessary]

James: [exactly, we can and we will, they’re already being robbed of him staying longer, this and how hot and cinematic it is is the very least they deserve, ofc he’s gotta say her name when he do because he didn’t say it back when she said it that dramatically before]

Ava: [y’all deserve it and it is everything you needed it to be, no notes]

James: [sadly you then have gotta put her down and put your top and jacket on so you can actually be ready to leave however much you don’t want to, but you’re welcome that you’re a man so you can walk without being raped and murdered and it’ll give you the time to think that you’d want]

Ava: [you can finally get out of his way and go find a blanket on the sofa to wrap yourself in and then sit down so you’re not just there being tempting when you know at some point he really does have to go, you can’t delay it forever]

James: [and you can finally open his present when he leaves gal cos you never did, that’s fun, keep the peak romance going by staying up and reading it if you want]

Ava: [definitely what is occurring, it’s clearly still the weekend in the AM so you have no reason not to and there’s nothing else you want to do besides see him again, which you have NO idea when that is so, find that present and get it unwrapped and get reading, wondering should we post this bit, then we can have her message him, which she will, but then we can do a Teddy convo in the middle just for our own amusement?]

James: [I think we should post this bit yeah because it’s a good stopping point for now, she’s got her reading to do and he’ll probably be writing (after he’s showered and those practical tasks) until Jay wakes up early how little kids inevitably do even at the weekend and then he’ll be taking care of her, so it tracks we’ll have time to do a Teddy convo and her bestie too if we want before James gets back to her]

Ava: [exactly dr phil]

[brokenjardaantech]

loved the omega alejandro concept in your fanfic! do you have more headcanons for it?

Thanks for the ask, anon. I'm glad that you enjoy the concept presented in the fic. My headcanons are usually highly connected to the ficverse they're set in so a lot of them won't make a lot of sense without the appropriate background, but here are a few that I can think of at the top of my head. To me, Alejandro and Rodolfo's lives are so intertwined together that it's difficult to isolate parts that solely belong to either of them, so most of these are probably going to be aledolfo hcs involving omega Alejandro and alpha Rodolfo.

(this got long so i'm putting it under a cut)

Alejandro and Rodolfo grew up together. This is a no-brainer.

Before their secondary sex manifested, everyone thought Rodolfo was going to be the omega and Alejandro was going to be the alpha due to their respective temperament. Ironically, aledolfo themselves cared the least about this because they knew they would be together no matter what. Therefore:

People were legitimately surprised when Alejandro presented as an omega and Rodolfo an alpha. Aledolfo were ecstatic because this meant they could bond and be together forever. Rodolfo's parents were pretty chill about it because again, it isn't like Rudy is going to be with anyone other than Alejandro, so their son's secondary sex doesn't matter much. On the other hand, Alejandro's parents' reaction was... less-than-stellar, to say the least, as he is the only son and being an omega meant that there would be no one to carry on the Vargas line. To please his parents, Alejandro took up the habit of hiding his scent at his home, and this was the first time his exceptional self-control was demonstrated. At first, Alejandro managed to hide his parents' actual reaction from Rudy, but one day it got too much and the dam broke. The next day, Alejandro packed his stuff and moved in with the Parras where he would stay until he joined the military, and the friendship between the two family basically ended overnight.

As all teenagers do, aledolfo discussed in great lengths about their future, and one thing they paid extra attention to was having children. Alejandro had already decided at this point that he would like to join the military and Rodolfo was on the fence, but they agreed that if the circumstances were right and they had enough money saved, they would retire together to make babies. And though they could rely on the Parras for support, they agreed that being their children's primary caretakers would be the best course of action and what they would like to do as well as they couldn't bear the thought of being deployed for an extended period of time and missing their future children's milestones, hence the retirement part and why they wanted to make sure they were financially stable first. Of course, this doesn't happen in the end with their careers and Alejandro being on suppressants + birth control, but the plan is still there in their minds, brewing, reminding them of simpler times with less responsibilities.

Aledolfo bonded towards the end of high school before they graduated. They got married after that and the Parras threw a big party over it. As an olive branch, they invited the Vargases as well, but they didn't show up. This would be Alejandro's last attempt to contact his parents.

Aledolfo debated for a long time whether they should both enlist or if Alejandro should go to the academy to study to be commissioned. They didn't want to be apart from each other for so long, but at the same time, Alejandro's skills and sense of responsibility means that having him simply enlist would be a waste of his talents. In the end, they decided that a short separation would be beneficial for both of them on the long run, hence Alejandro being able to become a colonel while Rodolfo becomes a sergeant major.

Alejandro didn't stop growing until he was 25. Before they left for the respective training, Rodolfo was taller than Alejandro. A few months later when they reunited during a break, Alejandro was taller than Rodolfo. This did not stop Alejandro from curling up into a ball and snuggling against Rodolfo whenever he got the chance to. In his mind's eye, he is always going to be the smaller but angrier omega by his alpha's side, and being physically taller won't change that.

Alejandro and Rodolfo were paired together as soon as Alejandro got his commission. Allowing a bonded pair to command a group of people was still relatively unheard of back then, so this decision was more of an experiment than an actual concern for aledolfo's health. Needless to say, aledolfo excelled at their tasks and Rodolfo himself started showing leadership potential, though Alejandro's omega physiology and his control over his scent meant that there were things Rodolfo would never be able to do when compared to Alejandro. This was fine to him; he knew his omega was exceptional and strong, and there was nothing he wanted to do more than to fight by his mate's side and assist him in kicking out the cartel plaguing their home.

Due to aledolfo's success, bonded pairs are now allowed to serve together in the military as opposed to the old practice where they would be separated. Before, mating bonds were seen as potential weaknesses and sources of bias and conflict, but aledolfo's case proves that this assumption is totally wrong. Turns out, when two people know each other so well that the tiniest microexpression can mean an entire sentence, they are unstoppable. And on a related note:

Alejandro is actually pretty famous within the world of special forces. Although military omegas are more common these days, a military omega in the special forces is still a rare sight because most omegas won't bother suffering through the trials of special forces training just to be assigned to do the same thing as they have always done in their normal posts; in the usual military setting, military omegas are held with a high regard and are given better treatment than all other personnel, while being in the SF means volunteering for the harshest and most thankless jobs, so most people just don't choose this path at all. Therefore, Alejandro being the commander of an SF unit places him apart in both SFs in general and in the field of military omegas. His expertise in manipulating the battlefield and soldiers using his pheromones plus his very personal experience with commanding an SF unit as a mated pair with Rodolfo means that his knowledge is highly sought after and is referenced by militaries all around the globe. If you're a military omega, there's a 99% chance that the skill you're taught was devised and refined by Alejandro throughout the years because he was the one who wrote the book in the first place. So yeah. He's famous not only in Las Almas but all around the world. Alejandro himself is pretty humble about it because he isn't even sure why he got so famous in the first place, but it didn't stop Soap from fanboying over him when he first met Alejandro. Alejandro himself wasn't aware of it because he was so focused on the mission and it was immediately followed by the stress heat, but Rodolfo and Ghost definitely noticed. They think it's cute.

I think this is it! Some ideas I have about omega Alejandro that I can think of right now. There are more, of course, so feel free to ask about them if you want an elaboration or something more specific. Thank you again for giving me the opportunity to talk about him and hope you enjoy this list of hcs that spiraled out of control just like most of my writings :D

#aledolfo #alejandro vargas #rodolfo parra #omegaverse #call of duty #call of duty modern warfare 2

[moonlayl]

Thing is: ms marvel has a lot of cool ideas and a story with a lot of potential.

And, when it comes to including culture, based on what Pakistani fans have been saying, the creators do a really good job, and it is SO good that the show brought attention to the partition and the role the British played in it. And so many things, like the wedding scene, the inclusion of Eid, and the mosque scenes, were so amazing to watch!

But, aside from those few really good things, the show is a mess. The pacing is off. The characters don’t feel real at all. “well they’re fiction! Ofc they’re not real” yeah but everything is off. Sure it’s fiction, but I’m still supposed to get the impression that these characters are ACTUALLY going through whatever it is they’re going through. Except it doesn’t feel like that at all. These characters all seem dead inside.

Anything happens, and every reaction lacks emotional depth. Waleed is literally murdered and Kamala’s tone makes it sound like she’s just upset that she got a question wrong on a test, or something.

Najma literally murders Aisha in cold blood and abandons her own child, and has no problem attempting to murder a bunch of minors, yet two words from Kamala (that were said without any proper emotional expressions or tone) suddenly makes her go “okay, I’ll sacrifice myself to close the rift” like, what?

Kamala has spent the entire show dragging every word she says, and never having any appropriate responses to anything. I know it’s due to the fact that Iman is inexperienced and new to acting, but it doesn’t make it any less irritating. She does not sound like an actual human being going through insane crap and discovering more and more new world shattering information each episode. It feels like I’m watching a middle school play, in terms of Iman’s acting. Which, is understandable, given Iman’s age, except it’s not just one or two scenes. It’s every scene she’s in and it’s just…annoying after a while.

And her mother, Muneeba? Like sorry, most people aren’t that passive when they think their daughter literally ruined a wedding! Or snuck out of the house and lied for several hours. Or has freaking superpowers and is surrounded by unconscious bodies (and I’m pretty sure also corpses?)

And then we get Kamran, who was willing to go against his family for Kamala literally like a week after meeting Kamala, and he somehow already likes her. Sure, if his mom is completely in the wrong it can happen, but the pacing for that was too weird. Even, Najma. She finds out Kamala just wants a little bit of time, and decides she’s not okay with that and is down for murder 4 seconds later? After a morning of being patient? And Kamran never noticed anything off about his mother in all his years? A woman who can change her mind THAT quickly and be two faced couldn’t have hidden it from her own son for 17 years!

And Kareem! They massacred my boy. He and Kamala did not have nearly enough time to form a bond. He was practically emotionless over Waleed’s death. Kamala asks him if he’s going to be okay, almost as an afterthought.

“Oh by the way, your parental figure WAS just murdered 30 minutes ago…you good?”

Kareem says “he [Waleed] would’ve been proud of you” THE GUY KNEW HER ALL OF 2 SECONDS. COME ON!!

There was too much going on and they tried to shove too much of different parts from the comics (while ignoring the actual context of those storylines) in this 6 episode show, while not giving ANYTHING appropriate screentime.

They also tried hard to connect everything through the bangle and the clandestines, except the writing felt weak. It feels like the main plot was just rushed, because wholesome moments and culture was prioritized (which wouldn’t have been a problem at all, it’s actually a really good thing, if this wasn’t an origin story, AND if the pacing was any good AND if everything connected without feeling like a giant nonsensical mess)

I love the show for the representation (even if I have a LOT of criticism, like how they erased Muneeba being a hijabi, messed up Nakia, even made her half white IN THE SHOW) and I’m definitely rewatching all those scenes about Pakistan and the wedding (and reblogging gifs!!!) but ASIDE from representation, the plot is not strong, it’s too messy, it’s doesn’t feel like the characters have good motives, or even emotions…

And I KNOW people are going to say “well you CAN form a bond with someone over a short period of time” or “some people ARE passive in real life”

But see the thing is, while those two statements are true, it’s only no longer irritating to watch if it’s written in a way that makes sense. If it’s well done. But thats not the case! Her scenes with ANY character are weird. It doesn’t feel like they know each other, or actually care, or are close.

And the “passiveness” is just bad acting. Call it what it is. You can absolutely love a show without defending its super obvious flaws.

I also know people are going to point out the target audience, except what IS the target audience? Because if the answer isn’t “actual ten year olds” than everything I’ve said is valid. My twelve year old female cousin who I made sure not to say anything critical to, as she watched, came up to me and literally asked “why are they talking like that? It all feels fake. Why isn’t she reacting?”

I watched turning red, and absolutely loved it, despite the target audience being for younger girls. But it worked. The plot was good. The reactions and emotions were good. It wasn’t rushed. I loved the “cringe”. I welcomed it with open arms. But it wasn’t done well in the Ms. Marvel show.

This show had such great potential, but it was just executed badly, and it has a lot of flaws, and I’m SICK of either people hating it from the beginning without giving it any chance at all, and absolutely refusing to acknowledge any positives, or of people acting like this is the best show ever created and absolutely refusing to accept any criticism or acknowledge any flaws.

(Last thing: Kamala being the one to create the trail of stars that saved Sana and reunited her with her dad, was super cute, and is definitely a positive. I do love Kamala’s character in the comics and I do love what the show tried to do, even if it wasn’t done too well)

#ms marvel #ms marvel spoilers #kamala khan #marvel #mcu critical #anti mcu #anti ms marvel

[wkemeup]

If your still offering therapy advice, i could use it. How do you set boundries with someone with a victim mindset?

My grandma has a apartment key. And sometimes, shell clean the place. Now, i dont wanna sound ungreatful cause its a nice thing to do. But sometimes ill just get home from my parents or hanging with my friends and its spotless. No text or call asking if i wanted it clean, no saying "hey im in the area is it ok if i clean up a bit?" No nothing, its just done.

Now, before when she did it. She would vacum, do the dishes, maybe do my laundry (laundrys weird, she folds my underwear DONT DO THAT) but this time, she cleaned Everything.

I got back from my parents after recovering from surgery, its Spotless. I check my drawers, undies and bras are folded. Then i check my bedside drawer cause i have something embarassing in there and i hid it under pjs. I think theres no way shell look under the pjs and snoop. No :)

She organized the thing and folded the charger next to it. I repeat. She saw my fuckin vibrator and didnt even think Hmm maybe i should leave this alone and respect her privacy. Nah man she just kinda didnt do that. I call her, tryint to be discreet and say "hey, i really appreachiate u cleaning the place, but do u mind not going through my stuff, like my clothes n stuff." She starts crying saying she just wanted to pick some stuff off the floor so i wouldnt trip while im recovering. Cool, so whyd u do all that other stuff???? Idk i feel like im beint ungratful but bestie im 20 thats an invasion of privacy dont do that

Theres a bunch of other stuff she does that i dont wanna get into, but its kinda the same. Shell do something nice but its kinda weird then shell act like the victim when i say anythint about it. How do i make her stop? Its weird, im an adult i dont need her babying me and i espeially dont need her going through my personal stuff

I absolutely agree that there’s some lines being crossed here. It’s great that you were able to communicate that you were uncomfortable to her. The biggest thing to keep in mind is that you are not responsible for her reactions. You can only control your own. It sounds like you know what you wanna tell her, it’s just a matter of sticking to that request even when she starts becoming upset and turning it around and guilting you. Be respectful and kind, but also be firm and confident when you set that boundary. Depending on what you’re comfortable with, you can find compromises with her and say you’d still appreciate her cleaning the kitchen or vacuuming as long as she texts first but request she leave your laundry and drawers alone (for example). You would also be valid in asking her to not clean while you’re not home at all.

You shouldn’t ever feel like you need to hide things in your own space. And to feel that level of discomfort and uncertainty about whether you’ll walk through the door and discover someone had been in your home, even if it’s your grandmother.

You are not being unreasonable. This is an appropriate boundary to set. So again just be kind but firm when you speak with her, stick to your guns, and remember that whether or not she gets upset is her responsibility to manage, not yours.

Hope that helps ❤️

#inbox #the advice tag

[jadedaceofspades]

This is directed about the post I just reblogged about children's internet safety.

I wholeheartedly agree with the entirety of the post, both the OP and reblog. I do want to advise people to NOT immediately hone in on "well, the parents are just doing it to control their kids" and actually use critical thinking skills and not just go with your feelings.

I really need people to also realize that there is a difference between controlling what children see/interact with to actually supervising them and not allowing them to interact with certain things. The phrases "I don't want you to interact with this piece of media because it's not appropriate for you" and "I don't want you to interact with this piece of media because I said so" are NOT the say and shouldn't be seen as the same. But some people who have good intentions but not such great critical thinking will look at those two phrases and label them both as abusive, when they're not.

Also, if your immediate reaction to parents supervising their children is "omg, abuse!!", then you are a part of the problem. No child, particularly teenagers, want their parents to know what they're doing, but with that being said, these minors need to be aware that there are certain places they are not welcome and if their parents know about it and block it from them, it's for their own good. And example I have is me. Yes, I'm an ancient old bat at 35 years old and MOST of my content is SFW. However, if I make a post or reblog a post that is not minor friendly and I put in the proper tags and a minor interacts with it and complains about it? I told you to not interact with it because I was being responsible; you're the one trying to get me in trouble because you don't want to be told what to do.

I have to stress that adults on the internet are not responsible for curating a minor's experience and we are not responsible for what they see and do. That is solely on the parents. I can do what I can to protect MYSELF but that's it. If this is seen by some of you as "well, then you don't care about kids", then that makes no sense that I have rear a child online because you're afraid the parents MIGHT be abusive. That's nonsense. You can care about a minor's wellbeing on the internet and social media AND allow adults to be in their own space without having to fear that some numpty will try to tell them that they are not allowed to do NSFW because there are children on the website who MIGHT come across the NSFW stuff.

What people should do is stop telling parents that they are abusive for wanting to not just protect their child and help them use COMMON SENSE and start telling minors that maybe their parents have a point that they shouldn't be interacting with NSFW content that was not meant for them in the first place. And I know that teens lie, but if I personally find out someone lied about being an adult, they're getting reported and I hope they learn from it.

{this is just an opinion piece. i'm not arguing with people who think my opinion is "wrong" because it doesn't coincide with their opinions. Be more productive with your time instead of arguing with me.}

#long post but i had shit to say

[thefamilyeldritchabomination]

Chapter Sixteen: Music Pt. 4

“While I’m greatly concerned that you’re leaving Freddy out of the conversation, but Envy, you understand that both Lust and Gluttony care about you too, right? They’re both going to want to help you out on this and Lust is likely going to fight you on it.” Dolly still felt that tension of something bad was going to happen and really hoped Freddy won’t be roped into a Coup either.

 “What? I’m sure the Face Fur will do fine in the wild after he finishes the stone. To put your concerns to rest, Lust and Gluttony will have to listen to me about this matter, I’m older than the both of them along with being both their mentor when they first arrived.” Envy figured it was best to spare Dolly of the strong possibility of Freddy dying after creating the stone and let her think he’d be released to the wilderness as a better option.

 “...Freddy has no clue on wilderness survival at all..” Dolly stared at Envy as she let out a very important detail about Freddy, his lack of survival skills. “Well he better sharpen those hunting skills then, the Face Fur will have to fend for himself from now on.” Envy tried their hardest to sell the notion of Freddy being ‘released’ into the wilderness as the best possibility rather than him dying horrifically.

 “Envy, Freddy is coming along with me, I’m responsible for his well being. God, I can’t imagine the reaction Joel would have over this should anything happen to Freddy.” Dolly reiterated her original purpose of coming along with Freddy since he was her responsibility. “Then Joel can stay as the weird steamed Lobster human he is.” Envy still had no clue what horrors Joel held beneath him as they carefully sipped the third round of cognac.

 “I’ll give you the fair heads up then as I’m realizing Freddy hasn’t even told you this about his parents. Both of them are retired mercenaries, extremely efficient mercenaries that specialized in torture methods and often targeted political figures. Joel has no off switch when he gets into that specific rage that made him notorious in the underworld circle. Please do not underestimate Joel or even his wife.” Dolly finally gave Envy the news about Freddy’s parents and figured it was a fair thing to do to even the playing grounds. “....How the hell did they manage to produce that weak asshole in the first place? The Face Fur should’ve been a more respectable killer than with that pedigree.” Envy looked shocked for a change that a weakling like Freddy would have impressive parentage like that.

 “I like to imagine when Freddy was born, he broke the mold to be the only one like that in the family. All the members I’ve known throughout my time with them have been very sufficient survivalists with strong skills in hunting. Freddy was the only one I know that never really developed that instinct, I suppose I am a bit protective of Freddy in that respect.” Dolly finally came to terms about Freddy needing a little extra protection given his lack of basic instincts that ran strong in the Mancer Family.

 “Are you sure this wasn’t like God’s joke to your family to make the Face Fur so dumb that he literally couldn’t survive on his own two feet?” Envy was more impressed that the idiot managed to survive this long now that they were given better context.

 “I can promise you Freddy isn’t some divine joke on everyone, he’s just a little different and that’s perfectly alright. I’m alright giving him a hand and making sure Freddy is able to survive on his own. Just, understand that his parents, despite how harsh they can be towards Freddy at times, truly care about the goober and will likely throw knives to defend him.” Dolly felt once again, it was appropriate to reiterate that the parents are skilled killers that like to play with their victims for a bit. “Good thing I’m excellent at dodging projectiles, I should be able to handle a confrontation with the Face Fur’s parents.” Envy gave that proud and boastful smirk as Dolly looked less impressed by this. “But didn’t you get hit a good couple of times by Hughes’s knives” Dolly didn’t have a good feeling about how the introduction will go for Envy given that incident. “That was because it was an ambush, I wasn’t fully prepared just yet.” Envy gave a pout as they instructed their waiter to bring them their bill and a carry out box for the meal. “Right then, I’m surprised that you’re not going to get dessert while you are at it too.” Dolly watched as the waiter brought the bill to Envy who proceeded to pay for the meal. “I got a better place in mind for dessert, also you’re welcome, I’m paying for the meal this time.” Envy finished getting the bill paid as they watched their meal being brought back in a carryout box.

 “Thank you, that was really kind of you to do that for me.” Dolly smiled a bit, pleasantly surprised that Envy actually paid for the dinner and the drinks this time around. “Yeah…you’re welcome? Just don’t get used to it, the next meal we have together, you’re paying for me.” Envy slowly got up from the table, picking up the takeout box and motioned for Dolly to start following them to the location.

 Dolly, getting up, started following Envy out of the restaurant and to the darken outdoors to walk along the gravel path. The warmed plantlife lingered in the night’s air after a day of baking in the sunlight as the pair walked along its aged path. At first, it was sparse with a few houses every now and then before it slowly became much more isolated from the community all together. Nature had overtaken this path with plant life and small sapling trees taking over it as Dolly looked around in the unfamiliar area she was being brought to. Envy, on the other hand, was a bit tense as they brought Dolly closer to what used to be their mortal childhood home. Envy finally felt ready to reveal that part of them to Dolly as they drew closer to the once lavish mansion now an overgrown ruin that nature decided to take back. The mansion hadn’t aged all too well, but it still had an interior that likely was still stable even if raccoons may have moved in there. Dolly gazed wide eyed at the dilapidated mansion that mother nature gladly redecorated. “I’m going to need you to teleport us inside of the mansion, I don’t trust that the door will open on its own. I have a little story to tell once inside.” Envy instructed as they gazed at their mortal-hood home looking like a death trap of sorts.

 “Sure, that’s something I can do, just I’m hoping we won’t run into a rogue group of raccoons inside.” Dolly had a feeling there were some things inside that wouldn’t be entirely welcoming to the idea of surprise guests.

 “If there are, then I know where I’m taking the Face Fur tomorrow.” Envy mused to themself as they took up Dolly’s hand for the teleporting. “Envy..” Dolly narrowed her eyes a bit at the fact Envy would suggest such an awful thing. “Fine, I’ll spare the raccoons, they truly don’t deserve to be tormented by the Face Fur anyways.” Envy relented as Dolly teleported the both of them inside of the possible raccoon kingdom inside the dilapidated mansion.

 The interior was the complete opposite of what the outside was displaying as Envy led Dolly on a tour of sorts inside of the ancient homestead. The walls and even the floor they walked upon was overly opulent, a true wonder as to why this place hadn’t been plundered yet. There were many expensive and priceless artifacts that Dolly could spot with her own eyes as Envy just ignored it since they meant nothing to them. Casually, Dolly dropped her glamor to be in her actual form since it was a lot more comfortable to be in along with the lower risk of accidental tail stumping. This relaxed Envy a little bit to see Dolly dropping the glamor as they stopped in front of an old ripped up portrait, the only thing to be seen was a woman sitting in the front.

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[pineappleciders]

Dear Mr Pineapple,

I am writing to you today to inform you that you have made a mistake. I hope that with this information you will learn and grow from what you have done, though I cannot guarantee.

Let me get to the point: what you have done is disgusting. Your actions alone have caused a physical reaction from me; one that I hope to never experience again. You caused me to croak like a crow. Your post alone made me invent a new sound never before heard by humans. If this sound were a colour, it would only be visible to shrimp.

Your post - that disgusting thing - made me laugh. I could not breathe. I'm sure you're wondering what post this is. Of course, your feeble-minded pea brain can't handle the concept of common sense. So, you make me get off my arse and explain it to you.

Well, this post is in regard to your shitting experience. In it, you describe - in great detail - your experience with something known to most as 'constipation.' Can you say that word? It goes like this; con-sti-pay-sheon. Can you do that? Congratulations.

Now, why I cannot stop others from excreting, this level of TMI is horrifying. You really should be ashamed of yourself. Again, I hope this message can serve as a learning experience for you, but I cannot be sure. In all honesty, I find it more likely that you shall relieve yourself in response, and then post about it. Which, may I say, is NOT the appropriate response!

Kind regards,

Horrified Parent Anon/😱 Anon

Dear Horrified Parent Anon/😱 Anon,

When I saw this ask, I had just gotten up off the toilet and started to wipe my ass. As I am writing this response, I am sitting at my desk in my room, at 6:35 AM CST, writing this letter.

I have taken your letter into deep consideration, and I wish to say this:

I have made a considerable amount of mistakes in my life, as we all do. In 14 years of living on this Earth, one can only assume that a 'pea-brained' individual such as myself will cause many mishaps and slip up once in awhile.

But, after re-reading my previous post, I don't think I did anything wrong, nor will I be apologizing. You see, there will come a time in everyone's life where they are going to be taking a dump on the toilet, and after pushing once, twice, thrice; They will find that nothing will come out. They will not hear the satisfying plop and splash of a turd hitting the toilet water.

This is called constipation, and every individual will experience it at least once in their lives. It's a very normal thing, that can be caused by many factors. Such as;

• Not having enough fiber or protein in your diet

• Lack of nutrition

• Not drinking enough fluids

• Eating large amounts of dairy

• A side effect from certain medications

I have had quite my share of pooping problems, specifically constipation, as my diet isn't ideal. Sometimes I have to wait on the toilet until my body finishes digesting the food until I can poop the rest out, as my digestive system is incredibly slowed.

Now, about twice or three times a week, I sit on the toilet. Pulling my pants down, sitting, and bracing myself. Let me tell you, friend, it never gets easier.

Sometimes it comes out faster, and sometimes it comes out slower. But, no matter what, each time I have to shit, I am using incredible force. I am shaking, I am grabbing the counter, the toilet seat, whatever I can get my hands on. My legs are quivering, and the pure strain it puts on my asshole is unbearable. I have to physically stop and wait for a few seconds because I strain so hard that my asshole hurts.

Now; What happens when you put a 14-year-old boy who is having severe toilet problems, and a phone in the same room?

You know what happens? That boy is going to pick up his phone, and even if it means only a fraction of his pain and suffering will be reduced; even if it means only one person will hear his cries, he is going to type out a post and publish it for his 1,000 followers to see.

When someone is fighting for their life on a toilet, they don't tend to think about what they're doing. In fact, looking at the post right now, after I have finished shitting, is a sobering experience.

In conclusion; I cannot be blamed for the words I type on the toilet. I am never myself, as shitting for me might as well be fist-fighting with God with how fucking hard it is. I would also like to add that said post made you laugh, and therefore, you don't really hate it. You like it, don't you? You actually enjoy reading my post describing my painful shits. Disgusting.

In fact, I think I'm going to start posting about every shit I take. I'll tell you all when I sit down to shit, how I push the shit out, how many pieces of toilet paper it takes to wipe, and whether or not the toilet will be clogged. Perhaps I'll start my own shit diary, and blog it for the world to see.

I will end this by saying that I have finished pooping, and writing this took about 25 minutes. I felt extreme relief after the shit, but my stomach has started to hurt, and I am afraid I will have to dump once more.

If I do, I will make it my personal duty to post about it, and I will mention you by full government name in said post. There shall never be a day where you don't think about me shitting. I hope this scars you for life.

Sincerely,

Mr. Pineapple

#pineappleciders #this the typa shit im on when im sleep deprived

[neverwritewhatyouknow]

hi! i hope it's okay that i ask you this, i can imagine you must be really exhausted dealing with hate you don't deserve and it's not your responsibility to educate us. i was just wondering that wasn't the mention that nora was spending hannukah the only bit that talked of her religion? i know you've talked about being jewish/being a convert, but i'm still trying to understand this - like how can we know for sure cmq meant for her ethnicity to be jewish precisely? i'm not saying i think they meant for her to be from a family practising judaism but not jewish - bc i don't, i don't think cmq spent that much time thinking about it honestly - but techincally how can we be sure? (not saying that this would a good reason to not cast a jewish actress, obviously getting jewish rep would have been a better choice) but i was thinking - isn't this a bit like with pez's gender? i think cmq tweeted that they consider pez genderfluid/nonbinary/in some way gnc, but since she didn't explictly write that down, they can't claim having rep for that and ultimately it's up to the reader to decide for themselves. (i'm trans myself too) again, i don't think this is a "good enough" reason to not cast a jewish person and i'm disappointed at how they handled and continue to handle this, but i'm just trying to understand/see if my thinking makes sense, if you get what i mean? and if nora was explicitly stated to be jewish at some point/i missed somethin, i apologize!! thank you so much for continuing to educate people - and me - and i'm sorry about the mess of this ask!! thank you for taking the time to read and answer, and i do really hope you remember to take care of yourshelf too bc you deserve that!

I’m summarizing the question here so I don’t have to keep scrolling up:

1. How can we know Nora is ethnically Jewish? (The anon doesn’t think she’s from a non-Jewish family who practices Judaism. Doesn’t think CMQ thought about it a lot. Only Chanukkah was mentioned.)

I already know I’m going to get attacked for this answer, because people are going to have problems with some or all of it. I ask that if you start reading the answer, to finish reading the answer. I’m serious.

I’m going to say first that even the mention of Nora celebrating Hanukkah is enough to have a Jewish actor needed to play her, since that there and then shows that Nora is Jewish. Non-Jews don’t celebrate Hanukkah (don’t come in here with “evidence of non-Jews doing it, that’s appropriation and def not what CMQ was showing).

I went through the book today looking for stuff, it’s as vague as I remembered (the vagueness is something I will talk more about), but I did find some stuff that I think is important for your question.

Let’s start with the biggest thing that shows that Nora is Jewish. Hanukkah. A Jewish holiday. Even non-religious Jews tend to celebrate Hanukkah because… presents.

Nora goes home to celebrate with her parents (and we can assume grandparents, because they seem very close to her parents). Her parents Reilly and Rebecca. Now, a name obviously cannot and shouldn’t determine someone’s religion, but using her mom’s name of Rebecca added with everything else, we can form a bigger picture of Nora’s background. God, I feel like a theory YouTuber. The name Rebecca is common among Jews (obviously not only Jews), but if you look at her name, combined with Nora’s name (which HOLY FUCKING SHIT ⬅️ my actual reaction because I just realized I don’t need to finish answering this question. I remembered reading that CMQ had changed Nora’s name and…

I don’t have to defend Nora being Jewish or not anymore, because…

Casey already did. Everyone asking how to know if Nora is Jewish or not, Casey said it. Right there.

Anyway I was gonna say a whole bunch of other stuff about how you can tell Nora is Jewish in the book because of the way that Casey described something and why the vagueness actually made sense in a more meta way… (let me know if anyone still actually wants this)

If nobody wanted to believe me about Nora being Jewish, maybe you’ll believe Casey? The author of the book. Oh and for anyone who wants to fight back and say “well people don’t know about Casey saying this.” That’s not the point. The point isn’t this sentence, it’s the fact that she wrote Nora as Jewish. Nora is Jewish and Casey wrote her that way. Can people be mad about this now? FOR THE LOVE OF GOD This is the clearest answer. Thank you to the anon, I knew CMQ had mentioned this but forgot until now. Thought maybe I dreamed it. But nope. Right there.

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[becorbin]

Your Amygdala and Childhood Trauma: 4 Truths You Should Know

From a mental health nurse; here are 4 truths you should know about your aymgdala

POST traumatic, stress disorder

After the traumatic thing is over; how you experience stress & your attempts to regulate it are not “functional”. 

1 |

The association between what happens around you**, and how you** physiologically respond has been impacted.

not ruined, not faulty, not broken; but impacted, for your safety, based on your unique experiences (some you may not even remember)

You have two amygdalae in your temporal lobe. They are part of your limbic system. Your amygdala’s job is to sense danger and tell your body to begin the flight or fight response. 

A lot of us do exactly what our body tells us to do, without considering that our body is talking our mind into being afraid.

Your amygdala reacts, without you telling it to. Your amygdala doesn’t have a discussion with you before it gives the go ahead to flood adrenaline into your body. 

People with PTSD often have an amygdala with the philosophy of better safe than sorry.

So, when you abruptly realize you’re not good & make an exit, without the ability to have an explanation; that’s exactly how the amygdala works, and how it should work.

These things will happen to someone with PTSD. It’s one of the effects of childhood trauma on the brain.

We would be at a bigger disadvantage if our aymgdala didn’t learn from horrific things.

We don’t get to tell the amygdala what it needs to be looking for. 

For instance, Let’s say you witnessed a robbery at a gas station that ended in a gun fight.

You might guess that guns make you a little uneasy, or maybe you’re not into ski masks; those are pretty straight forward.

But your amygdala picked up on the sound of the gas station door bell that you didn’t even realize you heard 3 minutes before the robbery began.

That’s when it gets confusing for us.

We can’t stand the Wal-Mart greeter around christmas time; the one that rings the bell relentlessly and wishes you a Merry Christmas; but we but can’t make the connection why. 

Try not to think about it as your enemy, challenge yourself to be thankful for it instead. 

Thank you amygdala, but I’ll take it from here.

What YOU are left with, is a cognitive interpretation; heavily influenced by your body’s state of fear.

With that being said, here is the second thing you should know about your amygdala and childhood trauma

2 |

View situations**, “triggers“, and** reactions objectively

Because, people with PTSD have a bias to negative stimuli; this means how you are seeing it, might not be realistic.

You will likely exagerate the level of threat and the possibility of catastrophy. 

Here are some examples of replacing your subjective interpretation with objective information.

Below is printable you can use to track how you react to certain things.

I’ve used it a few times to help me sort out what’s happening & why.

Free Printable PTSD Trigger Tracker

We’ve had different experiences, which brings me to the third thing you should know about your amygdala and childhood trauma.

3 |

We have all had unique experiences & they’re all valid.

I listen to a lot of people talk about PTSD & they often downplay what happened & try to stuff the feelings that came with it.

Sometimes growing up we had to, because we truly couldn’t handle what was happening around us.

A lot of us were helpless children, having very little, or no control of our surroundings. The only thing you have left is to distort the way you see it, so you can handle it.

It doesn’t help that a lot of parents

Shame kids for having feelings

Refuse to admit their wrong doings

Are enablers & downplay other adult’s wrong doings

Are uncomfortable with emotions

Do not express emotions

Do not express emotions appropriately

Discourage kids from having feelings

Take advantage of a child’s vulnerability

Equate vulnerability to weakness

These are all ridiculous unhealthy ways to approach emotions. They were then & they still are now.

There are a lot of people who do this until they die. It doesn’t matter if they’re 67 years old; they still may be unhealthy when it comes to emotional wellbeing.

Another thing; you may have went through something with someone, but stilll had two completely different experiences.

When I was a kid, me and my brother were the only ones at the house one night when my mom did some… traumatizing things.

I had always viewed it as “We went through it together. We both experienced the same thing.”

But, this incident left me in a state that I couldn’t escape until 15 laters, & with a lot of help from a therapist.

It changed my trajectory and was something I thought about everyday. I lived in the nightmare of the theme of the events that happened.

Each time I tried to talk to my brother about it, I felt worse. 

I felt like he should understand, I mean he was there… but he didn’t. He invalidated my account of what happened and was even upset with me for years about it.

I felt like he needed to understand what happened, what really happened, you know? 

After 15 years & with help from someone with a degree in emotions (a therapist) I realized and accepted; I am the only one who experienced it. 

It doesn’t have to be validated by him, or anyone, for me to have experienced what I experienced.

So, just because someone claims to “know what happened” or “how it happened” or want to frame it as if you’re being dramatic, etc… no.

Your experience is yours and more importantly don’t allow that invalidation to stop you from healing.

If it’s still something you think about on the drive home from work everyday, when you lay down at night, and when you drive back into work…

There is a way to escape that, but stuffing your feelings down about it is not the way.

So here’s a little bit about how to heal the brain after trauma.

4 |

It’s important to integrate what happened into who you are now

Instead of being haunted by the experience, you will begin to feel empowered by it.

Each time you tell a trauma story the right way, it has a little less of a grip on you.

Be vulnerable, persistent, and attentive when it comes to your PTSD.

Understanding how to rewire your brain after trauma requires each of them

What I mean by be vulnerable

Tell the story from a first person point of view

Journal about what is on your mind

Write letters to people that you feel unsettled with (you don’t need to send them)

Tell the story without making it into a comedy movie

Challenge your rigid thinking/all or nothing/black and white thinking

receiving criticism does not mean you’re a failure

a disgruntled patient doesn’t make you a bad nurse

Be willing to take direction (from the RIGHT people/places)

Try free groups for dysfunctional families: ACOA, Hope Recovery

Challenge your codependent traits

Challenge your controlling behaviors

Challenge your perfectionsist tendencies

Challenge your people pleasing habits

It will take courage & will get easier; give yourself grace

What I mean by be persistent

If you’re trying and something isn’t working, address it

You might be talking to the wrong person

Taking the wrong medication

Trying the wrong therapy approach

You might have the wrong therapist

Maybe you need more time/going too fast

Perhaps a different setting/environment

Consider distancing yourself/removing things that are harming you

friends

habits

family members

jobs

marriage

etc.

What I mean by be attentive

Pay attention to yourself

Try tracking things and pay attention to patterns

Practice being calm/calming down

Sometimes the most “important” people, are the worst for us

Are you okay with how you treat people/how you allow others to treat you?

You can still love someone but not share certain things with them

You get to choose who you tell and what you tell

Recognize your own shortcomings or unhealthy habits

Take the time to reflect and take care of yourself

Hopefully some of this helps. I put a lot of links below for other PTSD stuff; posts, journaling, and a book about PTSD.

What is CBT

Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome

Losing a Parent As a Child

10 Signs of Emotional Neglect In Adults

Dealing With Triggers In Recovery

14 Exercises to Stop Negative Thinking

When You Feel Overwhelmed and Stressed

Medication for Anxiety and Panic Attacks

If you want to know the details about how trauma changes the brain:

You can learn a lot from the affiliate link below.

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

It’s kind of a dry book in my opinion, but worth the read. It definitely explains PTSD, which is helpful if it applies to you.

Original Post Here

Source: twoforsue.com

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[queen-scribbles]

👪,🍧, 🌙, & ☄️ for Kina!!

Yesss my spiky girl!

👪 FAMILY - what is their family like? what is your ocs relationship to them? does your oc have any siblings?

Ha. Well. In a word? Criminal. 😂 Her dad(Pak Taldine) is was a gangster so ruthless his own men sold him out and got him sent to Belsavis(where he grows a conscience and turns his life around, hence the was). Her mom(Kyvii) was a grifter and one of the front staff for a casino Pak's gang worked out of. Kina didn't really have any sort of relationship with Pak; he just let Kyvii stay on at her job as long as she still pulled her weight, and he landed in Belsavis prison when Kina was about 12. She knew who he was and his reputation but that was about it, I don't think he ever said two words to her.

Kyvii did... an alright job single parenting while working at a gang-controlled casino. She taught Kina all the tricks and dirty fighting stuff she knows, how to shoot a blaster, how to spot an easy mark, how to play up being innocent, all that. She got caught scamming some rich kid when Kina was 13 and landed in jail. Kina's been on her own ever since.

There's no siblings, thanks to the fling-like nature of Pak and Kyvii's relationship(if you can even call it a relationship). She doesn't even know what's happened to her parents since she wound up on her own. And yes, yes I HAVE thought about post-redemption Pak crossing paths with her at some point on the expac storyline and going "WAIT. that's my kid". >:3

Her family now is her crew. I'd say she's closest to Akaavi out of the group, but Corso and Risha are absolutely both sibling-tier friends, too, she'd die for Bowie, and actually even really likes Guss.

🍧 SHAVED ICE - do they still have any objects from their childhood? what significance does it have to them? what would their reaction be if they lost it?

Objects no. It's all been sold or lost or stolen along the way. And she didn't have much that was hers to begin with. Does her last name count? Kyvii doesn't have a surname, so she put Taldine down for Kina. Kina doesn't know why, if it was a way of giving her identity, or protection(no criminal's going to come after Pak Taldine's kid, that won't end well sort of thing) or what. But toys, clothes, mementos, all of it's gone.

🌙 MOON - what is your oc's greatest wish? how far are they willing to go for it?

If you asked her, she'd say either more credits than a Hutt could spend in a lifetime or a complete mechanical overhaul of her ship to make sure that baby lasts her whole life and then some.

🌠 SHOOTING STAR - if they could make any wish with no repercussions, what wish would they make?

More face time with Rass Ordo. I MEAN. Currently? For someone more noble and appropriately heroic to come along and be in charge or saving/policing the galaxy. She's one of those who saved the place bc "I'm one of the idiots who lives in it" rather than feeling any obligation to help. xD She doesn't really want to be in this position, though it does have its perks(fueling privileges with the Republic, lots of chances to earn credits or favors, meeting ~wonderful, fun~ people [She's looking at Rass again]). It's more responsibility than she EVER wanted. It's too much of a headache.

Emoji asks

#emoji asks #kina taldine #thank you! i needed to flash her out more bc she's def not going anywhere xD

[bookwyrminspiration]

Response to an ask from Ophelia:

(this is the one about your sibling)

Hello! Welcome back! I do truly mean it when I say you don't need to apologize. My asks and how many I have is not something for you to worry about, so there's nothing to apologize for. We're just interacting! We're allowed to do that without any guilt over being annoying. You're not being annoying, you're not bothering me, or anything else. Even if you were, it's okay to be annoying! Friends are allowed to annoy each other and part of being friends is that we still care about each other regardless.

I know you feel bad about the situation, but if it helps I think you were 100% right to tell your sibling. Keeping diagnoses from people doesn't help, and it just means that instead of them being able to identify why they're struggling, they thing they're just not good enough or something's wrong with them. I've always hated the argument that "we don't want to limit them!" or whatever people say--not that I'm saying that's your belief, the topic just reminded me of it. Knowing what's going on with you so you can deal with it properly and understand yourself is the best way to avoid being limited!! Your sibling deserved to know, and I'm sure it'll be a huge relief for them to now have that answer.

I'm sorry if your parents get upset with you for sharing the information, but I don't think they should've kept it secret in the first place. It is an awkward situation to be in though, so I'm sorry you're going through that. Also my apologies if my response isn't sympathetic enough, I guess I just think that even if it wasn't your place, you had the information and it was the right thing to do to tell them, even if your parents get upset. And that that is enough to offset or make it worth any repercussions--but that's my opinion. It's valid to have a different response.

I understand being terrified of being wrong about those sort of things, but also it's a learning experience! I remember when I first considered the possibility that I could be autistic I was hesitant because up until then I'd only heard stereotypes, and then there's so much pressure on fitting said stereotypes and how hard it can be to get a diagnosis and it felt like I'd have to prove I was autistic. But I've come to learn that the system is just very difficult and already set against me, so my experience and knowledge of myself matters more. And the community is very welcoming and open, so no one who matters is going to be upset if something turns out wrong. Though I will say having two psychologists 100% certain you're autistic is a pretty good sign that it's not wrong.

I will say, just based on our interactions, I think it might be one of the reasons we can talk and relate so well to each other in different ways! Sharing similar experiences to show you relate and understand is something autistic people often do, same with experiencing and describing emotions differently. But that's just what I've noticed, so feel free to disregard me

I can understand why you're uncomfortable with other people coming to that conclusion for you, though, so I'm sorry that's how it's playing out for you. It's such a personal thing and other people having such big says or being convinced of certain things can feel...invasive? Like I want to deal with it and learn on my own, not you do it, if that makes sense. Maybe it could help to look into things more on your own so you can understand yourself with less outside influence. I know you said you've started looking at symptoms but there's a lot out there!

Once again, apologies if my response isn't entirely appropriate or doesn't match your feelings on the subject, I guess for me finding that out about myself was a huge relief, and I see it as a positive, so I might not have the same reaction as you anymore. If there anything I can do to help in this area please do let me know. I think you have a very solid foundation to build off of, but this is about you. Take as much time as you need, and please tell me if I'm overstepping any boundaries or making you uncomfortable.

you don't need to apologize for venting! you're allowed to vent! my day is just getting started so we'll see how it goes, but I hope your day was/is/will be okay <33 emotionally i am watching the sunset with you from the top of a tree.

(also yeah speaking your truth seems really weird and I don't get it. when people say like "it's true to me!" as well. like it can't be true to you unless it's true in general. it's the truth. it either is or isn't. anyway I don't use the phrase.)

you're also absolutely right to be obsessed with eleanor wright, she's great. I mean we've never met her but still!!

#quil's queries #ophelia nonsie #colored text #also it wasn't too much information!! #feel like I didn't match the emotional response you had to this so my apologies if I've said anything that made you uncomfortable #i think your sibling deserved to know #and I think if you are autistic welcome to the club! #wish /I/ had two psychologists and my parents convinced I was autistic /lh #would've been much easier than figuring it out for myself and then trying to convince /them/ #this is also just lighthearted joking. it's still absolutely valid and okay to be uncomfortable with the idea and with other people #coming to those conclusions about you. I hate to not be involved in things about me so I can only imagine how uncomfortable it is #but if you want to talk about it I'm here. or if you have questions or anything #i'm very comfortable with it so I apologize if that's...off-putting? or if i'm overeager or something