#grandma loves you

[oldqueergrandma]

If you are a parent, parent-figure, or grandparent, this is for you.

If your kid falls down on the playground and sprains a wrist, it isn't your fault. It's just a thing that happens. Your job, as a caregiver to that kid, is to get them to a doctor (hospital, urgent care, etc.) Your job is to find them the appropriate care, and support their emotional needs, too. Your kid is scared, hurt, embarrassed, and worried.

And any good parent is going to set aside their own feelings to be there for their kid.

With me so far? Good.

As a child myself, I was Having Problems In School. This was the end of the 70s/beginning of the 80s. Neurodivergence was mostly perceived as either "Rainman" or "Little Boy Can't Sit Still Syndrome." I have ADHD and was a weird little kid.

I had to get to 2nd grade before a teacher helped my parents figure out what to do. That teacher explained my issues to my mom. (My mom, the lifetime certified k-12 English teacher with a minor in psychology.)

My mom had an extremely common response to this: she panicked. She took it personally. She acted like this teacher was calling her out as a Terrible Parent.

My teacher held her hand, and very gently but firmly told her, "This isn't your fault. There's no one at fault. But your kid needs help, needs therapy, needs an evaluation, so that we can give that kid what they need to succeed in school." She then used the example I described above. "If your kid fell down and broke an arm, are you going to stand around beating your breast and wailing about being a bad parent while your kid suffers? Or are you going to get your kid to the hospital, and be brave while you do it?"

Now. This is good advice for many crisis situations. The responsible, adult thing to do is to not take it personally, model good crisis behaviour, and get your kid the care they need.

But this message is for all the caregivers of kids who announce that they want to transition.

Your kid is trying to be happy, to be the person they were meant to be. That they are not happy now, and the fact that they feel like they're being shoved into the wrong life is upsetting to them. They're trusting you to help them. They're asking to be given what they need to be happy and healthy. They're asking for you to trust their judgement.

What they are NOT doing is attacking you. They're not telling you that you screwed up as a parent. They're not rejecting the precious gift of a name you gave them, even though *you* have specific emotional ties to that name. That kid is trying to figure out who they are, which is all any human being does with their life. But it might feel like that's what they're doing.

I know that it hurts, feels like rejection, and it's scary. It's probably not the first time you've had to deal with those feelings, either. Adolescents and teens often say things that hurt their parents; there's a ton of books and videos and therapists out there to help you with this extremely common situation.

From your kid's perspective, they've shared a revelation with you. They trust you to give them what they need, and to accept them for who they truly are. They're terrified of rejection or being dismissed. They're anxious that you will try to shove them back into a shape that hurts and caused them grief.

So your kid does not need for you to dump your problems on them.

Do not make this about you.

See to your kid's needs.

And find a therapist to help you deal with your own reactions.

You may be feeling grief, rejection, and fear (fear for your kid, fear about what people will think, fear you can't articulate.)

You may be angry as a result of that fear. You may want to just check out because of the grief.

But any time you feel yourself emotionally reacting, ask yourself, "Would this be the right way to react to a medical crisis?"

My 2nd grade teacher saved my life. Really. She got my mom's head screwed on straight, and my mother shared this wisdom with many parents through the years as a teacher herself.

So take some profound wisdom from the woman who saved me. Process your own baggage without spilling it all over your kid. Be what your kid needs. And if this is a struggle, get yourself what you need, too. Talk to a counselor.

But above all else: this is not about you.

#old queer grandma #grandmas advice #grandma loves you

[gramdma]

Some days are hard. Like...really hard.

People don't always live up to your expectations.

The weight of being alive sits heavy on your shoulders.

You forget to do the things you need to do. Eat. Drink water. Take your meds.

You feel like everything you've worked for might be slipping away.

You feel like giving up.

You are not alone.

I also feel these things sometimes.

I see you.

I see you fall, and get up again. And hey, if you aren't ready to get up right away, I'll sit on the ground with you a while.

I'll wipe your tears.

I'll kiss it better.

I'll do whatever I can to make you smile. Laugh. Feel less alone.

You are so special, simply because you are you. I love you.

#grandma loves you #forehead kisses #positivity #not alone #loveyourself #support #life is hard #in it together

[4evergranny]

#granny #mature beauty #sexy breast #grandma loves you

[urbanlegendiaries]

Episode three is out! Featuring homemade hazmat suits, Tom Lehrer, and a blatant lack of self preservation in the face of sentiment

This is our last episode to make it into Julycanthropy, but the season keeps going all the way to Halloween, so keep checking back every Wednesday for more episodes!

#living with lycanthropy #urban fantasy #urban magic #modern monsters #comedy shorts #film life #grandma loves you #youtube #julycanthropy #werewolves

[bonniemason]

#love #granddaughter #baby #grandma loves you #godsgift

[braindeadmaggot]

HELLO TO ALL MY LOVELY MOOTS

I am just now watching Eurovision so i do not apologize for the abundance of ESC posts on all our dashes tonight.

#okay bye #BrainDeadDiaries #my post #remember #grandma loves you #grandma loves all her children #have a cookie 🍪 #okay now on to the second semi finals~

[carbonara-real]

Me making amaretti with my grandma

Nonna li avemo fatti troppo boni, questi a Natale non ce arrivano

#christmas #granny #grandma loves you #food #cookie #amaretti #mo veramente questi non vedono nemmeno il 24 #italian cooking #italian #italy #ma poi non me va de rifalli quindi me li fo basta #daje

[gotham-grandma]

Cookies!

I did quite a lot of baking today - I've left a couple dozen chocolate chip cookies to cool on the windowsill that faces my fire escape. If anyone is hungry, feel free to take a few. Oh, and I've a dozen iced oatmeal cookies in a tupperware container with a certain adorable pirate's name on them. ((Looking at you, @hannahhook7744 )) I'll be knitting and watching my gameshows, if anyone needs to talk.

#and remember #grandma loves you

[zivazivc]

first night alone

#i love them your honor #trolls #dreamworks trolls #trolls 3 #trolls band together #brozone #trolls john dory #trolls spruce #trolls clay #trolls floyd #trolls branch #as the egg #my art #they just lost their mom and they lost their dad only a couple of months prior #this is before grandma moves in with them #young brozone #floyd is 11 here and jd is 18 #so you know why floyd looks so baby #group hug #i had a reaction to the film orphan on in the other window for background noise while drawing... #so i titled the file trolls_orphan before i even fully knew what i was going to draw 🙃

[harrisongoodellfanpage]

in appreciation of my grandmother, thank you for everything Grammy H

#grandma loves you #harry and meghan

[the-gayest-straight]

Nobody:

My Grandma: Fuck Therapy just pray the mental illness away

Me:

(i love my granny but sometimes she just needs to be quiet)

#grandma loves you #granny be quiet #lol memes

[gramdma]

Baby bear will be here soon for our little Christmas together. I hope there's enough magic here to make his trip worth it ❤️

#grandma loves you #baby bear mention #christmas #christmas tree

[birds4hands3000]

Grandma wants a hug

#cat #silly lil guy #I love my cat he’s so cool #grandma loves you #cat photos #flame point siamese #cats of tumblr

[darlingboydiaz]

do y'all ever think about the fact that bobby is literally chris' grandpa? like yeah, bobby is a father figure to buck. but buck is also chris' second dad.

that's a dynamic i am reminded of whenever i see eddie and bobby interact outside of the fire station and it's a dynamic that should be explored more overall.

#911 #911 abc #911 fox #911 show #buddie #bobby nash #eddie diaz #evan buckley #christopher diaz #Chris has two dads but also he has several grandparents at this point #auntie may and auntie maddie though??? #love the thought of that #ATHENA AS HIS GRANDMA??? #I HAVENT EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT THAT YET #literally the way bobby cares about eddie is so sweet #and bobby interacting with chris is very much family #literally just needed to get this out into the world #if you know any fanfics that explore the bobby as grandparent dynamic give me recs #or write something about it

[iguessthisisanewobsession]

On the outskirts of Gotham a farm is made.

No one can pinpoint when it was started but it was clearly bountiful.

New orchards of plums apples and several other fruit whisper promises of fruits in the years to come.

Bee houses buzzed with life and ducks quacked and scurried to and from their pond, coop and the garden.

Vegetables by the rows with seasonal berries brushes spring up at the corners of the property.

Greenery that almost seemed to glow with how lush it was.

It was like a small oasis in the desert of Gotham’s dirty land.

And it was ran by only three people.

The woman’s name was Sam. She was known as an activist who seemed to do the primary care of the plants. The property was in her name and she went out of her way to invite people to take what they need.

Danny was the most well known of the trio. He brought the produce into the heart of the city. Anywhere that would take the food, kitchens, pantries, school cafeterias even people’s doorsteps.

Tucker was the technical mastermind, hidden but equally important. The sprinklers, planning of the pollination rotation, harvesting planning and statistics were his main focus on the farm. Not a single square inch of the the land was not under his watchful gaze.

All the food was fresh or properly stored and most interesting of all free.

Of course people were going to talk.

#dp x dc #writing prompt #danny fenton #danny phantom #sam manson #tucker foley #so basically #the trio play stardew valley irl #grandma Ida as soon as Sam turned 18: happy birthday I got you something something #they just want to love their best life #platonic or romantic #everlasting trio #I think that’s the right tag for that ship #in my mind it’s platonic but having a sustainable farm with your two partners is honestly goals AF #the ducks are so they don’t have to use pesticides 🥰

[ruporas]

lonely

[ID: A limited palette of green and pink, Vashwood comic. The first page serves as a prologue. The first panel shows Vash speaking to someone off screen while Wolfwood is lingering behind him. A black arrow is drawn pointing at him. In the second panel, Vash is buying donuts in the distance while Wolfwood is once again in view, lingering. and the black arrow is drawn pointing at him. In the third panel, Vash is leaving a cubicle and turning towards his right with a slightly peeved expression. He sees Wolfwood, leaning against the cubicle, waiting for him, and with the black arrow drawn, pointing at him, implicating the consistent hovering of Wolfwood’s presence during Vash’s everyday. At the bottom of the page, they’re drawn out of panel with Vash turning to Wolfwood and saying with an irritated expression, “You’re really following me everywhere, huh?” Wolfwood responds, “What, you got a problem?” Vash responds without hesitation, “Yeah, kinda...”

The second page starts with a new day. In the first panel, Vash is seen alone, weighing apples in his hands at a mart, with crowds passing behind him. In the second panel, he turns to his right and starts to say, “Hey, Wolfwood...” In the third panel, he’s startled from seeing a stranger, whom he’d accidentally called out to when he was expecting to see Wolfwood. He says, “Oh, you’re not him. Sorry!” In the fourth panel, the stranger walks off and Vash muses, “Right, he said he had something to do today...”

The third page begins with a close up of Vash's miffed expression, the continuation of Vash's thoughts, "Now that he's not here, this is just like how I used to be, but... It feels lonely somehow. Oh well, I'll see him again tonight, like always." In the second panel, it shows Vash walking through the marketplace crowd, alone. In the third panel, the door panel is a close up of the door opening with a peek of Vash's head. He says, "Wolfwood!" In the fourth panel, Vash is holding a bag of food with a bright smile and says, "Are you hungry? I got you something to eat today!"

The fourth page begins with a shot of the room, two beds being highlighted, one of them being made properly with the blanket draped over the bed and the other with the blanket folded and pillow sitting on top of it. There's no sign of Wolfwood. The second panel shows Vash with a disappointed look as he thinks, "He's still not here?" The third panel shows Vash putting the bag of food on the table. Stapled to the paper bag is the receipt with a written note "For Wolfwood." Vash's thoughts continue "He does like to stay out so, I guess there's no reason to worry..." The fourth panel shows Vash sitting his bed somberly with his thoughts continued, "It's not any of my business anyway..."

The fifth page starts with a close up his blank expression as he looks downwards, thinking, "Even if he left completely... That'd be understandable and better for him. I'll just travel alone again... like before... Huh?" The next panel shows Vash's composure break, tears welling up in his eyes suddenly, as he didn't expect to cry. He starts to sob, putting his hands to his face to quiet himself and wipe at his tears, as he says, "Ugh... Dammit... I miss h..." The last panel shows Vash leaning over into his hands, still crying, and in the back, the door swings wide open with a bam as Wolfwood walks through with the punisher swung behind him. He shouts, "SPIKEY! You in here?!"

The sixth page starts with Wolfwood confused, looking at Vash and Vash looks back, just as confused, with tears in his eyes and snot out of his nose. Wolfwood starts saying, "Ah? You..." No longer in panels, at the bottom of the page, Wolfwood takes the Punisher off of himself and starts to walk towards Vash, continuing with slight concern, "What's wrong with you? Did something happen?" Vash, hurriedly begins to wipe at his tears, denying immediately, "No! No, I'm fine! Nothing happened!"

The seventh page, Vash points towards the table, with a hand still wiping at his tears and he smiles as he says, "I uh got you food. On the table." Wolfwood looks towards to the table and responds, "Oh. I was getting hungry, thanks." He turns his head back to Vash immediately after with an uncertain expression, knowing the other wasn't responding to his concern, and says, "But, I know you're an idiot with this stuff, so I'm reminding you again. Don't brush it off if it's an issue, alright?"

The eight page, Vash's tears have dried and he looks to Wolfwood with a soft smile and responds, "Yeah. It's okay though..." A panel at the center shows a side view of Vash approaching Wolfwood. At the bottom of the page, with no panel, is a close up shot of Vash's hand, holding onto the edge of Wolfwood's jacket sleeve, as he says, "Because you're here now. Wolfwood."

The final page is a back shot of both of them standing next to each other, Wolfwood's head tilted slightly to the left, not fully believing Vash as he says, "That doesn't answer anything, Spikey." Vash responds, "There's no need to talk about it! You should enjoy your food. Let's have a drink too?" Wolfwood responds, "Tsk, tsk. Fine, yeah. I could use one." END ID]

#vashwood #vash the stampede #nicholas d wolfwood #trigun #trigun maximum #but onto this comic... i think and talk a LOT about vash's loneliness bc trigun is just. kind of central on that for a good while! esp in #the original manga he was alone for a good portion of it and he tends to keep others away like how he ran away from meryl and milly when #they tried to tag along. and he was kind of bothered when he realized ww was following him around Too. at the core even though he loves #humans and he loves deeply the people he does know -- he isnt really much of a people person and i think thats been the case since he was #young considering his initial doubts towards humans... with the exception of kids bc kids dont give him moral conflicts. so suddenly #here comes wolfwood!!! his guide. someone TRULY affixed to him until he has to get to knives. someone who isnt budging and someone whos #really good at following him around and even seems like he goes like 5 steps ahead to make sure vash doesnt run on him #in one way its - i don't want you to follow me bc i don't want to burden you and i don't want you to kill the people i want to save. #in another way its - i like this companionship. i like waking up to you and i like ending the way with you. i like talking to someone who #knows my world. i like being in your space and sometimes i enjoy talking about our day #theyre just living together. like. roadtrip buddies or theyre also under the same roof because they're going everywhere together. #trimax they mainly spend their mornings together and if they had personal business attend the other person would usually know and itd only #be during the midday. anyway bc of this kind of companionship i figure that vash eventually grew accustom to it and he really. cant go back #to the kind of loneliness from before. it's harder to imagine and it'd be harder to withstand. esp after 2 years with lina and her grandma. #ruporas art