#Please advice

[flynnarts]

Transgender Feelings

Soooooooo Random a** rant here IG. I honestly have been wondering if I’m actually a Dude. Like, I’ve never wanted anything more than to have a flat chest and a flat bottom. But… I’m way too young, and I’m a little scared to try on Binders. And about the fact that I don’t look like a guy like, at all, and I feel like it’ll just inconvenience others for them to keep remembering that I’m not actually AFAB. I mean like, I know people say that remembering pronouns is just like- a really simple thing, but the smoll demon voice of insecurity is too strong. I can’t really tell my parents (They’re not Trans, just hard to talk to about this), my friends already know, but I haven’t told them about the pronouns thing yet (They’re already getting used to my new name), and I can’t tell the school therapist (For reasons… Pretty obvious ones honestly) And I hate how I look like now, and Just want to change into a guy. Like, having a female body is slay, but I wanna go to being a dude. It just… *Feels* right, if yall know what I mean. And I have been feeling this for a while, looking back, I’ve been feeling like this since… like… 7 years old. Any tips on how to deal with these kinds of thoughts/feelings? Cause right now, telling random strangers on the internet seems like a better idea rn- :D

#Rant #TransMasc egg moment #Egg moment #Am I trans? #Please advice #Give me #Too scared to try to buy binders honestly #Cause my parents will ask #Also hi #If you found this #Henlos!

[moo-blogging]

GENUINE QUESTION: FLUFF OR SMUT?

So I have this story idea and I am working on it now (it's like 1am here) but I am divided cos initially the idea was fluff. But then the idea turns into smut.

Which one should I write? HELP!!

#midnight thoughts #levi fluff or levi smut? #levi fanfic #in progress #please advice #levi ackerman

[ecoamerica]

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#ACLA24 #ACLA24Leaders #youtube #youtube video #climate leaders #climate solutions #climate action #climate and environment #climate #climate change #climate and health #climate blog #climate justice #climate news #weather and climate #environmental news #environment #environmental awareness #environment and health #environmental #environmental issues #environmental justice #environment protection #environmental health #Youtube

[kosegruppaa]

is this a normal bisexual thing .. for a good while i’ve been more or less only finding women attractive (to the point of questioning my bisexuality) and i may or may not have been a little infatuated by a good friend (tragically straight).

now this weekend i kinda hit it off with a guy and all of a sudden i’m walking around being like ‘men .. huh?’

like can one person (first my friend and now this dude) shift how i experience attraction so drastically? i do not get it! and like. it’s really not been that serious, in either of these cases. it’s just so jarring i have not thought about men as attractive to me in maybe two years 😭

#bi tag #please advice #i do not want to talk about this with my friends atm cause i do not want to admit to this half-crush cause people know him lmao #or my infatuation with my friend heheh #so sorry tumblr followers you will have to see my mini sexuality crisis

[avarkriss]

listen. listen to me so carefully right now. (if you're in the eclipse path/planning on viewing). please don't stare directly at the sun tomorrow. i am begging you - do not stare at it. if you got eclipse glasses off of amazon/other, please put them on in your house and make sure you can't see anything; if you can still see like regular sun glasses, they are not safe for eclipse viewing, you will burn your retinas, and we cannot fix that. eclipse glasses should be iso/ce certified, and aas (american astronomical society) approved. please make smart choices and protect your eyes. please.

#psa from your friendly neighborhood eye care provider #the office is already fielding so many calls about this make good life choices #very important #eclipse #solar eclipse #eye health #not medical advice #just me screaming to please protect your eyes #ive seen exactly one case of solar retinopathy in my career so far please don't give me another one

[maikaartwork]

Artists, let’s talk about Instagram commission scammers

There’s been a huge rise in commission scammers recently, mostly on Instagram. A lot of new artists don’t know what to look out for, so I figured this might help people.

How they begin

Usually the scammer will write to you asking about a commission. Something deceptively cute - mostly I encounter asks about pet portraits, with one or two photos sent. They’ll probably try to sell you a sweet little story, like “It’s for my son’s birthday”. They will insist that they love your artwork and style, even though they don’t follow you or never liked a single piece of your art.

What to look out for:

Their profiles will either be private, empty, or filled with very generic stuff, dating at most a few years back.

Their language will be very simple, rushed or downright bad. They might use weird emojis that nobody ever uses. They will probably send impatient “??” when you don’t answer immediately. They’re in a crunch - lots of people to scam, you know. 

They’ll give you absolutely no guidelines. No hints on style, contents aside from (usually) the pet and often a name written on the artwork, no theme. Anything you draw will be perfect. Full artistic freedom. In reality they don’t really care for this part.

They’ll offer you a ridiculous amount of money. Usually 100 or 300 USD (EDIT: I know it might not be a lot for some work. What I mean here - way higher than your asking price, 100 and 300 are standard rates they give). They’ll often put in a phrase like “I am willing to compensate you financially” and “I want the best you can draw”, peppered with vague praise. It will most likely sound way too good to be true. That’s because it is.

Where the scam actually happens

If you agree, they will ask you for a payment method. They’ll try to get to this part as soon as possible. 

Usually, they’ll insist on PayPal. And not just any PayPal. They’ll always insist on sending you a transfer immediately. None of that PayPal Invoice stuff (although some do have methods for that, too). They’ll really, REALLY want to get your PayPal email address and name for the transfer - that’s what they’re after. If you insist on any other method, they’ll just circle back to the transfer “for easiest method”. If you do provide them with the info, most likely you’ll soon get a scam email. It most likely be a message with a link that will ultimately lead to bleeding you dry. Never, and I mean NEVER click on any emails or links you get from them. It’s like with any other scam emails you can ever get.

A few things can happen here:

They overpay you and ask for the difference to be wired back. Usually it will go to a different account and you’ll never see that money again. 

They’ll overpay you “for shipping costs” and ask you to forward the difference to their shipping company. Just like before, you’ll never see that money again.

The actual owner of the account (yes, they most likely use stolen accounts to wire from) will realize there’s been something sketchy going on and request a refund via official channels. Your account will be charged with fees and/or you get in trouble for fraudulent transactions. 

You will transfer the money from your PayPal credit to your bank account and they will make a shitstorm when they want their money back, making your life a living hell. They will call you a scammer, a thief, make wild claims, wearing you down and forcing you into wiring money “back” - aka to their final destination account. 

Never, EVER wire money to anyone. This is not how it’s supposed to go. Use PayPal Invoice for secure exchanges where the client needs to provide you with their email, not the other way around.

You can find more info on that method HERE.

What to do when you encounter a scammer:

Ask the right questions: inquire about the style, which artwork of yours they like, as much details as you can. They won’t supply you with any good answers.

Don’t let the rush of the exchange, their praise and the promise of insanely good money to get to you. That’s how they operate, that’s how they make you lose vigilance. 

Don’t engage them. As soon as you realize it might be a scam, block them. The sense of urgency they create with their rushed exchange, and pressure they put on you will sooner or later get to you and you might do something that you’ll regret later.

Never wire money to anyone. Never give out your personal data. Never provide your email, name, address or credit card info. 

Don’t be deceived by receiving a payment, if you somehow agree to go along with it. Just because it’s there now doesn’t mean it can’t be withdrawn. 

Here is a very standard example of such an exchange. I realized it’s a scam pretty fast and went along with it, because I wanted good screenshots for you guys, so I tried going very “by the book” with it. 

Please share this post, make it reach as many artists as possible. Let young or inexperienced artists know that this is going on. So many people have no idea that this is a thing. Let’s help each other out. If you think I missed any relevant info, do add it as an rb!

Also, if you know other scam methods that you think should be shared, consider rb-ing this post with them below. Having a master post of scam protection would AWESOME to have in the art community.

#art resources #artist help #artist advice #commission advice #scammers #instagram scam #please share with your fellow artists

[kawamagi-crow]

YALL I NEED SOME ADVICE

So! there's this guy im kinda friends with and I'm divided. i could ask him to go with me to bienal do livro (a book event in my city), BUT I've already told my friends I've given up on him bc he was an asshole to me (basically stopped talking to me once it didn't benefit him)

should i try?

#Advice needed! #please advice #advice #relationship advice #begging #misoginy #kinda bc he was a BIG ASSHOLE to my friend #like treated her like an object

[plasticfangtastic]

There's a goldfish fry living in me tank somehow this little homie has survived for at least 2 months in a tank with his cannibal parents.

sort of mad that I bought Fish Homie her tank mate 2 years ago thinking it was a female as it was sexed at the aquarium store (I mean I paid 160 bucks for Fish Homie #2, I expected the fish store to have done its job) now I gotta deal with the anxiety of knowing this creature will be eaten soon.

Can't buy a small tank till tuesday but I have no idea how to care for a fry... altho if i succeed in caring for this fry provided it survives till I get a new tank and it ends its cycling I wonder what the mix of a shubuken and a lion head will look like.

#fish issues #goldfish #aquaculture #please advice

[alexisthegayestofgayboys]

How do you politely say you need to go home when you are hanging out with someone because you need alone time?

10-28-22

#advice #please advice #send advice #need advice

[leupagus]

On Voting in America

So one of the most profound comments on routine chores that I've ever encountered was, hilariously, the Pickle Rick episode of "Rick & Morty," where (after a lot of shenanigans have already ensued) this therapist absolutely lays Rick out:

"I have no doubt that you would be bored senseless by therapy, the same way I'm bored when I brush my teeth and wipe my ass. Because the thing about repairing, maintaining, and cleaning is: it's not an adventure. There's no way to do it so wrong you might die. It's just work. And the bottom line is some people are okay going to work and some people, well, some people would rather die. Each of us gets to choose."

I think about this at least once a week — usually while I'm doing my laundry or sweeping or some other task that needs doing and won't get me anything more than clean clothing or a dog-hair-free floor. There's no Pulitzer for wiping down your microwave or scrubbing your toilet; no one's awarding you for getting all the dishes out of the sink. At best you have the satisfaction of crossing it off your list.

Voting is very much the same (and I'm talking about the US here, as an American). Sure, you sometimes get a sticker; but nobody's going to cheer for you. There's no adventure here, no potential for anything more than crossing something off of a list. It's a chore, something that needs doing in order to repair, maintain, and yes even clean. So I get why people don't like doing it.

And I've decided I don't give a shit.

Do it anyway. Your country takes astonishingly little from you — taxes, the once-in-a-blue-moon jury duty, and a theoretical draft that hasn't been used in over half a century and likely will never be again — but it asks you (asks! not requires! not demands!) to vote once a year. It's not always easy; especially in conservative states, the impediments to vote can be ridiculous. But it is once a year and unlike in our nation's all-too-recent past, you will not die if you do it.

In fact, the worst outcome from voting these days is that the person or issue that you vote for loses — but you won't know if they lose until after the election. Polls are less accurate now, for a whole host of reasons; you cannot know until after the election who or what will win. This makes your vote more valuable than possibly ever before.

Use that power. Not because it's exciting or even rewarding, but because your vote is what keeps our country's metaphorical teeth from falling out and our metaphorical ass from stinking.

Brush, wipe, vote.

#ok the metaphor may've gotten a little gross but rick & morty chose it not me #anyway if voting didn't matter then rich people wouldn't do it #and I can assure you: they do #also: please don't think of voting like a reward for the person you're voting for #or as a punishment for the person you're not voting for #my mom's advice was: #think about the most vulnerable people you care about and vote for the person or issue that will make their lives better #and you'll rarely go wrong #yes there are often two bad options but if you're old enough to vote you're old enough to understand the difference between bad and less ba #anyway that's all the political lecturing I'll do this year #except maybe to complain about the 18-hour day I'll be having on Tuesday #oh also SIGN UP TO WORK ELECTIONS WE NEED MORE HELP #thank you #politics!

[znxu]

🕊️freedom from settler colonialism now and forever🪶🇵🇸

#my art #native american heritage month #indigenous art #if anyone has any advice on how to do alt text for drawings / what i should use for this please let me know

[moonlit-positivity]

You don't need everyone to like you. I understand this can be an overwhelming trauma response to being neglected and otherwise hurt as a kid without the comfort and reassurance of our parents. But please try to remember that your worth is not dependent on how many people can love you. You have something much more important and worth protecting-- your heart and soul and mind and spirit. Not everyone you meet in this world is gonna resonate and vibe with you on those same levels. You've got to get comfortable with the concept of being misunderstood or feeling out of place-- and, rather than fawn to fit in, take that as a sign to find the spaces and people who can better appreciate you for it.

#recovery #ptsd #trauma #mental health #boundaries #healing #healing thoughts #people pleasing #fawn #fawn response #codependency #relationships #communication #shadow work #inner child #inner child healing #abusive relationships #abusive parenting #toxic relationships #suggestions #reminders #advice #self care #bpd

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

haha just kidding, nothing is free!

100 bucks. fork it over.

#the drowning is metaphorical. #Its A Metaphor. #lovingly kissing his forehead and then dropkicking him into a volcano <3 #on my hands and knees Please let things go so so badly for him #Please break him i want to hear him in utter emotional agony god Please- #crack that comedy mask pleaaassseeeee take a sledgehammer to it- #Sorry. Sorry. normal. im normal about him #the cuteness aggression is jumping tf out rn #well. is it Cuteness aggression? i mean he Is very cute but hm... affection aggression... #what can i say i want to see my favs put through agonies and horrors #its like the best character advice i ever did see! characters are like geodes! ya gotta break em to see whats inside... #AND BABEY! I WANT THAT FUNNYGUY SHATTERED! #scribble garnish #barnaby b beagle #welcome home #welcome home puppet show #scopophobia #as always im not the Happiest with what ive made but!! i dont Dislike it so thats something! #it was... fun. ish #it was fun until i started doing the text <3 #i was practicing a more uhhh shrimplified style yk. more slapdash #and i blinked and then this was on my screen! #im not upset about it :]c

[backonrepeat]

Given how Sceleritas Fel prompts Durge to kill their lover in the game, most posts and fics I've read feature him being against Durge getting involved with Gortash, romantic or otherwise, because they need to focus on their mission. Totally makes sense, probably what happened given what we see in game.

But. What about wingman Sceleritas Fel? Just for the hilarity of it all. Maybe he deems the Chosen of Bane worthy enough of his master's attention, maybe he just views the whole thing as a chance to further enhance Bhaal's power. In any case he's determined to help his master bang Gortash, cue murderous socially stunted Durge taking romantic advice from their psycho, even more socially maladjusted butler in order to seduce Gortash.

"You should shower in some blood before meeting with Lord Gortash, dear master, it does wonders for your skin and brings out your eyes"

"Why, yes, I do think Bane's chosen will appreciate your thoughtful gift, my dark master. Nothing quite says romance like a dozen bloody hearts in a box"

"I'm sure Lord Gortash enjoyed your date together, oh vile master, who doesn't love a bit of ritualistic slaughter? Why, the way you disemboweled your last victim was simply sublime! If that didn't prompt him to make a move it may just be he's a bit of a prude..."

#meanwhile poor gortash has no one and is left with ketheric for advice #gortash: “should I unbutton the shirt further? or is that too slutty?” #ketheric (wishing for the sweet embrace of death): “...can we please go back to our evil plans for world domination?” #baldur's gate 3 #dark urge #enver gortash #sceleritas fel

[minty364]

DPXDC Prompt #61 Part 4

Danny woke up to a stream of sunlight on his face. The room was just as rich as he remembered, he stood up and stretched a bit before he heard a knock at the door.

It was Alfred bringing him a change of clothes, “Breakfast is ready, Master Danny. You can find the dining room down the hall to the left.” the old butler smiled at him. 

“You don’t have to call me Master, Alfred, I’m not your Damian.” Danny said, turning around to address him.

“Ah, yes, however you are still Master Bruce’s son, even from another world.” The butler gave him a cheeky smile.

Danny shrugged and headed to the bathroom to get changed. Once he was decent again, he headed down to the dining room. 

The room was just as fancy as the rest of the house with a chandelier and ornate vases. 

Danny noticed Damian and a few others already seated at the table. Damian wore what Danny could only assume was his rich kid school uniform. He sat across from Damian who made a small ‘Tt’ and turned away from him. 

Next to Damian was Tim who put away his laptop once Danny sat down. Tim was wearing a business suit, a dark red colored one. “Ah, you sleep much longer than Damian does, you must have been tired.” Tim smiled at him.

Also seated at the table and wearing a navy blue suit, was Bruce himself. He was drinking coffee and reading a newspaper.

“Stop comparing me to him, Drake, I’m nothing like this imposter.” Looks like Damian still thought he was a clone. 

Whatever, he shrugged it off and filled his plate. 

“I don’t really have a lot of free time,” was all Danny said before he started eating.

Tim kind of watched him for a minute, he looked kind of shocked for a second, “You’re eating meat??” 

Ah so that was another difference between them, “again, I’m Danny, I’m not Damian.”

Damian scoffed, “So that’s what you call yourself, imposter.”

Danny gave Damian a tired sigh, looks like the him of this universe was a lot more prideful than he was. Danny went through way too much to carry the same, dying and being crown prince of the infinite realms wasn’t exactly something he was born into. Danny was a bit jealous if he was being honest with himself. 

“Damian, please at least attempt to be friendly. Danny is our guest for the meantime.” Bruce said, putting his newspaper down. He then turned his attention to Danny, “I know it isn’t ideal but I think it’ll be best for you to stay here until we can get you to your own world. I’m planning a trip to the Watchtower tomorrow so I can speak with some of my colleagues about the situation.” 

Danny sighed but nodded his head, “I get it, you can’t have two of us running around.”

“Quite, you’re more than welcome to go around the mansion and the grounds, I’d also like to invite you along to the Watchtower but we’d need to come up with a disguise for you, secret identity and everything.” Bruce continued after taking another sip from his mug, “Alfred will still take you out today to get some basic necessities for you. We’ll get you a proper disguise so you're able to go with him.”

Danny nodded again and continued eating. He thought things over as he ate, he technically had a disguise they could use for the Watchtower but Danny was still on the fence on what exactly he’d tell everyone here.

It wasn’t exactly an easy conversation to have, thankfully some more people arrived for breakfast.

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#dp x dc prompt #danny phantom #danny fenton #dp x dc #dc x dp #Damian and Danny are the same person from different universes #I’ll bring in more of the family on the next part #Getting a little writers block tbh #my asks are open #all my prompts are free to use #Damian being Damian #Damian gets close to throwing a knife in the next one #Also trip with Alfred in the next part #Am I doing this right? #How does one write fanfics? #I have heavy imposter syndrome someone please give me advice LMAO

[hairtusk]

Hole Theory, Thomasin Frances (15/10/2022)

#hi everyone this is my latest poem!! #i feel....very unsure about it #like #i'm not sure if it actually works as a poem #so any feedback / criticism / advice would be greatly appreciated !! #please please let me know what you think #mine #my poetry

[ohno-wallace]

And the rest is history 💌

#welcome home #i can’t get enough of them now oh my goodness #If y’all got any headcannons for the two please send them my way 👀 #welcome home arg #welcome home puppet show #wally welcome home #frank frankly #welcome home eddie #welcome home frank #welcome home fanart #welcome home Eddie #It was his idea and Julie absolutely pounced #He goes to her for advice #I also think he gave him letters for week’s telling them they were from a secret admirer but it was him all along hehe