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dielitttt · 2 years

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Astro observations pt.11

Saturn Aphrodite people usually have this voice that’s in between deep and high especially if it’s in 2h

Nobody talks abt how petty and toxic Taurus moons can be when they’re underdeveloped. These people can be very manipulative as well.

I feel like people with Saturn-Pluto aspects restrict themselves from certain things and procrastinate. I’ve also seen people with negative aspects be prone to anxiety or can fall into a heavy depression easily. These people tend to dig deeper into things that no one else would do when it comes to taboo things.

Chiron-Mars negative aspects or aspects in general can have issues regarding aggression with others cause of the aggression that other people did to them that wounded them.

Pluto 1h or Pluto dominant people can be prone to having rumors about them and getting gossiped to other people, I feel bad for these people cause they can get hated or talked abt for anything they do.

people with Jupiter as their chart ruler have or tend to have these arched eyebrows esp if they have Pluto influence in they chart.

Mercury-Uranus people tend to have scrambled/messy minds and can overthink very easily especially if it’s aspected negatively

Mercury 8h people tend to look at the deeper depths of taboo topics and can study things involved with death, sex, psychology, trauma, etc. These people can be experts at those types of topics.

People with Neptune 11h can have friends that deceive them or betray them easily. These people can use their own friends as an distraction towards their real life issues and problems. I’ve seen also that their friends influence their music taste a lot or have similar taste of music. They could also be drawn to people with Neptune influences. They also may have friends that do drugs or drug related things while as they don’t do drugs themselves.

8h in any planet can make the energy of that planet 1000x more intense

If u have your Aphrodite in 2h you should consider wearing neck jewelry or get piercings in the lower part of your face. You may also have an appealing voice.

Virgo, Capricorn,Scorpio, and Aquarius venuses tend to be picky on who they choose to get with and who they open up to.

If their mars conjuncts yours in synastry, you guys might act similar when it comes to anger, what ur passionate about, and what empowers both of you.

Capricorn Pluto ppl mature and develop earlier cause it’s literally Capricorn in plutooo😭. Oh and I’ve also seen capricorn plutos to be more observant sometimes.

I feel like people with 11h in Jupiter tend to have a lot of friends or meet people that have some type of Jupiter influenced placement

“Three types of ___ sign” no it’s literally decans of their sun signnn

I’ve seen that Scorpio moons usually have some bad luck or go through this negative cycle of the same type of thing depending on the house it’s in for ex: I have a Scorpio moon friend who has it in her 11h and she’s had countless issues when it comes to her friends betraying her and stuff like that. Most of the time they have rlly good intuition.

Neptune aspects in synastry can show the illusions that both partners create on eachother or how magnetic they are towards eachother!!

Sirene in 7h , libra or in a libra degree can mean that you might have secret admirers or people who fantasize about you without even knowing it. People get the wrong ideas and tend to think as these people as love interest or crushes even though these people think as the other person platonically.

I’ve seen so many 11h venuses get their love interests through mutual friends or from friends, they also usually have friends who have crushes on them sometimes 💀

Gemini and Leo placements radiate bad bunny’s album “un verano sin ti” (tell me if u disagree or suggest other signs to it)

Ik i havent done one of these in a couple weeks but yeah 😇. Oh and I also haven’t had time or felt like answering my asks unless I’m interested nd feel motivated to do it srry😕.

#spotify #art #astrology #astrology observations #music #asteroid astrology #astrology chart #mf doom #playlist #rap

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xvi-the-tower · 2 years

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To Hold a Healer

Shipping guide for Callista Ward

Intro for all of my characters:

There shouldn’t be minors amongst my followers anyhow given what I post, but obligatory minors dni.

Friendships are welcome! Sometimes people who don’t vibe romantically can be great friends.A ship might not be in the cards, but I have 6 other characters, so if you want to rp with me/ship/whatever, maybe one of my others will be better suited.

All of my characters are open to all genders as well as poly relationships.

None of my characters are into scat, watersports, or mommy/daddy kink, as these are squicks of mine.

I’m going to follow the same format as those before me, because I like how they did it. So, without further ado:

SFW

Callista is inexperienced in all things romance. She’s focused on her duty to heal others for so long that she’s neglected to form her own relationships, including for the most part friendships. As such, she tends to be very lonely.

Her primary love languages are acts of service and either quality time or gifts, though her gifts tend to fall almost into acts of service territory given how practical they tend to be. Please do things for her. She will cry, but it will be happy tears. She’s so used to doing for others that the idea of someone else doing things for her is foreign.

She tends to be warm and soft toward everyone, but especially those she feels any sort of connection to. More than most of my other characters, she lends herself to a friends-to-lovers kind of romance.

She’s very earnest and tends to express her feelings as she recognizes them, but she tends to be slow to recognize any romantic feelings she might have unless the object of her affection reciprocates and is more forward

She is prone to anxiety and depression, so someone who helps ground her and helps her feel safe is a plus. Please be patient with her when she’s anxious. She also has zero combat capability, so while not mandatory, someone who can literally protect her from the various demons and shit in this setting is a plus.

NSFW

As previously mentioned, she’s inexperienced in all things romance, including sex, so be prepared to be her first in most rps/shipping situations.

However, once she’s experienced sex, kissing, etc., she finds she really likes it. The intimacy in particular is what she likes.

She’s pretty vanilla. Not really into kink, though she can get a little into dom/sub dynamics so long as there’s a certain gentleness to it and lots of praise.

Turn-ons and kinks include: breeding, thunder, outdoors, food play, luxury/comfort

Turn-offs include: being hit/spanked, degradation, pain in general

#Callista Ward #ship guide

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hillarysss · 3 years

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Astrology Observations pt.25992962286

No one is safe this time

Will not resonate with everyone. 🧚🏼‍♀️

I really think Virgo placements tend to be prone to falling into depression. I’ve seen this a lot actually they always have 2+ more virgo placements. Or an afflicted Virgo moon is sometimes enough to be prone to depression.

Venus Opposition Chiron In Natal Chart can make someone give way too much in relationships but can also make them scared of rejection to the point they retreat to ghosting and hiding in a little shell because they’re scared.

Air moons tend to be detached from big scenarios like death or very big major events. But will cry to the thought of being rejected and not validated.

Capricorn moons are beautiful and funny souls they just criticize and try to help their loved ones but they’re seen as annoying and sometimes they are.. but I really feel like they’re very underrated. These individuals are loyal (Unless a hoe phase because they can turn into PLAYERS) They want the best for their loved ones. If a Capricorn Moon loves you and is a little mean sometimes just know they’re just trying to help.

Someone who grew up wealthy most likely has Ceres in Taurus. (Unless afflicted this can make them battle for food and other resources)

Fire moons are very emotional and they express anger. Instead of tears. They are the type to send their best friends voicemails ranting over their ex instead of actually crying.

Taurus sun Cancer Moon is such an amazing combo! These are the BEST FRIENDS ever!!!

If you have a 12th house stellium do you realize when something bad goes in your life like a best friend leaves you something positive comes along soon enough? You gain some and lose some.

VEDIC>> Venus and Ketu together is a sign of a pornstar. Especially on the 7th.

Saturn Opposition Chiron is a sign of someone thinking they’re responsible for all the trauma they’ve been through. They feel like they have to achieve in school so much to the point they become mentally exhausted. Intrusive thoughts as well. Prone to OCD with very intrusive thoughts. They think not doing work threatens their whole life's existence. They burn themselves out. Extremely challenging aspect.

Every Virgo I’ve met was always so slim and tall??

People with their lilith as The same as their venus can make very toxic individuals. But can make them more aware of their toxicness. Which is better than not being aware.

Pisces suns are all always artistic someway. Literally

Air moon in 8th thinks about death a lot

Libras are very very much prone to be liars.. I have so many stories

Mercury in scorpios can peep sneaky shit only cause they doing the same sneaky shit they don’t get caught though

Gemini in big three did you ever have a problem with lying?

Cancer moons why are y’all so cute lol

If a Venus in Leo isn’t posting you their cheating

Water placements tend to like cats or smaller animals in general. (Esp cancer)

Mercury with a hard aspect to Uranus, y’all are so smart?? Like how does anyone debate with them and win?

Taurus Moons, I’m convinced none of you exist.

Mars- Uranus very very bad mood swings..

Sun Hard Aspect To Mars- Random energy losses, prone to ADHD.

Sun Conjunct Mercury- Chef’s kiss lol. All you all are so logical.

Sun Square Moon- Challenging for a lot of personal relationships. I’ve seen most people who have this self sabotage relationships.

It’s so hard to get back a Leo Moon once they say they’re done, they’re done lol

Mercury aspect to ascendant makes someone so reliable and lean. Probably wears glasses?

Sun in 8th has horrible eyesight

Leo Risings are so easy to spot

One Pisces placement is enough to make someone incredibly intuitive. (Besides Uranus)

Mercury in retrograde has a horrible time expressing themselves. They lose friends cause of this they always don’t know what to say. May stutter a lot

Pluto in 10th are obsessed with Social Media. However, they’re either really private about social media or obsessed.

Taurus Moons Never complain about things they have.

Gemini Venus do you all know y’all flirting with us sm or y’all clueless abt it?

Saturn In Virgo are good workers but can make someone very anxious and insecure abt their work.

Moon in 6th tends to struggle with health within the body. Are prone to overly eating when emotional.

Water risings look so delicate and beautiful, I think you can always tell when someone is a water rising.

Jupiter Opposition or Conjuct Moon in a females chart can indicate big breasts or a heavy top body.

Jupiter - Asc makes someone have such a nice mischievous smile. Wider noses.

Water moons even if attracted to air moons it most likely won’t last. Air moons don’t understand their behaviour sometimes.

Aries moon can be people pleasers.

Leo Moons can try wayy too hard sometimes

A Venus in Cancer likes when boundaries are put up in a relationship makes them feel more secure.

Fire Venus + Water Venus can make a good combo, just a little more work needs to be put. But I feel like Fire venuses tend to adapt to any love language, especially Leo.

Mercury in Gemini or/and moon in aquarius tend to not believe in astrology. If not they never take it seriously.

#astrology observations #astrology memes #astrology roast #astrology notes #astrology tips #astro tips #air moons #fire moons #water moons #rising signs #water risings #leo risings #fire risings #earth signs #virgo moon #virgo #chiron #chiron aspects #i am bored

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missmentelle · 3 years

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could you explain some of the differences between how adhd affects executive function and how depression or other illnesses do? i think i definitely struggle with executive dysfunction but i don’t have a diagnosis yet (hopefully once i can go back to my college campus in fall) and i’ve been told it can look kinda similar in this aspect

Untangling the relationship between ADHD, executive dysfunction and depression can be sort of like trying to figure out where a perfect circle starts and stops - these things often go together, and separating them is more challenging than you might think.

But let's stop for a minute and look at what ADHD and depression look like on their own.

ADHD is a neurological disorder that affects the brain's ability to regulate attention and impulses. It's a common misconception that ADHD is "a lack of attention span" or "a short attention span" - people with ADHD cannot regulate their attention spans properly. It is hard for them to stay focused on tasks they aren't interested in, but it's equally hard for them to tear themselves away from tasks they are very interested in. I have ADHD, and it's not unusual for me to work on something I'm very interested in for 10-12+ hours straight, without stopping to eat, shower or do other things that I'm supposed to do.

The most common symptoms of ADHD are:

hyperactivity - the person may be fidgety, restless, and struggle to sit still

poor impulse control - they may spend money they shouldn't on impulse purchases, drive too quickly, or otherwise make reckless decisions they wouldn't make if they were made to stop and think about it

prone to distractions or losing focus

hyperfocus - this means focusing on an interesting task for hours, to the point that other important tasks or even basic self-care are neglected

poor concentration

inattentiveness - they may be prone to spacing out and daydreaming

difficulties with planning, time management and with being on time - deadlines tend to be difficult for them

a tendency to lose things - difficulties keeping track of belongings and important documents

difficulties with organization - living spaces, offices and desks are often a disaster

low frustration tolerance - they are easily frustrated and have a hard time coping with frustration in healthy ways

difficulty following directions - they may rush through instructions and make careless mistakes

difficulty waiting their turn - in adults, this often manifests as interrupting or talking over other people constantly

People who are diagnosed with ADHD will not have every symptom, and symptoms may change as you age. Men and boys, for instance, are more prone to having hyperactive and impulsive symptoms, which is one of the reasons why ADHD is more commonly diagnosed in males - those symptoms are quite visible. Women and girls, on the other hand, are more likely to have inattentive symptoms without hyperactivity, which often leads to them being labelled as "ditsy" or "spacey" without their ADHD being recognized.

Depression, on the other hand, is a mood disorder that can affect many different processes in the brain, including executive functioning. Some of the executive function issues that you can experience with depression include:

“brain fog” - an experience where your thinking feels slow, fuzzy or disorganized

difficulties concentrating

forgetfulness, issues with short-term memory

memory loss, issues recalling long-term memories

easily distracted

delayed mental processing, slow reaction times

difficulties with problem-solving and decision-making - often manifests as the person being indecisive and unable to make up their mind

The reason that it can be tough to detangle ADHD from depression, however, is that ADHD can often be a major contributor to depression - or at least, the social impact of living with ADHD can contribute to depression. The world is simply not build for people with ADHD brains, and trying to exist in a world that’s not built for your brain is exhausting, especially when everyone around you seems to manage it so easily. When you struggle to be on time, meet deadlines and stay organized, you’re going to meet with a lot of failure in your life. The struggles often start in school - kids with ADHD have a hard time sitting still, paying attention and getting homework done, which leads to poorer grades and more school failure. College acceptance rates are lower for kids with ADHD (22% of kids with ADHD are accepted to college vs 77% of non-ADHD kids) and the college graduation rate is much lower (5% of adults with ADHD have graduated college, vs 35% of non-ADHD adults). And those struggles follow people into the workforce - 55% of adults with ADHD have been fired from a job, vs 23% of the general population.

Living with ADHD can also cause problems with relationships. When you struggle with impulse control, are unreliable about answering messages and tend to show up late to dates, it can be more difficult for you to start and maintain friendships and romantic relationships. When you struggle with basic life skills or financial management (as many people with ADHD do) that can also be a major cause of frustration for long-term partners. The divorce rates for couples with an ADHD spouse may be as much as double the average divorce rate, and people with ADHD go through more sexual partners in their lifetime (the average for people with ADHD is 18.6 partners, vs 6.5 for the general population).

It can be extremely discouraging to constantly feel like you aren’t living up to your potential and that you’re letting other people down. It can be very difficult to watch the people around you seem to effortlessly manage things that you struggle to do, no matter how hard you try. It can feel like you’re trying to climb out of a slippery well while someone has their boot on your forehead - no matter how hard you struggle, you just can’t seem to get ahead. All of these things can contribute to high rates of depression and anxiety among people with ADHD. It’s a vicious cycle - their executive function causes life circumstances that lead to depression, which leads to worse executive functioning, which leads to worse life circumstances, etc.

The good news for those of us with ADHD is that proper treatment can significantly interrupt this vicious cycle. Many people with ADHD can improve their quality of life by receiving treatment for ADHD. Getting treatment for depression can also improve your quality of life and make it easier to manage ADHD. Making lifestyle adaptations (like finding a career with flexible hours, finding an understanding partner, having a cleaning service come in once in a while) can also make it easier to manage ADHD, and to succeed while living with it. ADHD and depression often go hand-in-hand, but it’s possible to overcome them and find ways to manage them. Best of luck to you! MM

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ask19thcentury-doctorgilbert · 3 years

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Hey there! I thought I’d answer this ooc because Gilbert would never give a straight answer to these questions and after last night’s post I’m really down to talk more in depth about the doc’s mental health.

But before I dive into that, I just wanted to say thank you? I’m really glad to know that you think I do a good job at handling the portrayal of his mental health struggles, that really means a lot and is one of the best compliments I’ve been given ;v; I try to be as realistic and sensitive as I can and I’m glad to know that it pays off!

Alright, onto some headcanon rambling. Fair warning, this post is long and I go off into several tangents sdjjkds

Trigger warnings for the content below: depression, anxiety, suicide, childhood neglect / abuse, self-harm, and bad coping habits.

There’s at least 6 points in Gil’s life wherein his mental health was at its worst: the death of his father, the majority of his duchy years, frederick’s death, the napoleonic era, the entire stretch of the gdr era, and those years between the fall of the wall and him leaving to go to university in Zurich. I can write an entire post about each of those times, but for the sake of answering these asks, I’ll be focusing mainly on the first point and his crusader years.

To answer the first question, I think Gilbert’s first major depressive episode happened when he was a child after his adoptive father, Otmar Beilschmidt, died. He was a constant, comforting presence in the boy’s early life; someone he knew he can depend on and turn to if things ever got too scary or overwhelming. Even after he got ‘turned’ into a representative and the heads of the Order formally took him in, little Gisil still kept being stuck to his father’s hip. And Otmar, as unsettled as he was to find out that his son was suddenly some kind of miracle child, did his best to come to terms with it and help his son cope with his new nature too.

(Slightly off topic side note but I always had the idea that Otmar never really got over reacting with shock whenever he witnessed anything that confirmed that his son wasn’t fully human anymore, like watching a small scratch stitch itself back together. Gisil, being a perceptive and sensitive child, would catch on to that quick and I’m 100% sure he’s asked his father if he was afraid of him before. To which I’m sure Otmar told a half-truth and said that no, he wasn’t afraid of him --- After all, how could he be afraid of someone that God created to bring some good into the world?)

Either way, the sudden loss of that steady, dependable figure in his life really knocked Gisil’s world out of balance and triggered his first major depressive episode. He wouldn’t eat much at mealtimes and found it hard to sleep at night which would then translate into the kid being far more irritable and restless than usual during the day; prone to tantrums and crying if something didn’t go his way. But instead of someone sitting down and trying to understand why he was acting out, he was chastised for acting the way he did; told that he was allowed to grieve his father, but he had to be more mature about it and behave better. Not wanting to disappoint the adults who would be looking after him now, Gisil taught himself how to swallow back the hurt and put a lid on it. It didn’t make him hurt any less, in fact it may have started to translate into physical symptoms like a mildly upset stomach or a headache, but it didn’t bother anyone and his new parental figures seemed to approve so he just came to accept that it must be the right thing to do.

While he eventually got over the worst of the pain relating to his father’s death (or at least learned how to stuff it far enough in the back of his mind that he could pay it no mind) those symptoms continued to quietly haunt him. Mikael was prone to having trouble sleeping in the night (and he often passes the time by practising his writing, or sometimes he’ll get up and sneak out of the sleeping quarters to just sit in the chapel. sometimes praying, sometimes just sitting quietly and hoping that the silence and the coolness coming from the stone walls would somehow lull him to sleep) and to having days where he acts more hot-headed and impulsive than usual.

The disconnect between desperately wanting to be the ‘good’ person he believes he was created to be and some of the awful things the Order has done to do ‘good’ in the name of God also feeds into that depression and anxiety, especially when he keeps bottling it up because he really has no one to talk to about these things and because that’s what he’s used to doing. This internal conflict will eventually bubble over in his Duchy years, a period of time where Gilbert’s whole mental and emotional well-being was incredibly fragile. (If you wanna read more about what happened during that time, I have an old post about it here. Trigger and content warnings are at the very beginning!)

As for the second question, I think it’s safe to say Gilbert was messed up by essentially being a child soldier. Physical damage doesn’t stay long but the mental/emotional damage was extensive.

Even if his first depressive episode was triggered by his father’s death, the things he saw and experienced during his time as the representative of the Teutonic Order, definitely helped to make things worse. All the bad habits and symptoms he experienced in his youth continue to haunt him until adulthood. Gilbert would still rather brush someone’s concern off with an ‘I’m fine’ coupled with a reassuring smile than risk bothering them with whatever he’s dealing with. Since staying with Konrad and Reiner (who have their own struggles that deserve its own post) he’s learned to open up a little more with enough prompting, but he’d still much rather keep his problems to himself. He still regularly struggles with insomnia that gets worse when he finds himself in a slump, which then translates to frustration, irritability, and a tendency to neglect self care like forgetting to eat. He’s struggled with suicidal thoughts before and has made an attempt on two occasions: once in his Duchy years, the other right after the Napoleonic Era came to a close.

I think another thing that really added fuel to the fire is just the nature of Gil’s existence? Like most nations in his generation have had the chance to just roam around being children in their childhood, some might have even been cared for by the ancients, but he’s never had any of that? He had 10 years of it as a regular human child and then another 8 years after he was ‘turned’ of simply tending to sick and injured pilgrims. He had only 18 years of relative normalcy before he was thrown into a life of constant war, made out to be some holy figurehead, while I feel like most others had much longer. His ability to compartmentalize, to separate the self from the nation, was lacking compared to others in his cohort because he was just so young, physically and in nation years, when he was thrown into the mess. He’s a child nation who’s still young enough to remember his life as a human, to remember what it’s like to think and feel and to fear like a human and I think that messed with his ability to cope. Templar and Hospitaller might be the only ones who can understand what that was like since I think they were thrown into the fire relatively quickly after they were turned as young kids, but Ezekiel is far away and Sanson... Well, we all know what happened to poor Sanson.

The good news is, in the modern day, he is doing so much better since he started regularly meeting with a therapist and getting on the right medication regimen. It took him a while to really accept the fact that he needs help, even if logically he knew this was the right thing to do. There are still bad days but the genuinely good days far outnumber them now and that’s worth the uphill climb that is trying to sort out his issues.

#answered #[ headcanon ]#aph prussia #hws prussia #gilbert beilschmidt #depression tw //#anxiety tw //#suicide tw //#self harm tw //#childhood neglect tw //#gilbert looks put together on the outside but #he's really that image of the china cabinet with all the dishes pressed against the door #and if you open it everything's just gonna come crashing down #but he tries to do better #and tries his goddamn best not to repeat the bad parts of his upbringing #when it comes to raising his boy #in fact he tried so hard that he messed it up BUT #thats a conversation for another day

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mooglesorts · 3 years

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hmmm... does it sound like a bird secondary/bird model thing to be, for lack of a better word, territorial?

not necessarily in the sense of, like, getting defensive and driving people off (although if someone gets into My Territory who makes the space unpleasant for me in some way i’ll be distressed and irritated). more like... establishing a home base, i guess? and slowly expanding my comfort zone from there. people, communities, my living space, there will usually be a few that i come back to when i’m too tired or overwhelmed to keep track of everything else.

examples:

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when i’m in a discord server that i want to participate in more than in passing, i’ll usually start by camping out in one channel for a while and ignoring all the others. from there, once i’ve gotten to know people who frequent that channel, feel like they’ve gotten to know me, and feel like i’m Established there, i’ll start expanding out into other channels one or two at a time until i’m familiar with the whole server. it deadass took me half a year to branch out from the vent/mature topics channels in my current main server, and then it took months more for me to catch up to the whole server. if i don’t do it this way i’ll be overwhelmed, eventually get bored, and trip off my feeling-left-out-of-a-community sore spots.

(which is a Thing about using snake secondary to reach out and do new things. sometimes it’s a lot of fun to just go where i feel like and explore! but if a) there’s nothing i can really do without spending money i don’t have, b) i get the side-eye for being Poor and Socially Awkward and Doing Things Weird, c) i don’t happen to be into some anime fandom i don’t care about that everyone else does, and have had zero opportunity to get at least a little invested in it in order to connect with people, d) i get ignored because no one knows me or is invested in the things i contribute; or e) i just plain go past my limits because i didn’t realize going in how much energy i’d be expending on the thing... i get bored, fast. what’s the point? might as well just turn around and go home; at least it’s comfy.)

(badger secondary model?)

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i’m prone to homesickness. i’ve gotten a little better about it over the years, and after moving so many times in such short succession, but it’s really hard to let go of My Territory the more memories and familiarity i’ve built there. it’s super rough on me emotionally from anywhere to a few days to a couple weeks, and any time i think about it, but otherwise i adjust pretty fast to my new surroundings.

(the exception here is when i, well... avoid going out and exploring snake-style, because i don’t want to get attached and then deal with the grief of leaving it behind later on. housing instability trauma sucks, and i’m still struggling to figure out how to deal with that.)

part of that might be having stayed in one place for most of my growing up, but it’s like... pretty easy for me to designate a new place as a home base even if i still miss the old one? idk. even when i have nothing left there, i still think of everywhere i’ve intentionally planted my flag as One of My Places.

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it often takes me a long time to get comfortable with interacting with someone on a regular, friendly basis the closer the space i get to know them in. a lot of people who are now good friends of mine i had to build up my comfort levels with for years. there’s usually a moment of like... ‘oh okay this is our Friendship Unlocked Moment. the dam is broken,’ and even if we go long periods of time without talking a lot in private i don’t feel anxious and suffocated when we do. sometimes the Friendship Unlocked moment is one thing that happens all at once, and sometimes it’s several things over a long period of time until the scale tips for good. this is one reason i get cagey about initiating those friendship moments too directly sometimes, just because i know i might need to pull back and have space for a while again for the friendship to develop, and i don’t want to hurt people’s feelings.

weirdly enough, though, this process tends to be circumvented a lot the more distance there is between me and another person while i’m getting to know them? if i had gotten into the shc community by joining a server i would be way more shy, anxious, and wary, but when most of my potential-friendship-moments interactions with people take place on tumblr where it’s easier to get some space if i need to, it makes it way less uncomfortable and anxiety-inducing to point and go ‘friend! :D’ i’d probably be fine with exchanging discords with most of the people i’ve met on here at this point.

it’s like the difference between meeting people and making friends at a hobby group where you meet once a week, and making friends by having to invite them over to your house every day.

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i’m very much the kind of person who will stick close with the friend who invited me to a party, lmao, or if i’m tagging along on a trip but don’t want to be there (or don’t want to deal with the hassle of finding them again if i wander off). sometimes i’ll jump right into a new situation and start making friends, but i get anxiety pretty easily about making people feel snubbed or left out if i don’t have the time or energy to engage with everything, so often i’ll just fall back on one or two options i’m most familiar with and let everything else pass me by. i used to be the kind of kid/teenager who’d stick so close behind people on public outings that i’d constantly be bumping into them by accident. (once again, if i didn’t want to be there, wasn’t allowed to go do my own thing, or was--in hindsight--dissociating.)

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just... hm. thoughts? to me this sounds like either snakey, badgery rapidfire bird, or birdy, badgery snake who uses the other two to cover for social awkwardness/feelings of alienation/lack of time or energy/depression from my burned snake. or shit, maybe it’s badger all along, who knows.

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cuntess-carmilla · 4 years

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Common traits of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome

I’m not a doctor, so there may be some details off here though tbh chronically ill people usually know more than most doctors. I'm making this post because there’s very little awareness about this, and people who fit the diagnosis criteria end up never being diagnosed and suffering in silence, even risking early deaths, as I now suspect happened to my grandma.

Definition:

Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) is a group of disorders that affect connective tissue. It’s a genetic disorder that has no cure, but does have palliative treatments depending on the type of EDS.

All types of EDS are characterized by abnormal collagen synthesis. This doesn’t mean that you have too little collagen (necessarily?), but that the collagen your body synthesizes is and will always be altered or of bad quality, regardless of how much of it you synthesize.

EDS is regarded as “rare” by most doctors, but many patients believe it’s more common than they think, only being so “rare” on paper because doctors perceive it as rare, so they don’t diagnose patients despite fitting the criteria (search why EDS communities use the zebra as a symbol). Due to this, EDS communities encourage self-diagnosis, and many times even self-treatment.

Abnormal collagen sounds like it’s “only” one thing, but collagen is a key structural protein ALL over the body, so if your collagen is wrong, a lot of things are wrong or at the very least unusual. As a result, EDS affects the skin, ligaments, joints, blood vessels and other organs (including gastrointestinal organs and the uterus).

Common traits and symptoms:

Please, keep in mind that these symptoms don’t have to be super extreme to count. EDS symptoms range from mild to severe. Most of my symptoms aren’t remarkably visible to the eye, but they’re still bad enough that I suffer tremendously and it affects every single aspect of my life.

Take into account that many of the following traits/symptoms aren’t exclusive to EDS, but if you have more than one or two...

Joint hypermobility: Being "double jointed". The joints are so lax, that they luxate or even dislocate for as much as staying still in the same position too long. It can affect some joints, or all joints, small joints or big joints. It obviously comes associated with joint pain, including chronic joint pain. Can also manifest as scoliosis.

Skin elasticity: You can pull your skin (by pinching it) and it stretches more than the skin of most people. This can, in some cases, make EDS patients prone to skin sagging.

Abnormal scarring: The skin of people with EDS is fragile and elastic, and takes longer to heal. Abnormal scarring includes “cigarette paper” scarring, keloids, slow scarring and healing, higher propensity to stretch marks, post-inflammatory hyper-pigmentation.

Bruising too easily: The blood vessels of people with EDS are fragile to one degree or another. This makes us prone to bruising easily or dramatically, to the point some present spontaneous bruising. Spontaneous bruising might point to vascular EDS, in which case please seek medical help because it’s the most dangerous form of EDS. There’s cases recorded of parents who’ve been falsely accused of beating their children because of the child’s easy or spontaneous bruising.

Digestive and/or nutritional issues: GUESS what intestines and other digestive organs are made of. Yes, collagen. People with EDS are prone to having delicate digestive systems (IBS, nausea, constipation, diarreah and food allergies included), and/or difficulty absorbing the nutrients from our diet. This trait can be bad enough that the patient needs to be fed through a tube or have nutrients injected into their bloodstream, but most of us do fine with regular nutritional supplements (I recommend multivitamins and minerals). Among other things, the nutrient absorption issue makes us prone to excessive hydration due to imbalance of water-salt intake or absorption, and that’s a REALLY bad thing. It made my hair fall off MASSIVELY for years, and intensified my pain, brain fog and fatigue.

Chronic fatigue: Between the physical pain and bad nutrient absorption, most if not all of us experience chronic fatigue (as a symptom, not the disorder). This isn’t just being tired, it’s being exhausted to your bones for no reason all the time, even if you’ve done absolutely nothing in weeks. Might be pervasive, might be recurrent.

Muscle pain: When you have EDS Everything Hurts™. This can be exacerbated in EDS patients by imbalance of water-salt intake (generally leaning towards excessive hydration, but can be dehydration too).

Chronic pain: Everything Hurts™... All the time. It’s a general pain expanded throughout your body that just won’t go the fuck away no matter what you do. Except that this can be exacerbated by imbalance of water-salt intake too! Fixing mine made my chronic and muscle pain so much more bearable to the point that on a good day it’s GONE (just remember, your pee should NEVER be even close to clear, it should just not be solidly opaque, and you could damage your kidneys too by drinking too much water).

Brain fog: Linked to chronic fatigue and pain (ALSO POSSIBLY THE WATER-SALT INTAKE). Like chronic pain and fatigue, it’s not necessarily present every single day, but be recurrent instead. You can’t think. You can’t read or process what you read. You can’t turn thoughts into words. Your grammar goes to shit. You can’t retain or process new information. You can’t remember words that you KNOW you know. You can’t remember things in general. Someone asks you a simple question and it’s like they’re speaking to you in another language. You start to feel increasingly frustrated and desperate because you’re constantly disoriented and your mind is lagging like an old computer running on a 256 MB RAM memory. ERROR 404 BRAIN NOT FOUND TRY AGAIN LATER. Well, turns out you are not dumb, your body is not cooperating with you, and that includes your brain.

Asthma: Highly comorbid. Just... Everything is made of collagen, pal. EVERYTHING.

Autism: Don’t ask me why, but EDS and autism are highly comorbid too, so if you’re in the autism spectrum (same hat) and experience any or many of the other symptoms/traits listed, it’s very likely that you also have EDS.

Depression: It’s really hard to be "positive”, have any motivation or enjoy anything, when NOTHING in your body works right, Everything Hurts™ and you’re so depressingly exhausted that all you CAN do is lay in bed all day. People and doctors telling you you’re “faking it”, people thinking you’re lazy, underestimating how much pain and fatigue you’re going through, having to pull through all of that anyway because you have no other option (ie. your job is your or your family’s only source of income) does not help AT ALL with this.

Tight/narrow “inner plumbing”: In my case, my throat is so narrow, that swallowing one (1) small pill is genuinely difficult, and big pills make me GAG. But its not just your throat, it’s ALL your plumbing being too tight or narrow.

Varicose veins: The whole blood vessels being fragile thing. Most common in vascular EDS, please seek help if you think you may have that specific type.

Thin “transparent” soft skin: Again... FUCKING COLLAGEN. I think it’s obvious what this one means? Except it’s likely that it’s harder to notice the “transparent” part of it on darker skinned patients, but if you’re pale or light skinned, you’d be one of those people whose veins are very easy to see.

“Moldable” nails: Yet again, collagen is everywhere. Some of my nails (index and middle fingers) are slightly deformed because I tend to clench my hands A LOT by instinct and the continued pressure changed their shape.

Aracnodactilia, or “spidery” hands/fingers: The fingers are very skinny and long in proportion to the rest of the hand, can apply to feet too. Having very narrow feet (ie. your shoes are always to wide for you) is part of this.

Gynecological issues or abnormalities: Excessive bleeding during your period, bleeding outside your period, infertility, spontaneous abortions, pre-term labor, high risk pregnancies. Very common with vascular EDS too.

Dry eyes: I didn’t know about this one until like, literally two days ago but apparently it’s a thing, since the test this Chilean EDS specialist we’re hoping to see gives you, includes it as a potential symptom.

“Elongated” body, face (and its features) and/or limbs: Actually the aracnodactilia is often part of this. I also have no idea why but many EDS patients have “elongated”, narrower features, be it subtle or very visible.

Chronic fatigue and brain fog are really hard to describe properly to people who don’t go through them. Hell, even to people who DO go through them. So here’s two videos by Jessica Kellgren-Fozard (just in case, she was misdiagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, but discovered recently that she has EDS, besides her neurological condition). All her videos have CC.

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#ehlers danlos syndrome #eds #ehlers danlos #chronically ill #disability #chronic illness

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starsandspicedpeaches · 3 years

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DBD Killer Personality Headcanons

So I have purposefully looked at very little dbd content as I wanted to make my own headcanons for characters personalities and didn’t want to feel like mine were wrong because the community didn’t agree with it. I warn you in advance these very well may not match up with the usually accepted personalities but if you don’t like it, you don’t have to accept it. These are just my personal ideas. I’m starting out with the first five default characters you get and will add more if requested or if the mood strikes me. I probably won’t do characters who had their own movies though as their traits are more solid in canon.

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Evan MacMillan (Trapper)- Tries to act stoic and in control, but easily falls out of this role and is distracted by anything he finds fun or exciting, or by those who assert dominance over him. He’s not dumb, but is sometimes mistaken to be as his mind drifts off easily and he is prone to confusion. He inherited his mother’s compassion and love of life, but this is shown very rarely and only to people he feels he can let his guard down around. Feels the constant need to protect and control what is around him and be aware of everything going on which can make him irritable or sulky if it gets to be too much. He drifts between the image of his father that he wants to fulfill and the happy creative soulful man he might’ve been in a better situation.

Philip Ojomo (Wraith)- Very quiet and introverted with an extreme distrust towards others. Doesn’t like to converse but will often commentate on what happens around him quietly under his breath. On a good day he’ll make dry, subtle jokes. He rarely shows anger or discontentment until he is furious and will then lash out, but mostly just tries to avoid anything that would make him that upset. Although few would have the opportunity to witness it Philip is a wonderful teacher and storyteller and is able to quickly pick up on new information and relay it to others. If he does grow fond of someone he is protective to the point of self sacrifice and will do most anything just to see that person smile, which is one of the only things that can make him smile.

Max Thompson Jr. (Hillbilly)- Observant and quiet, but extremely awkward from years without socialization. His strangeness makes him hesitant to reach out to others (along with his history of abuse). The way he speaks is often basic, childlike, or even corny like the tv shows he would watch. When he trusts someone though he’ll almost never stop talking, eager to let all of his thoughts be heard and discussed. He tends to notice little things like unique flowers or neat trinkets and will collect them and likes to share them as well. Does hold more fondness for animals than people and will often let animals go if he notices little traits in them he likes and finds unique.

Sally Smithson (Nurse)- Chipper and saccharine, but also incredibly meticulous with high standards for everything around her and even higher standards for herself. She can be irritable and passive agressive but hates to show this side of herself and can become overly apologetic if she offends someone she cares about. She is prone to depressed slow phases if she becomes too upset or deals with too much stress. These can last for long periods of time and are hard for her to snap out of.

Anna (Huntress)- Master of dad jokes and tends to use humor to avoid tough conversations or emotional baggage. She has trouble with social cues and will need you to directly tell her if you're mad because she’ll never figure it out by herself. Loves to teach survival skills and other tricks she’s picked up throughout her life and is a fantastic friend to those she cares about, but when she’s mad though her whole personality does a 180 and she’ll go dead silent without ever breaking a smile. While she’s pretty smart overall she does lack some basic common sense and will give small children her axes to play with or walk in front of cars without noticing them.

Part 1 // Part 2 // Part 3 // Part 4 (Legion) // Part 5 // Part 6 (Licensed Characters)

#dbd #dead by daylight #trapper #wraith #hillbilly #nurse #huntress #evan macmillan #philip ojomo #max thompson jr #sally smithson #anna #headcanon #hc #sidenote: i have no clue why but anna gives me slight andy from parks and rec vibes

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depressed--carrot · 4 years

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Peridot is the first character I’ve ever been able to relate to on a personal level and here’s why...

I’m autistic. I’m a 20 year old female with Asperger’s and never in my life have I been able to relate to character as well as Peridot. Every character I’ve seen in media prior to Peridot that could be considered autisitc has either been an incredibly inaccurate depiction or...well...male!

Although it’s not specifically stated whether or not Peridot is autistic, I believe that Rebecca Sugar has mentioned in the past that she’s glad people in the autistic community can relate to the character. I’m going to list some reasons below as to why I believe people in the community can relate to Peridot. I want to say that she’s obviously an alien (lmao) so I’m just stating all of the things that I see as autistic traits in her character. Everyone on the spectrum experiences different autistic traits, these are just a few I believe that Peridot exhibits.

1. Social interaction and communication.

Peridot struggles a lot with her communication throughout the series. Now, this doesn’t mean that she isn’t well spoken because she is! It’s more or less regarding how she communicates with others. Her phrasing is INCREDIBLY literal, she has a lack of understanding of jokes and sarcasm. Peridot comes across as insensitive a lot of the time. As an example, in 'Too Far’ Amethyst encourages her to say mean things about people, laughing whenever she does. Peridot takes this as what she’s saying is making Amethyst like her, but in reality, she’s hurting people and not realising. It’s very much the idea that you speak your mind without thinking, only realising later that what you’ve said may have offended someone. This can be seen as a lack of empathy by others. Something I, unfortunately, experience a lot in my own life.

Peridot tends to speak in a monotone voice, then not knowing how to control her voice usually ends up shouting when emotionally provoked. She can also sometimes speak too fast. I also have to mention that Peridot has a fantastic vocabulary, which I admire greatly.

Peridot often struggles with emotions. Unable to understand other people’s emotions, she often uses her tape recorder to express how she’s feeling. Of course, this is done pretty awkwardly - but she tries her hardest to relate to how other people feel.

2. Special Interests

A special interest is a hyper-focused interest that autistic people have. This could pretty much be anything, for me (currently), it’s Steven Universe. For Peridot - it’s Camp Pining Hearts! Special interests are much different from hobbies and can change frequently or very rarely. It’s something that you think about every second of the day, something you have to know everything about - your warm blanket. It can become a comfort to you and in Peridot’s case it seems as if CPH’s becomes that interest. She’s obsessive over the show, wants to know everything about it, wants to watch all the episodes repeatedly and even tends to relate real life situations back to the characters so she can grasp a better understanding of people’s emotions. She even manages to convince Lapis to watch the show with her - probably because she kept info-dumping CPH lore and Lapis had no idea what she was talking about. Sounds like a familiar situation with me and my poor mother who I’ve made sit through episodes of SU so she knows what I’m talking about lmao. Bottom line = special interests make us very very happy!

3. Change of Routine & Comforts

Let’s be honest, Peridot was out of her depth getting stranded on Earth. Poor thing, but what made that worse? Steven and the Gems took away her comforts! People with autism tend to get quite attached to certain items that bring us comfort and you can see this a lot throughout the series. Peridot’s limb enhancers, the tape recorder, the barn (!) and her tablet etc.

What happens to Peridot when people mess with her stuff? When people take away the things that bring her that comfort? FREAKOUT. She’s overwhelmed with emotion and usually has a meltdown after these things have been taken away and the norm is no longer the norm. We can see this when Lapis takes the barn away, Peridot falls into a deep pit of depression - routine has been broken and the place she called home has been ripped away so suddenly. She cannot adapt quick enough to the change.

4. Coordination

Okay so, Peridot is incredibly prone to being clumsy. She’s probably the one character who has just straight up fallen on their face the most. Well, I think it may be because her co-ordination isn’t exactly...great. A condition called Dyspraxia is pretty common amongst people with autism which can make us a little bit clumsier than usual and can effect both our gross and fine motor skills. It can mean we struggle with spacial awareness, we tend to bump into things a lot and well, like Peridot - can often fall over. It also covers the basis of fine motor skills such as handwriting etc.

5. Physical Contact

Peridot’s not exactly one for physical contact...now don’t get me wrong, she seems to like a good hug - but unlike the other Gems she tends to avoid touch. Not only that, but it’s been confirmed that she’s aro/ace which means that she’s not exactly one for anything...physical. As someone who is aromantic, her character once again relates heavily to me. She’s a star.

6. Stimming and MELTDOWNS!

Peri is a stimmer! She flaps, claps, spins, jumps, stomps - you name it and she’s doing it. She even did the raptor hands that one time lmao! Autistic people usually use repetitive behaviours like clapping or flapping to help keep themselves calm.

In terms of meltdowns well...Peridot has a habit of spiralling off into a rant and rage. She’s an incredibly angry little bean and the anger usually stems from her frustration of not being able to express her emotions correctly. This sucks and I know exaclty how she feels.

Now, I’m by no means an expert and there’s a load of other things I’ve spotted with Peridot that I relate to and I’m sure others do too, but these were just my observations. If I continued with this, I really would be here all night!

I am just so happy to have someone like Peridot in the media when the only other ‘representation’ we get is characters like Sheldon Cooper *SHUDDERS*. It’s so nice to be able to relate to a character who is accurately depicted and doesn’t make you feel like garbage. She’s a character with amazing development and I’m so glad that Steven Universe shows an autistic coded ‘female’ in such a strong role.

I love you Peridot. Thanks for making me feel seen when everyone else made me believe I was invisible.

#steven universe #long post #kay speaks #peridot #peridot autism #autistic #autism awareness #autistic characters #aro #ace #we love you peri #su #suf #steven universe future #representation #thank you peridot #aspergers

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kiarcheo · 3 years

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A Whole New World 2/10

Jane and Kat find out there is more to each other…and to the new world they have found themselves in.

Read on Ao3 too

AN: I have seen Anne’s date of birth ranging from 1501 to 1507, and Jane’s between 1504 and 1509. For the sake of this story I consider Anne born in 1501 and consequently dying at 35, and Jane being born in 1508 and dying at 28.

Kat came back at 18 and Jane at 22, Anna, Cathy and Anne in their late twenties, and Catalina in her early thirties.

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It becomes a regular thing. Sometimes it’s a museum Kat has already visited, sometimes a new one on the list she keeps of places she wants to see. They often make a day of it, treating themselves to lunch (usually at Jane’s initiative, since Kat tends to forego eating in favour of whatever has caught her interest), exploring parts of the city unknown to them.

One evening, close to dusk, they are walking through an empty park when Kat stops. ‘Have you ever wanted to try them out?’

‘Try what?’ Jane follows the direction of Kat’s gaze. ‘That?’

‘They look like fun.’

‘They are for children.’

‘Who said that? Besides, there are no children around...’ Kat trails off, eyebrow raised waiting for a response.

‘You know what? Why not?’

Kat lets out a small squeal before grabbing Jane’s hand and dragging her towards the playground.

‘Remember when you said “who said that they are just for children”?’ Jane asks as they are sitting on the platform, feet dangling down, recovering their breath and cooling down.

‘You mean, like, half an hour ago?’

‘Smartass.’ Jane gives her a look, before pointing to a sign. ‘Children’s Play Area. Only children under the age of 12 may use this play area.’

‘Well, technically we haven’t been back for that long?’

Jane shakes her head amused. Kat is so cheeky and she would have never guessed before spending so much time with her.

‘So what was your favourite part?’ she asks after a bout of silence. That is another thing that changed. Before, silent moments were much more common and awkward, now their quiet spells are rarer and yet infinitely more comfortable.

‘You falling off those.’ Kat motions with her head towards the monkey bars, getting a glare in response. ‘What about yours?’

‘The slides, I’d say.’

‘Yeah, they are nice. But too short, don’t you think?’

‘I know, right? By the time you pick up speed, you’re already at the end,’ Jane agrees. ‘They should make them longer. Adult-sized.’

‘Wait!’ Kat whips out her phone. ‘Let me...’

And Jane lets her. She has learnt that Kat's curiosity is insatiable. If she stumbles upon something she doesn’t know or doesn’t understand…she has to look it up. So many times, when their fellow queens mention (usually complain, actually) that Kat is always glued to her phone, Jane has been tempted to tell them that most of the time she is learning something new...but if Kat had not told them – not even if she would probably spare herself their scolding – then it’s not her place to tell them.

‘They exist!’ Kat exclaims angling the screen towards Jane. ‘Look! They even have playgrounds for adults!’

They look together at the photos for a while before Kat taps on a Wikipedia link, her first port of call every time. ‘Amusement parks,’ she starts to read the entry aloud before being interrupted by a text notification popping up on the screen.

Kat groans as she reads it.

‘What?’

‘Curfew,’ Kat sighs. ‘Apparently it’s late and they are wondering why I’m not home yet.’ She knows it’s because they care but... ‘Did you get one too?’

Jane checks her phone. ‘No.’

Kat sighs again. ‘One dies young once and she is forever treated like a baby.’ She notices the look Jane is sending her. ‘Please don’t start.’

‘I didn’t say anything.’

‘I can't make a joke that everyone freaks out thinking I’m depressed or having a breakdown or a flashback or something.’

Jane remembers clearly one of those occasions. They had been discussing nightmares and how everyone seemed to have them except Kat, who had commented that perhaps losing her head had meant losing everything that had been inside that too. She also remembers very clearly thinking that the reactions had been a bit disproportionate compared to Kat’s offhand tone and casual demeanour.

‘Sometimes a girl just wants to be self-deprecating. Or joke about her own death without being psychoanalysed and having people wanting to talk about your trauma.’

‘I get it. I said once that I had no time with Edward. I was just...stating a fact. I was not looking for pity or anything. But they tripped over themselves to reassure me that I was still his mother – which of course! – and that I’m still a mother now. And honestly. One has a child once and she is forever just a mother in everyone’s eyes. Don’t get me wrong. I wish I could have seen Edward grow up. Wish I could have been his mother. Properly. But I wasn’t. And out of all of us, I’m the one who had less time with children. Besides you, I was the youngest one to die. So I have no idea why everyone thinks of me as this motherly figure?’

Aware that she has been ranting, Jane chances a look at Kat, who has a peculiar expression on her face.

‘What?’ she asks, feeling self-conscious.

‘I’m just thinking how happy I am that you joined me that day at the museum.’

That had been the true start of their relationship, despite having lived together for many months prior to that.

‘You mean you're happy I caught you sneaking out?’

Jane knows what she means, though. They would have never thought, and even less found, they had so many things in common. Or that they could get along so well and have so much fun together.

‘I was not sneaking out.’

Jane merely looks at her.

‘I thought nobody was home. It was just out of habit.’

‘So all the other times you sneaked out.’

Kat doesn’t reply, knowing Jane is doing it just to annoy her. They had a similar talk the second time they went to a museum together, Jane asking why they were sort of hiding their trip. It was not that Kat thought they would stop her if they knew she was going out. But she just didn’t want to deal with their questions. About where she was going, why, why she was going alone, when she was coming back...Just easier to leave without them knowing and then simply tell them she had been out if they asked having noticed she had not been home. In their defence, they knew better than to pry and as long as she was home safely, they would let it go despite being curious.

‘I know you’re the one in charge of our museum days,’ Jane starts, ‘but I wanted to run an idea by you.’

‘Of course we can go to a museum of your choice. You don’t need to ask permission or whatever.’

‘Wait before agreeing.’

‘Is it the Tower?’ Kat winces with a grimace, trying to think of places still standing that Jane might be wary of asking her to visit.

Jane stops rummaging in her bag, her head shooting up. ‘What the fuck, Katherine??’

The younger girl is so lost in unpleasant memories that she doesn't even react to Jane’s swearing nor her full naming her. ‘Hampton Court?’

‘Why would I ever do something like that?’ Jane recoils. ‘God, no! The Clink.’

‘As-’

‘The prison! Not the-’

‘Brothels?’ Kat completes, eyebrow raised in amusement. Then she nods, almost to herself. The area had been known for two main things…the prison and for allowing usually forbidden activities.

‘Yes. I mean, they made a prison museum. You know I like true crime and–’

Yes. That had been a surprise. When Kat had asked if there was something she particularly enjoyed reading and learning about, like she loved history, that had definitely not been the answer she had expected. Jane must have known that, considering how much she hummed and hawed before caving after Kat had called bullshit – literally – on her non-committal answer.

‘–I think I’d like to– but I don’t want to, like, trigger you?’

‘What’s inside, exactly?’

Jane finally finds what she has been looking for in her bag and hands her a leaflet.

‘You know what?’ Kat takes a look at it. ‘We can go and you can...scout it out?’ She doesn’t see anything upsetting in the pictures, but there will be so much more in the museum that they can show in a single leaflet. ‘You can take a look before me and if you think there is something that might…disturb me, you tell me and I’ll skip that room?’

‘Really?’

‘I mean, you know I'm not too fussed about death and stuff like that as long as it’s not too bloody. Or neck-related.’

She is not too keen on watching documentaries with Jane, but she doesn’t mind listening to her talking about them. Or about whatever serial killer or unsolved crime she is currently reading about.

‘Thank you.’ Jane squeezes her arm, hoping Kat knows it’s not about agreeing to her request, but for her trust. ‘On an unrelated note...food?’

Jane’s constant preoccupation with food is another thing put down to her supposedly maternal instinct, a desire to make sure everyone is well-fed. The truth is…Jane loves eating. Being able to enjoy doing so without the ever-present worry of looking unladylike. Discovering new foods. She doesn’t eat a lot, but she needs to eat often, or she becomes…hangry, it’s what Kat called it. And it is only polite to ask if the others are feeling peckish too and want to join her. Moreover, she knows it’s one thing she can’t rely on Kat for, seeing as she is prone to skip meals if there is anything else she deems more important or interesting.

‘Do you think Catalina would consider this as traditional local food or...?’ Jane wonders aloud as she dips the churro in the plastic pot holding the chocolate sauce.

‘Possibly? Even if they were not invented by Spanish shepherds but brought by the Portuguese from China like some say, I think everyone agrees that by the 16th century they existed in Spain. And look, Romans had fried pastry, so, if not exactly that, something similar. And naturally cacao came to Europe after the Spanish invaded the Americas, so it arrived in Spain first, although if it was just after Cortés, Catalina would have been already in England…so she might have never tried churros with chocolate? Not sure when they started to combine the two, to be honest…’ Kat trails off. ‘What?’

‘Next person who says you’re stupid, I’ll deck them.’

Kat chuckles, bumping her hip into hers. ‘I appreciate the offer.’

‘It’s not an offer, it’s a promise.’

‘Ever thought about getting a car?’ Jane asks after they have been walking for a while.

‘Why? Tired? But not really. Honestly just the idea of getting into one and driving it myself is kind of terrifying.’

Jane nods. It sounds a bit like airplanes for her. It still boggles her mind that humans can fly. And she knows they are mostly safe and all, but it doesn’t mean she is keen on trying them out for herself.

‘I thought about getting a bicycle and learning how to ride,’ Kat continues.

‘Why don’t you?’

‘Yeah, and where would I hide it?’

‘Why would you need to hide it?’ Jane is puzzled enough to ignore Kat’s tone verging on the sarcastic rhetorical question inflection that usually implies someone had just asked a very stupid question.

‘With the potential of me getting hurt? Straying away, getting lost, or whatever? I don’t know if you have noticed, but the others tend to be a bit overprotective.’

And a bit is a euphemism. Don’t get her wrong. It is nice to have people caring and worrying about her. But she spent a lifetime fending for herself. And yes, she had her struggles, and the end might have been inglorious, but Anne wound up the same way and yet nobody questions her…or her capabilities. And okay, that might have something to do with age, but nobody cared about that before, and she had been a bloody queen (and quite a successful one, if she says so herself, at least before her past caught up with her)! Still, she doesn’t want to think how worse it would be if she had come back younger than she had been at the time of her death like the others did.

‘What are you thinking about?’ Jane asks, realising she is miles away, lost in thoughts.

‘How weird it would be if we had come back the same age we died. Well, besides me, obviously.’ She hopes she’ll be there to see it in person, but she can’t really think about Catalina as a 50-years-old woman or Anna in her forties. ‘And about how there is a fine line between heart-warming care and overbearing concern.’

Because, back to the point, she might have been more or less successful, but she is used to rely just on herself and getting by, not to have four other women, Jane to a lesser extent, being overly concerned about her. For certain matters, at least. Because for other things they seem perfectly happy to…perhaps not ignore her, but surely leave her to her own devices, without trying to get her involved. And she is often more than content with it, she will admit that…except that often it also leads to remarks about how she spends all her time at home, always in front a screen, and perhaps she should go out more? And then instead of standing up all night on her phone, she would tire herself out and sleep?

‘So you don’t want to check this out?’

Kat had not even realised they were walking past a sporting goods store.

‘Look! You could easily hide that.’ Jane points out to a small, colourful, tricycle, clearly meant for children.

‘Ah ah. Very funny.’ Sarcasm is heavy in Kat’s voice, but she follows her in.

‘What about this?’

‘A unicycle? Really? Have you ever seen one of those around, in public?’

Jane takes a moment to think about it. ‘Don’t think so.’

‘Exactly. Because they belong in the circus.’

‘One might say our house is a circus.’ They certainly have some chaotic days.

‘And you a clown.’

Jane gasps in mock offence. ‘I miss the days when you were afraid of me.’

‘I was never afraid of you. I was indifferent. And thought you were a stuck-up bore. Also, I know you don’t miss it.’

‘True,’ Jane admits easily. ‘Joking aside. We could put them in the shed?’

She had said once that she didn’t mind taking care of the garden and suddenly she had been left in charge of it, gardening apparently a passion of hers she didn’t even know she had. She supposes that it was deemed an appropriate hobby for boring old plain Jane (and yes, the fact that it is her actual name and not just a phrase in her case does not escape her), just like embroidery. She enjoys both of them, sure, but she is fairly confident the others think that’s all she does, no other interests – oh wait, there is cooking, or at least making sure that everyone is eating too! – which is something she tries not to dwell on too much because that’s frankly a bit (or a lot, depending on how she feels on the day) insulting.

‘We? Them?’ Kat raises an eyebrow. ‘But yes, we could store them there, but not really hide them if anyone happens to look inside. And certainly not two of them.’

Still, they continue to peruse the store.

‘What about these?’ Jane calls Kat’s attention, holding a pair of rollerblades up. ‘I’ve seen kids with them, can’t be that hard, can it?’ she continues once the girl comes over, looking interested.

‘Shoes on wheels? We’re so gonna die.’

Jane starts to put them back, slightly dejected, but Kat snatches them up. ‘Let’s do this.’

‘Yeah?’ She looks at her, tentative grin on her face.

Kat nods with gleeful smile. ‘Absolutely.’

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mvnvgedmischief · 3 years

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unremarkable days.

summary: sirius black is trying to be a good man, a good brother, a good person. Sirius has a steady job designing book covers for a publishing house, a flat he never leaves, and a traumatized brother who was just removed from the custody of his parents. All in all, it's wildly unremarkable.

characters: sirius black, regulus black, background wolfstar

tags: tw: canon compliant abuse, child abuse, social services

words: 3.1k

read it on ao3 here

When Sirius wakes up, he feels like he doesn’t know where he is. It’s all too much, as usual. Just another completely unremarkable day. He wishes he could say he didn’t feel like this all the time, he wishes he could say that waking up didn’t feel like the ultimate betrayal– a way that his body continued to force itself not to submit to his will. But he couldn’t say that when his day and his routine always felt like a chore. Not when he was tired, and so fucking bored of this life he kept waking up into. So he mindlessly rolls out of bed, thin hands already wrapped around his body in a self soothing posture. He didn’t remember the last time he had a good night’s rest. He finds himself stepping on the hardwood floor, all of his bones cracking into place, and wonders what the day will bring him.

The way he trudged over to the coffee machine was mechanical. It was always just a short twenty steps, and yet each stride felt like an eternity. He knew that nothing would get better without his normal too sweet cup of coffee, his eyes would not click into focus, the buzzing in his brain would not slow down, the way his stomach lurched with every step, none of it would end until he had his usual cup. So he made his way through the desolate flat, eyes unseeing, and before he knew it, his hands were wrapped around the shocking cold of a glass brimming with ice and espresso. He knew this isn’t the most productive part of his morning routine, but he doesn’t have the energy to care. A quick glance towards the clock told him he was running late, and it takes a moment for his brain to register the fact that he needs to care about that. He needed to do something about that. So he returns to his room, coffee in hand, and methodically picks out an outfit. When he was younger, his mother had impressed upon him the importance of a uniform. Every outfit should have at least three pieces, and uniforms were an excellent way to maintain looking put together. It was one of the only things Walburga had ever truly taught him, and it was all thanks to the high society life he left behind.

But that life was gone now, it only lived in the recesses of his mind, and the periphery of his vision. He trudges back out of his room once more, this time towards his computer. He was far too busy to be behaving in this manner. He didn’t have the time to lose his mind, there were deadlines approaching. He logged on to his computer, into his first meeting of the day, and was met with a new project. He wished he could say he paid enough attention to know what the pitch was, but he figured he’d read the summary of the work in the brief James was kind enough to send over, as well as the client notes. It pays to work with your best friend. Sirius found himself chuckling humorlessly at that statement, and wondered how long it had been since he actually laughed.

He threw himself into the project, illustrating for a book cover he has yet to actually consider the content for. He knew it was a personal work, a series of poems that are no doubt about depression and trauma, given the brief, but there was no way he would actually be reading the poems. Not when he was already dealing with his own chaos. He was so busy grappling with being spurned by his family, by his younger brother, that he didn’t really have the energy for someone else’s trauma. Instead, he was too busy trying to figure out how to deal with the resentment from his younger brother, a brother who had been placed in his care by the government. He was trying to figure out how to budget for two, how to make this all work. The hearings and the documents and the lawyers and the awarding of custodial custody had all been incredibly intense, and he still didn’t know how to explain to Reggie why he left him behind, or how to ask what kind of support he needed.

He heard the door click closed, which is a sound Sirius is not yet accustomed to. He felt the hair stand up on the back of his throat, and his fingernails have torn into the soft flesh on the inside of his arm before he remembers that two people live here now and he is no longer living with his parents in Islington. Regulus had the courtesy to not say anything to him, instead locking himself in his room. For a moment, Sirius considered just leaving his brother alone, but something struck him as wrong. While they might not know how to interact the way they used to, Sirius would be damned if he couldn’t find a way to support his brother through this transition. It takes him a moment to remember that it was two pm on a Wednesday, which means Regulus just returned from court ordered counseling, no doubt to deal with the trauma his parents put him through. So Sirius pulled himself out of his chair, and shuffled over to Regulus’s door hesitantly. His thin fingers curled into a fist, but before he can even knock Regulus’s quiet sobbing met his ears.

Sirius moved much faster after that, spurred on by his brother’s clear distress. He barely registered Regulus’s quiet “come in” before he’s bounding through the door.

In times like these, Sirius is confronted with the fact that Regulus is only fifteen, and that this whole thing must be weighing heavily upon him. It reminded Sirius a lot of himself, because Sirius wasn’t much older when he was kicked out of their childhood home. But still, Regulus seemed so much less prepared than Sirius had been. Sirius was again confronted by just how young they were, only fifteen and twenty-one, and far too young to be dealing with these calamities. Sirius only hoped that he could prevent Regulus from making the same mistakes he had, trusting the wrong people, only to be spurned by them.

He sat cross legged on the floor beside Regulus, unsure of what to do. He wants to pull his brother into a fierce hug, and tell him that he’s safe here. But instead, he did the thing he always craved others would have, when he was a scared kid falling apart at the seams because of his parents and their torments.

“Reg, can I touch you?” He asked, arms limply at his sides. He wondered if it was weird to ask, even though if Regulus said yes it wouldn’t matter whether or not it had been weird.

The younger boy let out a heavy sigh and nodded, and their identical silver eyes meet in a look of anguish and understanding.

Sirius pulled his younger brother into his arms, his embrace gentle, and found himself tutting as though he were a parent. He was trying to be comforting, he really was. Reg was so small, and Sirius remembers what that was like too. He remembers being that young, and that alone. He knew how badly they must have hurt Reg, for him to have reacted like this. Regulus was always much more prone to passivity, to giving in and staying quiet. He had always tried to blend into the background, and Sirius, in return, had always made much more noise to keep their attention. It was only when he took it too far, that all attention was on Regulus. Regulus had simply cracked under their pressure, which was why Child Protective Services had gotten involved. He couldn’t hide anymore, he had been noticed, and it wasn’t long before they got more vindictive. Regulus was lucky someone had called for a constable when the screaming in their old home was so loud the neighbors could hear, because he had been in such a state when the ambulance arrived.

The crying only subsided when Regulus collapsed of exhaustion in Sirius’s thin arms. For as much as Sirius wanted to just let the boy sleep in the safety of an embrace from the closest thing he’d ever have to a paternal figure, he needed to go back to work if they wanted to maintain their flat. So he settled his brother into bed and made his way back to his desk. His email had popped off for lack of a better term, and the client wanted to schedule a preliminary ideation meeting. So he added Remus Lupin to his calendar and went back to his sketches.

He heard the familiar ping of his alarm, and compiled his sketches into a PDF to prepare for his meeting. He grabbed his pen, his notebook, and titled his page for his notes. Remus Lupin: Pre-Lim/Brief. This would hopefully be quick, and he could log off for the rest of the day. Something was nagging at him, like he knew things were about to go incredibly wrong. It felt like a thrumming in his chest, and a constant need to look over his shoulder. But he ignored it, in favor of popping on his headphones, and opening the Webex meeting. Before him was a man that looked almost as young as himself, with caramel colored hair and eyes to match. This was decidedly not good. Sirius didn’t have the time to develop a crush, and it seemed unethical to crush on the authors of the books he designed cover art for. But he doubted that would stop him, when he tended to be romantic by nature.

“I’m Sirius, I’m the designer spearheading this project. Sorry we couldn’t do this in the office, I’m currently working remote.”

“Hi!” The other man greeted, “i’m Remus! Do you know when you’ll be back in the office? We could reschedule and do this meeting over coffee?” Sirius could tell this was Remus’s first publication, either he had previously self published or he had simply never worked with a company before, because he seemed eager to have his hands in design in the way that only green authors want to.

“I don’t really know, I’m currently dealing with a family crisis. But if I do come in, I’ll be sure to Teams you.”

“Oh, okay. I just wanted to get a sense for what direction you’re taking the cover art in.”

Sirius nodded, eyes trained on the screen, “I read over the brief you and James wrote up, and did some precursory sketches. I sent them over in an email, but I could also share my screen.”

They talked about the logistics of the art, what Remus was trying to convey in his poetry. It wasn’t until they were talking about the subject matter of the book that Sirius felt his teeth set on edge once more.

“The book covers a lot of abuse and processing trauma in a tongue in cheek way, so I think it’s important that the cover art conveys that while also not being too serious. I don’t want people to look at the book and go ‘oh that book is about when your ex boyfriend beats you’ but I don’t want it to catch them off guard –”

Remus’s explanation was interrupted on Sirius’s end, by Regulus stumbling out of his room, eyes wide with fear. It was clear Sirius was no longer paying attention, and Sirius was sure that his client could hear the frightened way he called out “Siri–” on the other line.

“Listen Remus, I have to call you back. Thanks so much for meeting with me, but I need to take care of something. My number’s on the emails if you want to discuss the book further.”

Sirius is quick to hang up the phone, and even quicker to move from the chair at his desk and meet his brother in the middle of the room. His silver eyes were trained on Regulus’s shaking hands and the blood dripping from fingers. He wondered what happened, but he wasn’t about to press the young boy. Not when he looked so thoroughly terrified. So instead, Sirius gently guides him over to the sink in the kitchen, rinses his hands under the water, and bandages up his hands.

“Siri I swear, I didn’t mean to break it. It just happened, I’m sorry I really didn’t mean it–” Regulus was rattling off apologies and all Sirius wanted was to make him feel safe. He wanted to remind him that he wasn’t in Islington, that Sirius wouldn’t be mad about whatever he broke. But he doesn’t know what to say, other than “don’t worry about it, Reg.” In that moment, Sirius practically swears that his chest aches with a heartache he forgot he could feel.

When Reg finally settled down again, back to callously ignoring Sirius because of the resentment he had built up, Sirius found himself letting out a sigh he didn’t know he had been holding in. He had wondered how long their actual talking would last, but Sirius would take a sporadic two hours over two consistent minutes any day.

He settled onto his couch, telly on for background noise, when he noticed a text from James.

James: i’m coming over in 15. Bringing friends. Be cool.

Sirius wanted to bang his head against the wall, because he couldn’t have friends over right now. Not when Regulus was in such a precarious position. But given how long it had been since James had texted him, there was no stopping him now. So instead Sirius knocks on Regulus’s door, only to find him in bed and half asleep. Sirius wondered if it was normal for a traumatized fifteen year old to sleep this much. But still, he explains to Regulus what was happening, in case the young man wanted him to divert to going out. When offered the out, away from constant vigilance, Regulus didn’t take it, which was, in some way, comforting to Sirius. Instead he told Sirius to try to be quiet, and not let anyone in his room, which Sirius happily obliges. In no time James was telling hiim they were on their way up, and that he was bringing the girl he had a crush on and her roommate.

Sirius felt like a slob, looking around his home, but he didn’t have the energy to clean it up. So instead, he just unlocked the door, and told them to come in when they arrived. When they did finally make it, Sirius was shocked to be met with the author he had spoken to only a few short hours earlier, as well as his friends, and the girl James was apparently smitten with. It was clear that Sirius was caught off guard evidently, because James was shouting “Surprise!” from behind him.

Sirius met that excitement with a cold “Be quiet, Jamie.” It was clear that the group was drunk, which also didn’t bode well for Sirius. Because as soon as they were all settled on the couch, James is airing Sirius’s current chaos.

“Remus, now that you’re our new best friend,” the man slurred, “you can peer pressure Siri into coming out with us. That bitch never comes out anymore because he’s a responsible parent.”

Sirius, still nursing a cup of coffee, mumbled, “I resent that” into his cup.

However, Remus must not have noticed, because he was too busy laughing. Part of Sirius was jealous at that, and he knew it. “I’m sure Sirius will come out when he has the time.” Sirius’s silver eyes met caramel brown and he wondered why Remus was sticking up for him. He finds his calloused hand brushing Remus’s thigh just briefly, and he wondered if he truly wants to flirt in front of his friends, people he’s never had the courage to come out to.

The rest of their time in his apartment is a blur to Sirius, a blur of getting to know Remus a little better, and trying to keep James in line, but a blur nonetheless. But apparently whatever little flirting he had done had been enough for Remus to get the hint, because before Sirius can even blink it feels like, James is shouting for everyone to follow him to a bar, only for Remus to stay behind.

When the others are out the door, Remus decided he’d make a move, and make a move he did. He got completely in the other man’s space and begins making demands. “If you’re gonna think about me that much, you could at least have the decency to kiss me.”

In an instant, Sirius was acting on it, and for a moment it feels like all of his troubles melted away. All he could focus on for a split second was the pillowy softness of Remus’s lips. And just as quickly as he came, Remus is bounding out the door to follow behind the group.

This was a day Sirius would remember for a long time.

The next morning was Regulus’s first day back to school after all of the proceedings, and Sirius was excited to have the house to himself. So excited, in fact, that he sent off a text stating that he dropped Reg off to school, and that he hoped he could actually get some work done that day. That text had been intended for James, but Sirius clearly hadn’t been focused enough to make sure James was the recipient, because he quickly realized that it went to Remus instead.

Remus, however, responds with excitement and asks if they could finish their conversation of his book over coffee, and Sirius simply didn’t have the heart to say no. That was how Remus ended up in Sirius’s apartment. However, what that didn’t explain were the events that followed.

When Remus arrived, Sirius felt like shit. He felt shaky and like his vision was clouded and exhausted. He hadn’t intended to fall asleep while Remus was in his home, and he definitely didn’t expect Remus's legs as his pillow, and a pale hand combing through his unruly hair mindlessly.

He really didn’t expect the way Remus kissed him again, with much more passion and fervor than he had the night before. And maybe it was Sirius’s lack of expectations and predictions that would be his downfall, because it was definitely how he ended up pulling his clothes back on while Remus slept off his afterglow in Sirius’s bed, and how Sirius ended up agreeing to a date with Remus later in the week, despite the fact that Sirius didn’t have the time.

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ichoriism · 3 years

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@itsacriime challenged: ♡ + what if I say all of them?? 👀

Jinjae

Who is the most affectionate? Both are in different ways, Jinho may be a bit more vocal about it while Minjae is a bit more on the silent side; it is in part a result of Minjae thinking he is undeserving of Jinho’s love because of what he did behind his back and the secrets Minjae keeps from him to this day~

Who initiates the handholding? Jinho, he's already a tactile person and Minjae grew up fearing contact because of his destiny of bringing death to whoever he touches in the near future. Still, Minjae has kept quiet about this while trying to find a way to fix it.

Who worries more for the other? Minjae. It’s not that Jinho doesn’t worry, he does because I think he can sense Minjae is going through some inner turmoil but it doesn’t eat him away like how his illness did to Minjae. Also, now that Jinho is a werewolf, Minjae is glad that the illness is gone but he still worries about his future because immortal or slow-aging doesn’t stand a chance with death so–

Who is more likely to ask for help? I think both have a hard time with this. They are not the type to cause others troubles intentionally and they don’t see this is a healthy way to cope with their lives so there is a lot of miscommunication because of this and because they try to help each other without asking and just assume from the look of things what’s what they can do to make the other’s life easier xD

Who is the one always losing the keys? Jinho. He’s perhaps a bit clumsy and Minjae is neat in everything he does.

Who leaves little love notes for the other? Minjae. Before they split up, Minjae was already leaving little romantic haikus in Jinho’s fridge, notes, car, you name it. He continues with this tradition and now Haneul adds some doodles to his notes uwu

Who can’t sleep unless the other is there? Minjae. He doesn’t need sleep like he did before but does it whenever Jinho is close because his presence is soothing. Without Jinho? It’s a “productive” night of angstying over things out of his hands xD

Who is more likely to propose to the other? Jinho, but only because while Minjae does want to be by his side forever, he doesn’t feel he’s good enough to ask for this ;;

Who introduced the other to their family first? Jinho did and Minjae was practically an orphan so thee’s no chance– but after Jinho met his dad, it’s an interesting exchange xD

Who is more likely to play with the other’s hair? Minjae. He loves doting on Jinho so there is no way he won’t do this when cool hands are perfect for this haha

Who makes sure the other has meals/stays hydrated? Jinho. Minjae gets lost in his own worries and things too often and he forget eating or drinking water. It doesn’t affect him as it does to full humans but Jinho is that kind of sweetheart :3

Who is more likely to stand up to anyone for the other? Both would be the same. Minjae already stood up to death itself to save him and Jinho would do the same if the roles were reversed :3

Who is the most likely to prepare a surprise for the other? Jinho. With Minjae being more prone to get lost on his concerns, Jinho will probably take it upon himself to cheer him up and with Haneul’s help, it’d be a complete success!

Who makes the other pinky promise not to do certain things? Jinho from Haneul’s idea uwu nothing works better than a pinky promise, or so Haneul thinks!

Who puts a blanket over the other when they fall asleep on the couch? Minjae. He always makes sure Jinho is comfy and warm, so being the last one to sleep, he makes sure his family is safe <3

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Kiyeon

Who is the most affectionate? Kiha is shameless about his displays of affection while Taeyeon is more doting but discrete about it.

Who initiates the handholding? Kiha. Since Taeyeon is more discrete about things and their situation is often rocky, they probably doesn’t initiate contact even though they would like to. Kiha generally doesn’t give an f of where they stand whenever they see each other so! He will hold Taeyeon’s hand every time if he can.

Who worries more for the other? Both do but Taeyeon is often more concerned because of Kiha’s self-destructive tendencies. Kiha got drunk and high wayy too many times before to keep his head off his own issues and the fact that Taeyeon chose to do what they do so! Walking disaster.

Who is more likely to ask for help? None. Kiha’s a crybaby so he may ask for help for the stupidest things but when it matters, he probably won’t ^^; Taeyeon hates to think of putting Kiha in danger and that time they went to Kiha’s door and bleeding, they will probably regret it after the events with Liam oerhfierh

Who is the one always losing the keys? Kiha. My kid is messy, we established that and mundane things like keys? Who needs those when you can get a copy every time you lose them xD

Who leaves little love notes for the other? Kiha. When they moved in together and after they got back and Taeyeon stayed over his, Kiha would write lines of songs he wrote to Taeyeon or songs they liked on small post-its in hot pink or equally eccentric colors and would place them everywhere Taeyeon could see them ;;

Who can’t sleep unless the other is there? Touuuugh. I think Taeyeon. Without Taeyeon, Kiha turned to his vices until he passed out so oregeirhog but Taeyeon, between their own conscience and with things being so rocky with Kiha, they probably have it tougher :(

Who is more likely to propose to the other? Kiha. He was going to propose to Taeyeon the day Taeyeon disappeared and decided to make a living as a hitman and was ready to propose again when they moved in together and got Will Ferret. That ring was his mom’s and is still in a little silver box in a safe in his room. Sometimes he takes it out to watch it while depressed after the drinking doesn’t help him forget :’)

Who introduced the other to their family first? They don’t have any remaining family, I think? But Kiha does tell his parents about Taeyeon when he visits their grave :’))

Who is more likely to play with the other’s hair? Taeyeon. They probably think Kiha loves having his hair played with (or pulled at during the seggs) but Kiha is actually obsessed with Taeyeon’s hands so it’s more that than the other thing haha

Who makes sure the other has meals/stays hydrated? Both do. When they are in their little bubble of avoidance of the outside world, Taeyeon will probs notice Kiha doesn’t function like a normal human being because of his routine as an artist and vice versa so they try to live as normal human beings together and it's so cute to watch ;;

Who is more likely to stand up to anyone for the other? Both do but Taeyeon is more aggressive about it while Kiha is sneakier.

Who is the most likely to prepare a surprise for the other? Kiha. He loves getting surprises for Taeyeon and see them smile or having that expression they get that tells Kiha they are happy and feeling loved.

Who makes the other pinky promise not to do certain things? Kiha would do this in high school but after their demise, this became a bittersweet thing to do that brought him too much heartache so he doesn’t do it anymore. If Taeyeon ever stops being a hitman, this would be the perfect way to make amends– haha

Who puts a blanket over the other when they fall asleep on the couch? Taeyeon. Only because Kiha falls asleep first when they are together but then Kiha drapes himself all over Taeyeon to keep them warm, safe, and right there next to him so no more danger may fall over them.

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Minhyun

Who is the most affectionate? Mingyu, no contest. Jaehyun is too shy and self-conscious around Mingyu to be openly affectionate. He’s also scared of his feelings so looking like he doesn’t want any of this but ultimately snuggling next to his vampire when he gets sleepy because the fool is touch starved.

Who initiates the handholding? Mingyu. He probably likes that Jaehyun gets all nervous and blushing with something so small but for the love of god Jaehyun cannot help his body reacts this way even though he hates it xD

Who worries more for the other? I think both do. Jaehyun worries when Mingyu gets weak because lack of decent blood and Mingyu worries because while Jaehyun may not have shared his entire plan to re-arrange the universe, he can probably tell when my boy is all anxious he's a walking minefield.

Who is more likely to ask for help? Tough. Jaehyun would never ask for help with his secret plans but! If it comes to machines and there’s something in the code he cannot figure out, he will ask Mingyu about it. Mingyu probably asks for small things like “Please bring me chips” or something but when it matters, he may have problems voicing out what he needs.

Who is the one always losing the keys? Mingyu probably? Jaehyun is too paranoid to ever lose something of his xD

Who leaves little love notes for the other? Mingyu only if it’s to piss Jaehyun off or get him all stuttering and red xD

Who can’t sleep unless the other is there? I think Mingyu doesn’t sleep? So it’d be Jaehyun though he will never admit it out loud. Mingyu can just tell if he sees Jaehyun with huge bags under his eyes the next day haha xD

Who is more likely to propose to the other? I— I think it’d be Mingyu? Though Jaehyun can have a bit of the unpredictable side and may toss the ring or prepare a fancy dinner. I’m not very sure ^^;

Who introduced the other to their family first? Jaehyun probably knows Mingyu's sister by now c: and he’s practically an orphan so no chance for Mingyu to meet his parents and the rest of Jaehyun’s paternal "family” wants him dead so, no way.

Who is more likely to play with the other’s hair? Mingyu. Jaehyun tends to snuggle into him when he’s relaxed and warm and you can get him like that easily if you play with his hair so, it’s the most efficient way to get this smartass snoozing like a cat.

Who makes sure the other has meals/stays hydrated? Jaehyun frets over Mingyu not being properly fed because it’s the “adult” thing to keep yourself in check so he nags. A lot. Though Jaehyun forgets about his human body when he gets too immersed in his research, the hypocrite xD

Who is more likely to stand up to anyone for the other? Both would. Mingyu is quite smart (something Jaehyun adores) and does prefer to not get violent but if there’s the need, he will protect. Jaehyun hates to get involved in troubles but if Mingyu is concerned, he’s going to be one angry cat.

Who is the most likely to prepare a surprise for the other? I think it’d be Mingyu because Jaehyun is too shy so the surprises from his side would be there but scarce in comparison ofhowiroehrg

Who makes the other pinky promise not to do certain things? It sounds like something Mingyu would do because adorable, dorky, and it’s a thing that has Jaehyun smitten so! It works! Most of the time—

Who puts a blanket over the other when they fall asleep on the couch? Mingyu probably, Jaehyun asleep = dead cat, blissfully unaware of anything and anyone

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Daenz

Who is the most affectionate? Benz. After the barrier they tackle, he is probably more open in his affections and teasing because 1) It always affects Daehyun, 2) Daehyun denying he’s affected is funny and endearing, 3) Daehyun slowly reacts to it by opening his arms to get Benz snuggled into them

Who initiates the handholding? Benz too, he’s set on giving Daehyun a heart attack XD

Who worries more for the other? Daehyun. He hates Benz in this universe feels the need to hide and is living afraid. He hated being afraid all those years in hell and he doesn’t want that repeating in Benz life so yeah.

Who is more likely to ask for help? Both have issues with voicing their need for help but Benz asks for this more often and easily than Daehyun does ;;

Who is the one always losing the keys? Daehyun, doesn’t like carrying metal because ew, do you know how much bacteria it has? So he leaves them anywhere as to not touch them haha

Who leaves little love notes for the other? Benz, just for the kicks of it to get Daehyun reeling. Daehyun makes them little balls of nothing and throws them in the garbage, but he keeps some sometimes haha

Who can’t sleep unless the other is there? Benz, being constantly in the run is exhausting but he’s lived this way so far and Daehyun does provide a sense of safety so it’s easier for Benz to sleep at night as time passes ;;

Who is more likely to propose to the other? TOUGH. Daehyun has no sense of marriage and stuff, but he would want to make it official somehow that Benz can’t just get up and run away from him one day (though if he does, Daehyun won’t stop him, but you know, boy has issues saying what he feels). So maybe Benz?

Who introduced the other to their family first? They become each other’s family in this verse so that’s it.

Who is more likely to play with the other’s hair? Daehyun. After noticing this relaxes Benz, he will do it often. He also likes how his hair feels so~ win-win for both.

Who makes sure the other has meals/stays hydrated? Daehyun. Though he may be a biiiit tactless for this and constantly saying things like “if you don’t drink your milk, you will stay short, oh wait, there’s already no fixing that. But you can keep trying”, haha or things like that to get Benz a bit angry because he looks cute that way :3

Who is more likely to stand up to anyone for the other? Both would but Daehyun would be merciless about this. Make Benz cry and he will have your head on a spike in less than three seconds.

Who is the most likely to prepare a surprise for the other? Benz, only because Daehyun is rubbish at romance and because his sense of surprise only involves violence and murder haha

Who makes the other pinky promise not to do certain things? Benz, the look in Daehyun’s face every time this happens is priceless xD

Who puts a blanket over the other when they fall asleep on the couch? Daehyun. He cares for his shortie and has promised to keep him warm and safe uwu

#● → 𝓈𝑜𝓃 𝑜𝒻 𝒹𝑒𝒶𝓉𝒽 ● ʟᴇᴇ ᴍɪɴᴊᴀᴇ #● → 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝓇𝑒𝒶𝓈𝑜𝓃 𝓉𝑜 𝓂𝓎 𝒽𝒶𝓅𝓅𝒾𝓃𝑒𝓈𝓈 𝒾𝓈 𝒷𝑒𝒸𝒶𝓊𝓈𝑒 𝓂𝓎 𝒻𝑜𝓇𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇 𝒾𝓈 𝓃𝑜𝓌 𝓎𝑜𝓊 ← ●#● → 𝓈𝑜𝓃 𝑜𝒻 𝓈𝒾𝓃 ● ᴋɪᴍ ᴋɪʜᴀ #● → 𝒾 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇𝓎𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒶𝒷𝑜𝓊𝓉 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓉𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝒽𝓊𝓇𝓉𝓈 ← ●#● → 𝓈𝑜𝓃 𝑜𝒻 𝓅𝑜𝓌𝑒𝓇 ● sᴏɴɢ ᴊᴀᴇʜʏᴜɴ #● → 𝓊𝓃𝒾𝓋𝑒𝓇𝓈𝒶𝓁 𝑔𝓇𝒶𝓋𝒾𝓉𝒶𝓉𝒾𝑜𝓃 𝒾𝓈 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝒻𝑜𝓇𝒸𝑒 𝒹𝓇𝒾𝓋𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓂𝑒 𝓉𝑜𝓌𝒶𝓇𝒹𝓈 𝓎𝑜𝓊 ← ●#● → 𝓈𝑜𝓃 𝑜𝒻 𝑒𝓋𝒾𝓁 ● ᴊᴜɴɢ ᴅᴀᴇʜʏᴜɴ #● → 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓉𝒶𝓂𝑒 𝓂𝓎 𝒹𝑒𝓂𝑜𝓃𝓈 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝒾 𝓁𝑜𝓈𝑒 𝓂𝓎 𝒽𝑒𝒶𝒹 ← ●#{ ' i'm not crying you are crying }#{ ' communication problems is a pattern i'm seeing here tho like????? }#{ ' boys please do talk— words can't bite oifheoirhoog }#{ ' kiha's failed proposals tho? :))))))) }#itsacriime

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moons-and-stars-and-shit · 3 years

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hi, angel! congrats on 300 <3

i hope you’re having a lovely day, i was wondering if i could get a star matchup with iwaizumi?

i’m a scorpio sun, leo moon, aries rising and sagittarius venus :-)

tysm!! 🌷

𝕊𝕥𝕒𝕣 𝕄𝕒𝕥𝕔𝕙𝕦𝕡 𝕎𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕀𝕨𝕒

𝑃𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑒𝑡𝑠 🪐

Gemini is ruled by the Planet Mercury (Communication)

Scorpio is dually ruled by the Planets Mars (Passion) and Pluto (Power).

Scorpio is generally quite concerned with sexual and emotional intimacy

they need much reassurance that their lover values the relationship as much as they do.

Thank goodness, then, for Gemini’s excellent communicative abilities

the Twins should have no trouble communicating their dedication to the Scorpion — if it’s dedication they feel.

Gemini can’t and won’t fake a commitment they don’t feel, so intense Scorpio must learn to back off a bit.

Gemini will certainly make a commitment to a love relationship, but only if they’re free to do so on their own, not coerced into it.

𝐸𝑙𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 🔥💧🍃🌬

Gemini is an Air Sign and Scorpio is a Water Sign.

These two elements can be a great combination; after all, the best decisions are made when they incorporate the intellect (Air) and the emotions (Water) — the mind and the heart.

The trick, of course, is getting these two elements to work in tandem.

Scorpio is a master strategist; if there’s a decision to be made or a project at hand, they can help flighty Gemini focus on the best options.

Gemini, in turn, teaches Scorpio to let go and move on when their efforts are thwarted.

There is a downside to these two elements’ union, however; Scorpio’s emotional manipulations can prove to dampen Gemini’s natural energy and enthusiasm.

Also, airy Gemini can leave Scorpio’s deep waters feeling choppy, rough and disturbed.

𝑇𝑟𝑢𝑠𝑡 🤞

Scorpio trusts everyone until they don’t.

They have this weird, possessive nature that can give ultimate trust to their partner until the first worm of suspicion is created, usually by flakiness and disrespect.

They like things clean and without a doubt, and are prepared to give unconditional honesty, expecting the same in return.

This is where Gemini comes and asks a simple question – how can I be honest when I don’t know what my truth is in the first place?

It is ridiculous to expect such a definite honesty out of a Gemini partner when they are so prone to change and have no idea what they will feel or do tomorrow.

Still, they have a knack for communication that can save the day, but it can only be used if Scorpio doesn’t feel threatened because of their previous heartbreak they’ve never healed from.

𝐶𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 🤝

It is a good thing that Gemini can communicate with anyone.

They will be moved and intrigued by Scorpio’s nature, and very curious as usual.

This will be amplified by Scorpio’s depth and interesting topics, up to the point where they get too dark and depressive.

This is something Gemini doesn’t want to deal with if they don’t have to. Unfortunately, there is not a lot that Scorpio thinks they can learn from Gemini.

Although they might wish to be more superficial, when they get in contact with someone with less depth, their ego sparks and they feel dominant because they are just the way they are.

They will hardly ever respect Gemini for this, and can try to feed on their personality in order to add quality to their own.

In case they share interests and have similar professional or educational directions, they could complement each other very well.

Gemini would give ideas and discover new information, while Scorpio will dig in and give real essence to everything.

Their communication can be inspirational if they get into this mode and start accepting each other’s qualities.

They have so much to give to each other and it would be a shame if they held their relationship in an ego conflict for too long.

𝐸𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 😠😔😊

Emotional lack of compatibility is what ruins their sex life and gives them both a headache.

If one of them falls in love with the other, they will hardly have a good time if their feelings are not returned in the same proportion.

We could say it’s hard for them to synchronize, because the emotions Scorpio would give away freely are something Gemini would have to be swept off their feet for.

They don’t seem to have the same emotional scale and this can leave them both unsatisfied or pressured to a breaking point.

The best option for their shared emotional world would be for both partners to give what they can and not expect anything in return.

𝑉𝑎𝑙𝑢𝑒𝑠 🤲

The good thing in their relationship is that they both value strength of thought.

Although Scorpio values many other things in someone’s personality, they will be impressed by someone’s intelligence and resourcefulness.

Gemini will focus on the same thing, but have a slightly different assessment of someone’s intellect.

However, they can agree to have a shared point of same value, although other things they strive for will differ greatly.

𝑆ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑑 𝐴𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑡𝑦𝑠 💪

A great thing with these two is their openness for change.

Gemini will want to change the scenery and Scorpio will want to change their life, gladly taking Gemini’s small steps toward this goal.

Scorpio is a fixed sign, set in change of huge proportions, and Gemini’s mutable quality will annoy them in most cases.

Still, they can relate to their need for different experiences in life and the excitement they always search for.

Even though they might not be excited by the same things, there will be enough excitement for both partners to choose along the path they decide to cross together.

𝑆𝑢𝑚𝑚𝑎𝑟𝑦 💕

Gemini and Scorpio will usually annoy each other senseless. None of them will lightly understand their partner’s personality.

To Gemini, their partner will seem too depressed and dark for no apparent reason, and for Scorpio, this could be an experience with no purpose or depth.

If they do fall crazy in love, they could connect through their mutual love of change and give each other the exact things they lack.

Gemini would get deep, emotional satisfaction they have never felt before and Scorpio would finally get the chance to rest their troubled soul, and realize that not everything needs to be taken seriously.

This is a relationship of great lessons and an enormous capacity for personal growth of both partners.

When Gemini and Scorpio come together in a love affair, they’ll need to learn to understand and accept one another’s differences — and if they can, they will be a nearly unbreakable couple.

Where Gemini is adaptable, intellectual, outgoing and chatty, Scorpio tends to be secretive, focused, intense and determined.

Gemini tends to take things lightly, including their lover; Scorpio, on the other hand, has a very deep need for emotional connection and intimacy.

Scorpio is generally very loyal to their lover and very connected to the relationship.

#haikyuu!!#haikyuu fandom #haikyuu hcs #haikyuu fluff #haikyuu headcanons #haikyuu matchups #Iwaizumi #iwaizumi hajime #300followerevent

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thatblondeperson · 3 years

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TimSteph, taking care of chronic injuries!

Hey look, another ask that got buried! Sorry friend!!!!

This is all preboot, RR/Batgirl era.

Ok so Tim is super extra imo when it comes to treating any kind of sickness, injury, ANYTHING. He’s the type of guy who will go to CVS and buy out the entire “cold + flu” aisle as soon a Steph gets a runny nose. He absolutely drowns her in cough drops and tissues. I can see him being extremely attentive as well. Like bringing blankets and pillows around the clock, happy to carry her from point A to point B, almost insisting to do so on occasion, and just sitting with her for as long as she desires/needs company. He absolutely pays no mind to germs. Steph can cuddle all she wants.

Steph is similar but less extra. She’s got some more classic home remedies that Tim doesn’t have. She absolutely would baby the hell out of him if he got sick though, and probably more often than not she has to put her foot down on him trying to patrol even if he’s completely out of it and burning up. Tim has a hard time relaxing, but eventually the time is used for him to catch up on sleep. Tim getting sick is like a mini-hibernation. I can see Alfred stepping in occasionally if they were both sick because Tim’s an absolute mess, and Steph can only do so much before she gets wiped out. They’re hopeless and completely out of service if they’re both ill at the same time. Error 404: Dorks not found.

Chronic injuries are a constant process. Steph obviously has a ton just from Black Mask alone. I’m sure she gets aches and pains on the regular due to the severity of the torture she experience. Power drills would leave some lasting abdominal pain for sure. Hell, I wonder if it makes cramps worse for her? It could in all honestly. She may need serious pain meds during that time of the month which are of course always kept on hand. On top of that, the physical trauma definitely left endless mental trauma. No question about it. Not to mention that time she got lightly shot in the head. I say lightly because I forgot this was a thing because they don’t really address it again. I imagine that would cause occasional headaches/migraines, and I’m sure Tim likes to run a scan every now and again to make sure there isn’t any lasting damage. And of course, we return to the medicine cabinet for more pain pills. (Thank you @incoherentbabblings for reminding me of the gunshot.)

I headcanon that both of them get nightmares on almost the regular. They’ve both got it set that if one of them is in the middle of a bad nightmare, the other just holds them close, doing whatever they can to soothe them until the calmness sets back in. The nightmares get more spaced out some time after they move in together because I think the constant safeness of having someone beside them every night would eventually help them both sleep through the night better. It is hard to get back to sleep though. Both of them have been put through the ringer, they’ve both seen death of loved ones up close and personal, and I imagine a lot of what they’ve experienced is still very vivid and intense for them.

Tim’s got his own fair share of recurring pain. The boy doesn’t have a spleen and tbh I don’t know how he’s not getting sick more frequently. But extra precautions need to be taken to keep him from getting infections when he gets any kid of open wound, thank GOD Steph is a nurse. Tim has to be kept pretty healthy though if at all possible, which brings us back to my previous headcanon about him not caring about germs when Steph is sick? Yeah, not his smartest move, but Tim’s an idiot and forgets that he’s fragile.

Both of them have regular joint issues. They’ve dislocated enough things for just about everything to make awful clicking sounds now and again. Steph doesn’t have as much regular muscle pain, she’s far more flexible than Tim is so she stays pretty loose and limber, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t have to work at it every day. Steph does yoga as a part of her routine. She gets Tim to join sometimes but he’s not very good at keeping up with it. He’s flexible too but not to her level, and he locks up easier if he’s had an especially tough night. They both try to put the time in to exercise when they can, spotting each other, keeping a routine going, because given how much they both get beaten and battered on the daily, if they don’t keep up with muscle pain, it’ll just get worse. On bad days when the pain makes any mobility difficult, massages ensue. They’ve got at least 15 ice packs in the freezer at all times, and a stack of heating pads in the medicine cabinet. And if all else fails, a nice hot bubble bath never hurts. With Epsom salts and everything. Steph likes to add a touch of lavender oil.

Immediate injuries they’re both very good at treating. Steph obviously has more technical knowhow, and she is the most medically trained of all the Batfam members, but Tim is detail oriented and good at focusing when he needs to so he can keep up just fine. They’re both good at stitches and general wound treatment, but Steph is better at consistent treatment. Tim will absolutely forget to switch out his bandages or clean things because his brain is soup and he cannot be bothered to think about injuries when he’s too busy with 50 other things on the constant. He needs to slow down. We get right back into “more prone to infections” again. Alas. Idiot.

They both have their fair share of mental health issues, though Tim’s tend to be more intense. Steph has her ways of managing her own mental state but Tim gets stuck often. He falls into some pretty deep depression spells, and his anxiety acts up fairly frequently. Steph has started teaching him how to meditate, but also has a list of distractions and special remedies that she can utilize if need be. Movies and tea are a good base line, though Tim’s mind gets very far away sometimes and it’s hard to pull him back out. Like he almost wants to wallow in his sadness. Often she just tries to ground him as best she can so he doesn’t get so lost that he can’t come back. Steph likes to make sure that he isn’t always using patrol as a crutch for when he’s feeling upset or tense. It’s hard to sway him away from more pain when he lets himself get so close to the edge. It breaks her heart, sometimes she feels helpless.

Steph has anxiety as well, and some psychosomatic tics from her past abuse. She needs a lot of reassurance and gentleness when her mind starts racing. She’s still prone to trust issues, even now when she’s surrounded herself with stable people. She’s been let down and she fears losing her steady ground sometimes. Tim, let’s face it, hasn’t been the most reliable in the past, but I firmly believe that with some growing up he’d step up to the plate and try to be a solid home base for her to the best of his abilities. He’s not going anywhere anytime soon. He’s very good at being gentle. That’s canon as fuck. I will die on the hill that Tim is as delicate with Steph as one would be with a priceless porcelain heirloom. Fight me, the boy would never intentionally try to physically or mentally hurt her. He tries so hard to reassure her but I thinks he feels a little helpless sometimes too. Some of her trust issues are his fault, and he can’t just snap his fingers and reverse his mistakes. He tries his best, but there will always be scars.

All in all, I think they’re both very tender and caring with one another. They’re both beyond broken sometimes, and they are a mess and a half. But they know each other, they know each others pain and sadness and I think once they got back together they’d settle very easily into a care routine. Both of them are carrying the weight of countless consequences and mistakes and hardship on their shoulders. Pain is just a side affect that comes with carrying so much baggage, but it’s a little easier to manage when they have each other for support. I do think some of it would get easier over time, and my wish for them is that they can move somewhere just outside the city, maybe by a lake. Far enough away that things are quiet, but not so far that they would completely leave the hero gig behind. I agree with the consensus that neither of them could fully quit. Tim would just sink into the background, but Steph would be out there in the field for many years. Justas long as they have somewhere safe and comfortable to return to, I think they’ll both be just fine. Plus smooches are the best fallback medicine for all ailments and we all know that they never run out of those. 😘💋

THANK YOU FOR THIS ASK! More than half of this was not anything to do with chronic injuries but fuck it. We’ve tapped into the hurt/comfort section of my brain and there is a lot of material there to work with. Idk when you sent this in but I hope it wasn’t too long ago. I hope this answered more questions than you ever intended to ask. 💜❤

#TimSteph #tim drake #stephanie brown #robin iii #spoiler #robin iv #red robin #batgirl #batfam #batfamily #dc comics #dc #batman #personal #ask tbp

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