#Human relations

[thechemistwhowritesstories]

"There are times that I'm convinced I am unfit for any human relationship."

- Franz Kafka

#writers on tumblr #books and reading #writerscommunity #writing #artwork #dark academia #dark aesthetic #franz kafka #english literature #famous people #famous writers #creative writing #quoteoftheday #human relations

[basicallyanotherwitchesthing]

The Best of FORUM, The International Journal of Human Relations - Volume 2, Number 7, April 1973 (cover illustration by Pierre Lacombe)

#witches #forenses #occult #vintage #forum magazine #the best of forum #the international journal of human relations #international journal #human relations #april 1973 #1973 #pierre lacombe

[innerthoughtsmonologue]

Coupler

In railway engineering terms, a coupler is a device made to join railway vehicles in a train. A railroad coupler allows a locomotive to be connected to a following railcar.

Basically, a coupler makes it possible to connect one car to another via the rails. No matter the speed of the locomotive, no matter if there are curves, even if the car is heavy or light. This way the cars will be connected no matter what the circumstances.

This in its years was a great innovation on the part of railroad engineers.

If only there was a human relations engineer.

#inner monologue #thoughts #inner thoughts #trains #coupler #human relations #connection #railway #railroad #feelings #partner #couple

[cigaretteandcandle]

#human relations

[teachanarchy]

Watch "How Work Controls You" on YouTube

#work #human relations #capitalism #economics #productivity #philosophy #surveillance #foucault #panopticon #Youtube

[brucklethings]

“It took a certain type of skill to be able to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. Maybe that was a prerequisite for a position in Personnel--a certain clunky, cheerful cluelessness that gave one the ability to insult the bereaved.”

— Lessons in Chemistry, Bonnie Garmus

#lessons in chemistry #Bonnie garmus #quote #words #reading #books #PR #HR #human relations

[a-contemplative-soul]

I have been myself in the midst of such dilemma in certain times, it's really complicated to figure out the proper approach toward each relationship, you will need a lot of observation and analysis to eventually comprehend the patterns and nuances within each interaction.

Channel: Einzelgänger

Video: The Closer We Get, The More We Hurt | The Hedgehog's Dilemma

Year: 2022

#Video #Videos #Einzelgänger #Philosophy #Philosophical #Relationship #Relationships #Friendship #Friendships #Psychology #Human Relation #Human Relations #Hedgehog Dilemma #Youtube

[oddlythomas]

The Toxic reality of Retail - Toxic Managers

As I discussed in, “The Toxic reality of Retail - Perception = Reality” Retail is Toxic. In that post I listed a few topics that are responsible for the toxic culture of modern retail. This time I want to talk about Toxic manager and store leaders. 

When I say Toxic Managers, I don’t mean incompetent or lazy. While they can be annoying they’re not inherently toxic. A Toxic Manager is abusive, manipulative, and condescending. They micromanage, only give negative feedback, have poor communicators, demand authority, and expect their employees to make them look good. 

If you’ve worked in retail more than 5 years, you’ve probably had one or two of these managers. I want to make something clear, they are managers but they are not leaders. Real leaders don’t behave this way. 

I experienced this with a manager at a natural foods store that I worked at, lets call him Chad. Chad came into the store with zero grocery store experience. He had jumped around from one company to the next as a store manager. When he was brought in for his interview, he seemed genuine. I connected with him during the interview because we both previously worked for the same company. 

When he was finally hired by the regional manager, and was in training at the store, he seemed like a good fit. He had knowledge of the natural foods and supplements. He seemed to click with everyone on the crew. After his trainer left to go to another store, his personality completely switched. It wasn’t a slow process, it was instant. He displayed nearly all the bad aspects of a toxic manager. 

He was completely unapproachable. If you came to him with anything, he made it into a big deal or would speak with a gruff, condescending voice. He was the Store Manager and projected a tone of superiority in everyway. 

When Cashiers called for backup, he refused to go help out. He would often say that he’s not a cashier. He would literally be standing 20 feet from the registers and ignore the pages. At this company EVERYONE is expected to cashier. Even the Vice Presidents and other people from home office would jump on a register if they were in a store. If you were a Store or Assistant Manager, you didn’t stop doing tasks because of your title, you just assumed more responsibility. 

When he was thinking about doing something in the store he would often follow up his suggestion with, “Don’t you agree!” This put those he was pitching the idea to on the spot to disagree with their supervisor. And given his unapproachable demeanor, most people would agree with him, even if it was a bad idea or went against company policy. If the store underperformed on an inspection, he would pass the blame onto the crew. Even if the section that failed was his responsibility, he would pass the blame. 

Employees would come to me, the Assistant Manager, to complain about something he had done, his attitude, or some other complaint. I had a stack of Statement forms ready for anyone to fill out and send them up the chain. I asked the regional manager, HR, and even the Director of Store Operations to investigate his behavior. For over a year he was allowed to terrorize the store and nearly break the crew, causing them all to jump ship. He eventually was allowed to transfer to work at a store in another city. Had they actually investigated him, it wouldn’t have been hard to see that he is not a good fit. 

The first day he was gone, the attitude of the store increased tremendously. Everyone’s energy increased, employees felt more confident in their roles, and a weight was lifted off of everyone’s shoulders. The store became more productive and we even saw a significant increase in sales. (This will happen when you treat your crew with respect and show gratitude.) 

During his reign of terror I did my best to reassure the crew that I was doing everything in my power to direct their concerns to the right people. I worked with them side by side giving them authentic feedback, both positive and the occasional negative feedback. But I’m the type of leader that spins a negative into a learning experience. I don’t hold it over their head. I want people to grow and be more confident in their role. My job wasn’t to catch people doing things wrong, it was to support my crew. 

If you’re a leader in retail, avoid the toxic traits at all costs. If you notice yourself doing any of these, step back and have the humility to admit it, and change it. Let your crew know that you’re working on it and would appreciate their feedback but acknowledge that it’s not their responsibility to do so. So don’t get upset if they choose to give you the feedback or ignore your request. 

Footnote: I recently discovered that Chad is still working for the company. I really hope he used the move to change his approach to management. 

#Toxic retail #retail #grocery #natural foods #leadership #store manager #toxic culture #retail workers #grocery retail #HR #human relations

[metamorphesque]

The relation between nature and human being: Agnieszka Lepka

#the relation between nature and human being #photography #agnieszka lepka #nature #trees #parallels

[shotofstress]

Some ppl making post about how they feel but don't wanting really to tell you nor u to know so make the whole sentence with asterisks. Someone just said that is basically ppl wanting to speak about themselves and share how they feel but don't want other to know or not know everything, which is not sharing and not speaking and dont knowing how to write about your feelings bc can be hard. U can just say "i feel bad bc things are though" if u don't want them to know all while you find spaces that are safe and not an ocean of stranger in social media. Bought a diary or speak with real ppl. We can't keep behaving like is OK to not having human interactions and that is OK to be unable to see the link between all this. Is not ok all of this and is sickening that people don't get what's the problem

#human relations #relationship #community #feelings #safe space #friendship #healthy relationships #censorship #police behaviour #internalized cop

[sawiet]

i like to treat people who hurt me well because the best punishment is their conscience

#they are always so confused #i don't have to like them to be polite #kill them with kindness #humanity #relationship #human behaviour #human relations #conscience #my stuff

[findingmesstuff]

I've come to an observation: none of the human relationships are THAT DEEP. none of it. but everyone keeps spiraling into them all their life!

#human relations

[ikenagi]

The key to amazing communication! Unraveling the effects of different experiences and values on human relationships!

“Chat with God - Your common sense is someone else's nonsense -” by Mitsuro Sato

The insightful book titled "Chatting with God - Your common sense is someone else's common sense" was penned by Japanese psychologist Taizo Kato. The purpose of this book is to investigate and amplify knowledge of the disparities in values in interpersonal interactions and communication. Kato acknowledges that individuals possess varying beliefs and perspectives, and stresses the significance of enhancing empathy and comprehension with others via conversation.

This book explains why different people respond in various ways to the same information or scenario and how relationships are impacted by this. According to Kato, people's actions and decisions are heavily influenced by their unique experiences and values. She also stated that in order to have effective communication and create wholesome relationships, it is critical to recognize and value the opinions of others. It makes that clear.

In order to clear up misconceptions and disputes brought on by persons with disparate experiences and values, Kato also stresses the significance of dialogue and communication. He asserts that we can create stronger bonds with one another by understanding and respecting the opinions and feelings of others.

This book will offer helpful recommendations to readers who are interested in social and personal development. Readers will be able to get insights on living a richer life and strengthen their relationships with others and themselves through Kato's insightful and empathetic writing style.

#Human relations #Empathy #Respecting the other person's opinion #Interpersonal relations #Communication skills #Understanding others

[fastlane-freedom]

Key Lessons from ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie is a timeless self-help book that offers valuable insights into the art of building meaningful relationships and effective communication. With practical advice and principles, the book guides readers on how to connect with others, foster cooperation, and leave a positive impact in both personal and professional interactions. Whether…

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#active listening #building rapport #communication skills #conflict resolution #effective communication #empathy #empowerment #grow business #human relations #interpersonal skills #leadership #personal development #personal growth #persuasion #positive influence #relationship building #self-help #social interaction #success strategies

[whalesfall]

btw. your search for the most morally upright and ethical piece of media that has the most correct “representation” will destroy your ability to find the most profound and beautiful and human of stories. and may even destroy the stories themselves before they are created. if you even care.

#the search for the Ideal Representation is both unattainable and soul-crushing. childrens cartoons moral codes are not #the best way to judge a piece of media #and the stories created by the very people in the communities that are most silenced are always the first ones to be #targeted for their Problematic Factors #as if any story can properly encapsulate the breadth of every complex human experience in one go #something isn't inherently deserving of being reduced to Irredeemable Media status just because you cannot personally relate to it #on the other hand approaching every single story as if its only value is its Shipping Status and how you can #incorporate it into your identity (and stake your Moral Uprightness based on how Ethically you consume said media) #is not necessarily any better. but different post is needed. #aughhhh bite bite chomp kill

[a-contemplative-soul]

It's complicated when you feel like a stranger with your family even after living decades with them, for me it just shows that blood ties don't assure a real and healthy bond. To be honest in many cases biological ties have no meaning at all, in my opinion the most real type of bond is the one that exist not because of genetics, neither money nor status. The most real bond is the one that comes from someone that doesn't want anything from you except for solely your presence, someone that will change his plans to just talk with you, someone that never forgets you no matter how many years it passes, because a genuine bond is forged with the strongest metal you can imagine. However, the truth is, this type of bond is very rare, so if you find such a thing, be grateful because it's a genuine gift from the universe.

#Thought #Thoughts #Friendship #Friendships #Relationship #Relationships #Bond #Bonds #Human Relation #Human Relations #Psychology #Mental Health #Family #Friend #Friends #Life #Gift #Universe #Blood Tie #Blood Ties