aromanticism deserves to be celebrated outside of the context of asexuality.
aromanticism deserves to be accepted and discussed without even mentioning asexuality.
aromantic allosexuality deserves to be celebrated.
aromanticism, on its own, with nothing else added, is fucking awesome.
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I don't know who needs to hear this, but:
It is absolutely fine to use a label, only to realise it doesn't suit you anymore. Labels aren't there to bind you to them. They serve as a way to better describe how one feels and what ones lived experience can be like.
I had two pipelines of relabeling myself simultaneously.
From bi to lesbian, and back to bi.
From asexual to demisexual (because I thought, that one day, maybe I feel this kind of attraction, as sex-ambivalent and oscillating were terms I related with, and still do), and back to being asexual.
Does that make me less sapphic or a-spec? Absolutely not.
And to be honest: I still haven't figured out if I'm demiromantic or aromantic. And that is perfectly fine. We don't own anyone an explanation, but ourselves.
If the label felt good at that time, but doesn't anymore, let it go and take the one that feels more fitting. ♡ We are human beings. We are allowed to grow. You are valid, no matter which label you choose.
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Even if I wasn't trans and bi my aroness would make me so extremely queer
Romantic relationships are the norm, not wanting them ever and not being romantically attracted to people is seen as literally inhuman. Especially when you're afab.
When you're raised as a "woman" everything in your life, every decision you make, 24/7 365 days a year is dictated by potential romance.
"Don't dye your hair or get a tattoo, your future husband won't like that"
"Don't get that job, men don't like women who earn more than them"
"Don't work out too much, your future boyfriend will feel emasculated"
"Dress like this to attract a man"
"Men like this kind of personality"
"You'll need to learn these skills so you can be a good wife someday!"
"You need to dedicate time to putting yourself out there! You can't spend all your time doing [thing you actually enjoy]!"
And yeah, it's linked with misogyny and women have been choosing to be single and childless for centuries despite the norm but the fact that it's not my choice is what makes me queer.
I didn't choose to not feel romantic attraction. I didn't choose to be averse to romance. I didn't choose to be aromantic.
I didn't choose to oppose the norm, I was born outside of it. And that's what queerness is all about.
(And yes, cisgender heterosexual aromantic men are 100% queer, I'm just speaking from my own personal experience)
[This post is about aromanticism, do not derail or tag as ace/asexual/aroace]
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I don't know if it's just me, or my crazy thoughts talking, but when a characters of a +12 less show, doesn't shows an romantical interest in a love partnet I prefer to put them as Aromantics than Asexuals, cause its a kids show, they never gonna talk about sexual attraction at all.
KIDS CHARACTERS ARE ARO!
TEENAGE CHARACTERS ARE ACE!
ADULT CHRACTERS ARE AROACE!
Change my mind!
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it's time for me to share this cake I decorated for valentine's day
DO NOT TAG AS ACE
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happy wednesday to all my fellow aroace folks
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here's the thing. "ace people can still have sex" and "aro people can still be in relationships" are objectively true statements. this is because people can do whatever the fuck they want forever regardless of their label/orientation. however some of you have GOT to get your shit together and stop using those statements to undermine larger conversations about aspec identity. following up "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" with "ace people can still have sex in a relationship though!" is not fucking helpful! yes it's true. yes it's a reality for many people. however if we used our fucking brains for a second and thought about how following up "people don't have to conform to societal expectation" with "but people can still conform!! don't worry they can still conform!!!!" is counterproductive and very frustrating for a lot of people then we could get back to the actual point which is not "aspec people can still have sex/be in relationships" but "aspec people can do whatever they want with their relationships and their bodies". which they can, by the way. they can do whatever they want forever. and you should give them 200 dollars every time you see them for dealing with this shit
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“there is no straight explanation for this” neither is there a gay one. there is however an aromantic one
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