if you collect too many red flags on a person, then that should be a clear indicator that they’re not good for you.
Red flag “this one thing is bad for me”
if a friend you’ve known for a while shows a singular red flag, you can be like... ok, how do I work around this? can it be worked around? etc.
If a friend you’ve known for a while suddenly shows up with a bouquet of 10 or more red flags (interesting things were learned in lockdown y’all)
perhaps, it’s time to say...wow. the bad for me is adding up. how do I minimize my time with this person for my own health and safety? (minimize might not cut them out altogether. some people are still in our lives as survival mechanisms)
and if you’re really stuck in it, just be aware, and reaffirm your senses. “Yes I see what is. and ok, I am going with this because I have to.” (this is the most important gift we can give ourselves when we’re trapped)
Yellow flags (this is suss, and I’m not sure how I feel about it yet, but it’s not an overt OMG)
again if someone brings you a bouquet of suss, pay attention, maybe you don’t want to really get involved in that? and again, if you’re stuck in it and you’re not always comfortable with the bouquet, be aware. reaffirm yourself. Know what is, and know that you’re doing what you have to, because you have to.
Green flags, the omg, this person is awesome and steady in their awesome (i will be attaching the green flags post here below shortly)
someone brings you a bouquet of green? <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
(some green flags courtesy of another post, in case y’all been in red flag land so long that you need a refresher: https://duskroads.tumblr.com/post/715331727484125184/wholesmememeshub-gets-to-be-rather-disconcerting )
The main reason I prefer using the separate aro and ace flags instead of the aroace flag is that my aromanticism feels like an overall much bigger part of who I am but aesthetically speaking it's because green and purple are like my top 2 favorite colors and my least favorite are blue and yellow
so... we've talked abt ed's body language during lucius and pete's wedding, but not stede's. during the parts of the scene where he's in the background, stede is looking at ed. then, ed presumably makes a comment to him, so stede looks at him head-on. when lucius and pete say their "i do's" (or rather, "fuck yeah's"), stede appears to be daydreaming. his eyes are unfocused. suddenly, we see him snap back to attention, and he cheers.
i could be wrong, but my theory is that stede was fantasizing about having his own wedding with ed. they are in sync.
A reminder that this is a very special Aro week this year!
Because our lovely Aro flag is turning 10 years old!
Let this year also be a reminder of how far we've come as a community!
When I was a baby AroAce out in the early 2000s, Aromanticism was virtually unknown. It was attributed to misogyny, misandry or being anti-social. But I've seen you guys prove it for almost two decades now, that Aromantics are some of the most wonderful, inclusive and welcoming people out there. And true revolutionaries that redefine what relationships and love and family truly means in this world.
From the loveless Aros to the high love Aros. From the Queerplatonic Aros to the Aplatonic Aros. The AlloAros to the AroAces. The Demiro, Greyro, Lithro, Frayro, Recipro, Quoiro, Aegoro, Aroflux and all the other Arospecs under the umbrella. Whether you are starting to be recognized or still fighting to be visible.
We are all valid, and we have all come so far! So celebrate yourselves and your community this year! We're all amazing!
I can't wait to see how far the next decade will take us~