#validate my experiences

[littlemizzlinguistics]

Studying linguistics is actually so wonderful because when you explain youth slang to older professors, instead of complaining about how "your generation can't speak right/ you're butchering the language" they light up and go “really? That’s so wonderful! What an innovative construction! Isn't language wonderful?"

#linguistics #gen z slang #english #as people in the reblog pointed out! #most gen z slang comes from (or was appropriated from) aave #honestly I was just excited to talk about how people in my field actually get excited about non standard uses of English #instead of ridiculing speakers #and I tagged incorrectly and didn’t point out the very real issues of language and power and appropriation inherent in modern slang #in that much of it was appropriated #and even that which experiences language change in the wider culture still originated in aave #aave is just as linguistically valid as any other English dialect because it is a proper language #and the grammar is incredible!!! #habitual be is fantastic and an excellent example of how a richer case system or a certain case can render an adverb unnecessary #and the phonology is just beautiful #anyway I’m very sorry #I fucked up

[birdhouse-lover]

one day i hope to have my mannerisms and behaviors to be analyzed like i’m a fictional character and the general consensus is that im autistic.

#is this #is this what an nueropsych eval would be #i want them to see all my little quirks #and decide that it’s autism #validate my experiences #please

[suraelis]

From Critical Role C3EP62

*Live footage of the gays taking psychic damage*

#critical role #criticalrolefanart #criticalrolespoiles #bor'dor dog'son #orym of the air ashari #laudna #my art #no one better say #imodna isn't valid anymore #friendzoning your female friend #because you don't know #if they're into girls #is the sapphic experience

[softandwigglybones]

This one is for all the aspecs who didn't feel like there's something wrong with them. To all those too oblivious or too indomitable to feel alienated. You're still awesome and you're still valid

#aspec #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #i pretty much constantly only see posts that talk about the ascpe experience of feeling different and being distressed by it #and those people are valid #but this one is for all my peeps that were more like “oh this label fits” and went on about their life as normal #don't derail please #gelatinous post

[fuctacles]

Unusual, but maybe not in a bad way

Eddie's shoes might look good, but they were never a good choice for summer rains. He kept forgetting that and letting the reality of his fashion choices hit him hard in the face. Or knees.

The bus had a moving plate in the middle that usually wasn't a problem but today wasn't usual. Today the rain was pouring and Eddie's phone was at 15% because he had been too lazy to plug it in before falling asleep. So today he had to switch seats to one next to a charging port and as he was making the short voyage, a few things aligned perfectly to make today unusual, and in a bad way.

The rotating plate was wet from the rain.

The soles of his shoes had no grip.

The bus turned left.

"Shit."

Eddie gathered himself off the wet floor, cursing his shoes, the weather, and the throbbing pain in his knee. Without looking up he fell heavily into the seat that was his destination, afraid of the amused stares he might catch. His dignity? Gone. His pants? Well, they were torn already anyway so one new hole didn't make much difference. His knee? Bleeding, apparently. As he rubbed his knees, one of his hands came out red. He groaned.

"Of fucking course." He just had to hit something sharp on the usually safe and relatively smooth surface. 

When he was reaching to plug in his phone, someone grabbed the pipe just above the USB port. Eddie looked up and found a man looking down at him. He also realized the golden frames of his glasses complimented his hazelnut eyes beautifully.

"You should clean this up," the man said instead of making fun of him or asking if he was okay. No, he was holding out a packet of wet wipes like some kind of saint.

Eddie hesitated for a moment but while his dignity might be gone, the gorgeous man in front of him wasn't. He took the offered wipe.

"Thanks," he murmured, wiping the cut and the surrounding skin, cleaning off sand and blood.

The man dropped a backpack on the vacant seat next to him. Eddie eyed the pins attached to it; a couple of dinosaurs, a Hufflepuff crest, ‘protect trans kids’, and… a bisexual flag. Score.

"Pirates, Hello Kitty or dinosaurs?"

"Huh?"

"Band-aid," the man clarified, shaking a small tin can he fished out of his backpack. "I work with kids," he added like it explained everything. Well, it kind of did. Upon opening, the tin revealed an assortment of colourful band-aids.

Eddie hummed in thought, considering his choices.

"Dinosaurs."

"Good choice," the man praised with a smile, probably the same one he showed to the kids. Was he a teacher? Because suddenly all the teacher-student porn scenarios gained a new appeal. Where skimpy pencil skirts didn’t work on Eddie, a soft green jumper just might, apparently.

The man handed him a dino band-aid, apparently expecting him to apply it himself. Well, of course. They were two strangers on a bus, after all.

Disappointed, he put it on the cut, missing the amused tilt of the teacher's lips.

"Do you need anything else? I have some candy; lollipops, gummies…" The man flipped through the contents of his bag.

"Gummies?" Eddie's interest was piqued.

"They have colourful fillings and a tiny dragon on each wrapper," he advertised, offering him a small baggie to choose from. Again, his tone reminded him of an adult talking to a kid. This shouldn't be working on him as well as it was.

"Can I have two?" he asked, looking up into these stunning brown eyes. The level difference was not helping. Has he not sat down on purpose? To tower over poor Eddie's tiny metal heart?

The man smiled as he took a quick conspiratorial look around.

"You can even have three, just don't tell my kids," he whispered

"I ain't a snitch!" he assured and picked up two green candies and an orange one. Because red flavours belonged in the trash.

Or apparently in the plush mouth of a handsome stranger, since he picked one of those for himself. Maybe Eddie didn't hate them that much, after all. He could make an exception. Especially if he could taste them the fun way.

"You sure you don't want a lollipop? Water? Extra band-aid?"

Eddie shook his head adamantly but had a nagging feeling the man was stalling. His gaze dropped to the flag badge, giving him an instant shot of courage.

"Your number?"

The soft teacher's smile turned sly, and he knew he took the right step. His metal heart thumped in his chest, the sound resonating against his ribs. What a fun feeling.

"Better hurry up, my stop is next."

Eddie nearly dropped his phone in his haste to put in the string of numbers.

"What do I…?" he asked when the empty ‘name’ box stared at him from the screen.

"Steve," the man offered, just in time for the bus to stop. The doors swung open, and he was gone, but while the physical distance between them grew, Eddie now had the comfort of having him in the palm of his hand, hidden behind a number.

>> Thanks for the candy! 🖤 - Eddie 

[Steddie masterpost] [Ao3] [ko-fi]

#steddie #mine #yes i wrote it after slipping on the bus #literally on my phone that was charging on the usb port i fought for #but i was wearing yellow lego adidas shoes bc im not cool and edgy like Eddie #but in my experience doc martens and similar shitkickeresque shoes work just as badly on slippery surfaces so this is still valid #my lego shoes slap otherwise thank you very much #i did not meet hot teacher tho bc im not a hot metalhead #teacher steve harrington #steve harrington works with kids #meet cute #vaguely poland coded #the candies are the ones from wawel #i remember buying all my store had once and dousing them in vodka to eat on my bday

[chrollohearttags]

went down the rabbit hole on YouTube of other black ppl who are aromantics, virgins, never dated, etc. and I’m sitting here cheesing so hard bc I’ve never felt so validated. Like it’s not something I’ve ever felt ashamed or bad about and I’ve never had the desire to lose the ‘v card’ or be in a relationship but I feel like sometimes it’s hard to talk to other people about who aren’t and it’s just reaaaally nice to see other people that look like you sharing the same experience.

#I was watching a mommy blogger expose vid #and now we’re here #but it’s so nice to feel validated in ur experience #cherry chats 🍒 #aromantic #lgbtqia #like it gets hard when you have friends who talk about dating and sex and you can’t really relate to them #the main reason I don’t talk to many of my gfs anymore bc they’re in relationships and one’s pregnant #and I don’t have much to say #sexuality discussion #cw sexuality #they described everything I was feeling too #not wanting kids #not wanting to be married #and even not wanting to be touched

[thepoisonroom]

'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.

I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.

About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'

-Casey Plett, Consciousness

#this quote always moves me almost to tears when i remember it #i'm not a trans woman and i don't share the author's specific experiences with transition #but it really moves me that she frame transition as joyfully giving yourself permission to approach your body #not as something that has to be disciplined and deprived and made small in all these various ways #but as a means for experiencing pleasure and joy and delight and for insisting that our feelings and desires are worth #valuing and exploring and treasuring #i always used to think of prioritizing those things for myself as selfish and irresponsible #but who does it harm to want to experience pleasure in your own body? #it's such a beautifully simple and powerful switch to have flip in your head #and equally why are we forced to deny our own pleasure in transition and anything else related to our bodies in the name of moral rectitude #this is why i get so confused and pissed off when other trans people are fatphobic for example #like why are you so invested in politics of shame and disgust that never had any purpose other than #violently disciplining people as if they've violated moral codes by existing in a body #to say nothing of white people being racist in gay and trans communities #like again this system of violence is foundational to homophobia and transphobia #so why are you acting like it has nothing to do with you #even if you are unmoved by the urgency of other people's suffering which btw you should be moved by #what do you hope to gain by acting a collaborator and handmaiden to those systems #Casey Plett #she really is one of my favorite authors i wish more non-canadians read her #this quote is from a series of columns she did ont transition and every single one is a banger #i love when she talks about the people-pleasing elements of dysphoria and transition denial #she's so sharp about noting how many of us deny our own dysphoria on the grounds that others like and validate our bodies #that's how i always felt during my cis conventionally feminine era #it pleased other people so much and also that reception felt so hollow and joyless to me because i hated it #i get less of that positive feedback but that feels so unimportant next to the joy and pleasure i get to experience #said with the understanding that i'm very privileged in being able to prioritize those things without fear. but it was a switch flip #personal nonsense

[rollercoasterwords]

yeah u can put "i hate jkr" and "fuck terfs" in ur tumblr bio but. can u listen + reflect when a trans woman criticizes hp fandom without immediately getting defensive.....

#if a trans woman says 'my firsthand experience with hp fandom is that it's transmisogynistic' #in what world is the correct response to get angry at her and demand that she reassure u that not EVERYONE is transmisogynistic in fandom.. #like either a) u have not been transmisogynistic in which case...just keep scrolling #or b) u have been transmisogynistic in which case. u should take such posts as an opportunity 2 reflect on ur own behavior #and whether or not a or b applies to u is a personal evaluation for u 2 make privately #but EVEN if u feel the post does not in any way apply 2 u. it's still good 2 reflect!!! we are all participating in a fandom #that is tied inherently 2 a virulent transmisogynist #the least we can do is be vigilant in our personal circles + spaces abt transmisogyny..... #also personally. i think trans women can say whatever they want about hp lmao #especially on their own personal tumblr blogs that u can very easily just block if it's so upsetting 2 u.... #anyway. valid critiques and criticisms of hp fandom exist + part of being in this fandom in 2023 is accepting that imho #txt

[green-socks]

People often seem to prefer binging fics (and stuff in general but this post is about fic) and waiting until a series is finished to read.

And I get it, to an extent. Sometimes it is so fun to just chomp a series whole and live in that bubble! Settle down and devour a tasty story in one day. Love that shit.

BUT. I feel like people are missing out on a lot of good stuff that way. This week I read a series that has stood unfinished for a year and a half. So I thought, well, I enjoy how this author writes, I'm gonna read what they have so far. And dude, those few chapters alone rocked my damn world. I would have missed out on that experience had I filtered "complete works only" or always waited til WIPs were finished.

All I'm saying is, give them a chance!! I know sometimes an unfinished story can feel frustrating, but you'll get over it, and what'll stay with you is the delight you got from the reading experience. Reading even that first chapter that never continued further has always been worth my time.

Not to be all "no love, however brief, is wasted" but like. You can't waste joy. You can't waste emotions. So let yourself live a little and read a WIP!

#and after you've read for the love of god #don't comment “when are you updating again??😩” #but do tell the author how much you enjoyed it! #who knows #you might even get an update put of that #but if not it's just as valid of an experience! #thanks for coming to my ted talk

[nova070]

Being in a fandom is fun and all UNLESS you love this one character that is so underrated and overshadowed

OR the majority of the fandom hates them for some fucking reason like damn what did they to you for you to hate them this much

#specifically made this for river ward #river ward #because huh #i don't get the hate he gets #fandoms #river ward x reader #river ward x v #also MARKUS #markus detroit become human #dbh markus #markus dbh #he is very underrated but I love him #post also kinda applies to Boba Fett? #atleast I kinda think so #loved the series #there's some valid critiscm but some comments... #boba fett #he does kinda get overshadowed I think #six little nightmares #little nightmares six #MY GIRL #I will defend those characters with my life #those are just my experiences

[katsettee]

Fuck it, I’m jumping on the trans leo train

Blue turtle gender identity crisis we’re doing this it’s like rly rly important trust me cmon it’s gonna be fine it’s gonna be great

#tmnt #leonardo tmnt #transfem #transmasc #transfem leo #transmasc leo #fem 2012 leo #masc 2018 leo #leo rottmnt #leo 2012 #trans pride #headcannons #my personal view of gender is extremely… vague? #labels are validating for some and restricting for others #im going to be just tossing some of my own experiences into the bowl #just cause #its called projection #amab 2012 leo #afab 2018 leo #trans rise leo #art #digital art #fanart #(to come) #it looks fun #kat talks

[houseswife]

wilson is like one of those bitches who puts nicotine patches on their partner in their sleep so that they’ll subconsciously crave their presence and associate their time together with the gratification of it. except instead of doing it sneakily, he openly (even reluctantly) exists as the main source of house’s vicodin prescriptions, not only providing him with the high but maintaining this pavlovian dynamic where he actively contributes to house’s pain relief & survival. he’s essentially his lifeline. and for the most part, he doesn’t even do it on purpose!!! because aside from the literal drug connection, that’s what his friendship is to house, too. what bonnie said about how wilson just tries to be a Good and Normal friend but ‘once you’re the subject of all that attention, it’s addictive’. in season 8, he says “I cannot be responsible for the happiness of gregory house.” and then has the audacity to look shocked when foreman replies, “You are responsible, though.” it’s like he’s painfully aware of their fucked up codependency but simply turns his face away from it. he’s even in denial until the very last moment, until it’s not only his upcoming death on the horizon, but the knowledge that they’re both free. I always found his smile after ‘I’m dead, wilson’ a little chilling. because it feels like he knows what that means — the larger, lethal implications of house disregarding any worry about his own future — and only then is he done fighting it.

#sorry if this is incoherent #house md #hilson #house/wilson #james wilson #greg house #gregory house #I can see house doing the nicotine thing fr but I can’t see wilson doing it covertly #simply because he can never keep it quiet when he pulls off a covert little manipulation #he’s too proud of himself #most of the insane boundary-violating things that house has done he’s only done to satiate his own curiosity #but wilson does them specifically for house’s validation #like the antidepressant thing or the healthy eating #he knows house loves it when he’s a manipulative bitch #so he’d never keep it a secret #whereas house has probably violated every law of privacy towards him w/o ever mentioning it #I need to study them under a microscope etc etc #also can you tell that my personal experience is bleeding into this a little bit #I used to give my (prescribed) adderall to druggies for free in high school because it made them like me more 😬 #and I gaslit myself into thinking I was doing them a solid / doing a positive thing #as if I wasn’t just depriving myself of medication that I needed as well as feeding the addiction of unhealthily high-reliant kids #processing my own issues via james wilson meta >> #I’m also now realising that this teeters into the horrors of mortality a little bit more than just doomed old man yaoi #i’m sorry i’ve spent a year in the hannibal fandom I forgor we’re not meant to casually drop references to percieved suicide pacts #between our blorblos

[icewindandboringhorror]

Just curious what the average level of personal investment in these sorts of things is. Like, how much do people usually get into silly stuff like this their friends ask of them? etc. etc. Which I know, only surveying a small sample on a very specific website means I'm not getting an exact average idea lol, but.. curious nonetheless .. Maybe reblog for bigger sample size but also this is not very serious at all/not worth a call to action gbhjbhjb

#which I know this could be context dependent like.. maybe you'd normally dress up but on a week that #you feel sick you wouldn't or etc. etc. - but I mean.. GENERALLY. in the most general average scenario #where you have the average amount of health and free time that you always do. etc. just based on your personality #and level of investment in these things - what on AVERAGE are you most inclined to do #also of course assume they communicate with you ahead of time and are not like planning a part last minute #like 'throw together costume in 5 hours and show up tonight randomly' or etc. I would hope that if we're going with the #AVERAGE of things - most people's friends have better communication skills than springing entire parties #on people last minute lol #assume you have like.. a few days-a week or so to prepare. however ealrly people usually start talking about #birthdays. In my experience it's usually one or two weeks ahead of time. Like 'oh next weekend' or 'oh two weeks from now' etc. #ANYWAY.. feeling a little Sick again of course but still trying to get some photos or something posted #AGAIN i promise I am not going to exlcusively post polls and ntohing else forever hgkjgnekj #I just really really love the ability to post polls and have always my whole life been obsessed with surveying people #I used to think I wanted to do that as a career somehow like.. be one of the people that does psychological interviews #or produce interview asessments for a company or etc. etc. I am always the one friend in the group thats giving out custom made #surveys or asking for other simialr stuff (did you ever take an mbti quiz? how about enneagra #m?? oh yeah I know they're not really scientifically valid or antyhing but like... DID you take them?? huh?? did you??please?? ghjj) #I simply cannot resist.. posting a little poll every once in a while.. as a treat #whilst I still fall behind on like actual content and costumes and stuff gbjhbjh #New poll adventure should be not as much of a wait as the last one was though since I already have the writing #for it really. I just have to do the ms paint sketch. hopefully no unexpected other health issues will get in the way #*** *** *** #< (anytime I do these three star patterns it is an ocd compulsion not me bleeping out words or something just ignore it lol) #(it means something secret in my evil brain just pretend you do not see it. significant only to me) #BUT YEAH.. ... poll... what type of costume party atendee are you? #:0c

[castielcommunism]

there’s something very sweet about the fact that femininity is fascinating to dean. like he always seems transfixed by it. I don’t mean sexually I mean like anything that he mentally categorises as feminine is tantalising to him. and obviously this has a lot to do with his dad forcing him to be the perfect macho son, so as a consequence dean thinks watching certain movies makes you a girl or whatever. he doesn’t have a very coherent definition of femininity aside from “shit I’m not allowed to do” so you end up talking about it in these very coarse and rudimentary terms. and like the sting of dean thinking it’s gay to drink a smoothie is usually soothed by the fact that he WANTS to drink that smoothie so so so bad but the spectre of his father looms large over his life. it’s not so much genuine animus as it is a defence mechanism against punishment from his dad, because deep down dean really wants to just be himself but he can’t. but idk it’s just very endearing watching him privately marvel at what is by all accounts pretty mundane stuff most of the time, like pop music or glittery fabric. he gets that little sparkle in his eye you know

#dean.txt #dean studies #also generally why I’m not personally a fan of transmasc readings of dean #like obviously you can be a feminine trans man and that’s perfectly valid #but masculinity seems so torturous for dean and femininity seems like this fascinating mystical thing #that he becomes bewitched by the moment he’s confronted with it #which is so outside the realm of my own experience with transness #again not universe this is just my own personal relationship to it #*universal #like I read dean as gnc / trans ish in some way just like not transmasc u know #idk. anyway it’s very sweet

[thereallyreallylatebird]

One early sign I was aromantic was that, when I first learned about how marriages used to be arranged for business purposes, I didn't have the same knee-jerk reaction many others did about how awful that must've been.

I thought it would be annoying that someone would get to control such a large part of my life, but at the end of the day I didn't see how it was that different from a marriage for love? So long as the other party was a decent person and could hold a conversation, they seemed about the same. After all, I'd eventually be able to make friends with them (again, so long as they were a decent person), and we'd get just as close as someone who I was friends with before getting married.

The only thing that really hung me up was possibly having to have sex with someone significantly older than me. That's it. Possibly not being romantically attracted to them didn't even cross my mind. I thought it was the same as really close friendship + sexual attraction and I knew I could make friends so. Yeah.

#aromantic #aro #aroallo #queer #lgbtq #this is just my personal experience #other aros may have a different experience #that is also 100% valid #thereallyreallylatebird