#the best kind of romances

[rpgchoices]

Videogames romances are like "me and the 1000 years old demonic entity I pulled by dethroning the king and being a little silly"

#videogames #rpgs #pathfinder kingmaker #sort of #dragon age #the best kind of romances

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Assisting Acquaintance Acquired.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen ning #wei wuxian #Ignore how Wen Ning's hair looks here because I messed it up. Let's pretend he just sported a different hair style for a brief moment. #I am not exactly great at consistency but I am trying very hard to work on that (immediately messes up again). #Absolutely *love* how Wen Ning clearly remembers and admires WWX...who does *not* recognize him. #This is the best day for Wen Ning and it means *nothing* to WWX. A painful one-sided crush made worse. #It is bittersweet to realize that we care about someone more than they care about us. Sometime we pour love into a relationship- #-with someone who just can't reciprocate. It isn't always a conscious things either. Some people just aren't aware we care. #And painfully - so painfully - You can't make them aware. No act of kindness or gift or self sacrifice will make someone care about you. #You can martyr yourself for someone and they will continue on unchanged. #I think a lot about the parallels between WN and LWJ. Not foils - just reflections. A theme repeated. #People who give so much of themselves to someone who doesn't have the capacity to give any part of themself away. #I will die on the hill of 'Wen Ning would be the love triangle romance if that trope wasn't being avoided'. #And to be honest - thank the stars above that is the case. I do not know any good love triangles in media. #We are skipping some of the sad Jiang Cheng content because I really want to finish season 2 before May. #Sorry JC emo moment lovers...I'll deliver another time.

[aroandawkward]

I can't stop thinking about Isaac Henderson in Heartstopper, and the inherent isolation of being an aroace person in a romance story. Because, at the end of the day, that's what Heartstopper is - it's about the romance between Nick and Charlie. Even when the narrative has expanded outwards to focus on other characters, their plotlines are primarily about romance: Elle and Tao, Darcy and Tara… It's true that Isaac has a loving friend group and the show doesn't devalue platonic love in the way that many romance stories do. But nevertheless, as an aroace person, Isaac is at odds with the genre of the story in which he lives. The tropes that shows like this are built around don't work for him.

Something that really hammers this home is how the scene when Isaac and James kiss mirrors Charlie and Nick's first kiss. In both scenes, two boys are sitting on the floor away from the main action of a party, one admits to having a crush, the other nervously wants to know whether it's them, and then they kiss. In his version of that scene with James, Isaac is experiencing a moment that - for another character - could be a beautiful moment in a romantic storyline.

For viewers who weren't aware of Alice Oseman's promise of an aroace storyline for Isaac, his interactions with James in the early episodes of Season 2 could easily have been interpreted as the beginning of a romantic love story. The rest of the main Heartstopper group have certainly been viewing his friendship with James through that lens, as shown by the way they tease him about it. But those plot beats of a romantic story don't work for Isaac. Trying to fit into the romance genre pushes Isaac in a direction that feels wrong for him. He is the one person in his primary friend group who can't make himself at home in a romance story.

I don't mean this as a criticism of the show. There is a lot of value to love stories like Heartstopper and there is a lot of value to having aspec representation in a show like Heartstopper. But I think this is the reason why Isaac's plotline felt particularly heartwrenching for me. Sometimes being aroace does feel like being out of step with the genre of story everyone else around you is living. Sometimes it feels like trying to find a place for yourself in a narrative that wasn't built for you. Sometimes it feels like trying to prove to yourself (and the world) that you can still have moments that feel like swirling leaves.

#heartstopper #heartstopper s2 #heartstopper season 2 #heartstopper spoilers #isaac henderson #Comparing this to my other beloved aroace rep... #Georgia in Loveless thinks that she's in a romance story #but it turns out she's in a different kind of love story #Koisenu Futari also feels like a love story without being a romance story #but with Isaac in Heartstopper it's different #because Isaac is actually in a romance story - it just isn't his romance story #Sometimes I struggle with the thought that not having a romance means I can't be a protagonist #I overidentify with the 'best friend' side characters in romcoms every time #awkward aroposting #Aromantic #Aroace

[bakuliwrites]

I am motivated by one thing and one thing only in video games and that is romance. If I cannot woo the most (in any combination of the following) uptight, mysterious, theatrical, and/or tragic fictional love interest in the game, then what is the point of me playing? If I cannot shower them with affection and love and give them all the soft things they deserve, then what is the point???

#astarion best be on his toes #because I'm comin for him #he was my sole motivation to buy the game #and also it looked fun #but mostly romance #baldurs gate 3 #astarion #astarion baldurs gate #also #why I play the following #stardew valley #fire emblem #the arcana #my brother tricked me into playing dark souls 3 #because he said you could get married in it #and when I found out what kind of wedding it was I was so sad #but that game is my favorite game of all time so it’s okay #that’s a whole other story #i just want to love and be loved #and be soft with them #and also spoil them and snuggle them and tell them everything is going to be okay #astarion deserves all the love and affection and soft things 💖

[serotoninblitz]

AHHHH LOOK AT HIM!!! HES SO PRETTY !!

I love him with white hair and i love seeing him in his anime style when hes just kinda idle

Look at his little pose!!!!!!!

#mha #dabi #touya todoroki #AHHH I LOVE HIM #I do not have an obsession #its just a hyperfixation #but if i do its purely platonic #really am not the kind to want to romance him #but look at him!! i want to be his friend!!! #let me hug him!! he'd burn me alive but WHO CARES #best hug ever!! I'll die for one!!

[camels-pen]

the difference between zosopp and sanuso (romantic OR platonic) is that Usopp is Zoro's specialest little guy and Zoro is someone Usopp hangs out with and looks up to and hides behind when things get scary, but Sanji and Usopp are best friends. They horse around, they beat each other up, they confide their worst fears trying to one up each other. Usopp hides behind Sanji sometimes, sure, but idk, Sanji's weaknesses are more obvious (bugs, fighting women, etc) so there are times when Usopp has to stand in front of Sanji too, yknow?

Like, how do I say this, all the crewmates are equal- Usopp and Zoro are equals- but with Sanji it feels like more... comradery? Zoro's a rock in a terrible storm- even rocks tend to get weathered and chipped and worn down, but they overall stay strong and steady. He has trouble being vulnerable and there are times when the burden he's placed on himself to keep the crew safe is crushing his chest. Usopp would help with that and be very understanding, but the point I'm trying to get with that is that those moments are few and far between. So I feel like Usopp, especially after Water 7, would take Zoro's lead on something like that, and keep most of his worries to himself or only talk about them sparingly unless they're really bad and/or he can't hide them.

Sanji is like a tree in a storm; he can be strong, yes, but it feels like he bends and sways with the storm, and has more obvious breaking points. He can relate more to Usopp's struggles rather than resorting to blunt honesty that might border on callous like Zoro. And while, with Zosopp, I tend to think of scenarios with Zoro being blunt like that as a good thing- because sometimes when you're spiraling, it's nice to have someone say exactly what's great about you and shoot down all your worries with straight facts that you can't argue with- I can also see this as being a bad thing. Anxiety can really twist up your brain sometimes, you know? And despite the words, the tone could still mess someone up if they're already feeling like a burden on others in some way.

With Sanuso it's a lot more understanding and thoughtful words. It's distractions and comfort food and patience- the kind reserved for Usopp- until Usopp talks about whatever's troubling him. Compared to Zosopp, it doesn't take as long for Usopp to open up, since he's done the same thing to Sanji at times and it's more familiar to him to talk and commiserate with Sanji about his worries and doubts and such. However, there are times stuff like this has absolutely no effect and Sanji will end up at a loss, no idea what to do or how to help over the course of several days with Usopp being quiet and keeping his distance, and he'll end up working himself up about it which will only serve to make Usopp feel worse and. yeah. bit of a vicious cycle with them.

So it's like. Usopp can be weak with both of them, but since I see Sanji as the type of guy who'd be more open with his worries (at least compared to Zoro), there's less of a need to 'perform' and be his best self around him. He's comfortable around Zoro, yes, but he is constantly wanting to show that he won't be a problem to him. On the other hand, while he's more open with Sanji, and Sanji with him, they tend to relate a bit too much with each other and they both have issues with causing trouble for others and being 'deserving of love' so failed attempts at consoling one hurts the other and creates an unpleasant cycle of misery and avoidance before some other crewmate (Zoro) tells them to quit being stupid and just fucking talk to each other.

#one piece #sanuso #zosopp #long post #nemotime #does this make sense or is this the ramblings of a person who's only got 3 hrs sleep #bc thats me. 3 hrs sleep. ugh #listen okay its like. zosopp has their own growing pains to get through yknow? zoro will eventually get the whole #'oh usopp isnt as open with me bc he wants to seem tough and is also kind of doing the same thing i do. thats bad for him' #and it'll be a whole thing about making a promise between the two of them to try and be more honest with their fears and seeking help #when they need it #the sanuso thing is like. i hope i didnt mean to make it seem like sanuso is 'better' or w/e bc its just a different thing #sanuso got their own problems to sort out. 1. Sanji's everything 2. boundaries on special treatment- #i'm not gonna go seriously into this but both relationships start out not the best and get better over time yknow #also i know usopp's afraid and freaking out a lot but for this post i meant his deeper fears and insecurities #not 'i've got can't-go-on-this-island disease' lmao #the tl;dr of this post is: Usopp is more closed off with Zosopp. Usopp and Sanji have similar issues that cause problems with Sanuso. #also the way i see these ships will probably change at some point. who knows #there was a post i saw recently that was like 'hey sanuso bc romance trio were already chill with each other so sanuso became chill with #each other in an 'alone together' type of way and also they have the same issues' and i thought 'wow so true bestie' and here we are #also. man. usopp taking on / copying the behaviours of his loved ones regardless of his age is just. my jam. in a positive or negative way #maybe i'll make a post about that explaining it more. maybe

[planningisnotmystrength]

assuming that Kim truly starts to fall for Harry throughout the course of the investigation I think that it would hit him as a series of “oh no” revelations.

like, Kim asks Harry what he thinks about the body and Harry says “I think he’s dead” and Kim starts to almost laugh and then in the back of his mind he goes “oh no, no, not this guy. not the sentient hangover who can’t remember his name. please no.”

and then Harry is outrageously good at pinball. like, way better than anyone Kim has ever met (and that’s saying something since he used to be a pinball wizard himself). he even found a secret about Gurdi-Ball Kim’s never known or even heard about. and he’s like “no no no no, this man literally smelled like a booze filled corpse when I met him. come on, this isn’t fair.”

this man, who argues with his necktie and can’t stop making that stupid smirk that’s vaguely sympathetic (but mostly pathetic), somehow not only wins Kim’s trust and respect but also his affection and I bet that pisses Kim off so much. 

#disco elysium #Kim Kitsuragi #hdb #harrier du bois #harry du bois #they have the best and worst romance ever #love to see a couple where one is a mess and the other is put together #and they create a kind of equilibrium when together #disco elysium spoilers #kind of #Kim x Harry

[mamawasatesttube]

Obsessed with how you write timkon flirting. Oh god I’m getting lost in his eyes🫣 let me cover it up by suggesting what he should wear so I can move him around easier. Nailed it👍 wait🤔 did he switch his whole wardrobe to bondage gear when I blinked? Huh😳

ABSOLUTELY. kon "i feel so... pregnable!" el has a reputation to maintain here. he might be doing a terrible job at being suave and normal but it's okay bc tim is so into that. tim is like (vibrating slightly) please give me a 400 word writeup on what exactly you like about the idea of me in bondage gear and what if any specific further pieces you would like to see added to my wardrobe and why. please. please

#they need an absolutely fucking bizarre romance. best friends to lovers with a side of ''what the fuck kind of flirting...??'' #answers #anonymous #timkon

[cant-get-no-worse]

Iker Casillas kissing reporter and then-girlfriend Sara Carbonera after Spain beat the Netherlands at the 2010 World Cup Final.

#we talk a lot about messi's main character energy but this was also straight from a movie #kid me saw this and thought this was the ultimate romance #spain nt #the 2010 wc had one of the best vibes of em tournaments #and these kind of spontaneous moments are what make the wc bigger than anything else. :)

[chuckclayton]

this is my favorite type of first kiss. pulling someone in for a rushed, brief kiss then pulling away to gauge their response. the moment of silence where they're just staring at each other wondering if that really happened because they did it and can't take it back. then other other person pulling them back in and kissing them with every ounce of passion they have. then the prolonged eye contact once they've parted because yes, it's real. yes, they like you and you like them back. it's poetic. it's beautiful.

#3 seasons led to this kind of kiss its so powerful... i have with in literally 3 hours why am i musing over a kiss like this? #it's a silly little disney show and yet it's the best tv romance i've ever seen #rina #hsmtmts #hsmtmts spoilers #thoughts

[commsroom]

something really gets to me about eiffel and hera talking to themselves while addressing each other - in am i alone now? and the watchtower in particular. i can't say this to you, but you're still the person i want to tell it to. i know there's no way you can hear me, but if you can...

eiffel talks to himself a lot, and he is very used to being alone with no one paying much attention to the things he says, so i'm not sure he ever realized exactly how much until he was on the hephaestus. in the early days of the mission, i imagine hera responded to a lot of eiffel's asides and sort of embarrassed them both. and then that sort of... shifted. their relationship shifted, they got comfortable being around each other, and eiffel's conversations with himself started including hera, too. i like the idea of that as an establishing moment: that, at some point, there was a first time eiffel said something in an empty room, and hera was so used to him talking to himself that she didn't realize it was meant for her, and he asked her, "hera? are you there?"

i imagine hera still talked to eiffel, too, when they all thought he was dead. with each day increasingly longer and more difficult, that she would vent her frustrations to the empty comms room the same way he would've encouraged her to when he was there. she can't talk to anyone the way she can talk to him, and they just... keep talking to each other, even when they can't. they are so much a part of each other, the voice of encouragement and comfort in each other's heads. for so long, all they can really do for each other is talk, and they maintain that connection even in absence. they ask each other "are you there?" like reaching for each other's hands in the dark.

#wolf 359 #w359 #doug eiffel #hera wolf 359 #eiffera #was talking about the middle part of this with beth hephaestuscrew earlier and she got the gears in my head turning #this kind of feels like multiple posts mashed together but i just. mm. #the importance of communication in all wolf 359 relationships but especially between eiffel and hera because it's so much of what #tethers hera to everyone and everything else. that even if she's annoyed sometimes by eiffel asking if she's there. it's also #a comfort in a way that he wants that affirmation. he's reaching out to her in the best way he knows how. and she does it too #i said some version of the last line of this in the tags of another post once but i think about it. i think about it. #there's something about how. hm. #eiffel drives conversations in the show. he's the communications officer. he gets people talking #and hera is the type of person who. goes quiet more often who shuts down and internalizes #that she's as much defined by the things she doesn't say. #and then. that some part of their relationship then ends up defined by things that couldn't be said #'hera i ---' but also that she calls him doug when she's 'talking' to him #but never directly never actually to him #i know not everyone will agree with me on this but i sincerely do think eiffel/hera is a canon romance it's just. an incomplete one #and something about that compels me very much.

[dumblr]

Kisses on the foreheads of the lovers.

#quotes #feelings #emotions #love #forehead kisses #romantic quotes #kisses #love quotes #aesthetic #beautiful #my kind of romance #tumblr romance #best feeling #dumblr

[dungeons-and-dragon-age]

ik he's witty but i always forget just how easily fenris quips back and forth with almost everyone

#every time its like ah ok i remember now why liam got on with him so easily so quickly xd #(they also vibe with each other in general but i digress) #liam: silly one liner that he said before thinking and that probably sounds stupid - fen: plays along - liam: :0 #friendship cancelled with bethany now fenris is my best friend (SEE bethy he APPRECIATES my jokes 😤) #laya plays dragon age #i always imagine that when fen does his silly 'perhaps i shall practice my flattery [...]' line liam goes out of that kind of perplexed lik #was that a flirt did he flirt with me??? #(cus even if the dialogue that prompts it is marked as a romance option liam wouldnt have intended it as flirtatious) #and usually hed not pay it any further mind but he Does have vague interest in/curiosity about fen so hes overthinking lolol #oc: liam hawke #my ocs #<- once again for the tags xD

[bluberimufim]

If you ever think that you're stupid, please remember that the first time I listened to Largo al Factotum from "The Barber of Seville", I commented "hey idk why but I think Figaro would get along great with Susanna from Nozze, pity she already has a husband tho".

Susanna.

From "Le Nozze di Figaro".

The person Figaro is supposed to be marrying.

#tbh that's the kind of romance i wanna have #a couple so great that some dumbass ships you across centuries and composers #susanna and figaro best opera couple ever #and you can fight me on that #opera tag #operablr #marriage of figaro #le nozze di figaro #barber of seville #took me 2 weeks to figure out what was wrong with that statement

[belowthesurface]

Here's my older adrino design (around age 18 to 20). You can't tell me Adrien isn't a mullet kinda guy, also Nino has curly hair and he started growing it out because Adrien, Alya and Marinette all decided it would look dope. They were right.

Close up

#these two solos this show #the power of being best bros stronger than any kind of romance #frendship is truly magic #miraculous ladybug #adrien agreste #nino lahiffe #miraculous lb #miraculous fanart #adrino #adrinino

[lycanr0t]

the thing about aplatonicism is that just like aromanticism and asexualism, it doesn't inherently mean you don't want friendships, every individual apl person has different needs and wants in regards to friendship and each person will go about it differently.

I for example am aplatonic and don't specifically feel platonic attraction as in, i don't feel a drive to befriend people. I don't get "friend crushes" or ever get the desire to befriend specific people. I am personally, very open to the possibility of friendship if someone else approaches me and we vibe. I am not platonically attracted to them, but I also do get enjoyment from socializing with others in that way and can become attached to them, etc. Platonic attraction does not equal caring about someone/being good to them. Attraction is not moral in that way. it just is.

Just like how some ace people still enjoy sex, even without sexual attraction. Some aplatonic people still enjoy friendship, and some don't. And that's okay! There are so many types of relationships out there that people can form and explore what makes them happiest and it looks different for every person and that's such a wonderful thing.

#my husband and i are both aplatonic and it manifests in VERY different ways for each of us but like. its neat its cool #i don't have many friends bc i don't seek ppl out but i love talking to people. i am a very social anf i like to think friendly person #i also have incredibly strong morals about treating people with kindness and trying to make the world a gentler place. #bc platonic attraction does not determine how good a person is or their morals #you can have 0 friends and still be a good person who treats people well #we NEED to get away from the idea of 'person with no friends = bad' #bc like. its a bad concept. its inherently flawed and bigoted and shit. tbh #the power of friendship isnt the most powerful thing actually its not any worse or better than any other relationship #friends arent worse or better than romantic partners or family or coworkers or strangers #its just another relationship and subset of attraction and putting it on a pedestal isnt a good thing actually #just how ​ace advocacy that relies on claiming romance is the best thing in the world is flawed #aro advocacy that claims friendship is the most important thing is just as flawed #all are equal. theyre not better or worse just different #rot posts #anyways unprompted apl post its just been on my mind