Living well with your aromanticism, not despite of it, gets easier when you notice that this world wasn't made for you. You are not restricted by expectations, you don't have to follow a pre-planned course of steps to what happiness should be at; being aromantic can bring upon you the will to mold your life to whatever shape you want, because you know fully well what's expected won't fulfill you. Instead, you have the power and time to find what does.
You can live alone, unabashedly happy, surrounded by the little things that give you comfort.
You can build meaningful, long-lasting relationships that have not even a hint of romance.
You can have fleeting relations with people that make you feel good and not deepen your bond.
You can have one-night stands and leave before the morning comes if it feels right for you.
You can be present in your family or community, helping and being helped by people you trust and feel like a gift of being part of.
You can hear stories from the mouth of your companions and elders, and tell your own.
You can find beauty where people don't usually care to look at, revel in how much wonder is within you.
You can do what people usually feel like they need a romantic partner to do, without the limitations or complications one would need to fit themself around; ranging for dates to caring for children.
You can pursue hobbies, engage with art and craftsmanship, explore nature, do research, fill your days with the joy of creation all by yourself, just because you can.
The world was not built for you, but it doesn't mean it can't fill your days with joy, or that you can never belong in it. There is so much more than romance.
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Whump prompt XXIV
Whumpee as part of the table decor at wumper's dinner party. Hungry, and surrounded if not covered in food.
Bonus points:
Stress position, of course
Whumpee's not even tied up. They're just expected to stay in position for hours.
Hot serving plates placed on whumpee's body
"Accidentally" getting stabbed with serving forks
The guests making jokes and giving compliments to whumper over the decor, never acknowledging whumpee as a living person
Whumpee, of course, cannot leave without whumper's permission - too bad whumper is too busy long after the dinner itself is done with entertaining their guests; they might forget about whumpee by the end of it, and go to bed without letting them go, sleeping in nice and long the morning after the party
Whumpee in a dark dining room holding their position for the benefit of absolutely no one, still knowing they would be punished if they were caught moving
Still tormented by the scent of leftovers that no one would miss, yet knowing they'd be punished if they took any
Being punished the next day for not having cleared the table and done the dishes sooner
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My Favorites of Jedi Appreciation
So, I've been thinking about Jedi positivity a lot lately. So, I decided to make a masterpost. Someone's definitely done this before and better, but I feel like I should throw my hat in the ring.
(There's also A Collection of Posts about the Jedi Order, Part One and Part Two.)
Fics
These fics might not be completely focused on the Jedi Order but they are portrayed positively, or they expand on their culture. Either way, I love them.
Knightrise by deviantaccumulation: In which a new Jedi Order is founded on Mandalore after Order 66.
not the place i was born in (doesn't mean it's not the place where I belong) by ghostwriterofthemachine: Jedi worldbuilding and Young Anakin and Obi-Wan being sweet.
How a Handful of Droid Poppers Save the Galaxy by Zarz: In which Appo is the hero the galaxy needs and Anakin meets consequences.
Yeet or be Yeeted by virdant: In which the Jedi tendency to jump off tall places becomes a competitive sport.
THE FORCE WILLS DOCUMENTARY by js71: Told as a documentary about the Jedi Order, there's a lot of worldbuilding and other things that make my heart happy.
Pragmatics of the Jedi by aroacejoot, ghostwriterofthemachine, loosingletters: A series that created a language for the Jedi, Dai Bendu, which is absolutely fascinating.
On Meditation by virdant: A short fic about meditation. It makes me happy.
Interviews by BloodyDevil: Interviews with members of the Jedi Order.
In which we burn bodies as bridges by GraceEliz: Jedi mourning in a bittersweet fic.
Anakin Skywalker's Guide to Jedi Traditions by loosingletters: A young Anakin's journal about his new life in the Jedi Order.
The Droid Wars by Crystalshard: R2 learns about the future and drags 3PO along with him to stop it.
Why We Did Nothing by BairnSidhe: Do you like the Mandalorians as well as the Jedi? In which the Mandalorians learn about the Jedi Order's perspective on things and Jaster gets rightfully mad. Warning: It has dark themes (among them, discussions of the murder of children, generational trauma, and Montross-related fuckery).
spilled red wine by scrapheap_redux: I was debating whether or not to add this one, but I really liked the portrayal of the Jedi when they show up. However, it has the aftermath and results of rape (not onscreen) as the inciting incident, which is why I was wondering if I should add it; I want this list to be enjoyable and I don't want to upset anyone.
Unsolicited PR From A Pirate by Everything_or_Anything, lastbattlecry, RogueLadyVader (LaylaYuy), TessaDoesThings, wanderingjedihistorian (RangerJedi67): Hondo is a menace. Also, action figures.
Stolen Choices by softmoonlight: Cal, Fox, and the possibility of a happy ending.
free to find my calling by Papook: Jocasta Nu gets a squad of clones.
Always in Motion by virdant: I never knew I needed a Chewbacca time-travel fic so much.
remember me, fondly by ace_din_djarin: Crafts, Jedi, and bittersweetness.
The Bust Busting by virdant: Yoda is a troll. Dooku is done.
Proper Attire by LacieFuyu: Why Jedi don't wear armor.
Out with Lanterns by SkyeBean: Ahsoka is Mace's Padawan.
Lessons of Peace by virdant: Cody embracing Jedi culture and making dumplings.
Memories of Peace by Margan: Obi-Wan teaches the clones to make dumplings.
Home-onym by virdant: Wordplay and Jedi younglings.
In the Shadows (of Taxes) by virdant: Quinlan Vos specializes in tax law. If that one sentence doesn't make your heart jump a little, I weep for you.
hi, i'm with public relations by lastbattlecry: The Jedi need better PR. Bail Organa knows somebody.
In Which Boba Fett Becomes the Jedi Order's Feral Tooka by Zarz: The title explains the beautiful, beautiful plot.
May the Force be Taxed by ReconstructWriter: Palpatine and the IRS do not respect Jedi culture.
aphelion by Kemmasandi: Plo Koon dies, wakes up decades prior, and fixes things.
Protect That Which You Love by certifiedspacewitch: Mace takes one look at the weird old man asking for private access to a young Padawan and gets his hackles up.
jedi shaming by braigwen_s, evaceratops: Short but hilarious.
The Chess Match Begins by SilverWingedWolf: The relationships between Jedi and clones.
Five Jedi Who Signed the Wall on Mapuzo, and Two that Honored Them by TheSecondBatgirl: The title explains the premise in the best way.
You're Not Flawed Darling (You're just a Little Under Rehearsed) by CombatBootsandDreams: To quote the tags, the Jedi diplomatic corps is intense.
A Little Piece of Home by Maeve_of_Winter: Anakin discovers a new form of moving meditation but worries Obi-Wan won't approve. Quinlan does his best to encourage Anakin to tell him anyway.
shining like a lighthouse from the sky by loosingletters: Rumor has it, if you clean up one of the droids in the temple the day before your Gathering, Anakin Skywalker himself will take you to Ilum. Or: Anakin loses his lightsabers and is absolutely popular with teeny tiny Initiates.
the heart of kyber by outpastthemoat: Stories about lightsabers, masters, and apprentices.
吃飽了嗎? | Have you eaten your fill? by virdant: A collection of fics about food and how food is an articulation of love.
I'm Counting On You by Rivulet07: Not all initiates become Jedi, Mace helps Chirrut find his place.
Being a Jedi by wanderingjedihistorian (RangerJedi67): Scenes, musings and drabbles for Jedi June fan event.
Jedi Parables by Peppermint_Shamrock: Values are often passed down generation to generation through stories, parables, and fables. What stories might the Jedi teach their children?
Five Meditations of Jedi Depa Billaba by skatzaa: What is says on the tin. (Plus one more, for good measure.)
Jedi Culture and Teachings in Canon by gffa: Not a fanfic, exactly, but it's a collection of everything textually said in Disney canon about or by the Jedi Order.
Emotion is our Shared Tongue by virdant: A series of one-shots and fics that explore Jedi language and communication with the Force.
Saber-Assigned Soulmates by inimitability: A slight mishap in the mess hall leads to Obi-Wan giving some very interested troopers a crash courses in lightsabers. Specifically, why some people can pick them up but others can't. Even more specifically, what Jedi erotica holonovels did or didn't get right regarding lightsabers and soulmates.
Shereshoy by SailorSol: This was not how Mace wanted to start his day. Contrary to popular belief, Mace Windu did not actually enjoy being a hardass. But as head of the Order, it was a carefully crafted persona he did his best to maintain anywhere outside of private quarters and behind closed Council doors.
permission to speak by qigiined: Mace is trying his damnedest to file the Temple's taxes among other daily tasks. Plo and the rest of the Jedi Council help and hinder him.
Blogs
There are only so many times I can say "I love this so much, it makes me happy, please know you have filled my head with knowledge and my heart with joy" before it gets repetitive.
gffa: FILLED WITH WONDERFUL THINGS. I would marry this blog if I could. (I'm joking...mostly.)
projediagenda: All kinds of thought-provoking stuff that makes me happy.
ensomniaa: As they put it, nothing but love for the Jedi.
the-jedi-love: Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.
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