#that told you about gender

[howlingforcookies]

Sometimes I remeber working at the hardware store and the terrible training videos, including such memorable lines as: "it takes two to say no" and "the answer is always yes".

#Truly terrible and mindnumbing videos #the whole customer is always right mentality #which sucks #also the two nearly identical #middle aged white women #that told you about gender #and sexuality #in the workplace

[frogsare-friends]

friendly reminder that bi people don't owe you anything. bi women that have a 99% preference for men are bi, not straight. bi women that have a 99% preference for women are bi, not lesbian. bi women that choose to only date women (for safety, comfort, etc.) are bi and do not want to be lesbians. heteroromantic bisexuals and biromantic heterosexuals are whatever they tell you they are, you don't get to decide their identity. bi men with a 99% preference for women are bi, not straight. bi men with a 99% preference for men are bi, not gay. bi people that align more with pansexuality but say that they're bi are bi. asking someone that's talking about what you view as the opposite gender to "name someone of (what you view as) the same gender that you think is hot" is biphobic. asking someone if they're sure they're "not just heteroflexible" is biphobic. nonbinary bi people don't need to explain their sexuality or gender to you; "but how can they be straight and gay if they're nonbinary?!?!" 1. gender is so fucked, i personally believe nobody's gender is the exact same we all experience gender differently, 2. bisexual isn't half straight and half gay, it's all bi

brought to you by a genderqueer bisexual who's fucking tired. if you're monosexual (yes that goes for straight people, gay men, and lesbians, although most queer people have an easier time understanding it than straight people do and perpetuate biphobia in different ways) and you view bisexuality as half anything, you're wrong. we're not attracted to anyone in a straight or gay way, we're attracted to all people in a bi way. hope that helps

#bisexual #bi #bi4bi #queer community #gender queer #queer #lgbtq+ #lgbtq community #lgbt #lgbtqia #also brought to you by my sister asking me to name a woman i think is hot #because i told her we did improv about josh hutcherson in drama club #i did not pick the topic #i just agreed he's hot #winona ryder is also hot #i'd let her do anything

[strongermonster]

anyways since i had the misfortune of accidentally reading his name again today, i'd like to remind everyone that this fucking weirdo (sylvain charlebois) exists and he thinks that women are ruining meat for everyone and that meat—yes the entire food group of meat—is for men only and eating meat is somehow a gendered activity ????

there are THREE factors listed in that last sentence and this moron was like "it's the fault of the wimmin"

#this is like the only quote i know about him and i just fucking hate him #i'm not gonna link the article bc i don't respect any of this but it's easy to find with that doozy of a quote #my next post-period steak is going to be this man #you know if i had the energy and time i'm almost certain i could dig in #and find a correlation between the fetishistic way meat has been historically advertized to men #and the postwar era where everyone was too fucking poor to buy it #so instead of driving down prices #male execs targeted other male consumers (men earn and spend more especially in the postwar times) #which something something domino effect to how the bacon craze of however many years ago #was insidious weirdly sexual/gendered corporate advertizing as well #https://deadspin.com/you-like-bacon-because-they-told-you-to-1642981536 #jj stuff

[triptychgardener]

See I don't really believe there are any broader like. Schema of gender in Homestuck in that makes sense. Including Callie's OG gendering of classes but most others don't have a solid "reason" to them. Breath players tend to lean towards transfeminine to me but that doesn't feel like it's because of Breath and so on and so forth.

Basically the only two principles of gender determination in Homestuck I actually abide by are:

Trans characters can be partially determined in certain cases by examine their relationships to other close characters, forming something like a binary (or more) system. Transmasculine Dirk v. Transfeminine Roxy, Femme Transfeminine Gay Jake English v. Butch Transmasc Lesbian Jane Crocker, my Davepeta+ Gender Chart etc. Characters in Homestuck often model themselves in relation to their friends as we do irl.

Space is nigh-exclusively a transfeminine aspect in Homestuck itself. The job of a Space player is to seize and create their own means of creation and species-level reproduction, usually after being deprived of traditional means of womanhood, motherhood, and reproduction.

#literally think about space players all the time and how each of them is deprived of this 'normal' experience of motherhood #kanaya is raised totally separately from every other jadeblood on the planet and her means of resurrecting her species is destroyed #at the moment she is shot in the abdomen #i mean you can't say 'THIS IS A METAPHOR FOR MISCARRIAGE' any louder than that #jade in the epilogues being unable to carry a child because. i mean she has a dick. she's a trans woman. kind of irrefutable #calliope as she stands can never mature into a cherub even capable of reproduction #left with an incomplete predomination at the cost of getting to live again #and we don't get as much from porrim but from what we do know #her righteous indignation and rebellion against the society that told her that her caste and gender meant she would forever serve #as nurturer and reproducer #that she later took a different perspective on once that was no longer available to her... yeah.

[uncanny-tranny]

Two things that are simultaneously true:

1. Gender and sexuality are complex and can be fluid. An identity isn't always fixed and can change with time for many reasons

2. It is not acceptable to force others to change their gender or sexuality and the mantra that they (queer people) can change if they only "try hard" is both cruel and homophobia and/or transphobia

#queer #lgbt #lgbtq #homophobia #homophobia tw #transphobia #transphobia tw #when i first came out as trans i was told this story about how my dad's therapist had a lesbian client with homophobic parents... #...how her parents were *so close* to coming to terms with her lesbianism and she got a boyfriend and look! she changed so why couldn't you! #the thing that was so fucked up about that story was that it was presented as 'oh you don't know who you are! you'll change!' #and i was never listened to until i went 'so far' in my transness that changing was impractical... #...it never enforced that my sense of self is dynamic but that who i was is something to be 'fixed' #i think a lot of queer people are hostile to the idea of gender/sexuality fluidity because it's framed in such a way... #...that tells them that their queerness will eventually be 'cured'... #...so any notion of 'identity can be fluid' reads like 'your queerness is a flaw and a horrible thing'... #...but that's not the solution to people whose identity has fluctuated and changed... #...it isn't their fault that queerphobes latched onto them as 'case studies' to prove that queerness is curable... #...a queerphobe would latch onto ANYTHING in order to prevent you from living... #...'oh lesbians married men in order to protect themselves? why can't you do that?! why must you insist on marrying a woman?!'... #...that's an example of how they'd just latch onto something else if 'identity is dynamic' didn't exist #the context of 'identity is dynamic' is often one of the most important factors in if it is meant as queer-afirming or not ime

[basofy]

god this was so cringey shut up all you've ever seen regarding women has been a smelly rat in the mirror and distorted photoshopped images of women with big boobees you know nothing

#first of all #spoilers #lisa spoilers #sorry for bullying buddy in this fine afternoon i know it's not her fault but i was thinking about this in the kitchen and laughing #but it feels so out of place cuz buddy's relationship with her gender is nowhere near positive she doesnt even know what gender is #she has the same concept of gender and sex as a cat where it's merely reproductive #all she knows is she is different from everyone cuz of her body #she has never talked to another woman in her life she doesnt know history of feminism #and i doubt so much that anyone told her about it when most people were just thinking about her womb #i think the concept of buddy familiarizing with her gender is AWESOME but we never see this happen we dont see the process #imagine if she said this before saying any opinion #as a woman...i can tell you milk goes before the cereal #god feminism is crumbling #why dont you say something you actually know about like #as an abuse victim. or anything that sounds more casual #which is another thing you can relate to lisa with if you care #(idk if she actually knew lisa's lore or was just messing with buzzo lmaoo) #lisa rpg #also as an additional i like nonbinary buddy...she is just buddy #put buddy in a conversation with queen roger and maybe i'll take this line seriously #lisa ramblings

[squishysquib]

when did we normalise headcanoning real people??

#I've been diagnosed and told my own sexuality multiple times online and like #lowkey my biggest pet peeve #like you don't even know my real name...? and I'M wrong about myself #because you can't see past your own stereotypical view of the world #my fashion interests etc have no effect on what gender I'm attracted to?? what?? #at first it was funny but now it's lowkey annoying #also why do u gaf u don't even know my damn race like #whatever #yap sesh

[slimylittlemaggot]

I love being an out of the closet bisexual in a conservative (with mostly Christian) students, because sometimes you'll have people who are rude and gross (which isn't fun) and then other times you'll have people who aren't out the closet know that they at least have someone else on their side, or people that don't even realize that they aren't straight or cis, and they'll start learning and figuring themselves out and you get to watch that journey and support them through it. Other times you'll have someone who comes from a homophobic family, and are so excited to be able to talk to someone that's LGBTQ+ so they can ask questions and learn about us, and I honestly think that's really sweet <3<3

#lgbtq community #lgbtqia #lgbtq #I just think it's so worth it to deal with gross people so that other people don't feel so alone #I know I really appreciated that my first semester #so I'm really happy that I get to do that for other people #plus #it also helps me get a vibe check on people #if people start avoiding me because I start putting a pride pin on my backpack? #good riddance #I don't want to hang out with you anyway #If someone who comes from a homophobic family wants to ask me questions so they can unlearn that behavior? #YES #I love that and I will gladly help in anyway I can #anyway #all this to say I've recently met a guy who comes from a homophobic family that really wants to learn about the community #and I suspect is also in the closet #just because he has told me a lot that he doesn't really care about the gender of who he's dating #but he also swears that he's straight #so if it turns out that he isn't heterosexual then I hope I get to see him figure himself out

[queer-reader-07]

something about finding the people who sit through your info dumps with joy on their face and enthusiasm for your passions. something about finding the people who info dump right back at you because they know you love hearing about their passions. something about finding the people who manage to sum up your being in one niche, oddly specific sentence that lives in your mind rent free for the rest of time. something about finding the people who not only accept you for who you are but embrace you for who you are. who not only tolerate your quirks and differences but love and cherish them.

#i’m in my feels today if you couldn’t tell #just thinking about one friend in particular who i don’t get to see in person nearly enough but i text all the time #idk it’s the little things #the way we send each other videos of ourselves explaining whatever we’re learning about right now #the way we don’t write it in a long message because the emotion and vibes don’t translate properly #the way he’s told me that the way i dress is so gender nonconforming in his eyes #how even though i’m afab and i wear glittery makeup and crop tops and have pink hair #i still look so queer and so gnc and so Not Girl in his eyes #how that felt so validating #how i could feel the genuine love in his words #how he told me once that i’m ‘not a person with lore but rather a person with a schtick’ #and how he explained to me what my schtick was and how accurate it was #how he told me he can’t wait for me to get my degree(s) and be an openly queer person in stem #how he can’t wait for me to defend my thesis sometime in the future and be wearing the brightest makeup and the biggest earrings #and the tallest boots #how he loves that i go to my chem lab every week with glitter on my eyes #how it’s cool that i don’t care if i stick out like a sore thumb because i’m me #i remember how he dropped the she/her pronouns immediately upon ne saying i didn’t really vibe with them #(even when they were still technically on my list of ‘ok to use pronouns’) #how his boyfriend who i don’t know very well has always they/them-ed me because my friend does #and if my friend is doing it then it must be the right thing #idk i just love my friends #and this friend in particular is someone i’ve gotten really close with over the past 6 months or so #and i’m so glad to have him in my life #platonic love #friendship #tell your friends you love them

[crabussy]

Hi what does the achillean in your profile mean ? Did your mother dip you in a river with questionable pollution control? Does your sulking throw a wrench in the war plans of the Greek alliance? Will future historians describe you and your partner as just friends? Do you hate sandals? What is it?

I’m just like achilles fr (looooves guys so much. and guy adjacent beings) except without the invulnerability. I’m pretty much vulnerable to every material on earth. for example if you hit me with a metal pipe I’d probably get hurt

#ask tag #LOVE HOW THIS IS PHRASED #basically achillean is the masc version of sapphic!!! #so. it’s not exclusively liking men. you can be bi and achillean #it basically just means you have a male aligned gender and you like male aligned individuals #can be masc enbies or fem men or anything (:< 👍 #its a term I really love and feel really fits my experiences!!! #also thanks for being cool about it I got scared when I started reading your ask #because the last person to mention it to me told me they hoped my pets die and that I killed myself for identifying as achillean #weird people out there #anyway!!! it’s not a super well known term

[pariaritzia]

Queerness in Indian Media

↳Film: MAJA MA (2022, Hindi) dir. ANAND TIWARI

Maja Ma follows Pallavi Patel (Madhuri Dixit), a closeted lesbian who gave up her beloved, Kanchan (Simone Singh), decades ago and has since become a devoted mother, housewife, and adored member of her community. While making preparations for her son's (Ritwik Bhowmik) wedding, however, Pallavi is outed to the entire town--and subsequently must deal with the consequences to herself, her former beloved, and her family.

Madhuri Dixit discusses her role in this movie, how movies like this are more possible now because of OTT streaming, and the "unexpected reactions" to the story here.

Madhuri Dixit discusses this movie coming from "a place of love", wanting the LGBTQ community to "feel seen", and "accepting people for who they are" here.

The actress Madhuri Dixit has been in multiple gay and gay-coded media, both as a supportive character and as the gay character herself. She has also been supportive in real life of the LGBTQ community.

#bollywood #maja ma #queerness in indian media #I love how in every interview they're like 'so was it difficult to accept? were you afraid? were you nervous? did you hesitate?' #and every time she INSTANTLY is like 'no not at all. I loved the script. it is a story that needs to be told.' #queen of the gays!! #also if I had a dollar for every time gajraj rao plays the confused husband/father in a movie with gay people I'd have two dollars #which isn't much but it's funny that it's happened twice #anyway I have mixed feelings about some of the side stuff in this movie and the ending felt incomplete and too safe #but I understand that they already took such a big risk with her saying 'lesbian' outright rather than just coding #and then kanchan being gender non conforming in the past #which by the way. that moment during the dance when pallavi accepts that part of her too...[lies down] #it's so rare to see gnc people even in gay media so it was good. #which is why I had to include it in the gifset

[milimeters-morales]

does miles look androgynous (even just a little) to anyone else or am i alone in this vast desert.

#miles morales #spiderman #spider man #m&m posts #damn brooklyn 1610-B your spidey (current) looks gnc asf #personally if i knew absolutely nothing. NOTHING. about spiderman or miles. and you showed me a picture of him in that party outfit and+ #said ‘this is a girl’ i’d be like oh okay. and if you later told me ‘actually miles doesn’t have a confirmed gender’ i wouldn’t + #immediately believe you bc like cmon there’s no way there isn’t public outrage about that but i then would believe you #and if you told me the truth i’d be like ‘wow miles does look like he could be either of those options!’ does anyone get me #And IT HAS TO BE SPECIFICALLY THE OUTFIT HE WORE TO THE PARTY TO BE THE FIRST THING TO SHOW ME WHEN TELLING ME ALL THIS

[punkeropercyjackson]

"We need more m/f ships that aren't heternormative or enforce gender stereotypes!!!"You guys couldn't even handle Todomomo

#NAH CAUSE Y'ALL NIGGAS REALLY THREW THAT WORD AT THEM NONSTOP WITH LITERALLY NO BACKING #point to me at a point in the story-i'll even let you use noncanon stuff-where shouto and momo's genders are brought up to their dynamic #you're gonna be searching forever because that never happened even once.SO MANY scenes of them being good best friends to eachother #and not a single one of them indicated they're in love because he's a boy and she's a girl.they don't give a FUCK about that stop projecting #we're literally told and more importantly SHOWN they're close bc of mutual admiration what sweeties they are to and fun they have together #and that they make make eachother feel understood and NORMAL.'heteronormative' my ass tdmm is the most t4t and autistic4autistic ship ever #lower your voice when you speak about them-especially if you stan hawks' dudebro cop ass and think dabitwice or minajirou are platonic #todomomo my darlings i'm so sorry the bnha fandom treated you so horribly because they couldn't accept that not every m/f ship is cishet #or that not every same gender relathionship is realistically queer instead of stereotyping and f*tishization #todomomo #t4t todomomo #todomomo protection squad #todoroki shouto #momo yaoyorozu #half bangladeshi rei agenda #blasian latina momo #trans todoroki #trans momo yaoyorozu #autistic todoroki #autistic momo yaoyorozu #adhd momo #momo yaoyorozu has ocd #momo yaoyorozu has anxiety #goth punk todoroki shouto #pastel punk momo yaoyorozu #agere flips!todomomo #tea blend crew #bnha geekery #💌 #summerposting

[uncanny-tranny]

One thing I find weird about visibly transitioning is realizing that while you as a human haven't changed in regards to personality or what have you, people's perception of you has, and sometimes that means you'll be treated differently.

I've noticed that as I become more "visibly" male to people, they are much more willing to say that I am "aggressive". Oftentimes, I'm not even doing anything out of the ordinary, I'm acting like I always have, and to be honest, people don't say how I'm being aggressive. It's really jarring because I haven't changed - my personality is the same. But I think what has changed is the fact that I am read as male doing the things I always have, so I'm treated with that lack of nuance.

I bring this up because it's an aspect of transition that can be very difficult, and even dangerous. I wonder, if I'm being seen this way, how are other trans people being seen? These things are important to consider because it can compromise our safety

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #this especially goes for TPoC - many of whom have said exactly what i am saying now (albeit much better) #it's just weird to experience the shift in how people treat you when the core of your being hasn't changed #cis people don't like to admit it but they are *very* weird about visibly transitioning people #before somebody misinterprets this no i am not being aggressive. i am endangering nobody or doing anything threatening when i am told this #i am usually minding my own business or doing work and nobody tells me /how/ i'm being aggressive #and at this point i wonder if part of it is that i am (visibly at this point) male #what i have noticed is that i'm seen both as a safe person and a threat because i'm trans #in that i am safe to be around for certain people because i 'get it' but i am not safe enough to be myself #anyway this is just my thoughts i had at almost 03:00 while my cat is sleeping on me and i'm watching a four hour long video #i already knew that people would treat me different because people are weird about gender but it's still odd go go through

[musclesandhammering]

Real queerbaiting almost always has to do with an individual character’s identity rather than any romantic pairings but y’all aren’t ready to have that conversation.

#‘this show is such queerbait!’ *proceeds to talk about how two dudes didn’t kiss each other* #more often than not it’s 2 dudes the creators have said multiple times do not have romantic feelings for eachother #yet the fans always outright ignore that and act like they’ve been tricked & deceived #when like… no.. they straight up told you this gay ship wasn’t happening #& you just refused to believe them lmao #now if you wanna say ‘this was a missed opportunity to have a queer ship in this show’ then 90% of the time I’ll agree w you! #but there’s a massive difference between #‘I think this would’ve been a good chance to have a queer pairing & im bummed they didn’t take it’ #and #‘I was intentionally queerbaited & these writers hate gay people’ #and most of you guys are just. Unable to understand that #for example: #lokius not being canon was not qb #them butchering Loki’s genderfluidity & not acknowledging his bisexuality after specifically using it in their advertising? #that absolutely was. #destiel wasn’t qb #a missed opportunity to explore angels’ gender & sexuality? yes 100%. #johnlock wasn’t qb. #a missed opportunity to explore Sherlock’s sexuality? Definitely #yall get on my nerves screaming queerbait & crucifying creators as homophobes #just because your shitty no-chemistry-having toxic ass mlm ships didn’t go canon #after you delulu-ed & conspiracy theory-ed yourselves into thinking they would 😒 #queerbaiting #fandom wank #anti destiel #anti johnlock #Loki #homophobia in fandom #johnlock #destiel

[faerociousbeast]

i do think its weird to make egg jokes about people you dont know. i thought the whole thing was to Not assume someones gender current or otherwise?? nd like. you dont know if theyre closeted or questioning or presenting differently or just didnt want to tell you. and they dont owe you that info. if youre really just trying to provide resources or a possibility that someone might be trans ok fine but laughing about it behind someone you dont knows back making jokes isnt... that. ok

#like you are just making so many assumptions there its crazy #1. their current gender 2. that theyve never thought about it 3. that theyve told you shit 4. The Closet #idk #like im closeted irl for safety but i still do things for gender reasons and if someone tried to suggest that they know better than me #about me #id go ballistic #i do in fact like no i dont need your wink wink nudge nudges even if i wasnt closeted what if it isnt any of your business #did you consider that