#spn fangirl problems

[diabolimeservavit666]

Anyone else done this?

Me while watching Big Sky: *distracted AF and only half paying attention*

Beau Arlen: *appears on screen*

Me: *full undivided attention*

Also, is it just me or is his dialogue just like Dean's. Just a thought.

Also, in his first scene, he literally said Dean's catchfrase! Like, WHAT?! And, um, his nicknaming scheme? Tell me that's not something Dean would do. I dare you, tell me it isn't. That hair is sexy AF, thpugh. Okay, I'm going off-topic. *hits post before I embarrass myself any more than I already have* (Screw you, Jensen. NO!)

#beau arlen #jensen ackles #big sky #big sky s3 #dean winchester #spn parallels #spn fangirl problems #when you say screw you and then think about screwing them #his hair is doing seriously naughty stuff to my brain #please send help #im not even a jensen girl #the fuck

[heartbroken-fangirl]

When you're so lonely, you have conversations like this with yourself.

I'll leave it to your imagination what happens next.

(Not going to lie, I'm kinda turned on after putting that together.)

#lonely #talking to myself #fake texts #my vidoes #fangirl life #fangirl problems #guilty feelings #guilty as charged #asmodeus #prince of hell #supernatural #spn season 13 #jeffrey vincent parise #i know i shouldn't love him but i can't help it so sue me

[emilysworldoffandoms]

Taylor Swift Lyrics That Remind Me of Supernatural Part 8

"Your Midas touch on the Chevy door

November flush and your flannel cure"

-“champagne problems” from evermore

(Does this one need an explanation?)

#blogger #fandoms #fangirl #taylor swift #swiftie #champagne problems #evermore #swiftienatural #supernatural #spn #spn family #destiel

[castielmode]

charlie is such a fan stand-in in fic and i think the problem is that she was such a fan stand-in in the show. so it's difficult. to move her from that position and examine her as her own person rather than deangirl fangirl lesbian. which sucks ass because she is so fun but BECAUSE she is so fun people rarely let her be more than fun + appropriately tragic spn backstory. charlie problems with authority never properly explored in the show for example like let her say fuck you

[lol-jackles]

Jensen may get a lead in a The Boys spin off, but honestly that entire franchise feels so "bought" that I won't be all that impressed. I'm not saying it because it's Jensen. Or Kripke. Or a half dozen of our other people. (That's what makes me hold back from being as critical as I'd like.) But I'm honestly tired of Amazon throwing so much money into promo that a short order streaming drop eats up all the creative bandwidth audiences have. Hope for better, but I think TB lead will be what he gets

Amazon has the try-hard vibe going with The Boys promotion, and then turn around and dumped it from it's Emmy campaigns and then the show fizzled out in season 3. My main issues are Kripke can't leave his ego at the door, which affected his writing.

Somebody once asked me how can Kripke be "too problematic" for SPN and "too PC" for The Boys.  Easy, Kripke is the common denominator.  How he treated SPN fans is how he's treating The Boys fans now.  Kripke did a fairly good job of painting SPN fangirls as crazy that shouldn't be listened to.  And now he's doing the same to The Boys fans by painting them as bigoted neckbeards that no one should listen to. It won't matter who actually makes up the shows' demographics, the small percentage of fans who are the way he's stereotyping them will be used to justify away all criticism. And it's like, it's just criticism, it's not like anyone is campaigning to get him fired or end the show, it's just people saying they did or didn't like the season 3 finale or did or didn't agree with a character's motivation.

Kripke seriously needs to stop commenting on the plot points via Twitter or interviews where he tries to insert elements into characters that are not present on screen, worse, it looks more like projections of his own agenda.  For example, he said Hughie was motivated by toxic masculinity to take Compound V.  People who have been watching the show would disagree because Hughie wanted to use it to protect people, meanwhile Kimiko takes the V because "so pure and selfless" but Hughie takes the V to protect people is just being toxic. Uh.. what? If Kripke wants to criticize toxic masculinity then he also shouldn't be a hypocrite about it. But you know what I think about toxic masculinity.  It's the same opinion I have regarding male feminists; it doesn't exist.  Dudes calling themselves male feminists are just pick up artists using it as a short cut through the courting process and getting straight into your pants.  Now apply that to Kripke's motive.

The problem that I think some people have with Kripke is that some of the questionable writing decisions stem from his desires to posture himself a certain way politically.  He said he won't kill off Maeve because he refuses to be "the showrunner that kills off an LGBT character".  And yet he killed Termite because he's not a main character.  He also killed off Noir, a popular Black character.   It all comes off as “I would rather sacrifice the story’s quality to avoid being bullied online by 5 twitter users.”  Writers like this become what they've previously mocked in the past, so Kripke is becoming Vought and focusing on popularity and projections lol.

Then the finale happened and that LGBT character Kripke wouldn't kill off became "Maeve could have beaten Homelander and she can survive falling from a skyscraper without powers because she's gay".   This then retroactively makes Maeve look like she enabled all of Homelander's terrible actions for years thus making her a villain.  Kind of like how destiel-hellers interpreted Cas's goodbye speech in 15x18 as romantic but then it retroactively makes Cas a villain the whole time.

If deconstruction and subversion overtakes good storytelling, then you've failed as a writer.

#Eric Kripke #The Boys

[charcubed]

I keep seeing posts that are like "interpretations of bi!Dean and gay!Dean are equally valid!" and I used to be like, sure, straight!Dean is definitely wrong but beyond that, see him how you want, who cares.

But now (esp after the Last Call script) I just don't understand the gay!Dean truthers? I follow quite a few on sm, and when I initially followed them I was like "they accept Dean is queer, that's good enough for me." But now they're really starting to get to me and it's not really worth arguing about to them, but I wanted to rant to you about it, cuz you get it.

The script literally included "gorgeous women" in the bar. Dean has canonically been sexually AND romantically attracted to women. He's based off THEE bisexual Neal Cassady.

Like I'm not really trying to defend m/w relationships (lol) but why do even queer ppl insist on erasing his identity when it's so clear? Why do they have to take that away?

Gay!Dean in AUs is one thing, but in the actual, textual canon of the show, Dean is bi. And no, gay!Dean and bi!Dean are NOT equally valid interpretations. And I don't think I'm an asshole for saying that 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sorry it took a few days to get to this. Work and life have kept me busy and tired!

Unironically and non-sarcastically, Anon, I'm glad you've seen the light and seem to understand this topic more now. You are, of course, entirely correct. And you're not an asshole for saying it either.

I'm going to take this opportunity to answer your (potentially rhetorical) questions, and also bounce off of you and lay some stuff out about this topic in general at length for the first time–despite the fact that it may turn me into public enemy #1 again. I am already hated for non-combatively voicing these facts on Twitter (this thread tends to be considered one of the "ground zeroes" of the nonexistent "debate" lol), but I have avoided being dog-piled on Tumblr so far, so... fingers crossed I can miraculously keep it that way!

My hope is that anyone who is predisposed to taking this topic very personally just moves on instead of attacking me (or subposting me?) for any of what I'm about to say. I'm also not forcing anyone to read this, before anyone's like "that's way too many words" or "it's not that serious lol."

I do think this topic is important. I've made the decision to publicly spell out why. And if anyone doesn't want to read it, that's their prerogative.

To your questions, Anon:

I think a lot of this comes down to a fandom-wide problem (all fandoms recently, not just SPN) of not understanding the difference between headcanon and canon, the dimensions as to why that distinction does have its uses and its necessity, and the value in both. I'll get into this later.

But in this fandom specifically, based on observation and lengthy conversations I've had with a dozen long-time fans who are my friends... I personally think it's maybe a new dimension of viewpoint that's branched out from a holdover of "all interpretations are valid" being the party line people have clung to a very long time. (That’s also true in other fandoms, but I think it’s especially true here.) It's a form of solace people don't want to deviate from. No one wants to be seen as or feel like the ~jerk~ who's ~invalidating another person's view of canon~ in response to someone else's knee-jerk reaction of hurt. This is a fandom with early-2000s cultural baggage and context, where people dealt with feeling like the "crazy fangirls" who shipped Destiel and dared to call out queer subtext. Misha's "You're not crazy" tweet exists for a reason. I do feel like a lot of well-meaning people–aside from misunderstanding or being ignorant to the analytical roots of this topic and why they absolutely matter–just know what it feels like to have their thoughts on queer content in a show feel "invalidated," and they don't want to be perceived as doing that to other people. And/or: they’ve felt invalidated before (in this fandom or others!), and so they’re hypersensitive to anything they perceive as doing that to them again, especially if they tied personal identity into the projections they’re making onto the media they enjoy.

I understand that people don’t want to seem ~mean~ or make waves. I also don't want to seem mean or be mean, which is why I try to be as clear as possible whenever I talk about this and I never go after people directly (or interact/reference any of the many subtweets from people who openly talk shit about me. haha). But the facts shouldn't be seen as "mean"; they are simply facts. And yes, they absolutely matter.

Because the thing is... none of the above has any bearing on the nuances of the topic at hand, the indisputable fact that Dean is bisexual in canon and that claiming otherwise is erasure, and the truth that none of this should be seen as a threat to people's headcanons. 

These are all things that people should understand, and I will not apologize for knowing that and saying it. Misunderstanding this–making the false claim that “all interpretations of Dean’s sexually are equally valid as long as you see him as queer”–is an act of bisexual erasure in this context, and it often (unintentionally!) plays into biphobic talking points. And yeah, in my opinion, that’s something people should care about because it’s worthy of both personal and fandom examination. It is, in fact, why “representation” matters at all.

Let’s not kid ourselves: the bulk of this fandom-wide discourse is about Bi Dean vs Gay Dean. So, y’know, that’s the bulk of how I’m going to address it to just get it all out there.

Right out the gate, let me clarify this: I am not saying–now or ever–that those who are self-proclaimed “Gay Dean truthers” or argue that “Dean being gay in canon is a valid interpretation” are deliberately coming from a place of malice and the intent to contribute to bisexual erasure. By all means, I’m sure most aren’t! Nonetheless, intent does not equal impact. I’ve even seen people say “I’m a Gay Dean truther and I’m bisexual, so how could I possibly be contributing to bi erasure by arguing for Gay Dean?”  But in this situation–as in any other–no one is immune from unwittingly perpetuating harm, even including bi people. And it’s important to understand why that is.

“Interpretations” are not opinions, not all are equal, and they do require some level of skill. This is not a personal attack, or a moral judgement on anyone, or somehow a threat to people’s enjoyment of a favorite character. It is just fact.

Gay Dean is not a valid possibility in canon. There is no lens that justifies an argument of it with canonical basis. I have to break down why, in order to sufficiently express why claiming otherwise is a harmful position to take, so bear with me.

(No, this is not an invitation for a Gay Dean truther to treat this like a “debate” with me or waste time writing out a counterargument. Please just exit the tab if you’re somehow here battling that urge.)

For someone to say that Dean is gay in canon, here is an incomplete list of what has to be erased, ignored, or explained away:

• His sexual attraction to, romantic love for, and relationship with Cassie.

• His sexual attraction to, romantic love for, and relationship with Lisa (whether or not one thinks she was ever the ~ultimate love of his life~, attraction and love were present.)

• His stash of and enjoyment of porn that includes women, which is referenced many times.

• The moments where he was seduced by a female-presenting monster.

• Each and every time he made a reference to or joke about his attraction to women.

• Any fling he ever had with a woman on screen, and the enjoyment he had in the process.

The man is canonically sexually and romantically attracted to women, and he has acted upon that and even enjoys that about himself in wildly diverse contexts. It is a blatant part of the text of the show. (The fact that we are at the point where this is somehow a main point of contention rather than his attraction to men does make me feel a tiny bit insane, to be honest.)

Now, in my experience (which I don’t claim is comprehensive!), the people who argue for Gay Dean tend to explain ALL of this away under some form of universal umbrella of Dean being “performative,” a variation on compulsive heterosexuality they ascribe to him. The claim or explanation tends to be that Dean was performing a mostly-faked attraction to women based on his father’s expectations and outward pressures he received in the culture of his life. Moments are often cherry-picked out of context to support this “reading.” 

Who is Dean supposedly performing FOR, even in the moments where he acts on his attraction to women when he is alone? How does this explain his significant relationships with women like Cassie and/or the legitimate visible enjoyments he received from those interactions, as well as his flings with women throughout the show? How does this explain things like the Last Call script, where Dean is very clearly written as attracted to “gorgeous women,” a factoid that is not only very clear on screen but also (of course) written in literal black and white?

(There are no sufficient answers to these rhetorical questions. Once again: please do not waste time trying to give me any.)

And what evidence are Gay Dean people using for comphet or performative Dean? The “evidence” is often a misread of canon, pointing towards the consistent theme and false goal presented in the text of the show of characters’ efforts to strive for an “apple pie life,” aka a heteronormative ideal family. Gay Dean people misrepresent what this theme and through-line in the show is actually about, which is the totality of learning to accept your life rather than striving for something ill-fitting, that what you need and want need not be mutually exclusive (family life including fulfilling romance + hunting life can coexist), family is what you make of it and how you define it, and there are no true limitations on what all of this “should” be. While these themes are inherently queer, they are not about narrow performances of masculinity, femininity, or sexual identity, but about making space for ALL forms of all of the above–AND about identifying what it is that one wants and thinks they can’t have.

Namely, for Dean, that’s a version of settling down in a life that fulfills him in every direction, with an open and honest mutual relationship with the person he is in love with. This latter point would be true whether Cas was a man or a woman (though the fact that he is a man of course adds further dimension of interest to the story). Dean doesn’t think he can have a romantic relationship / family that lasts, and by later seasons that yearning is a key part of his character. The times it didn’t work out for him weren’t because those other people were women, but rather because the “lesson” he internalized from traumatic instances of loss is that hunters don’t get to do ~the love thing~ or get the settled down life. This is stated in the text of the show multiple times, and that’s also why Dean seeing examples of hunters who made any kind of balanced life work (especially masculine queer hunters like Jesse and Cesar) is pointed and purposeful. To say it’s about comphet instead (with no sufficient canon evidence that supports that) disregards a key point that’s central to Supernatural’s story, and in my opinion it disregards it to its detriment.

For Dean’s journey in particular, it is about freedom from limitations of structure, and knowing that he contains multitudes. The things he got from John–loving classic rock and loving his car, for example–are no less core joyful parts of Dean simply because they originated from his father. Dean can love classic rock and still occasionally love a Taylor Swift song, for example. He can love cowboy movies and manly movies, and also enjoy chick-flicks. It’s the idea of learning that there are no limitations, not that masculine interests are not inherently something he loves for himself or that aren’t important parts of his identity. It’s an expansion to openly include more, not a switch or a narrowing. The same applies to his sexual attraction and his queer identity. He can be attracted to cowboys and bikers, and also be attracted to gorgeous women. Him being attracted to / loving women does not mean he cannot and does not feel attraction and love for men; likewise, him being in love with a man does not mean he wasn’t and isn’t attracted to women. 

(“Last Call,” as an episode, exists in part to drive the totality of these points home, and emphasize that Dean’s attraction to men is something he’s known about himself for most of his life and acted on previously. So is most of the queercoding and queer subtext applied to Dean–which is specifically coding him as bisexual. His attraction to men is sometimes established or made clear because it echoes his attraction to women, etc. etc. Dean’s canonical attraction to men is a whole other post.)

So here we come to why saying otherwise and trying to shoehorn a comphet narrative onto Dean in canon is harmful:

Aside from the fact that to claim Dean’s joyful attraction to women is performative is to cut out chunks of the story and is thus not supported by canon, and it relies on making assumptions about and projecting onto the text… unintentionally or not, the implication is that bisexuality is not queer enough, or that being gay is somehow “queerer” and thus more compelling and a preferred concept, and that attraction to different genders is a heterosexual / straight trait requiring removal. No one is queering a text in a more revolutionary way or unlocking a ~secret good Supernatural~ by making a bisexual man into a gay man. That’s simply not how this works.

“Preferring” an argument for Gay Dean in canon requires explaining away or misreading all of those moments Dean has with women, essentially replacing them with trauma or suffering or discomfort that–in my observations–also sometimes rely on stereotypes of gay men. It also involves potentially preferring to twist them into behaviors Dean must have universally put himself through not out of genuine joyful desire but at minimum because he felt like he “should” or at maximum in an attempt to “fix” his “gayness,” even when no one was watching. And it points to the pressures Dean experienced about living a life that fit him fully–pressures that exist not just in his world, but also in our patriarchal world and society–and it implies that queer people can’t authentically experience attraction or love to someone of a different gender, because maybe they’re actually just “performing” the heteronormative ideal. As in: a “visually queer” relationship is the end goal, right? For Dean, that’s an m/m relationship... so surely m/f matters less, or maybe it can’t be a genuine and significant part of a queer person’s life.

Once again: I do not think any of this is intentional on the part of Gay Dean truthers, nor do I think it’s done with malice. Nonetheless, these harmful biphobic viewpoints permeate these conversations and misconceptions when people say these arguments are valid.

There is no canonical basis for explaining away all of Dean’s moments with women, and the story does not provide or point to any kind of cohesive narrative reason to do so. YES, people absolutely experience comphet in real life, and those experiences are valid and exist. YES, real gay men can and do sleep with or have nuanced romantic relationships with women before realizing they’re gay later in life. No, that does not mean that’s how analysis of a fictional character in a fictional story always works, especially in regards to a story built over time like Supernatural’s unique approach and the way it was molded to place queerness and specifically bisexuality at the core of Dean’s story.

Ascribing comphet to Dean in canon–or making any other insufficient justification for explaining away his attraction to women–is personal projection. And yes, it is bisexual erasure.

This is not a position fueled by personal hurt for me, as I would say the same here whether or not I was personally bisexual. It is an acknowledgement that these conversations don’t exist in a vacuum, and that’s something everyone should care to understand. I know what comphet storylines look like in fiction, and I know they are worth defining as such, and in other fandoms I even defend that very loudly. This is not the case here, and to say it is requires mental acrobatics that are objectively unsupported by canon... and invariably insisting otherwise perpetuates one of these harmful biphobic viewpoints whether or not one realizes it.

To say Gay Dean is a legitimate read of canon–which it is not–supports people who are erasing his varied sexual and romantic attraction to a different gender simply because they’ve decided they want to ignore that. “I like the idea of Dean being gay” does not mean that he is gay in canon, and writing meta to that end is a problem. It’s not an invalidation of someone on a personal level or some weird variation of homophobia to say that, and I do think people should maybe examine why they seemingly like the idea of him being gay more than him being bi, or why they staunchly defend it (or any other “different queer reading”) as a possibility. 

I understand there may be the urge to be like “is it that serious” or “this is just a CW show,” but to that I would say… then why are we all here?

Clearly, most people do still care about queer representation on some level and understand that queer subtext is present and acknowledge that Dean isn’t straight... hence the origin of this new prevalent concept of “as long as you say Dean’s queer then it’s fine.”

But in any piece of media, the text is the text is the text. The text can also be compelling, and fascinating, and contain value whether or not it’s an exact reflection of you personally as a fan and as a person. Sometimes there is arguably even greater value in being able to find reasons to relate to the humanity of a character or in a story even though elements differ from who you are personally. It is an exercise in empathy, and it is a pillar of why humans tells stories to each other to expand our viewpoints, and it sometimes results in examining the sources of that empathy. It’s why “representation matters”: not just so we can see ourselves, but so we can see others, and find reason to empathize despite differences. There’s unquantifiable power in that, and it’s also why the diversity of queer experiences and identities should be championed and acknowledged both in fiction and in reality, not turned into a monolith. Our solidarity amongst our individual queer differences and identities is our truest version of strength and authenticity. We are not all exactly the same, and that’s a good thing. When care is taken to specifically convey that in fiction, it is worth not only acknowledgement but also defense.

So: do we or do we not care about why representation is important, and why these sorts of conversations should exist at all? About censorship of queer storylines, and diversity in the queer community, and solidarity in differences? About bisexual men, a vastly underrepresented group in fiction, and the specific censorship that affected Dean’s bi story accordingly? And about how these viewpoints people can place onto fiction through fandom-wide conversation–like implying Dean is ~queerer~ if you say he’s gay, or that you’re somehow sticking it to the CW and “straight culture” if you suggest he’s gay–can influence biphobia that translates into ways people see bi people in real life?

In other situations even in this fandom, people understand the value of diverse queer experiences. No one would dare to say that “you can argue Charlie is bisexual in canon because as long as you say she’s queer it’s fine.” Charlie is a lesbian. It’s very, very clear, and she shows and states that she is only attracted to women. Dean’s attraction to women in canon is equally clear, and is part of his bisexuality. Why is erasing that defendable?

Look: it is people’s God-given right to write whatever fic they want about “what if” variations of Dean’s sexuality through a different lens. It is not their God-given right to make things up about canon and call it analysis.

It is a universal truth that fandom is always going to take canon and mold it into other versions that they love, for their own personal reasons and in ways that have value to them. That’s why transformative works like fic exist, and it’s why fandom is awesome, and I’m glad people use aspects of their favorite stories to tell other inspired stories that are of personal significance to them. But the word transformative is used for a reason: it’s an alteration of canon. It’s not a bad thing or a personal attack on people to say that.

There is a difference between understanding canon and writing actual meta / analysis of the show, and writing AUs for ones own enjoyment and fulfillment. (This is true on AO3 or on Tumblr/Twitter. I often see posts that are positioned as “meta,” but again, are just cherry-picked weirdness.) These differences are important, as is understanding how headcanons and fic affect surrounding conversations and fandom perceptions. And this fandom seems to have a very big problem with understanding the difference between these things, while taking it extremely personally in a negative way when people try to explain why the difference matters.

Confusing analysis and transformative fandom does a disservice to both, and denying the value in the former is not only a form of anti-intellectualism but also removes some of the beauty in the latter. If we can’t distinguish and differentiate between canon and headcanon, we can’t discuss the value in understanding the canon, nor adequately discuss the artistic value and power in creating derivative variations from it in personal ways. Both are different, both are equal, both are vital, and insisting the distinction is needless hampers conversation across every space. And nowhere is that more true than when one is discussing queer representation and queer censorship, like in the case of Supernatural. Again, why are we here? Why do we care? You cannot argue for and discuss the problems of censorship sufficiently if you don’t understand what was censored–and in Dean’s case, that was his love for Cas and his bisexuality.

I leave you with this (probably unneeded) analogy:

Imagine Dean’s a zebra.

(Sorry, EDS community; not that kind of zebra.)

People are trying to say “Dean is a black and white hoofed mammal <3″ and well, that’s accurate, but that doesn’t mean him being a zebra isn’t its own unique thing. A whole bunch of people are looking at him though and saying “well I prefer to say that Dean’s a black and white horse,” because they like that viewpoint better. Close enough, right? A black and white horse is basically a zebra, right? And then there’s the people who are like “I think Dean’s a cow!” and it’s like, okay, no idea where you came from, but whatever.

The point is that those are all entirely different fucking things. They’re different animals. Someone wanting Dean to be a black and white horse doesn’t make him less of a zebra. Pretending otherwise is absolute nonsense.

This debate/discussion/discourse is equally nonsensical. That is the logic (or illogic) that applies here.

Just because Dean is “queer” doesn’t mean any queer categorization underneath that umbrella suddenly equally applies.

Dean is bisexual. And he is “queer” because he’s bisexual.

Those are the facts. 

And for the love of God, please... I really don’t think I’m an asshole for saying it.

So, to whoever made it this far: please do me the courtesy of not hating me for it or trying to bait me into a fight. 

I’m tired. Thanks.

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EDIT: Couple of good additions!

•  @doctorprofessorsong added some good details about how some of these harmful biphobic concepts translate to real life, and real things that bi people struggle with.

• A lesbian anonymously sent in her perspective as someone who enjoys gay Dean headcanons/fic and agrees with this post, and agrees that the fact that Dean is bi in canon is important.

#dean winchester #supernatural #dean is bi #bisexual dean winchester #HAHA I TOLD MYSELF I WASN'T GOING TO PUT THIS IN THE OFFICIAL TAGS BUT THEN I SPENT HOURS WRITING IT SO FUCK IT #[slaps target on my back and cries] haha here we go #I'm not linking it on twitter though. I don't have that level of masochism in me. maybe this will fly under the radar on here a bit? #spn meta #I take a marijuana level of high road on twitter constantly but fun fact I'm not immune to knowing people hate me for daring to say this #doesn't change the facts though! and unfortunately I do actually give a fuck! even if few others do #maybe this is so long no one will read it #char writes things #also I did absolutely plagiarize myself in parts of this. what about it. ok I'm done goodbye.... screams #PS people CAN reblog this btw. I am being a little baby wincing at potential backlash preemptively but like #I wouldn't have posted it and left reblogs on if I didn't know and accept the risks <3 I will speak the truth idc idc someone's gotta do it #EDIT: I stopped being a coward and posted it on twitter :) because fuck it! I stand by my words etc etc it's all fine #me vs adding to the tags as if anyone's reading them lmfao

[loveronlineee]

IM CLEANING OUT MY TAG LIST

Hello you lovely lot!

As my account has been growing, I’ve been finding it harder and harder to keep up with my tag list

I went from adding people through comments, to DMs and my inbox, to now just my inbox.

There’s also a lot of tags on the list that don’t even work and I never got a follow up message about fixing that so, I’m doing a little clean up.

I’m gonna delete all the tags that don’t work and also (here’s the important part)

I am going to delete all of you that do not respond to this post saying you want to stay on it

You have until Sunday! If not a lot of people have responded by then, I’ll extend it another week.

Don’t worry if you get deleted! Just ask to be added back it’s no problem.

Thank you for reading! 

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#Willow’s Warbles

[ingravinoveritas]

If GT got the tattoo in 2010, then it was 2 years into the relationship, not months. They met in 2007 and started dating in 2008. They said he wasn't sure about the longevity of her affections due to age difference, maybe it was her way to reassure him. Also, all this does sound like typical fangirls being jealous of a spouse and villifying her thing. You know, what SPN & some other crazy fandoms are known & mocked for? Do you really need to be seen like that?

Hello, Anons. I expected some pushback in response to the Anon I answered last night, but I feel that some of what I’ve said has been misconstrued, so I’d like to respond with the hope of clearing a few things up.

Firstly, I believe I did inadvertently get the timeline wrong of when Georgia got the tattoo of David’s name, so 2010 is not the correct year. Georgia did, however, apparently get the tattoo right after their first date (additional information can be found here). So I apologize for my confusion regarding the timeline.

Secondly, I realize some folks may not have been following me for long, but one thing to know about my blog is that I have always tried to provide a balanced perspective when it comes to these topics. I’d like to direct your attention to this post, which was the first Anon I ever answered about Georgia-related “discourse.” This was in 2020, and as you can see from my response, I defended Georgia, and had no problem with her. If you’ve read any of my other responses to Anons, you know that I take my time and think carefully about everything I write, and that nothing is done to “attack” anyone, but rather to promote civil and respectful discussion of these issues.

The opinions I have formed of Georgia over the past three years developed as I’ve learned more about Georgia and about her and David’s relationship, and are based not on rumors, but on factual information (i.e., things Georgia herself has said and done). What I wrote yesterday in response to that Anon is also the result of that, and of having genuine concerns. And what perturbs me is that simply stating facts and trying to have a rational discussion is now being equated with “vilifying” someone, which is not at all what I believe I did.

There are a lot of reasons why people come to my blog to talk about these things. Could some people be jealous? That’s certainly possible. But I think that tends to be a narrative that is easy for people to believe, whereas the truth--that some of us are coming from a genuine place of concern because we’ve been in relationships very much like Georgia and David’s and recognize the red flags in certain behaviors--is more difficult to accept.

Speaking for myself, as hot and thoroughly appealing as I find David to be, I can’t say that I am jealous of Georgia, or that my thoughts and opinions come from a place of jealousy. I have also seen firsthand what happens in fandoms when significant others are put on pedestals and viewed as “untouchable” and incapable of doing anything wrong, and how harmful it can be, and that is something I have and continue to strive to speak out against.

Folks are of course welcome to disagree with me, and I will never shy away from sharing dissenting opinions on my blog. That’s what healthy discussion and learning and growing is all about, after all. Nor can I stop anyone from resorting to personal attacks and insulting me, but by doing so, you’re not really making the point you think you are.

Rather than tell you to “seek help,” however, I would encourage you to read through my blog, including my #georgia tennant tag, to see the previous anons I have answered. That people continue to message me (both anonymously and via DM) about Georgia seems to speak to a need for these discussions, and consequently, I will continue to have them on my blog, and to give others the space to share their thoughts, too.

I hope you can start to understand the place we are coming from and engage in these exchanges with the rest of us, but if not, it costs absolutely nothing and takes no time at all to just scroll on by...

#anonymous #reply post #david tennant #soft scottish hipster gigolo #georgia tennant #i knew the hater anons would be incoming but damn #i can't even with this nonsense #the fact that i even gotta respond to this #it always seems like the words 'jealous' or 'hater' are thrown out to shut down discussion #but as i've said before and will again #that doesn't work here #i'd rather look like a 'bad' fan and talk about the reality of the situation #than look like a 'good' fan by ignoring it #discourse

[stusbunker]

The Gambler just came on my Supernatural playlist and now I am tearing up over BOBBY FUCKING SINGER.

#bobby singer #i miss my hunter dad #jim beaver #spn fangirl problems

[diabolimeservavit666]

This image is so unfair...

Scrolling through Twitter and this pops up. Great, some of my needs just rose from their grave. I need to write a fanfic, now.

Also, saw this. Which pairs well with the fantheory about Gabriel and Anna being close as Hell before he left Heaven. It's adorable.

Rich and Jerry are up to some bad things on Twitter, right now. Well, since the last time I've been on. Elon Musk might be trying to turn the old dumbster fire into something far worse. But, at least, men like these two exist. My Golden Boys. Fans would get the reference.

#jerry trimble #ramiel #richard speight jr #gabriel #julie mcniven #princes of hell #archangels #seraphims #heaven #supernatural headcanons #spn fangirl problems #fangirls got needs #and i need to write a fanfic #thanks for that jerry #might write one for rich and julie as well #im thinking big bro watching over her human self as a child #im going to get depression #hell who am i kidding #it never left #at least they make twitter worth it #the golden boys #anna milton

[cruellilcookie]

There is a guy at school. He is my brothers friend. we were coming inside from chorus one day and I hear something along the lines of, "It isn't exactly easy to binge, 15 seasons 20 some episode each." At this point I turn around and ask if they are talking about SPN. His reply is yes. We discussed some spn stuff until we separate to go back to seats.

#spnfandom #spn crack #spnfamily #supernatural #supernatural memes #fangirl #fangirl problems #marry me #fanboy #sam winchester #dean #dean winchester #sam #winchester brothers #winchester

[louielle]

When someone says 'Kas' i have a serious problem deciding if they meant Cas or Kaz

#fangirl problems #that's what happens when you're in too many fandoms yk #supernatural #six of crows #spn #soc #castiel #kaz brekker

[angelfishofthelord]

#actual photographic evidence of me #writer problems #fiction writer #fanfic writer #fanfic writing #spn fangirl

[thatspace-ace]

List of people who deserved better:

-Dean Winchester

-Castiel

-The Dog

-Adam

-Charlie

What a waste of a season...the last 20 minutes was the only good part imo...

#spnfandom #spnfinale #supernatural #supernatural finale #destiel #deanwinchesterdeservedbetter #spn 15x17 #fangirl problems #slight spoilers #supernaturalseriesfinale #spn series finale

[heteroflexiblecastiel]

spn fandom is actively batshit but like. i get it. like looking at the source material.... how could it be any other way. the insane levels of hostility, the unrepentant "entitlement" directed at creators, the complete lack of shame whilst being infamous public nuisances on the internet. like the show sucks so bad, and in such specific ways, that the corresponding ways in which the fandom sucks just like... feels natural. feels organic

#not to say i don't have problems and like. depending how wide u cast ur net #spn Fandom is a cesspit in many respects. #but like in general it does make sense to me how this particular fandom got to be like #the superfreaks AMONGST the freaks of the internet. the infamous Annoying Crazy Fangirls #spn

[fangirlforlife97]

I haven't even seen tonight's SPN episode yet and I'm stressing so hard!!!!! I've seen more than one post where fans are losing faith and don't think the writers will actually make destiel canon and that there isn't enough time to anymore. I'm a nervous wreck, my heart is beating fast, my stomach feels funny, I'm overthinking, stressing and panicking, frankly I feel ill. It doesn't help that I'm already irritated, sad, disappointed and stressed that Zutara wasn't endgame.

A part of me always knew there was a huge possiblity they wouldn't and I'm trying to hold on to hope that they still could but I'm losing faith and it really sucks!! I know some people might think it's weird or stupid to get so invested into a fan pairing or fictional characters that it makes you feel ill but I can't help it, its how I am. There's still some hope but man it's hard hoping for canon destiel anymore!!!! If they don't become canon I'm gonna be so mad and upset and heartbroken, a bundle of emotions that's for sure. The writers will look like a bunch of assholes for queerbaiting this long, if that's all it was!!???? I imagine many people will feel exactly how I would feel. As if 2020 didn't suck enough already!!

#destiel #supernatural #spn season 15 #zutara #I LOVE THEM BOTH SO MUCH 😭♥️ #anxiety struggles #stupid anxiety #i've got hella anxiety #fangirl problems