Of all the flags I've made, the dawn lesbian flag is my favorite. I think it's beautiful, I like the color symbolism that I chose, and I like that it's reminiscent of more popular lesbian flags in its color palette while still having originality (and sharing most similarities with other designs that I've made). I like that it goes beyond pink into purple and beyond orange into yellow, broadening the spectrum of inclusion.
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i don't think many people will see this and I don't care I just feel like I need to say this, for myself and others.
I love my labels. I love smiling when i think of them. I love the euphoria they bring. They help me understand myself. And I really don't know where I'd be without them. I love being defined.
And I have no grievances with anyone who prefers to remain unlabeled, but no one can separate me from them.
But it still fucking hurts when they try to.
I've come out to my mom as queer. Queer, that's it, no specifics. I haven't shared my exact identities with many people irl, bc as I learn more about myself and my queerness and learn more identities, they will probably change. Anyway, a few hours after I casually explained what I meant by calling myself a fruit to my mom, she suddenly looked at me and said she didn't see why I needed a label. She doesn't see why I need to call myself queer, can't I just be myself? She doesn't see why I need to make it my identity.
She said the same thing when I explained what aromantic is to her, and I didn't even let on that I am on that spectrum, let alone the ace and the nb spectrum. She was upset with just the label queer.
I told her that some people do not want or like labels, but some people do. And for a long time before I discovered my identities, I had been struggling, and through these identities, I found myself and helped me realise that I'm not broken.
To me, it sounded like she would rather I feel broken than acknowledge my differences.
And that's not even taking into account the dismissing of the celebration and pride encompassed by the word queer, and that it is a privilege to be able to say it with pride. I can say these things, I'm happy with my place in the community. At the same time, so many queer siblings suffered for literally thousands of years in Western civilisations (that is a very generalised statement btw). now we have a community and more respect and understanding.
So it kind of hurt. I was thinking about coming out to some people as agender, but I don't know if that will happen for a while now.
If anyone actually read this far, thanks for listening, it means a lot :)
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