#nonmonogomous

[irisesinyoureyes]

i feel like i'm in monogamy conversion therapy. like is polyamory just the new bad thing people with conservative values want us to stop doing.

idk i feel not monogamous enough nor polyamorous enough. i think i want sexual monogamy but queerplatonic relationships and non-sexual physical affection with friends. i don't see what's so wrong with that. but my current therapist seems to think that's bad.

i think the reason i was emotionally abused in my last relationship was because i was so isolated. i felt like i couldn't tell anyone i was in an open relationship for fear of being judged and cut off. but in not being open about what i was doing in my relationships, i was manipulated.

this just feels like the thing parents say when you come out to them "i don't want your life to be hard." and it's like, yeah you know who makes it hard? unsupportive people. if we offer more support and resources to people who are figuring things out maybe those people wouldn't have such a hard life.

ughh idk i'm just annoyed rn

#enm #ethical non monogamy #polyamory #monogamy vs polyamory #non monogamy #nonmonogomous #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #relationship anarchy #ra #cnm #poly #non hierarchical relationships #relationship structure #support #queer support

[ramblingsofanewb]

Since i last posted, my partner has been going through a mental health crisis and needed to feel safe and secure. We agreed to have all non monogamous and relationship work pause for the time being. Im maintaining a platonic relationship with this other person. Its difficult. I feel sad about them slipping away. Im definitely working through some feelings about it. Mostly I just feel lonely. And horny lol. But Im sure thats just the T.

#polyamorous #polyam #polyamory #dating #poly #poly advice #non monogamy #polylife #nonmonogamy #poly questions #nonmonogomous #non monogomous #crushes

[kyrlazasmorcota]

Today I'm writing as Kashi (My Masc Side),

Heya Everyone! The kitsune is just going to ramble at ya for a bit! ^_^ For this first post after my introduction post, I'd like to talk about a few things that are important to me. Not going to go too deep in this first post, but just a little bit at least and what it really means to me. These are things mentioned in my introduction post, I just wanted to go into a few things a little more.

POLYAMORY This is something that has become something really important to me, it's something that is fairly new to me too. Just like with being many letters of the LGBTQ+ it was something I felt long before I even knew it. I being polyam as a part of my identity as closely as being part of the LGBTQ+ and I'm not thoroughly sure how a lot of people feel on the manner. It's something that's really important to me, there's a lot that gets misconstrued about polyam and not a lot of people outside the community is really educated on it, so misinformation is pretty wild. I guess for me, I never had an attachment to exclusivity in an relationship and even longed for more connections. Having more deeper connections where everyone was on the same page, I didn't have that clear picture of what it was before I learned of polyam, but when I did learn of it, I knew that was what I was feeling. It isn't a choice for me, I need to have the option to have more connections, It's a part of my identity...I AM POLYAMOUS right down to my core ^^

MY THING I mentioned in my introduction post that my life motto is: Life Is Too Short To Be Normal! That's something I want to try to live by the best that I can. I've been working on goofy things to do online and other places as well. I'm not even sure how some of these things even got started like being The High Priestess/Sage/Priest Of The Great Shiny! All obey the Great Shiny! Came from really ^^ Among other things, I've been putting things up elsewhere as well, have been in the past and in the present....Will do in the future as well, working on whatever else I can do. But even in IRL, I want to try to live by this motto, I think it's a good one ^_^

Anyway! I hope you enjoyed the rambling! Here's some dark cookies provided by the Rainbow Goblins! Obey the Great Shiny! And all that! From the Priest of The Great Shiny! ^_^ Much Love From Kashi Of The Craziness!! ^_^

#polyamory #polyam #motto #trans man #genderfluid #transmasc #lgbtq+ #polyamarous #nonmonogamy #nonmonogomous #Kyrla Zasmorcota #Kashi Zasmorcota #Lun Zasmorcota #Life #Identity #relationship #love #connections #meaning

[thirstghosting]

I rlllyyyy wanna set up my work husband with this local I have a crush on......they're totally each others type I just dont know how to set them up......my flirtation style is stalking.........

#but theyre both into pokemon and theyre both nonmonogomous and super hot and alt and addicted to caffeine #they both post selfies like every day #my only fear is she migjt steal from him

[androgynealienfemme]

"Raging Butch Publisher: The Lesbian Tide Meanwhile, life on my own newspaper, the Lesbian Tide, was a study in lesbian contradiction and feminist paradox. How did a raging butch get to be publisher of the nation's premiere lesbian-feminist paper of the seventies? Like much of the turbulent seventies, it was a dialectic accident. I snuck in the back door.

In 1971, when DOB abbreviated my "communist" (Women against the War) presidency, they offered me the booby prize of remaining on the Board of Officers by holding the lowest position- newsletter editor. I accepted. I'd been editor of my high school paper; I knew the power of the press. From here, as Marx would say, it was just a hop, skip, and a job as this editor collided with herstory. I changed the name of my four-page mimeograph from the DOB Newsletter to the Lesbian Tide, because I could feel the tide of herstory changing. The whole world was.

Realizing its mistake, the DOB membership soon voted me and my communist tide out of the organization. Politically, I'd been gone for months already. But I was now free to invite my lesbian-feminist soul mates onto the staff.

The makes of the not-so-collective Tide Collective reflected the infra-chaos of our movement. In addition to my paradoxical self, there was an archetypical lesbian-come-lately (from heterosexuality) feminist femme, co-editor Sharon McDonald; our very own politically correct Vassar white girl, Shirl Buss (who later processed her own organization, White Women against White Women against White Women against Racism, to death); an old-gay femme, Barbara Gehrke, a former navy woman who thought women's liberation meant changing laws to make women free (poor dear!); and a bisexual, Cheri Lesh, who also must have crept in some window simply because she was a great writer. Lesh taught me that there were indeed a small percentage of human beings who did not find gender a factor in sexual attraction.

My ten-year indenture, 1970 to 1980, to the Tide and this outrageous family of women helped me survive lesbian-feminism. With our Vassar analysis editor, Buss, I completed my studies in lesbian-feminist language: androgynous was synonym for butch; cheating on your lover was called "having a nonmonogomous relationship"; and "role-playing" was "consciousness raising." Learning all these new things was called "networking" or "skill building" depending on the environment you were studying. And, of course, fighting for your identity, even unsuccessfully, was called "processing."

As the undercover butch publisher of the Lesbian Tide, I edited major features such as "Are Roles Really Dead?" and quoted myself as the anonymous "Marianne" (pretty femme, pretty clever) - defender of the now ancient heritage of butchdom. I survived through coups and controversy, not the least of which was whether the Lesbian Tide was a "lesbian-feminist" publication or a "feminist lesbian" publication.

Lesbians of the nineties might rightly wonder why their foremothers spent three years in this ridiculous semantic debate when they could have been proclaiming "Queer Power" on the "Donahue Show." What can I say? It seemed important at the time. I was a dyke long before I learned to spell feminism, so I was adamant that no Jennie-Come-Lately politic was going to give my lesbianism second billing as a descriptive adjective. i was not just a feminist who happened to be a lesbian. That would be as silly as calling myself a butch feminist. Somewhere in my gut I knew feminism had both saved me and shoved me back into the closet. Feminism rescued women, but it subverted lesbianism."

Butches, Lies, and Feminism" by Jeanne Cordova, The Persistent Desire, (edited by Joan Nestle) (1992)

#the persistent desire #Jeanne Cordova #Joan nestle #lesbian #lesbianism #butch history #butch lesbian #lesbian history #lesbian feminism #lesbian feminist history #lgbtq+ #lgbt history #gay history #queer history

[uncertaincelestial]

🖤 I’m Victoria!!

🖤 I’m Bi, Trans, and NonMonogomous!

🖤 I’m married, but he knows I’m here!

🖤 I’m socially unreliable but you can try!

🖤 Don’t message if you’re a Cis Man, thanks!

[skincareroutine]

my fav thing to talk to myself just to be clear i do this when im alone. i try to say stuff like. “we’re in a consenting nonmonogomous foursome and half of us are vegan” i try so hard to keep a straight face

[t3st0st3rone]

I am transgender and nonbinary. I prefer they/them pronouns but am okay with others most of the time. Mostly attracted to women, sometimes other nonbinary people. I am masc, and I am mostly into fem individuals. I am polyamorus and nonmonogomous.

I am technically a switch, and reblog things that show this, but irl I am msotly dominant, even with most if my partners. Very few people could ever dom me. And I'm definitely not looking for ppl on Tumblr to dom me.

I will not be dating you if you are heterosexual, just bc I reblog content posted by heterosexuals. I prolly won't respond to most DMs anyway, but especially to anyone tryna dominate me.

I'm not attracted to men at all. Men (cis or trans) can follow and repost, but if you message me for romantic or sexual things, ESPECIALLY trying to dom me, I will block you. I reblog kinky things that turn me on, not bc I'm attracted to the men in the posts. Irl, any involvement I have with men, I am always dominant. I am not interested in romance with men.

I'm not a sissy. Anyone who messages me calling me that will be blocked, regardless of gender. Same with detrans or anything like that.

#me #personal #dom/sub #nsft #queer nsft #trans nsft

[lickithrice]

Are you and your partner poly and/or nonmonogomous?

Nope. Been solidly dating for 5 months now. It’s something I’ve wondered if he’s cared about as he also likes girls. So, I sometimes play with the thought of us having a girlfriend. 😆 but like really, I’m just being extra.

#anon #about me

[confirmedcannibal]

Callout: @mothheart

Ok this is going to be a three parter because this "bestie" of mine has me fucked up.

Part 1: Boundaries

It's almost like Ceceil respects my boundaries. It's kinda fucked up. As a tumblr user you should push other people to be uncomfotably but here we have a user who dorsny do yhat?? Um what the fuck???

Part 2: Shipping

Ships their OCs with mine from time to time. Sorry bestie but my characters in an open relationshop don't want to be nonmonogomous! Sorry!

Part 3: Inconsistency

You claim your name is Miles yet just let me call you Cecil. Which is it??

So boytom line don't follow this tumblr user thnx

#charlie chats

[corneliushickey]

Can I just say I'm REALLY angry over how dirty they did Laenor. Let's not forget it's not just racism and dismissing him as a parent because of adoption it's also against him for his sexuality because of all three of those things he's 'not REALLY their dad' and it's infuriating

agree with being angry but i'm not sure who the "they" is that you're angry with, fandom denizens or showrunners?

because i think the showrunners have definitely shafted all of house velaryon's Black members for screen time and character development but i also think the show went out of its way to show that laenor was an excellent father to his three sons

hotd isn't subtle!! they took all of episode 6 to show exactly what dynamic rhaenyra's family had with one another and it was extremely clear that laenor was supportive of her relationship with harwin and a good father to their (rhaenyra's, his, harwin's) children

i also don't know that i would call laenor's relationship to his children an adoption? or comparable to an adoption? it's definitely a unique situation and i don't know if it has a clear-cut real-world parallel

but besides that confusion i agree with you, it's laughable to suggest that laenor wasn't luke, jace, and joff's Literal Father. he clearly makes space for their biological dad while also maintaining the transparent/open secret of their birth and claiming them fully as his own

i have a fic floating around in my mind palace about the halcyon days of the harwin/rhaenyra/laenor/qarl unethical nonmonogomous mobius strip ...perhaps one day it will graduate from 'random concept' to 'actual outline'

#hotd blogging #ask tag #anonymous

[gentleandfemanddomme]

I really,don't,know what poly means??

Oh, polyam means polyamourous. It means that I am in an ethically nonmonogomous relationship. My spouse and I have been nonmonogomous for most of our relationship. We date outside of out marriage and I have 2 relationships outside of my spouse.

I don't believe one person can be my everything and fill my every need. But many people are polyamourous for their own reasons. I hope that helps!

#personal #anon asks #I love getting asks

[cowvboyenema]

im normal as FUCK bro #averagecore #basicdave #nonmonogomous

[deliciousfuckinggoo]

nonmonogomous except what do you mean you have other mutuals. I'm going to be sick

#kidding. but sometimes i am strage abt feelings abt friends #strange #posts

[wtfimqueer]

It's so difficult to express my identities.

Like, yeah I'm a lesbian. But that leaves a lot out. And even though I'm a lesbian, I don't identify with gender and my partner essentially makes the concept of gender explode so...there's that. Plus, I mean, I don't experience sexual attraction, but I love women. Any type of women, but mostly women who challenge my preconceived notions of what being a woman means. And then maybe we are gonna get another partner in there, too?

How the fuck am I supposed to say all of that, in the correct terms, in a casual conversation?

I just wanna be queer. When I say, "I'm queer," I want people to say "okay" and move on.

Can we get there as a society? Like, soon.

#queer #queer life #lesbian #asexual #ace #polyamory #polyamourous #nonmonogomous #poly #wlw #enby #nonbinary #agender #gendequeer #what the fuck is going on

[ramblingsofanewb]

my crush likes me and my partner omg. this is so exciting

i have to figure out how to slow down my thoughts and

be present and

not put pressure on it

aghhh!!!

#polyam #polyamorous #polyamory #polylife #non monogamy #nonmonogomous #nonmonogamy #ethical non monogamy