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Is it ok to want more sex? Like is it alright for that to be a reason to be non monogamous? When I try to express desiring more sex/diverse sexual experiences as a “need” I feel…not only predatory (as a masc person who loves femmes) but also like Im supposed to challenge why sex might be a need in the first place and detach it from my self worth or whatever.

But Ive never had a hoe phase. So how am I supposed to untangle my self worth from desirability if I have yet to explore what it even feels like to be desired? How do I know that even rings true for me?

Maybe I really like sensuality and pleasure. Is it possible that its as simple as that?

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i want to go on dates and flirt with femmes and watch them get excited about me and have them make me blush when they touch my arms !!

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my partner doesnt want to do nonmonogamy i can feel it

and im heartbroken about it

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the sexual chemistry with this babe is unbearable sometimes ughh

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Since i last posted, my partner has been going through a mental health crisis and needed to feel safe and secure. We agreed to have all non monogamous and relationship work pause for the time being. Im maintaining a platonic relationship with this other person. Its difficult. I feel sad about them slipping away. Im definitely working through some feelings about it. Mostly I just feel lonely. And horny lol. But Im sure thats just the T.

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sooo my partner keeps going back and forth about supporting my relationship with this new person as long as its slow but then freaking out and wanting it to stop when we take any steps forward. she’s decided to personally step back from the trio right now. It feels like the parameters keep changing for me though? like when she has a feeling that she might need to work though, the rules change. She says she’s ok with us having a phone date, but gets upset about the content being flirty and moving too fast when she sees how happy it makes me or the effort I put into it. I’m confused about boundaries here. How do I know when I’m supposed to slow down/stop engaging with a new lover out of respect for my current partners boundaries versus like...allowing my partner to have a level of control over the progression of a new relationship I’m having that I’m not comfortable with?

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Aghhhh I have so many big non monogamy feelings. First of all we have a group chat where we flirt and support one another and make plans. We’ve had a few dates where we have kept things very PG but we’re having such meaningful and intimate conversations. We’re calling ourselves a throuple jokingly. We have no idea what this is. The three of us. We’re working on individual relationships with one another that each include their own unique dynamics too. We’re also moving at different paces? I don’t like the framing of “pace” I think it indicates that there’s an end place that looks a certain way or something that we’re trying to “get to.” But I think we all have an idea of where we’d like to take our relationships and we’re considering and honoring each others boundaries while we do it. I want to savor this slow burn. 

#polyam #polyamorous #nonmonogamy #non monogomous #ethical non monogamy #throuple #crushes #queer polyamory

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my crush likes me and my partner omg. this is so exciting

i have to figure out how to slow down my thoughts and

be present and

not put pressure on it

aghhh!!!

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I have a crush on one of our friends and my partner thinks its cute which makes me really happy and excited !!!!

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My wires get crossed with friendships and romantic/sexual relationships. I always end up having crushes on my friends. Like I want to cuddle and kiss and feel their body near me. I feel like I get hooked on it. This has to be some kind of dopamine chasing thing right? Im just in it for the feel good vibes?

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How do you know youre into dating multiple people at once in like a ~cool grounded and healthy polyam~ way and not in an “i have a problem with boundaries and dont know how to value my relationships without a romantic and or sexual component” kind of way???

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I just want you to fucking think about me

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How do you tell the difference between actual flirting and flirty femme interactions like are you just being sweet and playful or do you want me to be into you because………..

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girls make me absolutely weak i love it

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my partner has expressed feeling more monogamous lately and now Im a lil bummed? like im nervous that my dream of having a throuple is fading? do i even want that or do i just want to be intimate with more people or

#or maybe she just doesnt like kissing #and i miss making out #and want someone to top me lmao #theres a lot going on here

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being poly isnt the lack of jealousy and......idk how to cope with that fact like if im gonna be poly forever that means im committed to definitely getting jealous and definitely having to work on it FOREVER OMG

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polyamory is grey af

poly can mean so many different things to so many people and that is both beautiful and kind of scary

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