#motherwoundhealing

[socialdragonflytarot27]

Recognizing the effects of the “mother wound” ❤️‍🩹 #socialdragonfly #ariesfullmoon #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #healing #healingjourney #chiron #innerchild #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork https://www.instagram.com/p/Cjgh_GCODST/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#socialdragonfly #ariesfullmoon #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #healing #healingjourney #chiron #innerchild #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork

[minman88]

[starr-medicine]

We often are reminded of the 3 stages of a womans life, the maiden, the mother, and the crone, all archetypes that most women get to experience on their own. Some of us don't get to have all 3 experiences though, I for one thought I would skip the mother phase, but I was wrong. I'll never have my own children, but I will be a parent to my own inner child, and to my mother's inner child. This way the trauma stops with me and the ones behind me will be healed too. Being a mother this way is a completely different experience, but a great way to be a healer and bring peace. A lot of adults are just wounded children, and when I think about that way, it all makes sense. #love #selflove #motherdaughter #motherwoundhealing #wildwomen #maidenmothercrone #healer https://www.instagram.com/p/CaYpdRHu2Bj/?utm_medium=tumblr

#love #selflove #motherdaughter #motherwoundhealing #wildwomen #maidenmothercrone #healer

[responsiveparenting]

Resisting inner child work? “If the thought of connecting with your inner child seems scary or even silly, maybe ask yourself why. What are you afraid of? What mental barriers are you putting up so that you can protect yourself from seeing the world through your childhood eyes? What did those eyes see that they don’t want to see again? Remember, as an adult, you have the power to protect your inner child when you connect with them.” J. Milburn It can take years to build these skills so you let your child see you on your healing journey (within a developmentally appropriate way). It can be a messy journey to deconstruct all the negative thought patterns, avoidance strategies and emotional triggers that have built up inside of us over the years. Often these become just a part of us, but then our children arrive and shine a big light on all these things we’ve just been coping with for years. For me, Reflection Practice has allowed me to start this process in a way that feels safe for me. We have a new program available: 52 Weeks of Reflection Practice for Responsive Parents Link in bio or 👉 https://www.patreon.com/responsiveparentingwithjmilburn It’s available through our Responsive Parenting Community Membership on Patreon. This program teaches how to engage in reflection practice in a way that alleviates guilt, processes thoughts and emotions and develops strategies for future scenarios. #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #innerchild #reflectionpractice #healingjourney #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #innerchildhealing https://www.instagram.com/p/CRrZ_tDnMG6/?utm_medium=tumblr

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #innerchild #reflectionpractice #healingjourney #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #innerchildhealing

[littlebent-notbroken]

My earliest memory of believing I was worthless was when I was five years old. I remember really asking myself "Am I really such a bad kid because I spilled apple juice at the dinner table? Or because I lost a hat from LegoLand?" And when my mother would chronically yell at me, slap me, or punish me for those kinds of things (that happened kind of often because I'm a klutz) I really began to believe I was such an awful human being. And it was again reinforced when my mom would say things like "you're a f*cking idiot, I wish I never had kids, they're not worth the stress." And it was reinforced further when my mother never told me she loved me or that she was proud of me. By the time I was ten, I really began to hate myself. After being yelled at or beaten, I would often scream internally "WHY ARE YOU LIKE THIS? WHY CANT YOU JUST BE GOOD?!" Because I was trying to make sense of what was happening to me. My parents couldn't be the one at fault, right? We learn in school and in church and in society that our parents love us and sometimes they express their love differently than we expect (THIS IS NOT A NARRATIVE WE SHOULD BE PUSHING BTW - we can talk more about this later). So to make sense of the constant abuse, the only other answer I could come up with was that I really was the problem. There must be something seriously wrong with me. And I carried that narrative with me for a good chunk of my life, through my teenage years, into my early 20s. Anytime I messed up at anything or did "less than perfect," I believed it was because I'm not good enough or smart enough. If a relationship failed, it must've been because I wasn't funny enough or pretty enough or sexy enough. Replacing those narratives with ones of kindness, self love, and compassion have been the hardest and most rewarding changes in my life. What negative core beliefs do you need to let go of? *I also want to note that not all of our negative beliefs only ever come from childhood* #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #wholeheartedliving #gaalightinghealing #selfcompassioncoach #anxietyrelief #selfawakening #distressrecovery #youmatter #selflovewarrior #innerstrength (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CLcvNz4jS_T/?igshid=hydk9vd6b7h4

#motherwound #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #wholeheartedliving #gaalightinghealing #selfcompassioncoach #anxietyrelief #selfawakening #distressrecovery #youmatter #selflovewarrior #innerstrength

[srcausey]

Mothers Day is complicated here, but my family did a lovely job holding space for me today. Albus and Sybil are settling into their summer home nicely and are excited to fill in all my plot holes on #authortube tomorrow.😍 #bunnylove #rabbitstagram #bunnyoftheday #cutepets #instarabbit #bunniesworldwide #bunnylife #instabun #motherwoundhealing #healing #mothersday #innerchild #motherwound #writers #writersofig #writer #bunny🐰 #writersofinstagram #writinglife #rabbitaccount #bunny #writersofinsta #nature https://www.instagram.com/p/CAB9ux8AGBP/?igshid=13h3mym8wdjpo

#authortube #bunnylove #rabbitstagram #bunnyoftheday #cutepets #instarabbit #bunniesworldwide #bunnylife #instabun #motherwoundhealing #healing #mothersday #innerchild #motherwound #writers #writersofig #writer #bunny🐰 #writersofinstagram #writinglife #rabbitaccount #bunny #writersofinsta #nature

[not-that-girl7]

A Mother’s Day Lamentation • • New blog post on Growing Up In Gilead. • • Link in bio • • • #growingupingilead #blog #blogpost #newpost #mothersday #motherwoundhealing #beansandrice #poetry #poetrycommunity https://www.instagram.com/p/CAA28_dpnwy/?igshid=1lxxrp8qix06s

#growingupingilead #blog #blogpost #newpost #mothersday #motherwoundhealing #beansandrice #poetry #poetrycommunity

[rebirthwithlatoniataylor]

"I am NOT my sister's keeper, I. AM. SHE!" When a woman heals herself, she heals generations before and after her. It's an honor to hold these spaces of REBIRTH for herself & her #SacredJuice. _ _ Know THIS: "Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." -Zora Neale Hurston _ _ Have you given yourself permission to EXPERIENCE sisterhood as a courageous act of SELF-Love!?! Your answer is an invitation to #SelfMastery. ☆☆ ReBirth YOUR Feminine Intelligence New #TribeTalks in #ReBirthWoman - LOADING NOW. [Link in Bio] Join Us!! #ReBirthYOURSELF #RebirthwithLaToniaTaylor ☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆ #SacredSisterhood #SisterCircle #DivineFeminine #sundayinspo #healingretreat #HEALYOURHEART #sisterskeeper #motherwoundhealing #ExecutiveWomen #womensworkshops #womensupportingwomeninbusiness #womensupportingotherwomen (at Black Women In Business Elite Society) https://www.instagram.com/p/B8XTR2AhOl3/?igshid=nkq0eq5pzzqo

#sacredjuice #selfmastery #tribetalks #rebirthwoman #rebirthyourself #rebirthwithlatoniataylor #sacredsisterhood #sistercircle #divinefeminine #sundayinspo #healingretreat #healyourheart #sisterskeeper #motherwoundhealing #executivewomen #womensworkshops #womensupportingwomeninbusiness #womensupportingotherwomen

[alookielou]

[responsiveparenting]

Resisting inner child work? “If the thought of connecting with your inner child seems scary or even silly, maybe ask yourself why. What are you afraid of? What mental barriers are you putting up so that you can protect yourself from seeing the world through your childhood eyes? What did those eyes see that they don’t want to see again? Remember, as an adult, you have the power to protect your inner child when you connect with them.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #innerchild #reflectionpractice #healingjourney #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #innerchildhealing https://www.instagram.com/p/COxPDAgn6OM/?igshid=1o87lg09x55sf

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #innerchild #reflectionpractice #healingjourney #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #innerchildhealing

[littlebent-notbroken]

If how much love I could give were dependent upon love I received as a child, then I would be a cold-hearted grump and this page wouldn't exist. Both things can be true: My parents didn't express love in the way that I needed AND I'm able to give myself and others that love anyway* *after years and years of healing It's easier to say the ways my parents did not love: they weren't emotionally available or supportive, my basic needs were conditional, my mother was aggressive, my father was passive, my mom wished she had never gotten married and called my father her roommate, my mom wished she didn't have kids and wanted to go back in time to live out her days with her cats, alone. The way my parents express love is not genetic. What I was shown love is--complacency, no accountability, lashing out, lack of empathy and compassion--was just as (not so) easily unlearned as it was to learn what healthy love looked like--or what I needed love to be. I love the way my parents couldn't: being supportive, fully present (which can sometimes be problematic and I turn into the fixer), compassionate, and kind. We are not subjected to the same fate of our parents. We can break the cycle. #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #innerchildtherapy #reparenting #generationaltrauma #intergenerationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #breakthecycle #lovingothers #lovingmefirst #lovingmyselffirst #narcissisticmother #motherwound #healingthemotherwound #motherwoundhealing #breakingthecycle (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CLSt8nPj0iJ/?igshid=1k8cboztvl473

#innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #innerchildtherapy #reparenting #generationaltrauma #intergenerationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #breakthecycle #lovingothers #lovingmefirst #lovingmyselffirst #narcissisticmother #motherwound #healingthemotherwound #motherwoundhealing #breakingthecycle

[not-that-girl7]

A Mother’s Day Lamentation • • New blog post on Growing Up In Gilead • • Link in bio • • • #growingupingilead #blog #blogpost #newpost #mothersday #motherwoundhealing #beansandrice #linkinbio #poetry #poetrycommunity https://www.instagram.com/p/CAA1OCRJo99/?igshid=17p1uwqomdrmk

#growingupingilead #blog #blogpost #newpost #mothersday #motherwoundhealing #beansandrice #linkinbio #poetry #poetrycommunity

[littlebent-notbroken]

this might be a hard pill to swallow, but it’s one I’ve had to remind myself over and over again. This isn’t to say people can’t change. This is just a reminder to release expectations and resentment. As I’m meeting myself where I am, I don’t shame myself for not being the highest or best version of myself. I don’t shame myself for falling into old habits or having coping mechanisms that I’ve tried to release for years (e.g. being glued to my phone because it’s a security blanket). And in turn, I think it’s important to extend that same compassion toward my parents, even when I sometimes feel like it’s not fair because they aren’t doing the same for me. But that’s not my problem—it is not my job to force them into people they are not, nor could become. I am meeting them where they are and respect their timeline. Maybe they’ll have their own breakthrough moments, like I did, but they’ll still never be the parents I needed—I no longer desire affectionate, empathetic, or compassionate parents because I have become that for myself. Would it be nice? Sure. But I don’t hold it against them that they’re not. I’m not really sure what I’m trying to say here. Maybe someone out there also needed this nudge to let go of fantasies, expectations, or resentment. This waiting game reminds me of the Heaven’s Reward Fallacy: a cognitive distortion that sacrificial behavior will be rewarded even when there’s no evidence a reward is coming. All of that to say: Believe patterns. Trust your intuition. Not everyone shares the same self awareness. There are some things people need to discover for themselves. Again, this is not to say some people cannot change. Some people have their breakthrough moments at 20, and others have those moments at 50, 60, 70, what have you. But is it in our best interest to wait around until then? I think it’s in our best interest to simply continue meeting people where they are. #littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJXJesBji_k/?igshid=4h3lrmp5ueq9

#littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery

[littlebent-notbroken]

On Sunday, @moon_maiden_healing_ and I had a great conversation about normalizing grief and all its many phases and forms. One thing she had said so beautifully is that grieving isn’t linear. And I’ve been ruminating on that for the last few days. Lately I’ve been getting caught up about why old wounds are being activated again and why I’m getting pissed off all over again that my parents couldn’t be the people that I needed. Because for some of us, grieving isn’t linear. We might be able to easily accept and acknowledge that our parents weren’t and will never be the people we needed. And THEN we might get pissed off about it. We might stay in the depression stage for a little bit while we re-learn how to love ourselves. One step at a time. I also want to remind us all that just because we accept that something happened to us doesn’t mean we need to just get over it. Just because we hit the acceptance “stage” doesn’t mean we’re done grieving or processing our emotions. It’s not about getting over the grief, but getting through it. And sometimes getting through is going through some phases over and over again because there’s another part of ourselves that needs attention and TLC. And sometimes grieving a whole era of our past is sufficient for a time, and sometimes specific parts of that era need to be grieved on its own. It’s okay to grieve the people your parents couldn’t be, the relationship dynamic you may never have with a parent, outgrowing past selves, or missed memories/what could’ve been. And so much more. As always, please handle yourself with love and kindness as you move through grief. If you want to rewatch our conversation, head over to the IGTV tab on my page! #littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #selfhealing #selfhealers #healingjourney #healingmission #generationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery #motherwound #mentalhealthmatters #youmatter #cyclebreakers #intergenerationaltrauma #normalizegrief #griefinhealing #griefjourney (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CJHghb7jISP/?igshid=16ta9etjrbigc

#littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #selfhealing #selfhealers #healingjourney #healingmission #generationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery #motherwound #mentalhealthmatters #youmatter #intergenerationaltrauma #normalizegrief #griefinhealing #griefjourney

[littlebent-notbroken]

Today’s affirmations: I am worthy. I am enough. I am loved. I am loving. My ability to love is not derived from the love I did or did not receive. It’s easy to believe the thought that says “You are unloveable” when time and time again the people who are “supposed” to love you unconditionally don’t. A lot of my best friends have great relationships with their moms and it really sucked for me to see because that’s what I wanted. And I’m very lucky that a lot of these strong women accepted me as their second child (@lisaluehs, @kathyluehs, @xanaluehs, I love you all so much). It was easy for my brain to only accept the evidence that I am unloveable because it fit that core belief, that conditioned belief. When i was rejected or dumped or whatever, my brain would go “ah! Yes! See! Again! We were rejected so it’s true that we are unloveable.” It was, and still is, incredibly hard for me to accept compliments because they went completely against that core belief. I didn’t feel worthy of love because my own parents didn’t express love toward me—at least, not in a way I understood. I remember when I was growing up I can only ever remember my dad saying “I love you, my daughter.” But he showed no physical affection nor held emotional space for me. And now I’ve learned that my parents inability to express emotions or hold space was not my fault, was not because I was so hard to love. They simply didn’t have the capacity to. #littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #selfhealing #selfhealers #healingjourney #healingmission #generationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery #motherwound #mentalhealthmatters #youmatter #cyclebreakers #intergenerationaltrauma (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CIl9eKxj10B/?igshid=801oo79u5v9b

#littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #motherwoundhealing #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #selfhealing #selfhealers #healingjourney #healingmission #generationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery #motherwound #mentalhealthmatters #youmatter #intergenerationaltrauma

[littlebent-notbroken]

“Family is everything” (in relation to family of origin or blood family) is one of my least favorite phrases, right next to “that’s just the way it is / they are.” For some people, family does mean everything to them. In healthy family dynamics, this bond and loyalty is not used to manipulate or shame. But for others, like myself, this phrase was thrown around to manipulate us into tolerating abuse or being further submissive to our abuser. “Well, that’s just the way your mom is” or “she’s your mom, you better respect her” or “she did so much for you stop being ungrateful.” I disliked family gatherings, Mother’s Day, and my mom’s birthday. I felt physically ill having to plaster on a smile and pretend I loved my mom and shower her with gifts when deep down there was a boiling, festering anger that wanted to shout the truth at everyone. I wanted them to know how much pain she was causing me. When I was about 5 or 6, I did tell my grandma about the things my mom would do—at the time a lot of physical abuse. And then my grandma proceeded to tell my mom and then I would be punished. So I never talked to another adult about it for years. So, dear reader, if you’re from a similar family or have a similar experience, I see you. I hear your pain and frustration. So together, let’s stand up for ourselves and say NO, even if our voices shake. You’re not alone. Choosing ourselves isn’t disrespectful or selfish. Setting boundaries isn’t disrespectful or selfish. Family, or friends, is not a valid reason to sacrifice your emotional or mental well-being. And on a similar note, I also want to mention that this same “family is everything” manipulation tactic can be used in friendships too. Be wary of those. #littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #abuserecoverycoach #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #selfhealing #selfhealers #healingjourney #healingmission #generationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery #motherwound #mentalhealthmatters #youmatter #manipulators #manipulation #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #holidays2020 https://www.instagram.com/p/CIBhnC_jEdZ/?igshid=1pk1pd0k9llbo

#littlebentnotbroken #reparenting #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #woundedinnerchild #childhoodabuse #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #abuserecoverycoach #narcissisticparents #emotionallyimmatureparents #selfhealing #selfhealers #healingjourney #healingmission #generationaltrauma #cyclebreakers #traumarecovery #motherwound #mentalhealthmatters #youmatter #manipulators #manipulation #motherwoundhealing #holidays2020