#if youre allo read this

[immortalarizona]

listen. I have never watched Riverdale and never will. but that doesn’t mean I’m not sO FUCKING PISSED at the polycule ending.

I’m not mad about the polyamory (I would like to stress this point for anyone who wants to come after me for this post), I’m mad that Jughead Jones, one of, like, the two aroace characters in media people have actually maybe heard of (the other being Yelena Belova) is part of this romantic, sexual relationship.

he’s ace!!!

he’s aro!!!

and it fucking stings that the writers thought it was okay to erase that aroace rep when there’s next to none for us to begin with.

fuck your amatonormativity and fuck your queer erasure. we aspecs deserve better.

#“bUt aRi aTtrAcTioN iSn’T aCtiOn!!1! hE cOuLd sTiLL bE aRoAcE iN riVeRdaLe!1!11” #yeah I’m aware of that but I HIGHLY DOUBT THAT WAS WHAT THE WRITERS WERE GOING FOR #and do you fucking think your average allo is gonna read it that way even if it was??? #also tbh I Do Not trust allo writers to tell that kind of story without perpetuatinflg erasure #can’t have shit in detroit I guess #tw aphobia #asexual #aromantic #aroace #riverdale #riverdale finale #aroace jughead #anti riverdale #fuck amatonormativity

[mariaashby64]

Me watching Tristamp: I enjoy these characters, but idk if I’d consider any of the characters shippable. At least not at this part of the story.

Me watching Trigun98: Oh wow, they really went ham on VashMeryl here didn’t they?

#not to make vash allo but there is genuinely some great writing between these two #vash and wolfwood too #looking forward to reading the manga #trigun #trigun98 spoilers #trigun98 #trigun spoilers #vash the stampede #meryl stryfe #meme #text post #rambling thoughts #let me know if the text is readable #late night post #thanks for reading all the tags #enjoy your day

[joisbishmyoga]

hahaha I just realized that I have a distinct mental category for (the vast majority of) smut scenes in fic. They're usually so disconnected from the plot that they're commercial breaks. And now a word from our sponsor, Allosex! Use my code BOREDACEJO to get 20% off--

#ace life #if you wanna get your smut read u gotta have a damn good ad #enjoy the spice girls earworm #but yeah u gotta bring like super bowl ad levels of interesting #hand mouth dick bed door man is not gonna cut it #intrusive? annoying? skippable? yep it's the commercials #being allo muat be so weird #yes i have written smut i do know what i'm talking about #somehow when i try to write just-smut it devolves into plot! it is a mystery

[iventshitsorrylmao]

high and low libito aren't a synonym for hyper/hyposexual. furthermore hypersexual and hyposexual are not synonyms for allosexual or asexual. hypersexual is not the oposite of asexual.

hypersexual and hyposexual are both conditions most commonly found in trauma victims, or are due to hormonal issues, and medications. it consists of intrusive thoughts or very separately; urges to not just do/initiate sex but also masturbate as a go to self soothing tool. asexuals can be hypersexual. it is not "asexuals or hypersexuals" when you're talking about fucking libito. get that through your thick fucking skulls please. i beg of you.

not everyone with a low libito is hyposexual, not everyone with a low libito is asexual. not everyone with a high libito is hypersexual. not everyone with a high libito is allosexual. not all asexuals trauma responce is going to be hyposexual. not all people with sex repulsion is an asexual.

not all people who dress scantilly clad have high libitos or are hypersexual. not all people who dress "slutty" or make jokes are hypersexual. not all people who dress "tOo mOdEsTlY aNd PrUdISh" is an ace or hyposexual or traumatized or religious. THEY ARE CLOTHES.

hypersexual and hyposexual is often distressing for the person who has it. regardless of if they're ace or allo. hell. a person can go from being one to the other.

when you are talking about differences in libito effecting relationship capatability for example and you say "hypersexuals and asexuals" when you mean high and low libitos, or hyper v hypo sexual or asexual or allosexual

you are stating a valid sexuality as on par or comparable to a trauma/hormone/medicinal based medical condition that needs intervention. you are ignoring that aces can struggle with hypersexuality-YES EVEN THE SEX REPULSED ONES because it's a fucking CONDITION.

#fucking sick of this shit. #hypersexual aces with low libito #hyposexual allos with high libito #libito is not attraction. conditions are not sexualities. #asexuals are valid and nuanced not a cookie cutter shorthand #i will bite you. #foaming rabbidly enraged #why do even well read up on these things perpetuate this misconception #rage #not the same fucking things. #just pissed the fuck off #rant #rant post #rant tw #mini rant #personal rant #complaining #sorry for the rant #bitching #rant rant rant #rageful rant #HIIIIISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS #TIME TRAVELING TO BREAK INTO YOUR HOME AND CHEW YOUR MOST IMPORTANT HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT IN ROBLOX

[moe-broey]

Brain still soup but like. I think making one or both (or more!) characters involved in relationships with each other aromantic makes the dynamic soooooo much more compelling. Because if you remove romance as a motivator, you really get down to the nitty-gritty as to WHY that character is seeking out/involved in those relationships in the first place. Whether that relationship involves romantic factors or is more of a queer platonic thing. Much to think about....

#like i WANNA give examples but also it's always so difficult for me to parse it out too #but sharena being someone who longs for love but can never quite grasp it for herself is sooo real to me #while maintaining her harem like. how she still seeks out these relationships anyway. BECAUSE she wants it so bad #because she can't quite grasp it fully herself. #also veronica taking one look at sharena and not even fully able to grasp it herself. and going 'sharena clearly doesn't know what love is' #recognition of the self through the other (derogatory) #also this is something i'm exploring aaaall the fucking time w moe/alfonse. #juries still out on if i hc alfonse as any flavor of aro (i do think it'd be funny/if he was i think he'd be demi) #but like. w moe being 2 for 2 demiro/sexual. you might think that would make things easier? #but no. bc it's also extremely romance repulsed. as much as it wants to spread love and cheer. it is a hater. fervently. #and then there are cases like lif/thrasir that read as a qpr to me. only having each other in this deep intimate way #that's devoid of any romance/sexuality. #BUT IT'S ABOUT THE OBSESSION. going back to moe. IT'S ABOUT ACCIDENTALLY BECOMING THE SAME PERSON #which i think happens to a degree w moe and ABSOLUTELY happens/happened w sharena/peony #it's also about asking what does this character WANT. what is the core of their desire #is it to fill an aching absence? is it to feel safe? to feel understood? to feel loved? #when your entire life you've felt you've been loved wrong/were unable to love correctly? #is it friendship? is it sexuality? esppp in the case of aro/allos!!!! like!!!! that happens!!!!! #and ofc! you have your aros who just don't. and that's okay! #but i never want being aromantic to be like. an easy way to write off a character who 'gets in the way' #or rewrite something you didn't like in canon. like. there are ways to do that second part #without doing the same shit i see people do w autistic people. writing off a character #or a hc in the most abliest way fucking possible. it's egregious.

[alithetiredartist]

“i headcanon them as ace” and it’s a picture of either the sluttiest character in the show or someone who canonically likes sex and talks about it a lot

#i saw someone call wallace wells ace once #like i get that asexuality is a spectrum #but the standard definition is someone who doesn’t crave sex the way allos do #but cmon wallace??? #wallace wells??? did we watch/read the same scott pilgrim??? #on one hand i get the wanting to make your favorite characters more like you but sometimes it feels like you’re making a whole new characte

[patton-cake]

I saw a post that said that it's so annoying how people always make a person who does not reciprocate romantic feelings out to be a villain. As someone who is aroace I fully agree with this and this is more an explanation of why I think this is such a common concept.

In my opinion one of the bigger issues regarding this situation is the fact that people are taught that their romantic partner should always be prioritised over their friends.

I think that most allo-romantic people feel so offended when you tell them you don't have romantic feelings for them, is because they view love as a ranking system. With strangers being the lowest and romantic and or sexual love on the top. Therefore if you tell them that you experience 'mere platonic feelings' for them, they see that as a lower ranked emotions and feel underappreciated. Since most people are told that romantic partners and romantic love is more valuable than friendship and platonic bonds, they will interpret it as a rejection of saying 'I don't value you as much as you value me'.

Also I don't mean to downplay the feeling of genuine rejection, however it does start to become a problem when people blame the other person for not reciprocating.

#I had thoughts while talking to Corr and I just had to write them down #aromantic #aroace #apollo's antics #obviously this isn't a universally correct answer #Idk if this is also relatable for people who are allo romantic and asexual though #but I mean if you resonate with this post then go on and share your thoughts #love reading tags

[little-candy-store-of-horrors]

Get his arse Michelle 🔫

#allo allo #'allo 'allo #'allo 'allo! #20th century #wwii #wwii history #Tbh Flick is so trans coded he can be read as ftm or mtf and both make sense. #Anyway. Every single disclaimer here where i piss in n*zis mouths being trans doesnt excuse dni if youre n*zi etc etc #Top surgery meme

[fluffypotatey]

Once read a soulmate au where the two immediately fell in love (only continue reading cause I liked the author and pairing) and it turned out they were just faking it/forcing it because they thought that was how it was supposed to go. It was really funny cause technically it was a slow burn but on the outside they were being lovey dovey while cringing and being annoyed on the inside

SEE THIS IS WHAT I WANT!!!

this is the juicy drama i desire 😍 this would probably be one of the only reasons i would read soulmate AUs where the pairing immediately “fall in love” because that’s where the main conflict is!!!!

i love when soulmate AUs question the superficial concept of love that is so over saturated in Western media (media i am the most familiar with). i love when soulmate AUs ask, “why should a soulmate only be your romantic partner? why can’t it be a friend or family or an animal or all of them?”

THATS WHAT MAKES THEM SO GREAT!!! because it explores all the facits of love, even healthy and toxic relationships. it can also be how sometimes your soulmate may not be a person you can be with forever, you may only be able to be with them for a moment.

it’s just 🫠 i love this au so much

#asks #fucking rocked my world long ago when i read my first soulmate au and the soulmate pairing weren’t even lovers #gotta say your worldview on love and romance gets so skewed when all the love stories you know are heteronormative and exclusive to allos #like young middle school me thought the most bizarre & mind blowing thing i would learn about love #is that the Ancient Greeks gave love more than one name and they all meant completely different things

[twixtandshout]

Tagged by @why-is-it-always-autumn

enemies to lovers or friends to lovers // coffee shop au or flower shop au // hurt/comfort or there was only one bed // found family or partners in crime (a good partners in crime Is a found family, whereas many found family stories simply say so without walking the walk, I think) // canon compliant or canon divergent // domesticity or pwp (either?? neither?? I'll read what's good) // fluff or angst with a happy ending // 1st person pov or 3rd person pov (picking 1st just to be contrary. But give me a Good 1st person fic and I will cry on you) // soulmates or forbidden love (they're both gruesomely allo on the whole but I just have no investment in forbidden love scenarios) // roommates or fake dating (I guess?? The ~inevitability~ of well Of Course they'd fall in love after being that close bugs me but the "I can't tell the guy I'm dating that I want to date them" is toptier) // slow burn or meet-cute //  love triangle or polyamorous relationship // secret relationship or unrequited love // royalty au or magic au // high school/college au or neighbours au // mutual pining or idiots to lovers (gimme that yearning!)

Tagging @pidgeonpostal @anderazu @authoressconjurer @nickelanddamned

#answerin' stuff #i'd tag you too grace but i already know all your answers are gonna be 'well idr read fic and also these are all super allo' lol

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads

Adrift In Starlight

space opera adventure romance

a courtesan is hired to seduce the soon-to-be-wife of a famous actor

a historian who’s focused on her career & has no idea her marriage has been arranged by her rich parents

after a museum tour they and two co-workers accidentally resurrect an ancient alien artifact and end up on the run from the law, traveling from planet to planet

pan nonbinary transfemme MC, touch-averse ace MC

#adrift in starlight #aroaessidhe 2023 reads #I enjoyed this to an extent! but there's also things i'm iffy about. #while there’s clearly a lot of thought put into the worldbuilding and plot; it still ultimately feels like it’s built around the romance #pacings a bit weird. it goes from a to b very fast. #it really very suddenly pivots to Surviving In The Wild On A Random Planet like……..was that really your only choice?????? #and then suddenly not. they resurrect this ancient alien fossil and go to its home planet and then it’s just like. #next scene now we’re on a pirate station lets go to the baths HUH??? #i get that you have a magic thing that teleports you places fast but like. it doesn’t mean the narrative has to be abrupt too #there’s a lot of ace stuff but also some of it made me ???? #like the author is ace but yknow sometimes intention =/= being able to portray things with nuance in writing #allo character hearing she’s ace and being like ‘oh she’ll only want friendship’ despite supposedly ‘knowing all about asexuality’ #and adjacent: kinda has the vibe that her touch repulsion is Caused By something and has to be Fixed #it makes it clear that that and asexuality are two separate things and the asexual thing is def not something to be changed #but also…..regardless of sexuality; does touch repulsion need to be fixed? if someone’s fine with it? #some very….alloromantic monogamous rhetoric that felt a bit off #-and like to be clear this is me being very picky about little things but idk #another thing: the MC’s size is only mentioned in regards to people being fatphobic at her. #like not excessively but her weight is not ever described neutrally or positively at all? and since she’s thin on the cover I was like….. #is she? or is it just normal in this universe to insult someone’s size as an insult regardless? #(I do understand it can be hard for indie authors to get accurate cover models. but you could have made the contents of the book better) #this is all complaints LOL it's not terrible i gave it 3.5 stars? there's many good aspects but idk #asexual books

[oflgtfol]

is that guy legit confused by aros liking to fuck... is that legit the dumbass take i'm seeing here.. 😭

no it was lowkey like the alloarophobia and general sex negativity of like, oh sex without romance is selfish and bad, i can understand allo aces because sexless love is puuure uwu, but if you have sex without romantic attraction then youre just an heartless player 💅💅

they phrased it nicer than that, but the person was confused as to how “allo aro is a ‘justified’ orientation” because they knew someone they suspected was allo aro and didnt like them, for the above reasons (of which they were yknow, just Assuming). so basically their cutesy “confusion” about being allo aro was really just repackaged general intra community BS that makes me frustrated with a large portion of the ace community

#i haaaaate talking about intra community discourse bc i know it like. well its very much intra community internet discourse #but also it really is so frustrating and damnit we really do need to talk about the sex negativity that proliferates in certain ace spaces #especially when they target fellow aspecs over it #you dont get to lump us all into one community and then continuously speak out over us or worse actively demonize us #ask #Anonymous #aro tag #anyway because they didnt explicitly say any of this (besides whay i said in the second paragraph) i felt kind of mean reading it into what #they said but everyone in the comments also read it the way i did so i feel justifiee now in being mean about it #like whst the fuck do you mean ‘is allo aro a justified orientation’ are YOU justified to be running your mouth right now?

[void-tiger]

My poetry voice: irony, sardonic humor, rage, grief, and hope.

Oh yeah. And some sort of narrative. Always a narrative. (I’m too ace and aro for anything else, what’d you take me for. Even my one (1) attempt as a cutesy romantic poem read as “too platonic” apparently ‘cause the Unspecified Narrator didn’t kiss/get kissed at the end. But like…and?? Who has time for forced normative kissing when you can STARGAZE and DRINK COCOA with someone you feel safe with and adore instead??)

#tiger’s musings #I still LIKE my stargazer poem SO 🤣🤣🤣 #haven’t read it in years tho. I should remedy that #…goes to show I’d either be someone Very Fun or Very Boring to date ‘cause like. ACE. NO SMOOCHES. #hand holding and snuggling and gentle forehead [boops!] absolutely!! #but…I don’t have Patience for Amato/Allo Norms #if it looks like ‘just two friends hanging out’ that’s a YOU problem. #don’t waste my time and I won’t waste yours mmkay? #…tho I’m prolly too bony + curvy to be comfortable to cuddle. I’d poke someone on a rib + le boops will get in the way [cries]

[treklam]

Alice Oseman really wrote "we're gonna knock down the fences between our gardens so we can have one big garden, and we can both get a dog and take turns looking after it" and expected me to be okay

#loveless #alice oseman #i cried reading this and i've been very emotional thinking about this all afternoon #i mean i'm allo and romantic love is a very important part of my life #but i want to read more books about loving your friends so much

[sleepdeprived-idiot]

getting really annoyed at certain ships while also not wanting to filter the tag cause that's majority of the fanart

#aggressively ignores your ship #I CAN and WILL interpret it as platonic #this is for any luffy ship tbh #you tagged it as a ship? sorry i cant read! this is platonic in my heart #yes you cuddle and hug and kiss your besties what about it #(not going to annoy ppl about it ofc) #(i just need my aroace stuff please let them be friends or 'more than friends but not romantic partners') #(they love each other. they would die for each other. but not in the allo way)

[salted-caramel-tea]

this post was supposed to be a lighthearted post about aspec people by highlighting them in a joking way that still instills positivity and pride in the identity .

unfortunately too many people are too chronically online and media illiterate to realise that so let’s break down the post.

‘shout out to the people not having gay sex this pride month’

this was intentionally a worded to counter the ‘have lots of gay sex this pride month’ jokes and positivity that surround pride discussions. The wording directly associates with anti-queer activity and their frequent attempt to divert attention from queer people during the month of pride. it is worded intentionally. it is supposed to seem counter active to pride .

the humour is then seeing a pride flag. specifically the asexual flag- in which case this stands for an umbrella term across the aspec community which is more recognisable than the variety of aspec flags that i had seen whilst looking for a flag for this post . the grey line of the asexual flag stands for the spectrum between allosexual and asexual it represents the degrees of asexuality and in so, with the purple, stood for the aspec community in this post.

if the joke is still lost on you, the idea was to read a statement that counters the idea of queer pride and find it recontextualised to humorously represent an identity associated with the lack of sexual attraction; ergo no gay sex .

what this post is NOT, is a comment on varied asexual attraction. it us not a commentary on what makes a valid asexual person or whether or not you specifically will have sexual inter course this pride month . it is not saying asexuals are not allowed to have sex . this post is pushing any stereotype of asexuality . op is a sex having aspec person. i am demisexual . i have been with my partner for almost 2 years and engage in sexual activity .

what this post IS, is a joke. it’s a fucking joke i cant make it any clearer. not every single joke is going to relate to your own experiences and that’s ok. not every post about asexuality is going to relate to your own experiences that’s ok. you need to stop taking things at face value and actually engage in some media literacy to understand when something is a reductionist and stereotyping commentary which is inherently negative and when something uses a reductionist approach to convey humour because a lot of you really seem to be struggling with that one.

i fear a lot of you take yourselves too seriously and can’t find the humour in simple tumblr shitposts to the point where i’m having to actually explain what i thought was a very easy concept to grasp because it has upset a lot of people . stop taking everything so seriously .

if you are offended by the original post that is actually a you problem. that is something you have to work on where you cannot accept any form of lighthearted media that does not directly align with your own experiences . bc it’s not serious . it’s a joke x

also allo people can fuck off bc this is literally a post celebrating aspec ppl idc if your gf lives across the country or if you’re just a single loser this literally has nothing to do w u

yall make me want to kms for making me do this

#asexual #aspec #pride month #lbgtq