#i do it bc i dont want my comment/reaction tags to come up when i want to tag a character name | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

wander-wren · 1 year

Text

there’s always comment tips floating around tumblr but today it’s MY TURN BABEY i’m not covering Every Possible Comment, just my personal tips and tricks

pick a few default phrases. write them down even if you want!! my go-tos are “i love this so much” and “thank you for writing/sharing!!” and “omg this is perfect.” sometimes all of them together! i’m an overachiever so i usually go more in-depth, but just these sorts of things is great too

straight up just describe what you’re doing. “it’s 2am and im going to be so tired tomorrow but it was worth it i love this so much” (look theres a default phrase!!) “i’m sitting here crying into my chicken nuggets oh my god” “i laughed so hard reading this i woke up my dog”

if its a multi-chapter, try to predict whats coming! in a nice way, not demanding or “if xyz does/n’t happen i’ll riot” (unless its something guaranteed to happen, like “if [tagged pairing] dont get over themselves and kiss soon i’ll scream.”). esp if the fic is ongoing!! i’ve changed directions of longfics slightly bc of what readers predicted!! fanfic is a communal activity!!

speaking of ongoing fics: feel free to express excitement for future chapters but dont demand them, and DEFINITELY don’t let that be the only thing you say. “update soon!” is different from “oh wow i loved this bc xyz, cant wait to see what happens next!” the former makes it feel like a thankless chore, they latter feels like encouragement.

if a fic is not usually up your alley but you liked it, say so! just be polite. “i dont usually read [ship] but i was curious and i liked this bc xyz” is cool!! “i usually hate [ship] bc its gross/weird/toxic/etc and Other People always write [insert common trope] but this one was good” is less cool. you dont need to trash on the thing the author clearly likes, but it IS nice to know i could open you up to a new idea or something!

pick a line, any line, that made you laugh or “aww” or cry or get angry or ANYTHING. paste it in the comment box. write “this made me [insert emotion/reaction]” or “YESS/NOOO [character name]” or “oh my god i love this” or whatever floats your boat

if you want to go above and beyond, if i’m reading a longer work that i can already tell is gonna be a favorite, i just open the notes on my phone and copy paste all my favorite lines with my reactions as i go, then bam, ready-made comment

can guarantee (source: me) it will make a writer’s WEEK bc its like, barely any extra effort but it shows what made the most impact, and sometimes it makes someone see their stuff in a new light bc maybe they didn’t expect the line to hit that way! but woah! its so cool how different people experience art!!

also, comment when you reread. comment on older fics. if authors ask for suggestions or take requests, ASK. you get a thing you want, authors get interaction and cool fun ideas, it’s a win-win! everyone else is just as awkward and anxious and starved for human communication as you i SWEAR

also leave nice things in bookmarks bc that EXTRA makes my day when i remember to check once every six months. plus it helps future me remember why i bookmarked it

#wren wrambles #ao3 #comments #fanfiction #fandom #fandom etiquette #comment etiquette #i havent been getting bad comments or anything i only got one hate comment in my life #i just felt like putting this out there #and i kept thinking of stuff to add whoops

23 notes · View notes

mangozcat · 2 years

Note

ANSHSHSHSHSHJDJFF RIGHT!?! it's not like yall just posted it without any warnings PLUS tags all over it (this also goes to people who surely come out of their way just to hate on writers posting about certain genres / topics that writers clearly know aren't for everybody that's why they make announcements and everything beforehand 😭 warnings in red bold text and everything but somehow they just skip it and then get mad when they're not comfortable about it after all PLEAAAAASE if they really want to tell them there's always a nicer way 😭 bec atp i think some of those people just get off on sending hate to literally anyone on this already hell of a site. but i'm also glad that people have been nothing but nice to you here ;-;

YES. Y E S :(((( writing is for you writers. but that doesn't mean y'all wouldn't want n appreciate some reaction or feedback of the sort especially if this certain fic of yours took a lot of time and energy. buuuut also as long as you're still happy and contented and everyyyyything w your writings then :))))

very valid points 👏👏👏

ily 🥺🫶🏼

honey ♡

some people r just rude and theyll always be rude bc like u said they get off on it tbh ik one author i read from just had to go thru some serious trauma bc someone plagiarized like 3 of her works and put them on their acc?? and they ADMITTED to it but didnt take down the works and like started pretending they didnt do it and tumblr did like NOTHING about it for the longest time </3 ppl r mean

and yea ofc!! i absolutely love when people comment on my works or reblog it with tags like “omg this is so good” and i appreciate it so much i legit always try to respond to every comment and sweet tag 🥺

but in my experience you start getting that attention a lot more when you just write fics for yourself and dont expect anyone to act like that and then suddenly blow up and ppl like ur fics (thats what happened to me lmao)

im happy you agree :> <3 muah love u

#honey anon

0 notes

showcontrols · 2 years

Text

hm. rambling about smth personal for a bit bc i need it to be down in words. long post under the readmore

so i know my reactions can come across a little. dramatic sometimes. particularly when reading (angst) fic. but during the reading - and often, writing comments bc i tend to do that while reading - i am experiencing the same amount of emotional response im trying to convey in words. the character having a panic attack makes my own breaths speed up to the point where i have to take a break for bit. grief feels hollow, like a stone on my chest and numbness in legs. joy - fluff - sappy gooey stories makes me flap my hands and pace back and forth for a while bc i need to get rid off the excess energy. one time i read a fic that was considered to be mediocre but nice i guess by the people who recced it to me but the general detachment and melancholy portrayed made me go through the rest of day with a fuzzy head.

is that normal? having a visceral reaction to even small bits of writing? i don’t know. i tend to mouth along with the dialogue of the pov character, gestures and all, and that feels like i put too much of myself into whatever pov im reading from. but i know this whole thing extends to outside of writing, that i can come across as too emotional and sensitive. got a response from someone recently about how i was so overly excitable and ‘could you tone it down, it’s not even that good lmao’ and i will admit that my immediate, instinctive response was to go fuck you?? partly out of anger at how the op was dismissing their own writing and partly bc. im not hurting anyone, i think. (did not actually reply to that btw, i just deleted my comment and then went and laid down on the floor for an hour.)

it put me off commenting and leaving long tags for a while bc i was worried about how it would look. am i being too hyper here and bothering people. is this too repetitive. i mostly interact in mcsrblr so its not really a problem there, i know these people. they know me and have seen the number of dumb stuff i do, over the past year. and yeah i felt and still feel pretty dumb about the tagging thing too bc its tumblr! its the site for being weird and ranting in tags.

idk. it’s not A Problem im just. aaaa. maybe im overreacting to this one too. left a bunch of comments one after the other on manda’s fics recently and she was really nice and happy about it and that reminded me of why i initially started leaving semi-regular comments i guess.

and to clarify: im not saying people have to accommodate me, or anyone on this. if you dont want to deal with it then obviously you have the tools necessary for you to block people and such or not interact at all.

there’s no real solution to it i think. im not even sure if it’s a problem in the first place but it’s just been bothering me for a while. incredibly embarrassed to post this but i need to get it out before it starts poisoning the rest of me so here we go

#spri.txt #yes im supposed to be asleep. classes start so freaking early tomorrow #needed to get this out of my head first tho. been thinking about this for A While

14 notes · View notes

restinpeacesensei · 3 years

Text

@thatlittledandere

HWAAAAAAA;;;;; THANK YOU FOR YOUR TAGS IM CRYING;;;;; 😭😭😭 i wish i could like tags so you know i saw them bc i refreshed at like the moment you posted these and i just dissolved sob sobbb;;;; 😭😭😭 thank you for my life this week;;;; \T~~~~T/

#*waluigi scream* wwwAAAAAH #ANOTHER ONE OF THOSE 'JUST OPEN AND HONEST COMMUNICATION BUT WITH REALISTIC AWKWARDNESS AS A SIDE DISH' COMICS I LOVE #it's a;; difficult conversation but THEY'RE HAVING IT!! and being respectful as always #😭 #oh god i. i feel this. i feel this in my bones #the mortifying ordeal of being known etc etc #loving all the swear drops all throughout this #and the little flower-cloud-things in the last panel!! adorable #blushing lines even in the speech bubbles shjhfdg you why know how to use effects #panels three and four?? parallel blushing. mmm the cinnamon tography 🤌 #i almost know how to comment on layout #anyway!! even more progress in this saga #even more HUGS #a bitch can never have enough hugs (it's me I'm the bitch)

WALUIGI SCREAM WWWAAAAAHHHHH!!!!! \;;-----;;/ (OKAY BUT AFTER WHAT YOU TOLD ME ABOUT MARIO HATS LAST TIME HOW DO I NOT PICTURE YOU AS WALUIGI NOW?!!) AGVHSDGD TH;;; THANK YOU ;;;;;; 😭😭 it means SO much to me that you like seeing these conversations anD that the awkwardness comes across as realistic!!! if there’s anything i want, it’s to be real and human, to express through creative work what it is to be a real person, to feel like and be treated as a real person through it... so it means a lot to me that it comes across as honest and real to you, thank youuu;;; 😭😭😭 ALSO HONESTLY IT IS AWKWARD. idk there’s this association of awkwardness with teenagers and then when you grow up you’re “supposed” to be, idk confident and assured or whatever, but like it’s still awkward to have this type of conversation as an adult and/or if you don’t do it often lol... probably it gets easier over time but you still don’t know how every person is going to react and how to adjust for that ;;;

YEAH IT’S ;; a difficult conversation ;; thank you im happy that comes across;;; T---T i swear just having it is the main part of the battle oTL but i also won’t have it unless i feel comfortable with the person first;;;; anD it means so much to me that it comes across to you as respectful!!! 😭 i grew up with the impression that.. you either Couldn’t talk about these things or else you could only talk about them in ways that were crude, mocking or otherwise made me uncomfortable, and i really want to portray.. a different way of approaching them, a softer more considerate way, and it makes me really happy people can feel that ;; \;;~~~~;;/

OH GOD. THANK YOU FOR FEELING IT ;;; THANK YOU FOR BEING ABLE TO RELATE ... my whole experience here is the mortifying ordeal of being known l mao (throws this in even though im not laughing bc you laugh when you feel awkward LOL;;;;) and like i don’t know why it feels this way bc when i see other people post personal work im just like. i mean it doesnt matter cause i dont know them at all, as with everyone else im just looking for stuff i like, so if it’s not my interest im probably not really going to think about them at all... (which is both reassuring and terrifying to me, since im seeking connection on a human level ;;) ...but everything feels different when you start to actually know a person and have to consider them as a person. the internet makes it easier to share things bc you feel like you’re at arm’s length from everyone... but it also feels lonely for the same reason ;; i want to be known.. but in a way that i feel safe. i keep sharing even when im scared, even when i feel like it hurts, bc im looking for that feeling of safety ;;; and sometimes;;; it hurts a lot;;; but when that feeling comes, it’s worth it ;;;;; 😭😭

THANK YOU IM HAPPY YOU LIKE THE SWEAT DROPS!!! 🥺 i am so delighted that you appreciate my effects agjvsf i Have to put in the anime reactions to get the feelings across!! (i probably think in anime reactions LOL) you noticed akoya’s little flowers omg i love how you called it a cloud that’s so cute 😭 im so happy i put them in ;; 😭 PARALLEL BLUSHING THANK YOU IM SO HAPPY YOU NOTICED THEIR MIRRORED REACTIONS IN PANELS THREE AND FOUR!!! 🥺 my cinnamon roll akoyas approve of the term cinnamon tography 👍 AND I AGREE you can never have enough hugs!!! 😭 THANK YOU your words are a warm hug for my heart 😭😭😭 i hope you get endless HUGS from whoever you want hugs from!!! \>/////</

#they're sharing a bed!! #NOT the first time at ALL but like. it looks so comfy it stood out lol #GOD that must be the SOFTEST MOST COMFORTABLE BED in the hemisphere #not that these two would accept anything subpar #anyway #akoya was feeling so embarrassed he had to get away from kinchan for a moment and still talked about it right after coming back!! #literally stronger than any US marine #'would i be more beautiful if i hadn't said it' no no no baby nooo no worries that has nothing to do with it 😭😭 #nothing more beautiful than laying yourself bare and vulnerable in front of those you care about (and who care about you in return) #kinshiro is adorable here #just a head #he holds

HAJVNSJJNDH IM SO HAPPY I WAS ABLE TO MAKE THIS BED LOOK SO FLUFFY IT STANDS OUT!!! 🥺🥺🥺 ty Also for remembering it’s Not the first time i feel continuity validation,,... THE SOFTEST MOST COMFORTABLE BED IN THE HEMISPHERE!!!! CRIES..... thank you so much for describing it like this, i feel like i will sleep the most softly and comfortably from now on.. im so happy i could make it look so soft and fluffy;;; 😭😭😭 “not that these two would accept anything subpar” AMVJHSGHD TRUE LMAOOO their combined standards are going to be next-level (except they probably aren’t well practiced in taking care of standard everyday tasks and would get tripped up by ordinary household chores LOL;;)

glvksjkd i like the idea akoya was so embarrassed he had to leave for a moment!! although Actually i had intended that he really did wake up cause he had to go to the bathroom agjkvjhsg then he just stood there agonizing bc he was embarrassed to use it after what he said bc it would feel.. embarrassing... g;ljkvhdfg i think he did eventually though ;; “stronger than any us marine” HE WILL TAKE THIS COMPLIMENT THOUGH!!!! 😭😭😭 THANK YOU!!! 🙏🥺

“no no no baby nooo no worries that has nothing to do with it” CRIESSSSS;;;; 😭😭😭 thank you so muchhh;;;; for reassuring him with such calming and soothing loving wordsss;;;; 🥺🥺🥺 ty for calling him baby criesss he loves it ;;; 😭 (avjhsgd did you Notice kinchan calling him angel though.... HE TRIED... to find a compromise between his comfort level and what akoya wants to be called LOL) thank you so much for reassuring him he is beautiful and knowing he cares for kinchan and is cared for in return w aahhhhh;;;;; 🥺💕💕

a;kvjsghd though tbh i;; i kinda prefer to focus on the feeling of safety and it being okay to be and share myself than the laying bare and vulnerable part OTL;;; i dont really like to think of it as being vulnerable bc in my mind that means there is risk, there can be hurt... and to me when im comfortable with someone and there is mutual care for each other, i feel safe sharing with them ;;

the feeling of being bare and vulnerable makes me feel sick and i dont like it... i have felt it nearly all the time for years bc just throwing myself out into the void of strangers makes me feel like that ;; and societal messages led me to believe that if i was scared or felt uncomfortable opening up, that was a problem with myself and i should do it anyway bc i was supposed to “get over it” or “be more comfortable” with myself... i am now slowly reclaiming my right to my own boundaries and seeking to create a feeling of trust and safety before i talk about anything sensitive. i have realized that i deserve to be comfortable and i am the one who decides who and what i am comfortable with.

THANK YOU FOR CALLING KINCHAN ADORABLE HERE WAHHHHH;;;; 🥺🥺🥺 just a head THATS SO CUTE WAHHHH;;; 😭 im happy people like bundled-up kinchan;;;; 😭 he holds!!! yes.. akoya is Safe he is okay;;;;; thank you so so much cries;;;;; it really means so much to me;;;;; that you were willing to talk about this THANK YOU;;; 🥺🥺🥺🥺💖💕💖💕

#reply #also sorry if this post is too long im getting paranoid of whether i said too much agvsfdfgdg

1 note · View note

thisisthehardestthing · 3 years

Note

wait r u fr? tumblr ate the ask? pls i’m so fuckin mad i literally typed paragraphs about how much i loved it so here we go i’m gonna try to be more coherent this time:

this mafia fic is my favorite haikyuu fic i’ve ever read and one of my fave fics in general. like the amount of hard work and research u put into it is so clear and it shows in the amazing quality of the fic. ur pacing, the flow of ur words, ur characterizations of tanaka and val, the way u pull off that last scene. everything is so well done and all of those things are super hard to pull off on their own so props to u for being able to do all of those. like wow i really am in awe of ur talent and i’m so thankful for ur hard work and the fact that u posted this like u rlly took me thru an emotional ride and gave me such a good piece of writing to enjoy and i love that.

okay so: details. i love the way u include the little things in the fic. stuff like the name of the designers and the names of organizations and stuff in the fic helps me picture the scenes so much and it just really adds to the extravagant feel of the fic.

with symbolism, i could literally write paragraphs about how well u included symbols in this fic. like i deadass gasped when the viper necklace was crushed in the final scene at the end right before tanaka did it. the parallels!!!! god ur so good at writing and obviously ur brain is huge to have thought of that and seamlessly included it into the fic.

okay so idk what the proper term for this is but like, the way that action happens in the fic is so well done and not predictable but still in line with what you’ve revealed to us about the characters. like ofc tanaka would pull the necklace out of his pocket at just that moment as a way to reveal to daichi what he felt. it’s just so perfect and so true to the person he is in the fic. about his characterization, god i love it so much. all of the pain and yearning and sheer want in his person were clearly conveyed thru his perspectives and his actions. like that boy just wants to be loved and that’s why it made such good narrative sense to have daichi ask him who he loves more in the scene right before the ending. like i saw the tag for death and expected a million things but u somehow managed to surprise me and yet still stay true to the world and characters u created and ugh, it’s all so perfect.

speaking of, the pacing of this fic is so good. like u manage to take us thru a whirlwind time period that doesn’t feel fast or drawn out or anything other than perfect. u have such a good awareness of pacing that it makes me so jealous and yet so pleased as a reader. like nothing about their love confessions or trysts felt rushed or forced. it felt so natural and true to the people they were and the world that they live in.

also i said before in the other ask how i love the way u utilize sex scenes in the fic. u sprinkle them in at just the right moment and they manage to be hot but they also reveal so much about the characters involved. like i’m specifically thinking of the scene in tanaka’s home where she asks why he won’t touch her and he says that she didn’t give him permission. like the love and devotion in that way of thinking felt so true and yet in the end he still did it and ugh that breaks my heart in the best way bc i know my pain as a reader is nothing next to his pain as a character. i would actually love to pick ur brain about how u decided on the ending. did it come to u in the moment or did u set out writing the fic knowing it would end up like that? so many questions rlly bc u created a world and a cast of characters that are so interesting like i would literally read books about them. (esp val. i loved how headstrong and proud she was but also how weak and emotional she could be. her ending made me sad but u kno, it made sense) and i’m especially curious to find out how tanaka copes after. like i can’t imagine that daichi would just accept his loyalty again but u do manage to surprise me in the best way so who knows. but i also mourn for him which is a little odd for me bc after finding out that he knew about daichi’s affair i felt betrayed and it hurt for some reason which is so interesting bc i trusted him and felt like i knew him, but u still managed to keep parts of him hidden, which is so cool.

oh and despite the tragic ending, u fed us so good with scenes of the two everywhere. like i love how we got to see tanaka and val in their own homes and at parties and we truly got to see how they act when they’re alone and when they’re comfortable and when they’re playing the part of loyal bodyguard or loyal wife. ugh it’s all so good and tbh i only finished it like maybe half an hour again but i already want to read it again bc it was so fucking good and the way u write emotions like yearning and heartbreak is so good like ugh. everything about the way u wrote this fic was so amazing and fuck tumblr for eating my ask but i hope i at least manage to repeat the majority of what was in the og ask lol.

hello anon <3

It is the weekend so I finally have enough brain power to reply.

I wanted to be selfish and keep this in my inbox forever, because this might be the kindest, most appreciative thing everyone has ever said to me about my writing. Toska is a piece of my heart and my soul in written word, and to have received something like this? It’s... indescribable. You have picked up on so many of the small details, symbols, and more that I littered throughout the fic, and you’ve called out the things that I was excited about people reading and reacting to.

Fic Spoilers below the cut.

everything is so well done and all of those things are super hard to pull off on their own so props to u for being able to do all of those.

Thank you so much. I constantly worried that it was too long, too boring, that there wasn’t enough smut in there to be sexy, or that the plot ultimately didn’t make sense. This means everything to me. Pacing is one of the most important things in a fic to me, because I am the kind of person that easily loses interest when I read.

details. i love the way u include the little things in the fic.

ahhhhhhhhh!!!! I’m glad this helped you to picture everything! I actually used real life dresses, shoes, locations (google Villa La Vigie, it is STUNNING). I was a fashion student, and I now work in the fashion industry so small details to convery luxury is extremely important to me. I love that it made all the difference to you.

i could literally write paragraphs about how well u included symbols in this fic.

fuck, wow. this. This is what I was truly hoping for. I love figuring out foreshadowing in movies, in books, in tv series. I try to write things that foreshadowing what going to happen in the end throughout of every one of my fics, but this is the first time someone called it out, and I am truly grateful for it. The viper necklace thing is a moment I was very proud of. and when Tanaka tells Val to stop talking about Daichi when they’re alone on the bed together: that’s the first instance where we see his guilt that he knows. Also, when Tanaka says “why dont i finish what I started,” is another thing I linked to the ending.

the way that action happens in the fic is so well done and not predictable but still in line with what you’ve revealed to us about the characters.

kasjsdfhksjdfsd I always thought people could see right through me and how I was going to end it!!!!!!! This means so much thank you! I kept thinking, “fuck people know he’s going to kill her, this is so predictable, all these extra scenes are so boring, is it even worth it?” so AH thank you!

thank you again for the pacing comment <3

i love the way u utilize sex scenes in the fic. u sprinkle them in at just the right moment

hehehehehehe this makes me very happy. tbh, I wasn’t expecting there to be SO MUCH PLOT when I wrote this fic. I had mapped everything out and planned for it to be about... 5k? words? It ended up being 21k all together lmao. I actually thought there wasn’t enough smuttiness in the entire thing, so thanks for letting me now that it was just the right amount. I was worried because the only time I actually describe them fucking with Tanaka’s dick inside her, is that measley one paragraph at the Monte Carlo Casino. When I realised that, I was in utter shock. I was texting @mindninjax in the discord server like “FUCK. I can’t believe I haven’t actually written sex sex.” Then I went into thinking how disappointed people were going to be and phew, it was a whirlwind of a night.

i would actually love to pick ur brain about how u decided on the ending. did it come to u in the moment or did u set out writing the fic knowing it would end up like that? so many questions rlly

ask away, send in questions. I built this world beyond what I’ve written. I have character layouts and plans for every person I introduced, and have ideas for fics on all of them.

To answer your question, I knew exactly how I wanted it to end before I began writing. That end scene is what I thought of first. Exactly like that, with it being cut off mid-sentence to represent her being shot. That sort of “boom” or feeling of shock where you just stare at the screen is the exact reaction I wanted to get when I finished writing, so I hope that is what happened.

So just, thank you so much anon. For everything, for taking the time to write out this ask a second time after Tumblr ate the first one. It has kept me going since the day you sent it. I really appreciate you, and please, chat to me anytime x

Thank you.

Spasiba x

#spasiba #claudia rambles #toska asks #fic spoilers #spoiler #i love you so much #thank you

12 notes · View notes

pestopascal · 4 years

Note

so i only just saw the announcement on the fhr server what happened while i was in something else i tried searching and everything seemed to come back to you lol

“comes back to me” LOL yeah so bee posted the blm donation post after people were all like “i need a break from social media” following malins post on the fhr tumblr and like it wasnt mean. it was just a Post with ways to help/raise awareness bc like ngl being all “oh i need a break” when like there is ZERO mention of blm before all this btw. terrible. but the mods deleted it ???? (not a single mod has admitted to being the one to delete it first). and then it got reposted under spoiler tags with like “tw police brutality/politics” which. its a donation post for blm. tone deaf. so then i reposted it again, and quite frankly ppl were chiming in with like why was it hidden under those tw and spoilers and that maybe it should be posted in the announcement channel instead of being lost in genchat (it took 2hrs for it to be a formal announcement still under tws). it RLY didnt dissolve until justaname chimed in with “this server isnt supposed to be leftist fox news” (a classic which will not be forgotten by the masses) and literally like the mods were ??? not here but the mits and cms were like either trying to help or just straight up “this server is supposed to be a safe space” like even MY post wasnt aggressive lol i just gave suggestions on how ppl could donate or stream to donate or if they want more information on first nations (bc everyone seems to believe i left out australia in this...????) but then mod cheion chimed in with “politics are on the trigger list” AGAIN and its like this is a donation post about blm YKNOW??? so then idk ppl tried to like non-apologise for comments and be all “how are ppl supposed to learn from mistakes from their comments” and encourage ppl to go onto different topics and kept saying that the donation post and blm was a “heavy topic” for a GAME that literally has “heavy topics” as its like core storytelling (which btw numerous people ALSO brought up was incredibly ironic and reminded everyone the server has been like that for a very long time) anyway madcatco literally called the server theirs LOL and was like literally take ur politics somewhere else (this game......... has politics involved btw)

like then ppl left it for maybe idk a lil while i hopped into the au server and snagged some screencaps of ppl just railing on me for literally bringing up racism bc thats bad apparently to point out racism??? also my MO is to be an asshole ❤️ and then it kicked off again as ppl read up and started criticising the mods and famous comment by trob of “we’re aware of smute” LMAOOOO like sry i tried being polite with dms and screenshots last yr to emma that mod who like was sarcastic af and trob and madcat (who also btw Hated smute and rei up until like. august last yr). anyway ppl started DIGGING and posting caps of rei and smutes antics on the server in genchat specifically (also that fucking post from saturn about smute skejfhskjdhf ) and then campaigning for ppl to be unblocked who were blocked like nina (contrary to ur opinion trob dont lie 2 us i have screenshots of u in the vent channel of the au server) and like ppl kept demanding why saturn was blocked and they REFUSED to answer why and still never outright admitted it and it kept GOING it was like absolutely hilarious and sad how many non-answers and non-apologies ppl got and they were like “oh but how do we help the server” and then ppl were like “wow i didnt realise the rot went this deep” bc sooooo many ppl were getting anons as well with just how deep smutes interaction with fhr went and it was like. incredible. also shout out to smute being the pet racist comment that was the FUNNIEST shit i’ve seen. only the mits and cms were actually trying to help btw. mods were nowhere to be seen. PPL WHO LEFT THE SERVER REJOINED like who swore off fhr all those huge content creators came back. wild. at some point i passed out, got banned by lime as a “knee jerk emotional reaction” alongside alex and seagull and i think there were others as well btw idk who and we got unblocked (im so sad that happened like an hr after i went to bed i MISSED it) and just madcatco SPLIT with no apology, idk cheion said smth but quite frankly idk it was words. lime dipped out. a whole bunch of ppl also split, ppl started POURING in again. like there was another non apology which was like ‘my mental health’ and idk man none of them still apologised for being racist mind you like that was the biggest and most absolute thing ppl kept bringing up and NONE of the mods apologised for being racist and wanting to do better. they just peaced out.

anyway now the mits are full mods, the old admin i think split after like being all “huh what i just fix up channels i dont work here” . trob is now just an admin and still being all tw drama LOL so we’ll see what happens with the server. i know ppl kept saying to make a new one but like the basic structure is there. ppl just gotta not be bought off by shitty copied art anymore yknow. who knows whats even gonna happen with the game anymore apparently malin May Return after the completion of the alpha or smth

OH AND smute’s fucking attempt at apology 2.0 sry honey but

20 notes · View notes

penaltbox · 3 years

Text

J THIS WAS AMAZING OMG. I JUST HAVE SO MANY THINGS TO SAY AND SO MANY FEELINGS. THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE THINKING MY STOMACH HAD BUTTERFLIES AND I FOUND MY BREATH GETTING CAUGHT IN MY THROAT. JUST TOO GOOD FOR WORDS. but these are moments i really reacted to so i’m sharing. “You do note that he always seemed to have endless patience and you wonder if he took it all when he was born and left none for his younger brother.” that had me cackling im not going to lie. “Just shoot me a look and you’re all mine for the rest of the night” OK BOLD JACK, BOLD. but i like it. and the way he checked the rest of the night i cannot. THE PINKY PROMISE IS BACK OK IM NOT CRYING. THEY ALREADY HAVE A THING J!!! AND OOOH OK OK JACK GETTING A LITTLE PROTECTIVE THERE I SEE YOU 👀 oh the arm flex when a guy drives 🤤 oh the sleepy morning voice 🤤 A GIGGLE OMG J JUST SQUEEZE MY HEART OUT WITH A LEMON JUICER WHY DONT YOU. this is so cute it’s painful. in a good way. OH OKAY TURN UP THE SPICE AGAIN. this is hot and i love it. “oh i can take” well thats one way to turn a guy on. and oh ro, none the wiser. OKAY THE WAY YOURE MAKING ME FEEL BAD FOR RO. this is such a rollercoaster of emotions and i’m living for it. i’m in love with this fic actually. THE WAY YOU MADE THE TYING THE SKATE SCENARIO MY HEART IS THUMPING YOU CLEVER BITCH (lovingly, i think were at that point now) BUT WOW OKAY ACTUALLY I LOVE THIS SM omg my heart just stopped with roman’s joke omg. i love that you added that bc its a joking thing to say. but now it has weight. that substance. that spice. aw stop jack’s staying and roman’s being nice okay. how cute. WAIT OKAY PUTTING ON THE FACEMASKS AND THIS IS SO CUTE WTF. cuter than i ever wouldve thought. “jack” “i know” THIS MOMENT IM SCREECHING (in my head because if it was outloud my roommates might come smack me) AND THE WATER FIGHT OMG im telling mom lol mood. IM SORRY HIS SWEATSHIRT. AND THEY HELD HANDS. SHUT UP THATS ADORABLE. OH SPICY OKAY. IM HOLDING MY BREATH I CANT BREATHE OK. FUCK ME MY STOMACH IS DOING SO MANY FLIPS HOW IS THIS SPICIER THAN SMUT RN. THE INTENSITY. THIS MOMENT IS EVERYTHING. HIS HANDS AND GRIPPING HIS BICEPS AND THE LITTLE J ON THE TAG. EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS HAIR EVERY PIECE OF MY BEING ON FIRE. A FOREHEAD KISS AND CUPPING HIS CHEEK. THIS WHOLE SCENE WAS WRITTEN TO RUIN MY LIFE AND IM HERE FOR IT. oh, roman. i don’t have any other words besides “oh, roman” with a 🥺 face. wait aw that was such a sweet ending to them. bittersweet but cute. JACK OH MY HEART. omg bringing up grant that was too good. i laughed at that. perfect timing. STOP THE ENDING OKAY THAT WAS SO CUTE AND SWEET AND ITS JUST HOW THINGS GO WITH JACK AND ITS SO PERFECT. i love this fic with everything in my being. i have never been able to choose an all time favorite work (for anything movies, books, fics, music) but i can without a doubt declare this as my favorite. i love this so much. oh shit i realized how much i actually wrote. haha oops. idk hopefully you dont mind more than a few comments and reactions. but i will submit these so you can choose to post and like add a read more or something if you want.

—

This is hands down THE BEST response I have ever gotten to something I’ve written 🥺🥺🥺 I’d write every day if I got amazing feedback like this. I literally can’t stop smiling or reading this. My whole heart is ready to explode. I’m so glad you liked it so much and I’m so thankful you sent all this 🥰🥰

1 note · View note

hobidreams · 4 years

Note

RAINNNN PLS MY HEART IT GO BOOM BOOM. I loved getting a lil yoongi pov action!!! “‘Seja-jeonha!’ Your voice may be hushed, but the joy in it is indisputable. (Yoongi quickly suppresses his instinctive smile.)” The way he’s shy and tries to hide his affection for her has me endeared. I get the feeling that since she stopped coming by the library, he has decided to come to her. Ergo this scene we get to witness with him “checking in on the patients AGAIN”. AND WE FINALLY GET THE CONFIRMATION THAT

thank u as always babe!! tw mentions of death (just in case)

+ YOONGLES IS THE ONE BEHIND THE TREATS. I mean… I expected it, but it still thoroughly warms my heart that he’s thinking about her. “You were clearly not expecting Yoongi to come with you, for you give a little start when you turn to close the door and almost slam it in his face.” THE WAY I CACKLED THO and oook he DEF is only coming to visit patients to spend time with her… my heart. And the dialogue towards the end… “do you want to go this year?... T-Together? Isn’t it obvious?” has the same energy as your crush asking you out and you’re like o_o is this really happening?? And my FAVORITE LINE “But do you want to go… with me?” had me all heart eyed emoji over this piece!!! BUT WILL WE EVER SEE THIS LIL DATE OF THEIRS??? If not, I’ll just have to add this to the list for any future AMM (right under Yoongi’s reaction the first time he made mc cum).

UMMMM IM GLAD TO MAKE YOUR HEART POUND 💗💗💗 yoongi is way too cute to resist!!! hehehe he totally has a one track mind, doesn’t he? not subtle at all. DONT WORRY IT’S COMING RIGHT UP AND IT’S A HUGE CHAPTER (ok huge for this series) BUT STILL!!! i’m so so so excited about it. i hope you love it when it comes out 🥺🥺🥺

+ I love the pacing of MLT and how you’re building the foundation of their relationship. At first, I was low key (high key) mad that Yoongi was just using her for sex and mc was just letting it happen, but these last few drabbles has given us more perspective. I can see why he comes to her for sex- I feel like it’s part control,but also a comfort thing too. And I can understand why she’s willing to be treated so poorly by him. What a treat to come home to. Today was a bad day at work… had a patient repeatedly beg me to let him die :( and getting to read this let me get away for a bit. Thank you, Rain, you never disappoint!!

eee thank you -- pacing is essential to me so i’m glad you enjoy it. i intended for it to unfold like this, with the shifting of opinions as more of his character comes into view. things are... so complicated with their relationship but i hope i can keep drawing you deeper into it! i’m so sorry you had to endure that at work :( thank you for all your hard work through this pandemic, seriously. this is the least i can do for you 💖 thank you for a lovely comment as always!! gonna answer ur last one separately so i can tag it under history bc everyone needs to see it FDASJLKAFDS

#it is thoroughly entertaining to watch the opinion of yoongi swing from left to right ahah #moonlit throne #lcksndkys #rain reply

3 notes · View notes

having-a-freddie-time · 5 years

Text

save me

summary: Y/N is trying her hardest to get out of an abusive relationship without telling anyone. However, she can’t always hide the bruises, especially from her best friend since childhood, Ben Hardy. Once he finds out, he tries his best to help her out without her getting hurt.

a/n: so this part will actually be a little filler chapter. just some sweet stuff with gwil and ben. i have so many ideas for this already i just need to stretch this fic's timeline out first bc i dont wanna drop the bomb just yet ;)) (ALSO PLS REBLOG OMG)

warning: mentions of blood, slight angst, fluffy ben and gwil, mentions of physical abuse, cussing

word count: 1.5k

¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤

You, Ben and Gwil all left the cafe and separated to your vehicles. Gwil had gone to the market to get snacks and movies for a relaxing movie day at Ben's house. It sounded like heaven to you because you haven't had too many relaxing days in a long time.

You and Ben got into the car, Ben sliding into the driver's side, you hopping in the passenger side. The car drive was silent, but not uncomfortable. Ben gently held your hand as you stared out the window, a small smile pressed on your lips. Music was playing softly in the background from Ben's phone.

You didn't really listen to the music until a particular song started playing. 'Who Needs You' by Queen. This had been your fucking anthem and perfectly represented how you have been feeling lately.

"I make it half by six, you come at seven. Always trying to keep me hanging round." You softly sang under your breath. Ben knew this has been your favorite song for awhile now. He turned his head towards you, a grin peeking on his lips. He brought his hand to the radio, turning it up just for you.

At this point, you were belting the lyrics, the both of you. It was a calming song but you and Ben were singing like it was a heavy metal song. You really took this song to heart and sang with a taste of anger in your voice.

"WHO NEEDS, WELL I DONT NEED, WHO NEEDS YOU!"

You belted the last lyric, not even feeling the angry tears flooding down your face. Luckily you had arrived at Ben's, so there wouldn't be such an awkward car ride.

As soon as you felt Ben's car come to a safe stop, you bolted out of the car, running to the door. You unlocked it with the key he had given you a while back. You left the door open for him and sprinted upstairs. You spotted the familiar door and ran into the room. Locking the door, you slid your aching and shaking body down the wooden door.

Who knew just singing a simple song from the 70's would have your emotions attacking you. Anger, rage and sadness boiled inside you, threatening to spill out. You locked yourself in the guest room, hoping to prevent you from saying or doing something you'd regret.

Your back was stinging, causing you to bite your lip harshly. Tears slid down your cheek, a mix of pain and anger. You stood up gently, holding onto the wall as support. Slowly making your way to the vanity mirror, you noticed blood peeking through your light blue jumper.

Your eyes went wide at the sight, causing more salty tears to spill. You dropped the material from your hands and fell to the floor, sobbing uncontrollably. With each sob, pain shot through your back, making you weep more.

Ben chased after you, worry filling up inside him. Gwil had shown up not even a minute after the two of you did. He noticed Ben rushing into the house, so he knew something was up. He jogged up to the house and walked in, closing the door behind him. He set the bags on the kitchen table and followed Ben upstairs.

Ben stood in front of the guest room door, an ear planted on it to hear you. Both of their hearts broke with each sob that left your mouth. Your bawling filled the silence that lingered throughout the house.

Ben and Gwil looked at each other, sadness and worry caked on their face. Ben bit his lip and knocked gently on the door, hoping you'd open it. You heard the knock and slowly retreated from your position on the floor and opened the door.

Mascara streaks covered your under eyes, resembling a raccoon. You sniffled and moved out of the way so Ben and Gwil could walk in. As they did, Ben noticed the blood stain that was once a few little spots was now EVERYWHERE.

Ben turned towards you and lifted the blood stained material above your head, taking it off for you. You were going to yell at him, but you couldnt speak without wanting to bawl.

"Y/N, what happened...?" Gwil asked so gently and obviously heartbroken.

Ben looked to you, asking for permission to tell him. You simply nodded and looked to the ground, embarrassed for some odd reason. Ben sighed deeply and turned back to Gwil.

"It was her boyfriend, Trevor." He spoke with anger tracing his voice. Saying his name felt like venom on his tongue.

Gwil's expression changed in the snap of a finger from soft and gentle to pure anger and rage. He couldn't believe what he had just heard. He had almost the identical reaction that Ben had.

"That son of a bitch. He's gonna a fucking get it." Gwil growled, causing Ben to nod in agreement. You shifted awkwardly as you were just standing there in your exposed upper body.

"Sooo, are we just gonna talk about Trevor or are we going to clean up my fucking back?" You snapped. You were still riddled with anger, but you were also in fucking pain.

"Yes, Yes I will help you clean that out but it's going to hurt."

"Used to worse." You mumbled as you turned to walk towards the bathroom. Ben and Gwil looked at each other, shaking their heads at your comment.

"Somebody like her, let alone anybody, should go through what she's going through." Ben muttered to Gwil, who nodded his head in agreement and followed behind Ben to the bathroom.

Ben cleaned up the gash on your back and was just about to cover it up. "I think it'd be better if we wrap it up, like around your body." You nodded and grabbed the bandage wrap, handing it to Ben. Gwil removed the shards of glass as he has better handling skills than Ben. There weren't that many pieces, it was pretty easy to clean up. You didn't even hiss when Ben sprayed hydrogen peroxide on the wound, or when he had to wipe all the blood and shit out of it. Really shows how much pain you're used to.

Ben took the wrap and gently placed it on the wound and started wrapping it around your body.

"Tighten it, it won't stay if you don't."

"I don't want to-"

"You're not gonna hurt me any worse."

Ben inhaled sharply and tightened the bandage and sealed it off. You sighed deeply, realizing that your shirt was ruined. You were starting to feel awkward, standing there in your sports bra. You crossed your arms over your chest and smiled sheepishly at Ben.

"I'll grab you your over night clothes you keep here."

You nodded and closed your eyes, heading pointed upwards. Ben left, leaving you and Gwil alone. It was an awkward radio silence until Gwil finally broke it with a awkward cough.

"So uh, how long has this been happening."

"About a year. Started after we hit the six month mark, he started getting aggressive for no reason. Until that reason was because of drugs and alcohol. He cheated on me while absolutely shitfaced. When I tried to leave him, he went in on me. Busted my lip, gave me a concussion and had a bruise on my back the size of fucking Texas," You let out a shaky breath, Gwil was about to interrupt you until you continued. "Ben noticed, and I couldn't tell him. I fucking lied to my best friend of over 20 years because of my manipulative boyfriend. He had me thinking we'd live a better life one day, and he told me Ben would get in the way of that. My dumbass self fucking believed him," You laughed dryly. "I finally told Ben the other day, and God he was so upset with me. You should have seen the look on his face. It broke my fucking heart, Gwil. How could I just lie to him for a year? How could I let myself be such a fucking shitty relationship for two years? How could I be so fucking stupid?"

Tears spilled from your eyes for the millionth time that day. Gwil gently pulled you into his embrace. You couldnt help but lean into his touch, practically melting into him. Him and Ben always gave the best hugs.

"Come on, love. We've got a relaxing day ahead of us. I'll stay the night and the three of us will have a good time."

You simply nodded, your nose rubbing against his chest. Ben walked in, looking at the two of you. He walked over and placed a soft hand on your shoulder and planted and kiss in the top of your head.

"Change and we'll be downstairs, making popcorn and getting ready."

With that, the boys left, closing the door behind them. You slipped out if the leggings you were wearing into the pajama shorts you left here. You slid your arms through a tshirt from some random vacation you and Ben had gone on. You threw the leggings into the laundry hamper and sped downstairs.

The three of you spent the night, joking, laughing, eating your body weight in popcorn and pretzels and most importantly, relaxing. You turned your phone off, not giving a damn if Trevor called.

▪▪▪▪▪▪▪▪▪▪

tag list: @benhardyisdaddy @monochromedeacon @queenbbarnes @haileylansley @shesakillerquueennn @onexlittlespark @zcars777 @loveandbeloved29 @beatlezrcool @likeit-or-leaveit

perm tag list: @benhardyisdaddy @haileylansley @queenbbarnes @beatlezrcool

#having a freddie time #save me #ben hardy #ben hardy x reader #angst #bran writes #gwilym lee #fluff #bohemian rhapsody #borhap #pls reblog #feedback is greatly appreciated #reblog #fan fic

89 notes · View notes

starlighthan · 2 years

Text

very small vent(?) idk i just wanna release it for a bit ever since i posted my new fic

it's seriously so hard to tell if ppl did not like my fic or they just forgot my existence here in stayblr 😭

just kidding, it's just past 12 hours since i posted my new fic ... i shouldn't demand for any reactions to it right away since it's pretty new

god i sometimes wonder if it was a good decision to take a break last month 🥲 the lack of response just makes me insecure istg idk if it was write to come back even since i still do think i suck at writing in general

idk too if ppl are not into my ideas or what but the amount of notes in my fics have been up and down and i seriously dont know what ppl can enjoy

this is a problem now right?? with the lack of feedback, i cant even tell what to write for readers so they can enjoy what i post :(( i also want to please those who've been reading too obviously

i hate to compare, but i feel so sad when i saw the other fics in the tags getting lots of notes already while i barely get 20 notes :((( jealousy is kicking in here ig dont mind me

ofc im working hard in what i write, but i noticed that fics would do well if ur a remembered author here who posts a lot of fics. and it didnt go well with me now obviously because i didnt post any work for almost 2 months. while i was active a few months ago, i still get a good amount of notes... it's very slow today bc i just came back

like i said, im getting back to writing so i hope my insecurity and disappointment goes away for a bit after writing more :(( ik i shouldnt depend on notes and feedback alone but i needed it so much so i can write more and improve (and i kinda use it for validation?? i do get back to readers' comments in my fics quite a lot)

i hope i'd get any comment for arbttb, even just a short one, in the next few days 🥲 i'd appreciate it seriously

#just a whole vent of me being insecure and jealous and disappointed 🤩 jk #idk really if it's too early to vent about this but ofc i also listen to my feelings so :((#dont take this seriously idk fr pls bye #r.text

0 notes

starlightkun · 6 years

Text

soft bias tag

i was tagged by @agustdomain to do this and i uwued so hard as i typed this out

who is my bias?

lucas/yukhei/xuxi

what’s your favorite thing about him?

o o f; appearance-wise i love his big wide puppy eyes and his goofy smile, but personality-wise i love that hes just such a genuine, sweet dude, his reactions are always a little over-the-top but he never fakes them or tries to tone them down, he's unapologetically himself

who would initiate skinship more?

him for sure; it's not that i dont like skinship,, i love it!! but i'm just super awkward when it comes to initiating it

who would hog the blankets more?

hes literally a giant so probably him lmao, but i can for sure take them back if need be

who would be more clingy?

aaaah,,,, i personally,, have commitment issues,,,,,,,,,, the idea of a long, committed relationship is equal parts lovely and terrifying to me.... so i feel like he probably would be more openly clingy, like he would have no shame abt it,,,,,, and i myself would be more lowkey and sad abt my clinginess

who would say I love you first?

him, him, him. reasoning: see above answer

who would be more easily flustered?

akshsjsg me for sure; if it's like something he said that made me flustered, i could for sure say something witty back to cover it up; but if it was something physical i'd be a long-gone, flustered mess

what cuddling position would you two have?

i rlly like the idea of his arms wrapped around my torso while his head is laying on my stomach,,, so i can play with his hair and stuff

which colors remind you of them and why?

i actually have a whole color palette that reminds me of him bc i was planning on doing an edit but that fell through lmao

i like these bc they're loud and bright like him, but aren't garish on the eyes or too overwhelming

which season would you like to spend with them?

fall!! it's my favorite season in general, but i think it'd be rlly fun with him;; taking walks together in sweaters, celebrating my birthday, halloween!!, and it's perfect weather for outdoor cuddling like on a hammock or smth

who would bake the cookies and who would steal the batter?

i love baking!! but i also steal my own batter while i bake so???? i guess we're both batter stealers

which one of you would make bad puns and how would the other react?

i feel like we'd both make bad puns, but he would make them more;; depending on the pun, i would probably find it much funnier than it actually was and laugh a lot,,, or look at him in disgust;; mine are always super bad so he would probably just be like,,,, mel,, wtf as im cracking up at my own pun

who would want to adopt 50 dogs and cats?

he probably would but i would have to limit the number to like two bc of my allergy :'( i'm sorry bub

which one of you would nearly burn down the kitchen trying to microwave a pop tart and who would come to the rescue?

i was never taught basic microwave safety and lit friend rice on fire one time so hopefully yuk has more common sense than me

who likes to lean over trail railings and who pulls them back?

i'd be leaning over railings, esp if we're high up!! i just love being like high up and looking down at everything,, i also like being perched and sitting on things i shouldn't,,,,,, so as soon as i get my dumb ass up there,, yuk would for sure be yanking me back

what would watching a horror film with them be like?

if it has jumpscares,,, uh,,,,,,, peep me crying into his chest?????????? i absolutely hate jumpscares,, i nearly get panic attacks;;; but actually if it's like gore and psychological horror i dont mind so much,, i think that stuff is interesting;; but i am the kind of person to make sarcastic comments to whoever's watching it with me,, so he might have to tell me to stfu if bothers him lmao

who would be the cheesy flirt and who would be the smooth flirt?

i can't do either so he would have to be both

who is more competitive?

i feel like he would be all-around but i get super competitive if it's something that i think im good at

who would be given constant reminders? (Don’t forget your keys, things like that)

me! me! me! i have absolutely the worst memory so he'd have to text me or write little reminders for me abt most everything

who sends memes and who sends cute ‘i miss you’ texts at 3am?

i feel like we would both do both lmao,, except i send cute 'i miss you' messages at 10pm bc i'm not awake at 3am tbh

this was a lot of fun and now im super soft abt yuk 😪💕

im gonna tag @vernwn @starsindreamies (one or both of y'all!!) @choerry-bbomb and @cheesyramynry

#talk #text #tags #im soft but in both of my fics that include xuxi...... either hes an asshole or the reader is an asshole to him #im sorry...... my love #yuk #tag talk #mutuals

6 notes · View notes

thisselflovecamebacktome · 3 years

Note

I think that post is talking about comments sharing really heavy stuff abt your personal Life. Like Yes, this is a public space but i'm a stranger and i just read all of this and think 'should i stop post pics with my parents bc i'm hurting someone?'. If i follow you then it's a different story. But if don't, i feel for what happend to you..... but i also dont have any idea who you are and now i have all this emotional stuff that i need to reed in my lunch break.

Oooh, this makes more sense. I read the post as like searching people out and reblogging their posts being like "How dare you have a good relationship with your parents?" or like accusing them of lying about it or something.

I know that more recently, trauma dumping has been a topic of discussion on tumblr, and I think that's a good thing. I've been wanting to make a post on it, so I guess this will be it.

I will admit, I am someone who has been guilty of reblogging someone else's post and putting my own traumas in the tags. Even though I've been seeing a psychiatrist for just under a decade now, I came from a very anti psychology family who believes it is your loved ones and community who should be supporting you through hard times, not a paid professional. And in some ways, I agree that if you can't talk to your loved ones about your issues, they're probably not very good loved ones. And I know there are a lot of teenagers and people otherwise unable to pay for psychological help here, so I understand the urge to vent.

But as much as the internet/tumblr is a community, they are not my/your community if that makes sense. Like as you've said, nearly all of us are strangers. And while in the moment, it is very easy to be like "I'm doing it to show support/say 'me too'." or "I'm just one person doing it", as has been pointed out, many times it's not just one person doing it. So while it's easy to be like "Well you shouldn't dwell on it. Just be like 'that sucks for you' and move on", a bunch of little 'that sucks for you' all add up. Just as an example, out of my followers/following, I have 2 friends here that I didn't know offline before joining tumblr, and a maximum of 5 that I knew/know offline. I'm a small blog, but have 840ish people following me and while most of who I follow are mutuals, I have 10 or so people who aren't. So without even going into tags, that's still 840ish people who I interact with or who interacts with me on this site who are strangers. By reblogging someone's post and trauma dumping, I am subconsciously telling others it's okay to do the same. So that's potentially 850 trauma dumps on a stranger's post which then spreads. Imagine what it's like for blogs that have tens of thousands of followers. So yeah, it's something I've been working on reducing, and instead just making my own posts about it which people can choose to skip.

On the flip side of this, while it's not your fault that people trauma dump, you can never control someone's reaction to your posts. Even if you ask people to not reblog something at all, there will always be someone who does, either accidentally/realising you didn't want it reblogged right after they did it (which I have done and deleted the reblog asap) or because they simply do not care. You need to control your own social media presence. If it's becoming that overwhelming that you do not feel you can put your good experiences here out of concern it comes off insensitive to those struggling (which trust me, as someone who, until a month ago lived in a city that corona hadn't touched in a year and had many good experiences in that time, I feel that), perhaps it's time to evaluate how encompassing social media is to you and take steps to lessen the negative aspects of it. Maybe that's being content with these good moments purely existing offline and not uploading them, maybe it's spending less time online as to not be bombarded with the concern you feel, maybe it's not reading tags/comments anymore, or maybe it's just simply putting more of a barrier up and saying "their pain doesn't mean I can't have joy". Only you can make that decision. And I know what I said sounds harsh, but I promise you I'm saying that out of love, and experience both in terms of social media and keeping up with current events in the news. Like end of the day, while yes, we should be considerate of each other, our social media experience is our own and we need to curate it to be what we want it to be.

So yeah TLDR: Please stop trauma dumping on other people's posts, but also if being trauma dumped on is becoming overwhelming, please take steps to protect your energy.

And just a note that my inbox will always be open for anyone who needs me, and if they contact me when I am not stable enough to answer it, I will always make a post as to not leave them hanging and get back to them when I can.

#trauma dump #trauma dumping

0 notes

sanhatation · 6 years

Text

ri’s thicc 2017 reflection post !

its still quite a few hours away from 2018 for me but i just wanted to take this time to reflect on my absolutely Lovely 2017!!! yay time 2 get sappy as i word vomit and overshare about my year on tumblr.com !!!!

thank you loads to all of my LOVELY followers !!!!!!!!! yall are the cutest, make my day on the daily ! i wish you the best 2018 that the world can offer !!! stay healthy, take time for yourself, love yourself, love others, and be kind! 💓💓

this Riley Rant here, is gonna be here for me than anything. like a Fat journal entry !! and i am an Oversharer so here she goes [jeopardy music]

to begin, i have met and befriended so many amazing people on here this year and WOW!!!!!! lovely and supportive and talented, beautiful aroha friends??? it doesnt get better than that!!!!! i would attempt to tag all of u but yall know who u are ;)) im endlessly grateful to those of you who have really made being on here worth it. heck ya sometimes im like “why do i even spend time on here” but then!!!! idk sunny comes swingin in with just a heart full of love or sara comes swingin in with her eggs or marian comes swingin in with her rare pairs or j comes swingin in with her baking posts and thats not even HALF of it !!!!! seriously.....love you guys tons.

to my friends who i have had the pleasure of remaining your friend this year and getting closer to u !! i love you. i really dont know how yall handle me especially 2015/2016 me?? a MESS! yall are the REALEST. again, yall know who u are ;)) i hope we can continue to talk and have fun in 2018, i wish yall the best.

and lastly....heres a THICC shoutout to my six shining stars.

as for me as an individual, 2017 was a freaking Whack year. it was incredible....dare i say, iconic. and now its time for.....RILEY’S 2017 HIGHLIGHTS !!!!!! (also includes: the sucky parts bc even those allowed me to grow !)

- man, did 2017 start out pretty rough when my country decided it was a good idea to elect a freakin cheeto for president. however! i had the lovely opportunity to attend the women’s march at my capital the day before inauguration !! and it was powerful!!!! truly an experience ill treasure forever!

- binch....thank u Winter Dream for my whole life. tbh i wont forget sobbing at my best friend’s house when it dropped. thank u Miss Again Dance Practice. thank u Miss You & Me MV. thank u Miss Cotton Candy Choreography. thank u.

- ah.....when some pinhead started that tr*mp chanting at a basketball game lol! so iconic that we made the new york times! gotta love that....

- OMG !!! HOW TO SUCCEED !!!! an absolutely amazing experience. granted, the male lead was a Snake, but i had a blast. Rosemary will forever be close to my heart and ill always cry a little when i hear Brotherhood of Man or Paris Original !! such an awesome opportunity. i learned a frick ton about myself as a performer. i improved a ton in acting and dancing, and also came to learn that i am very good at receiving instructions and memorizing lines quickly. i learned that i need to work on some of my facial expressions and i also learned some of my habits ! i miss u Queenie H2$ :’’)

- had my first tap dance performance ever??? i really enjoyed learning tap, and i hope to pick it back up in the future !!!!

- BIIIIIINCCH i had the opportunity to visit my sister in korea!!!!!!! wow.....truly the BEST week of my entire year, maybe even LIFE! i went to the dog cafe, the sheep cafe, mcountdown, the lunar festival kick off, gwanghwamun palace, dongdaemun, shopped a ton around hongdae, ate food by the han river, visited namsan tower (but not without getting lost), hit the noraebang TWICE, walked into a private Fantagio board meeting, ate delicious chicken on a STIIICK, ran in the rain, ordered delivery mcdonalds, had the BEST fried chicken, met a bunch of monks, was led around dongdaemun by a very old korean man, SAW EUNWOO AND DOYEON AND RECEIVED MUCH LOVE AND NEARLY DIED, hit the convenience store literally every day, snuck out, GOT A WAVE FROM KEY :((( , bought Winter Dream and lots of skin care products and lots of cute clothes, had the clearest skin ive ever had in my life, went to a buddhist temple, witnessed a drunk man fall into the splits inbetween the ground and the subway, ran up and down 1000 subway stairs, fell in love with a man named Peanut, drank too much banana and strawberry milk, sobbed my face off at the festival as korean grandmas bowed to me, tried tons of new foods (including the nastiest bowl of cheese ramyun ive ever had in my life), bought lots of socks, rode an airplane for......like 40 hours in total? literally the best week of my Life

- had my junior vocal recital ! it was a cute girl. i felt my acting had really improved since sophomore voice recital !!

- had prom on my 17th birthday and had a jolly good time !!! my mom made my dress and i felt like a Stunner

- dream pt. 01...she rly is that Bad Bih. best era. miss her loads. none of us ever deserved her.

- les mis !!!!!! two whole weeks.....another Best Time. i learned so much, made so many lifetime friends, had a blast, sang my heart out.....such a freaking good time. i miss her

- got to spend the ENTIRE summer with momo!!!!!!!!!!! literally the ENTIRE!!!!! and what did we do? hit the park, watched lemonade mouth and fantastic beasts and starstruck and that random unicorn movie, made the Best slime, made that ICONIC weki meki video, laughed a ton, cried a ton, stayed up all night for the sunrise, stayed later for the sunset & thunderstorm, walked home in the pouring rain & lightning (IT IS VERY WET), went to the beach, met many dogs, got me hairs cut, befriended that Cat, and went to a painting class

- cabin week !!!!!!!!!!! whatta lovely time

- my brother’s wedding !!!! honestly? my best outfit of the year... had a bangin time. his wife is truly a cutie and i love her tons!

- there was that Mess in august and i still feel sorry to those who felt hurt because of it. i learned a lot about how things especially on the internet can be easily misunderstood and misinterpreted, so u gotta be EXTRA careful with your words !

- through that i also came to accept that u cant get everyone to understand or like u, and tbh that is okay for now. all we can do when we make mistakes is try to understand & learn, apologize, and try to better ourselves. and sometimes even when u do that, u still may not be liked. and thats okay. as long as you are trying your best and recognize mistakes, its all good.

-skinny dipped at girls time wow what a freaking TIME

- woah dude i dropped out of my arts school lmao!!! the BIGGEST change in my life since 2014.;..wow! i dont even have the words to say how much stress was lifted off of me and i love senior yr !!!!

- momo came to CT!!!!!!

- seeing svt live !!!!! but tbh the best part was seeing momo, “I LOVE A MAN WHO CAN SEW”, “I!!!!!!!!!! LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JIHOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”, “IM UNDERAGE”, and when Mo BLASTED to that other line

- LAKE COMPOUNCE LMAOOOOO I LOVE JIHOON PT2!!!!

- my mom, sister, and i took an eight week painting class! i finished two paintings and learned a ton!! honestly a good time

- dream pt. 02.....shes that other Bad Bih....absolutely adore her

- i also learned that its okay to cut people off who are toxic. especially if you have already informed them that they make u feel bad, they are not worth trying to please or keep around. take care of yourself. similarly, its okay to block people, and you dont owe them an explanation

- MADI CAME HOME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my other half...missed her so much :(((

- riley’s calligraphy christmas !!!!! was so much fun and i loved people’s reactions and i loved learning arohas favorite astro lyrics !!!

- ah...............one of the hardest weeks of my whole life. the pain still lingers, and i know itll hit me again like a boulder the next time we see only four of my angels standing on stage. for four months, i was worried sick about another member, and i even knew he was hurting, that his mental illness was real. my heart aches and there is a piece of it missing, but it will never be replaced. i know you are much happier now, jjong. i love you.

- and also because of that, i have been able to think a lot about how i live my life. thoughts like ‘am i watching out for my family and friends enough?’ ‘am i listening enough?’ ‘is this funny comment worth it?’ ‘am i happy?’ im trying to be better. to not take things for granted, to only be kind, to always be there for those i love, for those who love me. and i will try my hardest to not complain about small or petty inconveniences. to try harder to be optimistic.

- christmas was with my whole family for the first time in five years ;;; she was such a cute girl!

and now on to the next act !!!! its called RILEY’S NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS !!!!!!!!!!

1. lets start with the basic stuff that im 99% not gonna pull through on: keep ur room clean. keep everywhere u go clean, it makes mom upset. eat better, u know there is other foods in this house besides peanut butter and pepperoni and popcorn.

2. send out at least one Lovely Ask per day. i made this goal sometime over the summer, and i did it for a few months until i started to forget ;; its not that hard, u just gotta remember to do it !!

3. sis.....quit Procrastinating.......GET ur FREAKING application done...do ur homework the night before lmao! call who u need to !!! write those thank u cards!!!! go get them scholarships!!!! enter that graphic design contest lmao!!! just DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!! time is wasting

4. just be happy

#hot frick this is four pages on google docs FHFJJDSLASJ #anyway heres a word dump #if u actually read this......ur insane................and i love u #about me !#riley's thicc 2017 post #riley really really rambles

5 notes · View notes

cerealmonster15 · 7 years

Text

ddadds kids....

i like thinking about them as one big extended cul-de-sac family... [headcanons and stuff!]

imagine all the families spending the holidays together! i’m sure some celebrate things that the rest dont but theyd probs have one big generic get together during The Holiday Season

all of the kids are crammed together on one big “kid’s table” even tho like half of them are teenagers and there are more offspring than parents

someone always ends up starting a food fight,, usually ernest and lucien, or the twins [either pair. both pairs?? christie and christian vs hazel and briar??]

this was referenced in game once so amanda probs ends up babysitting a lot when she’s home from college for breaks+ during that short time shes still around before she leaves! she’d be a cool fun babysitter, but tough enough to keep some of the more rambunctious kids in check ;p

[ernest voice] dad i dont NEED a babysitter!!! [hugo voice] son i want to know that i can be away for the weekend and come home to a house that isn’t on fire

ernest is probs really snarky to amanda when she babysits like “youre not the boss of me” and going out of his way to cause trouble, but amanda is Cool and probs gives him a run for his money with snark and idk shenanigans ensue and he probs secretly admires her and thinks she’s awesome but would rather die than let anyone ever find out

lucien looks like he might be fairly close to amanda’s age? they probs dont have all that much in common, but damien’s date revealed that lucien listens to mcr, and amanda made her dad listen to black parade, so I bet they could bond over some music tastes here and there

LET LUCIEN GIVE AMANDA A COOL GOTH MAKEOVER

amanda: pleeeeeaaaaassseeeeeee ;D??? lucien: no way. the goth lifestyle isnt for posers i think with enough pestering she’d get him to cave. he’d take great time and care while painting her nails to make sure he does it Right

amanda probs comments on how careful and skilled he does it like “wow you really take this stuff seriously” “uh obviously??”

once he finishes, amanda takes a pic, and then all the other neighbors see her and are bothering lucien to make them look cool too. he pretends to hate it but actually has a lot of fun and is secretly really happy that they think he’s good at what he does

amanda convinces lucien to do like, cool goth makeup videos and put them on youtube/instagram. she helps him with filming and doing photography of final looks and together they get a lot of followers. sometimes she’ll guest star in his videos if he needs a face model other than his own

amanda’s kinda freaked out by christie and christian at first but over time gets used to and sees past their “creepy twin shtick” and, much like her dad [in the joseph brownie date] learns to use it to mess with them and possibly other people

at first chris probably doesnt talk to amanda a lot and keeps to himself when she’s over, but maybe over time she’d adapt to him and learn a few things hes interested in and express gentle interest in those things to kind of help him open up to her more

chris gets quietly attached to her like shes an older sister

everyone in the cul de sac does. they love amanda

AND EACH OTHER

i want daisy to be involved with the carmensita and amanda girl band thing mentioned briefly during one of mat’s dates. that’d be adorable

you know what else would be adorable? allllll the cul de sac kids coming to briar and hazel’s softball games to support them.

the kids going to each others’ anything to support them!! when theyre in clubs and activities that put on shows or performances or other sports games, as many of the neighbors that can make it are there

when they get older, they try to be more and more obnoxious to embarrass their neighbors in front of everyone, like making huge support signs and banners with glitter with a stupid yet supportive pun that one of their dads helped come up with, or printing their neighbor’s face on a tshirt or a giant cutout on a popsicle stick, shouting as loud as possible

they def went to amanda’s actual graduation and PROBABLY ALL CRIED

a lot of this has amanda centric bc i Love Her, but also,,

maybe hugo and craig start going to wrestling matches together [+dadsona] so ernest sees a lot of the cahn kids. if amanda’s in town, she’s with them and in charge. if not, ernest is technically in charge, but secretly [not so secretly probably] the dads are counting on briar and hazel [briar, mostly] to keep things from falling to disaster for the few hours theyre out

they all like to take turns riding on the Giant Dog that ernest got in damien’s route [duchess something i think?] [a good component that should be canon in all universes]

“lets put river on him” “no she’ll fall off” “wheres the duct tape” “n o”

if enough disaster happens leaving these kids alone together, they probably get dropped off at another dad’s house to be looked after for a while. joseph volunteers to look after them but since he and mary are already looking after 4 and KEEP LOSING CRISH, they tend to try and ask literally anyone else

[not that theyre bad parents lmao but it’d be easier for all the other parents that just have One Kid]

i bet christian and christie love robert’s wild spooky stories. he probably makes up so much bullshit to fuck with any kid that’s listening

they’d carpool if they could fit enough kids in one car. it’s probably a 2-3 car carpool depending on who’s driving what size car and who needs to go where at what time

there are probably so many inside jokes[CUL DE SAC MEMES......] that are born at every cul de sac gathering.

when amanda’s home from college, all the kids wanna be the first to tell her all about the SHENANIGANS she’s missed out on

river and crish are bffs once theyre old enough for human interaction. they Have To Be.

pranking each other in the school hallways plz, or just all around chaos. god help the teachers that somehow end up with 2+ of the cul de sac kids in the same class

ernest definitely sends his dog to poop on damien’s lawn outside lucien’s bedroom window / probably does the flaming bag of dog poop ding dong ditch when he knows lucien’s home alone and will be the one to answer the door

christie and chris like when briar and hazel pretend to be each other, so they get their hands on a pair of scissors and chris gives christie a terrible haircut. possibly briar and hazel try and help with the scheme and things just get Worse and joseph has to take his daughter to a Professional [or maybe one of the dads is really good with hair/has had their child do the same thing and is good with fixing a bad haircut ;p]

carmensita goes through a goth phase after she goes over to lucien’s to be babysat one day. mat does not know how to Deal bc this isnt the type of music hes used to playing but he loves and supports his daughter regardless and likes to hear her singing all kinds of music to broaden her horizons and strengthen her talent

G R O U P T E X T between all the kids old enough to have phones

there are lots of memes. lots. of memes.

they take candid shitty photos of each other all the time and send them in the chat, and particularly amusing ones end up reused as reaction photos

lucien: [sends photo of ernest having just spilled cereal on himself with duchess in the background making off with a piece of pizza] ernest: fuck u carmensita: mood daisy: why are you having pizza and cereal for breakfast? ernest: dont tell me how to live my life amanda: lol tag urself i’m duchess

this is just something i like to do w/ my friends but they’d probs also stealthily take pictures of each other when theyre out and about and send them to each other in secret like amanda’s out with her dad at the grocery store and spots lucien and damien in the dairy isle and is like FUCK,, she hides behind a stand of donuts or w/e and takes a pic of them and sends it to lucien w/ no context or like “lol hey”

it becomes a war of sending pics of each other to each other/the group without getting caught. lucien and ernest probably act like they think it’s stupid but get so competitive about it

they all keep score and it probably also would extend to taking stealthy pics of cul de sac dads too Just Because

the dads find out about the competition somehow and like,,, secretly are so into who’s winning. especially brian and dadsona. sometimes they’ll try and serve as a distraction for their child to get a sneaky pic so they can win, but usually the kids prefer the solo missions

val comes and visits sometimes with cool stories. sometimes she brings her girlfriend, and amanda especially looks up to them like two cool older sisters [i dont remember if it was jacket pins or photography that val said her gf is into, but whatever it is i’m sure amanda would geek out about it with her]

christie and christian eventually grow out of their “creepy twin” thing but still have a more unique brand of humor/personality. the cul de sac kids are used to them by then, and will THROW DOWN with anyone that bullies them/ calls them freaks or anything like that, or anyone that picks on chis [and eventually crish] by association or for any other reason

THESE KIDS MAY ARGUE AND FIGHT AND STUFF SOMETIMES BUT THEY’LL STICK UP FOR EACH OTHER IF ANYONE OUTSIDE THE CUL DE SAC TRIES TO START SOMETHING W/ ONE OF THEIR OWN

i could go on forever making up headcanons or scenarios for these kids bc i love them and constantly crave more content about them but imma stop here bc it’s been over an hour and this is Long but anyway plz talk to me about these kids + the cul de sac as a whole. share ur headcanons,,,,, i l o v e the m ,,

#ddadds #headcanons #long post #VERY LONG MY B #dream daddy #I GOT REALLY INTO IT #but now i gotta clean my room a bit hurgk blegh

81 notes · View notes

fuck-customers · 7 years

Text

so i work at what i like to call, shitwill, the retail/thrift store for almost 5 years. as an employee, you're trained to eventually do everything (sort, hang, wares, donations, cashier, cleaning, etc.) and its a very easy job and starts above minimum wage but what makes it so bad is customers/donors.

If you ever come in, ask a question and we say no, we're not saying it to get a reaction out of you. we have a lot of rules we have to follow, or we will be fired. yeah you can talk to my manager about changing a price, but we have policies about that too, so you probably still wont like their answer either.

like, i know and understand if it wasnt for them, we wouldnt have a job. but let me just start on donors.

also, from what ive noticed, all shitwill stores/divisions/states/regions work different from each other. this is my store, in my state, in my region, in my division.

and these things wouldnt be bad if they were unique, but no, these things occur almost every day, if not actually every day

- first off, if you donate, ask yourself, "would someone want to pay x amount of dollars for this in a thrift store in the condition its currently in?", "would i buy USED underwear?", "should i donate this bag of stuff that smells weird?", "should i donate clothes that were stored in a shed for x amount of years?", "should i donate it if it needs fixing?" hint: if any is answered with no, then dont fuckin donate it. throw it away if you pull up and someone's already in front of you, please just wait in your car. we only are allowed to schedule 1 person to take donations. so dont get out, walk past whoever is taking the donation, and go inside. just fuckin wait. IF YOU DONATE IN THE SUMMER/SPRING/LAST WEEK OF THE YEAR: PLEASE, PLEASE be patient. these are our busiest times of the year, so there will be lines. - please dont show up with truck loads, PLEASE. it stresses everyone out bc especially in those mentioned times, our production area is FULL. like, safety hazards bc our donations are 2 feet from the ceiling. - NO WE CANNOT BACKDATE A DONATION RECEIPT ONCE IT IS PASSED 12/31 OF THAT YEAR. you've got all year to donate. if you didnt get a receipt with the year that you donated it, thats youre bad bro - loose donations are such a bitch to deal with, it'd be really cool if you'd donate in a bag or box. - "i'd like to donate but i'd like to keep my box" is so irritating to hear. - dont argue with us if we say we can't take something. we're very giving with what we take, bc people do donate their actual trash, but its 99% because of a safety issue. - if your truck load of donations is shit you've cleaned out of a house/storage units/apartments and its all absolute trash and you know it by just looking at it, don't bother, just drive to your local dump. as soon as we take your stuff in, its being ran to the compactor immediately - NO WE CANNOT GIVE YOU ANY DONATIONS WE'RE TRASHING. WE AS EMPLOYEE'S WILL LOSE OUR JOBS. DON'T FUCKING ASK. - no sir, we dont need one of the men to help carry this couch in. any females coming to get your donation, can in fact carry it. we wont break, i promise :) - pls dont donate in the last 2 hours, or before we open. and if no one comes out, just pile it outside. we'll get it either that night or first thing in the morning.

and as a cashier dealing with customers

- in general, our customer base is an older audience, and it seems we attract a certain kind. ones who whine bc we dont have chairs up front, ones who find a nice blouse and complain they have to pay 3.99 when it came from kohls and was originally $50, still has original tags attached. just a bunch of rude older ladies -mothers who bring their kids and let them roam, they're running around almost tripping some of the elder customers, making messes, climbing on our racks, which are on wheels. just watch your kids, please - please please please dont come in in the last 30 minutes. and if you come in within 2 hours of close, notice employees cleaning or everything looks neat and clean, don't make a mess. - it'd be cool if ya'll can go home and destroy your own bathrooms with your explosive diarrhea. this happens way too often - please dont take a piled up cart into the dressing room and leave it all. if anything, ask the cashier what you should do with the pieces. - oh, that store in the state next to us does this and that? thats cool, go there. we can't do anything about it - US RETAIL EMPLOYEES CANNOT CHANGE OR DO ANYTHING ABOUT POLICIES AND RULES. YOU CANNOT BE AN EXCEPTION. dont like the prices? yeah me neither. send a comment card, they're by the door. i, the cashier for the morning shift, cannot do shit about why pants went up to 4.29 now. - can you just wait until i say you can swipe/insert your card? our registers and credit card machine are not one system, i have to do them separately, so if you insert your card as soon as i enter your last item, the machine will scream at you bc its not ready - we're just a thrift store still, if you come in within the first 2 hours of opening, have a total of 4.85 and pay with a $100 bill, we cannot break it as we start with 100. have your card or something smaller with you, please.

i have 5 years worth of complaints, dont even get me started on how much the company pisses me off. the only thing keeping me there is the pay, which still isnt great but its more than most stores.

#submissions #fuck customers #cashier problems #submission

113 notes · View notes