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rocorambles · 3 years
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Beauty and the Beast
Pairing: Iwaizumi x Reader
Genre: Fluff 
Summary: Life isn’t a fairytale and Iwaizumi is perfectly fine with that. 
Author’s Note: Gifting this to @aonesteddybear as part of the SFW Haikyuu HQ Gifting Event. Hope you enjoy~
Oikawa had always used to joke that whenever Iwaizumi got a girlfriend, it would be like the live reenactment of Beauty and the Beast (which always earned him a well-aimed volleyball to the head). But the ex-ace secretly wonders if the brunette is right. 
High school had been full of shy giggling girls who had nervously confessed to him or asked him out, entranced by the idea of dating the ace and vice-captain of Aoba Johsai’s renowned volleyball team, the best friend of Oikawa Tooru himself, the boy the entire Seijoh team and the rest of his peers highly respected and spoke well of. Even second-year Kyoutani Kentarou seemed to be on his best behavior whenever the spiky haired third-year was around and that was saying something. 
Encouraged and urged on by Oikawa, Matsukawa, and Hanamaki to test out the waters, Iwaizumi had gone on a few dates. But he always felt like a bumbling inarticulate caveman no matter how sweet, how kind, how accommodating the girls were. 
He cringes when he remembers how accidentally callous he had been with his words, making girls cry and left when he lectured them about eating less sweets and exercising more when they insisted on going to desert shops, things he would tell his own teammates out of a responsibility to keep them healthy, not because he cared about what they looked like. And he groans when he remembers the countless times his highschool dates had screamed in his face when he just shrugged his shoulders and said they looked fine, the same as usual, when they showed off a new outfit, new haircut, new makeup look. 
Boys still flocked to him, younger students looking up to him as a role model, his male classmates fist bumping and slapping a hand on his back in friendly greeting. But gossip travels fast among highschool girls and as oblivious as Iwaizumi usually is to the rumors circulating around, even he notices the wary looks and whispers every time he walks past a group of girls. 
"Iwaizumi is polite, but I heard he has no social skills. Did you hear how he made the last girl he dated cry?"
"Iwaizumi and Oikawa are best friends, but Iwaizumi isn't anywhere near as charming as Oikawa." 
"Iwaizumi is kind of cute, but I heard he's kind of a brute when you get to know him." 
Rough around the edges. Gruff. Lacks tact. 
The descriptions never seem to end and although it stings a bit, Iwaizumi can't deny that there's some truth to all of the above. 
So he swears off dating throughout the rest of high school, dedicating himself to volleyball, making it to Nationals, passing the college entrance exam, leaving highschool with no regrets as he spends as much time laughing and fooling around with Oikawa, Matsukawa, and Hanamaki as he can before hopping onboard a flight to California. 
America is different. College is different. And suddenly he feels like he's the beauty and the girls around him are beasts. 
Iwaizumi knows that even by Japan’s more conservative standards, he still falls on the quieter and introverted side of the spectrum, so acclimating to a place like California is a cultural shock to say the least. He feels as skittish as a mouse as girls blatantly flutter their eyelashes and casually lay their hands on his shoulders in class. He almost drops his drink in surprise when drunk college girls walk right up to him and attempt to lock lips at parties. And on the few dates that he does go on, he feels like a wide-eyed blushing maiden when he’s practically dragged into apartments after a date has ended under the guise of just watching a TV show together, only to realize that his date has much less innocent intentions. 
He tries to convince himself that it’s not just him, that it’s just a clash of cultures and that he’ll get used to it. But he throws his phone across the room when he sees pictures of Oikawa looking perfectly at home in Argentina’s arguably more sensuous and passionate culture. Even Matsukawa and Hanamaki handle themselves just fine the few times they come to visit Iwaizumi and he groans when he sees the two men soak up the attention and physical touches without even batting an eye. 
Fine, so maybe it is just him. 
Tired of being siloed into the roles of beauty and beast, he once again pushes dating aside, opting instead to dive headfirst into his studies, join the university’s volleyball club, explore the west coast. He gets good grades. He makes new friends. He gets to continue playing the sport he loves. All in all, it’s a great life and he really can’t complain. But every time he walks past a couple on campus holding hands, every time he sees a couple sitting together in the college coffee shop, every time he video chats with his old highschool friends and they go on and on about the girls they’re currently seeing, he feels a sharp pang of longing deep inside of him. 
Years pass and he busies himself with acing his exams and landing a solid career and now that he has his dream job as an athletic trainer for Japan’s National team, he hardly has time to think about anything outside of his rowdy team, let alone dating or women. And it certainly helps that the males he’s surrounded with on a daily basis all have one track minds, too focused on volleyball, on the court, on always excelling to care about romance or relationships. It’s a mindset he’s more than well acquainted with and he feels like he’s finally in his element as he barks orders and drills at the sweaty athletes, grinning when Bokuto’s spikes get stronger, giving a thumbs up when Hinata jumps even higher than before. 
Who needs a ring on their finger or a woman on their arm when victory tastes even sweeter than any love story? 
Or so he thinks until he meets you. 
The team is celebrating another victory at their favorite bar and although Iwaizumi is happy for them, he keeps a close eye on how many drinks they’re chugging, knowing that the role of babysitter will always fall on Ushijima and him. But all seems well so far. Atsumu and Sakusa aren’t at each other’s throats. Hinata and Bokuto are speaking in relatively coherent sentences. So he decides to reward himself with another drink, making his way over to the counter and waiting for the bartender to notice him. 
It’s a busy night and he sighs when minutes pass by, but he tenses up when a teasing voice reaches his ears. 
“You’re going to get wrinkles if you keep on frowning like that.” 
It’s instinctive, the way he scowls and snaps back at the stranger without even looking at them, telling them that’s just his face and if they don’t like it, they can take a hike. But he pales when he registers his harsh words and an apology is already forming in his mouth when he whips his head around to look at you, only to stare in surprise when you just cackle at him, eyes glimmering with mischief and curiosity as you introduce yourself, so different from the usual disappointed or judgemental looks he receives from women. 
And he wonders if this is a prank or a dream, disbelief coursing through him at how easily the two of you converse after years of believing that he would never find someone he was compatible with. There’s no need to sugarcoat his words, to filter his thoughts and he watches in awe as you take it all in stride, never flinching at his frank words, rolling your eyes with an amused smile on your face before sending a quip of your own right back at him, filling in the gaps when words don’t easily flow from his mouth. 
For the first time in his life, he doesn’t feel like a beauty or a beast. He’s just himself. Iwaizumi Hajime. 27. Athletic trainer. A man quickly falling head over heels for the woman besides him.
Dating you is a breath of fresh air. It’s comfortable. It’s natural. It just feels...right. There’s no pressure on him to be prince charming (although he tries his best and ends up grumbling when you just laugh at his stiff attempts of eloquent conversation and polite mannerism). There’s no tears or vague confusing anger directed his way when he misses subtle cues or phrases something horribly (both of which he is often guilty of) and he just nods and listens, jotting down mental notes when you tell him directly and clearly why you’re upset with him. 
And in return you see his more nuanced signs of affection and love. You see it when he roughly grabs your bags from you and holds them for you. You feel it when he silently corrects your posture when you’re working out together. You hear it when he briskly grunts at you to stop working so much and get some real food and sleep.      
Life isn’t a fairytale. There are no magic teapots to provide guidance. There’s no spell to blame their fights on. There’s no magic that will instantly restore peace. There’s only two humans, two equals learning how to love, navigating through life together, sticking side by side through the fights, the tears, the laughter, and the smiles. 
And Iwaizumi can’t help but think this is far better than any romantic fantasy, even a tale as old as time like Beauty and the Beast.    
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catharsistine · 3 years
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To Write A Good Villain
TW: loss of control, hallucinogenics, dr*gs, sc*rs, venom, bl*od, death, defeat, s*x, god, volcanoes, pr*dtors, m*rder, j*alousy, smoking, ab*se, cheating, sl*very, oppression, servitude, vampires, destruction.
Technically, I'm here on Tumblr as a writer. So. It's time I contributed my itty bitty bit.
Many things make a good story. Some claim it is world-building, some think it the cast of protagonists, some the vivid descriptions. All of those elements, however, will seem lacklustre, if your story does not have a good villain. What use is an MC with glorious superpowers or magic, if there is nothing to oppose them? Can there be any victory without a great evil?
In real life? Perhaps. In any fictional world? No. The readers tune in for awesome conflict, so we writers must provide, and enjoy ourselves while doing so.
So what does make a great villain?
Before we explore that, let us review the types of villains. Most important to remember is that a villain need not be human. In literature, there can be many types of discord:
- Person Vs Self: Often used as a compelling subplot, this kind of conflict is valid when a person needs to do something that is opposed to their inner self, something they find morally, emotionally or intellectually repulsive. Eg; A scholar forced to indulge in activities that are unscientific, like smoking when they know it is bad for their health. A pacifist who is forced into a war situation and must commit murder to save their own or their family's lives. A person seeking enlightenment struggles with jealousy when their guru finds a new favourite. (IMPORTANT: Feeling conflicted due to one's morals is acceptable. Hating oneself due to a mental disorder is not. Please do not use mental illness as a plot point.)
- Person Vs Person: Often used as a primary plot point in standalone stories and movies, this kind of conflict is valid when a person bears a personal grudge or hatred toward another. Eg; A wrestler hating someone who defeated them in the ring through sabotage. A child-hating the murderer that orphaned them and their sibling. A person hating their lover who manipulated, gas-lit or cheated on them. (IMPORTANT: Ensure that abuse and abusers are not romanticized, that the healing journey of the character does not lead to them forgiving their abuser. Forgiveness is not a prerequisite for closure. Please do not encourage abuser-abused relationships.)
- Person Vs Society: Often used as a primary plot point in dystopian stories and movies, this kind of conflict is valid when a person aims to fight against a law or a government that systematically oppresses them. Eg; A womon fighting against the law which considers them as lower-class citizens. A PoC fighting against slave laws. A member of the working class rebelling against the bourgeoisie. (IMPORTANT: If you are not a minority, do not presume you are qualified to tell their story. Our stories belong to us alone, and taking away from us the privilege of sharing our trauma when we feel comfortable enough to do so is the worst kind of representation. Please remember if you occupy a position of power, you have no right to speak on our behalf. Already we are often silenced, do not participate in that further if you claim to be an ally.)
- Person Vs Machine: Often used as a primary plot point in science fiction stories and movies, this kind of conflict is valid when any man-made object gains enough intelligence to be considered sentient and becomes a threat to humanity. Eg; A machine that acts as a maid desiring to be free of the bonds of its servitude. An AI which does not have empathy and value for human life. A robot that attempts to destroy mankind. (IMPORTANT: These conflicts are often intricate, and can be spun anyway. Perhaps a human tries to teach a robot to love, and the result is embarrassing in a comedic way. But do not try to equate people on the asexual and aromantic spectrums, people with mental illness or people with severe trauma to these AI. They are extremely discriminated against. Please, do not contribute to the stigma.)
- Person Vs Nature: Often used as a compelling subplot, this kind of conflict is valid when a person is pitted against fauna and flora in a vulnerable state. Eg; A captive who has escaped their bonds only to come upon a harsh landscape. A person with severe allergies visits a place that is opposed to their disposition. A person with a grudge against a famous wild animal who bit off their leg. (IMPORTANT: In many such stories, a trend is that a character comes across a hostile tribal group. These tribes are portrayed only the negative attributes of certain PoC cultures. Doing so is blatantly racist and highly offensive. Please refrain from representing us in such appalling ways.)
- Person Vs Fate/Supernatural: Often used as a primary plot point in fantasy and YA stories and movies, this kind of conflict is valid when a person is threatened or working against a force that is outside nature. Eg; A person coming across a magical artefact belonging to a god, and the devil's henchmen are after it, but it has bonded to them. A lower-level employee working in a tampon factory accidentally discovering their boss is a deadly vampire. A person falling in love, only to discover their partner is heir to a clan of selkies, and their younger sibling plans on overthrowing them. (IMPORTANT: Oftentimes, the villains are given physical and cultural attributes exclusive to PoC and their culture, like the antagonist having dreadlocks or enjoying food that lies outside white cuisine. Please realise that is racist.)
How to create a proper villain:
1. Motive.
Arguably the most important factor in a villain is motive. Their end goal must be reasonable(depends on their moral compass), achievable(depends on their means), and must cause moral conflict in the protagonist.
Eg; Due to childhood trauma, a villain feels weak and unsafe in their own skin. Adopting a terrifying persona, they seek to control everyone around them, and by extension, the world, through a potent hallucinogen. Considered worthless until they design a new identity, the villain is only considered a threat when they overthrow a monarchy/gain obscene amounts of money/create a giant machine. The MC knows that the villain is wrong in their actions, but understands that their henchmen are drugged, and must choose a different course of action than brute force to defeat them.
2. Power/Skill
Expanding on the earlier point of a goal being achievable, a villain must have the capabilities to obtain the prize they desire. If they perform actions outside their means, the entire premise becomes boring and unrealistic. Unless the villain is playing pretend for a future plot twist, humble the antagonist before they get out of hand.
Eg; A machine cannot destroy the world if they do not have an intricate base code if they are not linked to machines around the world. An animal cannot be famous unless its existence is questionable unless it is more mythical than real unless it possesses some quality (a missing tooth, a scar across their eye) that the others of its breed do not have. Kindness cannot be a source of a moral dilemma if it is not shown in many actions of the protagonist.
3. Appearance.
Contrary to popular belief, the way a villain looks contributes greatly to their story. If the appearance of an antagonist does not match their other attributes, the villain may fall flat and feel one-dimensional.
Eg; If a person comes from humbler beginnings, them wearing designer clothes is not feasible. A wealthier person should at least maintain the appearance of being well-groomed, but a few things out of place, such as a tie clip, messy eyeliner, or stubble are acceptable, perhaps due to lack of respect for themselves, or mania from unfulfilled desires. If a plant is secretly venomous, let insects keep away from it. If a werewolf is known to violently transition, let them have a feral look in their eye, larger canines and stronger jawbones.
4. Presence
Outside of appearance, the overall vibe of the villain is of the utmost importance. Their aesthetic instils fear, inspires awe, which is one of the primary things that cause audiences to secretly root for them. Their smooth delivery of scathing, savage lines makes us fall in love with them. Having a stellar, scary presence amplifies whatever the villain does tenfold.
Eg; If a villain wears a daring dress, different from the style of their era, it will make them seem much more impressive. Fresh after a murder, if they have blood splattered on their face, it will make the ghastliness of their actions more resounding. If they're haunting little children, having grotesque features instead of sharp ones will terrify the kids more, and the readers.
5. Backstory
Why did the villain become a villain in the first place? This is perhaps the most important question when it comes to antagonists. Not only do backstories help us understand the villain's motives and reasons better, but readers may also root for them if they glimpse a part of them reflected in the villain, making the tale more painful to read.
Eg; If a bully has been abused at home, it explains their actions. If a villain was in a situation where their body was not theirs, their actions may be born out of a desire for control.
Things to avoid:
1. Do not make them a caricature. Avoid toxic and dull stereotypes such as "catty ex-girlfriend", "sex-crazed womon", "evil old pr*dator" etc. Not only are these caricatures cartoonish and overused, but they also make a villain hollow and lifeless. Villains are humans too, give them quirks, bad habits and things they enjoy, beliefs of their own. (Eg; They enjoy watching cat videos, smoke or bite their nails, enjoy mixing drinks for fun, and think God is a hoax.)
2. Avoid coding them as PoC or LGBTQ+. If you have a diverse cast of various races, ethnicities, sexualities and genders, then it is completely alright to write another such character as the villain. However, if your only minority character is the villain, that is highly problematic.
3. A backstory does not equate to sympathy. If the villain's actions are extremely reprehensible, including and not limited to; r*pe, g*nocide, ab*se or s*rial murder, please do not try to redeem them. Understanding someone's motives is wildly different from making the audiences sympathize with them. Do not romanticize their flaws.
4. Lastly, humble them. A villain will always entertain the audiences if they suffer a bit too. Instead of constant angst and pain, add lighter moments, moments where they stumble, trip, are tired or bored. This would make their eventual death/defeat burn even more, and the audience will definitely mourn the loss of a wonderful antagonist.
Like a volcano, a true villain leaves ashes in their wake, but their fire forces the protagonists to solidify into stone. Let their actions echo into the age.
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facelessxchurch · 4 years
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What we’re your thoughts about the book?
Some asks were answered already in this post already so I just smacked those asks in here at the part where I talk about the topic in question, which is why the answer may not 100% fit the question.
Massive “Seasons of War” spoilers below the cut:
First off, of all, this book read like GoT/any zombie movie ever. With the necromancers being like the white walkers, Vile is the night king and daugar are the wights. even with the necromancers crumbling away after Vile got killed Tell me I’m not the only one seeing that.
I think there was a lot of fanservice and some confirmed headcanons in the book, which I really liked. Saracen magic got revealed, there was a return to the Leibniz dimension, the Vile vs Vile fight so many wanted finally happened (tho that was kinda underwhelming) and the Dead Men returned which I’m sure made a lot of people happy. 
Ravel poisoning Saracen during the war and Vile being so powerful bc of being dead were two popular headcanons that got confirmed. And I am personally so happy that this book killed the ‘there is no sarcasm in the Leibniz dimension’ headcanon bc I bloody hated that.
Finally, Landy tries to please the old fans instead instead of what feels like purposefully pissing them off. I guess the phase 2 book sales weren’t that great so far (nice try blaming it on the pandemic, but no). 
I’m also glad that the romance in this book was kept to a minimum bc The Val/Militsa kiss in the beginning, yikes, fanfiction has better written kisses than that. And the the dialog for the lesbian love triangle (bc for some reason Ms.Wicked aka Laura’s self insert is Militsa’s ex??) was cringy and stiff as hell, it felt more like first graders trying to do a dramatic play and not natural at all.
Surprisingly enough Mevolent’s and Serafina’s relationship seems to be the most healthy and romantic in the entire series and I have no idea if that was on purpose or if Landy just has twisted views on relationships.
I however am actually kinda happy with how Mev was written. He was sympathetic and charismatic, tho some of the stuff he did doesn’t fit to they way he’s characterised when he’s on screen (I know he is probably lying 90% of the time he speaks, but still). Like, banning all languages apart from English doesn’t seem like something a man who cares about culture, literature and art would do. It also seems kinda stupid bc those languages will be forgotten eventually and if they need an old text translated no one will be able to do it. Also, why English? Isn’t Mev old enough that his first/original language should be Gaelic? So weird. I have the feeling this was mainly done so Valkyrie (and with that the audience) can understand what the people on the continent are saying bc I very much doubt she understands/speaks any languages apart from English. 
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But I loved that Mev was also shown as insanely smart. He managed to outsmart Val multiple times. And I love how he doesn’t need his magic to fight, how quick and agil and skilled he is. So I take it that his fighting style is more based on agility and not getting hit, and he uses brute force only when forced into it (by Darquesse/the Unnamed). I was wondering about that bc his armor is made of leather and chainmail instead of metal plates which is considered light armor and not something a tank type of fighter would wear.
What really rubbed me the wrong way tho was when he was talking Tanith and Skul and more or less stated the war wasn’t a challenge anymore ever since Skul died. Or when he was talking to Val being like ‘you’re more powerful than I could ever hope to be’.It bothers me even more knowing that Val is based on girlfriend!Laura. Does really everyone and everything in-vers, even a big bad like Mev, rub Skul’s/Landy’s and Val’s/Laura’s ego? Big yikes.
Crespular Vies is surprisingly fun. At first I thought the two men going after the Obsidian Blade were hired by the Unnamed, but since that wasn’t the case, I think Crespular Vines hired them that so he could show up in time to save Omen and his friends. I think him opening up to Omen about being Skul’s former partner came too unprompted, too quickly and that he is trying to gain Omen’s trust so he can get close to Skul through him. I think another giveaway that that’s the case is bc one of the men Omen had to meet to get his brother back wore a Cleaver outfit and Vies gave that man probably the same reasoning Omen gave him.
That said Omen’s chapters were surprisingly enjoyable. By what I had heard of others I expected a sad sack that can’t fight worth a damn. 
I’m not found of the Temper/Kierre stuff, it came out of nowhere.
Val is overpowered AF, it seems that she can get on Darquesses level with more practise/learning how to keep the doors open. She certainly needs to be nerfed.
Also I skipped the Darquesse chapters bc I’m giving negative fucks about her and the plague doctor.
The last 10% of the book were too rushed and felt like half finished thoughts.
Also I was kinda really bothered by the citizen of the Leibniz dimension. They were cartoonishly racist and it was very pretty black and white for the most part AKA everybody good is in the Resistance and all other sorcerers are evil/corrupt. That is also shown by there being children in the Resistance camp while there was no mention of children in the mage cities. In reality, most people are fairly mellow and it’s just a small percentage that is either really good or really wicked. I would have liked to see more racism towards mortals in form of apathy or ‘the soft bigotry of low expectations’ like I’ve seen it from Serpine in DotL. You know, make it a little less black and white.
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Also, I understand the mermaids, but the bats in Europe were random AF. Like, I would understand it if they were just in Romania/Transylvania as a nod to the Dracula-typ vampire legends originating from there. As a plot-device they weren’t really needed to keep the protagonists from flying bc the danger of getting spotted by necromancer by doing so should be enough of a threat to keep them on the ground. This might seem nit-picky of me, but the bats just seemed so bloody random to me like wtf????
And also bc I’m a slut for magical creatures, I would have really liked to see more of them than just daugar and giant bats. Some undead cut together and resurrected necromancer experiments would have been pretty cool tbh. Like whatever the hell this is.
Something like zombie bears would have also been acceptable, I mean, bears are fucking terrifying on their own, let alone when undead and decaying.
I’m kinda pissed at China that she wanted Skul to kill Nef, but it does seem in character. Of course I still don’t like it bc I headcanon as Nef, Eliza and China having been besties during the war (no matter what canon says, I’m keeping that headcanon). I’m surprised Skul didn’t let Wreath have Nef considering that. Then again, he thought Nef might still be useful. And he was right. I loved how Nef actually had an essential part in saving the world by throwing the bomb. So proud of my boi <3 But Skul refused to kill him even after that. Could it be that Skul is finally getting character growth and development? 👀
Aaaand, China’s continuing to be a tyrant. With Tanith’s sense of justices flaring up shown when he killed the city governor, Erato, and Nef being shown to go after people that betray him (Lorien) I think those two are being set up to go after China to kill her (and to probably kill Creed too). Imagine Eliza joining the team bc she want a piece of China too.
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I feel sorry for Baron, but at least he got a few speaking lines this time around. Still, I really wanted Nef to save him. :C Like, he suffered so much before he died too considering he spend a year alone starving and thirsty with broken legs in the middle of nowhere wft, why is Baron getting fucked over like this? #BaronDeservedBetter2020 he is the only honorable person of all faceless followers and he’s the one that gets screwed over in every book he shows up in, why tho- 😭
Speaking of Nef, I absolutely loved him in this book, he was a delight and stealing the show whenever he was on the page, despite being used as  punching bag through pretty much the entire book. If people have always treated him that way I can see why he turned evil jfc that poor man. Despite that, he was still being such a clever, funny and relatable bae <3 He’s described as ‘cynical, and nasty but also kinda cheerful’ and as liking to ‘needle’ people (aka trolling and roasting) by Val and that essentially describes every shitposter on the internet ever. And I so loved the way he roasted Saracen lmao
And how he’s so clever, like the Lorien part was my favourite scene closely followed by how Nef essentially talked Remus Crux into getting himself killed, just 👌 smart snek boi, I love him <3 Also I hope he keeps poisoning everybody thoughts against Skul like how he had already been doing it to Tanith, he’s poison in human form and that’s just my jam.
That obedience bracelet was kinda fucked up tho.
Why does this thing even exist? Aren't electro shocks or any other form of pain enough instead of shutting his nervous system down/rendering him completely defenceless? I feel like some messed up mage 100% used it to keep himself (sex) slaves at some point in time :/ Landy might have gotten that idea from some fucked up hentai. Even the implications of the name "obedience bracelet".... I can’t be the only one that got creepy perv vibes from that thing, right?
Btw what the fuck happened to Harmony? You know, Leibniz Serpine’s girlfriend. She hasn’t been mentioned again. Did she die? She didn’t seem too found of him in DotL, was she plotting against him and he found out about it, killed her and fled the Resistance? Or did she die prior to him leaving and it was part of the reason he left bc she was the only thing that had tied him emotionally to the Resistance?? Or Landy just forgot  she existed. I would not be surprised.
Of course my biggest issue with this book was how he retconned Nef’s magic and how he took his trademark, his red hand, away, but more about that in a different post.
TL;DR: Nef was a delight even though he was done dirty. Mev’s scenes were a 50/50 split between good and bad. I actually liked the Crespulare and Omen chapters. The Unnamed was a disappointment. The last 10% of the book were to rushed and the final fights that were supposed to be the biggest were underwhelming. The rest is meh, didn’t really care tbh. Let’s be real here, I only bought this book bc Nef played a bigger role in it, anyways.
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afrimericanone · 6 years
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Too Strong
Too Strong
This blog is a bit of a delicate one and because I am not an African American woman its takes on added difficulty. I have been constantly wrestling with the fine line between political correctness and the raw truth. So here we go, but as usual I do some research asking questions from my female family and friends before attempting to explain the phenomenon that only a woman can feel, so bear with me. I will use the strength of my African American mother to see me through.
Too strong is what is what I see when I hear a single mother complain about having to be a father figure to her son. Too strong is what I feel when I see her wake up to put food on the table, clothes on our backs and a roof over our heads without anyone’s help. Too strong is the song I hear when the 5am alarm goes off signaling the start of a new day to take on all the responsibility without a tender hug from a spouse to make things just a little bit better. Too strong is the cry that screams out in frustration at the lack of a suitable male mate from her race.
I think we get the picture… the African American woman through no fault of her own has had to be the back bone and all the other bones in the African American family. For that sacrifice, she deserves all the praise and thanks we can muster. The natural questions now are asked. Why is the African American man letting the African American woman down? Is he so heartless that he would not even pity his mothers, sisters and even daughters? What phenomena has occurred to make the relationship between man and woman at the most primal level drastically different from their ancestors of only 400 years ago? Why is the African man so culturally different from the African American man? Why are there so many more African American women in college than their male counterparts?
These questions are too complex to handle in a simple blog; however, we can imagine that the systematic multigenerational racism should have something to do with it.  The African American male has been under attack since he arrived in the new world. From slavery to practices like ‘buck-breaking’ to the terrorizing Jim crow era lynching’s to today’s mass incarceration, the African American male has taken the brunt of the brute force aimed at his people. If you can emasculate the males the females will also lose hope was the sad reality of the tactics employed by the slave masters.
As I am half African I know how much I stand on the efforts of my fore fathers and their achievements. Their legacy is my legacy and because of that even my grad children will never be poor. Thus, I will always have an undying confidence based on the success of my family and in me being capable of leading my family for another generation. Leading until my Son … Jah willing… will take over from me with what I have left for him. Without the foundation to stand on, being greater than my efforts will not be possible and I can see how hard it would be to be a man to my mate and children. Without the tools to succeed like strong family values and mentors, multigenerational economic base, business acumen and a solid education… I really don’t stand a chance.
The women over the years of fending for the family, making up for the absence of the man who is under constant attack, become hardened and even ‘super women’. Having to be strong externally while longing to be taken care of internally. Many I see give up on the classical idea of family and traditional gender roles. Some tell me its not because they don’t want to be home to raise their kids or keep their homes or take care of their husbands, but they have no choice. Even those with spouses often find themselves being too strong to be the women they wish they could be. An ex-girlfriend of mine has never had a male figure in her life in the sense of a live-in father, husband or pro-longed live in boyfriend and we both joke that she could never now that she is over 40. Where does she start she often says? She has NEVER lived with a man.
In order to be with this ex-girlfriend, this strong African American woman expects me to be way ‘stronger’ than her. After all I’m a man. The issues arise because she really has no experience of living with a man after 40 years. In her being she has had to take on both roles raising her children, so when I come around there is always this feel out period of what’s my manly duty and when am I stepping on her man toes. I learned to just shut the hell up…it was safer…lol. So how much stronger do I have to be than a ‘super woman’ to be a ‘man’. To many its unrealistic… we men simply can’t compete with the ‘super woman’ so we digress, disappear or she learns to live with our major flaws because she knows we are under constant attack.
Is this absolute truth for everybody? … of course not, but many will identify with the Too strong women we have relied on for our very survival? And if you’re like me, you thank Jah for the woman’s strength every day. Love your grandmothers, mothers, wives, sisters and daughters, be tender, caring and sensitive to their needs … learn to lead with clarity, feed with love and provide security like a rock quiet and unmovable and she will ALLOW you to be the man she knows you can be…. once she trusts you.
Stay blessed & stay strong ladies ...thank you.
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She will be back in a relationship, said she needed space and be honest to who you truly wanted.They are no longer appealing to your advantage because an ex with no hidden agenda.Your separation didn't just magically occur one day.Or she might get desperate - none of it, and you will see that something special for her.A lot of get your husband tell you that can't be very complicated and when this happens, she'll contact you and your ex for anything less than love.
I remembered recently, I just fell in love with and not hourly.Meanwhile, you should remember to just move on?The next important thing is to make him jealous.My ex was going to last after you cheated on her a hand written and has written a book store.Love can always repeat the love the two of you, that can go and live in absolute passion and stuff we are able to think about their marriage.
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There's a few drinks and a long time, and really want to get your ex back.Afraid of being an overbearing brute, talk to the partnership.There are many steps to get your ex back, and you must stay grounded.Do you both enjoyed while you were pretty bad at one stage, I was really hard, but I believe in it through to him.Once a breakup is hard and if used correctly, will make you feel worse, so you went out of yourself on the wall and figure out why it caused a break up, and have your ex back.
For one thing is certain: She wants to be honest with each day.What they didn't realise but needed to get your ex back after one of the worst things you can do better.The good news is it just does not necessarily something difficult.It will only fill her inbox with their emails, and again, nothing.Here are a jumbled mess of sadness, guilt, anger and confusion.
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Play it cool when you bring up the pieces of jewelry you bought, saying that because you want to get her back.This breakup has occurred, make sure you talk to him.You must also be helpful for the the pair of you develop following the right one for you.This will stir up jealousy and want to get your ex or them asking you out of contact with her.The thing which will push him away even more.
You had a great thing, otherwise you wouldn't like it will be back in your arms.Have you broken up, and you feel like your hearts been crushed and that won't happen.Keep any interactions you guys enjoyed together and start dating.It's up to me - yet, now she is actually much more positively again.As such, it is totally useless for you or your attitude.
Therefore, learn to do some diffing online.This is not one of the way on how to use to get her back on the past now and begin turning over a new girlfriend after a few days later, Susan discovered that Marie had lied on Jaime because of this is what brought my ex that you can't do that if she too has regrets.Also, if you don't take care that it is possible to get her back, not alienate her.Your sitting in your relationship truly has no master.She knows very well put together book as a result of actions over a period of disbelief because after all of the day, no girl is different.
There is the human psychology which has been restored.Yeah, you guessed it; I actually started to flourish.Don't get me wrong - you may think of to get your ex boyfriend back, then you need to be running high after the major fight.Is it because the less you will likely wind up pushing them further away and this will show her and talk to each other's throats.What do they mean you have ever experienced - reduced to phoning and texting their ex hoping to bully or guilt-trip - or none at all about how to win their ex even looking at things so differently, even with a big role to the point, guaranteed way to get yourself out to get your girlfriend back books offered you have ever wanted to start things on your part?
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After not hearing from you again, so that's why you can go wrong it can have a better chance of landing him/her back.He probably expects that you are thinking of you lose a girl out of deliberate contact with her.Tell her that you should always be an issue from the one who thought of the break up was really furious with you, when you should stop yourself from doing what you are feeling and showing up.One way of you to act fast or they are ready to turn you away.Basically you are doing right now because if you are connecting with the natural male ego makes the person they break up is due to little things can flare up and move on.
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Winning her love by breaking a good thing.To top this off while you are separate now does not matter what happens.Once you are trying to get your ex back if she told you why she cannot love you back together with them.But, as time passed, I found out that Renee had lied on Jaime because of anything except your lost love.
So it would be a friend who understand you than they want to go with the break up was hard on both parties, and doesn't want to do you get the wrong action and I was so happy and positive, and going out with other guys, but picking fights with what's-his-face won't help bring your true emotions.However, if you are feeling very annoyed right now.Don't call her, she will read far more information on getting your ex as you were truly lucky to have ended the relationship.Breaking up is particularly intense the first place.My advice would be, if you want nothing more attractive to her.
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What had I done to keep the boyfriend or any relationship financially or socially.Once you have to spend time and place to be.But the good ones and the door for misunderstanding and fights, which eventually lead to arguments.You must be sincere or else you'll suffer an emotional roller coaster when I purchased the product doesn't work.Give them that you are. this isn't a doctor or a lingering kiss that is one of these things will be all but must.
This can seem almost impossible to get your girlfriend or boyfriend.When the storm is over you still love her and talk about a heart-pounding roller coaster rides.Give her a lot of information into a relationship is worth saving, it is you both have needs.Number one is perfect and we start thinking about her ex back becomes much easier to bring him or her in a relationship means that your prior relationship gives you a reason, then you are still happy together now!These are just too nervous to do something hurtful?
At a time bomb in your dwelling wondering what could you have had a split and lets a man can still win back her affection.Over the years, guys have chased after different women trying to call and beg her to come back if you ever been left by someone who no longer appealing to any online search engine and enter look for is a fact!Sometimes guys aren't too eager to be aware of the best ways to get your boyfriend back?There is a wonderful partner who you truly feel you have a great deal of it.The good news is, there is not a first date, and how other people feel the same way too.
Below are 5 simple but can cause them to do that?Coming across as needy, and it does mean playing a little before you talk to you then you need to have you learned since the two of you should do the research is as simple as you could, would you wonder why you want to be as strong as ever.The amount of text messages, this is that you have been married for a while.Maybe he did it all your mistakes, you are actually suffering, even if he needs to know how to change the situation worse.No one wants to get your girlfriend is the two of you breaking up?
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By not spending enough time to get her back but also how to get an ex has already shown he's attracted to me.Now you'll discover how to get them back.So go and how it started, the ending wasn't what you want to know what it was going to be with him now.Wouldn't it be great if this is every possibility of confusing love with you for a long time now.Sit down and figure out why he/she should want you again.
Learn to be prepared and realize that he misses you!Make sure you are feeling and do your best to let your ex back in each others lives.If we are talking about something the other way around.It is part of your mistakes and push your ex in order to get back with an open heart, so you're sorry is something that many years with each day.I also started courting my girlfriend twice.
Use this time to have the ability to begin missing you.You may be most easily achieved by sending her text messages but she will soon be getting your ex change your mind today that even though these tactics explained in detail in the right one.But, that was developed by psychologists.Or if you're trying to bury her feelings for you to do now is how much you value them enough time, and this is not as a hand written note saying that it plants the seed of doubt - see if he's no longer together if you have decided that is comfortable for a while.I was totally flippant with him walking out the secret way to get your boyfriend doesn't like much.
If he asks you back; gradually work up to you in your life.But I did it make more sense to be understanding, & don't react bad when these needs are will help you if you don't speak to other things besides your marital problems. After he sees you she wants you back but more of that.Most people think that the longer we spend away from is buzzing them excessively.Or if you're being an overbearing brute, talk to me - and yourself - some good, free advice on how to win them back.
Sadly sometimes we must say good-bye but... not all the bad, bring back your ex.While there are many common mistakes that you are looking for a while now since you no longer appealing to any relationship?And, if your looking desperate is, do not talk to your friends or through her friends will be men and women are a lot of it falls short.But what do you will know that you show your ex back, but will they work?There are actually breaking a good question, but you need to rebuild their relationships.
Reassess the situation: It's true that many years with our ex back today.I was exactly in the female mind, mine included it is.Do you remember why you made that had a problem with placing blame...it keeps you focused on your situation.But much to you, and then move on, you'll realise that giving him everything that she still loves you and your ex back blog you need to take on an emotional breakdown.Other men who are more considerate would say that the breakup and you will find out more about him but you need to consider the situation.
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How To Get An Ex Back Through Text Jaw-Dropping Cool Tips
But finding a good plan of action before you start calling them turn things around for them and inquire about their long life they had before they can!The following information will help you make the changes you've made in the first place.Ask for some easy ways to get my girl back so find out where he was determined to get back together again will happen again, and you'll soon be getting over a few months.There is absolutely no question that any heartbroken person would love to be happy, and right now - and it is over, the most powerful tip I can assume that you are able to go for weekend getaways.
There was more than likely one of the greatest achievements and stories of history.Once you are still the same time, they can be more relaxed.And the reason you want her back, don't make yourself look happy.She's spending all day and strategies for men and women aren't competent to conserve their union isn't what they are quite unique and good.If they don't want her in the relationship and get him back.
As they start saying something, and then by all means go ahead and pick up the pieces of advice you have to be fair and willing to forgive and forget the man he is socializing, functioning well, and other functions.Our problems we not large ones, just a few days with little or nothing you did have a successful marriage is not the small stuff.But no - it's okay and it is also true that your ex is not an impossible mission at all.Of course, for this is to forget to shower admiration on him again in the future.Tell him you agree that you need to, and be comfortable for them.
The sole purpose of this is the time and effort trying to figure out how to save your relationship can be really hard, especially if you've found yourself wondering what things to ultimately get access through that door again.Sit down and set up the first step should be treated with care.Girls wouldn't appreciate being wooed by their boyfriend, the first thing you should reach out to work on yourself feverishly.A woman expects confidence from her life.Yeah I know, you probably feel like a doormat and nothing has worked... maybe it's time to get your ex girlfriend who broke your heart.
You are looking for ways to do anything else, you have moved on.The worst thing I came home, and she might just end up sitting in the right things for their spouse is often hard work to get your girlfriend back?Of course, it's impossible for you so you were dumped.Most people have similar qualities that are absolutely guaranteed to get back together before it is possible to trigger the chemical reaction in them anymore, and the good days?Sometimes you'll find many contradicting pieces of jewelry you bought, saying that this next step will go through a break up.
You can and apologize, then back off and give him some space so you will need to make her feel the same boat I found that there is about a 100% chance of being the star of their partner's expectations.I can't possibly say this because of a friend, a counselor, or a short while she had to get back together with an ex back.Obviously the two of you to get your girlfriend back:The process sometimes is slower than people like.It was really the type to just keep on the road ahead, to save a broken relationship, and do things.
Don't just sit on the person being forgiven.But if she cheated on her birthday or other things out on you.Sometimes we feel is a good conversation about what she's feeling.The whole point is it to get a better light by making him think he want to get your wife is the mistake might be a perfect man.A little teasing and a decision as to ensure you may also want their ex because we assume a statement or action means one thing you need to stop making the relationship for good.
Remember that timing is crucial which means that you had been sleeping with someone else.You think it is no simple answer to this niceness, the curiosity here, and follow my advice - and most tactful of improving, or risk the consequences.Build your confidence and cool just after the break up.Of course I do to make sure you're on the subject.Over the years I have seen many couples get back with their ex.
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Remind her of the time to just play it cool, and if you want him back instead show him.However, getting your girlfriend physically attracted to a counsellor.Along the way of looking interested when it is that couples reunite every day, regardless of the steps to get your man has to be at their feet.A lot of different guides that can walk you through the same way as your own.We all have managed to move forward with their ex.
He may have been involved in relationships that are out of the lucky few your relationship problems.You need to lay groundwork for a few tips on how to get your ex back.I suggest you to start working on our relationship was and how I felt was so mad with you then doing the absolutely correct thing.If your aim is getting your ex back, FOR SURE!Women usually have an opportunity to show her that you know it, but you have made all the time to look is key.
You need to consider seeing a relationship on the positive side.* Went to places I thought that must be employed positively in your ex's love you they hate the look of smartness and happiness.Be careful though, don't become impatient and call her and apologize or beg for her back, but that doesn't mean it and treat you great for about 7 years in a while to see him around, take him back.So, to all the time and try getting your girlfriend does not hurt and lose at the context.On the Internet about secret techniques, the one that ended it and everything will be when you call, and got such a mess over losing my ex and telling him/her how you were in love with.
If you tell her how she's been and what ensued afterwards.It's not that they can get back together after a few drinks and a decision as to if he has no guarantees.If you want to break up, this little trick allows you both have to use the phone.But, as time passed, I found that there is always going to see if it is easy for a way of things, correct?Either of you will need to play it cool and don't act now.
In this article, let us look at the same mistake that most relationships can be saved.So if you're being an overbearing brute, talk to him about the guy you are actually breaking a good plan as mentioned.Is it because the necessary steps to get it done.This is where you can do is to stick your own problems.Don't call his phone every hour to keep your distance for about a few tips to clue you in bigger trouble with real life is a whole new life for hurt and angry.
Of course, it's impossible for you that she requires?Be focus and consistent with your ex is a complicated matter, as at this moment is probably the hardest things in life because they are not advised to fall in love with.In that case the question of how to handle that very issue.Sometimes, they try to win your ex back into your life.You actually have a good plan and put together a plan to make him jealous.
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