#growing up with strict parents

[nintharchangel]

#trust issues #family problems #daddy issues #mommy issues #growing up with strict parents #who can do this bc i literally cannot

[seamgel]

Ppl who left strict/possessive households, how did you escape ?

I can't just runaway bcuz I have nowhere/body to go to and they won't let me go anywhere alone

#advice #strict parents #growing up with strict parents #life advice #please help

[my-cages-were-mental]

if this is how you treat a “good kid”, then how the hell would you treat a bad one? 

#toxic parenting #toxic parents #toxic family #yeah. my parents really fucked me up. #growing up with strict parents #growingupwithstrictparents #except they weren't just strict they were toxic and i didn't know it LMAO

[your-fish-is-flying]

When you want to cut your hair but you are too afraid ask your parents or cut it yourself because there's a fat chance that you'll get kicked out

#strict parents #i wanna cut my hair #growing up with strict parents

[cyb-organ]

happy lesbian visibilty week to her. i gave her a little bird

#yttd #my art #touko rikuno #yttd fanart #everytime i draw her it gets gradually more and more self indulgent but i promise this is rooted in canon #she refers to kai visiting her to give her materials and then leaving as #“like feeding pigeons in a park” the implication of course being that she is a pigeon #also yeah the big bird almost killing her thing but she made a pigeon metaphor which to me means she likes birds #headcanon time: she likes birdwatching or did as a kid and spent alot of time at the beach just watchin birds #i hit her with the autism beam im afraid #the highest honour to bestow #also if i were to add a symbolic meaning to the bird thing i would say her parents were really strict and restricted her freedom growing up #so she was drawn to the freedom of flight #which also plays into her icarus coding which is DEFINATELY real and canon and i DID NOT just make up #so many tags im sorry chat i promise im normal about ehr

[demonicfarmer69]

Q: Does Jiujiu ever talk to JL about his maternal grandparents? 

🍋: he speaks of them with respect. but if my jiujiu raised me like my grandparents did, i....

#yea they fought a lot and even put me in between of their shouting matches #frequently which was an uncomfortable position to be in but they're my parents and i respect them a lot #listen the jiang parents are a whole can of mixed beans and ppl have many opinions on them ranging from positive to negative. #but imo jc would be the type of person to be like #regardless of whatever lvl of damage the jiang parents did to him. + #its jl so theres no way he would want to damage the image of his own parents in front of his own nephew #jl growing up under his jiujiu and seeing how strict but lenient jc is with him would find the parenting methods of the jiang parents as ... #jc is a mini yzy becaus he nags at jl like yzy did to jc YES but the difference is #jl is not hurt from it and still sees jc as a beacon of protection someone he can go to if hes hurt (biggest example is the boat scene.) #the best way i can summarise jc and jl's relationship is that jc is the eldest sister turned parent who has full responsibility over their y #does not have the same authority over the younger sib the same way a parent does #jc has influence over jl and jl respects jc but jc will never be able to have full authority over jl because jc is simply just his guardian/ #Adult Figure in his life #<- this rant is a yr old but i still agree w/ these points heh #jiang cheng #jin ling #mdzs #mo dao zu shi #jims2kevent

[siphisket]

Felt emo might delete later

(Just kidding~ …although I might take out some of the text lol this thing is way wordier than I thought geez — that’s what I get for pumping it out in one sitting and refusing to edit)

Image ID below the cut

[Image ID: Image 1 depicts a blue figure with short hair casting their gaze down to the side and gripping their right arm with their left hand. The text reads, “Only finally finding the safety to ‘be a teenager’ after turning 20 is such a lonely experience…”

Image 2 depicts the blue figure turning to look over their shoulder at a smaller blue figure with long hair, the same figure at a younger age, who is curled into a ball. The text reads, “I wish I knew then what I know now.”

Image 3 depicts this younger, long-haired blue figure sitting in a desk surrounded by friends in a high school classroom. The text reads, “I wish I’d gotten to meet my friends back then.”

Image 4 depicts younger Blue now with shorter hair and ripped jeans. They’re wearing a nondescript band tee with a long-sleeve fishnet shirt underneath, and they have a black ring on the middle finger of each black-nailed hand. One friend wraps an arm around younger Blue’s shoulder while another ruffles their hair, and for the first time in the comic, the blue figure looks unabashedly happy, even if a bit sheepish. The text reads, “I wish they’d been there to give me the strength to fight for myself. To cut and dye my hair, to rip my jeans and give each other stupid matching tattoos.”

Image 5 depicts younger Blue in the back of a car with their friends, laughing and going recklessly fast. The text reads, “We could have stolen our parents’ cars and gone for screeching joyrides at 1 in the morning, flooring the gas and just getting as far away as possible because none of us can stand the idea of going ‘home.’”

Image 6 starts out with a wall of text that ruins the flow of the comic because the artist is paranoid about their words being misinterpreted but also too paranoid about posting even the slightest amount of personal information on the internet to keep that from happening so hooray for me being stupid anyway long story short I am not endorsing any of this behavior please drive safely. The text reads, “It’s not even that I like the idea of stealing a car or speeding or anything, I just wish I’d gotten to be a kid, to have had the opportunity to make ‘bad choices’ if I wanted to, for choices to have been something I was allowed to make.”

The lower half of Image 6 depicts younger Blue laughing in the back seat as two of their friends have an animated conversation on either side of them. The text reads, “It’s pathetic.”

Image 7 depicts the blue figure in the present now, back to “reality” where they’re driving an empty car, an uneasy look on their face. The text continues where the previous image left off, reading, “and I think about it every day I have to drive back from work.”

Image 8 zooms out from the previous image, where Blue uneasily grips the steering wheel of their car, looking up at the sign for the street they’re about to turn on to. The sign reads, “Family’s House St” because the author is so subtle. The text reads, “I just wish they weren’t so far away, that they’d take me with them.”

Image 9 depicts Blue driving towards a crudely-drawn house, and long-haired younger Blue sits in the passenger’s seat with shoulders anxiously raised. The text reads, “But even now I remain obedient. I’m still just so scared.” End ID]

#trying to get over the fact that this is far from my best work but i just needed to get it out #i miss my friends :( #and also not feeling an all-consuming dread every time I have to go back to my living space :’) #yet again here’s to hoping my family doesn’t find my art account ahahaha *sweats* #strict parents #ex christian #(please don’t ask I am vague for a reason) #religious trauma #growing up queer #lgbtqiia+ #growing up trans #comics #siphisketches #vent #kinda #uhhh what are my tagging conventions again it’s been so long since i posted anything

[7amaspayrollmanager]

I DONT WANT TO GET MARRIED

#i dont want to be charlotte lucas i wanna be elizabeth bennet #dw guys not engaged just somehow am close to it and im trying to say something in this phase thatll turn him off like i support gay rights #or something #i didnt take this seriously and i cant find anything wrong with him but i just...dont feel anything and i am terrified #its such a big jump i was hoping id meet someone in college or work to bring hom to the parents #but here i am in the traditional process bc no such thing has happened #my mom said to me hes muhtarram like its so hard to find someone well mannered and nice and a doctor lol like #what if i say no bc i dont feel ready and this is like the best prospect for me #genuinely do wanna ask more questions about his beliefs #like i will ask what happens if ur child grows up and they decide not to be muslim or go off on their own or are not straight #will u be strict with daughters #my parents r not forcing me if i say no theyll call and say no but i just feel the pressure bc u dont get options like this around here #alot of pali boys go in the med field but theyre jerks here #in my head im like well therell be other options later but what if there isnt #i have cousins who have simply never been asked for no reason and others asked alot of times #it just happens u never know when u become the person who just doesnt get married #i just want to wait to 25

[nintharchangel]

does anyone else get shocked when some people talk to their parents about their problems and open up about mental disorders because i do

#growing up with strict parents #childhood trauma #mental disorders #how do they do this #trust issues

[wordsvomit101]

5. Afterschool

(7 months after the death of Mr and Mrs Lee)

The coach let the team off earlier than usual today, he would enjoy another drill session or obstacle course. However, not every kid has the stamina like him, and they would tackle him to the ground the moment he even uttered the sentence.

Not that he minds more free time, the team has just won a major baseball tournament last month and the next 2 weeks will be summer break. They all want to spend as much free time as they can.

As he walked toward the library and passed the school's Hall of Fame, he couldn't help but feel embarrassed when he thought of his pictures that were being presented there, which were of him clumsily carrying 4 of his award trophies with a stupid-looking grin.

"Hyung and Raon were laughing their butts off too...", he sulked about it for half a day in his room and locked his brother from going in before being lured out by his mom and Raon who gave him tteokbokki they made that evening.

He was proud of course, who wouldn't? Even a few of his friends in the club wouldn't shut up about it even days after their victory. They had the most fun rubbing their win in their opponents' faces.

"While I should have warned them about making enemies early on... but the other teams didn't exactly make it worth trying anyway"

His feet feel lighter remembering the long, funny faces of the other teams. He passed some people on his way to meet up with Raon and was delayed quite a bit. One of them gave him banana milk as a gift for helping her with homework so it was fine.

When he got to the library and started to look around for the violet-haired girl, he saw her lying on the couch, her nose buried in a romance drama book she told him about yesterday. Headphones rested over her ears, and her lips moved silently as she read. Either too engrossed in the book or cannot hear him walking in, knowing her, it is probably both.

With a slowly growing mischievous smile on his face, "... Well, at worst, she would only hit me by the shoulder for ruining her focus of the story"

Minhyeok's footsteps were as soft as a cat's as he crept up on Raon. This is childish but also the perfect opportunity for revenge for that time.

After waiting for a few seconds, with a swift movement, Minhyeok pounced from behind her, his fingers extended like lightning. He tickled Raon's sensitive side, and a high-pitched squeal erupted from her. The book lands on the floor with a thud and her headphones fall off her ears. Raon's eyes widened, and she glared at Minhyeok, her cheeks flushed from the laughter and tickling.

"Yah!" she exclaimed, a pout forming on her lips. "That wasn't fair!" Minhyeok just laughed, his eyes sparkling with delight.

"Oh, come on, it was just a little payback," he said. "Besides, you were so engrossed in your book that you didn't even notice me sneaking up on you", despite her glare, Raon couldn't help but smile.

"I was getting to the good part!", she said as she gave his shoulder a weak slap before picking up her book on the floor.

"But you're lucky I'm in a good mood. If I wasn't, I would have tackled you to the ground and tickled you until you begged for mercy" Minhyeok feigned a shudder, knowing that he always let her win.

"I'm sure I would have deserved it," he said dramatically. "At least, not now." Raon scoffed and gave him a questioning look.

"Why did you come so early today? Didn't you have practice this evening?"

She has been more absentminded lately so it was nice to know that she still makes sure to remember his schedule, as much as he does for her. His heart never stopped warming up knowing this.

"We did but the coach let us off early today, he will probably do the same until summer break comes"

Raon makes a small acknowledgment sound at that, before noticing the banana milk he has in his hand. Her right eye gave an annoyed twitch before settling back into her usual nonchalance.

"Getting another gift again on your way here?", her voice seemed a bit strained to him but he would likely not get an answer from her if he asked. So he walked over and sat beside her, twisted the cap off a bottle of creamy banana milk, the sweet aroma wafting up to greet him. He gave it to her in amusement.

"If you want it, just say it, here, and we can share", Raon somewhat relaxed and took the bottle from him, seemingly pleased about something but changing the subject as quickly as she put them up.

"Do you plan to go to any summer camps this break? You went to a swimming camp for 4 weeks last year"

Minhyeok loved the swimming camp last year. The camp was held at the aquatics center in town, and the water was the clearest he had ever seen. At first, he was nervous to get in the water since he hadn't swum for 2 years before, but his counselors, blessed them, were patient with him, and helped smooth the experience a lot. 

By the end of the week, he was swimming like a fish and first to jump into the pool. He made new friends at the camp, and he learned a lot about teamwork and perseverance. He also learned how to scuba dive, which was fun.

He had planned to spend 2 weeks in general arts camp and 2 weeks in cooking camp this year but...

"I don't want to leave her alone for long this year"

"No, my old man and mom talked about taking us all to visit some museums in Seoul and going to the night markets in Dongdaemun Design Plaza"

Raon's anxiety was palpable from the moment he mentioned going out. She fidgeted with the bottle in her hands and her lips trembled slightly. 

He quickly reassures her in the best soothing tones he can manage, "Don't worry, each one of us will stay by your side and we can change our vacation to somewhere quiet or we could spend time at my grandparents' home if you want. I'm sure they would be happy to have us there"

Raon's sharp breath hissed through her teeth as she weighed the decision, her eyes darting back and forth before they met his. The silence was deafening, the air thick with tension. Finally, with a slow nod, her smile bloomed, crooked and a bit sad, but not entirely. "If it's alright...I would like that," she whispered, her voice hoarse.

The evening sun in summer streaming through the window and illuminated her face with a soft, golden glow. Minhyeok felt a surge of happiness wash over him as he smiled brightly at the girl beside him. Her eyes sparkled with amusement at his silly face, and her laughter filled the air with a sweet melody that danced around them like a thousand tiny bells.

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End notes:

Banana milk in Korea, known as "바나나 우유" (banana uyu), is a popular and iconic flavored milk drink. Banana milk is widely enjoyed by people of all ages in South Korea and is commonly found in convenience stores, supermarkets, and vending machines. It's often consumed as a refreshing beverage or as a snack. Banana milk has become a cultural symbol in Korea and is cherished for its nostalgic taste and convenient packaging.

#what in hell is bad #whb #whb minhyeok #whb mc #minhyeok is a big foodie and he would fight you for the last piece of chicken in the school cafeteria #raon is a few people he willing to share his food with #his parents were never strict with his diet #but growing up another foodie of a older brother make it a instinct

[love-geeky-fangirl]

#random polls #i want to do this experiment #i think answering this will also answer if your parents were strict growing up

[mrslectermoriarty]

If you clicked "Fuck parents"; please tell me about your experiences. Seriously; I wanna hear the stories. I myself have those and it makes life so much harder, so yes. I know, how you feel. And it's not okay. But one day it will be okay.

#tumblr polls #polls #parenting #helicopter parenting #strict parents #childhood #growing up #memory lane #the good the bad and the ugly stuff that happened #Real life hurt/comfort #happy ever after #hopefully #it's gonna be okay #one day #someday #❤️ #shit talking

[piedoesnotequalpi]

Modern AU Katherine's style icon as a kid would be Taylor from High School Musical

#this is obviously assuming she's the right age to have watched hsm as a kid #but I'm just thinking about all the ties Taylor has #and the prom dress she wears when they first sing a night to remember in hsm3! #and i think Katherine would incorporate some elements of men's fashion into her outfits #and assuming she grows up in a similar environment to canon (stuffy repressive and with parents who have very strict ideas of how to be) #a random Disney character who sometimes wears ties could very well be her first exposure to that sort of thing #it was for me! #anyway i have a headache I'm incoherent but Katherine in a suit thank you for your time #newsies headcanons #Katherine plumber #isabel.tex #anyway I've talked about Katherine and style a bit with Alex but it's getting a Tumblr post now because i feel strongly

[hime-bee]

Would Leumin independently support mc(Idk if I refer to the player as Y/N, MC or just 'player') like in gender, sexuality, political position, style, neurodivergencies? things like this

(You can use either or! Maybe "Y/N" would work better in this context tho) But of course!! Leu is a very attentive and understanding lover, he'd support his beloved through their endeavors and offer assistance where he could ^^ He's... Very down bad LOL

#Leu loves Player so he's willing to support them through thick and thin #and especially because he didn't really have that growing up (strict parents yada yada) #Leumin Holiday #Inclement Idée Fixe

[loveofastarvingdog]

thinking about how even my experience growing up queer in a conservative environment was less safe than other people in the very same space. because they didn’t understand how important it was to stay closeted for me. because even if i didn’t come out to them, even if the only thing i ever did was show them support in private, they still had the power to hurt me with that just by mentioning it to someone. and now i’m in a place where people ask me “oh why didn’t you ever tell me this person was xyz queer identity?” when i was never given the permission to and grew up in a place where something exactly like that would have put me in danger. just because being queer is more widely known and to some extent accepted now doesn’t mean people still won’t get hurt if you don’t keep your mouth shut. don’t push people to come out. to you, or to anyone, and for the love of god don’t out them to others

#timothy's txts. #thinking about the people i wasn’t allowed to be friends with because my parents knew they were queer supportive let alone queer #the girl who almost got me in Really Big Trouble because she told a leader at our co-op i had supported her when she came out to me #and i had to cover by lying about misunderstood bible verses #all the people who found me safe enough to tell me they were queer or questioning #while i never was able to trust them enough to come out to #growing up with strict parents i learned how to lie. growing up queer in that family? i learned how to act on those lies like i believed it #this is a personal rant. i think it definitely still applies to everyone at large but it’s not directed at anyone here #no one except the people in my life who couldnt be trusted to keep my secrets #even when they asked for them

[muirneach]

instagram is convinced i am not only a mother but also one of them helicopter ‘crunchy’ health obsessed and overall paranoid mothers. anyways so a big thing they like over there is never allowing playdates unless if they are also at the other persons house and likeeeee i get it but my mom never ever did that as a kid. playdates r just for kids to hang out why do both parents gotta be there… did anyone here actually grow up like this im curious

#i thought my mom was rather strict as a kid but she was too busy to be a helicopter mom thank god #she is constantly scared im gonna get kidnapped or something to this day but even still she never insisted she had to be at my playdates #she wasnt a hippie mom or whatever but i did grow up around a lot of them and none of those parents insisted on this either! #i think its one thing if the parents r actually friends and also want to hang out like ofc thats different #but just being there cause you dont trust them is so foreign to me idk #anyways i get their point but like girl live a little #im fairly sure my mom was thankful every time i went away lol she wanted a break! do u not want a break? #im so tired of all these instagram mom influencers. compells me tho