#toxic parenting

[moonlit-positivity]

Your worth cannot be measured by someone else's opinion of you 🌸

#recovery #ptsd #trauma #boundaries #mental health #healing #healing thoughts #self love #self worth #self esteem #self care #positivity #affirmations #encouragement #reminders #soft positivity #soft reminders #advice #relationships #toxic parenting

[my-cages-were-mental]

having a mom who makes it all about her and takes it personally every time you set bounderies and say no <<<<<

#toxic mom #toxic parents #toxic parenting #tw toxic behavior

[freya-captain]

What if Omega!Aegon was married to Beta!Helaena

one year later Aegon delivered silver-haired twins, Jaehaerys and Jaehaera. Everyone was happy especially Alicent who was so proud that her bloodline gave the “purest” Targaryen-looking kids, not like Rhaenyra’s.

Then there comes Maelor, a healthy strong boy with hair brown as autumn leaves, brown wide eyes as well. Aegon was tired, sweaty but thrilled, holding his baby like he’s made of glass. Helaena was thrilled. Viserys was content. Alicent looked like she’s having a faint.

She declared to the country she’s so happy as a grandmother that the baby got “her hair”. But inside the Keep she kept pressing ageon about who was real father.

Egg: i don’t understand the question. I thought you were happy about my little angel.

Alicent: you think I am an idiot? Who was it? Don’t tell me it was some tramp knight in the flea bottom.

Egg: whatever you say dear mom

Alicent: don’t be smug. You shamed our family as you always do. I won’t let that bastard of yours near the throne. He ain’t getting any title or lands when he comes of age.

Egg: could you please not call my son bastard? He’s my true born. As much as I’m yours.

Alicent: God I wish I hadn’t. Take the bastard boy out of my sight. 

Aegon holding the baby walking to the door when Alicent stopped him, “You need to name Jaehaerys your heir and announce his and Jaehaera’s engagement tomorrow. To enhance their claim and keep bloodline pure like what I arrange for you and your sister.”

Egg: You can’t be serious! They are still babies!

Alicent: The decision is made. You want to disobey your mother and Queen?

Egg: you want to know the real father? Fine i tell you. maelor’s father is the same tramp who fathered the twin. The three of them share the same “bastard” blood. I hope this satisfied you, YOUR GRACE.

He left in triumph, never feeling so well

Meanwhile on Dragonstone:

Jacaerys sneezed*

Lucerys: you okay?

Jacaerys: yah i think someone just called me names.

#my jacegon headcanon #Alicent was a bad parent #Hel was so thrilled to be a good aunt #house of the dragon #a/b/o dynamics #aegon ii targaryen #hotd aegon #jacegon #jacaerys targaryen #jacaerys x aegon #jaegon #alicent hightower #toxic parenting

[furiousgoldfish]

There are parents out there who are worried they'll do something wrong and mess up their kids; they are the ones who read all the books and look at the research, and ask for advice, and they sometimes don't know how to handle the problems right away, but they go with kindness first, and mostly worry about how they're doing as parents; they understand it's not a part of parenting to put judgment on your child.

And then there's abusive parents who decide, with the confidence of god, that one single solution fits all problems: blame the child + punish the child. No matter what the hell is going on, the first thing they'll reliably do is blame the kid for it happening, and the punish the kid. The child is sick? Blame and neglect them. The kid needs clothing or resources you don't feel like buying? Blame the kid for your financial situation and for wearing out whatever clothes they had, punish them with shame for needing things. Kid is being molested by a neighbour/family member? Blame the child for daring to speak out and punish them by allowing more of abuse to happen. The kid struggles in school? Blame them and take away whatever makes them happy as a punishment.

And they're so goddamn confident they're doing everything right, when there's absolutely nothing to be confident about. They won't even allow themselves to experience the negative consequences of such parenting, using the exact same trick: Child shows signs of trauma from all of the shame, guilt, and unjust punishment? They blame the child for having feelings and punish them into silence.

And they act like their methods are better, like being confident is better than being unsure, having less fuss about the child is better, saving money is better, and feeling zero blame is better. They even have the goddamn nerve to say that 'they did the best they could'. The hell they did. They treated nobody else in the world as badly as their own child. They knew goddamn well it was the worst of the worst.

Being unsure is better. Being insecure is better. Being anxious and trying different things out is better. Understanding that you control the circumstances, not the child, is better. Reading is better, asking for advice is better, being lost is better. Acknowledging you might not do it all perfect, but being there for the child when they need you, is better. Anything is better than blaming and punishing the child for every single thing they go thru. Confidence mixed with abuse is what destroys children.

#toxic parenting #bad parenting #abusive parents #child abuse #bad confidence

[chaos-in-one]

Parents after cutting off their kids ability to contact anyone outside their house for doing anything wrong and usually yelling at them along with and teaching them that this is an indication of them being angry: Oh wow I wonder why they're so upset! Must be an addiction to that damn phone, I should isolate them from the outside even longer then!

#hmmm almost like being stuck in a house w/ an angry person with no way to speak to people I trust #and no idea if or when I'll see them again #is rather upsetting #who would have thought? #toxic parents #toxic parenting #toxic mother #toxic family #toxic father #abusive parents #abusive mother #abusive father

[madam-jane]

I never understood why parents punish/ground their kids for having bad grades. obviously, your child is struggling academically and needs help...so... Your choice is to punish them..? Maybe if you took time out of your oh so busy life, and tried to help your child study, make it fun even! they'd be doing better in school. They might even be struggling mentally, punishing them just makes it worse and makes them less modivated. Your child needs human understanding, they're not a robot. This can lead to your child being scared to ask for help, or pushing themselves to be perfect, stressing over a less than perfect grade. Stop saying your child is a failure, you're just a bad parent.

#toxic parents #mother #school #comfort #stop being a shitty parent💀 #toxic family #toxic parenting #toxic people #my opinion #popular opinion

[stinkgh]

"They did their best" BRO THEIR "BEST" GAVE ME PTSD LMAOOOOO

#child abuse #ptsd #abusive parenting #abusive parents #abuse #emotional abuse #parenting #toxic parenting #toxic parents #boundaries #neglect #child neglect #gaslighting #manipulation #abusive mothers #acoa

[dheeme-bole-koi-iktara]

#Qala #2022 #swastika mukherjee #babil khan #tripti dimri #mental health #toxic parenting #masterpiece #the best acting #the best storyline #the best cinematography #just hand them the f*cking Oscar already #desiblr #desi #bollywood

[babyspacebatclone]

One thing I love about The Owl House is the Blight family.

The series had the balls to say “A toxic parent breeds toxic children, but the family also has the ability to grow past that toxicity when freed from that influence.”

It had the guts to show the kind of damage having a toxic parent - who was almost certainly the child of toxic parents - has on the coping strategies of the children and spouses involved.

But instead of either a blanket “And they’re bad” or “But bullies have feelings too!” it’s nuanced.

Odalia is who she is because of her choices.

Alador is who he was because of the family life he had, but when given choices chose his children over anything else.

Emira and Eldric where never doomed to be “just like their mother.”

I’m a sideline fan, TOH is on my binge list but that’s long…

But everything I see of how the Blights grew into themselves after breaking ties with Odalia makes me so happy as an estranged child of a toxic parent.

#toh #toh spoilers #blight family #odalia blight #character analysis #toxic parenting #toxic parent #feel free to correct any details i misunderstood #i got toh addiction by being on tumblr

[lonelylittledot]

This. This is one of the most satisfying scenes and pieces of dialogue in Anything. Ever.

To see this character, the character who has struggled and suffered and yearned for love and acceptance, face his abuser and say:

“No. You cannot rationalize what you’ve done to me. There is no justification, no reasonable explanation. I did not deserve it. And I will never let you manipulate me or treat me like that again.”

To see a child call out their abusive parent, and do it this bluntly, is just such an incredibly kathartic experience.

#atla #avatar the last airbender #zuko #prince zuko #ozai #firelord ozai #redemption arc #toxic parenting #abusive parents #trauma #healing #in this house we stan prince zuko

[ssshh-im-a-secret]

I think it’s kind of funny how early on I learned a few minor manipulation tactics.

I learned one from my mom. She asked me a question about me being grounded, taking some toy or another away from me, and she tricked me into saying something I didn’t want her to take away, so she took it away.

So, in my head, I kind of went, “Oh. If I act like I don’t want something I do want, or want something I don’t want, punishment won’t happen.”

I actually employed this trick as a 4-5ish year old, when my mom told me to go to the laundry room for time out, so I happily told her “OK” and skipped to time out. Never got sent to the laundry room again. 

I also learned that if you act helpless for adults as a child, they’ll do what you want. Didn’t use that too often though as I was super independent.

There was also this one time I managed to somehow convince my teacher to let me sit in a chair instead of on the floor during story time because I was ‘class monitor’. Or something like that. 

Also, if you’re going to ask someone if they did something on accident or on purpose, please make sure to explain what those words mean. This is aimed at my mom, who never did and I didn’t know what they meant, so I would almost constantly say I did things on purpose when I didn’t because from what I understood that meant I didn’t mean to. I was a dumb kid, but still.

#toxic parents #toxic parenting #parents #i was a manipulative child #manipulation #i was a manipulative little brat #manipulative child #manipulative little girl #little girl #i was a kid #a child #a very manipulate child #and i figured out all these tactics on my own #like a boss

[moonlit-positivity]

Cultivate your space with the things you need to see and hear and all the things that make your soul come alive. You can absolutely find your way back to the light but sometimes we have to put the light in front of us.

#recovery #ptsd #trauma #boundaries #mental health #healing #bpd #self love #self esteem #self growth #growth #communication #advice #life advice #toxic relationships #toxic friendships #toxic parenting #reparenting #addiction #codependency #emotional work #shadow work

[my-cages-were-mental]

that moment you realize that you aren't unempathetic. you've just been around the wrong people for far too long. you care deeply about specifc people and feel horrible if they're hurting in any way. but a toxic family member who's victimized themselves, forced you to share every little secret, and made you feel bad about doing things you like? yeah no. no sympathy or empathy for them there. why the fuck should you? they rarely showed any for you so why would you show them any?

#tw toxic family #tw toxic behavior #toxic mom #toxic parents #toxic parenting #toxic dad

[youreastargirl]

Solidarity to all the people who will not be engaging with their fathers this Father’s Day by choice for your own well being and sanity.

May you be able to withstand the pushing but misguided comments from others that you should reach out anyway because he’s your father, the internalized guilt you may feel from years of manipulation, the grief that you did not have the father you needed, and the knowledge that he will likely weave a tale of how horrible you are.

We did not deserve the toxic parenting, but we do deserve to set boundaries to take care of ourselves now, and I hope you are able to give yourself that this Sunday. If not, that’s okay too, we’ll get there.

#fathers #Father’s Day #fathers day #toxic parents #toxic parenting #toxic father #adult children of emotionally immature parents #adult children of alcoholics #father #recovery #boundaries

[monstersslut]

Parent Problems #11

I just found out a girl I knew in highschool suddenly passed away from alcohol poisoning, and not only did my mom take the chance to be obnoxious and snip at me "that now I better be careful not to get wasted" when I haven't even been wasted since the first time I was in 2018, but when I went into my room to grieve until I was well enough to get up again, she said "are you done crying now so you can help me clean" as the first thing to me as I come out.

Like geez mom, so compassionate. Love that.

#ugh #rants #toxic parenting #personal #I hate it here #why is my mom like this #I hate my parents #insensitive #kinda wanna die #send help

[kouhaiofcolor]

Hot take rq?😅

Not to be dramatic but parents who turn to social media to punish (exploit) their children as negative reinforcement should be set on fire. Tf is wrong witchall? And I’m speaking specifically on the kinds of parents that go live on insta, TikTok, Facebook, etc, to air their kids tf out to the public for xyz. As well as the ones who are prideful/smug ab recording themselves assaulting their kids on social platforms for the same reasons. Y’all wild. Y’all should be shamed as publicly as you do your children. Worst, even. Y’all also be the parents your kids don’t even care to fuck w when they good & grown, which you absolutely deserve. And not for nothing, but why in tf is it always mothers who be on this shit??? Why is it always a mom doing this lmao? And why always to a daughter??? It don’t ever — I mean EEEEEVER be toward a son. You hoes lame. You hoes misogynistic. You hoes should stop breeding. There is nothing maternal or well-meaning about this behavior. Y’all maturationally malnourished thinna mf. Period. And if you think it won’t have dire consequences down the road for the very daughters you do this to, wheeew. 👀 fuck around & find out, bitches. Cus you will😂

You do not model decent parenting. You are not good mothers. You are not justified. Somebody should knock you straight tf out, honestly.

#bad parenting #double standards #black twitter #black tumblr #female misogyny #misogyny #bad mothering #toxic femininity #toxic parenting