femme lesbians who use he/him pronouns are literally so fucking cool like. people always try to explain he/him lesbians by saying “well it’s like butches cuz they’re masculine” and don’t get me wrong: he/him butch lesbians have my heart but he/him femme lesbians are literally just as real and valid and if you truly want to learn to believe that pronouns truly do not equal gender, then you’re going to have to stop thinking that “he/him lesbian = butch lesbian” because then you’re just trying to say that lesbians can use he/him if they’re masc enough but im here to tell you: literally any lesbian can use he/him pronouns. you can be the femmest of femmes and still use exclusively he/him pronouns and literally none of that invalidates anything about you.
so long story short: he/him femmes, especially femmes who exclusively use he/him, are literally to die for. i fucking love you <333
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happy lesbian visibility week to all lesbians!! all lesbians are important and valued members of the lesbian community!! this includes trans lesbians, intersex lesbians, he/him lesbians, nonbinary lesbians, lesboys and male lesbians, transmasc lesbians, multigender lesbians, butch and femme lesbians, aspec lesbians, polyamorous lesbians, mspec/bi/pan/omni/abro/etc lesbians, gaybians and straightbians, any and all good faith lesbians!! you belong in the lesbian community!! fuck the exclusionists!!
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Giving all the handsome transmasc and he/him lesbians/butches a big femme kiss on the forehead. I love you. You belong here.
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since my old blog got nuked, i gotta make this post again because yall refuse to be anything but ignorant
lesbian sexuality ≠ heterosexual men's sexuality
lesbian attraction to women ≠ men's attraction to women
trans men cannot be lesbians, because they are men. if you think so, youre a transphobe as well as a lesbophobe.
lesbian attraction is not perverse, predatory, dehumanising to or sexualising of women's bodies
men have never and will never be included in lesbian sexuality and attraction under any circumstance
(and if your mind immediately goes to trans women and transfems when reading the above, congrats, youre a transphobe)
butch, femme, stud and stone are lesbian only identities
similarly, dyke is a slur that literally means lesbian. if youre not a lesbian, you're not a, nor can you 'reclaim', dyke.
butches and studs ≠ men or man-lite
butch ≠ masculine
femme ≠ feminine
transmasc ≠ trans man, therefore transmasc lesbians are a thing and trans men cannot ever be lesbians
trans women and transfems have been & will always be included in lesbian attraction, sexuality and community
trans lesbians & transfems can be butch
he/him lesbians ≠ (trans)masc, butch, stud lesbians
black lesbians ≠ automatically masc, butch, stud or tops
"bi lesbians" or "mspec lesbians" do not exist.
the split attraction model is for aromanticism and asexuality only. if you identify as such, youre just a bisexual who doesnt wanna unpack your internalised biphobia so resort to lesbophobia to cope with your self loathing caused by harmful stereotypes about your sexuality, which is bisexual. if you claim they do exist, you're both lesbophobic and biphobic
thank you for coming to my TedTalk. im sure you didnt listen to a word i said.
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The way Leslie Feinberg talks about the women's liberation movement in Stone Butch Blues (I think in chapter 13?) really fucking resonated with me and made me go oh shit because this is what we've never recovered from. This line that says you must fit into the conventions that is either 'man' or 'woman' but only ever in the way other people describe for you.
We had this for the gay lib movement, third wave feminism, the debates about lesbian sex ethics, modern trans debates. Its why we hate women who are masculine and men who are feminine, its why we hate drag performers and any trans person who doesn't perfectly pass as cisgendered. Its why nonbinary is only accepted if you can be seen as woman-lite. We are still culturally clinging to the differences between the binary sexes instead of deconstructing the ways compulsory gender has harmed most of us.
I think we need some serious thinking about the nuances between freedom to express and cultural gender identity, how we can enjoy butch/femme identities without forcing them into a new binary all over again, and ALSO about how specifically lesbian trauma around cismen affects how we treat and see masculine presenting women, butches, and the trans*/nonbinary people in our community.
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My Percy design and a mix of our Annabeth designs beautiful illustrated by one of my bestie's @honeypotsworld 💙💙💙💙💙💙💛💛💛💛💛💛Tysm Cindy,these make make me happy beyond words!!!!!!
Our Percy and Annabeth are a femme trans woman and a transmasc butch he/him lesbian so please use the according pronouns when talking about them on this post!!Epic found sister momence <3
@spnandmarvelrunmylife @edityrhometown @cottoncandyteeth
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