#emotionallydetached

[littlebent-notbroken]

While these examples are primarily focused on boundaries in relationships, I think they can be applied to other things in life. For example, rigid boundaries in workplace could look avoiding a coworker or even a whole department/area of the office (may or may not be from personal experience lollll). It can look like denying yourself help from others, or even being unwilling to help others. With rigid boundaries, there is no contact, limiting all possibility of intimacy or emotional connection or impact. Denying any flow of emotion from other people to you, and also from you to other people. Rigid boundaries can become unhealthy when the lack of emotional connection leads to hyper independence. Hyper independence is the "I have to do everything myself and I don't need anybody else to help me" attitude, which can be unsustainable and lead to resentment, exhaustion, and burnout. *Having rigid boundaries doesn't mean you're "bad" or broken. We may adopt rigid boundaries to avoid people and the way they make us feel, to not allow ourselves to be vulnerable. But we can also adopt them to prevent further harm from an abuser (I.e. going no contact). So if we think of rigid boundaries as unscalable walls and collapsed boundaries the floodgates always being open (nothing to stop the flow of energy coming in or out)…we can think of healthy boundaries as a drawbridge that can be lowered and raised, where the flow of energy is monitored and controlled. Can you identify where you have rigid boundaries in your life? And where healthy boundaries need to be placed instead? === Seeking support in setting healthier boundaries? 🦋Hi, I'm Marisa! I'm a trauma informed life coach with a mission to empower survivors of emotional and mental abuse reclaim their birthright of self love and compassion. Interested in more info? Check out the link in my bio or “coaching” highlight or shoot me a DM!🦋 #rigidboundaries #emotionallydetached #hyperindependence #selfsufficient #ultraindependence #nocontact #avoidantattachment #avoidance #emotionallyunavailable #burnoutprevention #resentment (at San Francisco Bay Area) https://www.instagram.com/p/CNxwMhIDDIa/?igshid=12d0fc0rttrg2

#rigidboundaries #emotionallydetached #hyperindependence #selfsufficient #ultraindependence #nocontact #avoidantattachment #avoidance #emotionallyunavailable #burnoutprevention #resentment

[thenewmizzluvliblack]

Do you know #astrology? My birth chart... People love me because I love myself. I'm the ultimate Aquarius.. I'm not afraid to walk away if something isn't right. Therefore they will likely chose me. I'm emotionally detached. When I love, I love hard. But at any point I feel like I'm not appreciated, I'm Out! I'm a humanitarian. Mother. About my business. Knowledgeable. Goddess. I'm very different. I stand out. I'm a leader. I don't follow trends, I create my own! If you wanna know me, LEARN WHAT A TRIPLE AQUARIUS IS... You will let go of the fight. I get what I want! 😘 I have a master number 11. Look up the FAMOUS AQUARIUS PPL..... I'm destined to go where I'm going!!!!! #Aquarius #stelliumastrology #funfacts #talktomenice #Indifferent #divinelyguided #Destiny #IminControl #IfYouDontLikeMeItsYou #emotionallydetached #WhenYouGotMeKeepMe #thenewmizzluvliblack1 #RealTalkwithTheNewMizzLuvliBlackandMoBinns https://www.instagram.com/p/B1Y5aKpn7Fh/?igshid=r7pot0pe8tf6

#astrology #aquarius #stelliumastrology #funfacts #talktomenice #indifferent #divinelyguided #destiny #imincontrol #ifyoudontlikemeitsyou #emotionallydetached #whenyougotmekeepme #thenewmizzluvliblack1 #realtalkwiththenewmizzluvliblackandmobinns

[bodymodchild]

People aren't persistent, Everyone leaves.

I'm so used to it. And I just don't care anymore.

#EmotionallyDetached

[thank-jew1998-blog]

I can’t feel,atleast not like you.

#emotionallydetached #mental health #feelings

[codenamelabelle-blog]

RE: Insidious

Lolz so y’all remember that post about how it’ll be a long 6 months and thing will probably turn to shit?? Welp..been only a couple of days and it’s already shit 😂😂 broke a new personal record for shortest relationship. But really tho..guy is a total ass. All he talked to me about was everything that was wrong with me. You hardly know me and literally the only thing you can muster to say to me is how much I suck? I just don’t understand. I don’t know how you can actually just bring people down like that. You don’t know what someone is going/has gone through and telling someone how much they suck can really screw them up mentally. Why do you think I’m so emotionally detached from everybody??? People really suck and need to do better.

#peoplesuck #dobetter #insidious #mentalhealth #emotionallydetached #life #thisisthewayiam #mentallyscrewed

[usaginaru-blog]

Shout out to all the people that are emotionally detached but still find a warm place in their heart to try to care for someone.

#emotionallydetached #emotional #relationship #love #shoutout #bf #gf #babe

[soulprana152]

Do you love someone who is Emotionally Attached?

How do you love someone who is emotionally detached? I try to ask myself that question over and over in hopes I will be able to answer it with a better answer, each time however, I am left more perplexed. The idea that you can change someone is the most selfish act that people commit without even knowing it (Our ego has a way of blindfolding you just as much as love does) If you think about it, when you want change, it mean's that you are either bored or unhappy with the current events taking place in your life, whether it be a job or a partner. In my case it is a partner, now on the other hand, would it still be selfish to assume and hold on to the idea that they may grow? We ourselves are constantly changing, so to think that maybe he will grow into the person I know he can be is, is somewhat comforting. Loving a broken person is one of the most difficult trials a person can put themselves through. Unfortunately, in life no matter how good your advice may be based on your own life lessons it  will likely have no impact on somebody who has not learnt the same lesson for themselves. The difference between somebody who learns from their life lessons, and somebody who is emotionally detached. Emotionally detached people do not feel, or if they do, they compartmentalise their issues and put them in boxes which they seldom relook at. This kind of behaviour is consistent with that of people who have experienced traumatic events either early or later on in life. How do I know this? am I a psychologist with a fancy degree? No. I  am not, but what I am is Human. I myself have experienced childhood trauma to know what it is to compartmentalise. And what do I know about detached people? Well, My father is one. To this day, I don't know who he is as a person, or the complexity of his being. All I see is a man who loved his family, but a man so cut off from his reality, he was always a stranger. I tend to believe that whatever trauma or incidents that moulded you to a certain degree play a role in the decisions you make. An example of this, is familiarity. Familiarity is unbiased, whether it is good or bad we tend to welcome it unknowingly. I know that now.  I should have learnt this sooner. When I had met Chris, I could see immediately that he exhibited signs of an Emotionally detached person, he had a childhood similar to mine. Instead of realising my life lesson through my relationship with my father. I felt a need to help him, for my lack in trying to understand and help my own father. I saw this as something I would be able to do. An opportunity to do something good. Boy, was I wrong. I saw the person I knew he could be or at least in my mind what I wanted. Not once did I think that, wait, maybe this is the way that he will always be? At first, everything was as I had dreamed of, the deep conversations, walks on the nearby golfcourse, gazing into each others eyes intently, exchanging playlists. It was new we were both enamoured. The timeline of all the aforementioned activities? 2 weeks.   Chris literally walked into my life as a housemate at the Houseshare that I have lived at for the past year. Within 2 weeks, we were a couple. I must admit the recent timeline of events of the people around me had changed considerably. 2 of my best friends engaged, let alone the copious amounts of people in or around my age (27) getting married and popping out babies. I now see that I was trying to manifest my wants, and dress our relationship up to be fate. I thought he was the one, deluded by my idea that the Universe conjured him up. All of that came crashing down when he had told me that he did not want to marry or have children. This shocking revelation sent me into a tailspin of emotions. Who on earth discusses these thing 2 weeks in. As much as I tell myself this was all badly miscalculated by my desire for it to be something that it wasnt. Was that I felt an immense connection with this person. I knew without a doubt without even speaking that our souls were somehow connecting. but as humans, it is easier to be let down than have hope in what will never be. I understand that his childhood may have played a pivotal role in his set-in-stone ideas about children and marriage, where I was different was instead of banishing it from my life, I chose to learn from it and be the best person I can be based on what not to do. He compartmentalised to the point that I fear I may have no impact in helping him to see the light. Whats worse is having to challenge my own idea of happiness so deluded to the idea that this person is who I think he is, I decided to wonder if I could live my life without Marriage and Children. Is that not what life is all about? Then I challenged my philosophies, helping myself to process the idea. I thought, what a terrible world it would be to bring a child into this world. Or, that yes the sanctity of Marriage is a dying fad, after all my parents were an example of this. I began trying to see the illusion in everything, and the more I analysed the more I realised it all boiled down to my own perspectives based on what I really wanted on a soul level. Truth is we feed into the illusions best fitted to what we want, because like a puzzle piece we find contentment and happiness. The notion that we constantly need to feel this happiness, may start to feel like a currency, through which these actions pay out. Do I on a soul level want children? Did I think about what our kids would look like when gazing intently in his eyes?  Ofcourse I did.  Now I am at the stage where I have to make a decision. Should I stay or should I go?

#emotionallydetached #love #relationships #happiness #illusions

[fancifullilfuck]

GAHDDAMN I MISS MY BESTFRIEND.

#i've never felt so far apart #my soul hearts #stonely nights #emotionallydetached

[thee0riginald0ll]

Aquarius/cancer zodiac spam bc these emotions are hard to deal with and it helps to know I'm normal/my relationship is normal/how to fucking deal with a lesbian cancer.

#me #personal #Aquarius #cancer #emotionallydetached #emotialwalls #issues #ugh #love #mygirl

[nostalgicqueen1-blog]

So the idea of being emotionally detached has been filtering my mind lately. This personality intrigues me because these type of people usually have certain traits that are socially attributed to them. In particularly i'm focusing on the theory that some of the most emotionally detached people are also known as being highly intelligent individuals.

Now i'm not saying all intelligent people are incapable of being sensitive nor am I trying to prove that being emotional is greater than being intelligent however I am backing the theory that these two characteristics are generally linked. The way I see it, a person who is a grade A genius became that way because they center a great portion of their life around their studies. More of their energy is put towards educating themselves and making sure they can perform superbly when questioned.

With that being said, energy is needed for other systems that make up a human being, too. Our mind is only one-third of the system that makes a balanced human being. Don't get me wrong fueling the mind is a great thing; intelligence feeds the mind and strengthens the innate desire to explore and wonder. But what about the body and the soul? When it comes to the theory about being emotionally detached, the alignment is with the soul. 

So what kind of traits does the soul crave? Well I think the soul is nourished by emotion. Emotions are intuitively driven and so is the soul.   So am I saying that intelligent people are out of touch with their soul because they spend less time grooming their character and more time tweaking their intelligence level...well....yeah. Think about it... people develop certain personality traits based on their experiences and environment.

If every moment of your day is purposed towards performing on top in all your classes and jobs, then what room do you have for any other behavior besides memorizing and regurgitating information. A person who does not spend time understanding their feelings causes their emotions to take a backseat and as a result they become unaffected by them.

In a psychological perspective these people surface behaviors that project facts and rationalizations while their sensitivity and empathy become buried in the unconscious mind instead. Therefore the stereotype that intelligent people have no emotion isn't true, they have them, they just don't entertain them, and sometimes fail to realize that they are there.

People have conscious minds that are customized by their intelligence, emotions, character etc. But what some people don't realize is that neglecting one of those traits to perfect another causes the conscious mind to only project what is seemingly more important. Consequently perfecting one leaves an imbalance in the others. 

So stay balanced. Share your energy. Feed your mind body and soul. 

#intelligence #emotionallydetached #stereotypes #mind #soul #energy #balance

[aint-no-jigga]

I keep telling myself I need to figure out how I feel, but maybe the reason I can't is because I dont feel anything.

#thoughts #feelings #oralackthereof #emotionallydetached #midnight #why?