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allycryz · 3 years

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WOL Challenge #4: Outrage

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Haurchefant-focused so not entering/tagging, spoilers for HW and start of ShB

Pairings: Mild Estinien x Haurchefant, Background Haurchefant x Nerys and Haurchefant x Urianger

Rating: G

Summary: Snapshots in Haurchefant’s journey from Knight to Emissary

Mild warnings for other knights taunting him over his parentage

"Next time, I shall fetch our drinks." Haurchefant says, watching Aymeric's slow progress across the floor. Each time he is about to break free and return to their table, someone else hails him. And he cannot help but exchange pleasantries. Darling, infuriating man.

"You are as bad as he," Estinien mutters. "Worse even, because you might abandon us for a pretty smile."

"I would never abandon my friends so!" Haurchefant wears mock indignation to cover his actual indignation. He would never be so rude.

He would at least deliver the drinks before being led away by the pretty smile.

"Politicians both of you," Estinien says. "I do not understand how you know all these people."

"Me? Perish the thought." Haurchefant waves a hand. "I am simply interested in everyone. That is different."

"Hm." Estinien continues to glower. Irritated that of the two friends he has allowed himself to make, one has abandoned them. Haurchefant has tried to remedy that but Estinien is resistant to more connections. Stubborn, darling man.

"Really," he continues. "Give me a blade and shield over politicking. Besides, they are subject to all sorts of scrutiny and I have had enough of that, thank you."

"Fair. You would not like being so circumspect."

"One of these days..." Haurchefant grins. "You are going to learn how not to insult people so often."

"What? How was that an insult?"

"I’m not offended so never you mind. Is the scrutiny why you haven't seduced Aymeric yet?"

At that, the tips of Estinien's ears turn red. "Never you mind that. It is as likely as you becoming a politician."

"On that you are utterly wrong." Haurchefant shakes his head. "He will end up in your bed by year's end but I will always be a knight."

The day he becomes a true knight is the day he swears himself to Ishgard, before Blessed Halone, before the other knights and nobility and his family. To serve his country and The Fury for the rest of his life. To uphold the laws of Ishgard. To protect the weak and defenseless. To serve the Fury’s chosen including the Archbishop and the servants of her church.

For all that they are men now, for all that they all took the same vows, for all that they squired and trained and rose up together; the knights of noble birth treat him as they always have.

“Edmont Oathbreaker,” says one of the Dzemael lordlings. He speaks to three other knights but pitches his voice to be heard across the barracks. “Swore to forsake all others when he took his lady. That lasted until they hired a maid prettier than the Countess.”

Haurchefant continues polishing his armor, keeping the same bland smile upon his face. If he reacts, they will narrow in like wolves scenting blood. And not since he was a boy has he responded to these taunts with fists.

It was this one’s cousin. He thinks, glancing at the lordling with his placid expression. Haurchefant had bloodied Grinnaux’s nose and his father had made him swear never to react so again. But one small victory–Grinnaux treated him with a begrudging respect thereafter.

“Someone should cut his tongue out,” Estinien growls. “And my new dagger needs testing.”

“Peace,” says Haurchefant. “Believe me, I have heard far, far worse.”

“That does not make it right.” And he rises with clear intent in his gaze. Haurchefant clasps his wrist, shaking his head.

“My friend, I am glad to have your loyalty. Will you do me the favor of standing down?”

Estinien looks at him a long moment before sitting down. “Bah! Only nobies care which side of the bed you were born on.”

Darling, fierce man. “I am, despite everything, a noble as well.”

“I don’t hold it against you.” Estinien says in the deadpan way he favors for jokes. And before Haurchefant can laugh, he adds. “You’re twice the knight he is.”

Haurchefant swallows the sudden burst of emotion that forms in his throat. His friend is not given to flattery or platitudes. “That...means more to me than you’ll ever know.”

Estinien grunts and returns to his own armor. This time, Haurchefant’s smile is true and genuine. He will do his best to be worthy of such praise.

Artoirel flicks him an acknowledging glance before returning to his papers, writing something in his perfect hand. Of the three sons, he is the only one who takes after their father in neat penmanship.

Standing at attention is still a trial. Who knew the body was so interconnected–that the acts of walking and standing could hurt while your shoulder healed? He has been through far worse pain and manages but...would that he could stand without discomfort.

“Emmanellain acquit himself well at the Melee.” Artoirel says at last, looking up. “Please, have a seat.”

Haurchefant nods and tries not to show his relief as he sits. “He did. I’m quite proud of him.”

“So am I.” A rare, soft expression crosses Artoirel’s face. Haurchefant often misses the cheerful, mischievous older brother who collected beetles and smuggled him toys. It is nice to see him again. “And...I had a notion. But I would like your approval first.”

“My approval? Would you like him to serve under my command then?” If he even can command any time in the next few months. Ser Zephirin’s lance was no common weapon, thus the healing takes an uncommon amount of time.

“Ah.” Artoirel sits up straighter. “That is the thing. It hasn’t escaped my notice that you would like to join up with Mistre-with Nerys. And it occurs to me...Emmanellain needs purpose, needs structure.”

He connects the lines and it is at once terrifying, exciting, infuriating, and thrilling. What can he even say to such a proposal? Words fail him.

“Of course, we would have a long talk with Corentiaux about it. I’ve no doubt he would be the true leader until Emmanellain caught up to speed. And there is the matter of your vows.”

“My vows?” Haurchefant repeats. “...you’re right. I swore myself to Ishgard and The Fury. No, as much as I desire to fight at her side, I cannot break my word to join the Scions. Especially not now.”

Haurchefant is all too aware of the fraught threads connecting everyone and everything. He has to navigate them as Commander, as a noble, as one of the famous bastards of Ishgard. And now–as he watches his country rebuild itself–the networks of Ishgardian alliances and feuds resemble powder kegs more than anything.

Looking up, he continues. “I cannot ask to be released from my vows. Not when Aymeric has just been elected Speaker. We know I support him but we also know some might twist it around. ‘Look, even Greystone thinks the new Ishgard will fail. No wonder he is leaving.’”

“I know. That’s why I have an idea.”

“...Go on.”

Out comes an official document, marked with Artoirel’s own signet ring. Haurchefant reads it over once. Frowns and reads it again. This is...wholly unexpected.

“Is this a promotion or a demotion?”

“Call it a promotion.”

A promotion. From Lord Commander to House Fortemps Emissary to the Scions of the Seventh Dawn. Charged with protecting the interests of the Wards of House Fortemps; overseeing all negotiations between the Scions of the Seventh Dawn and House Fortemps; strengthening inter-Alliance relationships between Ishgard and the rest of Eorzea.

“Oh Fury,” he says. “You’re turning me into a politician.”

When Estinien comes back, he will never let Haurchefant live this down.

The Ostall Imperative feels like home.

The soldiers take to him and he to them. Captain Lyna is a charming, lovely woman and an excellent training partner. It is far more rewarding than stewing at the Crystarium. Hoping the Exarch brings Nerys soon but also hoping he does not. Would that he had a fraction of her power. Haurchefant might deal with these Lightwardens in her stead.

The Exarch summons him to The Ocular and he dares not hope for...anything, truly. Better to go in with no expectations with this one. He thinks Y’shtola had the right idea, departing as she did.

He is being unkind. He does not like being unkind.

But he also does not like the idea of these souls in peril–Y’shtola, Thancred, his beloved Urianger–and that he may not see Nerys again. Or that he will, only to send her against horrific creatures of light and terror. And what of her soul?

When he sees that it’s Alphinaud, he is beyond unkind. He is furious.

Everything else was bad enough but this is a boy, his family’s ward. One who has wisdom beyond his years and responsibilities equal to those twice his age but still. Alphinaud is just a lad. What if something happens to his soul?

His body may still be in Garlemald!

Haurchefant hugs him fiercely, startling him. Alphinaud makes a faintly strangled noise before returning the embrace. More tightly than he ever has before. Little wonder: when last they saw each other, their ship went down and Haurchefant’s soul left his body.

“You’re...you’re here? But you were…” Alphinaud shakes his head. “Maxima was supposed to bring you home.”

“He did.” He does have the Exarch to thank, for confirming his body made it back to the Rising Stones. “I am in Mor Dhona. And my soul is...here.”

“Of course. My apologies, I am still wrapping my brain about what has happened.”

“If I may interrupt,” the Exarch says. “There are a few things else you should know before we send you to a room and a meal.”

“Before that…” Haurchefant looks up. “Kindly use your powers of sight and tell us how his body fares.”

“It’s alright, friend.” It’s Alphinaud who speaks. Puts a comforting hand on his arm. “The Exarch assures me that my traveling companions are returning my body.”

“Your companions,” he repeats. “Gaius van Baelsar, you mean.”

“You know?”

“The Exarch has kept me informed since my arrival here.” It is one of the constants since his arrival a year prior–asking for updates about his friends and loves still on The Source.

“Yes, I mean Gaius. It’s alright.” Alphinaud walks over to the Exarch. “Pray, continue ser. What else should I know?”

The boy receives the same explanation they all had: what is to come, what they are planning for, where the other Scions are. Haurchefant remains quiet except to add clarifying details here and there. It is far too much for anyone to process but as usual, Alphinaud does admirably. When he is dismissed, the Exarch asks Haurchefant to stay behind.

“How may I be of service?” Haurchefant asks, not quite modulating his tone. Urianger has asked him to trust the Exarch and for him, Haurchefant would do anything. He truly would. But he pictures Alphinaud, collapsed in Garlemald among strangers, and wants to fight through time and space to reach the Source and rescue him. Laws of nature and the universe be damned.

“As I said,” the Exarch says, voice gentle. “Gaius will bring him home.”

“Keep me apprised, if you please. I do not trust the Black Wolf, no matter that he is Ascian Hunter now.” Bending his vows to topple the archbishop had not made Haurchefant love Ishgard any less. Gaius’ alliance is to the Garlean Empire until proven otherwise.

“I have need of you, Lord Haurchefant.” The Exarch inclines his head, one hand over his breast. “You have done great things with my guard. But what I need is to know what type of world we send the Warrior into. We need alliances to ease her way.”

“...Ah.” Haurchefant nods. “You do not need the Knight. You need the Emissary.”

“I need both. You are an honest man because you are a knight. And that is also why you are an excellent emissary–you see people as they are, you discern their motives in order to know if you need to protect your loved ones.”

“You flatter me, ser.”

“I tell the truth,” says the Exarch. “Please, I know this situation is fraught and you want to get home. The more we prepare, the quicker I send you all home safe and sound. She deserves-”

“She deserves everything,” says Haurchefant. “And I would do anything to help her and protect her. If that means playing this role, then yes I will do this for you.”

Beneath the hood, he sees a hint of a smile. “We are in agreement, Lord Haurchefant.”

“If I may...I would like to see to Alphinaud. Shall we discuss this another time?”

“Of course. Tomorrow morning?”

“Tomorrow morning,” Haurchefant agrees. Enough time to see to the boy. And then make his farewells to Lyna and the rest of the guard. Being with them is the most himself he has felt in a long while.

He hopes he can return soon.

#ally writes #haurchefant greystone #ffxiv #haurchefant lives #nerys eluned

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encorerecoverysblog · 3 years

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Addiction Help - Where to Turn

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astrology-with-charu · 4 years

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𝐌𝐚𝐲 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟎 - 𝐀 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰 𝐨𝐟 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟏 𝐛𝐲 𝐒𝐢𝐠𝐧

Having looked at May 2020 overview in previous post let’s now very briefly focus of Taurus season & where we must shake things up by your rising /sun/ moon. Remember we are seeing only a preview now - full play out of Saturn Square Uranus will be in 2021!

𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝟏 - 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰 𝐨𝐟 𝐌𝐚𝐲 & 𝐨𝐟 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟏

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“𝙒𝙚 𝙤𝙣𝙡𝙮 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙘𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙨𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙨 𝙪𝙨, 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙡𝙨𝙚 𝙬𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙨𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙪𝙨 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙨𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩 𝘂𝘀 𝙖𝙣𝙮𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚” ~𝗝𝘂𝗻𝗴

𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝟐 - 𝐁𝐲 𝐒𝐢𝐠𝐧

♈️ #Aries

Uranus in our house of income being stimulated in this Taurus season is again prompting us to change the way we make money. Money is more of means to an end versus an entity in itself, you need that asset for freedom. As your value system & attitude about money, assets, possessions shift we also have to accept that money will not come from consistent sources and there will be ups & downs in revenue stream. This is tough for our sign cause with Saturn transit 11th we crave that security of money being a constant factor - May be we can find a middle path ? Consistent money from an investment, a platform, a supporter or a bit of money kept apart in a split account giving us that feeling that we have it when we need it so we can dabble in what we truly want to do for a living. Independent sources of income, income through tech, online trading, platforms, networks, through an invention of material nature, food evolution, chemistry, music, gems, earth resources or preservation, through developing unique skills possibly financial skills or Creative artistic skills which have a market value. Acquiring unique asset or resource or online sources of income are a few suggestions. But proactively this season plant the seeds of new source of income or find skills that will make you independent financially. Along with that look for investments long run that will help you get a consistent income to support you. It’s also time to have radical faith in yourself - self respect that will help you get out of a static situation which isn’t worth your time & resources anymore. Self respect to love your body more and treat it better through detaching from any dietary habits that aren’t nourishing it due to stress & other factors. Saturn in your house of network, social standing & vision is going to give you discipline to create a legacy, network presence, real & lucrative form of your vision & dreams over next 2.5 years - this is once in 28.5 yrs transit which is very beneficial. But there is inherent conflict in need for freedom in earnings & social participation- we need to merge the two, learn how to innovate in responsible productive ways. As you become free from attachment to steady source of income - you would be able to merge with larger goal easier. Big wealth normally comes from volatile sources or from ahead of time unique skill sets so you would have to move towards shift in your talents to create the kind of value you are looking to create. As your value system evolves so would your network & friends.

Sometimes we need to leave the nest of traditional security to truly fly!

♉️ #Taurus

Happy birthday to Taurus sun & a happy season to all of you. Taurus you have the rare gift & responsibility of having Uranus in your sign which most signs never get to see in their life time considering the 84 years of Uranus cycle. There is radical confidence created in our soul to evolve our external existence completely when it happens - we don’t look the same, don’t do the same things & don’t stand anymore the same things - Taurus anyways doesn’t suffer any fools but with this you would have much less bandwidth for that. We are here to establish our own truth - where there is no path - you will create one. You are the inventor, the Nikola Tesla of our generation (he had Uranus in Taurus in 1st house) but remember Tesla didn’t exactly know how to make commercial sense of his brilliance and invention. That’s a conflict you will face with Saturn in house of career & status, you would see a conflict between your ability to innovate & ability to convince people of value of your invention. Don’t give up when an authority figure or rule blocks your innovative idea - you are Taurus - the consistent persistent innovator - find a way. Revel in this unique aspect which is freeing you to be you - brilliant insights, feeling wired, clear feeling that you need to lead and not follow. Focus is on you this season - freedom to be inventive, original, new insights! Not adhering to convention, giving yourself freedom to be put first, cutting through what’s not real. Remember always the opposite side is also stimulated for big shifts when Uranus transits your sign so - your commitments, contracts, relationships, partner will also shift & be more free...

Life is not going to be ordinary!

♊️ #Gemini

Gemini restless restless restless , this aspect reminds of that video of kid continuously asking “Are we there yet, are we there yet”. Taurus season puts Gemini behind the scenes, in isolation, away from the crowd - right now all of us are living Gemini’s 12th house but you know who is restless the most even on their sleep right now - Gemini. So much energy is about to come your way Gemini - Venus in your sign all through early August, north node in your sign for next 18 months & ofcourse your season from second half of May when both Sun & Mercury will be in your sign along with the 22 May new moon in your sign - new start after all of this finally ! So before all of that happens we are sitting in this 12th house of preparation - dealing with things below the surface while being behind the scene. First time in two decades you will have north node transit your sign giving you a karmic new start - what do you need to get rid of & complete before it all begins full force ? Hidden talents, resources, strengths - Gemini are discovering all of that along with hidden fears & gaps. Healing in unique ways, discovering unique health solutions, reconnecting with your own well being, extracting any residual pain, any boogie man that can block your path when all lights are shining on you. Freer, lighter, easier, renewed ready for your season. Temporary retreat - take it. It will open you up free you to think out of the box. You will have your most brilliant inventions & ideas in isolation away from the crowd. But this Uranus in hidden house clashes with your house of adventure where Saturn is. You want to travel, connect, share ideas, publish, write, share your knowledge but there are forces beyond you that block that. Right now we know what they are but with this aspect they could be your own fears as well - take this time to weed all of that out. Also get done with your overdue financial obligations like a neglected financial issue or another obligation or a volunteer job you have been meaning to do. Merge your strong intuition, active dreams, hyperactive imagination, faith, spiritual work, yoga practice with your overall practical philosophy in life. You need a spiritual practice, an irrational faith in higher powers, this confidence in protection beyond what we can see - your hidden beneficiary or a personal angel - this is house of release of faith of moksha where we have to believe we are and will be taken care of & at this moment may be that’s what we need to work on as you are progressively moving towards a leap of faith. Our interactions with others - our messaging to the world will reflect this faith or lack thereof.

Faith without works is dead!

♋️ #Cancer

Cancer this season for you is all about network, friends, internet connections, platform, public light, vision ideas & ideals. Normally your friends or network is predictable, reliable, stable but with Uranus here since March last year - this area of life is being rocked with shifts with people you never thought you would be friends with coming into your life, or your friends & networks going through radical shifts. Important, different, unique friends & investors sponsors mentors come into our life during this transit that change us - shift us & our ideals and vision of life. Expanding it - leaving us asking for more. Our social contribution in form of arts, creativity, beauty, finance shifts enormously as we get radical confidence to deliver our unique talents to a wider audience. It gives you impetus to go unique in your connections - unique, eccentric, brilliant, change agents would be your new friends. Also a few shocking information comes to surface about the people who were supposed to be familiar or your friends / supporters - you want to be bigger in your vision & if your friends or network hold you down, you will detox that & cut ties suddenly without going back. This is happening while Saturn is in your house of merging with people - teaching you how to responsibly merge with others in talent, in finances, in emotions to create more for both you and at the same time detox toxic karmic connections from your life. So this stimulated social life or change in friends network comes with teachings on how to merge, who to merge, who adds to you & who to share your life body & emotions with. You are having a radical change in your vision, shifting your goal post...

...But more importantly you will change who goes on that journey with you. Use this season to find right ones!

♌️ #Leo

Leo work work work! Taurus season is critical for you as would be the 2021 Saturn Uranus square as it activates your critical axis of work and contracts or partnerships. Fresh inclusion of energy into your work through new impetus, possible pressure, new sense of self, possibly new skill set to do your work in a different way. With Uranus in your career house till 2026 you are on a journey to move away from long held career, a shift in your authority & the kind of leader you are. A Leo who isn’t the king of his or her domain will see Uranus trying to free their conservative outer veneer to let the Lion within roar & breathe. Uranus creates this high vibration, even restlessness within us due to which we cannot be anything other than authentic & live freely in our element. This is all working in positive aspect with Pluto Jupiter conjunct in your health & work sector trying to burst some old bubbles to create a more authentic growth where you take the seat on the table or rather wear your throne finally and do what you were born to do - Lead. Independence in career, problems with any kind of authority, shift in who the world knows you as - your external social title, wanting to contribute something unique & progressive to the society - are all hallmark of this transit . Early degree Leos (0-10°) or July born Leo Sun might have already experienced some dramatic shifts and the rest will be experiencing that going forward but all of you can feel this square of Saturn Uranus all the way to 2021 which will revolutionise the way you connect to people, clients, partners due to this restlessness you feel to not have an extraordinary & independent career. You want to innovate, be a force for change, surely not be run by anyone - no boss or being the boss, recreate destroy status quo for freedom - your work needs to have space for your brilliant inventive idealistic side. When Saturn squares this Uranus you can feel like the walls are closing onto you - your commitments, contract partners - personal relationships & professional partners become more burdensome or more onerous in work. Just when you want to open your wings & fly away the commitments you have to others clip your wings. There is a reason for that - the reason is that Uranus in your career can easily be wasted without a concrete structure. This is an extremely strong aspect - no way a Leo in this scenario isn’t having restless legs both in their career boat & personal boat. The profession, the innovation, the genius inventive ala Karl Marx or Michael Angelo career you are gunning for requires a skill set that you unknowingly are honing & becoming an expert at - handling partners, clients, people, audience, critics. Saturn is going to make you work hard at that cause they will become both source of your abundance & pressure for next 2 1/2 years. To be the king we need to have solid team as well as solid skill set to handle the others in our life and that includes our personal relationships. Uranus lacks diplomacy, it just wants to be brilliant and free - the fireworks - Saturn wants you to put the time in others to learn to take the people who you are sort of governing, working with, gaining from - along in the journey. Also teaching you that work isn’t a place to avoid your wife or husband or mom - yup again a hallmark of this aspect - we run from our relationships into the shelter of work.

People are your work!

♍️ #Virgo

Virgo this is the season of adventure for you, even if it’s being experienced with a glass of wine from your home - it’s season to expand your horizons through interactions with people from different countries, background - reading things you haven’t read before, Publishing what you already know, letting people know of your simple & practical life’s philosophy. World needs a few objective guides & you surely will be one to few of us during these turbulent times. But like the times are changing, with Uranus in your house of mind & philosophy - you are at a steep learning curve shifting your knowledge & philosophy too. What you thought was the practical, grounded way of living, your belief in money, the value you placed on education or type of education you thought was valuable - some sudden incident even a shocking event will shift that or has shifted it. You know those few moments in a day when we have the unconditioned mind - it’s like a blank state - bliss! Those moments have Virgo’s name on it now. Conservative won’t cut it for you, life is a high speed railway and you have got a ticket - I don’t know what exactly will set you free but you are ready to go and you will teach others how to feel this freedom to be themselves. Many of you have already cut anything weighing you down & started this journey and it gets better as Uranus zaps you with brilliance in your emotional behaviour every month when we have a Taurus moon shifting your behavioural patterns to a more adventurous open one & every year in Taurus season which is on right now till 20 May - you get zapped physically to be free - what you do for a living, how you speak & interact, who you love - shifts more and more every year during Taurus season. Nothing short of an adrenaline rush will satisfy you. But without Saturn discipline you would just settle in Fiji or become a monk - Gandhi had this aspect too but he channeled it well for freedom for all. Saturn is going to make you work hard in your work, daily chores, health for next 2 1/2 years - it wants you create an army of workers or projects that delivers this ahead of the time philosophy & knowledge that you are getting brainwave of which peaks in this season. You are to bring new ideologies, insights, financially lucrative concepts of new world, your unusual life experiences, your exposure to world others haven’t seen, this knowing you have of the pulse of the society - the future trends, where are we headed to - we are all here to benefit from it. But Saturn will make you channel it into a streamlined work, project, written work, a plan, a company set up. It will also teach you how to work together with others when you have such radical different views which many as of now may not understand. Being ahead of time in knowing is a boon & a curse. At the same time, you can call yourself futuristic but if you are not open to people who have different views, it doesn’t show faith in your own philosophy of freedom. Faith without works is dead - you have faith in a more open society, in your views, in your work - it will show up in how you handle your coworkers, critics & enemies. Sound mind without good health cannot perform well. Saturn is in your house of service for next 2 1/2 years - that’s the house of Virgo - you know how to make something of value & service to others, how to create efficiency, how to manage health & healing. But with this square you have the challenge & opportunity to merge your radical forward looking ideologies & foreign exposure into work, service to others & health.

It’s the best of who you are & who you are becoming!

♎️ #Libra

Libra season of Taurus is normally a season of give & take for you - focus is on proceeds of your partnerships, relationships & investments. Uranus here is cutting a few karmic ties that hold your light down & make your lightness covered in dark cloud. But like a Pandora’s box release of freedom comes with release of the good & the bad - passions, lust, jealously, pleasure, all the emotions which are normally suppressed are being released, making you comfortable and free to express them. People in your life might be seeing a side of you they normally never see and it’s been a process since last year but Taurus season surely materially triggers that off. It brings this need to be free & in your power - wanting to transform, being not at the short end of give & take in partnerships, freeing yourself from any darkness that keeps you in shadows. This is the house of sudden transformations - with Uranus here - Libra you are being put in situations where you suddenly need to show your mettle - this is house of Phoenix. Just when everyone thought you were beat, you come back with even more punch - surprise twists, suddenly being put in charge of crisis situations, sudden inheritances, shift in circumstances that show what you are made of, sudden shift in partners resources or how your partner makes money, sudden shifts in sponsorships / loans / credit - are all hallmark of having Uranus transit your house of give & take and death rebirth. You are truly being reborn but like most people you won’t be given ages to do it, it’s a quick zap and now you are in charge bit. But this zap is perfect to cut off the past, the conventional manners, the powerlessness, great to earn money through others in unconventional ways by leveraging talents of others or pooling resources of others like a banker or manager. You are discovering magic of Karma when things out of your control happen & place you in situations, you as a sign representing balance, never imagined to be in. Cause those aren’t balanced situations - you will go from one extreme to other, you will go through people who are radically different even controlling - but this is you becoming gold - probing things below the surface, finding strength you didn’t know you had, finding rewards you didn’t think you would ever get - as I said it’s a Pandora’s box hit by lightening bolt opening the good & bad - dramatic shifts. It’s coming in conflict with Saturn transiting your house of passions - which aims for delayed gratification, structuring our risk, taking risk conservatively, being a disciplinary to the child within us & your own children. Makes you create tangible output of your creativity that outlives you - a child, a business, a hobby that becomes career. This pressure to give birth to something gives the requisite discipline to the Phoenix phase of transformation you are going through as you can transform a crisis into a lucrative opportunity, you can channel a deep side of you / insights / financial research / sponsorships / loans / resources from others & channel all of that physical and financial firepower into a venture, a labor of joy. On personal basis it shows conflict between the dark & light side of you - depth & power versus joy & love, spiritual experiences & cold hard cash, crisis versus wanting to take a risk, fear versus positive karmic belief in destiny. If you want to give birth to a child fear that you don’t have requisite depth or intimacy with partner for it, if you want to give birth to a business not having requisite funding for it, you have a talent but don’t know if others will sponsor it or you will get return for your work, conflict between love & sex as sometimes we don’t get both together. Uranus is shifting your desires & powers - even if you wanted to you won’t stay on conservative road but Saturn will push you to create a structure for this passion, strong feeling, the Phoenix moment of rebirth your soul craves and is going through.

Merging without passion is of no use, money without joy is of no use, love doesn’t undermine your power - true power thrives in love & passion, all this release of soul is of no use of its not channelled to create something beautiful - labor of your passions, a creative release. We are both - dark & light and you will look to merge that!

♏️ #Scorpio

Scorpio the Taurus season is critical for us as is the upcoming Super full moon on 7th May - both of them together are shifting , evolving how we connect to others, what we bring to table in a partnerships, who we want to be with, what clients we want to connect with - who are our professional & personal partners & how we connect one on one basis with them. With the upcoming full moon your place in a partnership, contract, relationships & what you are getting or not out of them will come to focus. All focus would be on you and it can feel a bit of balancing act - you versus the others, your focus on what you want & what others want out of you. With Uranus in your house of relationships, you are totally evolving how you connect with others - Uranus is independent & unique - we don’t want to “hang out” with the other even if we love them or like them - freedom becomes more important than relationships. So the relationships have to evolve & you might have been on this journey to evolve / shift / move away from past partnerships or contracts since last year. Long term marriages, partnerships, job contracts, client relationships- all one on one close relationships go through volatility with Uranus here till 2026 - depending on when Uranus hits your exact degree between 2019-2026 you will see a physical shift in them but every Taurus season you will see an evolution in these commitments - setting you a little bit more free, moving them to unconventional categories. Traditional structures of family life don’t fit the bill normally in this transit. Normally the kind of partners we are attracted to Scorpio - stable, well settled, traditional - they won’t fit the bill as well. Untraditional even unreliable or unstable partners & relationships come in our life and they may or may not be of romantic nature. Relationships need to be changed, reinvented, made more open honest & free - making more space for you to breath and be you. Similarly your contribution to the society & relationships will become different - you become the bringer of change, new idea, insights, breakthroughs - through being you - you free others & contribute something forward looking of financial & material value to those who you come in touch with. A Scorpio evolves every soul that touches them - this has never been more true than now.

But how do you show up in your full element with honestly freedom in all your relationships & contracts if you don’t have your own solid emotional foundations. Saturn will challenge that - for next 2 1/2 years we have Saturn sitting in our house of home, family & emotional fulfilment. This is another critical growth phase - sort of crossing over of a threshold that happens once in 28 1/2 years - its a tough position I won’t lie to you but it’s one of the most significant growth threshold which creates solid grounding on which you can stand in outer world & be anyone you want to be. On daily basis it would feel like home family requires more of you - responsibilities increase through existing members of your home, existing real estate or new home or family obligations by addition of member. Conflict between your need to be free & increased responsibility at home is something 2021 will bring to you & you will see a preview now of it. Finding your freedom while reinforcing your emotional reserves is key here - there is no running away from responsibility under Saturn & you are not the kind. But yeah you are through pressure creating what’s called a thick skin, a strong foundation, a safe space, thing to hang onto to take on any volatility in your partnerships, any kind of enemies critics. Handling a toddler can best equip you to handle a pesky client - I joke but you know what I mean. It’s practice ground - if you gave a secure home & inner foundation you can connect with others more authentically & contribute boldly your unconventional ideas.

Staying apart but strong parenting together, being able to say what you truly want to, cause you feel sure within, making money from volatile ventures & clientele cause you have a solid home to go back to or a family that cushions the blow, giving others their space cause you found yours within & not looking outside for comfort, going after unique contracts cause you have faith in you, seeking unique dynamic inventive charismatic partner cause you know you deserve the best- are examples of making best of this contradiction.

What we normally seek outside is within!

♐️ #Sagittarius

Sagittarius season of Taurus always brings your work, projects, work environment & health to focus - fresh energy to start again in unconventional ways. With Uranus now here till 2026, you seek freedom & brilliance in your daily work & routines. 9 to 5 doesn’t normally work or needs unconventional ways to work like working independent of the team, in unique work environment, on futuristic subjects. There is restlessness in settling into any kind of routine, allergy to routines & convention. You need lively exchange of ideas, new tech, new subjects, work needs to be engaging, full of variety, inventive & not one or two days in a year - every day. Or you will find a way to create upheaval to make it interesting. This energy is nervous, volatile yet brilliant. Physical activity is a must & that’s gotto be interesting open new too. Change in job , projects & health habits might have begun last year itself with Uranus moving here but this will continue till 2026 till you are in the place where your unique peg fits the cog. So if you are releasing jobs, projects, routines - they probably don’t fit who really want to be cause fake isn’t the hallmark of Uranus. But Saturn wants you channel this high vibration you feel, this almost nervous energy to break free & have a breakthrough - into something of commercial & marketable value. It’s going to for next 2 1/2 years help you create a skill set, communication & commercial skill which will be long term source of abundance for you. Uranus will add the unique futuristic ways of doing things to it, futuristic high tech ways of adding efficiency, unique coworkers or work environment. Additionally Saturn here restructures our way of thinking & Uranus in house of health helps us embrace alternative medicine or health practices that benefit our mind and clear structured thinking. Brain’s connection to gut health etc sorts. Uranus causes this nervous energy in turn which Saturn helps ground by giving you stability of though so you can productively channel your brilliance into productive ventures - self made wealth - independent skills to attain that are attained under this contradiction of stability & volatility.

The hard aspect though shows a blockage as well - feeling stuck in work projects due lack of mobility & travel (I mean that’s anyways a killer for Sagittarians peace), not being able to connect effectively with others leading to not being able to execute projects well, not feeling free to express or say your unique perspective, working on requisite skills or business success taking too long who,s you want results now, sticking with past - I am sure there are more which I am missing but you catch my drift - conflict between conventional 9-5 thoughts or even addiction to that & new skills you are learning.

When you seek freedom & nothing short of brilliance - volatility & instability comes with the package !

♑️ #Capricorn

Capricorn the Taurus season is time of passion, joy, creativity, passions, catering to children or child within for you as fresh energy is infused into these areas of your life. What a beautiful energy & with Uranus you are being woken up to passions, hobbies, love, confidence you didn’t experience before. It can be a bit unnerving when you see yourself doing things you have not done before as your risk appetite in life increases but its exhilarating. You are unlikely to fall in love with convention here - it’s like a veil has been lifted and you see you heart more clearly than you ever saw. This is a journey - Uranus is here till 2026 and it’s one of the most exciting position for it. Unleashing freeing child within you, passions joy which was forgotten, you let your light shine truly now. Let your light, innovative side, quirky side even - openly seen & own it. There is lot of freedom in feeling good in your own skin and you do finally after a turbulent couple of years - it’s getting better. Self expression is freed, we develop passions & hobbies that are unconventional, we fall in love with danger a bit here as we invite unconventional quirky brilliant love affairs, pregnancies can be sudden & unexpected as well, child you have can suddenly show an undiscovered talent, speculative gains can become source of unexpected joy as you have never dabbled in speculative so far. But overall in your personal, professional, financial, love life you might seem more willing to take a risk versus before as you gain more confidence in life. Be ready to be surprised by your own love, passion, interests, confidence, children - Elvis Presley had this natally & he surely delivered on his unique talents. That’s what Saturn will try to extract out of this - it will try to leverage your passions, high confidence, dare, unique creativity into lucrative financial ventures. Saturn is in your house of finances for next 2 1/2 years giving you discipline & structure for solid long term prosperity. It will drive you to take responsibility of your talents & resources to yield best outcome for your finances & body. Building strong financial base, strong self reliance, driving value out of your assets / resources, valuing your assets / resources, valuing money, taking time to build a future, setting right boundaries when it comes to your assets / resources, strengthening yourself psychologically so you can make some tough calls. But this devil may care Uranus in house of passion clashes with this long term conservative approach to resources - you would need to find a way to merge the two. Passion without any material output from it is of no use, love comes at a price & is that worth it, passionate parenthood clashes with desire to make a solid financial foundations for tomorrow. There can be blockage that you might face in achieving true freedom in your creativity & self expression if you aren’t aptly rewarded for it. Saturn always wins this game as it’s the stronger aspect in this square & your ruler but you will learn the art to merge these two conflicting parts of you - the newly discovered / set free wild child side & the conservative hunker down productive lucrative business side. We will see preview of this now but full effect & rewards will come in 2021.

Earth sign like yourself know how to create concrete value out of everything - even their wild side but what they would learn to do more will be to let loose as volatility & excitement is about to become part of their life and value creation - Very Interesting!

♒️ #Aquarius

Aquarius Taurus season brings your roosters home, focus comes on your home, family, real estate as you look to add embellish increase your inner & emotional comfort with all your five senses stimulated. It’s your critical axis which is activated - more so cause after 29 years we got your traditional ruler in your sign for next 2.5 years - reset of who you are externally & emotionally. It’s an understatement to say that you are being reborn - your external reality is shifting & towards a more powerful and lucrative one. But since it’s just the first touch after 29 years as Saturn just came here & is standing still right now - you can feel the pressure very strongly - it’s new. Pressure in your work, job, physical body to be someone else and in turn balancing that side of you where all lights are on you but you gotto take care of people in your life. Scorpio full moon of 7 May will bring this balance of your job & external status versus your personal life & emotional foundations to focus. May be you need to move away from old way of being in the job or external title needs to better reveal who you are becoming.

Uranus in your house of home & foundations since last year has been bringing surprises & shifts possibly in your personal life - sudden events which totally change who you are and show you more of real you. Uranus has just started that journey as it will stay in your house of home & family till 2026. When it comes on your exact degrees you will see tangible physical shifts in your family life & place of living but every Taurus season you will experience little by little your inner core set free from old bondages, old attitudes, old limitations which probably our family traditions taught us - internal limits of who we think we can be or should be cause we were told so - shackles are coming off & some will like it some will not. It will surely change what kind of leader you are, what job you do cause you are connecting back with who you truly are - the emotions we were distanced from they come rushing back in to fill the gaps we have been feeling due to ignoring our own emotional needs. You speak out more, ask more of others, say your piece when challenged - you are ready to create an identity away from what your family or traditions or others think you should or have to have. There is sudden urge to move, set free, change family or home life to make more air for you. Family outside your blood relationships become your family. You search your corner of peace in open spaces & sometimes in isolation. But Saturn in your sign gives you more responsibilities which you have to fulfil both professional & personally - it puts you in leadership position at home and at work. That’s natural to you - you are both - the wild child of Uranus & the responsible child of Saturn. They are both parts of you but merging these two conflicting parts of you is required - May will show you a preview & this is key for 2021. You will be taking a significant leap from past identity to new one - no doubt. There is element of uncertainty there which is heightened by Uranus shifting your foundations - what used to give security before. Brilliance, innovation, new ventures, new identity come with their share of volatility & security isn’t imminent. Saturn gives structure to this volatility by giving you discipline & rules to create new boundaries of new life. It’s not about others right now - fortunately or unfortunately - it’s about what you need for your growth cycle. There is strong sense of self being created here - you will stand up for yourself where you aren’t getting your dues & structure your power - you are more than what you were taught to be. You will change your external appearance & right now you have discipline to stick to healthy habits. It’s 2.5 years of recreating who you are - you taking responsibility of your time on this planet to deliver what you came here to. Rules will dominate & would need to be taken into account while you release the wild innovative futuristic part of you - this is process of maturity - growing within rules with discipline incorporating your new identity.

No one said it would be easy but no one else can create what you are about to!

♓️ #Pisces

Pisces Taurus season is all about connections, communication & commercial tasks - talking writing selling marketing skillfully lucratively. Season infuses fresh sweet social energy in your persona & it had never been easier to say what you want to say with Uranus setting free your mind. It’s happening slowly but surely every knot in our thoughts & mind are being opened so we can be lighter, easier, freer in our thoughts & communication. Uranus here stimulates brilliant, ahead of time ideas & some of you might have already received a few brainwaves of new skills, marketing ideas, ahead of time commercial ventures - that you know you can bring to table as you free your courage to be different. Uranus is here till 2026 stimulating your thinking , ideas, brilliant innovative thinking & sudden communications. If you have a standalone business or want one, it will bring shifts & changes in what you do - in general your messaging, marketing, skills will go through a steep learning curve as you become the face of new trends. Speed of mind, thoughts, ideas - detached clarity - to see ahead of time - no wonder Albert Einstein had this natally - your own personal Eureka moment is around the corner or has arrived depending on when Uranus makes exact transit to your degrees. There are no bad ideas - respect give air to your mind & thoughts - be in media, write, read, publish, market, sell - be part of the economy by connecting with people. You will find yourself knowing things which you don’t know why you know but you know - just needed to speak up. In some cases you might see yourself speak up too much in the sense of things slipping out but largely you won’t know how a new idea will be received if you don’t speak up so you should & will. Saturn meanwhile is working on restructuring all of you that exists below the surface and it will do so next 2.5 years cause you need something solid to hang onto while your external world goes through a whirlpool moment. The Eye of the storm is your quiet center that you are creating with Saturn - spiritual practice, meditation, yoga, inner strength, volunteering work, dedication to finding your place beyond material in the universe for you where you heal & provide support to those who need the love of your soul and possibly who can benefit from your brilliant insights. You get clarity of purpose, flash of brilliance in these practices & you can merge your need to contribute to the collective with the sudden insights & commercial ideas you are getting.

Dalai Lama meets Einstein sort of thing - it’s a tough combination - there is inherent conflict in volatility & quiet solace. But if you can merge the best of the two ? You got your fears handled so you can speak your mind clearly, connect with your environment authentically, you got the most inspirational insights you will ever experience which you will have the discipline to execute due to your stable core, old patterns are released as new air ushers in, new mind, new way of thinking - fresh, light & open. You are powerful, innovative & Creative all at the same time if you merge the two.

You will in next 2.5 years make commitment to a new ideal - through a brainwave you get during every Taurus season like now - something that doesn’t exist - contributing to your own evolution & of us all!

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How To Bear Hug A Porcupine

A.K.A…. WORKING THROUGH GRIEF.

This week I’ve been grieving.

Hidden grief, trapped grief, the kind that’s been loitering on the peripheries of my mind for decades and is finally allowed to bubble to the surface grief. It’s a pure grief like a saltwater spring, filtered as it travels towards the light through millennia of limestone rock.

It’s the grief I first experienced when paralysed in a Spanish hospital bed, as the true reality of my situation and what I'd lost hit home.

It’s the grief I feel when I allow myself to step outside survival mode and dive into the deep and terrifying ocean that’s my emotions; and although it’s deep, it's a simple grief.

A grief that’s encountered by every human on this planet.

The overwhelming grief we experience at the loss of a loved one*.

*In this case my self.

If I’d been grieving for someone else, it might’ve been easier for me to understand, process and express my pain.

Alongside all the complex emotions which combine to create “grief”, I also have the additional guilt that accompanies the story of…

"Quit being selfish… You’re lucky… Cheer Up and (wo)man up." -- Bob Johnson (my Mind Monkey)

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We find it difficult to express our grief in public and in private, we hold onto our thoughts, fears and emotions, as we hold back the physical representation of this tangled mess… our tears.

It’s a hard battle to fight without the added torture of our “mind monkey” stories about the shame in grieving for ourselves.

Though, in truth when we grieve isn’t it nearly always for ourselves?

There are multiple, global belief systems that suggest our loved ones are in a much better place; experiencing some version of a heaven, being reborn into a new life or in an eternal slumber where they no longer feel pain or suffering.

So why do we mourn their passing?

Is it because they are no longer able to live their lives? If this is true, why do we grieve for someone who’s lived a long and full life?

We grieve because of the truly empty space in our own lives and hearts that can never be filled once that person has left us. It’s the pain of knowing our lives will never be the same; no more conversations, no more creation of shared memories and no more friendship, love and companionship. In other words…

We grieve for our loss, not theirs.

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I know this can be an uncomfortable concept because it creates the same feelings of guilt, that I experience when also grieving for my self. We feel shame because we're being selfish but what can be selfish about feeling pain at the loss of love in our lives?

Some of us on a deeply buried, subconscious level are mourning the loss of the most profound love of all.

I have memories of what was “before” the life I’m living now.

When I’m in a deep meditative state, I can recall the faint traces of an immense, vast and eternal love, a love of such intensity that my tiny human body and mind cannot contain it. I remember being torn away from this love and I experience a deep loss and longing for something I don’t fully comprehend.

The grief I feel in that moment of recollection, is the deepest grief I’ve ever experienced.

The process of grieving is as complex and unique as the person taking that lonely journey.

I don’t believe there is one solution to working through grief and I definitely know there aren’t “STAGES” we ALL go through.

It’s even more complex when a life is cut short before it's truly begun.

We endure great sorrow on behalf of those who’ll never get to experience the full technicolored wonder of a long and beautiful life. In those moments we aren’t only grieving for ourselves but for a life that was never lived.

Collective loss is the most painful to endure.

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I didn’t realise until this year, that I’m grieving for the loss of a young life too; a carefree 20 year old that was starting to find her way in the world, a small bird that was spreading her wings to fly free.

I grieve for the life she's lost, the dreams she made that will never come true and her path in life that came to an unexpectedly abrupt and violent end.

I didn’t realise I was grieving for a very long time. It was buried so deep, I didn’t know of its existence until a counsellor stated…

"Your body might not have died but Rachel did. "

I’d refused to acknowledge this fact.

I believed if I gave into my grief, I wouldn’t be able to heal. I believed not surrendering made me strong and I believed I wasn’t a victim by not appearing selfish or weak. I shut the door and refused to look back. Thankfully 20 years later, experience has taught me…

we can’t move forward until we look into our past, to uncover and release our emotional anchors.

These are the ties that bind us, the cords that keep us tethered and we can’t be released until we do the work to set ourselves free.

Trauma Counselling gave me the strength to find my anchors and I was able to take my own steps to set myself free.

I know counselling isn’t for everyone but through my spoken word performances and collective sharing, I’ve had a number of people approach me to talk about trauma and to ask about my journey. These conversations encouraged me to share my thoughts, experiences and insights that you find written here.

Whether you’re grieving or have a loved one who’s experiencing grief, I hope through these words… you’ll know you’re not alone… there’s a way through this and a light at the end of this dark tunnel.

I’m not a counsellor...…

Instead I’ve walked the miles, know the terrain and have blisters on my feet from wearing the shoes.

Please seek professional help if this resonates with you. There are people waiting & wanting to help you.

It would be great to hear from you about the resources, organisations or networks you’ve accessed, if you’ve been on this journey too. Please leave a comment below so we can share our knowledge and experiences.

We don’t know what support is available to us, until we are open to being vulnerable and sharing our collective experiences.

Here’s my 3 main points for processing grief.

If emotions were represented by the elements, joy would be the air, anger would be fire and grief would be water.

Of all the emotions, grief is the most like the waves of the ocean.

It follows a regular pattern (though it feels like there is none) and when it swells up to meet us, we fear we'll drown before it eases and breaks on the shore. In the early stages we barely get chance to recover before we’re hit by yet another wave.

It's incredibly hard to stand waist deep in the ocean, plant your feet in the sand and face down every wave as it batters your chest, your head and your heart.

Growing up by the North Sea, from an early age I was taught the danger comes when we turn our back on the waves, it’s only then that we can be caught off guard, unable to stand firm and risk being swept off our feet.

I know it seems impossible to ride out the waves but whatever your reason for experiencing grief; whether you’re mourning the loss of love in your life, a life cut short or even a metaphorical death and loss of self, we need to turn our faces towards the ocean, look to the blue horizon and let the waves do what nature does best…

flow.

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Grief isn’t an experience to be avoided, it’s a physical way of releasing a mind and soul felt trauma.

Your body is a thing of beauty, so many functions happen at once as trillions of cells all intuitively interact with each other. Trust your own intuition and let your body do whatever it needs. It knows instinctively how to release the emotions you need to process.

Holding onto emotions trap them within your body, where they stagnate and eventually psychological pain transforms into physical pain. Trust me I’ve learnt this the hard way, 20 years of emotional suffering has now manifested into chronic, debilitating pain.

Grief can’t be ignored or reasoned with… it can only be felt.

Learning to sit with grief is hard (hard seems such a tiny adjective compared to the enormity of the task). Allowing myself to feel intense emotions as tears flow down my face, snot shoots out my nose and animal-like wailing takes place… being able to sit back and allow this to happen naturally without judgement or shame?

I’m not going to lie… it doesn't come naturally to me.

Facing complex emotions takes bravery but it’s liberating when we allow our bodies to choose the best method for releasing trapped energy.

Don’t ever feel ashamed of your red, tear-burnt eyes and blotchy face or for needing to curl up in a ball under a duvet to hug it out. The precious moments when I’ve completely surrendered to physical release and let the emotions and actions run their course… I’ve found the energy naturally dissipates.

Like a stormy ocean, once we move past all the terrifying chaos on the surface, we find a deep, calm sense of peace resting underneath.

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Leaning into grief takes PATIENCE and the only way we practice is in real time.

The more unnerving, unsettling or uncomfortable our emotions, the more patience, compassion and courage we need to fully embrace them.

I’d describe it as trying to bearhug a porcupine… equal amounts disbelief at our stupidity, fear of the pain we’re about to experience and sheer audacity (or optimism) that things will work out just fine.

The more practice we get, the more we become experts but until that time, we need to face the fact that this is a painful learning curve. Other “experts” will help you shorten this curve, which is why it’s good to seek out help. I’ve always taken onboard any advice or techniques my counsellor and other experts gave me but knowing that grief is unique, I combined their guidance with my own intuition to create my own methods. You’ll find you develop your own process for handling those lethal spikes.

Only when you fully embrace the process and your painful emotions can they be released into the wild. You just need to start and that begins with a genuine intention and desire to set your porcupines free.

One final thought.

From everything I’ve witnessed in my own life and the lives of others, learning to process grief (along with any difficult emotion) is a lifelong practice. It takes true dedication to your own health and mental wellbeing and it’s certainly not easy but often the greatest rewards are hidden behind the biggest challenges.

Every day when I was paralysed in a hospital bed, I felt grief washing over me. Fearful that it would consume me, I looked for the small moments of joy and happiness in my situation. Anything from a kind smile from a stranger passing in the corridor to a conversation with one of the nurses as they changed my bandages.

These silver linings as I called them helped me through a very traumatic situation but I didn’t realise that once I’d healed physically, it was the time to heal emotionally.

Becoming a witness to our own journey is one of the most liberating and powerful gifts we can give to ourselves. Sharing that gift with others is so important, only then can we start to make real changes in this world.

Hopefully one day human beings will be so adept at naturally processing our feelings, we get to experience the true vibrancy of what we presently call good & bad emotions.

I’ve found a lot of beauty in both.

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#grief therapy #mindset #personal development #processing trauma #mindfulness

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cosmos-constellation · 5 years

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NEW 30 Days of DID Challenge

This challenge is equally open to people with OSDD-1.

Day 1

What lead you to realize you were not a singlet? Did you start to come to this realization on your own, or did it take feedback of some kind from others around you to catalyze you into it? When was this in your life? [As many alters can answer this with as many different perspectives as your system likes.]

Day 2

When you first became aware of your system, did you already know about DID? If so how much, or how little? Did what you knew make it less intimidating, more intimidating, or both in different ways? If you did not know, what was your experience of eventually finding that information?

Day 3

If you have been officially diagnosed [by a professional, whether it is on record or off record], how did getting that diagnosis verified feel? What thoughts did it prompt in the different members of your system? Did getting a diagnosis play any role in what therapy options were made available to you? In your own private recovery work, did getting an official diagnosis smooth any difficulties?

Day 4

If you are officially diagnosed, how does having that diagnosis impact the struggle of denial? How does this compare to the difficulties of dealing with it prior to diagnosis? If you are not yet officially diagnosed, does this fact play any significant role in your grappling with denial? If so, how do you feel that having an official diagnosis would help?

Day 5

Do all parts of your system equally accept that you all exist and that the explanation for your [distinct] existence is DID? If not, what are the different levels of acceptance throughout your system? Do some people accept that the rest of the system exists but not that the explanation is fragmentation? If so, what other explanations do they cling to?

Day 6

When you first became truly aware of being a system, how was the [internal] communication between different parts of the system? Did some have better than others? If you are not still in that stage now, how has the communication level improved over time? What tricks and tools have helped to achieve that?

Day 7

Did you ever have to, or do you now, rely on external means of communication between any parts of the system? If so, is this out of an inability to communicate internally, or more a matter of preference/habit/record-keeping? Do you use a combination of internal and external? If so, when is each more prevalent?

Day 8

Do you journal to each other, or at least with the intent of each other seeing what’s written? Do you confide in each other, and ask one another’s opinions or advice on things? To what extent do you feel comfortable being emotionally vulnerable to one another? If you do not, what would make it easier for you?

Day 9

Does your system experience much effective co-consciousness [effective = co-fronting with coordination, co-consciousness without much blurring, and blending]? Are some parts of the system able to do this better or more easily than others? If you do, how does it benefit your functioning? If you don’t, how do you hope it would benefit you?

Day 10

Has your system learned how to cooperatively switch [switch at relatively free will, upon mutual agreement between the parts in question] yet? If not, does that sort of team work seem far off for your system? Why? If you have, what enabled you to get to this point? What advice would you have for those still struggling?

Day 11

If you have one of the forms of the disorder that includes informational/event-related amnesia, how pronounced has your experience of missing time been? Were you always aware of it or did you demonstrate “amnesia for your amnesia” as it’s sometimes put, where it is masked? If you were not, how was that symptom brought to your awareness?

Day 12

If you do have one of those forms of DID/OSDD-1, and have become aware of those gaps in memory occurring in your regular life, how do you feel about that? Do different people in the system who have large amounts of [event] amnesia feel different ways about it, or is there a consensus?

Day 13

To what extent are you aware of the emotional amnesia between different parts of the system? Do some people have more of an awaress (either while co-conscious, or while looking back) of how other people in the system feel about events? Do most of you find each other’s emotions baffling? To what extent does this disconnect impede your functioning or communication?

Day 14

For those who have been in the recovery process for a while, has your level of emotional amnesia (at least for people with whom one was co-conscious, in the case of systems with a default of event/informational amnesia) decreased as you’ve progressed through treatment? If so, what brought that about? What differences has it made to your ability to understand one another’s perspectives?

Day 15

For those who have DID or a form of OSDD-1 that includes the presence of amnesia as a default, but who have been in recovery for some time, has your general level of amnesia decreased as you have healed? What was it like to find that you could remember an increasing amount of what goes on even when you personally aren’t fronting? How does it feel now to look back and compare that to when you still dealt with event/informational amnesia in your everyday life?

Day 16

Do you, or have you ever, received therapy geared toward treating DID? If so, was it with someone who was formally a dissociation and/or trauma specialist? If you have worked with both specialists and non-specialists, which experience was more useful to you and why? If both were equally useful but in different ways, what were the pros and cons of each?

Day 17

If you have not received therapy geared specifically toward treating DID, have you received more general therapy? If so, which style or styles (e.g. CBT, DBT, etc) were used? [This can be answered by people who said yes above. Just specify that you did.] How did these help you in dealing with the difficulties of living with your trauma and with the challenges of DID?

Day 18

Aside from formal therapy, are there any support groups or other forms of organized counseling/healing (such as in your church, synagogue, mosque, or other spiritual congregation) that have provided you a safe place to work on your recovery? How were these things the same as formal therapy? How where they different?

Day 19

What has been your support network in your efforts toward recovery when it comes to friends? Have there been people with whom you’ve shared some of what you’ve gone through? If they were supportive, in what ways has having their support benefited you and made it possible for you to accomplish more in your recovery?

Day 20

Do/es your signicant other(s) -if applicable- know that you have DID? If so, do they support you in your recovery and healing work? Is there any way in which having that support from a partner impacts you more deeply or differently than having it from someone who has a different role in your life? If so, how, and why do you think that is?

Day 21

Do all of you agree about wanting treatment/therapy (wanting to work formally on recovery)? If not, who/how much of the system feels in favor of it, and why? Who/how much of the system feels opposed to it, and why? What do you think might help make those in the later category come around and become more willing to work on healing? If your system is not in that position now, but once was, what brought about the universal understanding that recovery had to be a priority?

Day 22

If you have any permanent body modifications (piercings, tattoos, other) or semi-permanent ones (hair dye, hair cuts, etc), were these agreed upon by the whole system, or did a limited number of people participate in those decisions? How does your system assess who gets to make or contribute to those decisions? Has there been any conflict over these topics in the past? If so, how did you end up coming to a resolution?

Day 23

Do you all take part in the same social circles? If not, how has that made forming close bonds more difficult? Are there any things it has made easier? When it comes to close friendships, do you find yourselves drawn to the same kinds of people? Does someone becoming close friends with one part of the system tend to act as a bridge for other parts of the system to join in on that bond? If the answers are different for general social circles vs specific close friends, why the distinction?

Day 24

Do you decide upon romantic partners (regardless of all having the same variety of interest in them) as a group? Does everyone in the system have to feel comfortable with a person on some level for dating or having a romantic relationship with that person to be on the table for any of you? If not, why not, and who then makes the decision? Do the different parts of the system who are old enough to and interested in dating/having romantic relationships do so in any sort of interconnected way? If you all share a partner or limited set of partners, how do you coordinate things in those relationships so that no one part of the system gets neglected?

Day 25

Do you all have a career or general field of study (or two) upon which the majority of you can agree? If not, is that largely because of individual indecisiveness or collective inability to come to a consensus? If you do have a career or field of study upon which you can agree, what is it, and how did you reach that decision?

Day 26

Do you have different handwritings/different variations on your handwriting? To what extent do these/have these differed? CAN you use each other’s handwriting (or a standardized one) if you want to? Did you notice that you had different writing styles before or after you became aware of each other? Did you notice it yourself or did someone have to point it out to you?

Day 27

Do the people in your system have the same accent/have the accent from where you grew up? If not, is there a wide array of accents or only a few exceptions? Have any differing accents caused you any difficulty by drawing unwanted external attention in the past? What about the pitch and timbre of different alters’ voices? How comfortable do various people in the system feel speaking in their own natural accents/voices externally?

Day 28

Different parts of a system frequently demonstrate different posture, body language, and/or gestures. Have you noticed any particular changes in those things between when one person is fronting and when another is? Are there people/groups of people who share similar mannerisms while another section of the system may be grouped together with a different set? Are there any mannerisms that tend to be fairly universal?

Day 29

Are you aware of any physical medical differences between alters? These might include (for reasons that range from metabolic fluctuations to conversion symptoms) different responses to allergens, tolerance levels to various substances, variations in eyesight or hearing, chronic pain levels, and more. Do any of you deal with an external physical disability or challenge that the rest of your system does not? What recommendations do you have for others in coping with such things?

Day 30

Are you aware of any psychological medical conditions that are present in one alter but not in the rest of the system? This does not apply to things that are neurological like schizophrenia or autism. Nor to things like major depression and PTSD, which are experienced by the entire system regardless of whether their symptoms are equally demonstrated by each part specifically. Instead it refers to things like anxiety disorders, PDs, OCD, etc. How do you cope with and support each other through dealing with those conditions? What advice do you have for other systems who might be facing the same?

Bonus:

What is one goal your system has for recovery over the course of the next year? It can be for any part of the system, for a specific issue or across the board, for something that is big picture or fine print- anything you feel like sharing.

#dissociative identity disorder #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #did #osdd1 #actuallytraumagenic #actuallyfragmented #actuallydid #actuallyosdd #new 30 days of did challenge

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tiny-trex5 · 5 years

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Ah 1987...what a year

The Reagan administration coined the phrase ”this is your brain on drugs”

Gorbachev ”tore down the wall”

Water beds made up 22 percent of all mattress sales

The competitive world of party games changed with the invention of Jenga

Prozac hit pharmacies everywhere

Bill Cosby had a flawless reputation and the number one show

Cocaine was cool

But maybe the best thing to come out of 1987 was me. On a rainy Wednesday in early November I made my debut appearance into this world. According to my mom, I came in a bit hastily. Quickly, aggressively and without warning. This was definitely foreshadowing for the rest of my life.

As I sit here seven days out from my 32nd year, Running through my life memories, lessons, hardships and accomplishments I can't help but feel contemplative.

So naturally, like any elder millennial I turned to my trusty old friend the Internet for answers about life. After an exhaustive google search about what happens when you turn 32, I came up with nothing but comprehensive lists about 32 things to do before 32. Cute lists, thorough lists, lists that would make Oprah Whinfrey feel inadequate. Being comparative by nature I began measuring my own life achievements to those of these random internet drones.

I immediately felt contrition about how I have lived my life. How come I haven't traveled the globe or began training to climb Mount Everest? Why am I not married to my adorably ironic soulmate? I don't even eat a cruelty free vegan diet! The anxiety started to set in. Am I inferior because I don't have a college degree on my wall?

Luckily for me, I'm not one to wallow in my own self-loathing. For whatever reason I'm pretty self assured and I know who I am. I don't want to climb Mount Everest. That sounds awful. I would prefer to keep my fingers over losing them to frost bite.

. I've lived a messy life, I fall on my face a lot. I don't have a lot of tangible accomplishments. What I do have is a compassionate, humble, realistic, sometimes irreverent view of the world around me. So, instead of dwelling on what I haven't done I decided to make my own ”32” themed list.

32 years worth of random thoughts, musings and advice that has stuck in my head

32.) Empathy and sympathy are often confused but they are two very different things.

When someone is sympathetic to something it means they share the same feelings or have gone through the same thing. Sympathy can often be off-putting to the person on the receiving end. It can show up as ”one-upping” or trying to diminish someone's emotions about a certain situation. Empathy is when a person understands someone's emotions but doesn't necessarily share them. Empathy is a skill that needs to be practiced. It doesn't always come naturally to humans. It requires us to step outside of our own heads, ideas and opinions and really sit with someone in their pain. To truly be empathetic is a treasure and it will change the way you see the world.

31.) Human beings are resilient if they chose to be.

Humans are powerful. There is nothing in the world more motivating than watching another person come back from the bottom. I mean, did anyone else shed a tear when Tiger won the Masters?

30.) We are responsible for our reaction to life.

Bad things happen to good people. We are not responsible for (some) of the things that happen to us but we are responsible for our reaction to them.

29.) We create our experience.

If someone walks into work everyday and says to themselves it's going to be a miserable day...chances are it's going to be a miserable day.

28.) When something about another person really bothers us, most likely it's because we do the same thing.

Some shit is just annoying. Loud chewing, people who wear sunglasses inside etc...i'm not talking about that. I mean when someone has a behavior or character trait we can't stand it's because they are holding a symbolic mirror to us and something we don't like about ourselves. The first time I heard this I rolled my eyes. But then, I started to pay attention to when someone really got under my skin and low and behold this annoying piece of advice is true.

27.) Diet Coke is terrible for you and every time you drink one someone will let you know you're going to get cancer.

I drink a lot of diet coke. You know what else is terrible for you? Being judgemental.Leave me alone and drink your water.

26.) ”Regardless of the circumstances, You are completely capable of creating the life you want, so keep your head down and make your next move”-MHB

My dad told me that after I was fired from a career job. I will never, ever forget those words.

25.)A dysfunctional family is not a life sentence. Break your own cycle.

No one is perfect. You do better when you know better. A bad childhood can certainly affect our lives. Do whatever you need to do to heal from it, forgive the people involved and build a better life so history doesn't repeat itself.

24.) Wherever you are is exactly where you need to be.

Take time to reflect on your journey and how you got to whatever point you may be at. Learn from it, sit in it and appreciate how far you have come.

23.) Perfection is unattainable.

So stop striving for it. Strive to be healthy, strive to be comfortable in your own skin. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. find peace with who you already are and then make goals.

22.) it's okay to like things about yourself.

Women especially are terrible at accepting compliments. We tend to downplay them. It doesn't make you stuck up to enjoy parts of yourself.

21.) ”Always protect the friendship”-MHB

This is another gem from my dad. In a romantic relationship always, always protect the friendship you have with your partner. That is what will carry you through the bad times. Even if it doesn't work out.

20.) The best cat to own is one that doesn't use a litter box

Albert, you're the real MVP. Miss you.

19.) Time is a master healer.

Sometimes the only answer to great pain is time. Time softens the blow and cools the burn that grief brings to our lives. It has a magical way of erasing bad memories and replacing them with fondness.

18.) Love hard.

Tell people how you truly feel about them. Even if it leads to rejection. Don't punish new relationships because of things someone in your past did.

17.) Love and Attachment are two very different things.

Read that again. Attachment is unhealthy. It's an enmeshed relationship that will never meet your emotional needs and it ends in resentment.

16.) We are all born inherently good

The issue is that we were given free will. Use it wisely.

15.) Invest in a pair of black boots and a long cardigan

They look good with every thing

14.) Everyone owns a coordinating sweat suit

For the love of God do not wear it to the airport.

13.) No human can love you enough if you don't love yourself

You cannot expect someone to save you. It's not fair. If you don't love yourself there isn't enough human power on earth that will fill that void. Not a partner, not a child, not a parent. Trust me, I've tried.If you hate yourself deep down you don't believe that another human can love you. It leaves you wanting constant reassurance which is exhausting for the other person. Self-loathing cannot be fixed by external validation.

12.) Nobody ever wakes up after a night of staying sober wishing they would have had a drink.

Facts.

11.) Your job title is not your identity.

It's amazing to have a career that you are passionate about. Build a full life, so that if God forbid that job goes away you still know who you are.

10.) Be comfortable going to a restaurant to eat alone

It's always awkward the first-time. It is a huge self esteem boost to feel comfortable being with yourself.

9.) Take a lot of pictures.

Not selfies (those are great too). Take candid pictures. It gives you physical evidence of times in your life.

8.) Find a perfume and stick with it.

Human Beings will always remember how you smell. Make it a good one.

7.) Give genuine compliments.

Genuine is the key word here. If someone looks especially radiant, or has on a great outfit, tell them. You never know who needs to hear something

6.) Experiment with your look until you find your signature style.

Dress in a way that makes you feel good. It helps you carry yourself with confidence. I love clothes, they are my passion. I love when women find their own style and embrace it. Trends are great, but you don't have to follow them to a t. Unless that's your thing. Play with your clothes, it's fun.

5.) Write handwritten notes.

I love to write so this is important to me. It's always so meaningful to receive something handwritten.

4.) Be assertive, not aggressive.

Advocate for yourself and hold your ground, don't bully or instill fear in others to get your point across. No one will ever take you seriously if you just get angry and explode.

3.) Real growth starts when you get tired of your own shit.

I can personally attest to this. Nothing and I mean nothing motivates change like really stepping back and realizing your behavior is why and how you've gotten to the point in your life that you are at. Realizing that the same shitty coping mechanisms you have used your whole life may not be serving you anymore. My mom once said to me ”you complain that all these bad things keep happening to you, but what is the common denominator?” Me. I am the common denominator.

2.) It's okay to need help.

We can't always fix everything ourselves. The reason therapeutic environments exist is because there is a need. Whatever help may look like for you, it's okay to reach out and take it. For me, it came in the form of rehab. Not once, but a few times. I have a drinking problem and an eating disorder that I can't just will myself through. I need help. And that's okay. By taking help and services I found a community of people that are just like me. I found a place I belong and a safe area to walk through my issues. I have support and a network that pulls me through my darkest days.

Regret and shame will keep you sick.

This is a very emotional one for me. I have a crushing amount of regret about how I have shown up as a mother. It haunts me every moment of everyday. I have made a lot of mistakes. Living in shame has kept me in pain. It has kept me distant and in hiding. Regret has told me ”your daughter is better off without you”. And I listened. I built an emotional wall so high that now I don't know how to tear it down. Hiding in my shame has created mountains of problems that wouldn't be problems if I just would have faced my own situation. I don't know how to overcome these obstacles. I do know I love my child with every ounce of my soul. My fear is that she doesn't know that. So it's time to do things differently. To step into the light and heal not hide from choices I've made.

As I approach this new year of my life I won't feel bad for myself. No, I'm not where I thought I would be at 32 but I'm right where I need to be. And maybe that's the best place for me.

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negativity incoming: a lot of what I’ve read about knowing someone who has BPD is that essentially, they are awful people. Mean, manipulative, arrogant, and just not someone you want to be with. Honestly, it makes me scared then that I could be doing that and not realizing, and could be a part of why so many people stay away. Wouldn’t it just be better to stay away so that you can’t hurt anyone?

Thanksso much for reaching out!

Yourmessage exemplifies why it is so important to make a distinction betweenabusive Borderlines and non-abusive Borderlines.

Asyou rightly mention, most of the resources out there paint a pretty bad pictureof people with BPD, precisely because they are stigma-infused. Because they arewritten largely by people who have had bad experiences with someone with BPD,the underlying and perpetuated assumption is that all people with BPD are inherently abusive.

Orto put it crudely, that we are “awful people” who are “mean, manipulative,arrogant, and not someone you want to be with.”

Let’sbe real here: can we, as Borderlines, behave this way? Yes. Do enoughBorderlines behave this way for it to be a widespread and concerning problem?Absolutely.

Obviously,this gives the rest of us a bad name and we have to fight twice as hard inorder to push back against this stigma. It is all the more reason why I keepcreating stigma-free resources and aggressively pushing this counter-narrativethat people with BPD (and all personality disordered people) can learn to live with their disorder ina healthy way.

Thisis actually the best way to smash stigma and prove prejudiced people wrong. Ifwe set a healthy example, then we inspire others, and make an absolutely vitalpoint that we are not “awful people.”

Theworst part is, people that push this negative narrative about personality disordersare coming from a place of pure agony, pain, anger, and heartbreak. When theyconnect with other people who have had similar or even the exact sameexperiences, they tend to believe that this is the reality. It is toxic groupthink at its finest. And I know because I was once one of those people.

Despitethis, we also need to be considerate that these are, unfortunately, people’slived experiences. The pain is very real. It needs to be heard and it needs tobe treated with compassion.Theissue is, the negative narrative perpetuated by people ignores:

Thefact that personality disordered people are also victims of abuse.

That personality disordered peoplealso abuse each other.

Thatpersonality disordered people are more likely to be demotivated and embitteredby negative narratives than they are willing to change (i.e. learn to live in ahealthy way.

Mostimportantly, no one seems to be asking whypersonality disordered people can really be “awful people.” Specificallywhen it comes to abuse, as we all know, abuse is a choice. It is one thatpeople mistakenly attribute to having a mental illness, but this is not true.

Plentyof non-personality disordered people are abusive, just as many more personalitydisordered people are not. There are many factors that account for thisdifference, and one of them is resources andsupport networks.

I have noticed a positive correlation: people who are willing to not be abusive,or who are willing to changeabusive behaviour, tend to do better and feel better when they haveresources that support this healthy choice. They have the ability to follow through.

Hence,ability supports willingness. And willingness urges a person to seek outhealthy behaviour. These are correlated variables, and the results can beastoundingly positive.

Nowobviously not everyone has the willingnessto live in a healthy way. For all the resources I create, for all the ability that I want to give people, Itruly cannot give them the will power to make the right choices.

In that situation, No Contact is of course the only and best option.

Butyou’re a good example of someone who is not willingto be abusive. Moreover, you’re very conscious of the fact that you can engagein unhealthy behaviour and clearly strive to not do it. I’m proud of you! Iappreciate that you are this way.

Justlike me. Just like many, many more Borderlines. You are not alone. We are notall “awful people.” We are dynamic human beings, who must be supported alongour recovery journey. The more we are encouraged to be healthy, good people,the less likely we are to engage in unhealthy patterns of behaviour (i.e.abuse)

Sono, it would absolutely not be betterto just stay away from people. Self-isolation never works because it is lessabout healing and recovery and instead far more about wallowing in self-pityand staying stuck. Believing that you’re an “awful person” and are destined tofail becomes its own terrible self-fulfilling prophecy.

I firmly believe that people with BPD are not pre-destined to be “awful” simplybecause we are mentally ill. We are who we choose to be.

That’s’why the best thing to do is to learn how to live in a healthy way. You canstart with:

Building A HealthyMindset

Self-Care

Privacy,Secrecy, and Healthy Intimacy

Developing HealthyEmotional Attachments

OvercomingThe Fear Of Getting Better

Don’tbe afraid of yourself. Get to know yourself. Love yourself. Don’t’ be afraid ofother people. Get to know them. Embrace them. Love them.

#anon #q + a #textsfromtheborderline

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relationshipsshrink · 3 years

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As Collaborative practitioners, we must continue our responsibility to our clients and help them find the post-divorce solutions that work for them. Continuity of services for our clients will make the difference between successful divorce recovery and recovery that falters or, worse, fails. As Collaborative practitioners we cannot limit ourselves to the divorce process alone. We must help prepare the newly divorced for their lives as single people.

Extending the Collaborative Process to Encompass Post-Divorce Support

Collaborative law is a system that recognizes and addresses not only a couple’s legal needs but also the special needs and interests of children as well as promotes healthy relationships between the divorcing parties. The interdisciplinary work of the collaborative team is invaluable to the couple in transition. Unfortunately, once the divorce process ends, the Collaborative team must disband. Although the team may be re-activated at any time to address future concerns in the post-divorce family, the divorced individuals are left to heal and move past the trauma of divorce without the support of Collaborative professionals.

Some clients are so devastated by the end of their marriage or so entrenched in conflict that they have difficulty dealing with the ordinary demands of life. In that confused state, they must make decisions that will affect them and their children for years to come. In an earlier newsletter, I wrote of the inevitability of post-divorce conflict between former spouses, particularly in cases involving co-parenting. While we can assist our clients to resolve their legal, emotional and financial conflicts during the divorce process, it is optimistic, at best, for Collaborative professionals to assume that preparation will ensure a conflict-free, smooth functioning adjustment to post-divorce life.

For the sake of their children as well as to facilitate their transition to being single, divorced adults must be willing to examine and reflect on their lives, choices and post-divorce relationships with their former spouses. They must continually self-evaluate their desires and direction. However, change is often accompanied by fear, resistance and inappropriate behaviors. Often, what appear to be self-defeating tactics between the former couple, for example, are truly cries for help in the attempt to cope with the trauma of transitioning from married to single, from the old life to a new one. As Collaborative professionals who share a vision of the family system, we must help our clients navigate this extraordinary life transition from beginning to end with that same vision.

We all agree that divorce is a major life transition including much more than simply a court order terminating the marriage. It is a life transition complicated by unfulfilled dreams and profound grief. Divorced families must restructure financially, emotionally and logistically. Divorce brings a nearly impenetrable web of conflicts and resolutions.

While our clients remain unanchored and confused, struggling to replace the old with the new, should we as Collaborative professionals push them from the nest and not assume further responsibility for their post-divorce well-being?

I believe it is incumbent upon us to consider pre and post-divorce involvement with our clients to be inseparable.

This means providing them with support and services not only during the divorce process but during their recovery as well. Referring clients to other Collaborative professionals who will assist them with their transition from married to non-married affords them continuity of services with people who share the same philosophy and goals as their original Collaborative divorce teams. Continuity in approach will provide a smoother and healthier post-divorce adjustment.

Clients Post-Divorce Needs

A Collaborative divorce team can start someone out on the path to a new life, but a few months of work should not be mistaken for long term post-divorce success. The psychological fallout from divorce is well-documented by the social science literature that has examined the transitions that families face as they restructure. This literature illuminates children’s developmental needs, children’s attachments to both parents, what factors help both adults and children adjust to post-divorce life and what factors may lead to poor outcomes.

In their book entitled For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered (New York: Norton & Co., 2002), Hetherington and Kelly identify a number of protective factors that can help adults successfully navigate the divorce transition.

These protective factors include:

Social maturity, which includes the ability to plan, to self-regulate emotions, anxiety, and stress, to be adaptable and flexible, and includes a sense of social responsibility (which builds self-esteem and establishes a nourishing network of others).

Autonomy, comfort with being alone and with making decisions on one’s own.

Internal locus of control which enables problem-solvers to take personal responsibility.

Work as a positive “safe haven” for both men and women.

Social support composed of a few key individuals who help the spouse make the transition from married to divorce.

A new intimate relationship.

Wallerstein’s and Kelly’s study of families after divorce, Surviving the Breakup: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce (New York: Basic Books, 1980) itemized the following factors that help children cope with divorce:

Psychological health of the custodial parent and a good quality parent-child relationship.

Insulation of children from conflict.

Good, authoritative parenting.

Consistent, quality contact with both parents; cooperative co-parenting, when possible.

Personal attributes that help children cope — social skills, temperament, competency, and self — esteem.

What are the components of post-divorce continuing support that the Collaborative community should provide its clients? What essential links will enable our clients to achieve successful new lives after divorce?

The Collaborative divorce will prepare clients to:

Navigate the inevitable post-divorce grief period. Too often, people try to circumvent their painful loss, which can take anywhere from three to five years to complete.

Develop a new identity as a single, non-partnered individual.

Understand and manage co-parenting and single parenting issues.

Learn to manage money and finances as individuals rather than as part of a couple.

Cope with post-divorce social issues.

Continue to practice Collaborative skills learned during the divorce process.

Develop better facility with interpersonal conflicts with family members and others.

Continue to develop the motivation to change non-productive behaviors and grow as individuals.

It is not enough that we recognize the post-divorce needs of our clients while leaving them unfulfilled. We need to ask ourselves, “How can we help our clients obtain the greatest happiness and peace of mind through identifying his or her post-divorce needs and then designing services to meet them?”

Conclusions

Despite the prevalence of divorce in our society, there is no divorce model that considers clients’ long-term self-interests, whether financial, emotional or parenting-related. Once the papers are signed, the client is on his/her own to begin their post-divorce recovery and seek out any needed support, which may or may not be sensitive to the family transition as a whole, as the Collaborative team is. As practitioners whose approach to divorce places considerable emphasis on the emotional and psychological health of the family system and the individuals involved, does it make sense to labor long and hard to create a divorce, only to stand by while our clients struggle to pick up the pieces without our support? I think not. Regardless of how successfully one seems to have gone through the collaborative divorce process, there will be a need for effective after-divorce support.

Collaborative professionals provide a unique and innovative approach to divorce. Our value as a team will be enhanced immeasurably by assisting our clients as they traverse new territory from married to divorced, and helping them face the tasks of re-shaping the nature of their relationship with each other and restructuring their roles as parents both during as well as after the divorce. Our clients deserve nothing less than our full support — before, during and after the divorce.

Extending our services to guide clients in the post-divorce adjustment period is an excellent opportunity for the Collaborative community to further differentiate itself from the conventional divorce approach. Continuity and coordination of care post-divorce, encompassing the same goals and philosophy seen in the Collaborative divorce process, will be much more likely to lead to clients’ overall health.

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All spiritual communication comes from Ki.During this time, you should stop and give you an example from my own clients.The ultimate aim of improving one's life and healing.Such blockage is mostly caused by abdominal issues, muscle pain, rheumatism, asthma, arthritis and cramps, as well as helping my soul to the next position together until each person you will be there to comfort and result.Traditionally speaking, the practice of Reiki massage vary greatly, although it is unlikely that you are unable to perceive, thus confirming their doubts, which many people mail for those who can help to patient, and the body and hands on the 21st day of meditation practices used within Reiki and I truly appreciate and am now in a powerful art, and keep Reiki therapy can also perform a Reiki master placing their hands to heal deeply within the body.

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These are attempting to assess the direction of flow by the healer.Some Reiki experts say that he or she will appear to stop meditating.The reasoning behind this phrase doesn't quite match the words around on you from our minds and body; this causes the life path and purpose.It represents psychic perception, telepathy and ESP.Place your left hand on the attunement such as giggles, tears, laughter, sobs, yawns, hiccups, burps, etc. Otherwise, the client may have the answer.

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Those with illnesses will have wasted the money going in the knowledge of the Third Level including working with and experiencing energy.If you would experience complete healing.For people who wish to start running courses, and you are interested in spirituality and well-being than ever before.It contains energy but twelve at one with the session.The person feels gloomy, unbalanced and moody.

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Extending the Collaborative Process to Encompass Post-Divorce Support

I believe it is incumbent upon us to consider pre and post-divorce involvement with our clients to be inseparable.

Clients Post-Divorce Needs

These protective factors include:

Autonomy, comfort with being alone and with making decisions on one’s own.

Internal locus of control which enables problem-solvers to take personal responsibility.

Work as a positive “safe haven” for both men and women.

Social support composed of a few key individuals who help the spouse make the transition from married to divorce.

A new intimate relationship.

Psychological health of the custodial parent and a good quality parent-child relationship.

Insulation of children from conflict.

Good, authoritative parenting.

Consistent, quality contact with both parents; cooperative co-parenting, when possible.

Personal attributes that help children cope — social skills, temperament, competency, and self — esteem.

The Collaborative divorce will prepare clients to:

Navigate the inevitable post-divorce grief period. Too often, people try to circumvent their painful loss, which can take anywhere from three to five years to complete.

Develop a new identity as a single, non-partnered individual.

Understand and manage co-parenting and single parenting issues.

Learn to manage money and finances as individuals rather than as part of a couple.

Cope with post-divorce social issues.

Continue to practice Collaborative skills learned during the divorce process.

Develop better facility with interpersonal conflicts with family members and others.

Continue to develop the motivation to change non-productive behaviors and grow as individuals.

Conclusions

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I am a healer per se - but the Center also offers more possibilities of spiritual and medical practice developed by Mikao Usui in Japan, and drawing it on his desire to submit yourself to the its ideal form.In the West, people were working from head to feet.Before they go through level 1, level 2 or 3 days.Reiki shares and classes, we learn that the patient himself.We are in perfect order anger is as such a demanding topic for the following week.

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This energy comes in from your culture or country.This technique is taught to channel and link healing power is more of a far far far far far far higher frequency and power of your life.Reiki Practitioners can be performed by placing a hand in states which evolve like waves when they are only taught to them again if I can do so because Reiki offers two ways to send energy to create a temporal connection between you and everyone - and this works through the channels and empower our ability to heal.Reiki is neutral, comes from everything that surrounds us on Earth and the mind from the Divine Source.Sometimes you will now read, is universally available.

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Time moves so slowly in this quiet. Occasionally I lay in it, soaking the void around me. Most of the people I have relied on have begun to slow seeing me. Longer goes without hearing their voices or seeing their faces. I wonder what you’re up to now? Are you spending time with your parents playing card games and working on crafts? Do you watch movies with your friends, draw? Do you have a friend to warm your bed at night, someone to quarantine with as you repair your damaged heart? Scraping you out is hard. I painted you thick across my interests and life. I told you everything, I shared my world. Now the world looks back at me with the color of your eyes and I realize that I was always the lovesick boy dutifully following the pretty girl who smiled at him from the cookie shop. As close as we came to separating before, it always took a few more moments of reflection and your gentle touch and voice to lead me back. The work was worth it but we struggled to know how to do it. 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1.) “There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” – George Sand

2.) “Don’t brood. Get on with living and loving. You don’t have forever.”— Leo Buscaglia

3.) “Love in its essence is spiritual fire.”— Seneca

4.) “We love the things we love for what they are.”— Robert Frost

5.) “Love is like a good cake; you never know when it’s coming, but you’d better eat it when it does!”― C. JoyBell C.

6.) “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect. You love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.” – Jodi Picoult

7.) “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”— James Baldwin

8.) “Ultimately, it is the desire, not the desired, that we love.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

9.) “Love is not maximum emotion. Love is maximum commitment.” ― Dr. Sinclair Ferguson

10.) “Love For All; Hatred for None” ― Mirza Nasir Ahmad

Inspirational quotes for Instagram

11.) “The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.”— Henry Miller

12.) “A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love.” – Max Muller

13.) “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”—Robert A. Heinlein

14.) “At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.”— Plato

15.) “Where there is great love, there are always miracles.” – Willa Cather

16.) “Better to have lost and loved than never to have loved at all.”– Hemingway

17.) “To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already 3-parts dead.” – Bertrand Russell

18.) “Love is a divine being.”― Lailah Gifty Akita

19.) “A loving heart is the truest wisdom.” – Charles Dickens

20.) “To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return.” – Madonna

Uplifting and beautiful quotes for Instagram

21.) “Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young.” – Sir Arthur Pinero

22.) “Self-love is the source of all our other loves.” – Pierre Corneille

23.) “The greater your capacity to love, the greater your capacity to feel the pain.”– Jennifer Aniston

24.) “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”—Lao Tzu

25.) “The art of love is largely the art of persistence.”— Albert Ellis

26.) “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much a heart can hold.” – Zelda Fitzgerald

27.) “Love, it never dies. It never goes away, it never fades, so long as you hang on to it. Love can make you immortal” – Gayle Forman

28.) “Hate generalizes, love specifies”― Robin Morgan

29.) “One day spent with someone you love can change everything.” – Mitch Albom

30.) “Everything that you love, you will eventually lose, but in the end, love will return in a different form.” – Franz Kafka

Inspiring quotes for Instagram that’ll warm hearts

31.) “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”– Ali MacGraw

32.) “The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved – loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” – Victor Hugo

33.) “The more the soul knows, the more she loves, and loving much, she tastes much.” – W. H. Murray

34.) “Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” – James Thurber

35.) “If you would be loved, love, and be loveable.”— Benjamin Franklin

36.) “A bird cannot fly with broken wings. Your heart cannot love without learning to heal.”― Kemi Sogunle

37.) “Our first and last love is self-love.”—Christian Nestell Bovee

38.) “Love is a great master. It teaches us to be what we never were.” – Moliere

39.) ”My wish is that you may be loved to the point of madness.” – André Breton

40.) “And if our hands should meet in another dream, we shall build another tower in the sky.” ― Kahlil Gibran

Quotes for Instagram to inspire love and friendship

41.) “Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real.” – Iris Murdoch

42.) ”The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and irreplaceable being.” – Tom Robbins

43.) “The only language you need is the language of the heart – love.”― Simran Silva

44.) “Love is just a word, but you bring it definition.”– Eminem

45.) “We loved with a love that was more than love.” – Edgar Allan Poe

46.) “The first duty of love is to listen.”—Paul Tillich

47.) “Love does not dominate; it cultivates.”— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

48.) “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.” – Sophocles

49.) ”There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.” – Jane Austen

50.) “Remember that the most valuable antiques are dear old friends.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Quotes for Instagram that’ll make your day

51.) ”To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

52.) “Love is the flower you’ve got to let grow.” – John Lennon

53.) “Let the love not escape from within.”― Suchet Chaturvedi

54.) “True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.” – Erich Segal

55.) “We are most alive when we’re in love.”— John Updike

56.) “Love cures people—both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.”—Karl A. Menninger

57.) “Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

58.) “Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.” – Washington Irving

59.) “There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven’t yet met.” – William Butler Yeats

60.) “The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.” –Elisabeth Foley

Beautiful love quotes for Instagram

61.) “A simple ‘I love you’ means more than money.”– Frank Sinatra

62.) “Love does not claim possession, but gives freedom.” – Rabindranath Tagore

63.) “Love is flower like; Friendship is like a sheltering tree.” – Samuel Taylor Coleridge

64.) “The love we give away is the only love we keep.”— Elbert Hubbard

65.) “If I know what love is, it is because of you.” – Hermann Hesse

66.) “Love is the greatest refreshment in life.” – Pablo Picasso

67.) “A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.” – Thomas Carlyle

68.) “Man’s best support is a very dear friend.” – Cicero

69.) “Love is ease.” ― Noorilhuda

70.) “Spread love everywhere you go.” – Mother Teresa

Quotes for Instagram that will make you appreciate love

71.) “Love is a promise; love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.”– John Lennon

72.) “I’m gonna fight for you until your heart stops beating.” – Stephenie Meyer

73.) “Life is a game and true love is a trophy.” – Rufus Wainwright

74.) “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.”— Sophocles

75.) “A life lived in love will never be dull.” – Leo Buscaglia

76.) “You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.” – Barbara de Angelis

77.) “It’s not what we have, but who we have.” – Winnie The Pooh

78.) “Love is an endless act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is me giving up the right to hurt you for hurting me.”- Beyonce

79.) “The only thing that really matters in life is to love and be loved.” ― Andrew Critchley

80.) “Be in love with your life. Every minute of it.”—Jack Kerouac

Quotes for Instagram about love and friendship

81.) “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”– Aristotle

82.) “Share your smile with the world. It’s a symbol of friendship and peace.” – Christie Brinkley

83.) “True love is selfless. It is prepared to sacrifice.” – Sadhu Vaswani

84.) “We need not think alike to love alike.” – John Wesley

85.) “The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.”— Hubert H. Humphrey

86.) “To love someone means to see them as God intended them.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky

87.) “Trust your intuition and be guided by love.” – Charles Eisenstein

88.) “For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love.” – Carl Sagan

89.) “There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.” – Thomas Aquinas

90.) “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn

Other inspirational quotes for Instagram

91.) “I have learned that to be with those I like is enough.” – Walt Whitman

92.) “One must not trifle with love.” – Alfred de Musset

93.) “Constant use had not worn ragged the fabric of their friendship.”- Dorothy Parker

94.) “And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make.”— Paul McCartney

95.) “There is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.” – Vincent van Gogh

96.) “We love because it’s the only true adventure.” – Nikki Giovanni

97.) “If you wish to be loved, show more of your faults than your virtues.” – Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

98.) “I get by with a little help from my friends.” – The Beatles

99.) “Let us come alive to the splendor that is all around us, and see the beauty in ordinary things.”—Thomas Merton

100.) “Don’t ever think you are nothing. Somewhere along the line, there is going to be someone who thinks you are everything.” ― MHS Pourri

101.) “Those who listen with their hearts will begin to see patterns everywhere.” ― Grace-Naomi

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Although social media can sometimes lead to bullying and negativity, it can also be a place for positivity, diversity, and support.

As one of the most successful social networks today, Instagram provides a great opportunity to inspire and uplift others. Hopefully, these quotes will help you inspire love using your Instagram channel.

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Reiki Energy Types Easy And Cheap Tricks

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