#and there are people who see her as aro!!

[the-one-and-only-aroace]

Legit begging for people to acknowledge that Reyna is aromantic. Aro fans deserve more than their only representation being erased and ace fans deserve more than being sold representation that doesn’t depict them. Reyna is aromantic canonically and people need to stop ignoring it for the love of god /serious.

#pjo #hoo #trials of apollo #toa #reyna avila ramirez arellano #pjo hoo toa #riordanverse #I’m so tired of being the only one who doesn’t see her as ace #and there are people who see her as aro!! #but they think that aroace is the only id someone can have when rejecting romantic relationships #aces and aros deserve better

[libraryleopard]

Young adult contemporary coming-of-age story (releases 4/16, I read an early copy from Netgalley)

Follows two first-year students at Wellesley College who run dueling anonymous advice columns and befriend each other in real life as they bonded over both being aroace, unaware of the other's internet identity

Platonic love story

Explores themes like aroace identity, finding community, being the queer child of immigrants, and trying to find your place in the world as a young adult looking towards the future

Love letter to platonic/familial love and finding community

Aromantic asexual Chinese American protagonist; aromantic asexual gender-questioning/nonbinary (she/they) protagonist; lots of QPOC side characters

#i got an arc of this and read in basically one day while on a road trip! #i found it very engaging/easy to read #the feud between the main characters is very petty but they're both still quite likable #sophie is very relatable to me as someone who until recently was also a type-a student at a liberal arts college #i think the characters balance each other out very well also #like sophie is very organized and jo is a bit more of a mess #but jo is also less confident in her identity #this talks a lot about aroace identity and i hope that will make a lot of people feel seen #personally i really loved seeing a college coming-of-age story about friendship #because the friendships i formed in college were personally wayyy more important to me than dating #so even though i don't identify as aroace part of me still felt very seen #(that and i knew a lot of aspec people in college) #their feud is kind of petty and terminally online but that's kind of the point in the end #okay i do have to say though #jo's music taste as a dj is SO basic #also this comped to loveless and the half of it so it did amuse me that those are name-dropped in the story #actually there are some aro/ace books that are mentioned though not by name #i think i caught a reference to elatsoe and another one to fire becomes her? #that was cute ngl #dear wendy #ann zhao #2023 reads #lulu speaks #lulu reads #lulu reads dear wendy #books

[oozeandgoo-art]

everyone is sooo in love with vakori on account of le is so cool and smart and deeply pragmatic and is also completely batshit insane

#oc #monochrome #sketch #velan #vakori #rocaim #rocaim and vakori are rex and taz and adder and silas's parents #adder and silas get their looks from vakori; rex and taz to a slightly lesser degree get it from rocaim #rex specifically is like a sharper clone of him. fucks velan up all the time because their personalities are completely totally different #rocaim was very like. gentle and understanding. good with kids and well-liked by basically everyone. a very effective mediator #rex is obviously none of those things lmao. every time he says something particularly insensitive it surprises her for like six years runni #anyway rocaim is in love wtih vakori. velan is in love with vakori. vakori is aro as they come but insanely pragmatic #like. ok le's based loosely off my ex. like. so le's SCARY pragmatic. so fucking cool about it everyone with a brain is specifically like #'woag oh my god le's so pragmatic im in love with her'. anyway eventually le's like 'hi rocaim. here are the objective reasons that i think #that if we got married it would mean i had better standing and more power in the organization we're both committed to. would you be #opposed to possibly getting married with me on the grounds that it would get me respect and power' and rocaim. who is already head over #heels for ler specifically because le makes these kinds of decisions and sees with this kind of logic is like. Absolutely. 100% #then for the next four years of their formal engagement people keep taking rocaim aside and being like hey... i have bad news... #...that leya you're engaged to... le's not romantically interested in you the same way you're romantically interested in ler... le only #wants you because you're an Ath and le wants a voice in the interclan meetsings... and then when Rocaim is like yeah i know #thats why i want to marry ler isnt that like the sexiest fucking reasoning you've EVER heard. no one gets it but velan #who is also in love with ler for the same reasons but has no such claims to power #and who also is not equipped for a polycule nor willing to try to go behind rocaim's back because unfortunately for her. she is also in lov #with rocaim. me when im in love with my friend and my friend's wife and also i'm pretty sure they both reciprocate but they're both #married and i dont really know what to do about it and also all three of us are very Traditional and that is not the Tradition: #and then they both die and she never quite deals with that. #but she DOES get to raise their (surviving) kids :) most of whom are fucking nightmares #life is so difficult for velan. like actually #closerverse #cv

[alterousuggestion]

i am allowed to not want to give myself intimately in every single aspect to my platonic friends. i am allowed to want to reserve some intimacy for a different type of relationship. i am allowed to be picky about who receives my intimacy, despite being an aromantic who gives my all in friendships.

#this is me. asserting my boundaries. to myself. #i’ve had a rough couple of days #filled with insecurity and guilt and overall feeling very misunderstood #read: sometimes i really really want to kiss someone but my first kiss means something special to me and i don’t want it to be with someone #who does not feel alterously / the same way about me. #it’s not about hitting milestones and getting it over with anymore. i know what i want. i just wish people would understand that #my best friend wanting to kiss me should be amazing by aro standards but it’s filled me with a lot of guilt because i don’t want her to be #my first kiss. because i know she sees the whole thing as an experiment and !! i am not an experiment. i don’t want my first kiss to be an #experiment #i don’t know. it’s very complicated. #i believe wholeheartedly that platonic relationships can encompass so much and it’s all okay #but then i feel like i am playing into the amatonormative agenda when i say i want it to be with someone ‘special’ #everyone is special to me but i want an alterous partner :( i want to be loved in the way i am most comfortable #LONG SIGH #sorry this isn’t a very cutesy post :( been going thru growing pains. #text #admin post #not alterous #aro #aromantic #aroace

[tired-and-unjellied]

it would be nice if Yuno was aro. It could be a story about feeling lonely as an aro person cuz of that lack of proximity, but she still wants to indulge in her sexual drive, and casual dating gives a level of intimacy you can't quite find in hookups, without the whole romance and love thing of romantic relationships.

#too bad Kazui already screams aro person #like seriously I watched Cat the other day with the idea of gay Kazui in mind; I wanted to use a confirmation bias to see how gay Kazui #looks to people; and... it screamed aromantism to me. He saw Hinako loved him and figured “maybe if I try it; I will fall in love with her” #(something similar happened to me as well; but it was a summer camp where we were 12yo kids so it's different) #and some lines refers to a certain lack of warmth and proximity to others and that cat imagery #to me cats are those extremely independant guys that sometimes want to snuzzle but generally want to be left alone #they want to receive love and give back their love which is different from human love #I feel like Cat is exagerated and it was just Hinako finding he didn't love her back as she did #didn't eat a dove; he just acted like a cat and Hinako thought she married someone who could love her like a human #edit: ok; I watched Cat again #yeah he's probably gay #good thing I no longer have the aro Kazui pfp cuz that would have been awkward

[nonuggetshere]

Okay Spooky, PLEASE tell us about the Broken Shell AU lore (when you have the time of course). We've been seeing little bits of it for so long!

OHH, BROKEN SHELL AU MY BELOVED OLDIE

It must be I think the first or second AU I ever made for this game some years ago. It's the classic post-embrace the void ending AU.

Hornet, although reluctant and wary at first, helps The Hollow Knight and nurses them back to health in a little make-shift but in the Greenbath area, close to the Forgotten Crossroads for easy access to the hot springs which they used to heal. Why there? Idk, I think I just liked the greenery.

THK passes out for a good few days while Hornet takes care of them and when they finally wake up, despite being in an extreme amount of pain, unable to see and afraid, they still insisted on acting hollow. Slowly though, they recover, at least physically, and all the while she's taking care of them Hornet's also running all around the kingdom looking for Ghost and taking care of other things now that people are recovering and the dreamers are awake.

Once they've recovered just a little more though, something starts pulling on THK to go deeper into the kingdom, and when they can move finally they decide to follow that calling. Hornet of course tries to drag them back, but they're surprisingly strong even when injured and eventually, they end up at the junk pit. It starts with a little skirmish as both THK and Ghost are startled before they calm the hell down and realise who the other is. Hornet steps in, happy to see Ghost again even though they appear to be a shade now, and attempts to break the awkwardness by introducing them to THK - only for Ghost to float over and hug them, much to THK's surprise too as they had expected it to hate them or at the very least be angry.

So, long story short, the three siblings end up living together, eventually Ghost gets their shell fixed up by the mask maker, and they choose a name for The Hollow Knight - which was Shelly (because at this point I felt too mean calling them Hollow, so Shelly it is). They also bullshit about THK dying because Shelly does NOT want to deal with the emotional turmoil of meeting the Dreamers or Ogrim or literally anybody they know, at least while they're still recovering.

Eventually, though, they learn the truth, and much to Shelly's surprise and relief aren't angry with them.

Much later on, the question of who the next monarch should be arises and they eventually end up with Shelly being the only legitimate candidate (Hornet couldn't be thanks to some political mess between Deeonest and Hallownest, and Ghost would rather go through the Path of Pain 1000 times over than be a ruler of anything). At first, Shelly is terrified about the prospect and refuses, but after getting a ton of reassurance and with the promise of getting help from the Dreamers, they agree.

They couldn't bring the palace back from the dream realm so they just built a new one, a much smaller one in the City of Tears.

But it's mostly a classic healing arc AU for the three siblings tbh, mostly THK.

Also, it's worth noting that Shelly is disabled. They're completely blind in their right eye and can see some blurred shapes and light in the left one, which is the result of living with the fuckin sun in their head for god knows how long. They also suffer from chronic pain and back problems, and at their worst, they cannot take care of themself or even get up from their bed without assistance. They obviously don't have an arm either but eventually get a prosthetic one made for them. They still can hold up on their own in a fight - they're a god, after all - and even learned to fight by relying on their hearing rather than sight, but they're still not as strong or agile as they once were.

The bow covering their eye was from Hornet. When they were recovering she tied their bandages into a bow to cheer them up and they liked it so much they decided to do that with silk after their shell/eye healed. They also have a good relationship with the dreamers and even develop a fatherly relationship with Lurien, because they deserve a good father figure god damn it.

Oh, Ghost also eventually becomes Shelly's knight when they grow up. Hornet obviously takes over as the queen of Deepnest eventually and ever since then Hallownest's and Deeonest's relationship couldn't have been better, considering their rulers are siblings and get along swimmingly.

#asks #thylacines can talk #broken shell au #I swear Ghost and Hornet are in the spotlight of this AU too I am just a bit biased towards my baby girl #Another fun fact. While recovering they'd often visit Sheo and the Nailsmith who eventually made a white cane for Shelly #Also Shelly is alloaro because I allways see people treating ace and aro identities as a package deal #Quirrel and Cloth also live because I can't bring myself to kill them ok #PK is still Very Dead though #Shelly did try to reunite with WL but it. Didn't end well. They tried to have a relationship with her at first but they no longer talk much #They do occasionally visit her with Ghost every few...years. Yeah they Do Not get along. They just accepted that they'll never have a #relationship with their parents and moved on. It did ate up at them at first but they're mostly fine now

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is wanting to complain about not getting to see much of a favourite celebrity in a TV series after a certain point until the new season next year, but not wanting people to think that means you have a crush on them. Alternatively, aro culture is wanting to gush about celebrities you like without people automatically assuming it's a crush.

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #the only way i'd assume it's attraction is like. if it's pretty hard to see it as anything else #ie an old 'straight' friend who was known to go on half-hour long rants about how much he liked chris... uh. the thor one. his abs. #at which point we were like uh. hey kyle. you... got something you wanna talk to us about? #unfortunately he was v much convinced he was straight and homophobic despite this being one of like. so many examples of us being like... #bro you're the only straight cis one in your main friend group and you're a band kid with drama kid gfs #this does not give us the impression of a straight man kyle. #he was a weird type of homophobic tho #he was like? perfectly fine with people around him being gay and trans and was pretty chill about respecting identities #like shockingly good about respecting pronouns including situational stuff for safety #for someone who on more than one occasion talked about how he thought gay couples shouldn't be able to adopt and shit like that #from what i last heard though i think he got engaged to the last gf of his i knew from high school #and i knew her well enough that i assume he had to have improved as a person if she's willing to have married him #... i cannot stay on topic lol

[moe-broey]

Brain still soup but like. I think making one or both (or more!) characters involved in relationships with each other aromantic makes the dynamic soooooo much more compelling. Because if you remove romance as a motivator, you really get down to the nitty-gritty as to WHY that character is seeking out/involved in those relationships in the first place. Whether that relationship involves romantic factors or is more of a queer platonic thing. Much to think about....

#like i WANNA give examples but also it's always so difficult for me to parse it out too #but sharena being someone who longs for love but can never quite grasp it for herself is sooo real to me #while maintaining her harem like. how she still seeks out these relationships anyway. BECAUSE she wants it so bad #because she can't quite grasp it fully herself. #also veronica taking one look at sharena and not even fully able to grasp it herself. and going 'sharena clearly doesn't know what love is' #recognition of the self through the other (derogatory) #also this is something i'm exploring aaaall the fucking time w moe/alfonse. #juries still out on if i hc alfonse as any flavor of aro (i do think it'd be funny/if he was i think he'd be demi) #but like. w moe being 2 for 2 demiro/sexual. you might think that would make things easier? #but no. bc it's also extremely romance repulsed. as much as it wants to spread love and cheer. it is a hater. fervently. #and then there are cases like lif/thrasir that read as a qpr to me. only having each other in this deep intimate way #that's devoid of any romance/sexuality. #BUT IT'S ABOUT THE OBSESSION. going back to moe. IT'S ABOUT ACCIDENTALLY BECOMING THE SAME PERSON #which i think happens to a degree w moe and ABSOLUTELY happens/happened w sharena/peony #it's also about asking what does this character WANT. what is the core of their desire #is it to fill an aching absence? is it to feel safe? to feel understood? to feel loved? #when your entire life you've felt you've been loved wrong/were unable to love correctly? #is it friendship? is it sexuality? esppp in the case of aro/allos!!!! like!!!! that happens!!!!! #and ofc! you have your aros who just don't. and that's okay! #but i never want being aromantic to be like. an easy way to write off a character who 'gets in the way' #or rewrite something you didn't like in canon. like. there are ways to do that second part #without doing the same shit i see people do w autistic people. writing off a character #or a hc in the most abliest way fucking possible. it's egregious.

[comet-wire]

Ngl I've been having a gender crisis again on top of all the stuff that's happened with my dad, I think I still identify as male/masculine idk 🗿

Same with my ace/aro spectrum placement ☝️🗿

#comet rambles #putting in queue to deploy later #parent loss tw #just in case by association n implications ☝️🗿/nm+gen #when i get stuff set up with my checking account i was already thinking of getting a new chest binder once our personal issues with finance #has been figured out definitely #i dont wanna say much n jinx stuff so ill leave it at that #personal #gender shit is hard n i really think i may be a he/they or he/him still #or if not then closeted butch lesbian idk #most signs point to male gender identity leaning though 😔👍 #also my social battery is outta wack but i needed to get this out so i apologize to anyone who i have yet to respond to/gen+nm 🥹 #like i genuinely still feel as though ive been born in the wrong body and i tried to accept my feminity and it went well!! #like i started embracing my femininity the past few years and now i think im over it because it feels like i just attempted to try #and be something i wasn't if that makes any sense #i hate being referred to as she/her or as a girl even if i understand some people will still see me as fem despite my personal identity etc #its not that i hate my femininity its just i feel anything but female while still enjoying traditionally fem stuff at times #hope this makes sense #🗿👍 #still ace/aro though just cant figure out if i only enjoy the thought of romance (cupiosexual/romantic) or if i feel comfy in one #i know im sex repulsed though thats for certain #as of lately chris Redfield and Albert Wesker have become two of my transition goals and idk what to do about this lmfao #i wish i was kidding #but im not 😭 #sitting here like EVA shinji with his head in his hands in the damn chair image/lh #also wanna be a rootin tootin goth cowboy 🥰 #if it turns out im like a comphet butch/nb lesbian im gonna shit myself though/lh+nm

[agentravensong]

my parents asked if i wanted to go with them to see the new napolean movie this afternoon. i was not interested (espec after looking at the length and average ecritic scores) so i stayed home and finally got around to reading this is how you lose the time war instead. 1000% the correct decision, holy shit

#mom said the movie was fine and stepdad said it was terrible #meanwhile the book was SO GOOD!!! #(there's another movie my mom is interested in seeing that i said i'll go with her to to make up for it) #it's funny; as cool as i think slay the princess is the love story aspect of it wasn't quite hitting for me as hard as some mutuals #and i wasn't sure if that was just me being too aro or what #but time war's protagonists have a similar dynamic #(two people who are meant to destroy each other but end up reshaping each other through their interactions and - SPOILERS - #each contain a part of the other and love each other infinitely) #and reading this book was like. oh. this is the good shit #maybe it's because time war's protags are closer to human instead of being literal deities? maybe it's a matter of the writing itself? idk #tl;dr very glad i read it #(i also rewatched hbomb's new video while i was making and having breakfast which got me going on a whole other train of thought #but that's enough tag rambling for one post)

[avisisisis]

Why are women so much prettier than men. Like it might be the lesbian in me but I genuinely feel more attracted to women than I do with men. I just don't find them good looking. They have to have some very specific appearance for me to like them (physically)

And in TV I always feel more drawn to women. When I see a drawing of a femenine character I always go “oh wow, she's really pretty!” and then get disappointed when I find out it's actually a man?? Like I still find him pretty, but the fact that it's a man just makes them less appealing to me

A male character needs to have a very good character arc (and, IRL, they need to have an extremely likeable personality) for me to have a ‘fictional crush’ on him. Meanwhile, all a girl needs to do is have a cool design

#the ‘fictional crush’ is more like ‘o shit they're hot’ instead of an actual crush #they're not even crushes (i'm aroace and find being in love with people i don't even know or y'know. FICTIONAL CHARACTERS weird) #what i mean is #if i see a man who is really shitty i'll just leave it at that. however if it's a woman i'll go “i mean i hate her but she IS handsome” #like. physically i feel more attracted to women #romantically? no. no one. i genuinely can't picture myself in a relationship with anymore #trust me i've tried #i'll go “holy shit i want to kiss this person” but then actually picture ME kissing them and be like “yeah no nvm” #i think i like the IDEA of being romantically invonved with someone #if i picture myself kissing someone in the 3rd person then i'll be like “hey that's not so bad! maybe i do like them!” #but then i do it in 1rst person. like ME kissing THEM. me imagining MY lips touching THEIR lips #and then it just doesn't work for me #but women are still SO pretty #so basically i feel physically drawn to them but won't be romantically involved with them because i'm aro #huh #lesbian #aromantic #lgbtq+ #women #women are pretty #girls #don't mind me just me sorting out my thoughts on relationships #women are beautiful man. like..BEAUTIFUL #even women that are considered “ugly” #i don't know why. even if they're supposed to be “ugly” i'll still find them pretty #but not with men #i don't find men attractive. like. at all #i just realized i typed anymore instead of anyone #fuck everything life is meaningless

[timeisacephalopod]

I've kinda seen some pushback to the idea of representation in media and I don't necessarily think it's bad to point out actual rights are more important than Disney's thousandth first gay character that's fine, but I've had a LOT of people comment on my works about asexual characters and tell me what I wrote changed their life-and it's always that phrase- because they now have the language to describe what they feel. I've had people who ARENT ace or aro comment that what I wrote finally made a concept they didn't understand make sense, or that the way I explained things was interesting and enlightening and I'm kind of a mediocre writer who hasn't written anything in ages.

Like idk, if reading something from a writer who is fucking around and only somewhat talented can genuinely impact someone because they've not seen anything like them reflected back at them in life or media I don't think pushing for representation in media is as "needless" as some people seem to think and caring about that doesn't mean you don't care about more "important" (although if you think seeing people like you in media ISNT important it's because you already have that representation or are privileged enough to not care if you do, in which case maybe pipe down) stuff. Hell, I even got a Facebook message ages ago from someone who found a comment I left in an ace group about QPR's and what they meant to me and how I perceived them and the person no joke said what I wrote two years before they even found it changed their life forever because they finally knew what kind of relationship they actually wanted.

So like sure, of course there's always bigger fish to fry them diversity in media (you know, like diversity in real life lol) but I don't think it's as frivolous as some people are beginning to act like it is. At least not if you're an aspec person it's not, I STILL don't see ace characters almost ever and I'll bet my whole everything if I asked a writer of a show why they'd tell me that EVERYONE has to be in a sexual relationship and characters that aren't won't sell and are boring- I say this because in film school I had a teacher TELL ME every character needed to basically be sex obsessed and when I pointed out a GREAT MANY CHARACTERS are not revolved around sex (Supernatural stars two brothers, I pointed out) and when she asked if I had love interests I was like ??? That doesn't matter- using my aforementioned supernatural example almost all their love interests die or get mind wiped because at the end of the day that's not what the story was about. So actually I think writers who act like that teacher need like 50 reality checks, and representation in stories isn't unimportant and also support indie writers you'll probably find more funky shit there then Disney anyway lmao.

And also even the asexual characters I DO see in media don't remind me at all of myself even if I appreciate the effort, but they never feel real or genuine and their sexuality doesn't get a lot of exploration so 🤷🏻‍♀️ I actually could use more media focused on characters that I can genuinely see my sexuality reflected in in a meaningful and narratively impactful way because I've got nothing.

#winters ramblings #todd from bojack horseman im sure is SOMEONES version of asexuality but i dont see ANYTHING of myself in him #great character dont get me wrong but not relatable to me on any level including our shared sexuality #sex ed got a bit closer with their brief ace character although maybe she got more exploration in season three or four?? #the latest one i havent watched lmao. but being closer and having a moment wjere shes told shes not broken #while DEEPLY vindicating isnt necessarily all im looking for either #like i wamt a REAL character thats ace or aro or both thats written by people who UNDERSTAND what theyre writting #not just well meaning people who dont know what theyre doing its kind of tiring #also idk why theres no dating shows with gay men because reality dating shows are ALL ABOUT who fucks who and who gets together #gay men would be hooking up ALL OVER THE PLACE and the DRAMA youd think reality tv freaks would be SALIVATING #but no none of that lmao. just ru pauls drag race and thats great it is like its not my bag but people love it #back on yrack though the weord blowback representation is getting is strange and its VERY clear to me #the people writing those posts havent gotten dozens on dozens of messages from people like them who found their writing #and haf their life altered forever for the better because someone who KNOWS what theyre talking about wrote a character like them #and it opened doors they never knew existed. doesnt even need to happen with fiction either i had a friend i had in toronto #tell me the info i sent to her on being aromantic changed her life- THAT'S the phrase i keep getting thats TELLING- because it describefld #described** how shes felt her whole life but didnt have words for. how frivolous IS representation if im getting these messages? #not very i dont think if some rsndom indie fic writer who hadnt written anything substantial in years can change someones life #REPEATEDLY might i add. ive been getting a LOT of messages like this lately and seeing this new bramd of discourse latetly too #like maybe YALL have enough that you dont care anymore but speak for your fucking selves

[ming-sik]

ok im talking to a brick fucking wall here but in case anyones actually curious the "are cishet aro men lgbt" poll is very much taken out of context and ive seen a lot of ppl, who have heard secondhand that there are people who dont think aroallo people are inherently lgbt, who did not see the original conversation.

which to be crystal crystal clear was this post, heres the conversation being discussed

notice that this guy never says hes aromantic and he specifically says that hes "not really at a point he can get into something serious" meaning that he 1) is not saying he never wants a romantic relationship he just doesnt want one right now and 2) refers to a romantic relationship as "something serious" bc he like most cishet people sees a relationship as inherently the most serious type of relationship.

additionally the reason people are upset at the guy is that although its only spelled out in the continuation where the girl explicitly says that he's asking for this despite her telling him she wants a romantic relationship if she's going to sleep with someone which is actually her setting a boundary, "exclusive obvi" in the first part most people have seen means that he is not proposing this as a thing that any given person may or may not be okay with, he is assuming without asking that she's willing to be relegated to a status he himself says is "less serious". the fact is that most cishet men are not actually friends with their fwbs and in most cases it's a code for "girl i expect all the duties of a girlfriend from with none of the care im obligated to give a girlfriend". it is the freelance contractor of het relationships.

and like is it not more disrespectful to imply that people who don't want to commit to treating someone theyre fucking as well as they think a romantic partner would expect of them are aromantic??? why would being an emotionally neglectful dickhead make you aromantic??? aromantic people are people who are not romantically attracted to other people, that's it. they are fully capable of respecting peoples' boundaries and treating their friends/sexual partners/qprs/etc as well as someone else would treat a romantic partner. like do yall not think people are wrong when they say aros are just creeps who want to use people for sex and then dip on them? why is the stance here "actually that is true but it's good actually".

the reason the poll was made in the first place was that someone got irritated that people were trying to argue that this specific shitty guy was actually aromantic and the girl was arophobic for setting a healthy boundary between her and a guy who was expecting an unhealthy relationship of her! random misogynists were the people who decided to bring aromantic people into this when they were not originally mentioned in the slightest! if you want to blame anyone, blame them for saying that emotionally abusive equals aromantic!

#aromantic #by far the reason this is such a mess is that ppl dont realize the original discussion #was about a specific manipulative/misogynistic behavior by some straight men towards women #that literally relies on them seeing romantic relationships as important enough to deserve more effort than a fwb #so ppl defending these guys are not defending aromantic ppl! #these guys arent aromantic. theyre predatory and misogynistic heterosexuals #and frankly if u cant tell the difference between that and aromantic ppl. u have some stuff to work out #its just wild to me. i havent participated in the aro community for a while #when did yall decide we were all raging misogynists who hate healthy emotional communication. can we roll that back maybe. #if ur mad that the girl didnt want to be exclusive fwb. fucking skill issue. people are allowed to have boundaries #and this girl spells out that shes been burnt out on that bc of guys like the one in this conversation #thats her damn business!! point me to where she fucking says 'and this preference is applicable to all people ever' #like @ people complaining that everyones assuming cishet aro men are predatory #they arent actually until someone said that a predatory cishet guy was aromantic #you dug a hole in front of someones house and blamed them when you fell in it.

[amethysttribble]

That I’ve already made 1 post being annoyed with the Spy x Family fandom and I could easy make 2 more, is really quite telling

#it’s just everything I hate so much in one fandom: #over abundance of fluff for the sake of fluff (gag) and uninformed attempted at political takes (also gag) #the first one would be- #1) oh my god I didn’t realize how aro I saw Loid and Yor’s relationship until the UwU fluffy ship people got involved #THEIR DEVELOPMENT IS NO WHERE NEAR THAT. IF IT EVER WILL BE #they RESPECT each other and work TOGETHER to create a nice family environment despite their nontypical family and they aren’t in ‘love’ yet #and you really want to strip that all away to go ‘uwu Loid is soooo in love with her as soon as chapter 10’ fuck off #2) (and this one’s the kicker) Are you really pondering the moral difference between the actions #of two people who #are use violent means in order to maintain geopolitical peace so that war doesn’t break out??? #and the fucker who hijacked a bus of KINDERGARTNERS to make his political protest??? #MAYBE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HOW WE SEE THESE CHARACTERS IS THAT LOID AND YOR DONT KILL CHILDREN!! #you know whose daughter is also dead fuckwit? The Handler. YOU DONT SEE HER TRAUMATIZONG SIX YEAR OLDS #I mean are you even /thinking/ at point? #also #no actually Loid and Yor would not ‘destroy the city for Anya’ #they flat out wouldn’t #Loid is a character who cares a LOT about the bigger picture here and specifically about /not making kids cry/ #he would never hurt other children; even for Anya’s sake #never #but ESPECIALLY not out of revenge #and the city take is especially in bad taste considering his background #are we even like reading the same manga? #OR have your reality divorced stupid fluffy headcanons rotted your brain? #I know the answer #my god #anyway I hope the Silm friends got a good laugh out of ready my salt for another fandom #NOT tagging this shit #don't mind me #tribble post

[magical-girl-04]

Am I aroace or have I just been awake too long?

#rav speaks #its 2am and im listening to a mix of twice aqourus and J-metal girl bands while questioning everything in my life #anyway do people actually feel the way they describe in romance songs?? #like idk ive had like 3 crushes in my life but like i dont think i could actually see myself in a relationship? #so either im aro or like I just have trouble imagining a relationship becuase ive been single my whole life #its like how sex is pretty interesting to me and id be down for it in theory but i cant see myself actually doing it #interesting in a im curious if its really all that people make it out to be #cuz it seems prettyyyy boring to me lol #specially since lesbo sex apparently takes agessss and i know for a fact i would not let a dick get anywhere close to me #anyway off topic #im trying to figure out if the way i feel about romantic relationships is the same way i feel about sex #like in theory id love to have a gf and like do datey things but like it seems like so much effort to get to that stage #got a dating app and im barely on it because ive realised i dont really want to actually talk to anyone #and like i was meant to meet up with someone today who when i first started talking to on said app i was like kicking my feet and blushing #but i noticed that im starting all the convos and decided i was just like fed up of that whats the point of trying to get to know someone #if they arent interested yknow. like they were meant to get a bus to my city and i was hoping they would just like tell me a bus time #and we'd go from there but nothing. so im just like. over it #and i feel like thsts probably not really how crushes really work? #its like i had a bit of a crush on a girl in my classes but once exam season hot and i stopped seeing her so regaually i just kinda forgot #i think she might be in 1 or w of my classes this term so maybe talking to her again will relight that but im prettyyyy sure shes staight #so prpbs better to loose the feels anyway #this is just a rambling mess now i really need to sleep #Maybe I'll figure myself out eventually but for now im gonna stick with grey aro cuz i think thst makes the most sense? #unless there are other micro aro lables i dont knoe of (very likely) #at least i know I'll always be an asexual lesbian even if i dont know if ill ever actually date girls #honestly life would be so much easier if i jsut loved my bestfriend it wojld be so cool if we could be in romantic feeling together but #alas we tried dating for lkke a week and i avoided her the whole time cuz i felt a deep deep sence of wrongness lol #its like again in theory i could see us as a great gf duo like if i was watching our lives as a show id be shipping us #but in practice its njst wrong #if anyone actually reads all of this you get a reward of uhh 🦎 goodnight!!

[dyketubbo]

just bitching in the tags a bit to get feelings out

#i only got one whif of the discourse about shipping qjaiden and already i am so exhausted #i think both sides need to have their routers shut off and to go into the wilderness for 4 years to think really really hard about it all #people should shut the fuck up about speaking for jaiden and ill go insane if i see it #but i also think people who die on hills for their right to ship aroace characters are equally terminally online #does the character Have to be romo repulsed to not be shipped. does everyone have to be in a romantic relationship #is it necessary. is any of this necessary #its all incredibly stupid and brainrotten. exhausting #fandoms be normal about aspec people for one second challenge failed spectacularly on every level you all suck #incredibly online discussion. incredibly online people #'is it okay to ship an aroace character :((((' sure. but why do you care so much. do you really Have To #wouldnt it be cool and nice if maybe the sole aroace character was properly treated as aromantic. and not put in a romantic relationship #not because aros cant be in romantic relationships not because she has to be repulsed for people to not do it #but just like.. for the sake of it? maybe? thatd be cool. thatd be nice to see for Myself as a nonpartnering aro #because i swear everyone has to put aro characters in relationships all the time and its exhausting no matter what #i dont care if shes romance repulsed. i think it isnt morally wrong to ship her but it isnt like.. i dont know #its not nice to see a bunch of people fight like dogs for the right to put yet another aro character into yet another romantic relationship #because it cant compute in their brains that they have the choice not to. because they dont actually care about nonpartnering aro people #it doesnt matter if jaiden is or not. it doesnt matter. its just tiring its exhausting its stupid and its online as hell #all of you need to be quiet forever. and qjaiden needs to be left alone in terms of shipping forever. thats what i think #she shouldnt have to be romance repulsed to not be shipped. why do shippers Act like this. i just dont get it #as a loveless romo repulsed nonpartnering aroace etc etc #the mcyt fandom has been extremely hostile on every level. and its only gotten worse. good fucking lord #so glad i barely interact with people anymore because id love to fucking squeeze these peoples brains out to inspect how rotten they are #mask mews