#and if it will harm me can i minimize that harm

[craycraybluejay]

You said in tags once that pedophiles and child predators aren't the same, can you explain why? /GEN

For the same reason that people with any kind of attraction to anyone ever aren't all rapists/don't all pursue romantic/sexual feelings that could or definitely would hurt the other person. Because paraphilias are simply the morally neutral state of experiencing attraction and rape/grooming is Not That. Because people *choose* to hurt others, but not what they feel. Because a good majority of child sexual abusers aren't even pathologically/paraphilically attracted to children, they *just want to hurt them because they can.* Because they're dissatisfied with something in life, or want a punching bag, or want to feel powerful, etc etc.

It's not really different conceptually from physical abuse. Do people do it because they have icky feelings about liking blood or violence? No. They do it to feel powerful. Sexual abuse is not about sex but about power. Hope this answers your question. I've answered it a good million times on this blog but eh I'm in a generous mood.

#anon response #pro para #girl imagine if ppl blamed randomass sadists for me getting beat up as a kid #like. no. thats not how that works. if they got off on hurting me in a literal sense they mightve been a little nicer ab it. #honestly its just flat out offensive to equate thoughts and feelings with abuse #regardless of someone's pathology you can always choose to do good and always choose to do evil #what you do with that ability is up to you. but rather than focusing consequences on random 'freaks' maybe focus them on #'normal people' who decide to covertly abuse their kids. or the priest who got tired of being godly and did some fucked shit #it is not the freaks you should fear but those who put on a face of normalcy while treating others like garbage and hurting people #also mostly those that are self aware know how to Be Good so to speak and im saying this broadly ab all 'dangerous' thoughts #ppl who know they can get triggered into violence will usually avoid sais triggers. ppl who spiral out of control during an episode will #have someone watch over them or find some way to offset any possible damage #even for people in whom some sort of harm is an instinctive reaction and not a conscious decision #steps can be should be and are taken to minimize problems and recover from anything that needs it #i trust a big 3 paraphile easier than an unstable person in power with no self awareness #because ive met both and only one has ever seriously hurt me. guess.

[gibbearish]

i can't take any discourse post seriously if it says "x side is refusing to listen to survivors" because if you can't accept that survivors are not a monolith and may disagree with you in regards to your shared type of trauma then it really begs the question, are YOU actually listening to survivors? or are you only listening to the ones who say what you already thought and disregarding the rest as a) people who are incapable of understanding their own trauma and therefore can't be trusted to make decisions about it for themselves or b) outright fakers?

#i also go out of way to try and take all discourse posts with a heaping helping of salt but these ones specifically im like #conflicting access needs dude what hurts you might help another person so you need to step back and ask yourself if what they're doing #is overall harmful or just harmful to you specifically and act accordingly #theres nothing wrong with you being the problem here‚ its ok to be like 'i cant be around this' and dip #ik the word problem has negative connotation but idk ive always felt like my brain worked a little differently than other ppls w that #problem doesnt mean anything morally bad it just means somethings not working as intended and so #you need to problem solve to fix it #you have a problem that is you can't be around xyz thing while others can #and in your own spaces youre allowed to solve that problem by requesting others not bring it in with them if doable or to work together #to minimize its impact on you if you have to be around it #but in spaces where that thing is accepted and enjoyed and you are the outlier‚ theres nothinf shameful abt the solution to that problem #being removing yourself from that space #you were the problem‚ so you solved the problem. it doesnt have to be a bad thing yknow? #same with 'broken' ive had multiple people to me explain why i shouldnt use that word about myself but im like #no i understand abt forming neural pathways with negative words but its not negative to me genuinely !!! its just a descriptor!!!! #like. a part of my body is supposed to work/exist in a specific way‚ but it didnt. it was broken‚ it couldnt perform its intended function #it was broken‚ and we fixed it #you wouldnt tell me to call a broken bone a fuckin. 'area for improvement bone' it got broke! it dont work anymore!! #my brain doesnt produce the chemicals its supposed to‚ its BROKEN and im taking medicine to fix it #i think veronica got it but i only got to see her for a few months #anyways. that was kind of offtopic but i think still follows the central theme of just. understanding that sometimes people's brains #work different from yours and they process the world differently than you #i dont call other people broken because i know that would be mean given how their brains interpret the word but i do feel comfortable #using my own version of language to describe myself #autism dialect KENFKSBFKSBFMDB

[aeide-thea]

the eternal, often-unsuccessful struggle to separate 'hm i personally am not enjoying Thing because it smacks of Unpleasantness to me' from 'i actually dislike Thing because it's Inherently Problematic, amazing how my personal taste is an unfailing radar that way' 😔

#like i can't tell you how often i've seen people on this website go 'minimalism is elitist!!' #and i'm like 'you could just as easily call maximalism elitist tho‚ have you ever checked out a little thing called uh. roman catholicism' #when really the reality is—both aesthetics are possible to link to Problematic Ideologies. #both aesthetics come in expensive and inexpensive versions. #ultimately taste *can* be about elitism‚ as most things can‚ but the relationship between the two isn't a hard-and-fast rule. #i personally do appreciate a certain degree of minimalism‚ and i could tell you it's bc my mother was a hoarder and bc i have adhd #so less-busy spaces make me feel more like i can think and like i have some control over my own space— #and all of that would be true! but also: my personal preference for a certain degree of minimalism is value-neutral. #i don't need to offer up excuses for it‚ as long as i'm not a dick to other people about it. #i don't judge people who have different preferences #but if you keep your space beyond a certain level of (what i experience as) clutter i will probably not want to spend a lot of time in it. #(VERY much @-ing myself here also‚ lol. time 2 clean my room.) #anyway these tags have gotten off-track but i just am like. really thinking a lot lately about 'i' statements #both wrt my own blogging and wrt things other people do/say that rub me the wrong way a little‚ lol #and i just think like. it's very easy to make sweeping claims and i'm not remotely immune to the allure of that! #it feels clever and analytical and like you've Taken a Strong Stance! #but increasingly i think—socmed culture has taught a lot of us to make claims about insidious‚ sometimes invisible harm #and i think we'd do better‚ or anyway i would‚ to instead make more claims about how things feel *to me* #harm is often imaginary tbh whereas 'you guys can do what you want but thing X makes me personally feel Y' is indisputable #not to mention easier to garner sympathy for! #(i mean in theory. i definitely have gotten some eyerolls/subtweets etc #but i THINK that's largely bc i still haven't gotten the 'i' statement thing down well enough. v much a work in progress there.) #(though tbh there IS a thing where even ppl who've been told *they* were oversensitive will turn around and do it to you) #(bc we're all steeped in this culture that's like. is yr discomfort/unhappiness etc Objectively Reasonable) #(or are you just a humorless pussy who oughta suck it up) #anyway idk. it's all about balance really. which is hard when everything's dizzyingly rough! #just some sunday nite thots. #sorry to be so long-winded in tags but like. at least those are by default collapsed unless YOU opted to expand them lol #opt-in verbosity!

[charlesemersonwinchesteriii]

tw animal death (no images just text)

found a frog in my bathroom last night and I looked it up and the internet said frogs can survive for like a week without food/water if necessary so I thought it’d be ok to trap it in the bathroom for the 5 hours it would take before someone else would be awake to help me take it outside and it died anyway. one time when I was little I couldn’t stop my brother from spilling some tadpoles out onto the ground and they (presumably) died. one time when I was a kid I apparently killed two fish because I overfilled a pond and they got trapped. I shortened my cat’s life because I hardly ever took her to the vet because I was afraid of being expensive and inconvenient to my parents. In movies sometimes people say things about like “everyone close to me gets hurt ableghblegh cause I’m an assassin / an emotionally toxic person / both” but. I’m nobody and I have led the smallest most isolated life I can possibly manage and my footprint on the universe is as faint as I can make it and I still somehow have a body count and I don’t know what to do

#tw animal death mention #/ #// #/// #//// #it was the night I finished rewatching over the garden wall. famous frog media. and then I found the frog. #I was like hm God is trying to tell me something! I wonder what it is! #and then it was just that my incompetence is indistinguishable from malice and my carelessness causes irreparable harm #which I promise I already know. I know I know I know. what am I supposed to do. #I'm really sorry for making this a post. All of a sudden it just seemed phenomenally evil to keep it a secret. #that's why I only interact with others online. so I don't have to worry about them knowing the bad things about me. #and so the damage I can cause is minimized.

[patronsaintoffinalgirls]

so ive had a night...

#had some interpersonal problems and got really disappointed & sad #finished watching rgu with my partner and had a really cool analytical discussion about it #and idk im glad we finished it tonight #watching it again and talking about it with her just like... kind of reminded me of who i am and why i'm doing any of what i'm doing #i still feel sad and uncertain about this aforementioned Situation but i feel more grounded and centered in who i am #i remember that whatever happens in this situation does not define me #and i don't have to save everyone #all i can do is try my best to be kind and minimize harm to others & myself #that's all there is #raphael.txt

[chryzure-archive]

OKAY, thoughts on the movie: Mid. But like. Low Mid. the movie i was completely rewriting from scratch in my head was entertaining though. and the ex boyfriend is my boyfriend now. i’m kissing him on the mouth as we speak.

#memorie.txt #the sequel is me saving him frm his curse actually and we end up getting married :) #jokes aside i’m actually like… rlly disappointed?? because i had SO MANY good ideas on how to make the story interesting / dramatic #AND ?!!! LIKE IT WOULDVE BEEN SUCH A COOL COMMENTARY ON TRAUMA IF #SHE COULDVE LIVED W THE MONSTER IN HER HEAD BC SHE LEARNED HOW TO DEAL W TRAUMA #since she spent her whole life running from it / minimizing the harm she’s experienced #LIKE SHE WOULDVE HAD AN INTERESTING CHARACTER ARC THAT WAY!!!!! #OR alt ALT ending: she dies before the ex boyfriend can see her die #thus ending the curse AND saving my fav character from being cursed :((( #i also think it would’ve been a chilling and heartbreaking ending #but no… the movie was so painfully predictable…. #we had such a strong streak of horror movies in 2022 IM HEARTBROKEN.. #my chryzure au is very important to me tho

[moreaugriffins]

Y'all ever get frustrated at how a piece of media handled (or didnt handle) a specific thing, that you wanna write a fanfic on it because even your shitty little fanfic would be better than what the piece of media did?

Well I listened to The Scream of Ghosts the other day and OH BOY-

#rambles #classic doctor who #big finish #i should state that i liked the story #i have some nitpicks but overall i enjoyed the story #i mean we got to see jo being scientific advisor (3 calls her that and it's so cute) and a mention of Osgood (who retired after daemons lol #we got to see Benton again (though i almost didnt recognise him because his voice is so different) and he's such a damn sweetheart #but WHY set up a scene where the Brigadier can't even remember his own name - then connect it to the aliens going through his memories to #figure out how to destroy the planet - and then do nothing on it?! #they have that one scene with benton in jail (“I can remember who you are youre benton but i cant seem to remember my own name”) and then #like #never cut back to them #or show any consequences/effects on him after the aliens are defeated #literally the next time we meet brig he's back to himself and the doctor's like #oh yeah they only skimread his memories. minimal damage. #healed right up #that's a cop out! #(alsoooo just before the jail scene the aliens are all like “we have brigadier under our control now!” and 3 is like “you better not harm #him. if you harm him you'll make me very angry" and oo there's some stakes. the brig is in some level of threat! then.. nothing)

[medicinemane]

I do wonder what people would do if they felt all the pain they'd caused in the world

Not even the big stuff, we're not even talking stuff like politicians being forced to feel just how much damage they've done, we're talking about the small scale stuff

All the off hand comments that were thoughtless and hurt someone, all the harm done without even realizing how much harm you're doing

I think if I could I'd like to know, I'd like to see the places I've hurt others around me

But I don't know... I listen to some people and it's just like... I don't think you even begin to imagine the damage you're doing around you. I don't think you even remotely begin to think about not even strangers, but the harm you'll do to people you claim to care about

What are you gonna do though? People are allowed to say and act however they want at the end of the day and even if I tried to explain I don't think they could hear me

#ever since I had shit I liked really shit on I kinda changed my mind of how funny it was making fun of other people #and while this applies to stuff like fandom or whatever; it's really about things as a whole #you never know what people around you are dealing with and like... #I don't want to be the person who pushes someone into a darker place; way rather try and help them out of stuff #so I'm not saying I'm perfect; but I do try to choose my words with intention when I'm talking about certain stuff #I try to call my shots and make sure the my ire is hitting where I want it to instead of risking it splashing out and hitting people I like #none of it matters; people will behave how they wanna behave and there ain't shit I can do about it #and in the end we'll all defend what we do; me as much as anyone else I'm sure #but like... that's why I'm always talking about just checking in on the calibration of your moral compass #making sure it's where you want it; I'm not gonna tell you what that should be #though I suppose I will say that for me it tends to be focused on minimizing harm and maximizing help #you think I can't be sucked into hateful points of view? #get real; of course I could... might even already have some I'm just to blind to see; you know? #all I can do is try and check myself and check I'm not letting something like skepticism towards say a political group #start bleeding out and tagging unrelated people who are just standing next to them into my anger #make sure I've got a specific reason I'm mad; try to talk about behavior more than anything else #that's what I do; that's how I value things and how I try to keep my shit calibrated #but you do you; you're gonna do it anyway; so why would I try and stop you? #but there it is #...can I let you in on a little secret that I'm expecting no one's gonna read down here in the tags? #I wish I could breath all the pain and suffering and hurt anyone's ever caused me as a toxic miasma to seep into their bones #I wanna make everyone hurt just by making them understand the hurt they've put out into the world #one or two people that I'd spare cause despite the fact they hurt me often I like them way too much #and there's of course people who haven't hurt me #but I just want to fill people with every ounce of darkness they may have caused me; not even as a punishment; as a way to learn #people in this world are so thoughtless #but... whatever; there's a little bit of a secret I don't really ever say aloud #I want Soulcutter; I want to make people feel like I feel just so they grow some damn sympathy #the way it's described is so familiar; I think that my depression is severe enough I could use it #never draw it; hand resting on the hilt so you can remember how pointless it is to even both keeping your hand there

[lanliingwang]

Genuinely think people need to realize it's not. Bad or makes your love of a media less if you criticize its instances of racism and other problems -- if anything, we should all strive to be critical of those instances in general (regardless of it being largely amongst ourselves and our friends or out on public social media)

#lulas's randomness #lulas's rants #this is in large part why I rbed those posts criticizing ethnonationalism and racism in chinese media #me being chinese diaspora makes it all the more pertinent for me to be aware of this when #consuming cdramas and cmedia in general too #I would rather minimize harm where I can by being critical of what I consume and put out in the world #I don't talk about it much on here but I do try to keep that in mind

[dumbassloveydoveybitch]

i wish that just by existing as a trans person i wasn't opening myself up to harassment and risk

#i had a terf go after me earlier #its been a while since ive had that happen so ive been thinking about it #like i dont want to be like this #dysphoria fucking sucks and it sometimes gets so bad physically that i cant move #its not just its a physical thing as well #its not something i can do anything about #i try to minimize the harm that my status as a transgender women can have on people because i know that it will upset people #and i don't want that #i dont like the fact that im trans and i really fo not understand why i should be proud of that fact #why would i be proud of the amount of pain im in #it doesn't make me who i am its a constant stressor #and going after someone for something that they dont like and cant do anything about is somehow seen as a good thing by these people #i just dont want to live in fear #with the amount the American right has been scapegoating and restricting transgender rights and with us going into an election year #that is just going to increase #i cant change this #but just by existing i am opening myself up to hate for some reason and i dont want that #i just want to live my life

[gaystardykeco]

i dont know if i can take this anymore like its not just that im lonely its that theres just so much fucking wrong with me and the way my brain works and i dont think its possible for anything to ever feel any better, like this is how things need to be forever and i cant handle it

#i miss having friends but i cant trust myself to #and i just cant go out and find new people ill just hurt them and hurt me and ill just end up alone again #and every time that happens it just hurts more and i just dont know how to be normal enough to get to be loved and to love in return #i hate this i know its all i talk about but i hate this and i have nowhere else and no one else to say it to and im so lonely #and the thing is no one can help like all these things that are wrong are hardwired into my brain #and as much as i want and need help theres nothing anyone can actually do like im the problem and who i am is the problem #and theres really no fixing that like i just need to isolate forever to minimize the harm i cause everyone around me and that fucking sucks #im so fucking miserable i wish i could have a friend without actually subjecting anyone to being around me or talking to me

[prettieinpink]

HAVING AN INTENTIONAL ROOM

Your room is the most important place in your life. You sleep, wake up, heal and experience many emotions just in your room. You have to take care of your room, so it is spiritually the ideal place to grow into the best version of yourself. 

KEEPING YOUR ROOM CLEAN 

Keeping your room free of mess is an act of mindfulness and self-discipline that supports your overall journey and connects you with your higher self. It helps with promoting clarity, and cultivating inner balance and is an everyday self-care ritual. 

Make your bed every day. You have to respect the place in which you sleep and heal.

Hang up clean clothes after the day or put any dirty clothes in your laundry hamper, avoid tossing them on the floor. 

Find a place for everything, and know where everything is. If you do not know where each thing in your room is located, you either have too much clutter or you’re disorganised. 

Tidy up your room daily, neatly putting everything away in its place. If needed, buy a few organisers. 

Don’t leave rubbish for extended periods. Treat your room like a temple, don’t disrespect it, and pick up after yourself. 

Try to avoid eating meals in your bedroom. We forget the dirty dishes over time, and it stinks and attracts unwanted bugs. 

Change bed sheets regularly. Once a week at the most, for more hygienic reasons though. 

Remove unwanted items on your bedside table. Keep it minimal and intentional with anything you want to place on it.

Regularly clean up the dust in your room, using a duster or a damp microfiber cloth on all of the surfaces. 

ENCOURAGING GROWTH IN YOUR LIFE

A room designed to encourage inner growth serves as a physical reminder of your commitment to self-improvement, personal development, and overall well-being. It creates an environment helpful to improvement, self-reflection, and positive change.

Keep specific areas of your room designated to one task in your life. For me, my desk is for productivity, my bed is for resting or relaxing and my bedroom floor is for mindful activities. 

Throw away any items that do not serve a purpose to you anymore. Avoid keeping items that bring you painful or harmful memories.

Minimise the presence of technology in your room. I suggest having zones in your room which is device-free or having a time of day in which devices are not allowed in your room. 

Create a vision board poster in your room that you can see every day, which helps to visualise and motivate you to create your dream life. 

Place meaningful quotes, affirmations, mantras or prayers as reminders of the values, mindsets or intentions you wish to cultivate in your life.

Display personal achievements. If you won any awards or certificates, place them in a way in which you can view them every day. If you have done something in your life that you think is an achievement but have no award to display, just simply create your own. Buy some balsawood and glue it together to create your own medal. 

Place items that align with the habits or routines you want to cultivate in your life so that they are easily accessible. Put a workout mat in the corner, always have your journal on your desk or have a cold water bottle ready to go when you wake up. 

3. DECORATING YOUR ROOM TO REFLECT YOU

Decorating your room in a way that reflects your true self brings a sense of authenticity and comfort. It creates a nurturing environment that allows for self-expression, reflection, and personal growth which ultimately contributes to your journey of inner development.

Make a mood board or vision board of how you would want your room to look, how it supports you and how it makes you feel. Choose a colour scheme in this process as well.

Add candles or incense that you think embodies who you are, or who you want to be. For example, if I want to be a cleaner person, I would choose a candle that smells like fresh linen. 

Put up posters of things that you like, people who you look up to or anything that expresses who you are.

Add a canopy to your bed while you sleep. So cute, and I believe it helps protect you from any unwanted energy entering through you while you sleep. 

Add a rug, even if you already have carpet, to enhance the cozy ambience of the room. 

An ottoman at the end of the bed can elevate your room to look more expensive, if needed, it can also be an organiser for your extra things. 

Put life in your room, adding low-maintenance plants or flowers can liven it up. A little extra, research some plants or flowers meaning’s and pick one that resonates with you. 

Display any of your favourite jewellery, bags, clothing pieces, or make-up around your room. A nice way to appreciate what you have, without actually using them. 

#becoming that girl #clean girl #green juice girl #becoming her #that girl #that girl lifestyle #glow up #glow up era #pink pilates girl #dream girl #dream girl life #pink pilates princess #it girl #it girl energy #it girl tips #dream girl tips #feminine energy #feminine journey #that girl energy #that girl routine #wonyoungism #hyperfemininity #hypergamyblr #self improvement #self development #self help #self care #self growth #self love #inner strength

[nientedal]

What progress at home has biden enacted? What policies of his show that he is making progress that prove he is actually different than trump?

I like to pretend I have faith in humanity, so I'll answer as if you're asking this in good faith.

Biden's DEA has lifted restrictions on telehealth prescriptions to make appointments and assistance more accessible.

He put a funding package into place to help unhoused people get access to mental and physical healthcare, as well as short-term and long-term housing.

He has attempted and is still attempting to get student debt relief through - this was blocked by Republican judges appointed by Trump, but he's still working on it.

Infrastructure repair - his administration has budgeted funds to actually fix some severely-damaged and frequently-traveled bridges.

Trying to expand access to healthcare to include undocumented immigrants who came to the USA as children (Dreamers) under the Affordable Care Act. Support for Navigator programs and outreach has also been increased.

He has vetoed Republican-led bills that were attempting to overturn environmental protections - one that would have forbidden investment fund managers to consider climate change in their portfolios (I have two degrees in accounting and this is actually huge), and another that would have overturned restrictions on agricultural runoff into our waterways.

He and his administration worked for ages to get rail workers paid sick days.

This is just some of what he's been doing. Meanwhile, Trump and other Republicans want to criminalize the lives of LGBT people like you and me. They want to eliminate no-fault divorce and force births that will kill parents or devastate them financially. They have stated flat out that they want to install a military dictatorship in the USA. They attempted to put that in motion on January 6th, 2021. They failed once. They will do better next time.

One party wants to house the homeless and expand social safety nets, while the other one wants to criminalize homelessness. One of them wants a future in which I might be able to vote to change how much of a war machine my country is, while the other one wants to eliminate my ability to vote entirely. Those are not the same. Those literally are opposites.

At the end of the day, all you and I can do is choose to do the least amount of harm possible. You and I cannot choose to do no harm. This is the USA, we sell war, you and I cannot choose to do no harm. I wish we could, my god do I wish we could, but that is not an option. So we grieve for the harm we couldn't eliminate and work to minimize the harm that is done. Despite all the crap they support, Democrats are the minimum amount of harm right now. Acting like they aren't is exactly what brought us to an election where our options are a future where we are either wading in blood or drowning in it.

Not voting for Biden will not help Palestine. Not voting for Biden will guarantee a Republican president who will make the situation in Palestine WORSE. AND it'll hurt a lot of other places as well, both at home and abroad, because Republicans are about business and the USA is in the business of war! And I would very much like that to change someday! I would very much like to someday be able to choose to do no harm! And I know what I have to do to try for that future, so what are YOU going to do? There is no standing off to the side in this. If you aren't helping pull, you're the dead weight we're pulling. Are you going to dig your feet into the mud and blood and drown us there? Or are you going to get the fuck off your ass, grit your teeth, and help us pull free?

#askbasket #iam-the-wild #us politics #israel #palestine #if you do not vote blue you do not get to call yourself an antifascist #i HATE that that's the case; don't mistake me #but that is the reality we're working with #there isn't any other #do nothing and kill five people or act and kill one. #so what are you gonna do? i can't choose for you. but i know what my choice is. #i'm part of this world. and as much as i hate it...turning away is not one of the options. #we fight on ALL fronts #we protest we donate we write we call #AND WE ALSO FUCKING VOTE FOR THE LEAST OF THE EVILS. BECAUSE NO EVIL IS NOT AN OPTION.

[prince-geo]

literally pleased with almost all of the new atla trailer except as per usual, Zuko's scar, idk why studios are so scared to commit to the intensity of the thing, its supposed to be shocking and obvious and textured and the first thing you see... that's the point, Zuko is supposed to struggle with feeling like it defines and brands him before finally coming to the point in his journey where he defines it.

Hollywood/big studios are known to hesitate or straight up avoid properly and honestly and unapologetically showing people with disfigurements/disabilities/facial differences etc. with the realism they deserve. Which is a shame in general for representation and humanization but ESPECIALLY in this case as its minimization actively harms it's narrative purpose as well

I promise making the scar more intense (shrivel up the ear a bit, make it intrude in his hairline, make his eye in a permanent squint due to nerve damage, for god sake REMOVE THE EYEBROW IT WAS BURNED OFF) will not make Zuko "ugly", (the actor is incapable of looking ugly and also the implication that scars make people too unappealing? yikes) but will actually do the character and his journey justice, not to mention really show Ozai's brutality, another essential narrative tool. Especially when he's bald like hello??? It should be even more stark and intense when he doesn't have hair to distract from it and cover his ear!!!

When transitioning from 2D to live action, of course some visuals are up for interpretation but that usually involved ADDING detail because the constraints of having to stay on modeling frame to frame is gone, not minimizing, removing or airbrushing. Doing Zuko's scar right to me is absolutely essential and I'm disappointed they seem just as as scared to go there as I thought they might. It doesn't have to be gory, if you've ever seen burn victims in real life or in pictures or even cosplayers/artists who are skilled in realistic burn makeup you'd know its possible to balance realism with humanity. It's possible especially with their resources to avoid the "scary Halloween makeup" route while not holding back on the brutality of the original injury.

Budget is definitely not an issue, or "scaring the kids" considering this remake is likely aiming to go a lil darker in tone than the cartoon (which was already super dark with its target audience of nickelodeon 7 year olds so no excuses) Audiences SHOULD be unsettled and upset when they see him but not because he's hard/disturbing to look at but because we are human and do not want to imagine someone doing that to a child.

It's a deliberate choice out of the all too common fear/hesitation to allow someone who is destined to eventually become a protagonist and is meant to be sympathized with to be "too ugly" while this hesitation is very rarely applied to straight up villains (again we come back to media's historic villainization of facial deformity). It's a trend that's always ticked me off in fanart too. The boy's face was melted, for gods sake. Zuko was always portrayed as an attractive boy in the cartoon (fire nation girls fawn over him) even with the intensity of his scar which is something I've always admired! People exist with scars similar to Zuko's in real life, and should not only be permitted to be represented as good guys and/or as attractive when their scars are toned down to be "palatable"

Like I said there's more that I loved than didn't love about the trailer, that can be a whole essay on it's own but I needed to get this very specific vent off my chest because it missed the mark so hard and stands out like a sore thumb in comparison to all the other visuals that hit the nail on the head to me

#atla #zuko #avatar the last airbender #atla live action #ozai #dallas liu #my posts #atla wank #rant #atla critical #prince zuko #netflix #netflix atla

[space-lorde]

Just because you are in the LGBTQ+ Community doesn't mean you are the authority about whether or not something is transphobic or otherwise harmful to trans people.

#lgbtq #trans rights #anyways fick jk rowling #someone in my dnd group pissed me off because they were like but im part of yhe gay community so i can buy this game #bruh #giving $5 to a trans charity doesnt minimize harm the way you think it does

[deadsetobsessions]

There’s a child wandering the streets of Crime Alley. Unfortunately, this is nothing new for the area, riddled with crime and homelessness as it is. However, Red Hood and Nightwing are vigilantes and helping lost looking children is firmly in their job description. Plus, Crime Alley is Red Hood’s. He protects what’s his. With a single shared look, the brothers swung down to the child clad in just a white dress and some thin flats completely unsuitable for Gotham’s worsening weather. Hell it’s be unsuitable for the general poor weather.

“Hey, kiddo.”

The girl’s head swung to lock gazes with the duo, eyes blinking blue- and green? Red Hood allowed his brother- he worked so hard to beat down the pit madness in order for Nightwing to even remain near- to take the lead.

“Oh. There you are.” She said, turning to face them fully. The kid’s face filled with relief.

Nightwing blinked.

“You were looking for us?” His soft voice saved for children firmed into something more serious, more concerned.

“Mmhm. I was looking for Red Hood, but you’re a good bonus.”

“And why were you looking for me, kid?” Red Hood interjects. He knows Dickolas is clocking the same things he is: the kid’s white whispy hair, pale face, and… Lazarus green eyes? It’s more solid now, that she’s looking at Jason.

Dick straightened, eyes going heavy as he looks at this wisp of a girl. He’s fiercely protective of Jason and they’re both equally wary of the League of Assassins. Still, the two of them couldn’t help but let their guard down a bit because this was still a child they’re talking to.

“Because… um. Did you know you’ve died?”

Hood stiffened, hand going towards his guns. Granted, they’re rubber bullets, but the kid clocks that immediately. She threw her hands up in the universal gesture of “I’m unarmed and mean no harm.”

“I- well, to put it frankly, you kind of… stink?”

“What.”

“Ugh, I’m totally messing this up!”

“Why don’t you start again?” Dick said, shifting into a subtler fighting stance. He kept his voice light, but Jason saw the way his hands inched towards the scrims sticks. Distantly, Jason thought it was hilarious that this tiny kid could evoke that kind of response. Looking into Lazarus green eyes though, he couldn’t find the humor anywhere. The worst thing, though, is that the pit quieted. The rage the bubbled incessantly underneath his skin calmed. Jason did not like feeling bereft of the rage, not when he didn’t know why it was gone. He had just gained control of it, minimally, and to have that control be unnecessary left the vigilantes off kilter.

“Right, okay, sorry. Um, did you, uh, die and wake up surrounded by glowing green stuff?”

Before Jason could reply ‘yes, and why the hell do you know that?’, the kid continued with, “Because me too!”

She did jazz hands as Jason’s and Dick’s brains short circuited. Jason thought he even heard a little “yay!”

“What.” Jason sputtered out. His stomach and heart clenched as he thought about how young the kid looked. Fuck.

“Yeah. So, anyways-”

“Don’t speed past that like you didn’t say what you just said!” Dick interrupted, hand tugging at his hair in distress. His body language slipped from battle ready to extremely distressed. “You died?”

“You were- you were dipped in the Lazarus pits?!” Jason felt the need to address that specific point.

“I mean, it’s not that important? The important thing is- wait, what’s a Lazarus pit?”

Jason froze again. She didn’t know what they were?

“It’s… the glowing green stuff.” Dick answered her.

“Oh. Is that what you were dipped in?” She tilted her head at Jason. He nodded, wariness climbing. “Oh. Well, I mean, that’s not we call it. But the stuff you were dipped in, it’s rank. Contaminated.”

Jason thinks back to the burning, drowning green. The agony he felt as it slipped into his mouth and nose and his very being.

“It was bubbling.” He said. The girl grimaced. Jason had no idea why he was being so honest with this kid.

“Gross. Anyways, I can, like, help you with that?”

“With what?” Dick asked, eyes darting from the girl to Jason.

The girl groaned. “Okay, so I guess you guys are kind of new. Uh, the contaminated green stuff,” she points at Jason’s chest. “That’s making you angry, right? Leaving you in the backseat of your head as your body breaks whatever got you angry to begin with and you have no control over it?”

“…The pit madness.” Jason mumbled, feeling numb. “Yeah.”

“…Right. I can help you clear that out,” she pauses, fidgeting. “If… If you help me talk to Batman? It’s kind of… urgent.”

“Batman?”

“Why?”

“Uh. There’s kind of… a whole mad scientist thing going on and like… experimentation and dissections… you know?” The kid waved her arms around, distressed.

Dick and Jason unfortunately did know.

“Cave?” Jason grumbled.

“Cave.”

“Okay, we’ll bring you to the cave. Then you tell us everything.”

“Really?”

She looked up at them hopefully, and Jason could see the moment Dickolas melted. Not that Jason could say anything, since he was already taking off his jacket and bundling the kid in it.

“Um.”

“Who the hell let you walk around Gotham like that?” He scowled down at her, not that she could see it with the red helmet in the way. Dick looked at him carefully, eyes roving over the oddly relaxed state his little wing was in.

The kid shrugged. Jason sighs.

“What’s your name?” Dick asked. Scooping her up, the blue and black clad raised his free arm to grapple away. Jason follows him, heading towards the motorcycles they’ve got parked nearby.

“Dani. With an I.”

“Nice to meet you, Dani. I’m Nightwing. This is my… this is Red Hood.”

“Okay. Cool.”



#danny phantom #danielle phantom #danielle fenton #red hood #jason Todd #dick grayson #nightwing #dani going: you stink but I can help with that #dani trying to save her siblings from the GIW by bribing/blackmailing the vats #like they wouldn’t just take a look at this literal child and jump a cliff to help #dani: I need help #also dani: let me insult a crime lord #the plan worked though #this has been sitting in my drafts for too long #dani is both traumatized and a sassy little shit #dani ‘haven’t learned social cues’ Fenton #to be fair it’s not like vlad cared for social niceties #vlad the creep #dani dresses like she wants to get mugged on purpose