#always prided into

[artcalledtattoo]

Hey You Hey you get to death if saved you’ll be saved like all who have sought to explain their existence born to sin, have we knots all, combed through the fields picking and my hands are sore too factory conveyer belts moving faster, stand at register and served, any doctor would say seated is better in the long term but we treat not prevent, let me vent some angles Hey you get to death swallow a pill to help a long the way, same rentie renters charging same to more with zero up keeping poor Texas grid all the months collecting and wanted profits over re advancing the grids Come winter same excuses We didn’t plan for this end Hey you global warming since 1980’s You should have known better You should have to know better You are educated and those around you The angles end you Will you Pay attention No rentie-renters blue book Year made zero up keep it’s worth this a month in today values, where are the regulators for those overly rented charged Losing money every month in energy Over playing the energy grid In powered by Empowered Of power The angles end you, no If you Pay attention New regulations on Renting New regulations on Thinking Tying in the beginning of writing Alarm sounded, my clothes are dried Just writing passing time The angles If listened too Hey you •

#wordsbymm #vent #hey #poor #rentie renters #in disguise shanties #sharks eating #swallow a pill #charging up #energy grid #always prided into #no pay into #only us #effected #grids no better #no up keep #rent goes up #always each year #musical not a friendly #or landlords #energy bills #going up #thoughts #words #writing #war machine #? #covid #?? #not joking

[amalgamezz]

ALT

#aromantic #actually aromantic #aro #aro pride #love loses #good job everyone. im so proud of us <2 #edit (12/31): also pls do not quote 'not all loves are romantic/sexual' at me #1. aros have always been the first to dissect the definition of love. we are likely to know that before you. #2. are we gonna keep pretending that aros aint only an afterthought to the 'love wins' and 'love is love' crowds. #3. im loveless aro. i do not care for love whether its romantic platonic or familial etc etc. #one can do good w love. one can also do evil w love. love =/= morals. stop acting like it is.

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[klaufir]

quick PSA before pride month ends

#lgbt #pride month #transgender #cry about it #good will always triumph over evil #the truth will always prevail #hate will always be history's loser #don't let the bastards grind you down

[cocomonerd]

No because pride and prejudice isn't "I changed myself for you so you would love me back." It's "your blatant rejection and disdain for me made me realize things about myself no one had ever been bold enough to tell me so I sat down and evaluated all my behavior patterns and why they came about and came to the realization myself that I had to work on myself. Also I don't expect you to love me now that I'm a work in progress, so I'm just going to do nice things for you because I don't like seeing you hurt." No wonder P&P fans refuse to settle.

#pride and prejudice #literature #Pride #And #Prejudice #Will always defend this book #Jane austen #Lizzy Bennet #Mr darcy

[licollisa]

Three Earthlings

In which Sans was a dinosaur kid instead of a space one (.)

#i always wanted to redraw that painting #anyway i packed so many details on that first pic #3 pride flags in total and i designed a whole ass surface monster school logo in canva #and sans is wearing a cloud patterned cardigan cus do you really love him if you don't make him a pinterest girl #undertale #sans #frisk #babybones #lico arting #the deal was they don't try to learn each other's lore again lmfao

[bourneblack]

i’d rather have rainbow capitalism then living in constant fear of discovery. the woman in the pride flag disney t-shirt might be missing the nuance, but at least i know i can be myself. a street full of rainbow flags makes me more comfortable holding a mans hand. look. corporations aren’t your friend. they will sell to whoever will buy. but kids seeing gay everything every year is only ever a good thing, and a massive improvement in history

#unpopular opinion #lgbt #pride month #rainbow capitalism #queer things #bb unpopular opinion #notice how i never said i love capitalism #its the people who buy the flags that are the benefit #notice how i said it makes me more comfortable #and not everyone #because it's not true for everyone #but it's becoming more and more true over time #because despite the fearmongering #things are better than they were #if you can't recognize the fact that we are better off with corporate pride #than with being burned at the stake or being run behind trucks or getting mass fired and murdered and kicked out of home #then you don't need to be on this post #and don't talk to me about how corps and politicians are paying for those behaviors to continue #they've always done that #and now they are digging themselves into a hole #because we call them out and the public listens #the point #is to say there is value to having a seat at the capitialist table #having public opinoin on our side #it means we have more power to call out politicians and corporations for their hypocrisy #it means we have an audience who is listening #so shut the fuck up #trying to explain on this post what rainbow capitalism #the people on this post and I already know #and i'd rather use it

[transmascchiato]

#first ever comic #im always looking for transmasc comics so #i made my own #hope it resonates with someone too #trans pride #transmasc #trans comic #transgender #transexual #trans experience #top surgery #my art #trans artist

[chrissy-kaos]

Welp my day started out great. Went for an amazing afternoon walk with Koala through the woods and over a gorgeous metal bridge. But now I’m in the ER because some asshole decided to run her over with his bike. Looks like she might have a broken/sprained ankle and a concussion. 😭

#can’t catch a break #it’s always something #trans #transgender #trans pride #transisbeautiful #mtf #transgirl #girlslikeus #mtf hrt #maletofemale #transformation #trans women #trans woman #trans women are beautiful #trans women are women #trans women are amazing #trans positivity #transexual #transsexual #actually trans #this is what trans looks like #trans community #trans feminine #mtf trans #trans fem #trans goddess #trans is beautiful #trans is sexy #trans people

[gracelesstars]

SHUT UP, IT’S HIS MOMENT! THERE’RE NO MORE IMPORTANT NEWS THAN THE ANGEL BEING GAY!!! 

(news source for those who don’t understand this)

#don't let the second part of this meme distract u from the most important point: #CAS IS GAY EVERYBODY!!! #thank you Misha #always good to be reminded of this #it's been 2.5yrs but it still feels like breaking news every time #supernatural #SPN #castiel #Misha Collins #lgbt #lgbtq+ #pride month #original

[lazycranberrydoodles]

getting back into the untamed and i had a thought. / follow for more yllz babygirlism

#i saw someone a while ago talking about how wwx always has good intentions…. #his personal road to hell was paved with good intentions yes but i’m not sure where making a guy eat his own legs fits #it is so funny to me how the tiger tally/yin iron influences wei wuxian differently in each adaptation #i remember making a sliding scale of how ‘culpable’ wwx is from adaptation to adaptation #based on how they portray the mental effects of the iron #but for the life of me i cannot find it :( #wwx really said ‘if i had a cursed amulet i simply wouldnt be corrupted🙄🙄’ #that’s basically what he tells lan zhan in this episode…. if necromancy was having ill effects i would notice #and you know. at this point he is lying about everything. but i do wonder how much he actually believes that 👁️👁️ #how much of his mind is resigned to doing whatever needs to be done to exact revenge regardless of harm to himself #and how much genuinely believes that he’s smart and competent enough to make it through whole #the answer of course is BOTH!! bisexual pride #mdzs #art #mdzs spoilers #wei wuxian #lan wangji #wangxian #mo dao zu shi #grandmaster of demonic arts #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #my art #the grandmaster of diabolism #cql #the untamed #魔道祖师 #陈情令 #mdzs meme #doodle #lmao

[toboldlymuppet]

to a brighter journey

#izzy hands #israel hands #trans #trans joy #trans pride #our flag means death #izzy hands made me nb and trans ofc ill always keep him close to my heart #ofmd

[obsob]

happy and proud!!

✷(print shop)✷

#mine #original #sm how managed 2 miss pride month....but its pride month every month in this house hold #ive read two bad YA books so far this month as a break from th 2nd farseer book but now.....i am back.........i am reading th 3rd one #its gna make my brain explode i can feel it #n then idk what i will read. maybe th hands of th emperor #could i read smth other than 800 page epic fantasy pls #the YA books werent too bad for YA but they hve that YA cringe 2 it. idk how u people read it constantly #if i hve 2 read th word 'heck' one more time #also theres always like. disney channel vibes. like i read gay YA romance n its so sanitised n vanilla. its so superficial #like i get this is for 16 year olds but were is the longing. the yearing. these guys are fanfic tropes stuck 2gether 2 glue. #also. what is with nearly every mlm romance / fantasy being YA not adult fiction. whats up w that #anyway hve a good evenin im gna do knitting!!!!!!!!!!!!

[bisclavaret]

trans/form- happy belated tdov!!

#trans pride #trans artist #werewolves #werewolf #transmasc #I don’t draw trans werewolves nearly as much as I think about them #which is always #and I do draw trans werewolf art a lot #my art #the inherent transgenderism of transformation #in becoming something that is both and yet neither and also whatever you want it to be #something entirely new and unique #didn’t spend the last three years of my degree researching and making art about horror and werewolves and the gender of it all for nothing

[sharpesjoy]

Love is not something we wind up, something we set or control. Love is just like art. A force that comes into our lives without any rules, expectations or limitations.

SENSE8 | Death Doesn't Let You Say Goodbye (1.09)

#*mine #sense8edit #sense8 #hernando fuentes #dailylgbtq #lgbt #tvedit #cinematv #cinemapix #pride #pride month #dailytvfilmgifs #userstream #useroptional #dailyflicks #chewieblog #userbbelcher #i miss this show #so much #always makes me cry

[doggirlhen]

the thing is you have to get a good grade in being an art commissioner. you cannot be a bitch when paying for art. you have to be patient and nice. i have not been perfect in my years of paying other furries for art of my funny animals but i can, with confidence, say ive gotten a good grade. artist friends of mine agree im awesome and fankly the Keys to being Awesome at being a commissioner are just like. being nice and recognizing artists arent machines. theyre people who have their own lives and are not infront of their tablet drawing for everyone 24/7. youll find them posting about some game or movie when youve been waiting three weeks for something and thats fine. youll find them having difficulty getting something exactly like how it is in your brain because, like all people, they cannot read your mind. you gotta have everything ready and upfront and be ready to answer questions. its fine to be a little nitpicky and a little "sorry im not quite sure on this pose, could you do X Y and Z" and not be an asshole about it. after a certain number of "can you do X different" you have to realize its either not going to be exactly how you want it to be or the artist is going to want to kill you with hammers. and thats fine. i think artists have every right to want to kill you with hammers.

#barks #rambling sorry #im friends with many artists and have the privilege of sometimes hearing them bitch about awful clients #and i take such pride in so far not being one of those #ive had my moments. i will not say im perfect i have for sure pissed of friends of mine being nitpicky #but in pieces where i want a high level of finesse and specificity ive always mentioned that from the getgo #and offered to pay past a certain amount of fixes #this isnt on my mind for any particular reason im not between many comms atm #idk just. be nice to artists #if youre an artist friend of mine and yo uwant to leave any notes or anything in the replies please be my guest