#I was used and emotionally abused

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

but also like. guys you don’t need to leave the minecraft youtube community bc one person is bad to clarify. like. shelby is a minecraft youtuber. a lot of her friends are minecraft youtubers. those friends are supportive and as far as we know all believe her. the vast majority of minecraft youtubers are like. fine. this shit is something that Happens because Abusers are Manipulative, going to another hobby will Not shield you from anything and you’re not immoral for liking something bad people also liked. which is. one of the biggest video games ever. like in this situation no one was knowingly harbouring an abuser and it seems everyone was supportive. this is just a case of some people being shit, not anything to do with mcyt. hell, the guy hasn’t been on minecraft in like a year lmao.

i fully understand why the content might be uncomfortable to you guys now but like, please don’t self flagellate and cut yourself off from an entire genre of media because of one guy again. i saw that happen after the dream stuff and a lot of people ended up losing important things because they made rash decisions and felt like they Had to leave. but please. take one deep fucking breath. this has happened before. this has happened so much before, and in ways far worse than this. because abusers, unfortunately, exist. you should not feel guilty for being manipulated by a manipulative abuser, don’t blame yourself. do what you have to, but please, please keep in mind that the majority of minecraft youtube is fine. it is fine to continue engaging with it. it’s fine to be manipulated by an abuser and it’s not your fault. please don’t make rash decisions and end up losing things you care deeply about and being unable to get them back. distance yourself all you want, but please be careful to not do so out of emotional self harm from the guilt. that’s something this fandom encourages far too much- even outside of this- and it’s unhealthy and anyone expecting it of you is cruel.

#mcyt #abuse tw #i guess this is discourse idk but like #this happened two years ago and the amount of people who realised cutting themselves off from All mcyt was self harm and came back #only to have lost a lot of content they created and valued because they wanted to punish themselves for trusting a predator #and like. you’re victim blaming yourself. obviously you are not anywhere near as much a victim as The victim #but being manipulated into supporting abusers is still something that is an action they take to harm others #Being used as a tool to silence others unknowingly is a cruel thing and can be traumatic to go through #its honestly really concerning as someone working on their own emotional self harm to see it. like this isn’t about anyone in specific but #guys. emotionally self harming isn’t helping. you don’t need punishment. breathe and think through things.

[bonefall]

How many posts do you have on dotc? also, i havent seen it before if you have, but you talked about the huge battle where starclan spontaneously pops into existence in order to tell everyone to stop fighting

TONS. It's the most frequent canon material I post about here. It's usually tagged #Warrior Cats Analysis.

I am also doing a live re-read and have been for a couple months. It started on this blog as #Bonefall Reads DOTC, and continued over on my other blog @bonebabbles as #Bones Reads DOTC, so that I was spamming my followers less.

I usually tag my harshest posts with #DOTC Hate out of respect to the main tag.

#Yes i have talked about the Firbst Babble before #I want to break it down into a serious analysis because it was during my read #And I was mostly just screaming. I want to articulate my thoughts on it #Because every character is so *fucking stupid* during that exchange it's oscar-worthy #Gray has the KING of worthless ideas to attempt Appeasement 4: It Will Totally Work This Time #And it turns out the big ass plan that he came up with. The closer. The silver bullet... #Is blinking puppydog eyes at the sadistic tyrant and going ''do you remember how we used to run'' #But also youre unfortunately a little wrong about how the fight ends. #Clear ends it because killing women and children is fine but not his bootlicking brother. HIM he'll just emotionally abuse. #You see this is because hes misunderstood and was good all along but just very scared of not having jesus. #Or something. #Dotc hate

[sadbloodbag]

i think movie vanessa is criminally underrated. regardless of your feelings about the game/comic lore, the movie is it’s own canon and she is an incredible character. she is a three-dimensional, complex, traumatized character and i think a lot of the hate surrounding her is a classic example of Fandom (not just the fnaf fandom, this happens in ALL fandoms) demonizing female characters for the same traits they praise in male characters. everyone is thirsting after afton, a child serial killer, yet somehow vanessa is worse cuz she’s *checks notes* a cop?? i thought the movie was great and i loved all the characters especially vanessa, and i really hope they expand more on her backstory in future movies. she is a survivor of childhood trauma, she helped kill her abuser and made friends along the way, she saved a kid’s life!! can we get appreciation for my girl pLEASE?

#i don’t APPROVE of her being a cop but we can all agree that william forced her to #he literally made her coverup his crimes and he was still actively emotionally abusing her #and she ended the man’s life to stop it! #let’s use our thinking caps people! #vanessa afton #five nights at freddy's #fnaf movie #fnaf movie spoilers #fnaf #vanessa fnaf #personal #ranting #might delete later idk lol ignore me

[m4ndysk4nkovich]

i wonder what the response would’ve been from the fandom if mickey had been the one to not sign the marriage license in 10x08🤷‍♀️ i feel like people often give mickey the benefit of the doubt, but never ian. ian was open about the fact that he did it because of his parents, so i wonder if mickey had said that people would’ve sided with him. i feel like people don’t acknowledge what frank and monica did to ian as abuse that often, because it’s always compared to what terry did to mickey. it’s really not a competition even if terry’s actions were more horrific and extreme

#ive talked about this so many times but wtv #seriously though ian was physically mentally emotionally and sexually abused growing up #he’s traumatized and his perception of love is fucked up and although what he did wasn’t great i get it #and again if it were mickey people would get it #because they have a fucked up view of abuse and many people only see it in a certain way #this isn’t anti-mickey we love mickey here and mickey fans but i hate how people treat frank and monica vs terry #they should all be universally hated for what they did to their kids #shameless #ian gallagher #mickey milkovich #shameless us #shameless meta #10x08 #frank gallagher #monica gallagher #terry milkovich #and this isn’t me saying that mickey’s feelings weren’t valid #because i’d be heartbroken too #…although i don’t condone punching ian so hard he falls down the stairs and breaks his leg #but still #gallavich #gallavich meta

[urproblematicfav-arsonk]

If you're writing a radiobelle fic and not putting in direct parallels between the way Alastor treats Charlie and how Val treats Angel then what are you even doing

#this is about Penance #love that fic #the part where Al just straight up lays on top of Charlie for seemingly no reason #he's not like pining her down anything he's just being overwhelming weird and i love him for it #alastor just straight up mounting charlie but somehow its not Like That #im baffled that this person who wrote it isn't ace cuz they are nailing that weird asexual physical affection so well #when u gaslight/emotionally abuse ur gf and its time to use physical affection to further trap her in but ur ace so u just?? lay on her???? #hazbin hotel #charlastor #radiobelle #alastor the radio demon #charlie morningstar #mothdust

[mswyrr]

Things like prolonged abuse can give people very uneven social and emotional development. They can be very responsible and "mature for your age" in some areas and also very stunted and immature in others.

This can also happen for, say, LGBT people who were closeted during pivotal periods of development too, where dating and discovering themselves happens later and there can be a development gap for a time. And grief around never getting to be a kid when they were a kid can be a thing for people once they try to connect with the things they had to cut off because they weren't safe to feel them. I went through some of that myself, from various sources, so I have a lot of empathy for that and how absurd/frustrating it can be.

(And a lot of hope - it doesn't, as far as I've seen and experienced, take someone very long to "catch up" after a while of fumbling around like an idiot)

Anyway - sometimes I see people reading Carmy's "accidental fuckboi" behavior in terms of how a grown man who's been dating since he was a teen would be thinking/feeling, if he behaved like that. But, for me, I interpret that differently because of the “first” situation and the developmental stuff. IMO, he's basically being a feckless/inexperienced teenager dating for the first time here, because in this area of his life he is still developmentally a dumb feckless teenager (and one who is trying and failing "not to be shitty" without much of a clue what that looks like).

Doesn't make the harm less real, but the intent I think is shaped deeply by the fact that, for the first time in his life, he feels safe enough (because of how much responsibility Sydney and Nat are taking on and that is absolutely not fair to them!!) to try to enjoy things. And he thinks maybe he can even make that work with being responsible somehow, but... utterly clueless about how.

There's the caveat that he didn't go out and choose to start dating at this pivotal moment for the business - dating found him and there's complexities around how much he wanted it to find him right here and now and how much he feels obligated to be what his family/friends/Claire wants him to be. I think he'd have been able to turn down anyone who wasn't as deeply tied to his family as Claire, and I'm not ignoring his agency in the situation, but they chose to bring someone in who he'd find it incredibly difficult to balance pleasing/doing what he's expected to do by while balancing everything else for a reason.

The "executive function" stuff where he's staring at the calls coming in and unable to answer either of them is key for me, in terms of this being someone who just isn't functioning well rn at all and is coming to a real crisis point and trying to ignore that/salve that any way he can think of. Masking really hard and deep in denial and trying to keep a lot of plates spinning without being very intentional about any of it.

It leads to sucky behavior and he's responsible for that--and the other characters can and should hold him responsible for that, but especially for actually addressing the core gravity warping untreated mental illness that's motivating a lot of this frantic rushing around and being a prick-- but I don't personally see much of it as a crime of intent. Intent requires a level of insight and experience that he doesn't have in the area of dating specifically lol

That balance of someone being responsible for their actions but also, for various reasons, in a place that mitigates and shapes what they're able to do--based on the tools they have--is an interesting part of the story that gets touched on again and again through various characters. It's interesting and it can coexist with the people around someone having the right to protect their own peace and boundaries.

#carmen berzatto #sydcarmy #the bear meta #the bear #my meta #who among us was a model of perfect #insight and understanding #with the very first person they ever dated? #long post #i couldn't possibly hate or vilify claire - i am thankful to her #for being his first girlfriend #so sydney doesn't have to be and deal with that fumbling around bs! #lol #the writers chose to make claire his first ever girlfriend #for a reason #they chose to talk about #being emotionally/socially stunted due to abuse #and chose to have it be claire #in a normal life #claire would have been his high school girlfriend #but -- this is not a normal life #'you can never go back / and the answer is no' #'and wishing for it only makes it bleed' as tom waits put it

[thewingedwolf]

luther: the golden child

diego: the mastermind

allison: the peace keeper

klaus: the clown / mascot

five: the rebel / truth teller

ben: the lost child

viktor: the scapegoat

is this something i think this is something

#the umbrella academy #rani makes text posts no one will read #hargreeves siblings #ben being the lost child is kind of forced bc he’s dead but i find it interesting even then #bc ben was unique in the family for already hating being a superhero and his powers due to the horror of them. and however it is he died #it had to be horrific bc viktor doesn’t write about it in his book bc five doesn’t know what happened. and before he died ben’s unique self #awareness seems to have meant they all loved him in a normal way only for his death to poison those bonds completely #so through no decision of his own this very sullen and cranky child has to become a self sacrificing wallflower bc the only way he gets to #even exist is if he takes care of klaus and tries to sober him up. his big moment is sacrificing himself for his siblings! they can’t ever #escape the abuse that reginald heaped onto them!! even in death they’re playing roles reginald forced them into #and sparrow ben is clearly so used to being the manipulator so he’s thrown when his family dies and sloane refuses to be manipulated anymore #and he winds up kind of lost child esque accidentally *anyway* - ignored and repressing his feelings and unable to connect emotionally #also before anyone says diego is too stupid to be the mastermind google ‘the mastermind dysfunctional family role’ it doesn’t require you to #not be a himbo only to be willing to be cruel & as they all say in s1 diego never knows when to stop #pogo is an adult enabler. grace has a weird function bc the umbrella kids love her and diego is convinced she killed reginald bc of abuse #five seems similarly attached to her (makes sense given delores) but the others see her more as an enabler which is INTERESTING #i’m gonna stop rambling now

[pyr0cue]

Man I try not to get involved in online trans discourse because it’s so fucking stupid. But something about watching a 16 year old nonbinary kid be beaten to death by cis girls while people debate what kind of trans person has it “the worst” is just. So tiring. We are so focused on debating the validity and morality of different genders while children are being beaten and left to die by their peers and adults who are supposed to protect them. Does anyone else feel like they are going insane.

#idk maybe it was someone threatening to stab me for being trans #or maybe it was watching the people who called me and my trans friends slurs physically attempt and succeed to harm us #get no consequences not only from adults but my peers #or maybe it was watching my friend literally be abused by their parents out of identifying as trans #or being told I was addressing transphobia too emotionally #all while supposedly living in a progressive state #but I truly and honestly do not care whether you think nonbinary people are less oppressed #than binary trans people or not. truly and honestly I do not care #because I have seen in my incredibly short life so much violence directed at any trans person #regardless of the direction they transitioned #because newsflash. transphobes don’t care if you amab or afab they think you don’t deserve to live no matter what #THIS TURNED KIND OF INTO A VENT #but guys WHAT are we doinggg. what are we doing. #vent

[fernsnouveau]

What if we suggested that if you can't defend the Miraculous S5 ending without sounding like Mother Gothel, don't do it at all?

#of course the other option of just making completely baseless claims isn't that great either #ml s5 criticism #ml writing salt #ml writing criticism #ml critical #(I don't like that tag but whatever) #ml s5 finale #abuse #abuse apologism #whatever the writers may have intended. the thing that they actually produced #turned out abuse apologia and a power fantasy for abusive parents with a god/martyr complex #and a justification for why child abuse victims are just too emotionally immature and volatile to deserve control of their lives #'but Gabriel loved Adrien!!!' okay do you have any idea how many abusers use that to justify violating their victims? #it's sincerely jarring how comfortable the fandom has become with abuse apologia ever since the s5 finale. #it makes the fandom kinda unsafe to navigate for abuse victims who might not wanna keep running into people #repeating the same justifications ad nauseaum that irl abusers use.

[ourflagmeansgayrights]

i feel like ppl (izzy fans especially) rlly get hung up on the toe scene and seeing it like "what if this happened in real life??" or even just "what if this happened in a realistic show that placed moral judgement on characters for enacting physical violence??" and like YEAH in real life i think having your toe cut off and fed to you would be Pretty Fucking Traumatizing and you'd probably be the victim of the situation, not the guy feeding you your own toe. and in MOST shows, if someone's feeding ppl their own toes, that's probably a bad guy

but one of my favorite things abt ofmd is how it DOESNT make moral statements about physical violence. like, ever. this show never takes a stance on when it's okay to kill people, or how much violence you can do while still being a good person. because all the important characters are fucking pirates! if this show tried to take a realistic approach to the morality of physical violence it would get really hypocritical really, really fast!

what matters in ofmd isn't whether the characters are physically violent or not, it's how the characters feel about being the ones to enact violence.

buttons and roach both enjoy violence in a slapstick goofy way that's meant as comedic relief. jim clearly has no regrets about murdering the man who killed their family, but they're not that enthusiastic about going on a whole revenge killing spree and hunting down six (or five, now) other guys. stede at the beginning is somewhat afraid of violence, and is insecure about how afraid he is, but i do think his feelings about violence are changing and will continue to change in the next season(s).

izzy considers violence a requirement to be a real pirate (aka a Real Man) and is loyal to ed so long as he thinks ed is willing to use violence to maintain power and control

and ed. ed actually doesn't like physically hurting people! he's deeply traumatized by murdering his own father, so much so that he's made up weird rules about when someone's death is his fault as a way to distance himself from the violence that is necessitated by his profession! when those rules are called into question, and his responsibility in people's death scrutinized, he gets uncomfortable! all ed wants is to leave behind his violent lifestyle and go enjoy a hedonistic lifestyle for the rest of his life!!

but it's not that ofmd doesn't have a moral compass. in the fictional world of ofmd, "morality" (aka When Characters Are Rewarded/Punished By The Narrative) has two axes: colonialism and emotional vulnerability

the first one is pretty straight forward and has been talked abt a lot already so quick summary: in ofmd, when characters are explicitly and maliciously racist (british navy in e1, rich french people in e5) or side with european colonizers (izzy in e9), they face physical harm. british soldiers in e1 get beat up, the french ppl in e5 get their ship burnt down, and izzy nearly gets thrown overboard in e9, and in e10... yknow. toes.

as for Emotional Vulnerability, that's the whole fucking core of the show. people being their authentic selves, openly expressing their emotions and clearly stating their emotional needs, that's the end goal for every character who's gonna get a happy ending. characters denying parts of themselves, suppressing their desires and contorting themselves to fit into a certain box they feel obligated to get into—that's what our protagonists are trying to unlearn.

in e10, izzy is trying to force ed back into the blackbeard box. he demands ed return to the role that makes him unhappy, a role that requires physical violence to maintain. and ed goes, and we know, we are told, like, multiple fucking times before and after that this is not what ed wants to be doing. ed has stated, over and over again, that he's tired of being blackbeard, that he wants to pack it all in, that he wants to do the things that make ed happy. we learn in e6 that he's actually been traumatized by his OWN PHYSICAL VIOLENCE!!! and he even talks about feeding ppl their own toes as a fucking example of shit he Does Not Want To Do!!!! and the last fucking shot of him we have is him literally sobbing his eyes out!!!!!!!

yes, in real fucking life, and in almost any other story, izzy would be the victim of the toe scene

in the fictional world of ofmd, in the narrative of a slapstick pirate romcom that we're being told, ED IS THE PRIMARY VICTIM IN THE TOE SCENE. ED IS THE ONE WHO IS SUFFERS MORE IN THAT SCENE

#ofmd #our flag means death #ofmd meta #izzy hands #edward teach born on a beach #edward teach #blackbeard #dizzy izzy #if this post is in the izcourse tag no it isnt u just dont know how to use tumblr #mine #txt #og #meta #izzy critical #WOW i got. kinda heated there fhjgkshylrykghbkugl #anyway get some fucking reading analysis skills for the love of fucking god. this gay pirate show is not real life #physical violence in ofmd is not held to the same moral standard it is in real life. bc it's a fucking show about pirates #and also not all violence is physical!!! emotional abuse and mental trauma are both forms of violence!!!! #and some ppl reach SO FUCKING HARD to claim ed emotionally abuses izzy #when like. if you're thinking like that. youve fallen into the ''looking too hard at the characters as real ppl'' trap #and u gotta take a step back and remember what the story is about. remember that ed is a romantic lead and a main protagonist #remember that izzy is a main antagonist and a personification of toxic masculinity #and tell me how it benefits the story for ed to be emotionally abusive towards izzy

[tomwambsmilk]

It's 100% true that the Roy siblings did not choose to be Logan's children and Tom and Greg and the old guard did choose to work for him so their relationships to Logan are fundamentally different, and the degree of culpability they bear for their own moral degradation is also wildly different. But workplace emotional abuse is also very real and omnipresent in the way Logan treats the people who work for him. And one of the impacts of workplace emotional abuse is creating an extreme attachment to the abuser and becoming less cognizant and even defensive of their abuse towards yourself and others, and in cases where the emotional abuse is institutionalized and systemic it can also create a strong aversion to leaving because your whole sense of personal identity becomes wrapped up in the organization and so being forced to leave can cause an intense psychological crisis. I don't think the situation of working for Logan is at all equivalent to being his child but I also think that it's a bit misguided to imply that Tom and Gerri and Frank and Karl are operating from a place of pure rationality without any undue psychological influences when they make the choice to stay with and support Logan

#used to work at a place that had an extremely emotionally abusive president for years and years and the people who worked there long term #were FUCKED UP. it was wild #i think it's easy to overlook that on succ bc it's very secondary to whats going on with the roy family proper. as it should be #but I also think one of the questions succ explores in tom as a character (and others) is how difficult it can be to leave these situations #even if you did choose to get into them #I don't think 'tom can leave at any time' is really a fair assessment bc technically yes. but practically? psychologically? #like yes he bears responsibility for getting himself into this situation due to his own greed and selfishness in a way the roy kids do not #but that doesn't mean it's easy or straightforward to walk away #also. tom is married to shiv which places him in the unique position where the only way to walk away is to cut off both his wife #and the company he's spent his whole life at #he could have NOT married shiv this is very true. and I think the choice to marry her even after she lied to him about sleeping with nate #means that he did have some idea of what he was getting into. he knew this was not going to be the fairytale marriage he wanted #he already knew about cruises too. he knew waystar was corrupt #that moment was the opportunity to walk away and he did NOT take it #and that is on him #but that does not making walking away now any easier

[dollypopup]

I think it's real obvious that if you actually like Colin you don't belong in the Polin fandom. y'all are all so ableist about him and think the absolute worst of him and a huge number of the posts and fics are romanticizing Penelope straight up abusing him

we should make a new tag because this one is NOT it

#polin #bridgerton #penelope featherington #colin bridgerton #there's a fun new trend in fics where instead of 'just' emotionally and mentally abusing him Penelope is now hitting him too #and the narrative justifies it and colin thinks it's his fault she hits him and everyone cheers in the comments isn't that great? #oh did i say great? i meant fucking awful #you can tell this fandom is painfully tradwife levels straight because they think women who do this shit is cute or harmless #us queer women who have been abused by other women know damn well fanon penelope is the kind of girl you run away from with a swiftness #but colin's just a big stupid dummy for 1 (one) comment and not assuming her feelings for him so he needs to be slapped around i guess #i hate it here #burn the whole fandom to the ground and start from scratch #and we're SURPRISED there's an anti-polin blog? WE'RE anti-polin ffs #everyone and their mother knows 'Polin' actively hates half their ship #and are incredibly hostile to anyone who doesn't slobber all over penelope's shoes as she mistreats her supposed love interest and friends #and yeah i'm bitter about it #also i'll say it: the way we talk about Luke Newton is fucking unacceptable too #he's a neurodivergent man and some of the shit y'all say is DISGUSTING #this fandom is actively antagonistic to nd peeps

[sholb]

"jiang cheng would never turn out to be like mmy well because he was scared of her" that's called tragedy bruv that's called the cycle of abuse

#''he gives jin ling zidian and jin ling chooses not to use it!!'' yeah cause it represents thee cycle of abuse #also let's pretend jc never physically abused jl and jl feels physically safe with him. #there is textual evidence—and by this i mean it is simply fact—that he is an emotionally unsafe presence for jl #like on the most basic level #''he's trying!'' well no he's not but also if he was he is tragically failing. rip

[dazais-guardian-angel]

kinda wild to me that one of the most compelling aspects of both Chuuya and Kunikida's characters to me, that I never really see talked about, is how they're heavily set on a doomed crash course towards complete and utter destruction, and how I am so, so worried for them both.....

#bungou stray dogs #been thinking a lot about chuuya lately (shocking for me i know (said with no sarcasm truly lmao it is rare for me)) #cause of the 15 manga and also playing the fucking jeht quest in genshin impact ugh (where's the one dual genshin bsd fan who Understands) #but like this pressure has been building up for chuuya for so long due to being used and manipulated by all these people #first the sheep then mori then verlaine then still mori now #he was groomed since childhood just like dazai #but unlike dazai he didn't have an oda to help him get out of the mafia........ he's still stuck there #and his personality is different from dazai's. dazai was more self-aware imo (but still a groomed emotionally abused kid don't get me wrong #but chuuya's whole thing is needing to belong and wanting a leader to be loyal to but ending up in positions of leadership himself #which makes him feel pressured but he accepts and stifles any negative feelings just because he wants to belong #and all this crushed him with the events in the light novels and yeah he went through character growth but he's...... Still In The Mafia... #and that fucking scene asagiri added to the cannibalism stage play i don't think hardly anyone even knows about bc IT'S NOT DISCUSSED ANYMO #where mori emotionally manipulates him with the flags!!! and it deeply hurts him!!! and he presumably deals with that shit all the time!!! #it is WORRISOME. it WORRIES ME okay. #chuuya doesn't have anyone who can save him from the mafia (dazai is in no position to okay; it's all he can do just to try to save himself #and it's so so scary. it spells awful things for him. #didn't asagiri say he'd have a rough path or something??? and he added that fucking scene in the play!!! it haunts me!! #i fully expected this shit to hit a turning point in the meursault arc but we can't have nice things i guess #and as for kunikida a;lskdfl (took me this long to get to him oop) literally the ending of Entrance Exam (the novel) is just #One Big Foreshadowing for Kunikida's downfall #he's compared to the azure king for a reason. Sasaki saw the azure king in him for a reason. it's fucking worrying!!!!! #there hasn't really been anything like that since in the manga (just like for chuuya lol ugh) but he's TERRIBLE at coping with his trauma #and it only gets more apparent once shit hit the fan in the doa/hunting dogs/meursault arc #it's not good!!! i'm worried for kunikida too!!!! #even if the manga isn't focusing on this these worries are always in the back of my mind man #both kunikida and chuuya are doomed to hit some kind of breaking point eventually and i await those moments with dread yet anticipation #i want dazai to be able to save kunikida from the despair being too good a person brings the way he couldn't save oda #and chuuya.... if we get a scene with him & mori mirroring the one in dark era where dazai finds out that mori orchestrated the kids' death #oh man i think i'll fucking die (give it to me i need to cry)

[bypatia]

why is my family like succession but without the money?

#I mean if we’re all going to be emotionally abuse each other it might as well be for a financial gain #like what’s the ‘intellectual driven family’ narrative going to do? #hold respect in society? #what fucking society? #what are you going off on? #like literally what’s the fucking point? #emotional abuse #mother wound #daddy issues #etc etc #is there one for granddaddy issues as well? #cats rants #if I’m Shiv Roy so are my sisters #so fucking weird that the most well adjusted for all of us lmao #but that’s trickle down patriarchy for you #the other brother is a psychological experiment lab rat though so I guess that cancels it out #succession #*most well adjusted is our brother

[dark-elf-writes]

One of my most culture shock things with working with non neurodivergent people is when I realized (after it was screamed in my face by a fully grown man in front of several patients when I was like nineteen) is that while I see “my bad” as a way to accept fault and quite literally say “yeah I fucked that up” it’s actually seen as an excuse???? Or at least a very casual way to push of blame and???? How am I supposed to know that???

#the elf talks #I hated that job #the doctor would scream at us constantly and I am both terrified of men and willing to fight anyone who reminds me of my dad so #it was tense tbh #also I never introduced myself to him as lex only Lexi and it took me months to realize this man who was emotionally abusing all of us was #calling me lex and I was big uncomfy with it like #you don’t get to #make me cry and then call me by a nickname like use the whole two syllables you bastard #don’t know why I thought of this today but yeah