#Complaining a lot recently

[herebythebays]

now, by no means is Jughead (in the comics) ugly. But also. I’ve been noticing that recent Archie comic spin-offs or whatever such as Big Ethel Energy, for example, have been giving him more. I don’t know, like chiseled features? And also have been just making him not look like himself. Like I understand the long nose is unrealistic but atleast Jughead (2015) tried to execute it in a somewhat “realistic” way that also stays true to his design bc look at this comparison 😭

I get it’s also a matter of artstyle and all but. That’s just a whole different guy atp.

#archie comics #Idk I feel like I’ve been #Complaining a lot recently #jughead jones #big ethel energy #jughead (2015) #riverdale

[superbeeny]

It's interesting that Deku's thought about that time Iida held his hand during the 'save Deku' storyline twice so far. As if Deku wants to do for Tenko what Iida did for him (ie the hero who will take the hand of a lost child).

#like I think this makes it obvious why Iida is popular in Japan despite not having any juggernaut-level popular ships #he's a good class president. Japanese fans seemingly don't complain about his screentime and role cuz he plays the role he has well #tagging cuz MAJOR spoilers for this recent arc (even if it's something a lot of people suspected would happen eventually) #bnha #mha #boku no hero academia #my hero academia #mha spoilers #mha 419 #bnha 419 #deku #izuku midoriya #iida tenya #bnha meta #mha meta #tenko shimura #shigaraki tomura

[cozy-the-overlord]

Seeing people complain about the Speak Now vault tracks being too teenagery …. gee, you’d almost think a teenager wrote them /s

#i feel like it’s a lose lose situation #because if they’re ‘too mature’ like on the red vault people accuse her of writing them recently #but if they’re ‘too immature’ people complain about them being not as good #i for one really like the speak now vault #it may not be as deep as red but i think it’s still really eye-opening #like the kinds of things she was thinking about but felt she couldn’t share #idk maybe it’s because i was a Small Child when speak now came out #and it was really the first album i ever became obsessed with #and as a result i idolized taylor as this beacon of perfection and grown-up-ness #like obviously I’ve long since recognized that she was still a child in a lot of ways in that era #but hearing the vault tracks really made her feel like a Real Teenager to me in a way i never had before? #like the anxiety on electric touch #the insecurity on when emma falls in love #the hopefulness tinged with self-loathing/self-criticalness on foolish one #the wattpad-tinged fantasy of i can see you #idk i feel like teenage me would have related to all that a lot in a way that i never did with her other music #idk i’m rambling #i need to go to bed #taylor swift #speak now taylor’s version

[atthebell]

y'all have GOT to stop having terminal "this thing is popular so i have to tear it to shreds no matter what" syndrome qsmp fandom is not more toxic than any other mcyt subfandom and is LEAGUES above dsmp. you have got to be fucking joking me calling it worse than 2021 dsmp fandom be fr

#bell.txt #also all the complaining recently about livestreaming feels very targeted which is so funny to me #these people are streamers. they dont want to edit their content down and they dont have to #people do not owe you neatly edited 15-50min long edits #esp not when they're doing a lot of lore pretty regularly #if its not your speed its not your speed #but its not objectively bad. it's just not for you #also you do not need to watch every single person no one is doing that its literally impossible

[captainofthetidesbreath]

I still don't understand people who think that Caduceus is annoyed or even mad that he wasn't included / contacted about Uk'otoa.

Firstly, Taliesin said that Caduceus is fine. Second, he's probably glad they didn't so he didn't have to reject helping a friend with a problem in favor of needing to cast a spell every day for a year. Third, Caduceus is a homebody who spent the entire campaign looking forward to living quietly at home and in the post-campaign is perfectly content leaving home only sometimes in a decade.

Like, there's no reason for Caduceus to be annoyed at all, really, so I don't know why there's still that going on.

#Thinking about posts I saw recently that went 'Caduceus is going to complain they didn't invite him to the LAST adventure in the live show' #as if there isn't six and a half years in between and he'd be annoyed #honestly ime a lot of this comes out of FANS being annoyed Taliesin chose not to play Caduceus and believe that Caduceus is sidelined #so they're projecting their annoyance onto Caduceus who has no reason to be annoyed #Critical Role things #CR

[dribs-and-drabbles]

Isn't it about time GMMTV dropped a new trailer??

Both The Jungle and Hidden Agenda finished without a new trailer in the end credits, so the Mon/Tues slot was empty last week and it seems the Sun slot will not be filled this week...

Are Cooking Crush, 23.5, and Last Twilight really not ready yet?

#cooking crush #23.5 #23.5 the series #23.5 degrees #last twilight #and I'm sure there's some het stuff still not aired #why the wait? #is it intentional I wonder #or have things been delayed? #Oh! is it because they're getting things ready for gmmtv live 2024? #I shouldn't complain I suppose #there have been A LOT of series recently and I've not had enough time to watch them all

[cuntylittlesalmon]

I came across one of your posts criticising Delilah Green, and the radfem-esque rhetoric of Ashley Herring Blake's works. I agree, I completely despised her works. But every time one of my friends or I spoke about it, we were criticised on bookstagram and book twt. I was curious to know your thoughts on these books, if you are okay with it.

i am aaaaaaalways down to talk shit about bad books! i’ve felt completely isolated in the larger sapphic bookish spheres because i hated AHB’s work, i’m glad to have found another one of us 🫶

this’ll be under a cut because it’ll be incredibly long, as every instance of me criticizing these books has been

DGDC - delilah green doesn’t care

APDF - astrid parker doesn’t fail

AHB - ashley herring blake

SO!

these books suck. lmao. i don't think they're particularly interesting on the character-level, or the world-level, or the prose-level, or really anything at all. there are scenes here and there where i can see what AHB can do but she's too busy trying to seem like the funniest and the most progressive white cis woman out there--of course, without doing any of the actual work that comes with deconstructing the racist, transphobic, and homophobic ideology she grew up with as a person from the united states.

which leads me into my first complaint: everything to do with emery and their pronouns. every single thing in that scene felt like pandering, and the pronoun sharing aspect felt like word salad that needed to be edited down to a single sentence of "And then everyone else shared their pronouns". we're already deeply aware that every single person in this book sans emery is cis, i don't need that shoved into my face further with a cis woman expounding upon how she's terrified that she's going to fuck up somehow in sharing her own pronouns. unnecessary bullshit, since i'm guessing the point was to show that astrid is insecure, particularly around industry professionals, but with a slightly funny slant to it. this was not the place to show that, especially when there are so many other instances both before and after this part that show her anxieties better.

and frankly, in sharing this part with a friend, they thought it was astrid being insecure about getting emery's pronouns correct which....if your cute lil romcom protag can be see as an annoying and borderline transphobic cissie when they come face to face with a nonbinary person for the first time because your prose just sucks ass......maybe you shouldn't include that lol

and i think that leans in a lot to the "humor" of these books. at one point in ADPF, delilah makes a joke about fighting someone "like a lesbian", which in her eyes (and somewhat therefore AHB's eyes) means gazing disapprovingly at someone and making her mouth "look like a butthole" (paraphrasing, but not the butthole part. she really says butthole). i'm assuming this was supposed to be funny, but it fell so fucking flat with me. like, these books are supposed to be romcoms. romantic fucking comedies. but most of the humor is so deeply steeped in white millennialisms that it's actually unfunny unless you're like my gen x mother who spends 90% of her time on facebook.

which, i suppose that's my biggest gripe with the books, and with AHB herself. it's a lot of self-serving nonsense, with little to no introspection about why certain things are included versus not. i mean, i can say that about a lot of popular romance novels, but thats beside the point. there is no reckoning with institutions, despite all of the call backs to how rich people suck, or how white people suck, or how men suck. it's all so very wink-wink-nudge-nudge, "im in the know, can't you tell?", correct terminology wrong ideology kinda of stuff. ok yeah, white people as the institution suck. i think we all know that. but also, ashley, every single important character, every single side character (save a couple), and every single background character (save a couple), are all white. you are actively participating in the "white is default" ideology that you seemingly dislike and make fun of in your book. so which is it?

this disconnect between AHB's story choices (all white main cast, etc) and the prose-level choices is so fucking obvious throughout the entire body of both books:

the lesbian main characters cannot call themselves lesbians, but one will call themself dyke without a second thought.

the trans-positive lesbian main characters will talk about dating/being attracted to nonbinary people, but do not have any nonbinary friends, do not talk to any nonbinary people, and the one nonbinary character included thus far speaks one (maybe twice) just to give their pronouns.

the lesbian main characters call themselves butch (or are called so by other wlw (but not lesbian) characters) and yet are still conventionally feminine in their presentations.

men are the worst people in the world, and yet josh (an ex of claire from DGDC) is consistently trying to atone for his past harm, and within the story we're given, is like, an actually alright guy.

men are the worst people in the world, and yet the worst actions taken against iris was not by her ex-boyfriend, but by her butch girlfriend (which. i have a lot of thoughts on this).

the books say they believe one thing, but are never backed up with actually evidence that this is the case.

and so, when i say the books have some radfem-y bullshit in them, this is largely what im talking about. i have no clue if AHB herself is a radfem, or exactly what she believes in. im not combing through her twitter account because she as a person annoys me, and anyone promoting her work annoys me. but she is participating in some fucked up shit, and the fact that they are so beloved just makes my ass itch and i feel like i need to speak on it more than i already do now 💀

anyway. the radfem-y stuff.

the books use some pretty covert gender essentialism when it comes to the lesbian characters vs the bisexual woman characters. every single lesbian is said to be masculine (specifically butch) while every single bisexual woman (and every single ostensibly straight woman) is, while not called out as feminine, exclusively present femininely. which....is weird. i don't think i have to say why saving masculinity for lesbians (and men) is stereotypical, and kind of gross, especially coming from someone who isn't a lesbian.

but wait! its worse! masculinity (regardless of how prescriptive vs. descriptive it is) in these books are very much associated with emotionally unavailability and callousness toward the feminine (emotional) counterpart. and really, its even worse when you compare difference within the lesbian characters (delilah, jordan, and iris' girlfriend).

delilah and jordan, when you actually examine them, are feminine presenting. they both wear red lipstick, eyeliner "sharp enough to kill a man", and in delilah's case, heels. the most masculine aspects about them is that they don't wear skirts or dresses. literally. whereas, iris's girlfriend in APDF, who only wears suits, has short cropped hair, never wears makeup, and has a stereotypically masculine job. jordan and delilah are love interests. they're allowed to grow into emotionally available people by their love for their feminine partners. the butch girlfriend, however, is a cheating piece of shit who's entire point is to set up iris' storyline for the third book in the series (a role that could've been done just as well by her ex boyfriend, who she dated in DGDC, instead of what feels like a very pointed and spiteful subplot).

so, it becomes very clear to me that masculinity is the worst thing you can have in these books. none of the men are given grace either, and i touched on it a bit earlier talking about josh. he was flaky as hell with claire and their daughter before the events of DGDC, and so claire (and by extension, her friends iris and astrid) are wary of him when he comes back into her and her daughter's lives. but, for all of that, josh isn't flaky in the book. like he very much steps up to be a good dad to his daughter. is the best? no, obviously. i dont think AHB is capable of writing a "good" character. but he literally doesn't abandon anyone, despite us being constantly told that thats what he does, to the point that when he ends up being unreachable for a couple of days, every single character freaks out and treats him like a monster. iris fucking punches him for this, even though he actually had a good reason. and im not one to defend men like 💀 i am very much a manhater, but like. cmon. it feels entirely unearned. and its that disconnect again. AHB wants you to believe that josh deserves this because he's a man, so of course he's going to be terrible, its what men do, despite him, like, not being terrible.

(and its even worse in APDF, where astrid is literally disgusted to be in his presence point blank, period, even though hes been like. consistently a decent guy.)

and my last piece in this, is natasha rojas. the otherworldly sexy and gorgeous latina host of the reality show in APDF, who literally wears a clitoris necklace. like not only is it leaning on racist stereotyping, but she's the ultimate feminine who wears a literal piece of the vagina. yonic imagery is cool and everything (genuinely, there should be more!) but this is not only extremely heavy handed in a brick-to-the-face kind of way, but also as the Ultimate Feminine, she's this deeply warm and caring and nurturing person, who is never posited as a antagonist or anything despite her positioning as a literal corporate player for HGTV (the hallmark of home renovation. every fucking person on that network is some flavor of conservative). she very much could've been a stand in for the capitalist homogenization of the housing market that HGTV absolutely caters toward, especially when you take into consideration astrid original plan for the house that she's renovating (taking it from very classically victorian to white and grey contemporary), but instead she's positioned as a mouthpiece for the glory of the clit and female sexuality only. which is fucking frustrating. and so fucking weird.

but yeah. AHB has a very white millennial liberal queer view of gender and presentation and sexuality, which in and of itself is very essentialist. but she tries to play out of her biases as a white and cis woman by making in-narrative jokes about it, but they fall completely flat because she has no idea what she's doing, and thus perpetuates the exact same shit she's trying to make fun of. she's got a lot of unchecked bigotry rattling around in that empty brain of hers, which when you're trying to write a feminist book, leans itself to radfem & white feminist ideology (which. lbr. are the fucking same but whatever).

ik this was long as hell but ty everyone who made it to the end for reading 😤🙏💓

#asks #yayyyy being critical about books #TY FOR THIS BTW #i know most of my posts complaining about books lean a lot more into the comedic #but i do genuinely think the bright falls books are like. insidiously bio/gender essentialist #and i hope that people can work to recognize this kind of stuff (i know its a lot more obvious in m/f romance because of the overwhelming #obsession with the size difference between the f lead and the m lead) when its more quiet like this #because its fucking gross to be reading a (supposedly) cute romance only to get smacked over the head with covert conservatism #when the books are marketed & frankly pandered to people who are not conservative! #delilah green doesn't care #astrid parker doesn't fail #ashley herring blake #ashley herring blake critical #i realize that i spent a lot of time talking about astrids book more than delilahs book but. ah well. i read it more recently #and its more obvious that dgdc was 🤷‍♂️

[lakesbian]

in general any time your tone of voice in response to someone saying they feel like your treatment of a character who's writing is deeply steeped in bigotry is offensive is indistinguishable from, like, a mid-twenties guy going "its not that deep haha just calm down lol" after making a misogynist joke that's not a great sign

#stupid amy shit #'your' is not about the person i recently rb'd from to be clear. or anyone in specific this time. i just keep seeing a lot of people #taking this tone with people complaining about jokes abt amy #which is worse than if it was one specific person

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

that comparison is inherently flawed because the usa are one country and europe is a whole ass continent. i get what she is trying to say but the usa actually have one president while every european country (whether eu member or not) has national sovereignty. its like comparing brazil to asia 😭

#i used to like her blog (albeit being blocked lmao) but recently she keeps making and reblogging these posts #that are like complaining about ‚europe‘ like just ignore it? #do european politics have such bearing on life in the usa? i dont think so #on the other hand every fart a usamerican politican makes has impact on a lot of the rest of the world #if you hate europeans so much just ignore us literally the big majority on this website is usamerican and talking about usa politics 🙏 #shit talking #> complains about sweeping generalisations > keeps reblogging and making posts about ‚europe‘

[deoidesign]

Melatonin is a delicate balancing act, it took some time to find a dose that helped me fall and stay asleep without leaving me groggy after 8/10 hours. For me, that has been 10 mg gradually increased to such over a few weeks then steady since.

I also take roughly a week without it every month or two, as the bottle recommends. Listen to your body and do what you can. Good luck, and thank you for the sweet gay were/pire comic<3

Yeah, I can tell my sweet zone is somewhere between 3 and 6 mg, at least right now. Or at least I think it is. Admittedly my sleep has been absolutely horrible since I was a kid so my standards on "not tired" are pretty low, so I'm not actually sure if they're any good right now. All I know is I'm getting more than 2 hours of sleep at a time, and I'm not spending every waking moment fighting off a nap!

Thanks for the confirmation I've gotta test with it and go off and on and such, my doc didn't give me a straight answer on that (he just kept saying take it as needed... I need it every night!!!). 75% of the time being good is way better than 0% so I'll take what I can get!

And the gay comics are the least I can do 🧡 thank you for reading it!

#my boyfriend actually commented unprompted that ive been complaining less about being tired all the time..m #like dont get me wrong. im still tired #but it has been a WORLD of a difference. #like. its been every day since i was like 14 that just. all day i could fall right back asleep #and every night i wake up every. other. hour. #ive never really been able to sleep longer than 2 hours at a time #so ive never gotten uhm. good sleep before. #and ive had to stay in bed 14. 16. 20 hours to even feel like i can GET UP!!!! #super bad hahaha #but I'll take a week of that every month or so over every day #im just glad ive found a dose and combo thats workint for me cause ive tried melatonin before and it didnt help #but that was qlso before i used those nose strips. which also help me a lot? #so i think the combo is important #and i wouldn't be shocked if in 5 years i learn of another secret sleeping ingredient #anyways. maybe i can line up the bad sleep week off melatonin with the other week that sucks every month auajjddjdjejdj #see how it goes lol #oh ive also been taking other vitamins which have also been helping #so that combo leaves me with some actual waking time that im not fighting off a nap #this is why I've been posting more recently btw lol #asks #jackedupjack

[frownyalfred]

what does it mean for someone to rewrite your story in the comments of your fic? you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to but I’m genuinely confused as to what that looks like. btw I love your fics ❤️

Hey! I've had it happen a few times now where someone didn't like a scene/or ending and literally just copy-pasted my fic and then removed the stuff they didn't like, rewrote lines, etc.

Folks will sometimes just "continue" the ending when it wasn't satisfying for them by writing additional dialogue, scene descriptions, etc. The key part is they talk about how they didn't like what was written, and that they want to change what happened.

I don't mind folks writing stuff based on my fics (I encourage it! Go wild!) but by coming into my comment section, telling me you didn't like the ending, and then rewriting it for me is a little insulting. Especially this last time, when they told me to edit it in if I wanted.

On the other hand, the other day, someone wrote a little snippet of dialogue they could see two characters potentially having from bloodletting that was lovely, and they offered it to me very politely. I loved reading it and while it didn't make it into my story, I really think it could've happened the way they wrote it.

#thank you <3 #I'm almost done ranting about this I promise #but that's what's been happening a lot more recently #people are unhappy and either compain #or complain AND try to rewrite/undo what I've done #myfic #theresurrectionist #bloodletting #fandom #fic #fic writing #fanfic #fanfiction

[screamingay]

someone on here will literally say "encouraging plastic surgery for the sole purpose of conforming to eurocentric beauty standards isn't actually feminism" and 200 other people will come out of the woodworks and chant in harmony LET WOMEN BE HAPPY and WHAT ABOUT TRANS PEOPLE AND BURN VICTIMS as if the post wasn't clearly 1. about womens' self image & insecurities being strongly influenced by the richest and whitest of society and 2. not about trans people or burn victims at all

#ive thought about it a lot and i know the main argument is that it's bodily autonomy and also having it more widely available makes it #easier for the people who really do need it to get it #but like. first of all the industry (and it is an industry) spends SO much money convincing women their bodies look wrong #if it wasnt advertised everywhere and if the expectation wasnt there to look 'perfect' according to the most recent trends #the amount of women getting elective plastic surgery would be drastically lower #second of all. yeah having more surgeons out there means more experience and safer treatments for those who really need it.. #as long as they have the money #and for trans people as long as they have money and/or good insurance and/or all the required medical documentation and/or therapy #and at the end of the day you can criticize just part of something but not all of it. i feel like a lot of people forget that when they #start saying shit online. just stop and think and dont interact with people assuming the worst of them!! #when i criticize the beauty industry im never calling any woman who's ever worn makeup or gotten a facelift evil it's an INDUSTRY #it's systemic!!! #almost reminds me of how criticizing the patriarchy and systemic misogyny as a lesbian will get u painted as some man hating terf #i love men! i dont blame individual men for the system we're all a part of i just criticize its existence and try to work to dismantle it #and i know complaining on the internet is like a little raindrop in the ocean but still. it needs to be discussed i think

[meownotgood]

good morning akisters

#I am soooooo sleepy... #so happy though because #my work recently changed my hours but I'm not complaining because I'll have the full weekend off now #I'm gonna relax so muchhhh #actually I have a lot of things around the house to do ahaha.... aha #zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[goldenpinof]

Wait do we not even like SuperSeizer’s editing? I thought the worst edits by far were CasualGuyy’s and those seemed to calm down a bit with the last ones, but i found them more busy than fast. Seizer just has the best jokes, she really seems to me like she shares their brand of humor but can contribute her own Gen Z jokes. I think I’m used to Kris by now sfsgd. Like i think the thing i enjoy most about him is how much dnp clearly trust him.

This was long i would actually most of all love a concrete example of what you guys mean by “fast” editing, especially if you have an old video to compare it to. And only if you (or someone reading this) feels inspired!!

i personally don't like SuperSeizer's editing. can't speak for everyone, though. i agree that she puts funny jokes, but i hate the way she cuts moments. too many jumpcuts, a lot of them are unnecessary right in the middle of the sentences just to make the pace go faster. her editing took me out from the beginning. that spooky golf video? hate the editing so much, i couldn't even make myself gif the video because of the jumpcuts. stopped watching the sims videos partially because of that as well. wii sports was fine though, gonna give her that. others? too fast, too many jumpcuts. and from a gif-maker pov, very hard to gif. too many moments ruined by zooms in/out or just, like i said, cuts in the middle of the sentence.

overall, even though i also like Kris' editing the most (and here his ap videos are not as fast as dnpg videos). still can't make myself rewatch anything because it's just not the vibe i'm looking for. the editing of all 3 of them makes me anxious. and i'm not particularly a fan of the sims series but i'd rewatch pre-hiatus just fine, because they are kinda slow and i don't have to worry or pay attention to every second of the video.

dnp's editing on the other hand.... don't scream and poppy playtime 2 — bro, could watch it again and again. but i can see that even they are trying to go faster now. not to the extent of their editors, thankfully.

can't really give you examples right now, because it would mean rewatching stuff. and i can't :( if anyone wants to contribute, feel free <3

edit: speaking of Kris. the push the button video is edited awfully. idk what happened, but if you compare it to the pre-hiatus push the button, the difference is scary. i can't for the life of me understand what is going on in 2024 video.

#i feel like i complained about Seizer's editing quite a lot here #i just stopped recently because blah blah negativity and it won't change anything #im not a huge fan of gen z humour lol #and the way they are shaping the internet. editing in particular #and i LOVE crackhead editing when it's actually focused on memes and stuff. dnp's videos aren't focused on that #so this weird mix isn't my cup of tea #dan tried to do this with the Halloween baking. and THAT was appropriate. he didn't push it too far though #answered #editing #(new tag dropped) #calvinahobbes

[theclosetedskeleton]

omg me when i forget people see these posts and can develop opinions about me from thag im sorry

#ive been venting a lot here recently i dont know why.i feel its a sign im not doing too well????? #not helping my school assignments have been piling up on me #liana flores was so real for “my to-do list fills a page” because thats literally me #(i have a google doc of everything i need to do and its. 2 pages long. and im doing the bare minimum everyday) #venting venting your venting again ezra fuck #brb gonna bash my head in a wall maybe that will shut me up. probably not though i may just go here & complain abt that #/nsrs about the bashing my head in the wall thing but #closet rambles again on tumblr

[funky-lil-ghost]

i’m not exactly the person to complain about this but man it would be nice if accessibility standards were totally normalized. like yeah i can see and hear just fine but what if i prefer to read a video transcript because of adhd or not wanting to turn up the volume on my phone for whatever reason. i scroll past videos i would’ve liked to watch sooooo often cause there’s no transcript.

also IDs r so nice when u have low signal and the images won’t load

obviously it’s more important to normalize accessibility standards because they’re absolutely necessary for making things accessible to the people they’re designed for. they’re just also rad as hell & i wish everyone appreciated them as much as I do cause maybe then people would start noticing how inaccessible a lot of stuff currently is

#talking times with milo #also when i say im not the person to complain about this i mean im not directly affected because of visual impairment or being deaf/HoH #i know adhd and autism also count as disabilities and they do impact this whole thing. they just dont (in my case) completely exclude #me from accessing content that’s not accessible #same concept applies to physical accessibility stuff too im just thinking about how many videos ive scrolled past without watching recently #also i appreciate that one guy in my notes (hi there) who adds descriptions to things a lot #i often dont have the energy so it’s nice to know that it might still get written