#Adventures in Aphobia

[borderline-purrsonality]

Hello guys. I’m seeing goatpaste growing popular in the jjba and mlp fandoms so I feel like reminding y’all that he is an aphobe.

EDIT: Goatpaste has apologized and does not align with these views anymore

Please spread this version around. I don’t want misinformation to be spread

#jjba #jojo’s bizarre adventure #my little pony #pokemon #mlp #juno sayings #aphobia tw

[nerdyenby]

Double Life playlist

Explaining the song choices for the Double Life segment of my Traffic series playlist

Automatic by The Mowgli’s: all the functional soulmates finding each other. “Something about our love is automatical, never really know until you’ve had it.”

Tragic by Bailey Bryan: “I move too fast for love, it don’t last.” Pearl going on her own adventures instead of looking for her soulmate, causing a rift between them before they even meet. “Don’t wait up for me, I got a long way to go. Go get what you need, I’ll be getting gone. […] Don’t wait up for me, I’ll be fine.” Her realizing her soulmate is Scott and that he’s not willing to forgive her for abandoning him. “Know what it could be, maybe in another life. […] It’s just tragic, tragic, this shit could be magic. Dancing laughing, hold my hand in traffic. Pause then panic, I can’t break the habit: run from love ‘cause I ain’t ever had it.” They had something special in Last Life, but they’ve already lost the opportunity to be that again. Pearl doesn’t know how to love like that, (I headcanon DL!Pearl as aromantic) she doesn’t need or want a soulmate, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t miss what she and Scott had.

Out of Style by The Wrecks: “You can let me know when you wanna be close again, but if you call and I don’t wanna answer my phone it’s ‘cause […] I just wanna know: when the hell did love go out of style?” Scott declaring him and Pearl not soulmates after she ran off without him.

The Man by Taylor Swift: Pearl’s sadness giving way to frustration and resentment. “I would be complex, I would be cool. They’d say I played the field before I found someone to commit to, and that would be okay for me to do. Every conquest I had made would make me more of a boss to you. I’d be a fearless leader, I’d be an alpha type. When everyone believes ya, what’s that like? I’m so sick of running as fast as I can, wondering if I’d get there quicker if I was a man. And I’m so sick of them coming at me again. ‘Cause if I was a man, I’d be the man.”

People Watching by Conan Gray: Pearl being alone on the sidelines, watching all the other soulmate pairs living happily together. “I’m only looking to live through you vicariously. I’ve never been in love, not seriously. […] Cut people out like tags on my clothing, I end up all alone but I still keep hoping. I wanna feel all that love and emotion, be that attached to the person I’m holding. Someday I’ll be fallin’ without caution, but for now I’m only people watching.”

Normal by The Wrecks: Pearl watching Scott from a distance, sending pain through their soulbond. Whether it’s to get his attention — to remind him that she’s still his soulmate — or to torment him, no one knows, least of all her. “I’m getting used to your silence, it can’t hurt me like I can. I don’t hate you but goddamn, you didn’t make it easy.” This next part of the song goes hard if you interpret Pearl as aro and dealing with internalized aphobia, but it’s not necessary. “I just wanna fall in love like everybody else does, how come it’s so hard for me? How come it’s so hard for me? Why don’t I get to be normal?”

Getting Over You by Cemetary Sun: Scott and Cleo being chosen soulmates. “I think I found somebody new. I know I don’t deserve it but it’s true. I didn’t wanna have to cut you loose. Yeah, I’m getting over you.”

Mad Woman by Taylor Swift: “What did you think I’d say to that? Does a scorpion sting when fighting back? They strike to kill, and you know I will.” Pearl’s angering simmering and her reputation spreading. “Every time you call me crazy, I get more crazy, what about that? And when you say I seem angry, I get more angry. And there’s nothing like a mad woman, what a shame she went mad. No one likes a mad woman, you made her like that.”

WITCH by Devon Cole: Hex’s animatic is what got me into this fandom, I couldn’t not include this song. People talking about Pearl behind her back. “I swear to God I saw her howling at the sky. She ain’t out to get you, but she’s better on your side.” Pearl embracing her reputation and going full in, doing everything in her power to get under Scott’s skin.

Play w/ me by Bailey Bryan: Pearl reclaiming her image and proving a point to Scott. “You act all innocent […] but then don’t text me ‘til it’s time to fall asleep. Boy you don’t see, you play yourself when you play with me.” She’s not seeking an apology, this is not remorse or a chance for reconciliation, this is a warning. “Hit me like a sucker punch, feeling like a bitch slap- ever seen a bitch snap? Well you about to. […] Tell me why you thinking you can come around me with all this different, always switching energy. It’s childish and tiring to say the least, that’s why I don’t trust these men.”

Killing Boys by Halsey: “Told me pick my battles and be picking ‘em wise, but I wanna pick ‘em all and I don’t wanna decide […] ‘cause you don’t need me anymore. And I won’t ever try again, and all I want in return is revenge, ‘cause I don’t need you anymore.”

Midnight Rain by Taylor Swift: Pearl about Scott, they form a tentative alliance but she’s not ready to put their past behind them. “He was sunshine, I was midnight rain. He wanted it comfortable, I wanted that pain. He wanted a bride, I was making my own name, chasing that fame. He stayed the same, all of me changed like midnight rain.”

Slowly, Slowly by The Mowgli’s: As others drop like flies, Pearl take an active role in the battle but it still catches her off guard when it’s down to just her and Scott. She’s even more surprised when Scott hands her the win, saying it’s her who deserves it. “It’s only you, it’s only me. It’s only love, and it’s only fair you find your peace.”

The last great american dynasty by Taylor Swift: There are no survivors, there never are. “And they said, ‘there goes the last great american dynasty.’ Who knows if she never showed up what could’ve been. There goes the maddest woman this town has ever seen. She had a marvelous time ruining everything.”

#this is my favorite section #it’s just a girlboss girlbossing #traffic series #trafficblr #life series #double life #pearlescentmoon #scott smajor #cw death mention #cw swearing #nerdy’s traffic analysis

[bracketsoffear]

I know The Beast is a very strong contender but I have so many feelings about Baron.

(Credit to @mellohi-plays)

They're a "weird little skeleton boy." They're Riz's Roëmænce Partnær. They want Riz to meet their stark father. They have never gotten a first date. They are still hanging around in a sequel campaign, being creepy in the Baronies.

They're a lie brought to life. They're the fear of the only one who doesn't have anyone else. They're the fear that your friends not really understanding or caring about you and only keeping you around because you're useful and funny. They're the fear of being left behind because everyone else will find somebody more important to them than you do.

Because everyone else is finding romantic partners, right? But you're not interested in that. And you've always been taught by everything and everyone around you that romance is the most important bond there is, whereas what you have with your party members is "just" friendship. You're happy for them, really, and you'd never dream of trying to sabotage these relationships, especially given how hard it's been for some of them to figure out their feelings, but--where does that leave you?

Nobody gets it. You tell your friends you're not interested and they laugh. "Oh, you just need to try it, then you'll feel the same way we do." So you tell them that of course you have a romance partner, like a normal person, which means the fact that you think kissing is less important than adventure is totally normal. You lie to your friends, even though you have devoted yourself to truth, even though you love them so much, because you are scared of being left out. Because even among the people who care about you, who have gone through hell with you*, you are afraid and alone.

Your friends wouldn't give a damn about you, Baron says, if you weren't solving mysteries for them. You friends think of you as a joke and a tool. You friends will all leave you for the ones they're in love with, because those relationships matter more than you. You are not like your parents--your parents who were confident, and suave, and in love. You will always be alone, because you don't feel the attraction you're supposed to.

So yeah, however scary The Beast is, Baron is the one who freaks me out more, because they're literally the embodiment of amatonormativity and aphobia and how isolating it is to be aromantic and/or asexual in a world where even other queer people don't understand or accept your identity.

Also, they're a creepy-ass mannequin with a disturbing Swedish(?) accent who lives in reflections and throttles people, so that's pretty fucked up.

* Metaphorically--although one of them will literally go through hell with you, where you'll piss on a dragon-turned-pirate ship while she'll become a teen mom and an Archdevil to replace her bio-dad who hooks up with your mom, so that's a thing? Dimension 20 is a wild show and that's not even close to the most shocking relationship in that season, let alone the weirdest thing in Fantasy High period.

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#asks #character propaganda #lonely poll #amatonormativity

[kitkat-the-muffin]

Welp it’s about time I made one of these, considering I’m a blog of mostly other peoples content

The list of fandoms I tend to reblog from!

This is just a list of things I have reblogged before and may again in the future, and I cannot guarantee that I will reblog them all at the same frequency

(in Alphabetical Order):

Various Animes: Blue Period Brand New Animal Carole and Tuesday Cells at Work Erased Given Hetalia Horimiya Komi Can’t Communicate Little Witch Academia My Hero Academia Ouran High School Host Club Princess Tutu Romantic Killer Sailor Moon Sk8 The Infinity Spy x Family The Disastrous Life of Saiki K And others…

Various Disney Properties: Amphibia Ducktales Gravity Falls Phineas and Ferb Star Wars Tangled: The Series The Owl House And others…

Various Movies: Klaus (2019) Megamind Puss In Boots: The Last Wish The Tinkerbell Movies Treasure Planet Wish Dragon And others…

Various Musicals: Beetlejuice Matilda The Musical Hamilton Spongebob The Musical And others…

Various Other Properties: Andi Mack Avatar: The Last Airbender Bee and Puppycat Carmen Sandiego Codename: Kids Next Door Danny Phantom Dead End: Paranormal Park Ever After High Fandomstuck / Socialstuck Good Omens Goncharov (1973) Green Eggs and Ham Heartstopper Hilda Homestuck / Hiveswap Infinity Train Kid Cosmic Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts Lego Monkie Kid Lego Ninjago OK KO: Let’s Be Heroes Sanders Sides Studio Ghibli The Amazing World of Gumball The Babysitters Club The Dark Crystal The Dragon Prince The Good Place And others…

Various Videogames: Ace Attorney Dreamtalia Henry Stickmin Kingdom Hearts Ni No Kuni Persona 4 Persona 5 Riddle School Undertale / Deltarune Underworld Office / Charlie In Underworld And others…

Various Webtoons: Castle Swimmer Cursed Princess Club Love Me To Death Room of Swords The Makeup Remover And others…

Additionally, fandoms I sometimes reblog from despite not being a part of their communities!

Some are old fandoms of mine, some are recent fandoms that I’m not too invested in, and the rest are a bunch of things I have never seen before in my life but find fun regardless. I’m weird like that

(in Alphabetical Order):

Adventure Time Aphmau Barbie Movies DC Comics / DCU Epic Mickey Epithet Erased Final Fantasy Haikyuu Invader Zim Marvel Comics / MCU MCYT / DSMP Miraculous Ladybug My Little Pony Pokémon Powerpuff Girls Z She-Ra and the Princesses of Power Sonic the Hedgehog Speed Racer Spider-Man Star Vs the Forces of Evil Steven Universe Super Mario Brothers Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles The Golden Girls The Rocky Horror Picture Show Total Drama Twisted Wonderland Voltron: Legendary Defender We Bare Bears

My Original Content usually goes untagged but you can check out #Muffin Moments and #Gasp An Ask for some of what goes up in my noggin

DNI if you identify with, support, or participate in any of the following criteria:

Homophobia, Transphobia, Aphobia or Aspec Exclusion, Islamophobia, Xenophobia, Antisemitism, Sexism, Racism, Nazism, Pedophilia, Incest, Proshipping, Shipping IRL People, or Harassing People About Veganism

#long post #muffin moments #fandoms

[snakeandfangs]

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Stranger things

Wwdits

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The magnus archives (+ other podcasts, but tma is the main one)

these may change any time (and there are more, I'm just either not very involved in their fandoms or I forgot lol)

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[cosmosredshift7]

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[whisperingonthewind]

Masterpost

For the lost wanderer:

I participate in fandom circles, but have increasingly been thinking up ideas for my own stuff, and wanted somewhere to vomit that all out 👍Therefore, if there's one thing I want you to know about this blog, it's that this is for me. Interaction's cool n all, but no one else is my target audience.

With that out of the way, a couple things to know:

I use any pronouns. Zero preference here folks

Name's Nixie, but feel free to call me Nix

If I see anything along the lines of racism/homophobia/transphobia/aphobia/xenophobic/Islamophobic/pro-ai art/you get the idea, expect to be blocked without discussion. There's some behaviour I just don't engage in. If you're unsure whether I'm okay with certain ideas/behaviours, send over an ask and I'll happily clear things up

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Feel free to engage however with my work. Reblogging, liking, commenting, having your own ideas, taking inspiration for your own work- all of that's cool. Just no reposting, and please credit me if something you make uses aspects of my work.

There are multiple stories being covered in this blog, and each of them have their own respective tag to keep track of that. Some will bear a fair few similarities, in which case they're likely variants of each other

Some ideas exist in a bit of a nebulous vacumn, where I haven't defined things enough to decide whether or not they take place in the same universe. There are marked by the tag '#in between zone'- depending on basic setting, these will be marked historical, modern, or fantasy, but otherwise there's no meaningful way to differentiate their universes

Tags for universes ending in '-link' utilise my magic system, while tags ending in '-linkless' do not

A lot of characters, or variations of characters, feature in multiple different universes

I draw far more than I write

Universes will not receive equal coverage. I develop whatever I feel like developing

Current universes:

One Tree Hill (Link): Alan Donovan attends university, leaving the shelter of his family for the first time.

Crossing the Seas: Adventures of the Downtrodden Hansa (Linkless): Idunna's family operate as a team of merchants in an unforgiving world... and she nearly ruins it all, when she gets on the bad side of Count Morettia.

Snow Trees and Pinecones (Link): Before time had a name, Herleva and her daughter only wanted to survive, despite their unnatural nature.

Seven Generation Rule (Link)+: Munich was meant to be a new start for Madeleine- but the Runilingoz Society had other ideas

Yuron (Linkless): On the continent of Yuron, war is always peaking around the corner. Regardless of the blessings they carry, no Lord, Lady, or peasant can escape its reach.

Packaged Principles (Link): Julia's future lies amongst shelves of breads and desserts softer than clouds, she's certain of it.

The Unendingly Bizarre Lives of the Kimura Family (Linkless): Iris has no doubt that her family would always be destined to attract trouble, even if they couldn't time travel.

Earthbound (Linkless): Born in the stars, they're determined to carve a path on their new home planet: Earth.

Grandfather Clocks (Link): Aloisia isn't sure what she was expecting from her betrothed, but it wasn't this.

Final Fragments (Linkless): A group of individuals, who each died as a result of human-induced climate change, are reborn more than 30,000 years into the future, after the Earth has corrected their species' mistakes. Heralded as bringers of a new tomorrow, they must decide the fate of humanity.

Sons and Daughters (Link)+: A team of super-powered university students attempt to save the world.

Terrans (Linkless): Thousands of years into the future, inhabitants from one end of our solar system to the other team up to probe further into the wide expanse that is the universe.

+: Some important characters have abilities drawn from my magic system, but most of the general population do not

(And again, some of these are far more developed than others)

For the early days of this blog I'll be scheduling old art under the tag '#memory lane'. Note that this stuff, and the implied/depicted relationships/appearances/names/etc don't necessarily reflect my current perspective on these things. Ideas change and grow. Additionally, some may be noticeably cropped- either because it was part of a bigger, unrelated drawing, or because I've learned as I matured that some ways I depicted characters weren't accurate, or appropriate. ((Some are from a very long time ago.))

And of course, this post is subjected to be updated, since I have no idea what I'm doing, but might figure it out along the way :)

#nixie's notes

[lostmedia]

Ok so to summarize thoughts on the matter. the 60th anniversary DW specials weren't terrible by any means, especially compared to the pile of shit theyve been pushing since 2017. nostalgia bait is a cheap gimmick but Eh what else can you do when the viewer rate is plummeting. The fact that ive been waiting to see a truly enjoyable episode since the year 2017 speaks to the fact that i am a masochist for still watching this garbage

what bothers me actually is i do not like being preached to about identity politics in my silly little serial about adventures in space. whats next for the disneyesque doctor whos? the writers team silence on aphobia is deafening. They should give every character etsy pronoun pins from now on

[frostytheduck]

Wait... I haven't made a Pinned post yet? Oops...

Hello!

I'm Frosty, I use Fae/It/They/She pronouns I'm Queer and I'm 18+. I reblog pretty much everything that sparks my interest at the time and I rarely post. However! I do have a few side blogs you can follow if you want to see my art and writing. (I'm working slowly on my own book too!)

Under the Cut I have Rules, Accessibility Comments, and Links

Banner by @cafekitsune (From this set of Galaxy Banners)

Rules

As I am 18+ and some of my posts reflect that, Please exercise caution if you are under 18. I don't tag regularly since I use the quick-reblog function almost exclusively. If I remember or if I notice something in particular I will try and tag it. (Such as Sex Ed, flashing warning, Homophobia, Transphobia, and the like)

I personally don't swear but it's the Internet so chances are I'm reblogging things with swearing. Please keep swearing to a minimum in my ask box, won't mention it but if there is a lot of swearing then I'll probably just delete the ask.

I Do. Not. Tolerate. Harassment. This includes, but is not limited to, General Harassment, Homophobia, Racisim, Transphobia, Aphobia, Queerphobia, Sexism, Abilism (towards both physical and mental disabilities/impairments), Religious Discrimination, and other similar forms of hate. Even if you don't agree with someone, disagreement gives no one the right to harass and/or attempt to revoke rights and/or care from someone. I will block on sight.

Please leave a like if you have read all the rules.

Accessibility Comments

I do my best to have a blog that is accessible but if you notice something that needs work then please, send a message! (Asks and DMs are Open.) I am learning how to do image descriptions, however I haven't gotten the hang of it yet.

I don't usually have things with lots of flashing images but if I do It's usually tagged with "Flashing Lights" "Flashing Pictures" "Flashing Warning" "Epilepsy Trigger" and/or "Epilepsy Warning." (I won't tag with just "Epilepsy" as that clogs the tag with triggering content as well as the fact that not just those with epilepsy struggle with flashing lights.) I also try to keep my blog with a darker theme that has higher contrast accents.

My Fandoms!

Anime

Demon Slayer

Fullmetal Alchemist (Especially Brotherhood)

My Hero Academia (Kinda... I don't interact with the fandom much but the world is a bit like playdough to me)

Games

Legend of Zelda (Almost Always hyperfixated on this...)

Undertale / Deltarune (Not particularly active in the fandom but the games are important to me given when I first played them.)

Animal Crossing (I've played all the main titles)

Books

Valdemar Universe by Mercedes Lackey (Especially The Last Herald Mage trilogy. I love my sad gay bois here.)

(There are more I swear... I just don't remember them.....)

(That and some of them aren't published yet... As I'm sure my other writer fans understand)

TV-Shows

Criminal Minds (have not seen the last few seasons)

NCIS (idk where I am with this tbh)

Star Trek (closer to Fandom By Osmosis)

Stargate SG1 (I've seen through Season 8 I think?)

Avatar The Last Airbender

Other

The Adventure Zone (Specifically Season 1: Balance. [Redacted] is best girl.)

My Brother, My Brother, and Me (Not caught up but it has me in stitches every time)

My Other Blogs!

My Linktree has links to the following as well as a few other miscellaneous links.

My Art Tumblr! (I have some art for a few fandoms, hoping to do more soon)

My Writing Tumblr! (I post mainly snippets and headcanons here. Pretty much just a bunch of loose things that I don't want to post on Ao3)

My Ao3! (Finished works! I don't have much on there at the moment but if you like Linked Universe then you might like what I have.)

My Cohost Blog! (I'll be posting both art and writing here and Linking each post back to my Tumblr.)

#pinned post #blog rules #masterpost

[wolf-queer-discourse]

Adventures in Aphobia #2

It is absolutely tragic that I’m already adding to Adventures in Aphobia, but here we are again! Let’s get a look at the phenomenal post I will be addressing.

Hope you enjoyed reading that as much as I did. You know, the biggest joke of this whole post is the poster thinking ace people feel comfortable on Tumblr. I promise you they do not XD.

It’s funny how when queer sub-groups complain about bigotry faced from the broader community (this happens a LOT with bi and ace people, but I’ve seen it happen to trans people too), the bigoted queer people immediately call YOU the bigot because they’re actually more oppressed than you, which means they get to say whatever they want. I’m not going to even entertain the oppression olympics on this one.

The answer as to who’s more oppressed always boils down to: it depends, in what way, and why does this matter?

There are a TON of transphobic gay people who throw their hands up when they get called out for their behavior and decry, “But I’m gay! You’re not oppressed for thinking you’re a boy!!”

And honestly, some aphobes do want ace people dead, and not all homophobes want gay people dead. Why are ace people one of the only groups in the queer community who has to personally confess to almost being murdered, disowned, r*ped and stabbed all in the same day to have any of their struggles taken seriously?? Do you make gay people do this too, or do you ever just believe them? 

It’s incredible that some people’s entire queer identity is rooted in the fact they’ve been murdered or disowned before, as if the second you’re not being beaten in the streets, do you really face any struggles? There are gay people who haven’t been disowned or killed (obviously). They’re still gay, and they can still talk about homophobia without being mocked for it.

Bonus points for this poster, in what must be purposeful assholery, not even using a standard, accepted definition of what it means to be asexual. “Oppressed for not having sex”. Yes, because “not having sex” is the definition of asexuality. I mean, God, at least be original and come up with a banger instead of this lazy insult.

And if you needed any more proof this poster hates asexual people take a look at their do not follow list!

Imagine...literally being offended by someone believing ace people are oppressed. If you had room for this shit in your bio, you certainly had room for “spineless bigot” somewhere. Alas…

And uh, thinking minors can be ace is also a DNF-worthy offense?? Oh boy. I hate even having to explain this, but...sexual attraction does not ship to your doorstep on your 18th birthday. I know, I’m bummed too, but that’s just how it is. For real though, there’s no argument to saying minors can’t be ace. Trick question, but not really: can minors experience sexual attraction? Obviously yes. Have you met a teenager? It’s insane that aphobes will argue asexual people are sexualizing children by allowing them the right to define their own feelings. And they always use straw men like that there are seven-year-olds identifying as asexual. Bitch, where? Even if you could search the planet and find me one, you wouldn’t be making a point. 

“BUT WHAT IF THEY EXPERIENCE SEXUAL ATTRACTION LATER?”

Gasp, a person changing their label later in life? The horror! How ever will they cancel their subscription? Aphobes, people change labels all the time. None of y’all seem this pressed when a lesbian later identifies as bisexual. I promise it’s okay.

There is literally nothing predatory about acknowledging minors can feel sexual attraction. Not only is it a fact provable but a five-second stint at any high school, but if you really think that’s creepy...that says more about you than anyone else. Just because minors experience sexual attraction doesn’t mean creepy-ass adults can take advantage of them.

Also...love that this poster said “LGBT aces are fine obv”. Is it obvious?? God, I love how aphobes will literally foam at the mouth about how asexual people are a bunch of attention-seeking, pedophiles who are trying to recruit children then immediately tag on a quick “but of course I support LGBT aces!!”. Are these people really so fucking thick they think their words don’t apply to bi, gay and trans aces?? I have yet to meet a single gay, bi or trans ace who feels positively about ace exclusionists. Your rhetoric inherently harms all ace people because it doesn’t give gay, bi and trans aces room to talk about their aphobic experiences. You don’t get to only support one part of their queer identity and expect a pat on the back. You’re a fucking aphobe, and you can’t cozy that up with your empty words of support for only the “good” aces. 

#remember that bigots deserve to be laughed at #they can be the sillest! #discourse #queer discourse #LGBT discourse #Adventures in Aphobia #ace discourse #asexual discourse #aphobia #ace discrimination #asexual #asexuality #LGBT #queer #ace #rant

[your-fav-is-aphobic]

Joseph Joestar from Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure is aphobic!

#asexual #asexual pride #aphobia #joseph joestar #jojo’s bizarre adventure #jjba #pride flag

[the-moogle-of-your-nightmares]

things that are weird: that functionally i could probably class myself as grayromantic, and if anything it seems like it would probably describe my experiences more accurately than demiromantic

but when i try to think about IDing as anything but demiromantic, it ranges anywhere from ‘nnnnnnnn’ to [SCREAM]

grayromantic feels Uncomfortable and Not Right; trying to think of myself as alloromantic is so deeply distressing that i will literally start sobbing if i try to do it, and feel like i’m cutting off a part of myself

whereas legit ever since i discovered demiromantic was a Thing with a Name i was just like [points] that me, and when i thought i was allo for a few years i was constantly like ‘listen no aro but there’s Something That Doesn’t Feel Like an Allo Experience Here’

like. ????????????????????

i guess it might be an internalized thing, like how when i first started questioning my gender the idea of being referred to with they/them was Big Scream and then i eventually got perfectly happy with it? maybe i’m just attached to it because it was the first non-allo label i went with? maybe there are mental health issues i need to work out that are obfuscating it one way or another

which. i feel shitty saying that because it feels like i’m falling into pathologizing aromanticism, but. it’s my own experience? and i’m not reflecting on anyone else. and it’s not so much ‘do i just think i’m arospec because i’m mentally ill’ as it is ‘do i just think i’m arospec because i’m mentally ill, or do i just question whether i might be alloromantic because i’m mentally ill.’ and also the same between two arospec orientations either of which is valid, but which one it actually is might be obfuscated by mental illness, or might be internalized shit

so that does make me feel somewhat better about it

just. hm. it’s a lot. and it’s hard trying to find experiences to compare it to, just because the examples that make me Wonder so much are mostly deeply personal and involve talking about mental illness i still haven’t fully unpacked yet, and i feel antsy about the idea of laying it all out for other people to weigh in on

#moogletalks #aromanticism #demiromanticism #grayromanticism #aphobia mention tw #queertag #braintag #adventures in mental illness #i meant this to be kind of a short idle-minded post and it got long whoops

[walkinginquiry]

I was mentioning to allos I know about this one mutual aquantance we know (he is old(er) and he is single and he has never been married, and he hasn't shown any interest in having a romantic relationship, I just don't know how to nonchalantly ask him if he is also aroace) and I adore this dude, I want to be him when I grow up, he goes on rad adventures like he excitedly showed us a video of him skydiving, he is planning on road tripping to Canada this summer, and he is just very kind and very excitable. Anyway, I was telling them about his Christmas card, cause someone else (who also adores this man) had shown me his Christmas card, which was him on a moped, which like, awesome, and so I was excitedly telling the allos (who don't know I'm aroace) about this, and then their responses were just like... They changed the whole mood, one girl literally asked if it was just him on the card, and when I said yeah, she told me that he just shouldnt send out a card with a picture of just him, he should just mail those generic Christmas cards, and they all started like pitying him, one girl saying she had basically stalked his Facebook and it was so sad cause "he didn't even have any pets" and "he should definitely get a dog", like these allos are so focused on this idea of happiness being a romantic partner and a family that they can't fathom the idea of being alone and happy, and they turned this great thing into something to be looked down on, and honestly, this is why I'm afraid to come out to people, this more everyday aphobia, cause yeah, you'll find the people that are actively hating on you, but this is a lot more common, where people have been conditioned to think you can't be happy without the family and romantic partner. This is the destructive aphobia through conditioning we are talking about. If you are struggling with these, just know, just because you don't have a partner or you are alone, you can and should still be happy! This man is having the time of his life! Life is what you make it, not how other people frame it, go on your own adventures, send out Christmas cards of just you, and live your best life no matter what others think

#tw aphobia #aphobia #aromantic #aroace #acearo #aromance #aro #arospec #aspec #this just made me so upset #i havent stopped thinking about it #he is such a good dude #he doesn't deserve this #even if he doesnt turn out to be aroace #tw arophobia #arophobia

[trustedcompanionship]

Year in Review

First, I want to apologize for my overall lack of activity. Running this page is somewhat labor-intensive for me, since as it stands right now, I'm the only person working on developing Trusted Companionship as a concept and culture. In addition, about a year ago now, something changed for me: I stopped just writing about Trusted Companionship and started living it. I mean, I was before, but I'm doing so in physical space rather than long-distance. There have been a lot of challenges, a lot of joys, and a lot of lessons that both of us have had to learn.

When I created Trusted Companionship, it was mostly out of a desire to balance two conflicting needs– my need for power exchange, and my need to stay as far from the BDSM community as I'm physically able to. The first few months of Trusted Companionship's existence were almost frantic in their intensity. I was writing so much, coming up with new terminology and new symbolism so that anyone else who felt the way I did would have a language to pull from, a framework ready-made so they wouldn't feel as alone as I did when I first started doing the work to figure myself out. Then I ate shit a month later when family drama, the incompetence of my school's financial aid office at handling any situation even slightly out of the ordinary, the opportunity to finally move in with my partner, and several other intersecting forces made it clear that I had to get moving, and fast. So I did, and that meant that this platform had to go on the back burner until I got my legs under me. What followed has been one of the best years of my life so far, even in its lower moments.

I feel the need to say one thing very clearly and very loudly: Trusted Companionship is not a magic pill that will make your relationship easier. The past year has been great and I look forward to many more, but neither of us have been miraculously cured of our various mental illnesses and injuries just because our relationship isn't symmetric. I still struggle with internalized aphobia (which tends to manifest as feelings of inadequacy around not being a romantic or sexual partner), severe anxiety surrounding isolation, and what I call the "boulder vs sunset" problem, which I may write about in a future post. My partner has his own struggles. Sometimes they bump up against each other in unpleasant and unpredictable ways, and the lifestyler in my head likes to solve this by going "well clearly his feelings matter and mine don't." (I'm still working on trying to reason with them. It's a long, drawn out process of shadow integration.)

But even with all our struggles, there's still so much joy to be found. Cooking a good dinner for the two of us and eating together while binge watching Deep Space Nine or Adventure Time. Talking about our weird metaphysical theories. Going for walks together. Even our mutual frustration at the fruit fly infestation we only recently got under control was a thing that brought us closer together. Ultimately, this year has been excellent, and the things that have made it not excellent are things that we can work through and are working through.

There's still so much more we want to do and become better at doing in the year going forward. I want to become more spiritually confident and step further into my role as the cleric of the household, because between the two of us I'm the more proficient in religious ritual but my trauma and lack of confidence consistently fucks me over in that regard. My partner, who is still learning how to make decisions and take the lead, wants to work on doing so more consistently. I'm pretty sure we both want to spend less time watching TV and more time doing stuff together, but that's hard when you're snowed in and don't have a car.

To the few people who follow this blog, thank you, and I hope to be more active this year. To my partner, thanks for being the Rose Quartz to my Pearl. To my friends and chosen family, thanks for putting up with how fucking weird I can be.

Here's to another year.

[fairymiint]

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I'm not sure if this one is gonna unpopular to my followers/mutuals per sé, I'm probably preaching to the choir here, but.

Sometimes, especially in the General bubble of the internet/IRL think, I feel like I'm the only person uncomfortable with both aphobia and slutshaming. Or rather, have experienced both in my life.

Letting people do what they want, without it being pushed on others just does not sound hard. And yet you have people who choose to push those boundaries anyways.

From thirsty people not checking rules or artists not tagging shit (I've seen people in the past send sexual/suggestive anons to a blog that allows such stuff ....about a muse who does not. Like could you not have glanced at a rules page here and there?) To people recently sending anons criticizing a muse's sexual activity, both male and female, saying that 'they're only good for smut' or even questioning their orientation. Neither of that shit is good. Not to mention countless instances I'm sure people have had of others dipping out on their muses for either reason, because they don't seem shippable or because they're thirsty. People have a right to leave, but y'know what I'm saying.

While I can mildly understand the frustration, here's the deal; Suggestive/Smut and even Romance, simply make for good 'filler' activities. They're fun to fall back on when A.] Nobody wants to plot Action. Seriously, outside of the pokemon fandom, a lot of people aren't well practiced and confident in fight threads, while Adventuring requires either plot or improv. It's a skill. B.] It's a good psychology fix. Interpersonal relationships between muses of all kinds are good for that, and sometimes romantic/sexual shipping can run rampant for muses of similar age who 'get along' that way. Doesn't mean you should ignore platonic interactions but. C.] It's addictive, whether IC or OOC. Sex/sensual activity specifically is one of the more 'harmless' or at least psychological addictions. Besides accidental pregnancy and STDs (lol like people write those either), sex is healthy, so it's a bit safer to plot than say, your muse binge drinking or smoking just because they're bored. It's a lot more possible imo, to have a one night stand and it not affect anybody, than say substance abuse which people will notice and even dislike. It's kind of middling as well, whereas someone who has sex isn't necessarily a bad person unless it affects their life and commitments, where someone murders and...it's a call to action cause it's decidedly a bad moral choice, it affects people.

But, y'know, if somebody is fixated on any one type of plot....either they really like it, or it's what's available to them whether immediately (audience) or emotionally (they're not psyched up for it.)

this probably requires its own Ask as a concept, but don't bitch if you can't invest, yourself.

This is not even to say getting into it as a Fandom or General concept, which is even bigger than the RP shit i mentioned here-

#ask. #munday. #UnPopOpi #suggestive #sex talk; #long post. #murder; #aphobia; #slutshaming;

[wiplibrary]

new arrivals! | weekly round-up #1

❀ Fractured Dawn by Rhys (They/Them) @svpphicwrites

Victoriette Lovett, the princess of the vampires, is old enough for her Turning. Charles Beaumont, the new head of the Allegiance for Human Protection, is hell-bent on eliminating all vampires from the Earth. And they’re siblings. A story about family drama, the need to find yourself, and a bunch of overpowered twenty-somethings who just wanna have a normal one.

Genre: New Adult, Urban Fantasy. Author: LGBT+ | Neurodivergent. Themes and Tropes: grief, family, finding yourself. Content Warnings: graphic depictions of death and violence, minor gore, alcohol and drug use, descriptions of trauma, death of parents, death of close friends, mentions of sexual content. Special Notes: Rhys plans on finding beta readers for Fractured Dawn around April / May 2021!

❀ Magic & Silver by Heather (She/Her) @thethistlegirlwrites

John Stoker and Angus Robinson couldn’t be more different. John is a seasoned hunter, a descendant of not one but two of the most distinguished hunter families in the world. Angus is a part-blood fae, rejected by both the human world and the fae colonies that live under heavy regulation alongside it. But together, they may be the only hope of stopping an ancient vampire before he becomes too powerful to defeat.

Genre: New Adult, Fantasy Drama. Author: LGBT+ | Neurodivergent. Themes and Tropes: found family, prejudice, choices. Content Warnings: past rape/non-con, fantasy racism, minor character death, human trafficking aspects, sexual assault, nonsexual nudity, violence, blood Special Notes: Heather is asexual and on the autism spectrum, and Magic & Silver contains representation for both of these groups!

❀ Over Land and Sea by Zofija (She/Her) @wannabeauthorzofija

Two sisters. Separated. Both believing the other dead. When a heist they worked on together goes wrong, they must meet. Face to face. And figure out to climb back up the ranks again. And face the problems of their past.

Genre: Young Adult, Fantasy Thriller + Mystery. Author: LGBT+. Themes and Tropes: revenge, acceptance, forgiveness. Content Warnings: death, violence, language. Special Notes: N/A.

❀ Anchor-Point by Ari (She/Her) by @haldimilks

Indraprastha Dwara college, 2018. Kriti Sinha picks up a bow, makes an enemy, unravels a secret, falls in love and comes of age. Not necessarily in that order.

Genre: New Adult, Contemporary Dark Academia + Sports Fiction. Author: POC | LGBT+. Themes and Tropes: elitism in academia, ambition, tainted legacies. Content Warnings: violence, blood and gore, discussions of suicide and self-harm, classism, casteism, colorism, mental health issues. Special Notes: N/A.

❀ The Crooked, The Necromancer by Sydney (She/Her) @perditism

A princess of a magic-reviled kingdom, Ophelia’s fate was the greatest irony. As the only hope to rescue the prince of Gishea’s bitterest enemy, she set out to get to the bottom of his kidnapping with the help of a wanted outlaw, the Morningstar. What she ended up uncovering was an ancient prophecy that may have fortold her role in unleashing a new age of magic, one her kingdom won’t be powerful enough to curtail. Racing against the threat of a fatal war looming ahead, Ophelia and the Morningstar are forced to confront the grave consequences of Ophelia’s family’s tyrannical rule, thrusted into a world of magic that she should not have belonged to.

Genre: New Adult, Fantasy Romance. Author: POC. Themes and Tropes: belligerent sexual tension to lovers, female villains, forbidden magic. Content Warnings: death, violence. Special Notes: N/A.

❀ Tales of a Fake WAG by Szandra (She/Her) @catharticallysarcastic

A grieving woman. A man with trust and anxiety issues. Two people wanting nothing real. A deal made on a whim. A marriage based on nothing but honest lies.

Genre: Adult, Contemporary Drama + Romance. Author: N/A. Themes and Tropes: fake marriage, love, trust, finding oneself again, starting over. Content Warnings: explicit sexual content, name calling, strong language, throat grabbing, mention of the Dortmund bus attack, oral (female/male), spanking, slight asphyxiation, breast slapping, hair pulling, mention of drug use, mention of domestic abuse, non sexual slapping (male), alcohol, vomiting, grief, unprotected sex, facial, car accident. Special Notes: N/A.

❀ The Writers by Chazza (She/Her) @chazzawrites

In the City, where the mysterious Writers dictate everyone's fate, Penelope Ingeld loses a best friend who wasn't meant to die and becomes determined to understand her world once and for all.

Genre: Young Adult, Fantasy Mystery + Science Fiction. Author: LGBT+. Themes and Tropes: predestination/free will, identity, romance. Content Warnings: main character death, memory loss. Special Notes: The Writers includes many LGBT+ characters written by a bisexual girl, and features multiple timelines and a happy ending!

❀ The Darkblade by Kit Wynters (She/They) @goblingraveyard

Cooper was a good Templar. She was trained to be the Best. The best fighter, the best leader, and the best at dying for the country she was left in, but her story doesn't stop because her life has.   When she finds herself stranded in a now foreign country, she has no option but to join a group of adventurers on their quest to hunt down an ancient relic, and unearth a foe that has not been seen in centuries.

Genre: New Adult, Supernatural Fantasy. Author: LGBT+. Themes and Tropes: found family, displacement, faith and doubt. Content Warnings: death, murder, blood. Special Notes: N/A.

❀ The Book of Broken Strings by Cecil (They/Them) @cecilsstorycorner

Ollie receives a note. A child has a dream. They have been led to each other, and neither know quite why. The child, now given the name Twig, reveals she’s been told to find a place called Henkia Sanctuary. Their journey soon finds them in a woodland crawling with Spirits who once were not, two new friends in tow, and the distinct feeling of something more hanging above their heads. Ollie, in particular, can’t seem to shake what drove him out into the snow all those weeks ago. And as it turns out, neither can the person responsible.

Genre: Adult, Fantasy + Horror. Author: LGBT+ | Neurodivergent | Disabled. Themes and Tropes: trauma/healing, abuse, and the importance of non-romantic love. Content Warnings: depictions of panic attacks, intrusive thoughts, and slight self harm, abuse (including verbal, physical, sexual, psychological, and emotional), body horror, aphobia, some violence. Special Notes: The Book of Broken Strings is in a constant state of re-work, but the themes and tropes have generally stayed the same!

❀ The Stray Spirit by Becca (She/Her) @ashen-crest

A young, struggling bard named Emry vies to capture the attention of Vidanya’s most prominent musicians’ guild- but just as the largest music festival of the year begins, a talkative spirit traps themself in his lute. Together with his academic ex-girlfriend, Emry delves into the forgotten lore of spirits to return the being home, only to find a much greater threat looming beneath the surface.

Genre: New Adult, Fantasy. Author: N/A. Themes and Tropes: prodigal son, found family, achieving potential. Content Warnings: earthquakes, caves, drowning, anxiety, food, alcohol, pain. Special Notes: N/A.

weekly round-up taglist below the cut: 

@glitterandstarshine @avakrahn @birdywrote @42ndplace @romeshifting @unholieds @isherwoodj @oownow @amillionwips​ @thethistlegirl​ @sirius-xthem​ @blindthewind​

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