#ace discrimination

[codthefishgod]

To all the people who think aspec people aren't LGBTQIA+ because we aren't "discriminated against enough", here's a lovely list of reasons why you need to educate yourself:

- We suffer from dehumanisation, people actively devaluing or even erasing our humanity because of our identities (The voidpunk community is heavily supported by aspec people because of this)

- We suffer from self hatred due to feeling as if and being told we are broken, that no one can be happy unless they're in a romantic/sexual relationship, because of allonormativity and amatonormativity that actively damages our mental health

- Amatonormativity shapes laws that put us at an active disadvantage, such as giving married people financial and legal benefits

- Aspec people have been victims of conversion therapy, correctional rape, a lower quality of life, and other effects of being a marginalised and oppressed group

- We suffer from our identities being pathologised and deal with medical stigma because of this, causing many of us to feel unwelcome in and even avoid health care settings

- We suffer from our identities being erased, which can range from people completely denying our existence and people equating it to celibacy, to an almost complete absence of aspec representation in the media (It's been getting better lately, especially for alloaces and aroaces, but I have yet to ever see a canon aroallo character, and representation for those on the spectrum rather than in the extremes is often ignored)

- YOU are creating a hateful, exclusionary space in a community meant to be about inclusion. The same thing that happens to us happens to bisexual people, to polyamorous people, and other identities that are "disputed." In a community meant to be about rejecting the norm, YOU are shoving us out because we don't fit the norm of being LGBTQIA+. Because we're not enough like you.

These are only a few examples of aphobia that people like me deal with. Discrimination and oppression against aspec people stretches far beyond this.

But even if it didn't, it is disrespectful and harmful to everyone involved to gatekeep membership in the community based on oppression and discrimination.

We aren't LGBTQIA+ because we experience oppression. We are LGBTQIA+ because our existence alone goes against heteronormativity and other societal norms forced upon us.

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #aromantic #asexual #aromanticism #asexuality #ace #aro #aspec rights #aspec #aro pride #aroace #arospec #ace pride #ace rights #acespec #aro rights #this has been a psa #psa #information #important psa #aroaceprideispridetoo #we are enough #allonormativity #amatonormativity #discrimination #aspec discrimination #oppression #inclusion #educate yourself

[parksrway]

multiple times now I've seen people genuinely claim that the solution to aphobia is for asexual and aromantic people to stop talking about their asexuality and aromanticism. if you think like this you need to be put in a meat grinder like actually

#'yeah guys the solution to aphobia is for aces and aros to just shut up!!' what if i destroyed everything you loved actually #and i assume the solution to homophobia is for gay people to stop talking about their homosexuality right? #same thing with transphobia? #yeah guys the solution to your discrimination is to just stay in the closet!! thats totally a normal thing to suggest!! #oh no suddenly thats homophobic and transphobic to say #but its fine to say it about aces and aros bc everyone hates us i guess #aphobia #asexual #aromantic

[yagikidd57]

Aro/Ace spec people existing:

Acephobes:

#acephobes fuck off #aro ace #arospec #ace spec #lgbtqia+ #asexuality #asexual #asexuality is valid #ace community #ace space #aromantic #lgbtqia community #queer community #stop discriminating

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I don’t think I’ll ever forgive old tumblr for the shit it did to the asexual movement.

The fact some people just moved on from that by deleting posts, accounts, side blogs but never apologising or doing anything to mend the harm they caused speaks volumes.

Some people are still active to this day, some who actively posted against asexual people, who made hate blogs for them, who liked and reblogged every single post under the tags, who only ever liked 3 posts but still supported them.

There’s no apologies on the internet; no fully true ones especially not on public socials like tumblr, TikTok, twitter and instagram (I’ll give leeway to platforms like discord as it’s a more inclosed community). So while I wouldn’t have accepted the apology it would have been nice to fucking receive one

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro #ace #aro pride #lgbtqia #pride #ace pride #asexual discourse #ace discourse #discrimination #tw acephobia #acephobes fuck off #aphobia tw #poll #polls

[deatmat]

Ace therapy is something incredibly interesting. I just saw a post about how in therapy asexuality is still treated like an illness and how hard it is to find a therapist who won’t try to convert you. (I was going to put this in the reblogs but then my phone did a whacky thing and made it disappear)

I wanted to share that there’s another issue with therapy and asexuality: people trying to use therapy to ‘fix’ friends/family.

When I was 13 I started to see a therapist for anxiety and depression. I was so terrified that I forced my mother to attend the first session with me. We sat down with Dr. A and started discussing what I wanted to explore over my time with her. As I finished my bit about why I was here, my mom decided to tack on one last thing.

“We also struggle a lot with her sexuality.”

I looked at my mother in shock because while, yes my parents do struggle to accept it and that does play a role in my life that I’d like to talk about, it was not what I’d expected to hear. Dr. A asked her what she meant as I stiffened in the shoulders and started to dread what she’d say.

“Well just that she’s asexual, and a little confused, and maybe you can help her through that.”

This may seem like it could be harmless - maybe she meant it as in genuinely wanting someone to support me through a difficult transition. But, knowing my mother, she was waiting for a professional to validate her in her opinion that I was “confused” and “too young” and “just waiting for the right person/for my hormones to kick in.”

Thankfully, Dr. A seemed to sense I was uncomfortable and shuffled along the conversation. When we had our next session without my mom, she asked me if I wanted to talk about asexuality or if my mother just wanted to, and when I explained it wasn’t a huge issue in my life, she accepted that and moved on. Asexuality was only ever mentioned from there on when I was talking about the stress of other peoples reactions to it, in which it was immediately treated respectfully. Though my mother still asked after most sessions if asexuality had been brought up.

I was lucky to have a good therapist, someone who welcomed all variations of queer people without hesitation. If I had been without her, this would be a very different conversation about ace therapy.

The LGBTQIA community says asexuals don’t face discrimination but we’re still so unsafe in medical settings. Most of us know we can never mention being ace to our therapists or our treatments would begin to focusing on increasing our sex drives which don’t have anything wrong with them in the first place. It’s sick and wrong that people are using the system to their advantage and trying to snuff out our identities. Please stay safe out there my ace pals.

#acespec #asexual #asexuality #therapy #ace therapy #discrimination #conversion #ace awareness week #ace pride #aspec #story time #personal experience #queer #lgbtq community #lgbtqia #a is for ace/aro btw #we belong here too #we are still not accepted in this world

[currently-becoming-potatoes]

Ah, nothing like discourse about aro/ace people to kick the sludge up from the bottom of the pond…

Yeah, to anyone who is of the mindset that aro/ace people without any other label attached are straight, please get the fuck off my blog, off this website, off the internet, away from civilization, and into a forest somewhere far, far away from everybody.

#aphobia #acephobia #arophobia #stop discriminating #ramblings of a madman #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aroace #aspec #arospec

[lemon-chair]

"Looks her up and down like you do with girrrrrls~"

I caved and bought all the Yonderland seasons while waiting for Ghosts to come out THIS WEEK!!!!!!!!!

WHOOOOOOOO

#yonderland #yonderland fanart #my new favourite humour is gay people badly pretending to be straight #Also why does Ben Willbound play so many queer coded characters?? #Whatcha tryin say???? #animated gif #I had to export this goddamn gift so many times before it looked decent #that gay knight from Yonderland #Or ace knight we dont discriminate #Ellis Of Woolworth that's his name #icon

[anths-girl]

I'm not one to try and write long-winded posts or like, get very passionately into a certain topic, or whatever. Mostly for the fact that, for one, my anxiety just makes me believe that nobody gives a shit about what little ol' me has to say about anything. And secondly, the few times in the past I DID kind of…speak up about things, I got such horrible responses that it just put me off ever actually saying anything at all, anymore.

But, BUT…sometimes I just CANNOT shut up. And this is one of those times.

I've lately started noticing this thing where, apparently, if you're asexual - and I AM very much asexual - you're not "included" in the "community," if you're a "straight" asexual. Like, go to my blog, see me posting pictures of like, Kirk Hammett with heart eyes emojis…BOOM, nope, you're not a "real" asexual. You're not valid. You're not included. Because I find men aesthetically pleasing, I'm…a fake? A fraud? Or, not actually asexual at all? Doesn't matter that, when I was 13, a guy I actually thought I liked, wanted to kiss me, and I fucking RAN AWAY. Or when another guy I also thought I liked, touched me, or hugged me or did anything physical, I would get nauseous and so uncomfortable that I pushed him off and made some vague excuses to just get the fuck AWAY. Or that, at the age of fucking 40, I am a virgin, I've never been kissed, AND I ABSOLUTELY DON'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING SEXUAL WITH ANYONE, EVER?

BUT, again, because I find MEN attractive (to LOOK at), and because I'm sex positive, I've watched porn (and YES, enjoyed it), like sexy movies, LOVE to read (and occasionally write) smut…I am not actually asexual? So…what? I'm just this broken, wrong…thing? That doesn't belong anywhere, because I'm not "attracted" to someone of my own gender? Even though asexual literally means I am not physically attracted to ANYONE? Because I am, according to "normal society," for all intents and purposes, labelled as "straight," I am not worthy of the "community."

The same "community" who is ALWAYS preaching inclusivity, and understanding and compassion? Well, shit, lately it's everything BUT compassionate. I've become wary, or even scared, of saying I'm asexual, because I'm afraid of ridicule. Again, I have pretty damn bad anxiety, and I get afraid when I just post a simple comment on things online, because I just don't have the mental energy to get into arguments or disputes. Though…it SHOULDN'T BE THAT WAY?! WHY does everything always have to end up being about people shunning others, who are different? Everyone talks about NOT hating or excluding people who are different…but then they turn right around and do EXACTLY that. The LGBTQA+ "community" is supposed to be a SAFE PLACE for ALL of us…and yet, now, apparently, the "us" is not…included? I can't be part of that "us," because, what, there's some specific set of requirements I'm meant to fullfil? I'm not asexual enough, because I'm not completely repulsed by sex as a whole, or because I'm a woman, who finds men attractive?

So now, what…it's right back to that mentality of hiding your true identity, because there's nowhere you fit in? Being ostracized because you're not ENOUGH to be part of something that SHOULD be welcoming to you?

Seriously, the world is regressing. Instead of being embraced and accepted for who you are…we get scrutiny, and told we're not good enough to be part of something that is supposed to include us.

So yes, what I'm trying to ACTUALLY say…it's sad and scary and LONELY, to be asexual. It's isolating. Because where we SHOULD be finding support and understanding, we just get hate and scorn. And one would truly think, that in this day and age, that wouldn't happen anymore. But like with everything, people just always have to ruin things for each other.

Because hatred towards people who are different? Will NEVER change. Humanity is still just too fucked up, for that.

#anths-girl posts #on a personal note #asexual #asexuality #ace #aspec #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqa+ #queer #sexuality #text #discrimination

[making-my-wey-down-town]

November prompt list challenge 2022, Day 10 - Fantasy

Here your Brave Knight Sun ⚔️ ☀️ and your Charming Prince Moon 👑 🌙 💞💗💖💘

I had so much fun (and a lot of daydreaming) while making this one asdfghasdfgh

Bruh they are just 🤌✨ (yes I’m falling for my own creations, leave me alone kkk)

#ace jesters #november prompts #daily prompt #*sighs* #prompt list #2022 #ayo? am I building an au in my head? yes siiiir #asdfghasdfgh #boi and girl I can see this! *eyes start to spark* #in this far far away kingdom their kings never age but they can of course die. their last king disappeared without leaving a trace behind #(eclipse) his brother takes his place until he returns (moon) while his other sibling (sun) does his best to find their lost brother #in one of those missions of finding the lost king. they find y/n who perhaps has a clue of where eclipse is. y/n then is taken by force #to their kingdom. to spill everything they know to help them out. #is just an idea so far I might change it but there. heh #just some random facts of this cuz I’m really into this fantasy au kkk #Prince Moon is feared cuz he always presents himself so cold but he has no other option. being a king isn’t easy and sometimes though #decisions are need to be made to maintain peace and protect the kingdom #Knight Sun doesn’t qualify to be king it’s hard for him stay serious all the time like their other brother. and to maintain him active and #in use his brother Moon proposed to make him a knight. Sun is seen as a hero in their kingdom but a monster in others. he tries to not cause #problems in his search but fights always happens. discrimination in his race. *pats the baby sunshine* #otay I’m done for now lol #this is sooo long sorry lmao #fnaf sun #fnaf moon #fnaf security breach #fnaf sb #fnaf daycare attendant #sundrop #moondrop #wey draws

[saucy-mesothelioma]

Yo, Happy International Asexuality Day to my fellow aces!!!! Remember that no matter the label, y'all are valid and anyone who says otherwise will be subject to the wrath of the Nebby

#she will gladly murder acephobes #or anyone honestly #she doesn't discriminate #international asexuality day #asexual #ace #acespec #the nebby manifesto #I mean technically it's a pic of nebula so it fits the tag

[noa-ciharu]

Being aroace in small homophobic country is so weird cuz you constantly feel struck somewhere between cishets and what little LGBT+ community there is here

One on hand I'm surrounded with cishets. I blend nicely with them as there's nothing visibly queer about me. Most don't even know asexuality and aromanticism are a thing so they just think I'm disinterested in people and have hella high standards. But then you have to be on pins and needles each time they start asking you about love life. Sure, I did get told a bit of rude stuff in the past but I grew used to dismissing 'when will you get a bf' questions

On other hand those who are attracted to same gender or aren't cis experience alot of discrimination here. So I'd feel a bit like an oddball trying to push my way into community where 95% of them were called names, were threatened or even beaten up, regularly discriminated and shunned by family and friends who aren't like them. When the worst thing that happened to me was being pushed to pick a dude I like and maybe get told I should see therapy. And ofc alot of conversations would be about sexual and romantic attraction and gender expression which again are things that are unfamiliar to me

#yea yea i understand aros and aces are accepted as part of community in the west #but you gotta understand east eu is 15 behind with progress #if there is even any #queet folks are fighting against being discriminated and threatened first and foremost here #aroace #asexuality #aromantic

[codthefishgod]

Hey, I've been coming across a lot of discriminatory stuff lately (i.e. sexism, aphobia) and while it is probably just me, I'll put this out into the world for anyone else who needs to hear it, because I do.

What we're doing is not hopeless. There are other people out there still fighting the good fight. We're not alone in anything we do, and for as long as there are people protesting against our existence, there will be others standing besides us. Stay hopeful, it's never impossible.

#lgbtq #gay #discrimination #stop discriminating #ace rights #aro rights #aspec rights #lgbtq+ rights #poc rights #womens rights #sexism #sexism goes both ways #racism #aphobia #homophobia #transphobia #keep fighting #keep fighting the good fight #our rights

[yagikidd57]

I just love when people tell me Acephobia/Aphobia is not real and when I describe some of my acephobic experiences, they go “that happens to every queer person though”, literally acknowledging the discrimination against ace spec people is real🤣🤦🏽‍♀️, that is the literal definition of aphobia/acephobia. Also I don’t get this argument when it’s another queer person because if they know what it feels like to be discriminated against because of their queerness, why would they do it to another queer person?😒🤔

#tw acephobia #aphobia #lgbtqia+ #asexual #asexuality is valid #ace community #asexuality #ace space #lgbtqia #lgbtqia community #lgbtqia+ community #queer community #asexuality is a spectrum #aroace #ace spec #stop discriminating #discrimination #wtf #acephobia is real #aphobia is real

[oh2e]

Not to add to discourse but does the OP of this sentence not think the two things are related?

stupid children on this website blog about how she was killed for being 'asexual.' a blatant lie. she was killed for being a young woman who rejected a man's sexual advances.

Pretty sure ace people are more likely than allo people to reject sexual advances, so therefore her asexuality was most likely related, no?

#this is about a teenager who was murdered a few years ago by a man she rejected #she has publicly posted under the ‘this is what asexual looks like’ hashtag which is pretty conclusive proof she was ace #I don’t think anyone is saying her murder isn’t misogynistic but her being ace was probably ALSO related #my own post #I’m not actually looking for a discussion I just cannot get over the ways some people will try to #‘prove’ ace people aren’t discriminated against or harmed because of their asexuality #despite many many asexual people giving examples from small to big to the contrary. (this being an extreme example)

[house-of-slayterr]

Tw: Aphobia

Please read the fallowing articles with extrémaux caution. That can be quite triggering to some. But I feel I should share some studies since some still think Acephobia and Aphobia don’t exist. Asexual and Aromatic individuals are victims of hate crimes and discrimination just like the rest of the LGBT community.

#Aphobia #asexual #aromantic asexual #aromatic #aroace #ace spec #lgbt phobia #lgbt #queer #hate crimes #discrimination

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads / storygraph

The Poisons We Drink

YA urban fantasy

a girl who brews powerful potions is coerced into making potions to interfere with D.C.’s most influential politicians in an attempt to stop a dangerous Witcher Registration Act from passing, and will do anything to protect her sister after their mother is killed

bi MC, nonbinary love interest

arc from netgalley

#The Poisons We Drink #aroaessidhe 2023 reads #this is…….a lot of cool ideas but also so many elements and high stakes that i kinda lost track of them #the pacing is weird. the worldbuilding is random? #why is brewing SO overpowered & risky for her but the other powers seem to have pretty normal low-scale risks? #it’s definitely ambitious and has some cool ideas and also some great characters just. didn’t execute as well as I’d like #as much as we’re told the main threat is the government trying to put through a Registration Act #most of the actual antagonism we see is from other Witchers? #like the systemic discrimination got a bit lost in the witcher family drama and murder politics #important things to say about oppression and police violence but like....idk #she has this ‘deviation’- essentially evil sentient magic inside her head (and you KNOW I love that trope) #but it’s barely explained and very underutilised? other than helping her get out of bad situations you could take it out & would barely #change anything #also it’s explained at the start that she’s an empath but other than the very occasional mention I kept forgetting #will also note that I bumped this up my tbr because I saw the author talking/promoting it as the MCs sister being aroace but no mention #maybe it’ll come up in a sequel (there weren’t really any places where it would have made sense to bring it up here) but idk #(just the way the author was asking for advice on how to write an ace character and stuff you’d assume that they’d….put that in the book?) #not really a critique of the book itself but anyway. I really wanted to like this but the way it was put together just did not vibe with me #edit: I saw the author say on twitter that the version used for ARCs was before ace stuff was added and that there's other signif changes? #so perhaps that will be there! i'm not sure if I want to read it again but might skim just to see what that's about