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#{ the tomboy and the closet gay }
mainfaggot · 10 months
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Omg lol 4 students "confessed" all embarrassedly that they thought i was a guy at first 😭😭😭 like gender #win the kids all think I'm a dude .... until I start talking
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nikki-shi · 2 years
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closed for @mari-zuko​
the night of october 24th
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nikki turned to lay on her stomach, pulling the sheets with her to cover her bare back. she propped herself up on both elbows and scrolled through her instagram feed. one post in particular - a friend pleading for answers, claiming how much they missed greer - reminded her of something she wanted to ask mari. “are you going to that pool party?” she asked. “kinda weird to have a birthday party for someone who isn’t even here. no one snuck into the school pool for my birthday. ... but i’ll go if you go. i’d love to see you in a little bikini.”
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heyitslapis · 22 days
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I remember when I was early middle school age I heard that purple was the gays' color & that gay people wore it to signal to each other. So one of my favorite shirts was a church shirt (tshirt made by my church) that happened to be dark purple & every time i wore it (especially at church) i remember thinking that i hoped no one assumed i was gay because i was wearing purple
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Being Masc 🌈
*My straight self dating a guy in Highschool* (Leo, feels worth a mention)
Him being "polite"; opening doors for me, getting me a chair, those typical pleasantries...
Could boil my blood!!!
if i wanted to sit I would have gotten myself one,
Now I'm jogging to the door cause you're holding it open
God I used to see it as attention seeking, it was unnecessary, it wasn't cute! just seemed like he wanted people to see him as a gentleman...
Ooooor I was always a gay masc and he made me feel a lil too girly 😳😊
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lias-writings · 1 year
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Feminine girlfriend headcannons
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request: no
pairing: bella ramsey x fem!reader
tw: fluff, feminine!reader, mentions of public affection, mentions of men,
summary: headcannons of Bella having super feminine girlfriend <3
a/n: before anything, i do not want people to think I am gendering makeup, dresses etc. “feminine” becase idk how else to call it and regardless of if you’re a female/male/non-binary you can dress/wear makeup how ever you want, okay I hope you understand, enjoy<33
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🎀 first of all I just know bella would love watching you getting all dolled up even to just go shopping
🎀 bella being hot, rich actor would definitely spoil you as much as he can, they would buy you any clothes or makeup you desire
🎀 sometimes she would let you do their makeup or skincare but just becase he can’t say no to you
🎀 I feel like bella would love when you wear mini skirts/dresses, but hate when others, especially men are staring!!
🎀 even tho your closet is mostly pastel-coloured, you love wearing bella’s baggy tomboy t-shirts
🎀 and they would love you wearing them even more
🎀 most of the time bella’s amazed with the magic you can do with makeup or the complicated hairstyles you’re able to create on your head
🎀 whenever you get the opportunity you love to curl their hair cuz they look amazing with the waves (the gif🧎🏿‍♀️)
ANYWAY
🎀 bella loves to show you off so whenever she has some event going on, they take you to the red carpet with her and always make sure you two are matching
🎀 if you are also famous she’s at all of your important events/premieres!!
🎀 one of bella’s love languages is gift giving so whenever he sees you admiring a new bag or a fancy dress, few days later you have it laying on your bed in a gift bag/box with a small gift-card from your lovely partner <33
🎀 whenever a dude in a public is staring at you they always wrap an arm around your waist and hold you closer to them
🎀 bella loves shopping with you, their favorite part is when you get home and you’re trying on all the stuff you bought putting on a little show
🎀 you have matching bracelets you made for the two of you awwh
🎀 talking about bracelets bella loves buying you a fancy jewelry, they definitely got you a promise ring on your either b-day or anniversary
🎀 let’s stick to the rings; whenever you buy a new ring for bella they wear it for next interview and whenever the interviewer mentions their ring she’s always like “yeah, my gf got me this!”
🎀 bella’s definitely a sucker for thighs so when you’re wearing short skirt it’s hard for them to keep their hands to themselves
🎀 if you’re the type of person that would say “there is nothing in there” while staring at the closet filled to bursting with clothes they’d would just raise an eyebrow and give you one of their comfy grey sweatshirt <33
🎀 matching earrings!!!
🎀 you stealing one of their t-shirts and them asking you after like 6 moths if you don’t know where that t-shirt is
🎀 when you and bella officially announced that you are a couple people were shocked cuz you “didn’t look gay” ( no because how are we fem!lesbians/bi/pan girls supposed to look gay? )
🎀 if you are not famous, you definitely had a social media and dating an actor kinda helped raising the numbers up so you may or may not started thinking about posting grwm’s/makeup tutorials if you do bella’s always commenting something like “first” or “can I get a hi🥺”
🎀 last but not least you two would definitely became the “it couple” as the perfect example of masc! and fem! or some shit like that. 😍
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RED AND BLUE GAY COMPETITION ROUND 3
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the ones that got the most attention last time, let's see which yuri wins!
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Korrasami:
THEY HAVE IT ALL. Rivals to lovers! The red and blue! Tomboy and girly-girl! Even water and fire if you squint! There’s something so special about the world’s most powerful bender falling for a nonbender who holds her own in combat just as well. The slow burn friendship turning into pining. Let’s also not forget how Asami was there for Korra when she needed her most and very nearly almost confessed in one of her letters! They love and support each other and are PEAK bi-con energy!
Red/Blue (Time War):
They’re canonically enemies to lovers lesbians. TIHYLTW was the first sapphic book I read as a closeted bi 14yo so they’re near and dear to my heart
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remy-roll-writes · 6 months
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For the queer headcanons 👉👈
Raichi, Barou, Kunigami, Junichi, Reo, Gagamaru, Shidou, Tokimitsu, Zantetsu, Nagi
Jingo Raichi
swings both ways. violently. with a bat
bisexual but with a preference for girls
he was shocked to find out not every boy likes boys as well
some of his classmates were talking about the pretty girls in their class and when raichi started talking about the pretty boys as well, the others gave him confused looks
will beat up any homophobe he comes across to
Shoei Barou
he doesn't use any labels, he likes what he likes (which just happens to be more boys)
he'd still be somewhere in the demi-spectrum. needs a lot of time to get used to the feelings
he's also very in denial. not only when it comes to boys. it will take him a while to realize he likes someone, then some more time to admit it to himself and then even longer to admit it to the other person
Rensuke Kunigami
our bisexual king
very closeted though, he's doesn't want to come out if it's not necessary (and that's okay!!)
his older sister was the first to know though. Kunigami really wanted her to be the first to know
he did question his gender for a while as well but he ends up being cis
Junichi Wanima
on the aroace spectrum. he's not sure where exactly but somewhere
would only consider qprs
keisuke is ready to throw hands for his brother anytime
Reo Mikage
another bisexual but he prefers boys
also transmasc
his parents were accepting of him being trans, they drew the line at him wanting to play soccer
before his outing, everyone always called him a tomboy and we all know where this leads us
Gin Gagamaru
*slaps rooftop* this boy can fit so much gender
very funky gender. they use all pronouns and either just go by queer or by pangender
also panromantic asexual, maybe also demiromantic
no one knows what gender gagamaru was assigned at birth. could be anything
Ryusei Shidou
gay gay homosexual gay
very open and loud about it
he would flirt with/make sexual jokes about or with girls as well but he wouldnt be serious about it
he always knew. everyone always knew. he's that one kid you look at at the age of 6 and immediatly go "i know what you are"
Aoshi Tokimitsu
asexual panromantic, also demiromantic
but he's very scared of relationships, he'll be so gentle
he will deny he's queer out of fear, even if the people around him (aryu, bachira) are obviously queer as well
Zantetsu Tsurugi
he called himself a lesbian once because "he likes girls"
doesn't have any idea about labels so Reo told him to just use queer
he mixes the order of LGBTQ+ up. "im part of the BQTLG" "the what"
would honestly not care about his partners gender
Seishiro Nagi
gay and demiromantic
does not care about anyone knowing. he's not loud about it like Shidou but he is very casual about it
might be non-binary as well. he just doesn's care
considers using he/they
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Abby x reader head canons?
I will say may not be the best representation for her character because I've only watched (many) play troughs and not played the game yet cause I no longer have my play station :( but I am absolutely horrendously down bad for her ngl so here we go (also abby is closeted wlw in this sorry guys)
warnings: repressed sapphic feelings, gets a little sexual at the ending but nothing major, jealousy, mostly just fluff here cause im easing myself into her character
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I feel like she's not particularly into pda? not anything egregious but she'll have an arm around you is enough, maybe a hand in the back pocket to give you a lil bum squeeze but even that's pushing it. She doesn't want to be obnoxious like *those* couples (she does actually) but she wants people to know your hers.
connecting to this I feel like she gets jealous pretty easily. Not from a place of seeing you as property but from her own insecurities and worrying that you'll find somebody "better" which means sometimes she'll give a snide little comment when you've been hanging out with somebody else that makes you pull back and go "excuse me?" often leading to her either talking herself into a corner or going silent and passive aggressive until your able to pull the truth out of her, often times after the anger has fizzled out hours later and she slips into your room with a soft mumbled apology when you tell you that you love her and only her but that doesn't mean she gets to be an asshole to you for it. (she makes it up to you though. all night long in fact)
braid her hair. please braid her hair. It's a small sign of love that makes her go absolutely crazy. The feeling of your nails gently scritching her scalp has her stretching out like a cat in a sunbeam on a lazy sunday afternoon. She'll set her head in your lap while you undo the braid and run your fingers through her soft locks until she slowly drifts off to sleep because she just feels so at peace with you that she's comfortable letting her guard down and falling asleep
even if you have very short hair, you probably end up wearing one of her hair ties on your wrists because she tends to lose them + its a little part of her to keep by your side :') (i will say its interesting that in the show, it seems like ellie keeps her hair tied back with a hairtie that seems to have been cut, so she has to wrap it around and then tie a knot which makes sense because i'd gather that elastic isn't that easy to come across post apocalypse yknow. I think it'd be cute if you like. found a scrunchie or smthn for her that even though its not her style she's still wear it cause its a gift from you :'))
that being said? i imagine after everything she's been through she's a pretty light/paranoid sleeper so if you slip from the bed for any reason be ready to see her padding after you, squinted eyes and grumbling with sleep still in her voice as she mumbles 'where you goin'?' because babygirl woke up without you by her side and it caused her to panic :(
confident in her body. She's worked hard on her physique and she knows you enjoy it, so don't be surprised to see her not-so-subtlety flex if she catches you eyeing her up. You'll roll your eyes at her peacocking but it doesn't stop that lovesick smile from growing on your face that makes her feel all giddy. Bunch of goofballs in love right here <3
idk why but she gives me a bit closeted energy growing up. I feel like she probably got plenty of shit for being a tomboy and she gives me the energy of those girls who are like "women can be masculine and straight you know >:(" but so incredibly gay lmao (knew countless gals like this god bless them all) but yeah she'll huff and puff because just because she's not girly doesn't mean she's gay but also likes it when you sleep in her bed and you guys tell stories and fall asleep in eachothers arms, sometimes she'll stay awake so she can watch how peaceful you are and maybe maybe think about kissing you and how soft your body would feel in her hands and the little noises you'd make and that makes her feel something owen never did. but yknow. she's still super straight
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gaypolls · 2 months
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ok i just said it doesn't really bother me but i do wanna rant a little bc it's SO insane to claim that you're only a real homosexual if you've never felt an ounce of attraction to ANYONE but your own gender... as though True Attraction is easily defined and quantifiable for everyone? as though gendered attraction is in and of itself something that involves some essence of other people's genders or whatever and not just what you percieve???
think of how many twinks have mistaken for butches and vice versa lmao. is everyone involved in those funny little mixups not a real gay anymore? hell, what about gay people in the closet who can't quite accept their attraction to their own gender yet but their "type" of the "appropriate" gender is effeminate guys/tomboys? if someone wants to enter the gay identity do they absolutely HAVE to renounce all past attraction to the "opposite" gender as fake? why? says who? why would it not be enough to say "i'm significantly happier and feel more natural embracing attraction to, and being with, my own gender"?
like yeah, personally, i do deem the attraction that i used to think i had for women as fake. but i'm an incredibly self-aware and self-analytical and generally In My Head person. i can look in there and see the throughline and know the exact reason i thought i liked girls, and hell, i can even remember the conscious thoughts i had where i was forcing myself to feel it. but i do NOT expect everyone to be the same?? like that would be insane. if everyone was as self-aware as me, specifically. that's not healthy lol.
but anyway, on that same vein, repression and the closet are seriously powerful things. there may have been a layer of conscious attempt to be masculine in the mix, but when i was 16 and searching for things to appreciate in girls' appearances and, because i was trying so hard, sometimes finding them, and acheiving that abstract feeling of attraction that i was looking for... would it really be SO insane if i now wanted to say that yes, i have been attracted to women, and i just got over it?
when i say that i'm not attracted to women now, that doesn't even mean that i have never been attracted to a single woman. it means that womanhood and femininity does not inherently appeal to me. that's where "exceptions" come in - it's literally not that deep. it's when you recognize that you're feeling something, and maybe you're unsure but it seems at least attraction-adjacent, but it's not related to the prerequisite of gender that's usually on your capacity for attraction; it's in spite of it. i have to imagine that the majority of the time when this happens, it's because the person is in fact somewhat androgynous, or some part of you percieved this person as the gender you do like when you weren't conscious of it, or there's some aspect of their appearance that has the right gendered "energy" to you. and sometimes people just look really fucking interesting, or people are just excpetionally beautiful, and it hits you so hard that it seems like attraction but you're really just in a brief moment of awe! sometimes you just enter the cosmic soup for a second!
and feeling superior about having never had this happen to you is... well, it's just that, isn't it? it's purely about feeling superior. i honestly don't even believe that it's truly the case for that one person. i feel like the internal need to say shit like that has got to come from an insecurity about the fact that you're not that "true homosexual" that you're claiming deserves to never be implied to have things in common with all other gay people.
furthermore... the notion of it being homophobic to identify as gay when you're "not 100% internally homosexual"? well i mean obviously that's the terf shit. it's the braindead idea that other people's identities take anything away from you. as if anyone actually identifies as gay "when they're actually bi" just for fun and not because their "straight" attraction is extremely incidental and/or just does not preclude actually acting on it... like duh, lol. and even if it was for fun, it literally still takes nothing. it's a completely imaginary danger.
and it's so batshit in particular bc going out of your way to harass other gay people and tell them they're not gay is objectively the fucking homophobic thing??? like how on earth do you see yourself as the better person here. christ lol
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gatheringbones · 6 months
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[“My coming-out phone call to her came at a strange time—strange in its lack of any particular precipitating event. I did not tell her I was bisexual because I’d just discovered the fact myself; I’d known for some time in the back of my mind. I did not tell her then because I had a girlfriend or even a wild fling. (At the time, I hadn’t even had sex with a woman.) I was not worried about being outed or of outing myself through my writing yet—this was many years before I was published. I told her simply because I thought she ought to know. I remember spending most of the conversation trying to convince her that bisexuality was not a “new thing” with me. What was new was the concept of telling her about it, of “coming out” itself.
I was used to being an “invisible minority.” As half-Asian, I have always passed for Caucasian. As a tomboy growing up, I often passed as a boy. I was used to being things that were counter to people’s assumptions. What had never occurred to me before was that I should announce that I was different. I felt rather secure in my self-knowledge and in my identity, and yet, once I was introduced to the concept of “coming out,” by osmosis through the Lesbian/Gay Student Alliance, I began to worry that, by not formally declaring the pieces of my identity, I was, oh god, in the closet. I was very uncomfortable with the notion that allegiance to a label was necessary in order to be myself. (You should have seen how I battled the Asian-American label that Asian-American student groups continually fought to stick me with.)
And yet I made the phone call. I don’t know if the phone was the wisest choice, or if my timing was well-considered. My mom was suffering some degree of separation anxiety at that point, of course, and I’m sure my news exacerbated any paranoid thoughts she’d been having about all the wild and terrible changes that college was sure to wreak on her daughter. But it was my own sense of the sudden gulf between us, of the distance that collegiate nest-leaving creates, that gave me a sense of urgency. I needed to do it sooner, rather than later—by phone, if necessary. She needed to know this fundamental thing about me now, before her image of me got too gilded by memory, before the intimacy of eighteen years’ living together was lost. I could not live with the idea that if I waited to tell her a year later, she’d decide that she had never really known me—that a stranger had lived in her house all her life.”]
cecelia tan, from picture this, from a woman like that: lesbian and bisexual writers tell their coming out stories, 2000
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I remember watching a "makeover" type show with a trans guy friend where a "tomboy" girl was essentially force femmed and nonstop shamed by the show's host for not being feminine and literally crying watching it, but neither of us came away saying "hey, maybe you are also trans" about my reaction.
My friend did say he thought the makeover victim seemed like she might be trans because she was pitching her voice low and wanted to try to be more feminine to get a boyfriend, despite being very upset by the whole thing, which made him think she might be a gay guy who didn't know or was intentionally staying closeted to try to avoid being socially ostracized (either could easily be true, but I don't remember any details of names, etc., so I wouldn't know how to look into this now), but I think IIRC he said it seemed like it was hitting me harder as a masculine woman to watch than it was him as a feminine man.
Maybe he had suspicions before I did, but he never said anything to me so I don't know, and we're not in touch anymore, so I won't ever know now. But if he did, I think he was right not to try to crack my egg directly. I think people have to come to things on their own terms. Or at least I did.
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lubotomies · 2 months
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literally seeing your drawing in my head i didnt even process tori as tori because i was like "oh yeah thats just tord before he transitioned" LMAO
your art is so good though i have no words for how much i love the updated girls especially tamara... soo cute
THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH 💝💝💝💝 makes me so so happy to hear such wonderful feedback!!!!! with tamara im definitely trying to project that closeted little gay girl in me i was the hashtag tomboy of my class so shes getting the tomboy treatment but in a different flavour than i was (janis ian slash avril lavigne type) and of course she has to be really pathetically small because she is NOT. pulling any bitches
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lilyginnyblackv2 · 2 years
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Luca had a ton of gay subtext, Strange World is going to have a gay male lead + gay teen romance, and Kingdom Hearts' Riku was once told that "there are just some things we need to keep separate." The potential for future KH games to explore Riku's queerness is all right there!  😤
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DDD - Esmeralda tells Riku that sometimes it is okay, and even necessary, to keep some part of yourself separate (aka, to lock up a part of one’s self). The fact that what she tells him here is very similar to the idea and sentiment of queer individuals staying in the closet for self-preservation is something that many in the fandom have picked up on over the years. It says a lot and is something that could be built upon more through the next two movies, if they were to be included in any future KH games.
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Luca - The dynamic and personalities between the three main characters is pretty much exactly the same as in KH1 (Kairi was still very spunky then and more tomboy-ish). A great world for Riku to think back on or for the series to use to explore his relationship dynamic with both Sora and Kairi, and how those dynamics have shifted and changed for him over the years.
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Strange World - This movie hasn’t come out yet. But it is apparently going to have a gay lead character and a gay teen romance. I’m also going to make an educated guess that the title isn’t just in reference to the literal strange world that the characters find themselves in, but also to the idea of being gay and/or falling in love with someone of the same sex, since society still treats both of these things as being outside of the norm.
Depending on how this story gets handled, if it were to show up in KH, then it could work really well with Riku (and more importantly the series itself) finally fully acknowledging and being aware of his feelings for Sora. Actually facing his feelings and saying them for what they are. Something that he seemed to be holding back in KH3. 
Of course, I’m realistic. I know that the games are likely to never actually explore anything like this. If they did, I would be beyond amazed and happy about it, but I won’t hold my breath. But, gosh, the potential is just right there!
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bbbbbbrilliantly · 10 months
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Since y’all always assuming and call everyone homophobic for telling y’all to stop calling her anything at all name ONE queer person who follows Jacky hill perry..QUICKLY!..and Candace owens ..the jokes write themselves y’all will see soon not everyone is gay just because they are a tomboy that’s dumb to assume ..
You can still eat coochie in a closet. ☺️
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mod-kyoko · 10 months
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lgbtqia+ headcanons
fandom: danganronpa
characters:
a/n: a couple years ago i made a post which was a list of characters i hc to be queer and looking back at it made me cringe hard because i was such a baby gay so i'm updating that and telling yall my hcs again but in a more in-character way for them!
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trigger happy havoc
sakura ogami
she labels herself as queer because she doesn't have a desire to give herself a specific identity, it's not something she thinks about, she's just attracted to whoever she is attracted to
sakura ship i like: sakuraoi
makoto naegi
chin-deep in the closet, so he never labeled himself, though he is attracted to men and women
some makoto ships i like: komaegi (nagito x makoto), naegami, naegamigiri, naegiri
kiyotaka ishimaru
so gay. so so gay. bats not a single lash at women.
mondo was his gay awakening. though he kept it to himself for a very long time due to his family being not so supportive
taka ship i like: ishimondo!!!!
mondo owada
taka and mondo were each other's gay awakenings
though mondo is bisexual, w/ a preference for women
mondo ships i like: ishimondo, ikuwada (mondo x mukuro), owamiki (mondo x mikan)
aoi asahina
does not label her sexuality, though she is attracted to men and women. preference for women!!
hina ship i like: sakuraoi
toko fukawa
no labels, and she is attracted to men but i thoroughly believe her "crush" on togami was actually just an unhealthy hyperfixation and/or obsession
komaru was the first person that toko felt true feelings for
toko ship i like: tokomaru!!!
goodbye despair
hajime hinata
he is so bisexual it hurts
it took him a while to come to terms with it but i like to imagine nagito was his first bi awakening
some hajime ships i like: komahina, hinamiki, hinanami
peko pekoyama
peko is nonbinary and uses she/they pronouns, and her sexuality isn't labeled
was often called a tomboy growing up, and prefers a more androgynous style, but sometimes gets in touch with her girly side
peko ship i like: kuzupeko
fuyuhiko kuzuryu
doesn't put a label on his sexuality because he is so damn far in the closet, he doesn't even know he's in it
he is attracted to men and women though
some fuyuhiko ships i like: kuzupeko, kuzusoda
mahiru koizumi
she is omnisexual! attracted to all genders but with a preference for men
some mahiru ships i like: koizuryu, hiyoizumi
gundham tanaka
soooo asexual, he just doesn't get the appeal
attracted to women
100% unlabeled gender, it's a social construct anyway, he/it all the way
only gundham ship i like: sondam
hiyoko saionji
do i need to say it? lesbian
yeah
that's it
she keeps it to herself, due to internalized homophobia, but mahiru was definitely her lesbian awakening
only hiyoko ship i like: hiyoizumi
mikan tsumiki
biromantic w a pref for men
asexual due to her trauma, she has no interest in sexual relationships
mikan ships i like: hinamiki, miomiki, owamiki (mondo x mikan)
kazuichi soda
also sort of in the closet, attracted to men and women but definitely prefers women
hajime was his sexual awakening lmfao
kaz ship i like: kuzusoda
ibuki mioda
pansexual! she doesn't see gender
uses she/they/it and is neurodivergent, so she feels like her gender is very connected to music
ibuki ship i like: miomiki
killing harmony
shuichi saihara
okay so shuichi is attracted to all genders, but doesn't label himself because thinking about labels panics him (this is me projecting)
i live for trans shuichi actually
shu ship i like: saiouma
kokichi oma
bro is unlabeled and i feel like he likes to lie to people about his sexuality and then contradict himself to make them think they are going insane
oma ships i like: saiouma, oumeno
himiko yumeno
transfem (she/her)
is not out of the closet to anyone
himiko ship i like: oumeno, tenmiko...? (not sure if i like this one or not rlly)
keebo
very much struggles with the concept of gender identity, he wants to fit in by having a label, but doesn't know what he feels he is. whatever other people perceive him as, he decides he is
aroace (despite my personal hc that he is aroace i do enjoy the keebo x miu ship)
miu iruma
poor girl is painfully attracted to women and doesn't even know it
she knows she is attracted to men, but it will take her a while to realize her feelings for other girls
miu ship i like: keebo x miu
rantaro amami
bisexual af. preference for women
is currently questioning his gender
rantaro ship i like: akamami
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declinedagain · 5 months
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The Cost to Stay
Today it all clicked-
Who I am and why
But I cannot feel valid
No matter how hard I try.
I was born white and female
It never felt right.
I don’t want to be her
Get her out of my sight.
Is there anything worse than
What nature chose
To make me, bake me,
Right down to my bones?
My friends thought me gay,
But it wasn’t quite right.
I was mannish, tomboy, low voiced
How trite.
I wanted to be
Like the boys and men
In the stories I read,
But i didn’t want a woman in the end.
I didn’t want a man,
But a close close friend.
I confused it with marriage,
Perhaps, my greatest sin.
My husband responded
When we talked of this once
I was not quite a woman.
But I still try to be one
Against all that I want.
But I no longer feel like a boy or a man
Or a woman or a girl or binary or pan.
I thought I was just generally
Discontent.
(Life can feel hard when
you’re not much but sad.)
Now I have words to describe how I am
Agender asexual
But still mother and ma’am.
Does any of it matter?
Do I even count?
I was made this way from trauma, abuse, and this life.
Can I still be Ace?
And a Christian man’s wife?
I cannot now leave
My children and world
To wave a gray flag
Deserted. Alone.
Neither can I hurt my family that way,
So I’ll stay.
Out of love.
Day after day.
Closets are dark
And quiet and nice.
But I would still like a hug
From time to time.
I’m not a coward,
At least not in this way.
It’s harder to stay.
Much harder to stay.
(Please be kind
If you respond
I’ve not much left-
Can barely hold on)
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