Lor / 20 smn / they/them / usa
--same blog, new probs! reboot, v2--
CURRENTLY posting (tw): bpd & dbt, ocd, dep, dp/dr, cptsd/trauma, gad. adhd and asd might come up!
OLD content/tw: sh, an, gender dysphoria, suicidal ideation
Hey BPD friends, it’s okay to normalize our issues with psychosis.
Some of us do endure splitting from reality, paranoia, hallucinations, and delusions from time to time.
I know the tags tend to stick to the topic of our emotional instability, but if you need to vent about a psychotic episode, do it.
Hell, it’s called Borderline because it’s right smack in the middle of neurosis and psychosis. You’re not abnormal, faking, or invalid for dealing with hallucinations.
imo worst part of having a cluster b is constantly having to manage other ppl about it. like, if i tell someone, i have to open with "but i promise i would never intentionally hurt you and im not like xyz." like you gotta work again every stereotype, even w ppl who are generally cool, cause sanism and stigma against cluster bs seems like some of the last prejudice to go.
there's ONE person who triggers me like no other and i can't even fully piece together why !! they may have been FP briefly but that's long over (??). idk if I'm just like splitting or whatttt but I'm like?? idk why everything hurts worse if it's them. but i kinda need it to stop??? i don't actually Want to cut them off (altho i had the compulsion during previous splitting) and ik i can pull back w/o cutting them off completely. i just can't keep trying so hard when they can never follow through, cause it's just too painful for me. i also feel guilty about this. i feel like i should warn them but idk how!
experiencing mild inconveniences and being suuuuper normal about it. my plans falling thru did not ruin my entire day !!11! the action or inaction of another person has never made me feel abandoned in any way actually and I'm being really cool about it
half my friends think i got a Good Night and the other half DID get a Good Night and all i got was a weird subdrop slide into an Abandonment linked mental breakdown
does ANYONE have tips on how to avoid FPing someone? i just realized Im forming and fp relationship with one of my friends and i don't want to do that to them! i love them DEARLY (ofc), but it's not healthy to idealize someone and get suuuper attached and on them for validation and stuff.
ive come through a rough patch where i sorta split off on my last one (we are still friends!!!! i just ..yk, the let down, so now i love them but i feel like i cant get that deep anymore, etc). so i was extremely lonely, depressed, aimless, yk just feeling purposeless and untethered. well my friend has been very helpful and kind in helping me thru it and just being there, and I'm feeling a little obsessed... i truly do think they're the kindest person I've ever met, but I'm Worried I'm pedestalizing them and don't want to hurt either of us by setting them up to fail against an impossible ideal!
does anyone have advice on how to like. stay normal about this lmao. i always think someone is the kindest, best, most perfect and flawless person. then, obviously, they aren't! i hate the roller coaster, I'm just not sure how to get off. any tips appreciated.
(I'm between therapists so. Tumblr! research was inconclusive and unhelpful).
in theory I'm totally down to be vulnerable and express my feelings and needs. in PRACTICE I'm constantly on edge and don't want to risk being "in trouble" it abandoned so i literally just don't say anything. and if i do i feel like a terrible person (manipulative, demanding, annoying, Burdensome, etc). esp when ppl do actually react kinda badly.
like it prob wouldn't matter to them but I'm! traumatized! i thanked my roommate for doing smn a few weeks ago and she was like "yeah of course any time" and i was like??? in my head just thinking 'uh? you usually get upset if i ask you to do anything?? tf you mean???'
ik some of it is probably an autistic tone and figurative language thing. but also i think ppl just aren't that affected by it. she prob genuinely forgot every time she's reacted unfavorably, whereas for me it's informed my entire relationship with her. (which is wild).
anyway i just expressed feelings to someone, felt guilty, then apologized for it, which i now also feel guilty about (like oh no what if I'm only apologizing so they comfort me?) etc. which is a wild thought and prob untrue. and the exact thing that just makes me withdraw from everyone. which is not the plan!!!!
on the bright side, leaving then was a lot easier yesterday than normal! I've had some SCARY drops After having to leave their place (yk like it gets late so i gotta go). aaaaah
the only way i know how to get through anything is by just dissociating and inhabiting the facade of a completely different person. which feels like a thing that's not good for me but i don't know what Else to do. like I'm open to suggestions tho.