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slenderboo · 3 months

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putting in my two cents as an aroace hazbin fan to the whole alastor shipping debate (adding a cut below because this got long-)

before I start, it's important to remind everyone:

alastor is canonically ace and (semi)canonically aro, and that should be respected the same way we'd respect angel dust's identity as a gay man, or vaggie's as a sapphic woman.

"ace" and "aro", while also functioning as labels unto themselves, are umbrella terms for a lottt of identities. Some of which do include the ability to experience sexual and romantic attraction, in different ways and at different levels (demi, cupio, lith/lithro, grey, aro-and aceflux, the list goes on).

So, given all that, is it possible to interpret alastor as experiencing some level of romantic attraction, or sexual attraction? Of course, identities like the ones I listed above are just as valid as any other acespec and arospec identity.

So, what's the issue then? Right now, a lot of fans are using the breadth of aspec identities and experiences as a shield, to excuse them shipping him like they would an allosexual/alloromantic character.

Just to make it clear, that in itself is erasure. And I know that's a strong statement, and that there being such a broad aroace experience adds nuance to any statement you can make on that, but we have to acknowledge as a fandom that there are objectively wrong ways to handle aspec characters, both in the way we discuss them and in the way we portray them in fan works.

And before anyone says it, saying "alastor isn't real" or "fanon content won't change his canon sexuality" doesn't work when real life aspec people can't even look in a tag of a character that's supposed to represent them without seeing their identity erased. It's the way I feel attempting to engage with a lot of hazbin content, and I know a lot of my fellow aspec hazbin fans are feeling it as well.

So, what's the solution to all this? That's unfortunately kinda complicated. Everyone has a different opinion on what constitutes as erasure, what is good rep, how much benefit of the doubt we should give people, et cetera, and so everyone's solutions look different. In a way there also isn't a way to solve it, since aroace erasure is so normalized in fandom culture (not just the hazbin fandom; fandom culture as a whole) that there will always be a significant portion of fans who will ignore, erase, or otherwise deny alastor's or any other aroace character's sexuality.

So, to put my two cents on it:

My philosophy is that if you're going to ship alastor (or any aspec character for that matter), it's best to have an identity in mind for him to use as reference. For example, I think of alastor as sex-repulsed aroace, and I write him with that in mind. Whatever you pick can be a steadfast headcanon, an identity tailored to the story you want to tell, or one you want to explore in your fanwork, whether for fun or to educate yourself on it better.

What's better is that you don't even need to mention the sexuality itself in the work! Show don't tell is a great writing tool, and for alastor specifically, who canonically isn't aware of his sexuality, it works perfectly. Just simply creating with it in mind, asking yourself, "how would someone with [insert identity] experience this?" and going from there, makes a world of difference.

Just in terms of good fanfic etiquette, I'd also make sure to include it in the tags if you're posting it on ao3, just to make sure your readers know what's up and to help with filtering (I personally don't read any alastor ship fics that don't include the asexual or aromantic tag at this point). Bada bing bada boom, that's representation right there!

Since Alastor is one of very, very few ace characters in mainstream media, and even less aro characters in media period, us as a fandom creating good representation with him is really important, especially in terms of the breadth of aspec identities. We don't get much representation, so claiming he's definitively one label or another isn't productive, and hurts the community in the long run. Fanfiction is first and foremost an exploration of canon, so why not play around with what "aro" and "ace" can look like for him?

Case and point, I've seen some incredible ship fics that headcanon him as demisexual and/or demiromantic, and do a great job representing those identities. I've also seen some really good fics that portray him as sex-repulsed, and others that portray him as sex-neutral or positive. All of that is great, and again, even if it isn't directly mentioned: adding subtext, putting it in the tags, and even simply writing the fic with the sexuality in mind does wonders.

Me personally, I headcanon Alastor with the same identity as me; sex- and romance-repulsed aroace, but open to queerplatonic relationships. That doesn't mean fics that interpret him with a different aspec identity are less valid, or are interpreting him wrong. All of it is valid representation.

And that's not even getting into queerplatonic relationships, which is what I put Alastor into for my own headcanons (queerplatonic radioapple fic when). For that, please do your own research, but remember that queerplatonic relationships tend to look different for every couple. They can be poly, include kissing and physical intimacy, or look just like what most people would consider a regular friendship or regular romance.

So, can you ship aroace characters? Sure you can, as long as it isn't at the expense of their sexuality, or more accurately, the representation their sexuality gives to a historically underrepresented group.

That's pretty much it from me, please remember to support aspec fanartists and fanfic writers, and happy (early) aromantic spectrum awareness week for all my fellow arospecs!!

#not adding the aromantic or asexual tags to this #those tags shouldn't be flooded with ship discourse #so please stop doing that guys #also not joking about the queerplatonic appleradio fic #I may or may not be working on one rn but knowing my writer's block (read: seasonal depression) I won't actually finish it #their dynamic is so much fun to write let me tell you #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #hellaverse

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our-aroace-experience · 6 months

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ok so here's my ace/arospec story

ace:

i learned about being ace

oh i don't know

12 years old maybe

i searched it up after reading about it online

"aroace definition"

it went something like

"being both aromantic and asexual"

i searched up

"aromantic"

"asexual"

at first i thought it was a bit strange

i hadn't learned yet

to distinguish

between romantic attraction and sexual attraction

because i didn't know

people actually wanted sex

people actually saw someone and went

"wow"

"i want to fuck them"

i had a crush on a childhood friend of mine

at the time

(a guy. i am a girl.)

i'd always assumed i was cishet

grew up in a conservative christian household

slightly offtopic but honestly my parents were great

not stereotypical conservative christians

both allies

they had friends who were trans and gay

i'd checked out queer media from the library

and they were fine with it

anyway

back to the story

so since i had a crush on the opposite gender

i assumed ofc

i was cishet

well ofc i wasn't into sex, i was just a kid

but at age 13

almost 14

i was alone

in a hotel room, no parents, on instagram

that's the only time i could get that

late night phone time

when i didn't have parents around

i found @i.put.the.ace.in.disgrace on instagram

scrolled through every fucking post

on their account

and on the #asexual tag

i related to those posts

a lot

a suspicious amount for someone supposedly allo

even though i was just a kid

yeah maybe i'd grow into it

maybe i'd feel attraction one day

but not now

and who the hell was going to tell me

what i could or couldn't identify as

so i tried out the ace label

spent hours and hours

wondering if it was right

if i was really ace

if i wasn't too young

but going back to being allo felt wrong

so i decided to keep the label

the first person i came out to

was an online friend

they were so amazing and supportive of it

i love them so much for that

they said i'd been on their gaydar for a while

(a message i still think about

when wondering if i'm really ace)

felt sick the next day

i'd always been an ally

supported my queer friends

arospec aspec trans homosexual i supported them all

but it made me sick

to think about me

myself

being queer

it was sort of rough

but i got through it

later

came out to my friend and her mom

they were cool about it

i knew i'd be safe

they weren't ecstatic or super happy

but they accepted me

"cool"

that's what they said i remember it

i was a hot mess that day too

stuttered over all my words when trying to come out

and they still accepted me

i love them

later

i decided to hint at my identity to my mom

talked about not liking sex

i checked out a few ace books

from the library

my mom took me aside

i don't remember her exact words

it went something like

"it's natural to be curious

but you can't be ace at 14

you're not trying to be

are you?"

ofc

i managed to convince her i was allo

had to be more careful then

arospec:

i'd only had one crush.

one crush who i'd liked as a friend first.

you see where this is going, don't you?

well

i didn't

i'd heard that aces had not very many crushes

so i assumed i was just Really Really Asexual

and i couldn't be aro hahahaha

i'd been in love before!

aros cannot be in love!

oh by golly i was wrong

i started questioning

(only one crush?

my friends are all over their crushes

plural

and i've only had one??

maybe i'm not as allo as i thought)

i debated over gray-aro and demi-aro

picked demi

it described my experience more accurately

came out to aforementioned friend

then aforementioned online friend

they were chill about it

(fucking love them)

then i 3d printed a black ring

and a white ring

ace

and aro

and this is maybe the best part of the whole experience

i had friends who were stereotypical conservative christian

queerphobic

they complimented my aro and ace rings

and so did my mom

and that made me really happy for some reason

shit that was a long ask im sorry

thank you for sharing! i hope your mum comes around to you being aroace one day

also side note: this reads like a poem it’s so well written!

#our aroace experience #asexual #aromantic #aroace #ace pride #aro pride #ace #aro #arospec #demiromantic #aroace joy!#aroace asks

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https-entity · 1 month

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GenderBlackHole

This is a gender identity derivative from GenderVoid and Agender. The place of the Gender you feel that it is a void, there's nothing in your gender place, you can't feel gender, but you can explain it as a Black Hole.

To make you understand this Genderlessness, let's use the anatomy of a Black Hole

The black hole is separated into 4 parts but can sometimes have 5 parts

The Accretion Disk - This is full of matter in the form of gas and dust. It's like a big gas cloud. As it moves, it releases ultraviolet rays, infrared rays and x-rays, which are other types of light that we cannot see.

And because of the x-rays that we detected the first black hole. When we look at a black hole with equipment that detects x-rays, we can see beyond the light, we see temperature.

The Ergosphere - Which is where the matter that is about to disappear into the hole keeps always spinning in the same direction, just like water around a drain.

The Event Horizon - There is the border where what we can observe and what we cannot. Any matter in the ergosphere that goes beyond the event horizon can no longer escape gravity, this will be swallowed into the black hole where it will never be seen again.

The Singularity - It's like a dark star. And that's what causes that massive gravitational field of a Black Hole. That has so much mass in such a small space that the density of this is mathematically infinite.

X-Ray Pulses/Relativistic Jet - Some black holes have x-ray pulses, which are emitted by gas that appears to be escaping from them, but it just seems like an impression. Scientists believe that these pulses comes from accretion disk material who managed to gather speed to escape gravity before getting too close to the black hole

And what does this have to do with this genderlessness?

Simply put: this genderlessness has a structure similar to that of a black hole.

Black Holes are the things that are most related to the Void itself, since there's nothing known inside them beside their singularity (which is the why its a Black point)

This genderlessness can feel connected with existing genders that could be them, but they cannot explain the void nor fill the void. It can be the gases being the genders/fragments of the genders that the genderlessness feel connected or just liked that where attracted them because liked them and use them as a label.

But while at the center (the singularity) is a void, a hole. This genderlessness is not demi, but the person wants to use the labels and feel connected to them, but their gender is a void.

While the Relativist Jet is their gender presentation. Be they presenting themself as a man or a woman or just in a non-binary way.

Everyone is free to remake the flag to make it more accessible or just use it on other gender systems like genderfuckoff and others. Just remember to remain it void.

Also, it is NOT a Xenogender, so please don't tag as such.

Tagging: @caeliangel, @batpoisonz, @genderstarbucks

A/N: It's been months since I made this drabble, yes, I'm posting now, when the blog hasn't even finished, but I don't want to gatekeep my coinings anymore

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redacted-coiner · 4 months

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Arissodemideity

[PT: Arissodemideity]

Also referred too as Arissodemigod and/or Arissodemigoddess.

Arissodemideity, an arissospecies(link) and arissodeity(link) subterm connected to thinking one is a demi-deity and makes the person, whether it be because of delusional or IRL attachments, being an alter that species differs from the body, psychosis, etc., feel disconnected from their external species. This is not for "fun" or voluntary "I wanna be this ✨️", this also doesn't override the external species the person has. This term is not for "transitioning" if one's transition tries to mean they can harm animals and is not radqueer or transid friendly and not comparable to transgender

These identities are NOT transid or radqueer friendly and are NOT in support for "transitioning" tips/subliminals/advice/etc. As well they don't support the fetishization, romanticization, misinformation, etc. of mental illnesses, disabilities, religions, or ethnicities. (Because these terms also understand you can't change these things)

[ID: none yet]

[Tagging] @acetrappolaswife, @arissodic-archive, @arissomeiarchive

[Extra Tag] @arisso-lovesong

DNI is listed within my pinned post. Please go read it before interacting with any part of my content. Ask to tag.

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ginkgo-gremlin · 18 days

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Lesbians/WLW of tumblr, I have a question.

tw for slurs, discussion of slur reclamation, specifically the d-word in reference to wlw/lesbians. If that would be triggering for you or if you don't believe in slur reclamation, this is not the post for you.

Background: I'm gender fluid and my sexuality is kind of this amorphous blob? I'm demi-sexual to a certain extent but I'm attracted to most genders and I'm currently dating a bisexual woman. Before I came out as non-binary I identified as a lesbian (but now I realize I'm attracted to men just not in a straight way if that makes sense? not the point of this post).

Anyway, on my more feminine days (which honestly aren't super common) I'll sometimes refer to me and my partner as lesbians, like 'damn a plant lesbian moment for real' or something similar. I realize it would be more accurate to use sapphic or wlw but I have a tendency to use 'gay' and 'lesbian' as filler words when I'm around people who already understand the nuance (like my partner, my friends and I know that we're not actually lesbians and sapphic would be more accurate but realize lesbian being said for convenience/the phrase is 'plant lesbian' not 'plant wlw') All that being said sometimes my gender identity is best described as 'extremely butch lesbian' (edit: I mean this as in I feel like a woman in the same way an extremely butch lesbian is a woman, not that I'm actually an extremely butch lesbian because the lesbian part speaks more to sexuality, not gender) if that makes sense at all lmao (sexuality and gender can be so fluid and it just kind of gets confusing I'm sorry T-T)

I've had pretty much every homophobic/transphobic slur used to refer to me, dyke being included in that (especially because I identified as strictly a lesbian for a while). And sometimes I want to reclaim it, especially when I'm dressed in a very stereotypically 'lesbian' way. Like 'this outfit is giving home Depot Dyke' but I don't want to use a word that doesn't 'belong' to me if that makes sense.

TLDR: gender fluid person (who on more feminine days is in a sort of wlw relationship if you squint and tilt your head) is wondering if dyke is an okay slur for them to reclaim as they have been referred to as that in the past.

#lesbian #wlw #genderfluid #lgbtq #poll

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mammameesh · 8 months

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Trope Rating Game

Rules: How much do these tropes affect your decision to click on a fic? -10 -> very dissuaded 0 - don’t care either way +10 -> very enticed nope -> if it’s a hard no and you’d never click on a fic with that tag or you even have the tag blocked or you’d insta click out of the fic if it wasn’t tagged. Bonus points for explaining the rating and whether it’s conditional.

Age gap: Depends? +3

Like are they vampires, and is brand new and one is like 402? Because I can do that.

Codependency: +1

I might give it a try for a little while, but stuff like this tends to turn me off.

Obsession/Possessiveness, jealousy: +2

Maybe Obsession more than Possessiveness, does that make sense? Possessiveness tends to also turn me off.

Opposites (grumpy/sunshine etc): +10

I love this pairing, sorry, not sorry.

Enemies to lovers, Enemies with benefits: +9

I really like Enemies to lovers. I'm doing my best to write one (also very stuck writing one). I probably could write enemies with benefits and would like to read more because it sounds hot!

Friends with benefits: +10

Some of my favorite ships fall into this category. It's like candy to me.

Sex to feelings: +15

These fics tend to be very smuty which I love and also very fluffy which I also love.

Fake dating/relationship: 9?

My neurodivergent mind needs more information. I've read some Tarlos where they were fake dating, and I loved that. I'm just not sure how it would work every time.

Friends to lovers: +10

I personally love friends to lovers. I think it does probably appeal to my demi side.

Found Family: +100

I love it so much.

Hurt/Comfort: +9

I have been on a hurt/comfort kick but I can't do all hurt/comfort because there is too much hurt.

Love Triangle: 1?

I generally don't like love triangles, but maybe somewhere out in all of fanfcition there will be one that I will like?

Poly, open relationships: +9

I personally love them when written well

Mistaken/hidden identity: 0

I probably need to read more in order to form a stronger opinion

Monsterfucking: +5

My friends, a year ago I would have said no. It depends on the writer, the ship and my bravery I think.

Pregnancy: 4

I'm a mom in real life so pregnancy doesn't phase me, again it would depend on the writer, the story, the fandom, a lot of different things.

Second Chance: +9

Idyllically I think everyone should be given a 2nd chance, but sometimes no?

Slowburn: +10

I have some beloved authors that love to write a good slow burn and I will eat that stuff up every bedtime.

Soulmates: +8 I've read some lovely soulmate AUs and would love to read more. (also I have an idea for one but like life you know?)

@a-noble-dragon; @carolrain; @demora00; @stargazer56; @ramonaflow; @jamilas-pen; @apothecarose; @ripkaz44; @flowertrigger no pressure tags. ALSO if you are reading this please do it! It is for future fanfiction!

#meesh does tag games

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redysetdare · 11 months

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https://www.tumblr.com/kiwipopping/719602017244528641/im-sorry-but-its-wild-to-me-that-repulsed-ppl?source=share

someone finally said it! there'll be post after post on how all sex-repulsed aces are just sex-negative homophobic puritans who think allosexual gays are dirty for their sexual attraction, and how all romance repulsed aros are also homophobic because we apparently hate gay romance specifically. and these posts will literally be from other aros and aces. these people never get called out for spreading aphobic lies and misinformation, but the moment a repulsed aro/ace talks about their experiences they suddenly get labeled as a community traitor joining the side of homophobes. i'm tired -_-

tbh I have seen more people pushing against this aphobic rhetoric now-a-days as I often seen posts talking about how we shouldn't conflate Sex negative (a political position) with Sex repulsed (a personal position). But yeah, for a long while now there's been an issue with the sex positivity movement not REALLY being sex positive because so many allos can't wrap their head around people having personal issues with sex but not actually having issues with other people having sex. People conflated the idea of "someone not liking sex" to being "person is against sex for everyone and is thus a threat to sex positivity" which unfortunately is bound to happen in any movement of this size. The demonetization of repulsed people is nothing new in the community, as someone who's been IDing as Aro and ace for nearly 10+ years now. A lot of this rhetoric has been here for years, such as the "homophobic" argument which has been thrown at Aces and Aros in general by Allos because they see aro and ace identities as not being queer enough, which comes form the amatonormative idea that everyone should want romance and sex and queer rep HAS to include romance or sex less it be "censoring" it for "the straight" (this rhetoric constantly used against queer rep for younger people as well just because it doesn't include sex.) This rhetoric also takes the form of calling repulsed people "puritans" which is actually a christian fundamentalist religious ideology that people have taken and kind of watered down the meaning of to mean "anyone who might not like sex in the same way as me" which is it's own issue (Funnily enough it's also used against kids in the term "puriteen" because adults got mad that teens were upset at NSFW in spaces meant to be for kids, such as cartoon show tags and the like.)

It's kind of disheartening to say the least that in recent years so much animosity towards Repulsed folk has come from infighting within our own community. But I think it's important to not solely blame our community for it. a lot of people who get up and arms against repulsed folk have their reasons to, I mean gatekeeping unfortunately happens in parts of our community, usually by repulsed folks who try and say Demi, grey, favorable, etc. all don't count as Ace or Aro because they still feel/want sexual or romantic relationships. I for one have had someone come into my own posts trying to tell me that the "asexual community has been infiltrated by allo people" in reference to demi and grey folk, which i blocked immediately. But this kind of rhetoric causes people to become very very defensive at anyone that could possibly be invalidating them, which means when Repulsed people make a post talking about their experience in the community that seemingly contradicts the experience a favorable person has had, it is a common emotion to feel angry because to them "that's not true" for them it's been the other way around where THEY feel as if they don't belong because they've been targetted by gatekeepers. So to them, a lot of repulsed people complaining seems like "not a big deal" because they believe that we have spaces for us and are catered to within the community. forgetting that society at large hates repulsed folks on mass because we don't partake in sex or romance.

I think it just comes from a fundamental misunderstanding of each others experiences in the end. To some favorable people, repulsed people are a majority in the community and constantly being catered to + the fact that there are some aspecs and allos who question their identity and so they feel the need to defend it by adding "not all aspecs!" and "Aspecs can X Y and Z" without realizing that such language isn't as inclusive as they may think. People seem to forget that there are no spaces that are made for repulsed people. We are constantly bombarded with romance and sex in everything in life from music, to ads, to tv shows and movies, books, and online spaces. there is really nothing made FOR US. Most places that are sex free are made for KIDS which is alienating for sex repulsed ADULTS. and spaces without romance are usually for PRESCHOOLERS... which again, alienating for romance repulsed ADULTS.

I think the internet has definitely made it harder for people to realize that not everything includes them. Like, a sex repulsed person talking about their experience should not be followed up by "but some of us like sex. stop being sex negative!" Repulsed people should not have to be like "btw sex favorable ppl aren't bad this isn't about them"

people have been taking personal feelings about a subject as a personal attack on their identity, which it just doesn't need to be. People need to learn that some posts aren't geared towards them. Repulsed people NEED a space to express themselves without being told to shut up. Repulsed people NEED posts about them that don't get derailed to be about favorable people all because some ppl are worried that they are being excluded in a post not about them. Repulsed people NEED the ability to express repulsion without it being taken as a personal attack against favorable people.

Sorry for the wall of text, this ask just left open for a bit more conversation. I'm glad I am not the only one frustrated by this but also I didn't feel comfortable just posting a agreement response because I do not want to come off as being dismissive of the nuance that is really causing this to happen within the community. (or to be demonizing one part of our community like some do to us. i guess I am just willing to give benefit of the doubt to some people who may not be so nice to me.)

Either way I'm glad my post has resonated with you and maybe with more of us speaking out on this treatment we can actually start to create a space where repulsed and favorable people can coexist and both feel safe in, instead of constantly fighting each other. We are a community, after all. We should be supporting each other. not pushing each other away.

#asks #aspec #ace #aro #aroace #aromantic #asexual #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #infighting #sex positivity #im hoping this makes sense #long post #sorry for the wall of text haha #i have a lot of thoughts on this as a repulsed person who's been in the community for a while

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shy-forceghost · 1 year

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omg, re: aroace jillian, yesss, i am like: (see below meme) w you over the hc, it’s galaxytier, always one of my favs

do you have any other aspec hcs for other wn characters? personally i like to hc camila & mother superion, and a good chunk of the ocs as ace and/or aro without realizing it, they just think god’s being super helpful and helping them avoid ‘temptation’ lmao

i also love aspec lilith hcs and alternate between aro sapphic jillian and aroace jillian, and alternate between aro bi lilith, ace bi lilith, aroace, or aroace bi lilith depending on the mood

and then i love ace, gray or demi ace beatrice & aro, demi aro or gray aro ava hcs

also love hcing em as qprs

Hahaha loved the meme. WN really uniting people out there right?

Also thank you for this question and sorry in advance because you just opened my bottomless trunk of rants :D

god’s being super helpful and helping them avoid ‘temptation’ it's the ultimate catholic aroace girl experience (been there haha)

I also hc Camila as aspec, the scene when she says "how hot" Todd is just serves me to reassure the fact that nuns aren't blind haha, they can experience attraction (independently of gender, see my other hcs) but at the end they've taken the decision of remain celibate -or not- and that comes from their personal values/principles, regardless of attraction of any kind. * I think Camila doesn't overthink in terms of attraction because it isn't something that common for her, therefore not "that hard" for her to ignore it.

Mother Superion is one of those characters I don't feel we have enough info in order to hc her orientation, and I don't feel comfortable doing so when that happens. Honestly I see her as straight haha, one of the clearest examples of women who actually experience attraction but their love, faith, and desire for service were stronger. That happens and it's ok. Same case with Yasmine.

I'm more inclined by aroace Jillian (she never mentions romance or sexual attraction in any way), but I can see why some hc her as sapphic. In KTY's words "whatever goats your boat :D"

Yes for aspec sapphic Lilith as in "she might or might not be attracted to girls but doesn't mind, because she's just focused in other things".

And yeees! demi Bea for the win <3 There's actually an amazing fic that explores asexual Beatrice and how that happens alongside her being a lesbian (i.e. how both identities can go by hand and how religious trauma doesn't "cause" asexuality). I can't remember the name but it must be somewhere in my blog under the ace beatrice tag

I'm not entirely sure if I'll hc Ava as acespec or arospec. She actually seems -to me- like that one character of the complete opposite of the spectrum haha, either pan or bi.

*the conversation of attraction and religious women its is actually something I find deeply interesting. Having grown in a religious environment (read: being close with nuns haha) I can assure you that there's as much variety of orientations as in any other community. More than once a nun had told me that "they can find someone attractive, they just don't act about it ;)". Many had relationships before joining the church, one thing doesn't change the other.

I think that the idea that, historically, many many nuns have been queer (mostly sapphic and aspec) comes from the fact that from a very long time, religious life was the only "acceptable" role a woman couldn't take that didn't require her to marry a man. It was also a way to guarantee themselves certain grade of freedom and education, but that's a conversation for another time because this has already gotten too long and I'm digressing from your original question.

#freedle rants #warrior nun

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just-a-queer-fanboy · 1 year

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I just realized I haven't put up another pinned post lmao.

Hi, my name is Ace (not in real life). I use all pronouns except she/her. (Preferred: he/fae)

I'm transgender (boyflux), pansexual, and demiromantic. I don't post about being demi a lot but a lot of people forget we exist so I feel like it's important to mention.

I like drawing, music, animating sometimes, writing, politics (leftist), lgbt stuff, video essays, helluva boss, wings of fire, undertale, vocaloid, and more.

I'm on the spectrum and prefer identity first language, but I don't mind of you use person first.

I'm also fairly mentallyetc. (Depression, anxiety, an0r3x14, possible cptsd but not sure), so I post about that sometimes. If I ever forget to tag something, PLEASE comment and tell me. Even if it's an obscure trigger like cats or a specific color, I will tag it.

I'm trying to break out of certain echo chambers at the moment, so if there's a group I post a lot about but forget other groups (ex: I mostly post about level 1 autism because that's where I am, but I want to listen more to mid/high support needs people), please inform me so I can listen to more people.

The world needs change, and the first step is to challenge our own perspectives. Please challenge mine.

#pinned post #introductory post

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calicoconstellation · 2 years

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❥・🎨 ❛ The Calico Constellation ❜

We are the Calico Constellation, an odd lil family of nonhumans who share a physical body. We are primarily a traumagenic UDD system with a couple endogenic median headmates. Collectively: Calico or Cali

❥・🐾 Quick info

・Collectively uses all pronouns

・An adult

・ADHD autistic synesthete

・Physically disabled

❥・🌈 Identities

・Plural system

・Queer as fuck

・Transpecies & alterhuman

❥・🎶 Boundaries

・Treat us as separate people

・Do not debate us on our existence

・Do not debate us on syscourse

・Respect our individual boundaries

⋆＊⋆ ˚°•̩̩͙⋆✩⋆•̩̩͙°˚ ⋆＊⋆ ˚°•̩̩͙⋆✩⋆•̩̩͙°˚ ⋆＊⋆

❥・💖 ❛ Evren Fae ❜

❛ The most anxious ball of fluff I’ve ever met (affectionate) ❜ -Jace

❥・🌈 Quick info

・Any pronouns (neos and it/its preferred)

・Nonhuman shapeshifter

・Circus performer and theatre kid

・Collects and is obsessed with alpaca stuffies

❥・🫧 Identities

・Genderqueer trans enboy

・Ace and some shade of gay

・Toothless fictionkind

・ Luz Noceda fictionkind

・Alpacalink

・Winged cat therian

❥・☁️ Boundaries

・Always ask to touch unless close

・Ask once before using petnames

・Don’t use the tone tags “/nm” or “/npa” with me please, it triggers paranoia

❀ ~ ♡ ~ ❁ ~ ♡ ~ ✿ ~ ♡ ~ ❀ ~

❥・🦋 ❛ Saffron ❜

❛ The definition of a cottagecore lesbian ❜ -Fae

❥・🌼 Quick info

・She/her and petal/petals pronouns

・An elf angel

・Obsessed with flowers and nature

・Loves yoga and mindfulness

❥・🧚🏻‍♀️ Identities

・Woman

・Lesbian

・Faekind

・Has many clicks - feel free to ask!

❥・🕊 Boundaries

・Okay with petnames

・Ask once before touching

・Uncomfy with medical terms, please don’t medicalize

・Don’t use the tone tags “/nm” or “/npa” with me please, it triggers paranoia

♤ — ♡ — ♢ — ♧ — ♤ — ♡

❥・🐾 ❛ Jace ❜

❛ His DND alignment is true neutral. Not because he’s ever nuetral on anything, but because he switches between every extreme so rapidly none of us can keep track ❜ -Fae

❥・🍬 Quick info

・He/him pronouns

・Catlike demon boy

・Proud protector and caretaker

・Enjoys cleaning, looking after others, and philosophical questions

❥・🎃 Identities

・Agender

・Aroace

・Black cat hearted

❥・🕸 Boundaries

・Do not touch

・Do not petname

・Only headmates get to call me nicknames

･｡ﾟ. ✧ : . ☽｡ﾟ✧ﾟ: . ☽｡ﾟ✧ﾟ: .･

❥・🌙 ❛ Catra ❜

❛ I’m the catboy girlboss from your nightmares ❜ -Catra

❥・🐾 Quick info

・He/she pronouns, alternating

・Spiritual Catra fictive

・Extremely passionate

・I don’t do respectability politics. Get over it.

・I love talking about my homeworld, feel free to ask me stuff

❥・💫 Identities

・Bigender tranny

・Demi-aroace dyke

❥・🔥 Boundaries

・No touch

・No petnames

・Don’t disrespect my spiritual beliefs

・Don’t separate me from my source to make me less “problematic”

・Do tell me if you think I’m hot, it’ll make my day

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❥・⚔️ ❛ Adora ❜

❛ You’re such an idiot <3 ❜ -Catra

❥・🦄 Quick info

・Any pronouns just not it/its

・Lawful good

・Loves horses and swords

・Still figuring out this whole system thing

❥・🗡 Identities

・Lesbian

・Girl…?

❥・❤️‍🔥 Boundaries

・Ask once before using petnames

・Always ask to touch

・Not comfortable answering personal questions

꒷꒦︶꒦︶꒷︶꒷꒦︶꒷꒦︶꒦︶꒷︶

❥・👑 ❛ King Rexie ❜

❛ My sunshine <3 ❜ -Fae

❥・🌟 Quick info

・He/him pronouns

・King Clawthorne fictive

・Syskid

・Loves royal aesthetics and Pokémon

・Extremely extroverted

❥・🐾 Identities

・Fox therian

・Boy but in a nonhuman way

❥・🏰 Boundaries

・Okay with petnames

・Always ask to touch unless close

・Not comfortable answering personal questions

꒷︶꒷꒦ ₓ ˚. ୭ ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ ୧ .˚ ₓ ︶꒷꒦

❥・☀️ ❛ Summer ❜

❛ my little sister!! <3 ❜ -Rexie

❥・🧸 Quick info

・ Goes by Summer, Sunny, and Honey

・Testing out pronouns

・Nonverbal and nonscribble

・Syskid

❥・🌻 Identities

・Grizzlybear-hearted

・Vee fictionkind

・Not quite human..?

・Shrugs

❥・🐻 Boundaries

・Nicknames welcome

・Ask every time before using petnames

・Ask every time before touching

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natura-est-sacellum · 2 years

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Why isn't asexuality an identity? (I don't want to debate, you just got me curious)

Like I said: stop pathologizing the human condition. Not everyone wants to have sex all the time. I think it's absurd that now mere feelings are regarded as sexual identities.

You have things like demisexual, which is someone who only wants to have sex after they've made an emotional bond...like that's revolutionary or something.

You have allosexual and alloromantic, which are just basically normal people. Cause that needs a term right? Everything needs a fucking category, now.

And then, my personal favorite: aroflux. Which refers to someone whose "capacity for sexual or romantic attraction changes over time". So...basically...EVERYONE!

It's absurd. And how many stories I've seen from people be like "I thought I was ace, then I met so-and-so and started having sexual feelings towards them" and I'm just like, yeah see that's normal. But then they take a hard left and say "am I actually DEMI?!" Like, Jesus Christ! You're normal! Lots of people don't feel sexual attraction ALL THE TIME. When I was single, I didn't even feel sexual attraction all the time, and I was totally boy crazy!

In my opinion, so-called asexuals and demisexuals are just otherwise normal people living in a hypersexual culture, where they're made to feel weird for not wanting to have sex with randos, or wear skimpy clothing, or make overtly sexual jokes. A society that calls you a prude or a goody-two-shoes for being modest!

Combine that with people having no spirituality anymore, they've replaced a higher calling with some new facet of "self discovery", which inevitably always ends with someone realizing they're pan or trans or demi or ace. This is why people just need to get off the computer, leave their bubbles and sit by a tree for a few hours.

Not everything you feel is an identity. Not everything you feel needs to be politicized. There are people whose lives are so empty, so hopelessly barren, they can't just...be. Just exist. They have to categorize every part of their personality.

Just look at when the average person introduces themself, for example: "Hi, I'm Bea. I'm bisexual aroflux heteroflexible, and my pronouns are she/her/them. I'm a practicing syncretic Scottish witch, with heavy leanings towards druidry and Irish reconstructionism, and am self trained in the Arthurian and Avalonian schools of magick. I am human, but I have faekin, elfkin, treekin, rainkin, and moonkin thoughts and feelings." Like, bitch, I don't need your whole life story, including your religion and favorite sex position. Okay?

Just exist. Be you. No tags. No labels. No boxes. No categories. HUMANS DO NOT FIT INTO NEAT CATEGORIES. We aren't movies or books or music. And hell, movies, books, and music don't fit into neat categories either. Neither do trees or animals or cloud types or vegetables or planets or fucking rocks. And, yet, all those things are able to be without the need for you to know their innermost thoughts and feelings.

Why isn't asexuality an identity? Basically, because humans think too much about inconsequential shit.

Hope this helps.

#Asks

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gothred13 · 1 year

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Ruby

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My name is Ruby Red. I am 15 years old, and my birthday is the 13th of May. I use She/They pronouns. I am a heterosexual demi-girl. I am an alter in a dissociative identity disorder system. I am a persecutor, and I am a fictive from The Path (2009).

I do art, poetry and sometimes just ramble. I will tag vents if I do vent.

I made a tumblr because I am trying to reclaim my freedom, and my sense of self. I want to express who I truly am without fear.

I will not interact with those that are fans of The Path/Those who believe they "Kin" a character from it, unless first done by that person for non fictive related reasons. I will also not interact with those who are also fictives from this as it would further hurt my mental health.

I hope we can coexist on this site.

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RED.

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iputthediscoindiscourse · 1 year

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I posted 38 times in 2022

That's 38 more posts than 2021!

18 posts created (47%)

20 posts reblogged (53%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@aa-terf

@arethousa

@halfheartdead

@the-land-of-women

I tagged 38 of my posts in 2022

#gabe.txt - 33 posts

#discourse - 17 posts

#answered - 12 posts

#anon - 11 posts

#religion - 6 posts

#hate messages - 2 posts

#ask game - 2 posts

#personal - 1 post

#a lot of you need to learn this when i post - 1 post

#marriage - 1 post

Longest Tag: 51 characters

#like it would save you a lot of your anger and shit

My Top Posts in 2022:

Another bi women used lesbianism to shock her parents instead of actually considering what she was attracted to :) and is now going on to suck and fuck and breed with men :)) and now a whole bunch of homophobes plus other lesbians will see this and their doubt about lesbianism will grow deeper :))) larping like a tra because you think lesbianism is a fucking haircut and then pulling right out of it with no apology, go fuck yourself homophobe

As I stated before in the other hate I got, the fact you sent this as an anon proves you are a pathetic coward who needs tons of therapy and help to actually be a functioning human.

Another bi women used lesbianism to shock her parents instead of actually considering what she was attracted to :)

You know when I told my mother I thought I was gay she made it about herself told me she knew i was a lesbian since I was a preteen cause of how I fangirled over Demi Lovato and Taylor Swift. Then admitted to outing me to my father, which explains why he would randomly call me a pervert and a pedophile because to him homosexuality equals pedophilia. Like actually from the time I was 20 to the time I was 23 I literally had no attraction to the male sex at all. Like it was most definitely a trauma response,but like I was a lesbian for like 3 ish years until I did that shroom trip and realized I was in love with a good friend of mine, who happens to be a male. Also fun fact my parents still think I am a lesbian because I haven't talked to them in a few years now sooo.

and is now going on to suck and fuck and breed with men :))

For how much anti-porn radfems say they are this screams like you are a regular porn watcher and adopted the extremely violent language in this media, and use it for people who you do not like. This statement also reduces me to a sex object, which again is antithetical to radical feminism.

and now a whole bunch of homophobes plus other lesbians will see this and their doubt about lesbianism will grow deeper :)))

How does me figuring out my sexuality and gender identity, harm others? You do realize I was in a high control environment until I was about 20 ish and then didn't have really any freedom until I came up to nyc earlier this year right? Like everyone is in the process of growing and finding oneself whether they want to believe it or not. The fact that hate has overcrowded your heart like this, makes me feel sorry for you. The fact you look at the world like this, screams you need some serious help and I hope to God you find it.

larping like a tra because you think lesbianism is a fucking haircut and then pulling right out of it with no apology

how am I like a TRA? Yeah I did have some sex dysphoria was a preteen, teenager and a little bit up til my early 20s, but most of it I worked through on shrooms so, I am just a gender conforming cisgendered bisexual woman. Nothing wrong with that!! Where tf did I say lesbian is a look? I said me being gnc was a cope, I didn't specify why. Which that stems from the fact my parents wanted a son, not a daughter and they bullied me and were rude and cruel to me over my sex, and I thought if I acted more masculine they would love me more. Well that backfired. Pulling out without an apology? what the fuck are you talking about bro?? how is my personal growth have anything to do with others??? Like I wanted to post a cute life update and you people just come for my throat; which proves why I am not the biggest fan of radfems anymore. Most of y'all are hateful bigots with complexes that obscure you from being kind or understanding. Which if you want women's liberation you need to be kind and understanding,which you are neither and I hope to god you find some goddamn peace cause you fucking need it.

go fuck yourself homophobe

How am I homophobic? Like anon you don't know me at all, like now to toot my own horn but there are some bloggers who orbit the same circles as us who know me irl and they will disagree with this statement a lot sooo lol

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sorry about the religious indoctrination get well soon!!!

You know I was raised in a culty environment and escaped it, right anon?

Like my parents literally held me against my will for almost a decade. Like from the time i was 11 to the time I was almost 20, i was watched 24/7, i had no rights or say in anything. Like my mother literally forced me to be affectionate (e.g. hug and kisses type of stuff) to church men or else she would threaten to make me homeless and cause of those incidences I actually cannot handle being in co-ed religious spaces cause of my ptsd. So I mostly hang out at more traditional mosques and shuls, or if it is co-ed and I need/want to go, I just ask a male friend to go with me for protection purposes. My mother also almost made me a childbride, was grooming me for it and tried to set me up with men that I could never be attracted to.

Like yeah religion has traumatized me a lot,but also through studying it in a secular institution, it has made me realize why and how I got into the mess that I was during my childhood. And now I spend my time creating a new type of theology that actually helps out others like myself. Cause honestly I love reading and learning more about how others interact with the divine, and it gives me hope and faith that my children will not suffer like I did.

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also its really frustrating that despite radical feminism being so misportrayed in the mainstream, many people on here wont take 2 seconds to think about what you mean by tradfem and automatically assume the worst caricatured sexist version possible. whereas i hve seen lots of content on here that technically follows under tradfem that centers on women setting standards and boundaries on the men they allow in their lives, refusing sexualization, enjoying traditionally female roles but the ones that are actually valuable work (childrearing, cooking, sewing etc.) not stupid pornified stuff. like does it suck that for centuries women were forced into those roles? duh! but there is also so much valuable female knowledge there, it is a sphere where women worked together and apart from men and i totally get not being interested in it but its sad to see it disregarded just bc of its origins. anyways sorry to rant in your inbox. i just really Felt ur post lol

Exactly!! Like it seems like tradfem seems to be a trigger word to them and it sends the worst to me. Like all I want is a good partner who will take care of me, and a house to turn into a home. Which is like very traditional, you know? I just want to serve the creator, and have a simple life, which shouldn't piss people off but I digress. Like I grew up with a stay at home mother, and that was a hot mess for many many reasons which is why I was very very hyper independent until recently. Like it was a trauma response and honestly I am too mentally ill to be that independent. Like I function better when being take care of by a lover. And honestly I cannot wait for the day I am married and am able to dotted on my future spouse and create a home full of love happiness and laughter with them.

whereas i hve seen lots of content on here that technically follows under tradfem that centers on women setting standards and boundaries on the men they allow in their lives, refusing sexualization, enjoying traditionally female roles but the ones that are actually valuable work (childrearing, cooking, sewing etc.) not stupid pornified stuff.

Like honestly, if you want me to get religious on main. In both Judaism and Islam, there is religious law that basically protects and gives women rights, which in the middle ages and up til recently in human history it was extremely progressive. Like in both religious, if you, the woman, are not sexually satisfied with your husband you can divorce him!! Along with that, in Islam, his money is your money, and he cannot touch your money if you decide to work; Judaism has similar protections. Which is partly why I like dating Jewish or Muslim men cause they seem to treat me better than secular non religious men. But I will say if I am not nearly as religious as them, they can become cunts so it is a double edged sword. But when it comes to like women's work I personally prefer childrearing and cooking way better than other stuff, like i plan to get more college degrees but it is just to give myself more credentials for my writing and cause the thought of being a children's librarian sounds so lovely. Because children's media is a special interest of mine and i love talking/studying it!! Also now that I think of it the fact they instantly think of the pornified shit just proves they are really into black and white thinking and probably have some shit they need to work out tbh.

like does it suck that for centuries women were forced into those roles? duh! but there is also so much valuable female knowledge there, it is a sphere where women worked together and apart from men and i totally get not being interested in it but its sad to see it disregarded just bc of its origins.

Exactly!! Like I would never want anyone to be forced to do anything they didn't want to. Like this world needs all kinds of wonderful personalities and people who specialize in all kinds of different work. Personally I just want to be a role model for children who come from the background I did to show them it gets better. While advocating for better rights for both children and women. Just because I want to be more traditional in my work doesn't make me bad or good. It is just a neutral quality you know. The only reason it so demonized by both males and radfems is because it is gendered as female. Which is straight up sexism imho.

anyways sorry to rant in your inbox. i just really Felt ur post lol

don't be sorry!! I loved reading this and glad someone else feels the same way dear!! Love and power to you <3

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just wanted to say i totally understand where ur coming from and wholeheartedly agree. idk about for you but for me coming to a middle ground has been much more psychologically healthy for me too which is great. sending love

Just wanted to say that I love you anonymous besite!! Honestly I have gotten to the age where idgaf about ideological purity anymore. Like during my late teens and early 20s that shit consumed me like a motherfucker but like now, don't care. Just gonna vibe,live my life and see where it takes me. Like honestly all this push back i am getting from radfems just proves the horseshoe theory on the tradfem to radfem line to be true like once you become so radical either right or left, you become extremely hateful and bigoted and loose all reasoning and rationalizing skills, which is evident by the shit in my mentions.

Like my religion degree actually taught me to question everything like are you truly studying religion if you are not having an existential crisis every once in a while during your studies?? so like if someone said they were tradfem i would not pile hate unto them, I would just keep asking questions to figure out if they are bigoted or not you know?

Also sending love back <33

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My #1 post of 2022

wow haven't touched this blog in almost 4 years and I have changed a lot since then. If anyone wants a life update:I graduated with my religion degree,i now live in nyc, and turns out i am actually bisexual and not a lesbian. when it comes to feminism if y'all want me to be honest i am in the middle of radfem and tradfem nowadays. i honestly am pretty traditional when it comes to a lot of certain ideals but I am also pretty radfemy when it comes to others. If anyone wants my contact info or any of my other tumblr blogs slide into my dms and i am happy to share soo lol

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expfcultragreen · 2 years

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ahem.

Demiro

Now wait, before you say...

...hear me out. Im not even serious when i say this, but im like a huge joke to myself so its actually just self revelation in the guise of outrage-baiting the identity police (the anti-identitarian police? Theyre always just mad at specific identities; they dont hold some philosophical stance against identification, just how to identity/what its acceptable to identify as/what acceptable discourse around identity is) with snowflakery. My first thought after lol demiro, is, what does demiromantic even mean, i have an attachment disorder? Ok im killing the shrink in my head, its a reasonable signifier of an adaptive trait amounting to one facet of someone's identity. I mean we are out here labelling our degrees of romantic engagement. It's completely legitimate information for a dating profile, and because of facebook culture we are all, cross-platform, expected to inventory ourselves to some extent so that people can easily prejudge their level of interest in our content. (The different conventions followed are themselves biographical--does your twitter bio read like a business card, a webadmin sig, is it a bunch of emojis, a string of credentials, a microarray of party affiliations? Minority status report, fandom bingo sheet, quoted poetry? Larper resume? Astrology chart? No matter which one it is, the other details fill themselves in from there, dont they watson.

I got off topic)

I do wonder how useful that information is tho, demiro, like im back to my question of what does that even mean--to anyone? It could really only be relevant to someone who's trying to date me, its not particularly relevant to me because its not really something im heavily invested in as a question, how willing or able i am to engage in romantic attachment. It's an errant thought "what if for a giggle i identified as demiro like thats an immediately comprehensible term--and even if it is immediately taken for its intended meaning, doesnt that level of context only serve to beg some perplexity or mystification as to why?" Doesnt it beg the questions ive asked? Like even if you immediately get that its of an ilk to aro, as demi is to ace...i imagine youre still saying fuck is this shit

....unless youre someone who uses the demiromantic tag? Jesus it autosuggested it, theyre out here. Im not tagging it. I bet theyre serious.

I literally do not know how i would go about inventorying whether im fully romantic or not. I feel like im way more romantic than most real world examples i see but i also fall short of my own sense of being one hundo non-aro. Being poly i have this tendency to split attention and even when i have a primary partner im not like fully or exclusively attuned to them and that interferes with my ability to attune to them as needed, to the extent or at the times necessary. And i let it...because im more concerned about the repercussions of having all my emotions invested in one person it might not work out with, than i am uncomfortable with the distance that creates for people who sense that if i was fully romantically engaged in them individually, i would be more attuned to their needs, preferences etc. I think ive been in a successive withdrawing away from "codependency" over the course of my primary romantic partnerships and attachments, that its a learned response that probably even produced neuroanatomical changes that would have been minutely perceptible if finely measured over time. Of course it would be so impossible to parse those trimmings, junctions and formations from all the other shit i do thats producing changes. I heard drinking kills brains cells. And ive smokened a bowl or twain...

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