#there are better ways

[sleepy-shutin]

daily reminder that you can be a system without trauma, but you can't have DID without trauma. it's fine to call yourself a system without being sure you have trauma but if you're looking into DID specifically, you will have to come to terms with the fact that you have trauma.

#post. #i don't care what anyone says #if you scream at me about endos not being real #i'm just going to tell you to get a life #get over it #there are better ways #to go about this discourse #than arguing about something #that has .05 research on it #that being endos not DID #you cannot prove endos don't exist #because there is so little to no research on them at all #that you cannot reasonably be conclusive #however DID on the other hand #has fuck loads of research #and all of it says it's a trauma based disorder #fuckingggg cry about it #syscourse

[vogelmeister]

hate google maps. was trying to book an audition and line it up with my station bus and google maps wants me to walk 1/2 hour for a bus transfer. im killing you all

#there are better ways

[settlercolonialismisbad]

Something that I think escapes a lot of people is that US modern-day prisons are work camps(if prisoners are lucky). They are concentration camps for undesirables. They are abusive in nature and not rehabilitative in any way.

Many don’t make it out alive or without suffering from SA and other trauma. If and/or when they do make it out, they are faced with a life with no opportunity and limited possibilities.

#prison abolition #prison industrial complex #there are better ways #incarcerated people #prisoner rights #human rights

[eternalsailormom]

This is a strictly anti-ABA account, either believe autistic experiences or find another place to go with that nonsense

#aba is abuse #applied behavior analysis #nothing about us without us #if autistic adults say something is damaging maybe just stop doing it to autistic kids #there are better ways #occupational therapy actually helps #aba hurts #meme #bingo meme #actually autistic #lovaas was a dick

[von-eldritch]

@vtino​

//I thought the heart was just a birthmark! It looks like a birthmark! It gets birthmarks are hot points and not tattoos are hot points if she wants tattoos are hot points make it obvious get a motherfucking flower or some shit on that thing!!!!

also vindictiveness has to be WORTH it and forever associating yourself with that greased up little toothpick boy ain’t it! Do better and put glass in his food, Vero!

#you can be vindictive by spiking his coffee with laxatives. or cyanide #there are BETTER ways #vtino #OOC

[perspectiveofaclosetedgal]

Did a bloke "mistakenly" take my lighter just to have something to say when he slid in?

#did i take your little blue lighter? #there are better ways #i would have asked for it back but i didnt want to engage #plus i had a spare #but this 👆 is not okay its chilled that you have it but dont start a convo reminding me that you took it #serial lighter theft is a thing and easy to work on but also #you took my lighter earlier into the night so you deff smoked loads from the time you took it and left #commit to the thievery you deff realised at the party and thought nah #stick to your guns dont try and play the fool #he asked me #brah we both know you did #lgbtq #wlw blog #wlw #baby gay #blog #closeted #sapphic #gay #women loving women #love

[redysetdare]

Sometimes...characters being in a romantic relationship is worse.

#text #sometimes it's the most boring way to have characters interact #sometimes it's worse than the chemistry they have as literally any other kind of relationship #sometimes their platonic dynamic is better #sometimes their hostile dynamic is better #sometimes their dynamic is better if it's anything other than romance #because maybe them falling into generic romance is how you ruin their characters. #aro #aromantic #aroace #i only tag these because it feels relevant to why i feel this way

[angelsdean]

me whenever i see /pos and /hj: why are you calling me a piece of shit and what do handjobs have to do with any of this :/

#this is joke. light-hearted or /lh if you will #but fr there's GOT to be a better way to indicate these things. esp the /pos one #like i'd rather ppl just write out the whole word it's only a few more letters #vic.txt

[bananonbinary]

also worth noting that "abusive" doesn't actually mean "irredeemable" either.

there's a lot of people that have done things in the past that were bad, because they weren't taught any better, or they were in an overall toxic situation where EVERYONE was shitty (like a cult), or they were just at an especially low point and hurt others for it.

you don't have to forgive them. you don't have to ever speak to them again. you can be angry with them until you die if you want.

but society cannot function if we don't allow them to move on. to change their behavior and fuck off somewhere else and build meaningful relationships without bothering you again. we need a path for people to change, or nothing ever will.

#like re: the last post #npd SHOULDNT mean 'youre an abusive person' #but also people who have abused people in the past can still become better people in the present #you know? #and as i metioned vaguely in that post. the way we currently treat people with NPD probably CAUSES THEM to lash out at and abuse others #if u abuse someone they lash back out at you and suddenly theres fun mutual abuse happening #so they need a way out of that cycle

[visualnovelboyfriend]

why should palestinians have to leave behind their land because israel wont stop killing them. why should anyone have to leave behind their life and memories and sentimental value just because an aggressor is left unchallenged. please think this sentiment through and delete it from your thoughts. instead of blaming an oppressed people for living in a hostile land, ask who is making that land hostile to live in.

#this is vaguely worded except the first part because ive seen thsi sentiment time and time again #when the trans genocide began everyoen started blaming trans peopel for living in florida isntead of the people making it unlivable #every timw a cop kills a person of color everyones told to just move somewehre w better cops (doesnt exist) > #< rather rhan examine who gave the cops such pwoer and what use the cops are anyways #i know its rasier to blame the victims of this kind of thing. the oppressors deisgn it taht way and encourage that sentiment #but oleeeeeease im begging u. navajo peopel should not just give up their reservation bc it sucks. whyd the us put them there?

[dramatic-dolphin]

"europeans are soooo much more enlightened and anti-racist than americans" haha sooo true, quick question, how do you feel about romani people?

‼️THIS POST IS ABOUT ANTI-ROMANI SENTIMENT. DO NOT DERAIL. ‼️

#i hate europeans who say this shit. yeah sure you are soooo antiracist. i fucking bet. #literally anyone who cares even a little abt this knows tgat americans are WAY better than us in this regard.

[radio-silents]

I call this one “cartoon mentors who went hard af from tv shows that disney didn’t deserve”

#the owl house #gravity falls #eda the owl lady #Grunkle Stan #my art #canceled WAY before their time #do better Disney!!!!! ur homophobia is showing!!

[uncanny-tranny]

I think so many people are so deeply alienated from themselves that they have no clue how to exercise their free will and autonomy. For some, this alienation runs so deep that they are afraid of their own autonomy and humanity. It is completely understandable why one would have those feelings, but it can be worrisome.

I want to help others who feel this way, so here are small things I have done to exercise my free will:

Add "guilty pleasure" songs to playlists and actually listen to them (I have a ton of late 1990s-early 2000s music I listen to now proudly that I never listened to in the past out of shame)

Getting the décor item, bath set, bed spread, ect. in the patterns you like, even if it's "childish" (I got a dinosaur-themed wastebasket from the kids' décor section and I adore it)

Taking a new route to get to a place you go to often

Eat dessert first

Celebrate well, and often

Collect things that are "odd" or don't seem like an "acceptable" thing to collect (somebody on my "for you" page collects dandelion crayola crayons and it was so cool!!!!!!)

Incorporate one new piece in an outfit you wear frequently (e.g., a new chain, a necklace, ribbons, bracelets, ect.). Challenge yourself to add onto the outfits if you feel up for it.

Sing along to songs without worrying that you sound "good" or your intonation is completely accurate

Read a book from a genre you weren't allowed to read as a kid (comics, thrillers, mysteries, anything!)

Walk without having a specific destination or goal

Pick up a new craft without expecting yourself to master it or to ever be "good" enough. Get your hands messy.

I don't want to shame anybody for not feeling as though they have free will or that they are exempt from exercising it. However, I wanted to give ideas so that you might read this list and find your own ways to express your intrinsic autonomy and will. You deserve to be a person, to feel alive, not just living. That is what our lives are for.

#mental health #mental health support #positivity #if anybody has ideas of their own definitely include them! #i just think being stuck with this feeling that you don't have autonomy and that you ultimately aren't an equal person or a person at all.. #...in comparison to other people can be a really troubling and dangerous place to be in... #...and that isn't the person's fault for feeling that way. they didn't pluck those thoughts out of thin air... #...like i have felt that exact way all my LIFE because i have been abused for. probably 2/3s of my life... #...only within these past few years have i even FELT alive. frankly it's going to take a while to repair what i have been left with... #...so i know the feeling and i want to help others feel even a LITTLE bit alive. you deserve it... #...you deserve to take in a deep breath before slowly realizing 'oh my gd this is what it feels like to be alive' and SMILE about it #i want that for you even if it is brief. even if it is small. even if it is a whisper. i want you to feel alive #unironically getting rid of the idea of 'guilty pleasures' has made my life SO much better

[wolfythewitch]

Jon sketch

#I should save it as an actual photo but idk I like this crop LMAO #art #sketch #tma #the magnus archives #jonathan sims #no better way to stave off an impending breakdown than drawing a blorbo I suppose #that’s the most his facial hair can grow it just stops at that #his genes won’t allow for more

[lgbtlunaverse]

Nothing will dispell the "the curtains were just blue" myth faster than writing something yourself, because the amount of pretentious symbolism i am putting in my silly little fanfics is ridiculous. I mean SO much with these words, literally every single one of them. This fic has twenty five typos and zero correct uses of punctuation but if there's curtains you bet your ass I put thought into what colour they were.

#writing #fic writing #like this is stuff i'm doing for fun with my perfectionism meter turned down as far as i can get it #and i am still thinking about it A LOT #talk to me about how in red string fic jgy perceives the memory block both as syrup and as mud but nmj thinks it feels like blood #it's just a thing in their heads that mentally feels kind of thick and sticky but they both made something different of it #it's about issues with cleanliness / lies as a way to craft an illusion of a better lopking world vs the constant violence nmj lives in

[yarrowdraws]

very late to the meme, it's been done before but. here. turn on the sound pls

#disco elysium #harry du bois #cop slide #slowly learning to use blender and after effects #i was like 'oh i could just send a ragdoll harry through the slide that would be easier!' no. thats way harder than animating him #i could have done better camera shake but i already spent waaaay too much time on this #animation #blender