#that’s not a bad thing

[gemgirl28]

Zuko: Katara’s amazing. She’s so brilliant and kind and clever. And dear Agni is so beautiful. Truly I don’t know how I ended up with the most amazing person but I love her so much. You know Toph and Sokka call me a simp and say I’m whipped but I think I just happen to be married to the most amazing person, you know? Like I feel like people who say others are “whipped” just aren’t married to someone they truly love, or hell, even like. I mean I can’t imagine waking up and staring my day or falling asleep beside anyone but Katara. When I’m sad I want to hold her. When I’m happy I want to celebrate with her. When I’m mad I want to work it out with her. And yeah we disagree on stuff sometimes, but honestly there is no one I would rather go through life with than her. So yeah, I’m not a simp or whipped. I just love my wife and actually enjoy being with her.

Random EK politician: I just asked how your wife was, but okay, good for you?

#zutara #zuko x katara #atla #I mean Zuko is a simp #but like #that’s not a bad thing #also #this would fit for a modern actor au #where zukos on like a late night show #incorrect quotes #incorrect zutara #incorrect zutara quotes

[cherpbooboo]

i sincerely hope this gets posted, this is not flame but real concern for some people here. but if anyone is having actual crisis or is getting genuinely upset because a chat got ghosted, this is potentially a hobby you should shelve until you are prepared for that kind of thing?

for reference, i have been rping since i was 8 years old, i am nearly 30. in all of those years, i've kept maybe 4-5 rp partners around as friends, and the vast swathes of the others are just gone. we didn't write well together, we didn't have the same ideas for progression, maybe we just lost interest in what brought us together in the first place - and yeah, sometimes it was something *i* was invested in as well, and it hurts.

but at the end of the day, it's a hobby. for you, for the person you're rping with, and for most potential partners as well. you owe a stranger on cherp the same amount as you owe a stranger in real life - just because they jumped in and joined your street performance for a moment doesn't mean they're your creative counterpart. you don't even know them. learning to be OK with temporary might just be incredibly healing for you.

I read this ask a few times since we got it and I really thought about it and you’re right. You’re absolutely right. Please have a wonderful new year.

P.s. WHAT WERE YOU ROLEPLAYING AT 8?????

#zari #anonymous #cherp confessions #cherp #cherp.chat #roleplay confessions #I went through all seven stages of grief after reading this ask #that’s not a bad thing #it made me reflect on everything #what it means to rp and why I even still do it #if I’m not happy #why do it? #I should only ever be happy when roleplaying #at first I was angry abt this ask but you’re right #but also #what were you rping when you were 8 #was it Naruto #that’s what it was when i was 10

[reds-lil-things]

Someone please talk to me about Azi’s reaction to the kiss. PLEASE!! I need to dissect it- he almost sounds angry when he says ‘I forgive you’ but there’s just so much emotion I can’t TELL

#good omens 2 #please someone talk to me #I need to think about this #cuz he seems ANGRY?! why would he be ANGRY?! all of us are talking about Crowley and his feelings but what about azirphale?? #he’s just be handed his dreams on a platter and Crowley kind of ruined for him honestly #that’s not a bad thing #he’s being a silly naive goose #but like; I can’t see him crawling back to Crowley #he never has before #why would he start now? #ah gawd

[awesomefringey]

LOUIS TOMLINSON IS A SLUT!

#ask #that’s NOT a bad thing #louis is art

[labyrynth]

honest to god just had someone tell me, an asexual, that asexual people can’t have sex.

if they have sex and don’t hate it, they’re either not asexual, or they’re committing borderline rape, or engaging in self harm. (or maybe it was supposed to be “self rape”? they weren’t making a lot of sense.)

they also said that if you’re not sexually attracted to them, having sex with someone you love is “using their body” and is “just masturbating with someone else’s body”

while on the other hand, if you’re only sexually attracted to someone, and you just wanna fuck ‘em and dump ‘em, that’s perfectly fine, and is NOT “masturbating with someone else’s body”

un fucking real

edit:

terfs/radf.ems/“gen.der cri.tical” keep your nasty claws off

#moi #idk what the fuck they’re on but it’s some kind of weird counterrational rad//fem bullshit #they were getting real big mad at the idea that some people aren’t all that into sex #but they’ll have sex anyway if their partner is into jt #like #that’s not a bad thing #if they’re forcing themself to do it that’s not good #but they don’t HAVE to force themselves #they can just want to do something nice for their partner #like how people generally don’t share every single one of their interests #but in a loving relationship #so long as it isn’t uncomfortable or upsetting #each partner will try to engage in some of their partners interests and tastes #suppose one partner doesn’t like spicy food while the other loves it #it’s okay if one of them doesn’t get a whole lot of joy out of a restaurant that serves spicy food on their own #but that doesn’t mean that they don’t enjoy that it’s made their partner happy #vicarious happiness is a thing #it’s a VERY big thing for humans actually. we do nice things for each other because it makes US feel nice too.

[soll-amca]

YOU'RE BACK I MISSED YOU AAAA

FHFHFFJ NONOBNU I MISSED YOU

I had a whole moment when I saw that you were posting here again (not exactly sure when that was, but I definitely saw when I logged back on today) & if anything I just hope everything’s going good for you :)

Hopefully I didn’t miss out on a bunch of stuff though & I can get back to the swing of things

#Viridigee #Y’know I came back with a weird affinity for surf rock and Dick Dale butimean #That’s not a bad thing #Also hey #Hey just know I’m very down to hear/see/taste/smell/feel any Alessi stuff you have because HHHFGFJh your ideas

[alex-finechi-is-back]

Fuckers will see you wanting atleast some attention for your art and just go on a huge spiel about ‘oh you shouldn’t just make art for people to look at, you should make it for yourself’

Like bitch, most the shit I make is self indulgent as it gets, I’m not asking for everyone to stop what they’re doing to just look at my art - it’d just be nice if atleast a couple people fucking voiced what they like about it.

#it’s human nature to just want some attention #besties it’s not a sin to want a bit of feedback on your art or just one comment #yes it can be ‘dangerous to rely on likes and comments’ but just wanting one?? #that’s not a bad thing #deranged rambling

[legobenkenobi]

obi wan kenobi ep 5 spoilers

genuinely so glad this ep came out because now i don’t have to listen to sw dudebro fans complain about how reva shouldn’t know that anakin is darth vader.

#this was so incredibly obvious btw #like everyone saw it coming from a mile away except people who wanted to complain about it #that’s not a bad thing #it’s a good thing!! #like the story makes sense so fans can understand i! #that’s good! #sw #kenobi spoilers #sorry for rambling i’m just sick of this

[literallyaflame]

my partner doesn’t use pet names nearly as much as i do, which is very funny because i will crack my gay little knuckles and say some shit like “good morning my sun and moon, my loveliest boy, my baby my sweetheart my darling dearest” and he will reply “hello adrian”

#this is not a bad thing. i love him

[kochei0]

I turn to Ares.

Thanks to Tyler Miles Lockett who allowed me to draw inspiration from his ARES piece for page 2! Look at his etsy page it's SICK

⚔️ If you want to read some queer retelling of arturian legends have a look at my webtoon

#greek mythology #ares #athena #greek gods #dont get me wrong it aint athena slander but it sure is ares praise #on some level at least #man justly accused of bad things deserves some mid praise more at 11 #thank you romi for helping me with words though i duly noted you insisted on ares not being cautious rather than him not being careful #romi be like “i want him to care” and honestly good you should say it #also EPIC led to this and i just..... i want to draw some animatics man i just need infinite time now #my long lost love for greek myths just will never stop coming and they dont stop coming and they dont stop coming #i want some vulture design in here for ares but not sure about this one #kochei doodles

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

#yeehaw #1k #5k #10k #posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours? #also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that! #unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference #edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense #also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags #1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now #he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic #2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign #like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock #3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing #it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is #extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once #it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life #i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about #Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect #if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it #aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week

[lesbianralzarek]

"life doesnt get better, you just get stronger" does NOT include ages 11-17. life does in fact just get better from there. those years are dogshit. like, you do get stronger but its mostly just a factor of not being 11-17 anymore. positive thinking helps but it doesnt fix whatevers going on at 15, you have to brute force through that one raw

#i originally posted this as just a 'hey remember how fuckin bad middle/highschool was? shit was wild' type post but now #there are a bunch of teens in the notes being like 'oh my god are you serious? it gets better? im not stuck in hell forever??' #and im reminded that the only people who told teenage ella 'it gets better' were speakers at mental health assemblies #aka the least relatable people alive who were seemingly born to lie to you #so. uh. yeah im a certified adult who isnt here to lie or sugarcoat the realities of being a teenager #the only thing more certain than the pain is the transcience

[whats-this-mustelid]

I just think that 'animals are living intelligent creatures that have feelings and deserve to be respected' and 'when done properly farming is beneficial to both people and animals and there's nothing wrong with raising and killing animals for food, clothing, and other products' are concepts that very much can and should coexist

#i think a lot of people get too carried away in farming discourse to actually remember both of these things #some people are so aggressively anti-farming that they forget that meat and fur are necessary for some people #and that farming helps prevent overhunting of certain species #but some people are so aggressively pro-farming that they begin to think of animals as objects #that only exist to provide them with a product #animals deserve to be treated with respect and be given the best care possible while they're alive #but that doesn't mean that its a bad thing for them to die

[epicsauce]

i think everyone needs to adopt "i didnt say it was good, i said i liked it" into their vocabulary right now. it did me wonders

#things dont have to be good to bring you joy and yiu #you dont have to feel bad about it #00

[meowydoe]

FORTY THOUSAND NOTES OLIVE OSTROVSKY????

[lgbtlunaverse]

Obsessed with characters who portray themselves as worse than they are. Who are lying to everyone including themselves about it. People generally assume if someone's lying about themselves they're trying to look better but sometimes they're trying to look worse. They attribute agency to where they had none, add intend to accidents, try to convince everyone that this is something they did instead of something that happened to them.

#this is about tenko bnha #but it is also about dahlia ace attorney #watch the nezumiVA videos on ace attorney trilogy they're great #anyway dahlia saying she (at like. 6 years old) apparently convinced her father to abandon her sister. hmmm #also everyone including herself thinking of her as the manipulator in control with terry when she was 14 dating a 20 y/o #anyway these characters both did do terrible things but feel the need to pile on more and remove nuance from where it exists #to convince themselves that this is what they really want. that they chose this. #it's about the loss of control it's about being a victim feeling worse than being a villain #at least if you were the bad guy you had autonomy #shimura tenko #shigaraki tomura #dahlia hawthorne