#stop trying to be a gatekeeper

[odinsblog]

i usually use the anon function bc im embarrassed to ask people things sjfjfjhs but I've never sent anything horrible to anyone!! I'm sorry you've had negative experiences with the anon function before, you don't deserve that at all!! sending love!

[re: this post]

Thank you. I genuinely appreciate you rn

People like you are literally the only reason why I don’t completely disable the anon feature, because I understand that sometimes people are shy, or they want to express themselves without taking shit. I actually dO get that

But alas, as with everything, there are those who abuse what really should be thought of as a nicety, or privilege—some people just abuse it

Very long rant, incoming

So here’s the thing, right? Sometimes when people are online, they act and behave in ways they wouldn’t dare to irl

I’m not the government. I don’t have a staff to edit my posts. I’m not anybody special. I’m just some dude on the internet who enjoys sharing my opinions and other things. If YOU don’t like or agree with my opinions or something else that I post, you are completely free to keep scrolling or to block me. That’s fine. But when anons begin demanding that I phrase things the way that they’re more comfortable with, then we got serious issues

And another thing: people need to not be so quick to assume malicious intent where none exists

For example, I have accidentally typed the number 500 in a post when I meant to type 50–now, in the specific post, it truly was a significant error. But an anon immediately jumped into the comments and self righteously accused me of lying to make a point, rather than saying to themselves, “Hm, maybe Odin just made a typo”

And my personal favorites

them: YOU’RE SPREADING MISINFORMATION AND DISINFORMATION !!!!

me: um, it was a fucking joke? do they have jokes where you come from?

Or,

me: posts a video of an alligator and some cranes, and adds a bit of whimsical commentary

them: WELL ACTUALLY, THAT IS PROBABLY PREDATORY BEHAVIOR AND I THINK YOU SHO-

me: no. goddamn, I can’t be fucking whimsical on a social media site? eat shit. stfu

And also,

them: well technically, it’s not really fascism

me: maybe not, but it’s fucking close enough. I’m not gonna wait for people to start getting marched into ovens and say, “now can we call it fascism??”

I have literally had all of these dumb, stupid ass conversations (almost verbatim) here on tumblrdotcom, and lemme tell ya, it’s frustrating af

And other times, when I author a post containing a hyperlink on desktop but then later edit it on mobile, sometimes the hyperlink doesn’t carry over to mobile and you’re left with a post that may say “source,” but is not clickable. It happens sometimes, and it’s not a big deal, right?? WRONG! Instead of sending an ask to ask me what happened to the link, I’ve had anons accuse me of “not crediting” a source

I’ve had people use anon to accuse me of cropping videos so that I could somehow “steal” credit from others, and I’m just like … What??? Who does that? Who has the time for all of that? Are you aware that sometimes people on the internet see something like a video or a photo from somewhere else (also uncredited from twitter, reddit, facebook, etc), and then just post it here on tumblr??

And no, I am not talking about reposting someone’s art or other works

Look, if YOU get your thrills from finding out who/where/when the very first instance of every single cat or dog video came from, that’s great! Do you. Knock yourself out. Have fun. But don’t try to shame others because we aren’t all humorless poindexters like you

If I post something from tiktok, the video generally tells you where to go to see it there. If it’s a tweet or from reddit, again, there are usually twitter or reddit handles in the tweet. And NO, I am not putting a link to every single tweet or reddit thread or facebook post — if that’s that important to you, then figure it out. It’s not hard, and in the year 2023 most adults should have the necessary skills to find an original tweet, if that’s something that’s important to you. I’m not doing it for you, not sorry

(SN: I’ll never forget when I took my first college English literature course, and at the end of the semester I was on the bubble for getting an A or an A+ in the class, and our final exam was a written essay that would decide my final grade. I didn’t quite score the A+ that I wanted, and when I looked over my essay, the professor wrote on it: “Odin, you are the quintessential college freshman, and your inquisitiveness has made this semester one of my most enjoyable.” And after class, I walked up to him and thanked him, and asked him what quintessential meant? He opened his mouth and was about to answer me, but then he smiled, wagged his finger at me and said, “you should learn to look things up.” He was one of my favorite professors (had a British accent, eyeglasses and reminded me of Giles from Buffy), but I’ve never forgotten that lesson. Some of you very obviously need to learn it too)

I’ve also made what are very obviously jokes online, only to have people accuse me of misrepresenting facts—and then I’m like, do I really need to explain the concept of what a joke is to you people??

Like, I could see if it was something racist, trans/homophobic, Islamophobic, antisemitic, etc, BUT I DON’T DO THAT

I think that some people need to be seen as, or have a desire to be known as a gatekeeper, and instead of using just a tiny bit of common sense, they try to make mountains out of molehills to elevate themselves in the eyes of their followers

The people who act this way are truly joyless human beings, and they probably suck all the fun out of parties and other events that people are forced to spend time with them

Maybe try socializing a bit more? Learn to read (online) cues. Don’t be so eager to accuse everyone of doing something wrong just so that YOU get to look like the good guy

And all of that’s without even addressing all of the straight up racist anons that I constantly receive

Like, do people even understand that we aren’t inside of each other’s heads? Sometimes we’re all dealing with life and other stuff. And just maybe people are busy trying to have just a tiny bit of fun, and then the mf fun police come along and try to ruin shit? Because I don’t use a word exactly the same way you do?? Or because of an obvious joke?? You guys who do this kind of shit really SUCK

I feel sorry for you

I almost can’t believe this is the piddling little shit that some people choose to be upset over

Please find some REAL things to be upset over

Try learning to use the feature that lets users (gasp) make a post of their very own! instead of fixating on one goddamn mutha fucking post that wasn’t worded to your liking

I am not here for the discourse with anyone with an internet connection and a keyboard

Please go touch some grass

#anon #ask #answered #odin rants #please grow up #dont be so fast to assume the worst in everyone #stop trying to be a gatekeeper #lighten tf up

[svnflowermoon]

btw please block me if you feel the need to gatekeep the queer community. cishet aspecs ARE valid and they ARE queer. the "they don't experience discrimination" argument is possibly the most stupid thing i have ever heard because aspecs experience insane levels discrimination and people are extremely dismissive of them. we our more than our suffering. our community is not yours to gatekeep it isn't fair to invalidate people's queer identities just because you can't fit them in your stupid little box of specific labels.

#like cmon guys its 2024 stop gatekeeping the community we are trying to make people feel SAFE but people are feeling the exact opposite #also like people are perfectly okay (as they should be ofc) with complicated gender identities but when someone's sexuality is complicated? #when someone's sexuality doesnt fit into a specific label or their idea of what queerness 'is'?? #people brush it under the rug and dismiss it because its 'uncomfortable' but fuck that actually people can be as complicated as they want #as someone currently questioning whether im aspec this debate is killing me why do people make it so impossible to just let people live #luc posts #queer #aspec #aromantic #asexual #aroace #lgbtq #luc rants

[spider-man-2o99]

“why are you always only ever talking about, like, spider-man 2099’s childhood and mental health issues instead of posting panels of him Biting People” uh. because... spider-man 2099 the comic book... also does this.?

#talking tag #spider-man 2099 #spiderman 2099 #miguel o'hara #xina kwan #marvel #comics #comic panels #i earnestly am not trying 2 gatekeep here lol i Desperately Want people to read spider-man 2099 and ALSO Like The Thing I Really Really Like #but. (deeply bitter) The Internet Does As The Internet Is i guess. #plus i Already Have posted every single panel of him Biting People that currently exists. and then ppl left viscerally uncomfortable tags. #..well. Viscerally Uncomfortable for Me. obv the people Leaving those additions seemed pleased as punch to publicly puke em onto my lap. #urgh woof i Know it's a Bad Idea 2 bring attention 2 it bcuz this specific breed of Pest thrives on Attention but like. i am so Tired #like one of those panels was an instance of the main character rebuffing an attempted assault Put Your Pants On And Quit Moaning. Christ. #this is My Personal Blog. i post abt this comic because im autistic and it's been my special interest for going on like 10yrs. #if i decide i want to Stop Posting about it then i will just Stop Posting About It. and i will tell people Why if it is for any reason. #but i just. /jesus/ yall. go be intolerably Straight somewhere else. my house isnt the place for that i just Block Creeps.

[electricmaimer]

"i dont care if people who havent read the books get spoiled for the show" <- words of a person i now want to bite and yell at

#BE FUCKING NICE #A LOT OF THEM ARE CHILDREN??? THEY EITHER HAVENT GOTTEN AROUND TO READING THE BOOKS BECAUSE THEY DIDNT HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO YET #OR #ADDITIONALLY IT IS 2023. THE WORLD IS DIFFERENT AND MEDIA IS BEING ADAPTED FOR NEW GENERATIONS #TRY HOLDING SOME WONDER AND JOY IN YOUR HEART AND THINK ABOUT HOWW FUN IT IS TO EXPERIENCE A STORY FOR THE FIRST TIME #STOP SPOILING SHIT ON PURPOSE IT MAKES ME WANT TO COMMIT CRIMES❤️ #literally dont be a spiteful dick and stop ruining things for fun or because you want to gatekeep and have a superiority complex #fuck uou i would personally give ANYTHING to get to experience this story for the first time again #and watching people ruin in in real time for people experiencing it for the firdt time. i hate you #ypure all extremely selfish and shortsighted for doing this whole 'yeah but the books have been out for forever.. :/' bs #absolutely giving yourself away as a fucking clown with no ability to gain anything positive from shared joy. get well soon #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson #pjo show #percy jackson show #pjo tv show #eeanpost #ALSO THE FUCKING AUDACITY FOR THE FANBASE OF A BOOK SERIES ABOUT KIDS STRUGGLING WITH LEARNING DISABILITIES TO YELL AT PEOPLE FOR NOTREADING #DO YOU FUCKING HEAR YPURSELVES ???? WHAT THE FUCK??? THE STORY IS MORE ACCESSIBLE NOW. THAT IS A GOOD THING. HTJSJJTJFJG

[recurringwriter]

i need to speak up with this because it's getting grating as a bi arospec.

Please. Think before you say that someone writing a character as demi-, grey-, or elsewhere on the aromantic spectrum is only doing so to 'appeal to the alloros'. When you say that, you sound exactly like the people who call bisexuals 'fakers' or 'basically straight' for wanting to see or think about m/f pairings. I do not want to see the community that should be supporting me, a greyro, pulling the same gatekeeping shit that still hurts me and my bi friends.

I do not mind if you hc this character as repulsed. More power to you, enjoy your headcanons. But you will not tell someone that they are doing it wrong for exploring the idea of romance with that same character. 'It's only when the allos do it--' can you tell? Do you have a magical scrying orb that tells you who is aro enough to write a headcanoned-as-aro character in a romantic relationship? Do you remember how bisexuals get called 'straight' for enjoying a m/f pair? Do you see how others within the arospec community might think that you're calling them allo when they hear you saying that? That this makes them feel unseen and unheard?

I'm sure it's very alienating if you want to be a part of popular fandom, and I could never understand that. But think about how you alienate your allies and siblings when you say these things. Our existence isn't to please anyone else, the same as yours. So stop talking as if it is.

#this really nickels my back #shipping or not shipping does not indicate how progressive you are or how aro you are! shipping is not activism! #people will write stuff you hate whether or not you tell them to stop. so stop inadvertently turning away other arospecs by doing so #and i don't think we should try to scare away alloros attempting (and failing) to write an aro character. fiction is how we explore #and not everyone is exploring at the same pace. leave room for people to make mistakes. #i don't think anyone reblogging these kinds of posts is doing so with the intention of gatekeeping. #but the wording on a lot of aro posts has gotten to a point where i am not comfortable interacting with them #i would love arospec positivity posts! but everyone seems too angry for that #this was my One angry post. will get back to writing my unromantic x reader 'one-shot' and minding my own business.

[samuelroukin]

ah okay. I don't want to gatekeep but imo if you've never interacted with a piece of media you claim to be a fan of, are you even truly a fan? like "I appreciate the aesthetics/what it features but I haven't actually interacted with it" is very different from "I have read, listened to, watched, played, etc. something and like it"

as I said in my author's note for soap hole, I'm not a fan of cod. however I'm enjoying my time observing y'all. I am having so much fun watching what y'all say and do

no yeah exactly, anyone can obviously do what they want, but (to me!!) actually being IN a fandom means you have interacted with the source material. i don't claim, or expect anyone else, to have played/watched every single cod game (or if you want to use a different example you can look at star trek or supernaturel or idk comic books) but None of it is just wild to me.

like ofc i'm not against engaging with the resulting fanworks, i enjoy stuff from fandoms i'm not in all the time, but like you said, to me that's different from being part of it if you don't know anything abt what actually spawned those works

#idk i don't think that's gatekeeping tbh like i'm not stopping you it's just bewildering #i'm NOT trying to spawn discourse here just offering my view #anon #asks

[richtkin]

sometimes i remember my gatekeeping, girlbossing and gaslighting actually has a bad impact on the communities i enjoy.

#gaslight gatekeep girlboss #stop gatekeeping #save hannibal #i cant help it #its a problem #i’m trying #nbc hannibal #hannibal #hannigram

[simcardiac-arrested]

as a russian who doesn't talk to russian people online what the shit is happening there hello

look man i myself have put in the effort to Not talk to online russians for like (checks hand) 7 or so years (of course i’ve met some really great ones but this isn’t about them and they probably know it) but i’m sure the community didn’t change much. actually from the glimpses i see it seems to have gotten worse. don’t even get me startedddddd man

#Like okay first we have the misogynist dudebros. not a category exclusive to online russians but #there are so many it’s fucking crazy. homophobic to hell and back and Will hate on you for no reason #alpha male type mfs who hate women but will still harass them because of course they will #the second category of course is weird unironic fujoshis who are also usually proshippers #and they are either 12 (forgivable) or 25 and the thing is you can NEVER tell. But it’s kind of fucked how #acceptable it is to just straight up fetishize gay men (hell probably not only them) in online russian communities #and listen to me. the secret third category is that there is no third category. Both of these categories are racist #deer was right i have never seen a community more racist or xenophobic than fucking online russians #you draw a character one shade darker than their usual skintone and suddenly you got annoying as fuck russians in your comments going #BRO BURNT IN THE SUNNN 🤣🤣🤣 ENGLISH FANDOM LOOK WHAT YOU’VE DONE !!! <- in recent times they have taken to blaming the english fandom for #‘wokefying’ their sacred online russian spaces. Of course we can only be woke enough to fetishize gay men. god forbid black people exist #now the actual third category is the online russian tеrf/radfеm community. it seems recent to me but also as i said i have not really #interacted with russian comminity as a whole for a long while. But yea anyways they’re crazy i dont think i have to explain this one #but they’re somehow more evil and miserable than the ones you’re used to #another recent one is the russian twitterians … i’ve only seen glimpses of them as well as i dont use twitter #but you will not believe the shit these mfs try to pull. They try to get you to stop swearing at all bc they find a way to make every #russian swear word offensive. AND they speak fucking … englussian. rusglish. Half of their sentences are just english words written in #russian letters. all the same buzzwords english speaking twitter users like to say! #if you’ve never seen a russian talk about feminization or gatekeeping or being woke or yadda yadda. Well i have #it’s bad. they’re just very very terminally online #and don’t worry the last two categories will also always be racist/xenophobic even if the last one tries to seem Progressive #don’t know if i missed anytning but those are just the Specific Types of annoying asf online russians that i have noticed and have been #observing from a safe distance like a scientist #my point is keep not talking to russian people #cramswering #edit: I FORGOT BUT DONT EVEN GET ME STARTED ON HOW ONLINE RUSSIANS TREAT TRANS PEOPLE #YOU CANNOT IMAGINE THE WAY THEY REACT TO TRANS HEADCANONS IT’S LIKE THE END OF THE WORLD TO THEM. OR TRANS CHARACTERS #OR GOD FORBID ACTUAL REAL LIFE TRANS PEOPLE. it’s actually quite incredible how bigoted online russians are

[thychesters]

straw hats: everybody say enies lobby!

kaku: I’M A GIRAFFE

#kaku: DON’T UNDERESTIMATE THE GIRAFFE’S LIMITLESS DESTRUCTIVE POWER #zoro: … you mean standing up? #STOP ZORO CALLED HIM LAME AND THEN IMMEDIATELY FELT BAD #everyone’s just bullying this man … damn #‘I LIKE GIRAFFES’ poor guy’s trying to gaslight gatekeep girlboss himself #kate watches op #enies lobby

[dixidin]

The fact that we got the mf who saved Childe when he was in the abyss BEFORE Sandrone...... Sandrone lovers we are not making it outta this one are we?

#I JUST WANNA SEE MY WIFE *falls to my knees with fist up in the air* #HOYOVERSE STOP GATEKEEPING HER!!!!! #IM TIRED OF THIS #Sandrone.... content.. please *I start crawling on the floors with my hands as if I'm dehydrated in the desert* #Its's true tho #not even tumblr content can give me her.... frowny face :((((( #Sandrone lovers. Are you guys even alive? ARE WE ALL OKAY????!?!??! (the answer is no) #Hoyoverse is gate keeping all of the blonde harbingers (La Signora and Sandrone) #On another note. Skrim (I think that's the girls name who saved Childe) literally looks like Bronya #Put their photos together... its the same mf #Back to Sandonre because she's my wife and I love her and I miss her and SANDRONE COME HOME PLEASSSEEE #How tf are we gonna get Capitano and Columbina both in Natlan if Hoyo ain't even gonna give us Arlecchino and Sandrone together??? #We got Childe..... but I hate that bitch #Plus he's always in EVERY FUCKING NATION SINCE LIYUE!!!! #This mf better not be in Natlan and trying to converse with Capitano..... MR PRESIDENT GET DOWN!!!! THE GINGER IS HERE #Hell we got DOTTORE and SCARAMOUCHE WAY BEFORE WE'RE GETTING SANDONE #Praying that she's gonna be in the game by 4.2 and she just wasn't in the trailer.... let me be delulu #Anyways I am not doing good after that 4.2 trailer. Hoyoverse is 100% paying for my therapy #genshin impact #genshin #genshin impact fontaine #genshin impact 4.2 #sandrone genshin impact #sandrone #long list of tags today boys

[morgue-me]

I was talking to someone today about how ridiculous beauty standards are and they said that people should "stop gatekeeping sexy" and I just think that's beautiful

#like.YES #stop telling people that they need all of these outrageous things just to feel beautiful #EVERYONE IS SEXY #DONT LET PEOPLE TELL YOU YOURE NOT #DONT LET THE WORLD TRY TO GATEKEEP SEXY FROM YOU‼️‼️

[tactfulsaboteur]

not going to try to defend the general attitude but on the other hand when was the last time you heard someone talking shit about hipsterism since people started realizing 99.9% of everything made in the last couple decades sucks absolute balls

#i'm going to be honest the germ of this post was just me trying to make people mad by siding with incredibly annoying people #in a way that makes it hard to disagree without sounding cringe #i have several issues with hipsterism beside the general attitude #namely that they don't always actually go for the high quality but instead just for the look of high quality #with even worse actual quality than the mainstream #and also that they're the antithesis of gatekeeping your hobbies #they will be incredibly obnoxious about their hobbies to anyone who will listen #which to be fair may actually have the desired effect #just i wouldn't want that to be me. if someone else is willing to take that L i won't stop them though

[tori-artemis]

I don't usually make posts when I'm upset about something (or like, at all) but honestly I'm just. Really sick of the Loki fandom as a whole. Like I'm just tired of all the pettiness and bullshit. And tbh it's on both ends of the Loki series/Ragnarok split. Both pros and antis.

This isn't so much a vague post as it's a vent post for me. You see, I've been having these feelings about the Loki fandom overall for months now, and I've seen certain posts from the positive side where I just want to - jump in and say something, or at least speak for myself as an ""anti"" (hate that word btw) bc the amount of generalizing I've seen that goes on over there wrt ppl who dislike the show is just - well it's fucking frustrating. Like it annoys me bc I've heard every dumb overgeneralization since the show first came out, from not wanting Loki to move on bc we're oh-so-traumatized to we're just bitter bc the show didn't go the way we wanted/our hcs of Loki weren't validated, etc.

I think one that annoyed me the most was the claim that ppl who hate/dislike Sylvie as a character do so out of misogyny. And like - maybe there's some truth there wrt how the character/actress tend to be bombarded with gendered slurs, and yes that's not cool, but I've never referred to Sylvie or Sophia as any slur. (In fact I don't even hate Sylvie - what I do hate is how the writers have set her up as a "superior" contrast to Loki, which to me seems very intentional on their part, particularly wrt the Trauma Olympics™ as in "Sylvie had it so much harder" 🙄 - but I digress). Yet I can't help but feel like I'm being lumped in the "antis are misogynists" bin every time I read any of those posts from the pro side, simply bc I dislike the way a character was utilized. The way those posts are written, the way they sound - it's very black and white, overgeneralizing an entire group of fans, there's no nuance or side notes or disclaimers of "hey - I know not all of y'all are like this, this is just about some I've encountered" - not even in the tags, nothing. And I've just wanted so badly to jump in and say: "hey, anti here and I'm not like that" but I refrain, bc I've grown so tired of all the fandom infighting and discourse that I usually don't have the energy to get into it. So when I see someone from that side of fandom jump on a post and say how they dislike being overgeneralized as a fan, and how they feel like they're being misrepresented, or condescended to... I can't help but feel kinda upset by that, ngl. Part of me just wants to say "yes it sucks, but recognize that your side (if not you yourself) does it too. Some of you folks do it too."

Like I've read posts implying/stating that antis who hate the show lack critical thinking skills - and like, look, there might be a bit of truth wrt, say, calling Sylvie an outright abuser (and even I've been a little guilty of agreeing to view her as a person with toxic traits as opposed to the enemy-to-lovers trope she clearly falls into - tho I still can't really fault myself for not being able to take that romance seriously due to how damn rushed and forced it felt - but that's besides the point). But there's just something about the way a lot of these posts are worded, like yes some posts are pretty reasonable, but others are practically dripping with condescending sentiment (for lack of better words) as if we're fucking stupid for having emotional reactions to media as opposed to critical reactions, when isn't that the point of media and art, to illicit emotions? Like yes, the story might be trying to say something (and it might epically fail in doing so, which is how I view the show overall) but it's also meant to move ppl. And if it fails to do so, or it garners an unintended reaction, or the characterization is too inconsistent or the story telling itself is rushed/filled with inconsistencies then can you really blame fans for, well, being blindsided by disappointment/their emotions as opposed to critically analyzing it? And yes I know this is a matter of opinion, but still.

(Like sometimes a story can be extremely well written overall, and very well thought out and fans will just be oblivious to, choose to ignore or even outright refuse to pick up on the symbolism within a story, or the internal motivations/conflicts within a character, or how a character progresses/character arcs in general. Sometimes fans will even completely and intentionally misread a character in their entirety, and the role they play within a story, no matter how skilled and how excellent the writing is within a piece of art. And sometimes fans will just overall fail to realize the major themes/hints that a writer carefully lays out. Yes this is a thing, and one I've been made aware of in the particular fandom that I'm about to join.)

But then there's stories that are just... lazily/half-heartedly written at best, and so I just don't understand where pro stans get off by being condescending to ppl like me who just couldn't be immersed due to all those flaws in storytelling. Especially when I didn't get enough out of it to even see where a lot of these conclusions fans seem to have drawn from it. Like there are some inconsistencies within the story itself, there are things that just don't make a whole lot of sense, there are many contradictions, I didn't just make them up. And again I know, everyone interprets media differently, but I don't really see what a lot of pro fans have taken from the series, bc I personally don't think its there. And I really don't appreciate being thought of as some kind of imbecile for not "getting it" when the media in question is, objectively... not all that great tbh. And I'm being absolutely neutral when I say that, like I'm literally not even hating here.

And like I could've easily have turned around and made a bunch of posts stating how pro fans are "stupid" for putting so much thought into a piece of media I personally find to be stupid or just lacking in general, but I haven't. Bc one: that's a shitty thing to do to ppl, and two: it wouldn't even be true bc so many ppl who I consider very intelligent have enjoyed this show, and do put a lot of thought into analyzing it, so despite me not really seeing where they're coming from I want to respect that. And look, it's not like I haven't had those presumptuous thoughts or knee jerk reactions, bc yeah I am in an echo chamber too, and I'm no saint - I'm definitely human and I've had some overgeneralized, uncharitable takes. But I recognize this about myself, I don't post that shit. Which is why I get so upset when I see so many other fans do just that.

Also there is a definite misuse of the depiction of torture, which is used to convey certain themes, and that's very unfortunate, and IMO very bad writing/storytelling. I probably would've been a little more charitable towards the series overall if the Sif-beatdown timeloop scene had been scrapped altogether like the writers seriously should've considered doing (due to the fact that torture has so many misconceptions and is grossly excused in the majority of media which has unfortunate real world consequences) and instead focus more on Loki confronting his fear of being alone, if that truly is what the intention for that scene was. Like yes, some antis might go overboard wrt the messaging within the show, but when it comes to things like the atrocious time loop scene... that's not a made up thing we just happen to pull out of nowhere, that's something the writers put in there and therefore, yeah that's pretty fucked.

Then on the other side I'll find myself liking a post from a negative series fan bc I'll agree with the overall sentiment of it, only to unlike it right after reading the tags bc they've said something like "ppl who like this show/movie/etc are stupid" or "if you ever defended or even enjoyed TR fuck you" - and like??? WTF. I understand disliking the show or whatever but why the hell would you brush over an entire group of real, actual people as "idiots" for simply liking a piece of media??? Like - do I think the show was a disjointed mess? Yeah, I do. Do I think it was poorly written? Yes. Do I even think the reasoning behind a lot of these writing decisions was really fucking stupid on the creators part (or at the very least, that they failed to convey their ideas clearly)? Absolutely. But that doesn't mean anyone who's ever enjoyed the show is stupid for doing so, and I say this as someone who does have the knee-jerk reaction to go "how could you like that show, it sucked so much!"

But like, at the end of the day I understand that ppl take different things out of media. And just bc you find something so stupid or unwatchable, doesn't mean others will, and that's okay bc ppl are different and have different tastes and IDK how ppl don't fucking get that??? Like why is this even a hot take when it's literally just a fact???

It's shit like this that makes me feel like leaving the fandom all together. Which I don't really want to do, bc despite everything wrong with fandom and despite my own personal disappointment with the latest Loki/Thor franchise installments I still really love Loki as a character, and I still want to write fic revolving him. I even still want to make friends within the Loki fandom bc that's literally why I created this blog in the first place, to befriend other Loki fans, like I could've easily stayed being a lurker within the fandom but regardless I think at this point it's farfetched to want this bc the fandom's just way too split and way too hostile and way too fucking eager to be uncharitable and condescending af. And I'm just tired. I'm just... really really tired of the pettiness, the condescending attitude a lot of fans seem to fucking have for anyone who might think differently from them.

I'm tired of the gatekeeping - on both sides. It's on both sides. Because saying "real Loki fans would never like/defend TR/the show" and "how anyone can claim to be a Loki fan if they hate him/his own show" aren't so far apart from each other, both sentiments basically say the same thing, just from polarized viewpoints.

And I wish more fans would just recognize that.

#Loki fandom negativity #I refuse to tag this as anything else bc this isn't about the show - it's the fandom #look I'm just tired guys #I've been fed up and sick of all the damn fucking pettiness #Maybe I'm being overdramatic here #But in my defense I too am in the middle of experiencing that time of the month... #(I swear this isn't so much about that particular post as it is about all the other posts and nonsense I've seen #and the disappointment I've had with fandom that's just been pent up inside of me) #I know ppl follow me who are really entrenched in the negativity side who might take offense to this #And while I'm not really trying to offend anyone here I don't really want to go on pretending that I'm not kinda upset by all the - #posts and hot takes and hate bashing of fans/folks who might've actually enjoyed the show - bc yeah I hate that damn show too #but I can't help but feel disappointed when ppl start calling folks ''idiots'' and whatnot for enjoying a piece of media #THIS IS A BOTH SIDES ISSUE AND IM FUCKING TIRED OF IT #ALL OF YOU (GENERALLY) FUCKING GATEKEEP THE FANDOM #BOTH CONDESCEND THE OTHER SIDE AND ITS. FUCKING SHITTY #NO IM NOT A MISOGYNISTIC IDIOT WHO'S INCAPABLE OF CRITICALLY ANALYZING A MEDIOCRE/SUBPAR SHOW #AND NO JUST BC I HATE THE SHOW DOESNT MEAN I WANT TO HATEBASH ANYONE WHO ENJOYED IT #PPL ARENT IDIOTS OR STUPID FOR LIKING/DISLIKING A PIECE OF MEDIA FFS #like even discussing with some friends on discord is frustrating when they say things like ''i judge ppl who like the show'' #like no. stop doing that shit. dont condescend others like that #if anyone seeing this feels offended and wants to block/unfollow thats okay #ive already made another blog focusing on a completely different fandom #so im probably going to be dipping out of here soon anyway #i just wanted to get this off my chest before doing so #also i know there are some cool ppl here on both sides/in the middle but im just done #i said i wasnt going to talk about the show but then i just went and did so #loki series criticism i guess #might as well title this post 'How to lose friends and alienate loki fans' #tldr: everyone (generally) in this damn fandom is fucking petty and IM TIRED

[allwomenjointhe4bmovement]

ASEXUAL - A term used to describe someone who does not experience sexual attraction towards individuals of any gender.

LESBIAN - A term used to describe a woman who is both sexually and romantically attracted to solely other women.

Therefore, YOU CAN NOT BE BOTH AT THE SAME TIME!!!

If you're an asexual woman and still feel romantic feelings for only women, then the term for that is Homoromantic Asexual, NOT "asexual lesbian"!!!

That's just basic English, that's how words work, that's how adjectives work, that's how labels work. It's not about being "valid" or joining 2 completely different things together and chanting "we exist" when people call you out. It's not about "gatekeeping". It's not about being "exclusionary".

This isn't saying lesbianism is only about s3x. It's just about using your common sense! That's literally it!

#asexual lesbian #lesbians aren't asexual #asexual #lesbian #lgbt #terminology #use correct labels #asexual lesbians are not valid #Homoromantic asexual #words #adjectives #use the correct labels #lesbophobia #stop trying to change the meaning of words #stop trying to change the meaning of the word lesbian #lesbians can not be asexual #gatekeeping #you can't gatekeep adjectives #words have meaning #exclusion #using the correct terminology is not exclusion #using the correct terminology is not gatekeeping #nonbinary lesbian #femme lesbian

[untimelyambition]

actually so insane how big renee rapp has gotten like what do you mean shes not underground anymore

#this is like me trying to gatekeep billie eilish after wwafawdwg released like babe stop trying shes proper famous now #in my head renee rapp still just stepped into the role of regina george #in my head i am still scouring the internet for as many of her bootlegs as i could find #like wdym she was on harper’s bazaar wdym she was on the today show #no thats my favourite underground artist not a famous stage and screen actor and queer music icon <- im delusional #renee rapp #snow angel

[letyukisayfuck]

pros of 2024: people are watching/reading haruhi again (little bit less of a ghost town)

cons of 2024: people are watching/reading haruhi again (i have to see people misinterpret the characters and the text and the interpersonal relationships in new and exciting ways)

#ruby.txt #and the worst part is i have to be nice about it #because as much as i joke about gatekeeping i do not want to be That Guy #i actually try very hard to be nice about opposing views. outside of the yuki-chan thing #i Cannot be nice about yuki-chan now that i've watched it. #whether or not my trying comes off... uh... at all. is. unclear! #(in case you're wondering why i stopped putting most of my posts in the main tags) #(it was a mix of 'i talk a lot about spoiler stuff and there's new folks in here' #and 'i do not always know how to say these things nicely')