#sometimes the internet is a good thing

[a-passing-storm]

I was scrolling through the comments while listening to this really relaxing bass video, and someone said that their baby kicked a lot whenever they listened to that song, and like... oh man, I’m getting so emotional right now. It’s from 6 years ago, but it’s so weird cuz like... the song itself is kind of relaxing but a little bittersweet, and like... six years is a long time (to me), but the baby is probably five or six now, which isn’t that old, and like... oh man people really do just connect like that, don’t they? Like people have those down-time moments where they’re bonding with their kids or friends and like... those moments just happen. And they’re sweet. And time isn’t so brief when it’s filled with things like that.

#man im crying now (in a good way) #sometimes the internet is a good thing #i have been feeling kind of cynical/jaded/disconnected and like... this one thing really just hit me so hard (in the best way) #we're all just people on a rock in space trying to enjoy the time we have #man #sonder #humans #bass #oh also #pregnancy #in case anyone has blocked the tag <3 #bc man pregnancy--specifically the thought of being pregnant--usually makes me so uncomfortable #like ew there's a creature growing inside of you and you're stuck with it for 20 years and you better not fuck up #bc like that's gonna be a human yk #but actually this specific comment and this specific song has like... kind of assuaged my general discomfort around pregnancy #like there are things that are good abt it #idk #i am very emotional can you tell #dante dicit #this is such a weird post #man im actually about to just start sobbing #(in a good way)

[crabussy]

IS ANYONE ELSE FEELING KIND TODAY!!! IS ANYONE ELSE FEELING GENEROUS TOWARDS OTHER PEOPLE!!! IS ANYBODY ELSE BEING KIND AND TRYING TO UNDERSTAND EVEN WHEN ITS HARD!!! IS ANYONE ELSE ASSUMING THE BEST OF OTHERS INTENTIONS AND RESPONDING IN KIND!!!! CAN ANYONE HEAR ME

#having a day ^_^ #I love being kind I just wish other people loved being kind more #people on the internet are SO FUCKING MEAN TO EACH OTHER???? its a terrible phenomenon #I have never seen people in real life treat others badly with the horrifying proportion of hate I see online #please. try to be kinder try to be more patient even when its frustrating #I have changed minds and deescalated arguments SO many times by being kind. #if someone is spouting misinfo in a furious rage and they're saying hurtful things? try responding with patience and kindness #even when you don't feel they deserve it. because one of 2 things usually happens #EITHER. they immediately shift their tone because you're talking to them like an equal and not an idiot #OR they continue to be horrible and it makes them look really nasty. its not a good look!! most people won't do the second thing!! #hateful online arguments has turned my mental health into a disgusting stew in the past #since I started being kind out of sheer frustration my mental health has improved a thousandfold #listen. sometimes its okay to be mean. if someone tells you to kill yourself I dont think its appropriate to give them patience and kindnes #BUT. if you treat someone like they're stupid. even if you're right!!! they won't listen to you or consider your words!! #because admitting you're right means admitting that they're stupid like you think they are. that feels bad so people won't do it #my wisdom. today I am so tired

[ganondoodle]

i often really do feel like an .. unwanted part of the fandom, i dont draw beautiful landscapes, i have unpopular but strong opinions im constantly annoying about and rarely change, dont like/dont draw the pretty young popular twinks and hot gurls to fanboi over nor do i turn characters into one, the opposite moreso, draw only one ship no ones heard of really, got little energy to interact with the few people that are nice to me and send me asks so it probably looks like im ignoring everyone and unfortunately but still rarely get so stressed i get overwhelmed and emotional about pehaps seemingly minor things and spiral almost into a breakdown feeling super embarrassed about it afterwards but the damage is already done and i look like a freak or agressive weirdo

#ganondoodles talks #also probably sounds like self pity #but this feeling hits everytime i see a super popular artist be the popular cool artist #i am a little weird i know that and thats not somethign bad i think #but the internet never gets to see that much of me #i tend to write posts when i am at my worst bc it has to go somewhere #so the image it tells people is that im a weirdly strong opiniod freak that gets breakdowns over nothing #i also dont feel like im otherwise -cool tm- enough to balance that out #i dont think my art is as stylized or as inventive as others nor am i cool to interact with bc idk how to be cool to interact with #i feel double bad when i misstepped with someone i used to talk to bc of something stupid ... or just dont know what i did wrong #im guessing its especially when i am in that spiraling state of mind where i really am not myself tbh #it still feels very bad bc i feel like i can never make it up to anyone again #sorry i acted like a jerk my brain was exploding in emotions in a desperate attempt to deal with something idk how to deal with- #-and made me not act like myself but now i feel really dumb about it #doesnt sound like a good excuse #... i want to thank those that do stick with me #even if i acted strange sometimes- even if i disappointed sometimes- even when i couldnt keep a promise #there are little things that still make me angry at myself #like that one time i asked in the tags whod read as long as the end of them and if someone did shoudl send me an ask so id draw a lil thing #and i got two #and i kept trying to remeber oh shit i need to do that and forgetting again/not having energy for it in a loop #i still feel like a jerk about it but now its probably too late #i wish i could answer all asks i get but man my energy for that is always rock bottom #no matter how much i enjoy the ask #and i love getting asks!!! #im sorry :((

[markscherz]

hi dr Scherz happy frog Friday 🐸

And to you!

#answers by mark #anon #Frog Friday #It is so great that the internet has somehow fallen in love with frogs #two days a week we celebrate frogs #frog Fridays and when it is Wednesday my dudes oh shit whaddap #well #two days a week youse celebrate frogs #I celebrate frogs every day #though not always with the raw awe that I get to see on the internet when frog photos or facts are shared #sometimes I’m envious of that #it is possible to know too much about the good thing #as any professional in a field full of fans will tell you #but it’s a privileged position to be in nonetheless #especially because it just means there are more frog facts in my head

[elialys]

Actually sent my application to the school I want to go to, today. If it goes well, I'll get an entry interview for the end of April, which is very selective (1/4 gets in), but fuck it, I decided I have my chances.

Look at me rocking going back to school in my late 30s.

#low key terrified to be doing this but also excited and motivated #it's never too late children #sharing this with you guys because i know sometimes it helps to see random people on the internet doing those things #also i had a good writing day so basically my brain is full of good chemicals #personal #educ spé

[darubyprincx]

ok give me like two hours to write a oneshot about lag-induced chronic pain and its effects on players (specifically in minecraft)

#ray's tag #'ray how do you have such a good idea of what lag feels like' you see. In our headspace when our brain is going a billion miles an hour #i have to focus up here to move around and talk and things #so when our brain is going haywire i am sometimes physically unable to focus #and it affects my physical state pretty heavily. it manifests as me basically glitching the fuck out #it is NOT fun it is EXTREMELY exhausting and VERY painful. and also from what my headmates have told me pretty scary to watch. #so yeah lets just say that i have experience with this sort of thing #also i played mcpe on a kindle fire for almost ten years and my internet connection was TERRIBLE #rip my ping when i tried to play mineplex

[compacflt]

what dog would icemav get?

im guessing no mangy devil chihuahuas or rescues (compacflt can't be seen with anything but a purebreed) golden retriever might be too on the nose, how about a malinois or a german shepherd maybe an english bulldog (ugly)

idk. i don’t really have a dog in this fight (i don’t care) (pun intended). but it definitely would have to be like a Real Dog. yeah nothing smaller than 70 lbs. a Real Dog. other than that i don’t have any opinions. could be a mutt or a rescue! but it would have to be, you know, handsome and upstanding and like, a Real Dog that you can, like, do stuff with. it is very cliche and on the nose and maybe im only saying this bc i, like, don’t care at all about dogs but ice does seem like the white lab/golden retriever guy and mav strikes me as a german shepherd guy. there are many reasons i don’t think they would ever have a dog (what would they do with the dog?) but not being able to agree on the breed might be one reason they never get a dog. arguing and bickering etc

#it would also have to be a boy. #same thing if jake & Bradley ever have/adopt a kid—has to be a boy or ice & mav are not interested #obviously for the human girl child they would have to suck it up and be good grandparents anyway but they’d have no clue what they’re doing #theyd never willingly adopt a female dog i just don’t believe it i don’t think they’re that good of people #what is a malinois? #pete maverick mitchell #tom iceman kazansky #icemav #asks #i do think ice & mav would be kickass cat owners though #you know like guys in their 50s/60s don’t really care about cats and their cats don’t really care about them #but it’s a mutually beneficial relationship and like they’re chill with each other #ice finding a cat under his car during a cold winter out in the sierras #posting pictures on twitter ‘we might keep him internet help what do we do’ #take him to the vet etc #my husband & i have decided to keep him. we could not agree on a name so we have decided to call him cat. here are pictures. he is polite. #etc etc all things you’d like to see from a retired admiral on Twitter #my delusions are sometimes involved #idrc whether they get a pet or not though like i just drc it’s just a literary symbol for unspoken commitment #and the ways he’s thinking about that commitment without committing to actually thinking about that commitment #one day someone will take me out back and shoot me for having tags this long

[trashpandacraft]

i really wish that people here on the 'accessibility is so so so important' website would figure out how to use alt text.

i know adding it is an additional barrier to posting, but i'm hard pressed to believe that 95% of people here are unable to ever clear that barrier. it's not that hard to add a brief description of the photo--imo anything is better than nothing, and for many pictures, brief is better than a ten-paragraph description.

i know for a long time tumblr was bad about supporting it, especially for photo posts, but they have pretty robust support since about when automattic took over, and it's a real fucking bummer to me that so few people have adopted it.

if you'd like to see alt text but you're not sure how:

on mobile: if an image has alt text, there's a little button that says alt in the lower left corner of the image. most do not.

on desktop: you can inspect image etc but tbh the modern web makes it a pain. xkit rewritten has a toggle that shows it underneath the image, though, which makes it very easy.

#welcome to tumblr #the website where we're all very good about talking the talk and less good at walking the walk #anyhow i'm sighted (tho impaired) but am very bad at image processing and sometimes use a screen reader for other reasons #and i actually rely on alt text a lot! #tho uh not so much here i guess #anyhow it's one of the few accessibility things literally baked into the internet #and it would be amazing if people started using it more

[lanaevyssmoved]

i keep getting so tempted to talk about the exploration of toxicity and abuse in fiction and how it can be a genuine recommendation from therapists to help you heal and talk about your experiences while othering yourself, and how if you do it online you're going to make people uncomfortable and you will be judged, so you need to learn how to balance these things, to do what you want to do for yourself while also being mindful of those around you.

but then i remember how disasterous this conversation is whenever it seems to be brought up and i change my mind

#fray.txt #something something exploring dark themes saved my life when i was younger #something something it doesnt give you the right to do this without appropriately tagging your stuff or keeping it private #as its generally more advised by professionals to do it privately and thats also how i would advise it #something something but its also good that people can explore these things if theyre incapable of creating it for themselves #so having the resources out there like fanfiction for example is good for those cases #something something instead of wishing death and the social collapse of people doing this just block and move on #something something sometimes the weirdo freaks you want to cancel on the internet are people trying to heal from their own trauma #idk. i don't have the strength #i should go to bed this is the past 9pm fray talking

[oplishin]

seth rarely references aew in interviews unless explicitly asked, and even then its usually a snarky half-kayfabe response, so its bizarre watching the one he did for out of character where he says "i watch the other show all the time, and i go 'what are they doing?' but i still have a great time watching it, and some of it's so great"

#rare for him to talk about aew MUCH rarer for him to say good things about it #idk part of his relationship to the internet is that. people sometimes see him as emblematic of the wwe side in weird wrestling tribalism #also he never refers to aew by name here either!! #“the other show” #fascinating. FASCINATING #the thing he's responding to is like. 'wrestling fans should be able to watch analytically but also have a good time' #jrestling

[rawliverandgoronspice]

always happy to see my gerudo post making rounds :>

sometimes I see people being curious about a volume 2 featuring totk but... honestly I feel like I have already expressed my thoughts pretty extensively over here haha

like I wouldn't know what to add besides: guess what, even my least optimistic expectations weren't met at all in any way!!!!! and goddesses know I went at totk utterly ready to be swept off my feet and proven wrong at every turn!!!! instead of being depressingly vindicated!!!!!!! wooooo!!!!

but still! I'm happy to see my thoughts do resonate with people, especially in regards to the whole "their depiction is less racist in botw/totk" which, while I think miiight be true in some parts, overall lacks nuance and kind of misses the forest for the tree in my humble opinion (especially once totk is taken into account)

#thoughts #gerudos #gerudo #tloz #botw #totk critical #totk #when will my brain return from the imprisoning war... #I thought of several new things in my non-internet time #kind of pondering whether I want to go back there or just let them simmer at the back of my head and move on #it's kind of a bummer to have your critical thoughts about art being moralized to this degree #but it's also good to remember it's not the majority etc #we mostly have a good time in here! #pretty cool! #but pretty frustrating sometimes!!!

[soldier-poet-king]

Sometimes you're having a family dinner and everyone is talking and joking and half of us are super loud and passionate and that's fine but then someone just says something so shitty and maybe it's not even supposed to be THAT bad but it's just....how can you tolerate this casual callousness and cruelty? It's not debate anymore. It's not a matter of politics anymore. Thats a person ???

It always happens, just as I'm thinking maybe shit isn't so bad and I'm too harsh a judge and an unfair critic, and just because we're vastly different politically doesn't mean we can't have interesting conversation. And then. Casual racism. An offhand joke about trans ppl. I can live with the conservativism and traditionalism to a certain degree, when it comes to politics and economy, in discussion at least. But such personal 'jokes' I'm??

#anyway i just #the duality of fran #everytime. every fuckin time im like #oh maybe my family is somewhat tolerable #my cousin would be such a good conversation partner if he wasn't like #17 yr old internet pilled brain #i mean i was just as bad at that age #i can hope #but its just. ohhhhhhhhhh #other catholics are sometimes the worst ppl on earth!!! #i am so hungry for discussion and community that has both faith and social dimensions #its a faith and works thing to me. one cannot fully thrive without the other #and i am so so so tired of the cruelty #oh internet christian leftists save me. im not going insane or the only one

[kindnessoverperfection]

I've found that, when interacting with others (or myself), it's useful to consider the lessons I'd want to teach a growing child.

If a child makes a mistake, I wouldn't want them to feel shame. I wouldn't yell at them, humiliate them, or in any way indicate to them that their mistake is a reflection of their worth or of who they are as a person.

Instead, I'd want them to associate the process with love and joy. If they say something that hurts someone's feelings, or otherwise ostracizes someone in some way, I'd compassionately explain to them. Ideally, they'd walk away knowing why they said / did it in the first place, how to handle similar situations in the future, and would accept the consequences (e.g. if a friend no longer wanted to hang out with them).

While the consequences may sometimes be painful, I'd do my best to instill in them that mistakes are human and natural, and that the process of learning from these mistakes is an opportunity to improve connections with others and express love.

I have a tendency towards excessive guilt. Memories in which I've said / done something ignorant or hurtful are infused with this guilt and shame- but ideally, I'd feel a sense of love and peace, and perhaps happiness, when looking back on them. Because they were moments of growth, moments I learned how to be more compassionate (even if the actual learning came years later).

So I'll put this out into the void:

When you make a mistake, that is not a reflection of you as a person. It is a moment in time, a moment which was informed by your past experiences. Humans are not static labels, or monsters in an RPG game. We are social creatures who live and learn and react and grow and experience and love. Be gentle with yourself and move forward knowing you're doing so in accordance with your values.

#parenting #internet culture #self compassion #i'd also want to teach them critical thought of course - there are varying ideas of what constitutes mistakes or ignorance or harm #and that's a messy subject which is often a challenge to teach and is beyond the scope of this post but it's important #to avoid being subject to manipulation or becoming reactionary #but anyways #to clarify something in the tags here: it's okay of course to feel bad. that's a normal response. but it's not necessary. and a culture of #shaming people for their mistakes isn't helpful in the same ways it isn't helpful to do that to a child. people become defensive and/or #self-hating. divisive and reactionary and more easily manipulated. fearful and ashamed and avoidant. afraid of disagreements or of trying #anything new. increased all-or-nothing thinking and blowing things out of proportion. it just doesn't help in the long run #sometimes when someone says something i want to express hatred and mockery towards; i think of my trans friend who's full of light and love #and compassion. who came from a smaller more conservative community and used to have some of those same stances (and may still hold some of #those feelings/anxieties). and i remember that i can be firm on my boundaries and spread love and acceptance and safety *without* spewing #vitriol at anyone who makes even a minor mistake. i want people who were impacted by oppression and bias to have space to grow and #find safe communities and be able to think for themselves. i dont want to push them away or be another person in their life screaming at #them. there's always a person behind the screen. #like that doesnt mean i have to interact with them. in fact in most cases it's better to step away. and there are still unsafe people out #there- but yelling at them won't do any good either. saw a tip to focus on the people you want to help rather than the opposition #and that's been super helpful for me

[stuck-in-the-ghost-zone]

its so painfully obvious that a lot of these people have genuinely never experienced a better piece of media. it makes me sad fr. like. guy who has only ever seen the dream smp "getting a lot of dream smp vibes from this" im begging you to please go watch a horror movie from the 80s. go read a goosebumps book or a creepypasta for gods sake .

#the joke here is like. everything ive mentioned is cheesy and bad . but its still way fucking better than genloss. #im sorry yall were lied to for two years and are such blind ranboo stans that you cant process anything else but like. its not good #im soooo fucking tired #if anyone ever uses the excuse of 'its intentionally bad!!11!1' again im gonna have a fucking aneurysm #if you have to justify your bad thing as being intentionally bad well. its just not very good then is it. #im genuinely sorry u guys have only ever experienced media put together by 19yr old millionaires #who have no prior experience at writing a plot #and believe me!!! i liked the dsmp!!! i was way into jse for a long time before that!!! ive been there!!!! #but sometimes youbhave to take a step back #and go read an actual book or watch an actual tv show or movie made by people who know what theyre doing. #seeing bastardized horror tropes that are strung together with zero consistency being toted as the greatest #horror series on the internet today is making me irrationally upset. #stop putting down other actually competent horror creators for your dsmp nepo baby . theyre not worth it . #i could fr make a list of every fucking trope ranboo tried and failed to copy in genloss #and give you multiple examples of things that did those tropes better #genloss neg #genloss crit

[friendofthecrows]

I miss that brief golden era from like 2012 to 2016 when the online witchcraft community was actually good and full of open minded people looking to learn more and share what they know plus maybe the occasional vampire middle schooler instead of the situation now where it's been taken over by capitalist tiktok transphobes who like to come up with ways to shift to hogwarts via their inherent magical vagina powers and then sell coated quartz to cure cancer instead of seeing doctors.

#hal rambles #saying controversial things tonight i guess #btw i have done astral projection and at first when i heard about shifting i was like #'oh basically a different name for the same thing?' #then it turns out these guys are just lucid dreaming and thinking that takes them to an entire other universe #like fine enough i don't want to be mean about someone's beliefs #And then i find out about some of the dramas involved and I'm just like o_O #pls use your critical thinking skills #This is way more important when it comes to stuff like herbology though #because not checking side effects dosage etc can legitimately KILL YOU DEAD #and I've seen. So many incredibly stupid things. only to ask for a source and they send me a link to a tiktok... #This is vagueposting about certain friends #Like tiktok 'witchcraft' is completely counter to all the good I've seen in the community last decade #It's ABOUT thinking critically and learning #It's ABOUT exploring ideas that are not the most popular and not taking mainstream beliefs for absolute granted #And so much more! #Yes it can also be about belief and intuition but you have to use that responsibly #Think about why you are tempted to something #Is it actually from your subconscious or some sort of sign or did something online suggest this to you #And that's not to say all internet knowledge is bad - sometimes people do make original and useful observations on here #or compile existing resources/knowledge #But you've got to THINK about it #Same with stuff in books and from people. I'm not the 'it's published so it's automatically legit' type #Sorry for the rant #I'm up a bit too late and i was thinking about it #Time to go dream about killing someone for the Aesthetic and Drama (my favorite lucid dream series) #(and you see - I'm not going into another universe and murdering people via lucid dreaming about it)

[distracteddaintydemon]

Online privacy 2023

In USA: KOSA. "We want to protect children, surrender any and all information that could be used to torment said children and/or anyone else who's vulnerable because of whatever. We promise it's not a bad reenaction of Black Mirror." Or so I understood.

In EU: "Very Large Online Platforms are under obligation to reveal all of their addicitive patterns and provide for users at least one method of selecting feed that doesn't require collecting personal data. Starting from 25 August 2023. You say it's impossible? 15 years ago you've been saying this about universal standard for phone chargers. Try me."

#social media #privacy #internet safety #kosa bill #european union #sometimes good things happen #now we wait