#sexuality discourse

[ticcitavvi]

y’all.

asexuality ≠ aromantic, and vice versa.

asexuals are perfectly capable of having and/or wanting romantic relationships.

aromantics are perfectly capable of having and/or wanting sexual expierences.

please stop assuming the two are interchangeable.

#Asexual #asexuality #asexual spectrum #asexual aromantic #aroace #aromantic #aspec stuff #aspec #aromantic stuff #character tips #writing tips #sexuality discourse #queer identity

[problematicbyler]

Absolutely loved your post about purity culture in fandom.

It is of course completely okay to not enjoy smut fanfic or stay away from nsfw headcanons. For example I am in my mid-20s and on the ace spec. I am not really a fan of nsfw-content but I understand that the exploration of such content is important for many people. Most teenagers are horny af and the (first) exploration of sexuality is usually an important aspect of coming-of age stories. Now if ST was a show that has always been obviously puritan creating nsfw theories about Season 5 would seem completely out of place. But the show is obviously full of teenagers who make sex jokes, are obviously horny and actually engage in intercourse. It is quite tame but some sort of sexual innuendos appear in almost every episode. Many Bylers really complain about other people's lack of media literacy and at the same time seem to ignore things they do not want to see or do not understand.

I think a lot of this puritan move comes from minors who are (rightfully) warned about how there are so many creepy adults who sexualise minors on the internet. But Mike and Will are not real people - they are made-up fictional constructs. Finn and Noah borrow them their bodies on the show but in reality these characters are just concepts without an actual physical form. And to imagine them in nsfw-situations is for most people not a way to actually sexualise minors (because there is no actual physical minor there). It is a way to explore topics of sexuality and desire as a whole - two things that most people consciously think about on a daily basis. Because it defines our entire identity.

completely agreed on all of the above! thank you, anon!

#anonymous #ask #sexuality discourse #byler

[alexclaain]

being asexual, an adult and still never having had sex without wanting to change it, feels fucking lonely at times. Because majority of asexuals I met with similiar experiences as mine were of the sort of "golden star asexual" or whatever and that's just bullshit and I don't want to associate with that crap.

I just feel really really lonely among other asexuals who still, in the end, have more experience than me, because in this society that marks me as the "weird one", the "childish one", because sex is just connected to adulthood and without you're immature in this worlds eyes.

Adding to that, most representation I've seen of asexuals in media has been of the sort that still has (or had) sex - and that's great for them! But I wish people like myself would be more than the weird nerd person or robot sidekick. I wish adults who choose to never have sex would be treated as adults and full fletched humans too.

#also fuck every allo who heard some asexuals explain that part of us have sex #and now enter every relationship with an ace person expecting them to make exceptions #because some wont!!!!!! #and im tired of allos expecting it from the ace peeps who wont!!!! #this is a really fucking personal rant tbh #if any weird gatekeepy person feels spoken to please fuck off #i genuinely love my asexual pals who had or have sex and they deserve the recognition they all get #i just hate being so othered by society as a result of their visibility #but thats SOCIETIES fault and not of my fellow aspec people #claain rambles #asexual #asexuality #allosexuality #asexual discourse #sexuality discourse

[werewolf-cuddles]

Not Tumblr recommending me another "this is why that one time Yang showed interest in men doesn't count and she's totally a lesbian" post 😩

God, is this fucking fandom just allergic to the idea that a person can be attracted to more than one gender? I've seen people calling Blake a lesbian too despite her having been explicitly said multiple times to be bisexual.

I swear to god, I've lost track of the amount of times I've seen "comphet" used as an argument against the possibility of a character being bi. It's honestly infuriating.

#rwby #yang xiao long #rwby discourse #fndm wank #sexuality discourse

[g-a-r-f-i-l-e-d]

Hey just wondering what are some radfem opinions on asexuality? Just as a general concept not say men identifying as it to claim they're safe to be around or smth(idk if that happens) I don't see much on it beyond people pointing out that a spectrum for it is kind of ridiculous which I do agree with. I'm just curious to see what people think and feel about it or if any radfems here even identify as a sexual and what their opinions would be on the matter as well.

#radfem #radblr #radfems please interact #asexual #sexuality discourse

[liightsnow]

In a tiktok argument bc I said that attraction doesn't immediately dissappear when your partner comes out as trans. So an older Lesbian who's married to her now out as trans husband, still has every right in keeping the label 'lesbian.' Because we shouldn't be so trapped in our labels that we keep ourselves from love.

The person I'm arguing with said that "actual lesbians" would breakup with the husband.

It's baffling to me. Your personal views on attraction are not universal, every single person will have a slightly different outlook. You have to just deal with that, the world doesnt resolve around you. Actively attacking the people in our community who find comfort in the labels that they use is stupid. It's immature and makes you look ignorant, you did not live that person's life and you have no say in their identity.

#sexuality #sexuality discourse #tiktok discourse #tiktok #lesbian discourse #attraction

[peachjagiya]

The friendliest reminder that bisexuality neither debunks your ship nor confirms mine.

One guy possibly being queer doesn't mean he has immediate interest in all men around him. All it does is remove "but he likes girls!!!!" from the equation.

I hate going on about it but ugh sometimes it feels so shitty being queer army and seeing the casual reinforcement of damaging stereotypes about gayness.

❤️

#sexuality discourse

[uncertainty5]

if the bi lesbian, trans men can be lesbians, non men loving non men discourse has taught me anything its that we all need to throw away labels. At this point they do nothing. If you tell me ur gay this tells me nothing. Doesnt tell me ur gender identity, doesnt tell me what kind of attraction u feel, doesn’t tell me who ur attracted to and who u make exceptions for. I could identify as bi but some people have a thousand different interpretations of wtf that means. So im not gonna use bi anyone. I use labels to let people know if an easy way what my identity is but u cant do that anymore. So fuck it get rid of the labels and tell people straight up what ur attraction is. Hello Im a person attracted to mostly men but sometimes women. People talk about the “gender fuckery” of the 80s and then u learn there were even less labels. Like we invent labels to describe our identities but then like…suddenly they dont matter? Everyone is valid or whatever but all ur left with are these empty hollow words that act more as decoration than like actual identities. And u cant tell people how to identify so like fuck it why even have them?

#sexuality discourse #im not gonna stop people from using labels but u gotta realize that these things serve no purpose other than a shiny flag u can use #like thats cool u connect with it but like what are u even connecting with? Im sure u have ur reasons but #It really feels like people are dismissing the differences in other peoples sexualities that are important #non men who aren’t attracted to men constantly have their sexuality interrogated. They wanted a label to help express their lack of #attraction to men in a world that wants them to be in order to uplift patriarchal society #but its pointless because a label has to encompass every single person who likes it now #i really think getting rid of labels and just describing ur attraction is the only way out of this mess

[total-takes-island-takes]

patrick is like if a song by 3oh!3 was a person

no further comments needed

#total takes island #tti #mod patrick #sexuality discourse

[sketch-shepherd]

ONE MORE gem from my Cameo I requested from Miles Luna today. I asked him his thoughts on the pansexual Yang headcanon, and he approved!

This is NOT a word of god confirmation that Yang is in fact pansexual. Miles just said he approves of the IDEA of Yang being pan. He ALSO says it’s up to people to decide what they want Yang’s sexuality to be! Whether pan, bi, lesbian, sapphic in general, attracted to guys, etc…

So I have video proof of one of the RWBY writers openly saying NOT to shit on other people’s character sexuality headcanons and let them use a character in a ship however they want. Think we can put ship/sexuality discourse aside and follow these wise words? 😉

#this is the LAST time I step my toes into some form of rwby discourse in public #I’ve moved past the ship war but sexuality discourse has been fucking annoying me as of late #CRWBY has officially spoken #don’t be a fucking dick #sketch text #my videos #rwby #yang xiao long #ship discourse #sexuality discourse #pansexual Yang

[dakotadawn]

Like, why do you think you’re attracted to female secondary sex characteristics on trans women, but not cis women? Does this not suggest a social element at play within your attraction that you’re underestimating? That gender roles, oppressive though they be, have an implication on the ways we see and are attracted to one another? If you ever think you have it all worked out, you are of course a fool; we all are. Nobody has a theory that explains and understands everything, not yet, and probably not ever.

I'm attracted to 🍆 and not attracted to 🍑. Its literally that simple. I'm not attracted to pre-op trans women because they're trans, I'm attracted to them because of the fact that they possess a penis. I am not attracted to post-op trans women, because I'm not attracted to vaginas, natural or surgically constructed. In fact I find them physically unappealing.

Also, secondary sex characteristics are anatomic, not social. This still is not about gender roles. I'm only really attracted to androgynous or tomboyish trans women anyway, alongside cis men. I'm not attracted to feminine people at all.

#dakota answers! #asks #anon asks #trans discourse #sexuality discourse #genital preference discourse

[exclusinclusandinbetween]

Is it weird that I always found the exclusionists community more comforting and close than the general LGBTQ community? It's weird. Maybe I still have leftover transmed in me. Like, not everyone was a full exclusionist on every subject. There were pan truscum, ace battle-axe-bi people, there were non-binary aroace-exclusionists... (Battle-axe bi people and truscums were more common.) There were posts that were full of people excluding other exclusionists. And even then, it was mostly just. Kindness, ironically. To be fair, the community I was in, exclusionist lgballt, was kinder on the scale. And also it typically didn't speak of the more recent things, which may effect the intensity.

But now, it seems like the "non-exclusionist" community has more aggressive exclusionists. More than people invading other discourse sides, it has way more divides. There is MOGAI discourse, AEMOGAI vs MOGAI, m-spec lesbian and gay discourse, lesboy and turigirl discourse, discourse there, discourse everywhere.

I am extremely varied on the sides of discourse myself. I'd be considered transmedicalist, but still pro-mogai, ace inclusionist, m-spec identities supporter, etc.

Am I bad for thinking this? For wanting that old simplicity and tight community back? Is there something wrong with me?

#discourse #queer discourse #mspec discourse #lesboy discourse #gender discourse #sexuality discourse #aro discourse #ace discourse #lgbt discourse #discourse tw #tw discourse #mogai discourse #exclusionism #exclusionists #truscum #transmed #battle axe bi #longsword lesbian #lgbtq exclusionists #tucute #is there something wrong with me? #should i be concerned

[ajaneofmanytalents]

I really see a need for words that describe one's sexual preference without assuming one's own gender.

May I suggest some? Androsexual for attraction to men, gynosexual for attraction to women, and tritosexual for attraction to non-binary, genderfluid, two-spirited, third-gendered, and other genderqueer individuals.

#words #vocabulary #androsexual #gynosexual #tritosexual #gender discourse #sexuality discourse

[imjust-toosoft-forall-ofit]

Okay like no one (sensible, which i can get can be…variable at best) queer thinks Bis or Pans dont count. But. If you ID as Bi or Pan but quantify it with “but i wouldn’t actually date someone of my same gender/sex” then???? No?

You’re basically saying “i Count as This and get to participate in Discourse about this thing that will never Truly apply to Me” NO? Tho?

#sexuality discourse #I’ve been hurt by this shit too much #and they all want to quantify wlm attraction w/ wlm interaction #they’re different except when they’re the same #asexual #bisexual #pansexual

[impostoradult]

literally nothing exhausts me the way ace discourse exhausts me.

to be clear, i think being asexual and/or aromantic is 100% real and valid. that's not my issue.

I just find so much of the actual conversation around these identities and experiences the opposite of helpful or productive. like there are aspects of my experience that potentially fall into some of these categories, but I don't want to go anywhere near any of the community conversation around it with a ten foot pole because I just find it...counter-productive is really the only word that comes to mind

being that granular and hyper-specific about my desires is actively not a practice I want to engage in. it feels to me like trying to over-explain why you like certain foods or why you prefer to eat certain foods in very specific combinations. like, i don't want to be EXPLAINING that to people. it's too much fucking work. and I'm still gonna eat what I'm gonna eat (and not eat what I'm not gonna eat) regardless of my particular, idiosyncratic reasons why.

being hyper, hyper specific about sexual desire and romantic feelings is a project that can easily spiral into infinity. there is always another distinction you can make, another slight variation you can parse, another barely discernible difference that could be made into its own Thing™. and again, I'm not saying people are LYING about these differences in experience. but there's a limit to how helpful it actually is to make it into a new subcategory. that's a bottomless pit of a project because the varied ways people experience attraction and desire and sex and romance literally are infinite. we're never going to capture all of them completely and coherently with 100% accuracy so that everyone understands everyone else's experience with perfect clarity. that's literally never going to happen, no matter how many subcategorizations we create. you're chasing the horizon with a project like that, and you are never going to catch it.

the way any of us experiences these things will always be SOMEWHAT opaque to others, no matter what.

and i am not an Abandon All Labels person either. but i think we need to accept that there are inherent limitations to what these categories can do for us, and not default to endlessly chasing the horizon

#sexuality discourse #i warned you

[liightsnow]

"So trapped in our labels."

Every single day chronically online people like you act like labels are chains are bad things when labels are literally one of the core pillars of the queer community. I agree if the woman finds herself still physically attracted to and in love with her husband, by all means, its her right to stay with him, but she's not a lesbian if that is the case, because attraction to men (which the person in question now fully identifies as) is NOT and is very purposefully EXCLUDED from lesbianism.

Lesbianism is one of the most under-fire and butchered labels in the queer community as a whole. Its basis, no attraction be in romantic or sexual to men, is very simple, yet everyone and their goddamn mother seems to have a hellbent agenda to change it.

Lesbianism always has and will always exclude the attraction to men in any capacity.

I am not the chronically online one for saying some people will have identities that you personally don't agree with. The world is filled with all sorts of people and that's something you don't quite seem to grasp.

Labels are a very important part of our community, but it isn't your choice what someone chooses to use as their label.

I am not a lesbian, so what I say in regards to lesbianism isn't from the point of view of one. I am trans though so I want to speak from the perspective of the partner for a moment.

I am someone who did identify as a lesbian before realizing that I was trans. Let's say in some universe I realize I'm trans later in life, I have a wife who also identifies as a lesbian.

I wouldn't care if she called herself a lesbian still. She's lived so much of her life loving me for who AS a lesbian. I wouldn't give a fuck if she found comfort in that identity still.

If she were to love me for who I am it's still a loving relationship that would work. If she chose to use the label bisexual, then still it would be the same.

Obviously not every person is going to feel this way. Every trans and lesbian person is their own person whos lived a different life than I have and have a different viewpoint on this topic. You obviously have a different view on this, and I don't aim to change that, just explain that your own personal opinion on this topic isnt gospel. It isn't your choice to dictate another person's life and their decisions. Especially on something that has no impact on you.

Ignoring things you do not like or don't understand(and don't want to understand) is something very easy to do.

#feel free to ignore #sexuality discourse #lesbian discourse